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Feeling Hopeless, a Tisha Be'Av Writing
Feeling Hopeless, a Tisha Be'Av Writing
I dont have difficulties connecting to grief on Tisha BAv. I feel the fallen status of our nation oh too clearly. However I do struggle with hope. It just feels so hopeless. I come from a very Chashiveh family. Do a Shidduch with my family, and you feel like you surely got into the most elite circle of Klal Yisroel. And yet.., I was molested by my esteemed grandfather, (mothers father,) for years while I was growing up. I did my healing. I was in therapy for years. And I now feel complete with my past. As paradoxical as it sounds, I feel I truly can see on some level the blessings that resulted from the experience; the experience of needing to do all this healing work which now serves to enrich my life in ways that I know I would never have had access to if I wasnt forced into uprooting and reexamining every facet of my life in order to heal. And yet I feel hopeless. Hopeless regarding the direction Am Yisroel is taking in regards to this problem. And hopeless regarding my ability to make a change in this area for Klal Yisroel. You see, my grandfather is highly esteemed. He himself comes from a wonderful family, and he too is a Torah Scholar. But to put it plain and simple, he also is a pedophile. And let me explain something to you; as a pedophile my grandfather doesnt only prey on innocent children, (his penchant is mostly for family members, he wont touch a strange child for fear that he might be discovered,) he also spends most of his energy covering up for his actions. This includes craftily showing others how pious he is, and how lacking in Yiras Shamayim they are. Oh, there are just so many things
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