HOW PEOPLE CONNECT

Why Learn How People Interact?

pickup and dating are just forms of socializing understand how it works, and you can do it properly its always there whether you like it or not best to become a master of it

Forms and Value

every expression has a unique form

how it looks how it sounds how it makes us feel

when that unique form is good, it gives us value when that unique form is bad, it takes value from us when you express, you are either adding or taking value

The Value Filter

important = valuable = attractive we are attracted to things which are relatively high value we react differently to things which are extreme in value

bar refaeli vs. rosie odonnell

different values stimulate different circuitry

overwhelming dominance can stimulate mating mind overwhelming comfort can stimulate nesting mind

different forms are valuable at different times

Mechanical or Emotional?

forms of expression
words movements eye contact

the emotional drivers behind those forms

confidence fun-loving sexual desire

never forget: intimate human interactions are emotionally driven

The Value of Emotions

forms of expression lead to emotional experiences when a form has a value that is a match for a value system, attraction happens matters of intimacy and love are matters of emotion: if the forms of speech, movement, and energy she feels from you spark the right emotions, then attraction will happen

The Emerging Picture of Interactions

your values matching up with hers

in other words: you make each other feel good

So what is valuable to women?