60 Ways to Keep Your Husbands Love

1. Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a femalea man doesnt want a man for his wife!
2. Dress pleasantly/attractively. If you are a home-maker, dont stay in your sleeping suit all day.
3. Smell good!
4. Dont lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental
break.
5. Dont keep asking him, what are you thinking?
6. Stop nagging non-stop before Allah taala gives you something really to complain about.
7. Absolutely no talking about your spousal problems to anyone you meet, not even under the
pretense of seeking help! If you think you want to solve legitimate marital issues, then go seek
counseling with the right person who can give advice in either:
A. Mediate any injustice done so any wrong can be corrected and the couple can reunite in
harmony, or
B. Amicable divorce
8. Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your
own mother.
9. Learn all the rights and obligations of each other in Islam. Focus on fulfilling your obligations,
not demanding your rights
10. Race to the door when he comes home, as if you were waiting for him. Smile and hug him.
11. Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it.
12. Compliment him on the things you know hes not so confident about (looks, intelligence, etc.)
This will build his self-esteem.
13. Tell him hes the best husband ever.
14. Call his family often.
15. Give him a simple task to do at home and then thank him when he does it. This will encourage
him to do more.
16. When hes talking about something boring, listen and nod your head. Even ask questions to
make it seem like youre interested.
17. Encourage him to do good deeds.
18. If hes in a bad mood, give him some space. Hell get over it, inshaAllah.
19. Thank him sincerely for providing you with food and shelter. Its a big deal.
20. If hes angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out while youre quiet. You will see your
fight will end a lot faster. Then when hes calm, you can tell him your side of the story and how
you want him to change something.
21. When youre mad at him, dont say YOU make me furious, rather, This action makes me
upset. Direct your anger to the action and circumstance rather than at him.
22. Remember that your husband has feelings, so take them into consideration.
23. Let him chill with his friends without guilt, especially if theyre good guys. Encourage him to go
out, so he doesnt feel cooped up at home.
24. If your husband is annoyed over a little thing you do (and you can control it), then stop doing it.
Really.
25. Learn how to tell him what you expect without him having to guess all the time. Learn to
communicate your feelings.
26. Dont get mad over small things. Its not worth it.
27. Make jokes. If youre not naturally funny, go on the internet and read some jokes, and then tell
them to him.
28. Tell him youre the best wife ever and compliment yourself on certain things you know youre
good at.
29. Learn to make his favorite dish.
30. Dont ever, EVER talk bad about him with friends or family unnecessarily. If they end up agreeing
with you, you will see that it hits you back in the face because you get more depressed that you
have a bad husbandand other people also think you have a bad husband.
31. Use your time wisely and get things accomplished. If youre a home-maker, take online classes
and get active in your community. This will make you happy and a secondary bonus is that it
impresses your husband.
32. Do all of the above fee sabeelillah and you will see Allah put barakah in everything you do.
33. Husband and wife should discuss and communicate with wisdom with each other to convey what
they like and dislike of each other to do or not to do. Do NOT give commands or instructions
like hes your servant. They are garment to each other [Surah Baqarah, 2:187]
34. Tell your husband you love him, many, many times. Aisha ( ) narrated that the Prophet
( ) used to ask her how strong her love for him, she said like a knot. And the
next time he would ask her, How is that knot? He also used to reply to her saying, Jazzakillah,
O Aishah, wallahi, you have not rejoiced in me as I have rejoiced in you.
35. Have a race with your husband and let him win, even if you are much fitter and stronger than
him.
36. Keep fit and take care of your health so you will remain a strong mother, wife, cook and
housekeeper, inshaAllah you will not get FAT and frumpy.
37. Refine and cultivate good mannerisms i.e do not whine, dont laugh or talk too loud or walk like
an elephant.
38. Do not leave the house without his permission and certainly not without his knowledge.
39. Make sure all his clothes are clean and pressed so he is always looking fresh and crisp.
40. Dont discuss important/controversial matters with him when he is tired or sleepy. Find right
time for right discussion.
41. The way to a mans heart is through his stomach.
42. Always let him know that you appreciate him working and bringing home the dough. It makes
it easier for him to go to work.
43. Make sure you ALWAYS have something for dinner.
44. Brush your hair, everyday.
45. Dont forget to do laundry.
46. Surprise him with gifts. Even necessities, such as new shoes, can be gifts.
47. Listen to him. (Even when he talks about extremely boring things like basketball or computers.)
48. Try (hard as it might be) to take interest in his hobbies.
49. Try not to go shopping too much and spend all his money.
50. Look attractive and be seductive towards him. Flirt with him.
51. Learn tricks and techniques to please your husband in intimacy. (Of course goes both ways.)
52. Prepare for special evenings with him with special dinner and exclusive time (no children
permitted).
53. Take care of your skin, especially your face. The face is center of attraction.
54. If you not satisfied intimately, talk to him and tell him. Help him or provide resources, dont wait
until matters become worse.
55. Ask Allah to strengthen and preserve the bonds of compassion and love between the two of you,
every day, every prayer. Ask him to protect that bond from Shaytaan. When a lesser devil
destroys the love between spouses, he is the most beloved of Shaytaan. Nothing works like
duah, and love only exists between spouses where Allah instills it.
56. Dont EVER compare your husbands to other husbands! For example dont say, well her
husband doesnt do that, why do you (thats a killer!)
57. Be happy with what you have because no one is perfect. If you want perfection, wait until you
enter Jannah together inshaAllahand of course, vice versa!
58. Strive for Allahs love first and foremost! if all wives try to seek Allahs love and pleasure, surely,
they can keep their husbands love too. And rememberif Allah loves you, the angels will love
you, and the entire creation will love you.
59. If you pack a lunch for your husband to take to work, from time to time sneak in a little love
note or sweet poem. If he doesnt take a lunch, leave the note somewhere else for him to find,
like in his briefcase, or wallet or on the car steering-wheel
60. Wake him up for Qiyam ul-Layl (in the last third of the night) and ask him to pray with you.
May Allah preserve all of our marriages and help us understand and implement them in and with the
best of manners, ameen! InshaAllah if you know more ways, post them in the comments and share
the benefit.