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Robert Brennan - Emotional Codependence
Robert Brennan - Emotional Codependence
Abuse chil)
I am a ba) chil)
I am ashame)
3
#ontrol others to +rotect D reconcile +ain
Contrasting &amilies
Functional
Trusting is :L
Feeling is :L
Tal4ing is :L
3ach #hil) is S+ecial
Fove is uncon)itional
Geven a*ter a mista4eI
<on6to2ic Shame6-uilt )evelo+e)
<o nee) to 4ee+ Secrets
#ommunication is #lear D ,irect
Free D :+enC Secure
-ro&th6:+timism Pro)ucing
,ys*unctional
Trusting is not :L
Feeling is not :L
Tal4ing is not :L
3ach #hil) is Eorthless
Fove is Transactional
G<o acce+tance a++roval=a**irmationI
Blame6Shame6Per*ormance base)
Lee+er o* Family Secret
,ouble6bin), mi2e) meanings
An2ious6RestrictiveC Fear
Preci+itate Sel*6,e*eating Behaviors
&amily 'ules Sustaining Codependence
. ,on;t Tal4 About Problems
2. ,on;t 32+ress Feelings :+enly
%. Al&ays #ommunicate In)irectly
$. 32+ectations Are (nrealistic, Fantasy6Base)
.. ,on;t Be Sel*ish
7. ,o As I Say ... <ot As I ,o
9. It;s <ot :L To Play, Rela2
". ,on;t Roc4 The Boat
Progression of Codependence
By Robert Subby
Phase (
) &irst Phase
Begin &ith Public an)
+rivate sel* uni*ie)
Regression o* normal
thoughts an) *eelings
Increase) tolerance
to&ar) +ain*ul interaction
Phase *
) !cute Phase
#om+ulsive behavior to
me)icate inner +ain
Phase +
) Chronic Phase
Psychosomatic Sym+toms begin
G+ain, hea)aches, insomnia,
lo&er bac4 +ain, chest +ainI