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Good Twin
Good Twin
Good Twin
my first encounter with the myth that twins come packaged as a pair-one good and one bad-came more
than 2o years ago in my local supermarket. as i pushed my shopping trolley with my ten-month-old twin
daughter towards a woman, she said, 'which one's the good one and which one's the bad one ?' i was
speechless and hurried past.
twins are up against the human (enthuse) for comparing, contrasing and labelling people. since twins
are born a 'matched set', they are often seen as symbols of the good and bad in all of us. ancient myths
and modern movies are full of (situate) where twins are made to represent polar opposides.
unfortunately, most people are more (familiarise) with twin myths than with living, breathing twins, who
are, after all, just two little kids. as one mother of adult twin sons puts it, 'i was amazed at how good
both my twins were. froman early age there was so much (care) and compassion between them. if i
offered one a biscuit, he wouldn't take it until he made sure that his brother was going to get one too. i
tried, but i could never get my single-born kids to be as (think) of each other.' she say she protecyed her
boys from intrusive public scrutiny and twin myths while they were growing up by giving them distinctly
(differ) names. she never dressed them alike and avoided (emphasise) on their twinship.
parents have the job of ensuring that their (multiply) have a chance to ulfill themselves, and to grow up
to develop their individual potentials. to do that, parents need to get rid of any myths in the back of
their minds, and to resist any impulse to favour one over the other. the key is to encourage each child to
develop their strengths and (able), whether or not they are the same as the other twin's.
While few parents believe that myth of good twin/bad twin, some fall into the trap of contrasing their
twins personality traits and abilities : easy and difficult, pretty and smart. Of course, there are times
when any parent becomes disenchanred with one over the other. Wise parents keep these (feel) to
themselves. When they speakof differences between their twin children, they translate them into
positive points, and avoid negative labels. However, bad behavior should always be disapproved of, as
long as it is the behavior, and not the child, which is the focus of the (disapprove).
Within the family, parents can control the (behave) of relatives who may believe in the twin myth. But
there is no easy way to protect multiples from inappropriate questions and comments which they may
meet outside the family circle. The best (defend) is to demonstrate as positive attitude towards twinship
and about any differences between children. Perhaps you may never experience the twin myth but, if
you do, be ready with a positive mind.
Sementara beberapa orang tua percaya bahwa mitos kembar baik / buruk
kembar, beberapa jatuh ke dalam perangkap contrasing sifat kembar
kepribadian dan kemampuan mereka: mudah dan sulit, cantik dan
cerdas. Tentu saja, ada kalanya setiap orangtua menjadi disenchanred
dengan satu atas yang lain. Orang tua yang bijaksana menjaga (merasa)
untuk diri mereka sendiri. Ketika mereka speakof perbedaan antara anak
kembar mereka, mereka menerjemahkannya ke dalam poin positif, dan
menghindari label negatif. Namun, perilaku buruk harus selalu setuju, selama
itu adalah perilaku, dan bukan anak, yang merupakan fokus dari (tidak
setuju).
Dalam keluarga, orang tua dapat mengontrol (berperilaku) dari kerabat yang
mungkin percaya pada mitos kembar. Tapi tidak ada cara mudah untuk
melindungi kelipatan dari pertanyaan-pertanyaan yang tidak tepat dan
komentar yang mungkin mereka bertemu di luar lingkaran keluarga. Yang
terbaik (membela) adalah untuk menunjukkan sebagai sikap positif terhadap
twinship dan tentang perbedaan antara anak-anak. Mungkin Anda pernah
mungkin mengalami mitos kembar tetapi, jika Anda melakukannya, siap
dengan pikiran positif.