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Sexlife Manual: Health and Wellness Crew Seattle University
Sexlife Manual: Health and Wellness Crew Seattle University
Sexlife Manual: Health and Wellness Crew Seattle University
Table of Contents
Introduction. 2
Research and Data ... 3
Learning Objectives4
Committee Descriptions and Tasks.5
Definitions 9
Spaces.10
Stops Facilitation Questions.22
Assessment.23
Recommendations for the Future25
Appendices..26
Introduction
Welcome to the Health and Wellness Crew (HAWC) of Seattle Universitys The
Game of SexLIFE manual. This is a document that we have provided for other
institutions to implement a version of this program in their wellness departments. This is
a program devoted to sexual health education in a fun, engaging, and memorable way.
You are more than welcome to tweak any parts of the program needed in order to align
with your institutions capabilities and mission. We just ask that you please cite us in
your usage of the program. We hope you have a fun time planning SexLIFE and please
contact HAWC@seattleu.edu if you would like any pointers.
Learning Objectives
Rationale: 62% of Seattle University students report having at least 1 sexual partner in
the last year, 58% of students report having oral sex in the past 30 days, 40% of
students report having vaginal sex in the last 30 days.
Learning Objective 1: 75% of participants will discuss sexual health topics with a peer
health educator to correct misperceptions and to help clarify student values around sex.
Learning Objective 2: Participants will be able to recall and choose ways to reduce STD
transmission; including getting tested routinely, being abstinent, using barrier methods,
etc.
Learning Objective 3: All participants will be able to identify and recall two or more
sexual health resources on and off campus
Logistics
Committee Tasks
Coordinate space with Conference and Events Services
Coordinate catering
Create music playlist
Utilize poll everywhere
Order supplies from Office Max
Design and purchase stickers for Pay Days
Design and order Stop signs
Coordinate camera use with Media Production Center
Coordinate any technology needs with Office of Information Technology
Ensure all of the materials are in the office at least 1 week prior to event
Advertising
Committee Tasks
Write event description and create clear language for recruitment
Create a tag line for event
Coordinate with graphic designer
8.5 X 11 posters
24 X 36 large posters
Facebook cover
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Quarter sheets
Digital display
Add event to the Campus Calendar and Campus Announcement
Create a Facebook event
Design a roll down
Reserve information tables and coordinate tabling
Advertise at other team events throughout the quarter
Order all materials through campus printing
Utilize team to recruit for the event
Participant Recruitment
Committee Tasks
Determine specific groups and offices to reach out to on campus
Email student clubs
Present at student athlete team meetings
Make connections and build relationships (Green Dot Butterfly Model)
Coordinate flyers at front desks
Chalk the Quad
Hang posters and host tabling in residence halls
Game Development
Committee Description
Committee Tasks
Design room layout
Go through list of tiles and assess which ones to keep, edit, or replace
Create new tiles if needed
Coordinate with Education Content to discuss what is needed for each tile
Finalize stops and facilitation questions throughout the game
Coordinate Pay Days throughout game
Determine final space organization
Design finalized tiles
Order finalized tiles from campus printing
Develop game rules sheet
Develop interactive activities throughout the game
Table tiles onto posterboard
Educational Content
Committee Description
Committee Tasks
Coordinate with Game Development to see what information is needed for each space
Coordinate with Research and Assessment to translate research and data findings into laymans
terms
Ensure every tile has educational content
Compile resources and develop a resources sheet
Design and order definitions posters (see page 8)
Design and order six posters with the most important data and research
Collaborate with campus partners (e.g. Health Center staff)
Research and Assessment
Committee Tasks
Review last years research and data findings to ensure information is still accurate
Highlight at least six National College Health Assessment sexual health data points that are
specific to Seattle U
Coordinate with Game Development to understand tile themes
Find at least 10 articles or best practices for each theme
Synthesize findings and send to educational content
Decorations
Committee Tasks
Create wall decor
Purchase table cloths for each table
Utilize decorations the office already owns (e.g. Christmas tree, Halloween cauldrons, etc)
based on event theme and time of year of event
Coordinate with Conference and Event Services to determine best lighting
Ensure there are 3D materials throughout the game
Note: try to be as sustainable as possible with decorations
Student Coordinator 1
Position Description
Position Tasks
Assign team members to each committee in partnership with Student Coordinator 2
Create due dates for all committees
Meet with each committee individually for committee updates
Hold committees accountable for filling out program planning guide
Manage and allocate event budget
Weekly meetings with advisor
Ensure the program is feasible, successful and in alignment with the universitys mission
Assign team members to tasks and stations at the event
Set learning objectives and outcomes in partnership with advisor
Send University Divisional staff an email about what the event is, the learning outcomes, how it
connects to a Jesuit-Catholic mission, relevant research and data, in partnership with advisor
Coordinate peer health facilitation trainings for everyone facilitating stations
Student Coordinator 2
Position Tasks
Definitions
Sexual Values: your core beliefs around the importance and worth of sexual activities,
in order to inform your own actions, limitations, and desires.
Intimate and Sexual Activity: physically intimate actions including- kissing, folding,
masturbation, oral sex, anal sex, and vaginal sex.
Intimacy: the emotional and physical connections between partners.
Spirituality: how you live out your life to find meaning according to your personal
beliefs.
Consent: positive, unambiguous and voluntary agreement to engage in specific sexual
activity throughout a sexual encounter. Consent cannot be inferred from the absence of
a no- a clear yes, verbal or otherwise is necessary.
Reproductive Health: mutually agreed upon pregnancy prevention and promotion
methods where all partners have equitable responsibility.
Spaces
1. Sex Before Marriage or Sex After Marriage
2. Take a moment to reflect on why you value sex before marriage
-Its important to know your values before engaging in intimate acts
3. Reflect on how your familys values impact your values
-Its important to understand how our spheres of influence impact our own sexual values.
4. Have a positive conversation with your family regarding sexual values
-Having an open and honest conversation about sex with a family member you trust can
provide support and assistance in making decisions about your own sexual health.
5. Reflect on how you express affection
Want to take an assessment on how you express love? Check out The 5 Love
Languages
6. Discuss intimacy with someone from CAPS
-Students seek counseling and psychological services for a wide variety of reasons.
-These services are provided free of charge to students enrolled in classes.
7. Consider reproductive health options that you would be comfortable with
-Its important know all of your options.
-Choose an option that fits you and your partner(s) needs.
8. Reflect on how social and cultural norms influence your decision
-Societal expectations impact our sexual values and perceptions on sex.
9. Consider how you will navigate social and peer pressures around sex
-Reflect on the motivation behind your values
-Contemplate ways to roll with resistance from peers.
10. Discuss intimacy with someone from Campus Ministry
-Campus Ministry is a great confidential resource - stop by their office on the first floor
of the Student Center to learn more!
11. Take a moment to reflect on why you value sex after marriage
-Its important to know your values before engaging in intimate acts
12. Have a conversation with your partner(s) about your sexual boundaries
-Talking openly makes relationships more fun and satisfying; especially when you both
talk about each others needs for physical, emotional, mental and sexual health.
13. Have a positive conversation with your family regarding sexual values
-Having an open and honest conversation about sex with a family member you trust can
provide support and assistance in making decisions about your own sexual health.
14. Have a conversation about your sexuality with a friend
-Explicitly discussing your sexual values with a friend can strengthen your relationship
-It can also help you understand your own values
15. Reflect on your attitude about vaginal sex
-Its important to know your values before engaging in intimate acts
-This sets up the relationship for great communication in the future and establishes
boundaries that both partners are comfortable with.
70. Your partner(s) contract an STD
-Remember the most common symptom of an STD is no symptoms at all. Get tested!
-Remember accurate and consistent use of STD prevention methods.
71. Get testicular exam
-36% of SU males have performed a testicular self-examination in the last 30 days.
(NCHA, 2013)
-Testicular exams can help find problems early, when your chances for treatment and cure
are better.
72. Consider your role at SU in sexual misconduct prevention
-Intervene when something doesnt look right - bystander intervention prevents sexual
assault from occurring
-Want to practice different bystander intervention methods? Come to the HAWC office
and chat with a Peer Health Educator.
73. Have unprotected sex
-Unprotected sex can increase your risk of STD transmission
-If you have unprotected sex, its important to get tested.
74. Talk to your doctor about your reproductive health
-As well as giving you accurate and up-to-date information about reproductive health,
your doctor can also recommend you to other resources in the community that will be
able to assist you in the reproductive health methods you choose.
75. Communicate your familys sexual values with your partner(s)
-Explicitly discussing your sexual values with your partner(s) can strengthen your
relationship
76. Was intimate with partner(s) while under the influence
-Remember that consent cannot be given while under the influence of drugs and/or
alcohol
77. Discuss Oral Sex
78. Asked partner(s) consent before initiating oral sex
-Asking for consent before initiating oral sex ensures that both partners have the same
expectations of the relationship.
-Asking for consent also sets up the relationship for great communication in the future
and establishes boundaries that both partners are comfortable with.
79. Dont know your partner(s) sexual values
-Not discussing sexual values with your partner can cause differing expectations
-Explicitly discussing your sexual values with your partner(s) can strengthen your
relationship
80. Get breast exam
-Clinical breast exams are an important part of early detection.
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-The Seattle University Student Health Center offers annual exams and womens health
services.
81. Did not get HPV tested before being sexually active with a new partner
-Talk with your partner and suggest going together to get tested
82. Do not use STD prevention methods effectively
-Using STD prevention methods incorrectly can drastically decrease their effectiveness.
Accurate and consistent use is key for STD prevention methods.
83. Get annual pap smear
-Preventative care is one of the most important ways to maintain your health and a pap
smear can detect cervical cancer early.
-When you turn 21, pap smears will become a routine part of your annual physical.
84. STD Plinko
85. Communicate your status with your partner(s)
-Talk to your partner(s) about your status and their status before being sexually active
86. Get tested for STDs after new partner
-It is important to get tested before being sexually active with a new partner
87. Have a conversation with friends on how they can protect themselves
-Being knowledgeable in different STD prevention methods will benefit your own health
and the health of your social sphere
88. Continue to accurately use STD prevention methods
-Correct and consistent use of prevention methods is key
89. Dont know your partner(s) sexual histories
-If you did not discuss your partner(s) sexual history becoming sexually active with
them, it is important to get tested for STDs.
90. Ask partner(s) to get tested
-It is important to get tested before being sexually active with a new partner
91. Get STD testing every 6 months
-It is important to get tested before being sexually active with a new partner
-Remember that some STD tests are not accurate immediately after exposure
92. Have unprotected sex
-Unprotected sex increases your risk of contracting STDs
93. Continue to consistently use STD prevention methods
-Accurate and consistent use of prevention methods is key
94. Consider whom you choose to disclose your positive STD status to
-STDs can impact you physically, mentally, and emotionally. To reduce STD
transmission, its important to disclose your status to any potential or past sexual partners.
95. Ask partner(s) to get tested
-Sexually transmitted diseases are more common on college campuses. The only way to
know if you or anyone else has an STD is to get tested.
96. Consult medical clinician
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-Your doctor will be able to give you accurate and up-to-date information about sexual
health, and can help you determine healthy practices that will work best for your lifestyle.
97. Decide on how to keep as healthy as possible
-STDs can impact you physically, mentally, and emotionally. Its important to talk to your
doctor, who will be able to give you accurate and up-to-date information about sexual
health, and can help you determine healthy practices that will work best for your lifestyle.
98. Communicate what sexual activities you are comfortable engaging in
-Talking openly makes relationships more fun and satisfying; especially when you both
talk about each others needs for physical, emotional, mental and sexual health.
-Remember, its important to always ask for and give consent before engaging in a new
sexual activity
99. Did not use STD prevention method effectively with partner(s)
-Accurate and consistent use of prevention methods is key
100. Communicate your status with your partner(s)
-Having a conversation with ones partner(s) about their prior sexual history is an
important aspect of maintaining ones own sexual health and promoting an open, honest
relationship.
-It is important to discuss with your partner(s) about possible contraction of STDs.
101. Consider how this could impact other areas of your life
102. Consult local resources
-The Student Health Center located in Bellarmine Hall is free and confidential
-Check out Gay City, Lifelong AIDS Alliance, and King Countys Teen Clinic for offcampus resources in our community
103. Discuss Anal
104. Dont know partner(s) sexual history
-Having a conversation with ones partner(s) about their prior sexual history is an
important aspect of maintaining ones own sexual health and promoting an open, honest
relationship.
105. Decide to be abstinent after being sexually active
-Abstinence is the only 100% effective way to prevent STDs
-37% of SU students have had no sexual partners in the last 12 months
106. Payday: Cookies and Stickers
107. Learn how to support those affected by HIV by visiting Lifelong Aids Alliance
-Lifelong's mission is to empower people living with or at risk of HIV/AIDS and/or other
chronic conditions to lead healthier lives.
-Lifelong Aids Alliance is located between 10th and 11th on Pike just a few blocks from
campus
108. Get STD tested at King Countys Teen Clinic
-The clinic runs on a sliding scale for payment
-Check out their website to find more about their services:
http://www.kingcounty.gov/healthservices/health/locations/teenclinics
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-Website: http://www.kcsarc.org
122. Attend interSEXions
-Intersexions is a discussion group from the Office of Multicultural Affairs at Seattle
University that focuses on the topics of relationships, religion, spirituality, sexuality, and
acceptance.
123. Call Public Safety for sexual misconduct response
Make sure you have Public Safetys numbers in your phone!
o Emergency: (206) 296-5911
o Non-Emergency: (206) 296-5990
124. Consult with Harborview Center for Sexual Assault and Traumatic Stress
-Provides counseling and physical exams following a sexual assault.
-Call for a consult if you are helping a friend who has experienced a sexual assault. (206)
744-1600
125. Share an on-campus resource with a friend
-Awareness of campus resources is important for overall campus community health
126. Talk with a HAWC member about sexual health
-We are a group of student volunteers who are trained as certified peer health educators.
-We are here to answer your questions, offer support, and provide resources for you!
-You can give us a call or stop by our office in Student Center 380 across from the Bistro.
127. Take the Its On Us pledge at itsonus.org
-Take the pledge and make a personal commitment to help keep people safe from sexual
assault.
128. Meet with someone from CAPS to discuss sexual expectations in a relationship
-Counseling and Psychological Services or CAPS is a free and confidential service
located in Pavilion 120 between Bellarmine Hall and the Library
129. Learn new methods of bystander intervention
-Bystander intervention can play a key role in preventing a sexual assault from occurring.
Intervening in a situation might mean distracting a potential aggressor or inviting an
intoxicated friend to leave a party with you.
130. Talk with someone at OMA about your sexual identity
-The Office of Multicultural Affairs is dedicated to the promotion of a campus
community that appreciates, encourages, and celebrates diversity
131. Share an off-campus resource with a friend
-What off-campus resources have you checked out?
-Awareness of resources is important for overall community health
132. Explore Seattle Us sexual misconduct website
-Learn about SUs policies and procedures regarding sexual misconduct
-http://www.seattleu.edu/deanofstudents/sexual-misconduct/
133. Discuss sex and spirituality
134. Call Harborviews Center for Sexual Assault & Traumatic Stress
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-Provides counseling, consultations, and physical exams following a sexual assault and is
only a few blocks from campus!
135. Learn more about anti-retroviral medication
-Anti-retroviral medication can suppress and stop the progression of the HIV virus
-Visit Lifelong AIDS Alliance to learn more about anti-retroviral medications and how to
access them
136. Visit the Office for Wellness and Health Promotion
-Located in Student Center 380
-Meet our graduate assistants, study with us, and enjoy our safe space!
137. Talk with a HAWC member about sexual and reproductive health.
-We are a group of student volunteers who are trained as certified peer health educators.
-We are here to answer your questions, offer support, and provide resources for you!
-You can give us a call at or stop by our office in Student Center 380 across from the
Bistro
138. Learn more about STD transmission
-Visit www.goaskalice.columbia.edu
-Come visit HAWC!
139. Tell your male identified friends about Wingmen and their role in bystander intervention
-Wingmen is Seattle Us student organization for men who want to end sexual violence
on campus and in our community
-Email SA-espiritj@seattleu.edu for more information
140. Know the confidential support services on campus
-Many support services on campus are private, but only three are confidential:
Student Health Center, Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS), and
Campus Ministry
141. Learn how to support someone diagnosed with HIV at Lifelong AIDS Alliance
-Lifelong's mission is to empower people living with or at risk of HIV/AIDS and/or other
chronic conditions to lead healthier lives.
-Lifelong Aids Alliance is located between 10th and 11th on Pike just a few blocks from
campus
142. Join Wingmen
-Wingmen is Seattle Us student organization for men who want to end sexual violence
on campus and in our community
-Email SA-espiritj@seattleu.edu for more information
143. Tell a friend about confidential resources on campus
-Many support services on campus are private, but only three are confidential:
Student Health Center, Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS), and
Campus Ministry
144. Apply for the HAWC team
-Applications come out Winter Quarter!
-Interested? Well be holding info sessions!
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Why did you make the decision to take the path you chose as a group?
What are ways masturbation could contribute to your understanding of your body?
How do you define abstinence?
What are some of the differences between oral sex and vaginal/ anal sex in relation to
sexual health
5. What are some of the pros and cons of anal sex?
6. Is sex a healthy de-stressing technique?
7. Can one of you share how you see sex and spirituality as related (either you or a
friend)?
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Assessment
Please rate your overall level of satisfaction with this program
Very Satisfied
Satisfied
Dissatisfied
Very Dissatisfied
The thing I liked most about SexLife was
1.
2.
3.
Regardless of your STD prevention methods, the most important thing is accurate and
consistent use.
True
False
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1.
2.
How often should a sexually active individual get STD testing? Check all that apply.
After each new partner
At least every 6 months
Before each new partner
Only after vaginal sex
During this program, I spoke with at least one Health and Wellness Crew (HAWC)
member.
True
False
Additional Comments:
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Yes No
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Appendices
Space Stops Facilitator Guide
Space Stops
Facilitator
Guide
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Before marriage
i. Pros
- Able to connect with your partner on a physical
level
- Can help you better understand your own
sexuality
- Can help you identify what you like/ dont like
sexually
- Pleasurable
ii. Cons
Possibility to be emotionally unprepared for the intimacy
May not align with you or your partner(s) values
Increased risk for pregnancy and STD transmission
After marriage
i. Pros
Lower risk of STD transmission with monogamy
Can be a shared connection
Gift of self- ability to share something with someone youre choosing to spend
the rest of your life with
May align with your sexual values
Can be in alignment with faith based values
ii. Cons
Partners may not have the same values
There are societal pressures to have sex
The expectation may not match the reality
Sexual incompatibility
Masturbation
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Abstinence
Question: How do you define abstinence?
Follow up question: What are the pros and cons of
abstinence related to STD prevention and/ or
pregnancy prevention?
i. Pros
- When used correctly and consistently, it is the most effective
STD prevention method
- May be in alignment with faith based values
- May be in alignment with personal sexual values
ii. Cons
Not an effective long term strategy. It is important to ensure
you are prepared to use other STD prevention methods
when/ if you choose to have sex
- Societal expectations around gender (women expected to be
abstinent or sexually inactive, whereas men are expected to
have sex with many different partners
- Did you know that 37.4% of SU students havent had any
sexual partners in the last year? Its important to respect
everyones choices and understand we all have different
values when it comes to sex.
Oral Sex
Question: What are some of the differences between
oral sex and vaginal/anal sex in relation to sexual
health?
i. Benefits
- Lower risk for STD transmission
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Anal Sex
Question: What are some of the pros and cons of
anal sex?
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Follow up question
- What are your perceptions of anal sex?
- Anal sex is a higher risk sexual activity than oral/vaginal.
Lets say you or a friend were concerned about having an
STD. Where are places you could go for testing/ resources/
treatment?
1. Student Health Center
2. Teen Clinic
3. Gay City Health Project
4. Lifelong Aids Alliance
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Resource Sheet
ON AND OFF
CAMPUS RESOURCES
On Campus Resources
Campus Ministry
Website: https://www.seattleu.edu/campus-ministry/
Email: campusministry@seattleu.edu
Phone: (206) 296-6075
Location: Student Center 120
Confidential resource
Gay City
Multicultural Gay Mens Health Organization for HIV/STI Testing
Website: https://www.gaycity.org/
Email: info@gaycity.org
Phone: (206) 860-6969
Address: 517 E. Pike Street, Seattle, WA 98122
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Rules Sheet
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Marketing Materials
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(After)
Have a positive
conversation with your
family regarding sexual
values
Have a positive
conversation with your
family regarding sexual
values
Discuss Sex Before
Marriage
Have a conversation about
your sexuality with a friend
Reflect on your attitude
about vaginal sex
Communicate with partner(s)
about your sexual values
Reflect on how your
sexuality impacts your
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identity
Identify how sex could
negatively impact you
Self-reflect on your
motivation for having sex
Reflect on your attitude
about masturbation
Consider how college has
impacted your sexual values
Consider the connection
between intimacy and
spirituality
Share one sexual value you
hold with your group
Consider how prior sexual
experiences impact your
sexual values
Consider how your family
has influenced your sexual
values
Consider how your spheres
of influence impact your
sexual values
Consider sexual values on a
Jesuit-Catholic campus
Attend interSEXions at OMA
with Campus Ministry
Consider the connection
between emotion and sex
Consider how contracting an
STD could impact you
currently
Reflect on how your previous
sex education impacts your
sexual values
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Monogamy or Multiple
Partners
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(Monogamy)
Have a conversation
sharing implications of
being monogamous
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(No STD)
STD Plinko
(Contract an STD)
Continue to consistently
use STD prevention
methods
Discuss Anal
Dont know partner(s) sexual
history
Decide to be abstinent after
being sexually active
Payday: Cookies and
Stickers
Learn how to support those
affected by HIV by visiting
Lifelong Aids Alliance
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Share an on campus
resource with a friend
Talk with a HAWC member
about sexual health
Take the Its On Us pledge
Meet with someone from
CAPS to discuss sexual
expectations in a relationship
Learn new methods of
bystander intervention
Talk with someone at OMA
about your sexual identity
Share an off campus
resource with a friend
Explore Seattle Us sexual
misconduct website
Discuss sex and spirituality
Call Harborviews Center for
Sexual Assault & Traumatic
Stress
Learn more about antiretroviral medication
Visit the Office for Wellness
and Health Promotion
Talk with a HAWC member
about sexual health
Learn more about STD
transmission
Tell your male identified
friends about Wingmen and
their role in bystander
intervention
Know the confidential
support services on campus
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