10 Amazing Life Lessons Ive Learned

from Tony Robbins

COMMUNICATION MOTIVATION BY ADAM SIDDIQ

Have you ever been to a Tony Robbins event? Thousands of people are screaming MAKE YOUR
MOVE! SAY YES! SAY YES! The crowd goes wild as the inspirational giant leads everyone into
a peak state right before they walk across a bed of fiery, burning hot coalsa metaphorical
experience for being unstoppable.
Some people may mistake Tony Robbinss books, audio programs and seminars as motivational.
Although they continue to uplift millions of people around the world, they are much more than
merely motivational. But Tony is consulted even more often as a peak performance strategist
and Id say his results back up the title. Hes successfully coached athletes like Andre Agassi,
who came from a slump back to #1 in the tennis world, as well as leaders in the financial world
like Paul Tudor Jones, whom Tony has worked with for 21 years and whos made money every
single year no matter where the market has been. Tony has also been credited by many people
with helping them transform and upgrade their health, psychology, relationships, business and
financesin other words, their lives.
Having attended several of Tonys seminars and listened to almost every audio program he has,
there are 10 amazing life lessons Ive learned from the man himself. They can be implemented
by anyone today to profoundly increase their quality of life.

1. Trade your expectations for appreciations

If you trade your expectations for appreciations, youll immediately feel grateful. And its when
were grateful that we feel rich and wealthy, regardless of how our lives look financially or
materialistically.
Last week I met my dads longtime friend and business partner and hes got tons of energy
despite being at an age where hed be considered an elderly man. When I asked him what his
secret was to having so much energy, he told me that he always counts his blessings. In other
words, he cultivatesgratitude.
What can you feel grateful for right now? This is a question I learned from Tony that I ask myself
often.

2. Where focus goes, energy flows

What we focus on feels real to us in the moment, and whatever we pay more attention to in our
lives grows. If were focused on how we can add more value to our clients, well consistently find
ways to add more value to their lives. If were focused on our excuses for why we cant achieve
something, well empower that limiting belief more and more.
Tonys excellent at guiding the focus of a room full of thousands of people in his seminars, and
you can be too. He does this most effectively by asking specific questions. Its our questions that
direct our focus. And when we get to the root of it, we all have at least one primary question that
drives our lives, that drives our focus, that directs our energy, and that creates our story and our
life.
Wheres your focus at right now? Where does it need to be to grow and contribute more in your
life?

3. Be results-focused rather than activity-focused

When you know the result youre after, youll come up with greater actions to take to get you
your results more effectively, efficiently, and rapidly.
I used to be a huge to-do list guy. Id make one every day when Id wake up in the morning and
cross out my to-dos as Id progress through my day. I found the to-do list process unfulfilling
over time and often overwhelming when Id have many to-dos. Then I discovered the RPM plan
(results-focused, purpose-driven, massive action plan). This planning method and mindset
allowed me to increase my results and productivity up to 10 times faster each week. It worked
because I knew what my result was, I knew why I wanted it, and I had a high quality massive
action plan to get me my result.
Whats the result youre after right now? Whats your outcome from reading this post? Is it to
learn and implement 10 amazing life lessons that can help you grow more in your life? Is it to
cure boredom in the moment?

4. A 2 mm change is sometimes all you need

In soccer, the difference between scoring a goal versus missing the goal is within 2 mm. Its the
difference between hitting the sweet spot on the ball rather than coming under the ball making
the shot fly over the crossbar.
The same metaphor can be applied to our business, relationships, health, and finances. For
example, maybe you get greater conversions from your sales copies when you highlight the
benefits. Or maybe you feel more connected with the people you have relationships with when
you hug them with a warmer and tighter squeeze. Or maybe you notice that your energy
magnifies when you drink wheatgrass juice in the morning rather than a coffee.
Whats the 2 mm change that you can make in your body today to profoundly increase your
health and vitality? Business? Relationships? Finances?

5. The Triad: physiology, focus and, language

We can master our emotional states with a specific recipe of how we use our body, focus, and
language.
If youre standing tall with your chest out, shoulders back, chin up and your fists in the air while
youre focused on an awesome victory and youre shouting with total joy and pride I am a
champion! then you will feel like a victorious champ.
If youre sitting down with your shoulders slumped, your chin down to your chest with your
head leaning forward while youre focusing on how youve failed once again and your thinking,
Why am I such a failure? then youll feel like a depressed failure.
Guess what? You can influence how you move your body, what you focus on, and the language
you use to describe any moment. That means you can directly influence your emotions, and by
being aware of your physiology, focus, and language, you can master your habitual emotions
over time.
Hows your posture right now? What are you focusing on? What words are you using to describe
your current experience? What can you do to upgrade your emotional state right now with your
physiology, focus and language?

6. The 6 human needs

This was possibly one of the top three greatest things Ive learned from Tony Robbins. No matter
where youre from, what your background or story is, Tony says that there are 6 fundamental
human needs that we all share and that drive our lives. We generally value two out of the six
needs most and we filter our life choices, decisions, and habits based on meeting these primary
needs first. The 6 human needs are
Certaintyassurance you can avoid pain and gain pleasure
Uncertainty/Varietythe need for the unknown, change, new stimuli
Significancefeeling unique, important, special or needed
Connection/Lovea strong feeling of closeness or union with someone or something
Growthan expansion of capacity, capability or understanding
Contributiona sense of service and focus on helping, giving to, and supporting others
One person might meet their needs on a strong level for certainty, variety, significance, and
connection through smoking cigarettes. They can feel certain or comfortable from smoking
cigarettes whether its a habit theyve had for a long time or because they can feel like they can
relax from having a deep exhale. They can feel variety because smoking a cigarette instantly
changes your biochemistry and state. They can feel significant if they see smoking as a cool thing
to do or being the guy or girl who offers someone a cigarette, and they can feel connection by
smoking with others.
Another person can meet those same needs through daily exercise. They can feel certain that
theyll feel great and energized from exercising. They can experience variety through mixing up
workouts, through the biochemical change that takes place in their body, and through training
different muscle groups. They can experience significance by being someone who values their
body and by having a ripped body. They can experience connection and love for themselves for
taking great care of their body and by exercising with others.
Tony said that whenever we have a habit, emotion, or thought that meets at least three of our
needs on at least a level of 6 out of 10, then we form an addiction. The fastest way to break an
addiction is to replace the addiction with a vehicle that meets the needs or more needs in a
better way.
Which two needs do you value most right now in your life?

7. Change your story, change your life

We all have stories for our lives. Most of the time, we tell them unconsciously to ourselves and to
others. For example, hows your day been so far? The answer youre thinking of right now is a
story, and the fun part is you have the ability to define your story. You might not be able to
change the events and circumstances that happen in your life, but you can certainly choose the
meaning for them.

8. Decisions lead to destiny

It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped. Tony Robbins
It is not our circumstances that define our destiny, rather the decisions we make, because each
decision we make leads us to a destination in our lives. There are three decisions were always
making consciously or subconsciously: what am I going to focus on, what does it mean to me,
and what am I going to do about it?
Whats one of the greatest decisions youve made in your life? What would your life be like if
you didnt make that decision?

9. The 3 mandates of a leader

The three mandates of a leader start with seeing the situation as it is, not worse than it is. Then
seeing it better than it is. And finally, making it the way you want to see it.
I remember when I was 13, I got super inspired to play soccer professionally. At the time, I
hadnt played soccer in years and most of my friends who did had been playing with a club team
by then. I went out and played with some friends and realized that my skills at the time werent
as good as the club players. Rather than give up or think less of myself, I was so inspired by the
dream that I clearly asked coaches to give me an evaluation on where my skills stood and what I
needed to improve on in order to play on a competitive level club team. Once I knew where I was
and had a clear idea of where I wanted to be and how to get there, I took massive action to
propel my skills and within a few short years I was playing with an MLS Academy team and
invited to play college soccer.

In what area of your life can you practice the three mandates of a leader right now to live a more
energy-rich and legendary life? In what area of your life have you been practicing the three
mandates?

10. Success leaves clues

Want to accelerate the results you want in your life? Most probably, theres someone alive whos
achieved what you want. All you need to do is model them and youll get the results they got in a
much faster time than going through a trial-and-error process.
Tony promotes modeling and immersion training as one of the best and fastest ways to achieve
mastery in a skill or area of life.
Whats a result you want in your life right now? Whos accomplished it? How can you model
them to get the result you want now?
And there we have it! Thats 10 amazing lessons Ive learned from Tony Robbins that have
profoundly increased the quality of my life and that I hope will benefit you and your loved ones