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TonyRobbinsontheFastestWaystoGetOverFear

Fearcanholdyouback.Itcanholdyoubackinsubtleandinsidiousways.Fearcanalsooutrightparalyzeyou
fromtakingaction.
Whatifyouhadawaytogetoverfear,andexperiencemorefreedom?
Whilefearcanserveus,itcanalsolimitus.AsFranklinD.Rooseveltsaid,Theonlythingwehavetofearisfear
itself.Itstrue.Howmanytimesinyourlife,hasfearkeptyoufromdoingwhatyoureallywantedtodo,or
limitedyouinsomeway.
Youalreadyknowthedownsideoffear,butwhataretheskillsyoucanactuallyusetogetoveryourfearandstart
takingaction.Howdoyoufeelthefearanddoitanyway?
Withafewtoolsunderyourbelt,youcangetoverfearmoreeffectivelysoyoucandothethingsthatmakeyou
morefullycomealive,andyoucanstartdoingthethingsyouknowyouneedtodo,butfearwasholdingyouback.

3WaystoGetOverFear
IwaswatchingavideoofMarloThomaswithTonyRobbins,
whereTonyRobbinssharesthreewaysyoucanovercomeany
fearthatholdsyouback.KeepinmindthatforyearsTony
Robbinshashelpedpeoplearoundtheworldconquerfearsand
phobiasinrecordtime,anddothethingstheyneverthought
possible.
Hedoesntjustfindwaystogetresults.Hefindswaystoget
rapidresultsandhesalwayssharingthefastestandmost
effectivewaysthatactuallywork.
So,whatarethefastestandmosteffectivewaysyoucanget
overyourfear?
Letstakealookatthreewaysyoucanusetoinstantlystopfear
fromparalyzingyouandstarttakingmoreaction

1.FindSomethingYoureMoreScaredof
AccordingtoTony,thefirsttechniqueistofindsomethingyouremorescaredofthanyourfear.Tonysays,
Somepeopleareafraidofpublicspeaking,orafraidofdoinganything,buttheyremoreafraidofdisappointing
theirchildren,theyremoreafraidofmissingoutontheopportunity,theyremoreafraidofnotlivingthelifethey
want.
Throughouthislife,Tonywouldalsodrawfromstoriesofpeoplewhowouldinspirehimtonewlevels.
Sometimesyoujustdontknowhowmuchworsethingscouldbethanwhatyourefacing,anddrawingfromother
peoplesstoriescanhelpyouputthingsinperspective.Itsallrelative.

2.TheRockingChairTest
AccordingtoTony,anotherwaytopushpastfearistofindoutwhatitsgoingtocostyou.Youneedtofindyour
why:WhyispushingpastyourfearaMUSTnotjustaSHOULD?OnewayTonysaysyoucanfigureoutifits
worthit,istousewhathecallshisRockingChairTest.Hesaidimagineyourselfas80yearsold,sittingonyour
rockingchair,andyoudidntdowhateveritiswherefearisholdingyouback.Ifitdoesntbotheryou,thendont
doit.But,ifyoufeellikeyoumissedout,andyouregretnotdoingit,thengoforit.

3.ChangeYourState
Tonysays,Fearisphysical.Ifyoucanchangeyourstateofmind,thenthefearwilldisappear.Youneedto
changefromastateoffearoruncertainty,toastateofcertainty,determination,oraggressiveness.Tonysaysthe
fastestwaytodothisistomakearadicalchangeinyourbody.ForTonyRobbins,thewayhewoulddothisishe
wouldliftweightsorhewouldgoonarun,whilelisteningtohismostpowerfulmusic,anythingthatwould
radicallychangehisstate.
Torecap,youcanpushpastyourfearbyfindingyourWhyandmakingitaMUST.Youcanfindyour
deepestfear,andthink,IfIdontfacethisfear,whatsitgoingtocostme?.Youcanaskyourself,Whatsthe
thingImevenmoreafraidofthantheaction?And,youcanchangeyourstateofmindbyradicallychanging
yourbody.Getmovingandusemotiontochangeyouremotions.

Ifyoufindyourselfoperatingfromfear,orthatmaybesomefearisholdingyouback,useyourskillstooperateat
ahigherlevel,andtapintomoreofwhatyourecapableof.

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1.

Evansays:
March10,2013at9:28pm
Allourthoughtsandfeelingsarephysical.
Someofthelaterconsequencesofimmediatebreakthroughcanbelesspositive.

Aslongasyoulistentofearfirstitmaybeoktopushpastit.Thismayalsoleavethefearintact.Thriving
isdifferenttoachievement.

2.

Vivsays:
March11,2013at12:19am
Thanksforthisdoseofencouragement.AsIgrowolder,IfinditeasiertopushpastfearbecauseIve
realizedthatregretisaharderpilltoswallow.
Thanksagain!

3.

JDsays:
March11,2013at6:44am
@EvanIrememberDeepakoncesaying,ThoughtsarethingsItwassosimple,soprecise,andyet,
soprofound.
WhatIfindinterestingishowweshapeourinternalphysicalreality,and,potentiallyourexternalone.As
StephenCoveysaid,Allthingsarecreatedtwice.Theresamentalorfirstcreation,andaphysicalor
secondcreationtoallthings.
Withthatinmind,itseasiertoappreciateCoveyspointthatweneedtocreateabiggergapbetweenthe
stimulusandourresponse,sowecanrespondversusreact.Coveysrelatedquotecreatesaniceloopback:
Allthingsarecreatedtwice,butnotallfirstcreationsarebyconsciousdesign.
Thekeyishowwebreakorshapeourloops,orjustreinforcethem.
@VivThatisgreatperspective:fearisthelesseroftwoevils.
Thepainofregretisapowerfulforce,andIrememberRandyPauschsayinginhisLastLecture,thatwe
dontregretthethingswedid,weregretthethingswedidntdo.Hispointwasthatweallmakemistakes,
buttheworstmistakeistonotfollowourdreamsordowhatwelove.

4.

AlikLevinsays:
March11,2013at8:56am
IlikeFindSomethingYoureMoreScaredof.Isometimesuseittocopewithpain,forexample,whenI
haveheadachesipinchmyselftothepointwhereitsmorepainfulthantheheadache

5.

JimmyMay@aspiringgeeksays:
March11,2013at10:16am
LastDecemberIcheckedoffanitemonmybucketlist:CliffdivingofftheBlackRocksofKaanapali
BeachonMaui.Itwasaphysicallyterrifyingexperience&eminentlyinvigorating!Shortlyafterreturning

IwaslisteningtoaTonyRobbinslectureduringwhichhespokeoffacingourfears.Thesynergyofmy
divecombinedwiththepowerofTonyswordsresonatedinawaythatsmademevirtuallyfearless!It
steeledaresolveinmeformaking2013mymostfantasticyearever&sofarthatsexactlyhowitsturning
out!Whetheritsphysicalfear(skiingorBeachbodysInsanity)orcareer(upgradingmygeeklySQL
Mastercertification)orstretchinginotherways(acceptingtheCoLeadoftheServiceDesignEngineering
Community),Ifeelvirtuallyunstoppable!Overcomingfearwithintentionisapowerfultool&noones
betteratitthanTonyRobbins.Thanksforthesuccinctsummary,J.D.!

6.

Evansays:
March11,2013at3:46pm
HiJD,CoveywasrightasfarasitgoesIthink.Exceptwithbiggerthingsthereisabackandforth(unless
youcanpredicteverythinginadvance).Youthinksomethingup,tryit,examinetheresults,(probably)think
again,tryit,andsoon.
IagreeverymuchwithCoveyaboutapauseforthoughtfeelingandnotjustreacting.
TheproblemIhavewithpushingpastfearisthatitmayleavethefearuntouched.Thisonlymattersifyou
careaboutexperiencemorethanresults(whichIdoandTonymightnot,Imnotsure).Repeatedexposure
tostressfulsituationcanleadtodiminishingorescalatingoffear.Itdependsonhowtheexposureisdone.
Eg.studentshavelotsofoccasionsexposedtoexamsbutthismaynotleadtodiminishingfear/anxiety
aboutthem.Eventhoughtheyusuallygetthroughthem.

7.

JDsays:
March13,2013at8:09am
@AlikAh,soyouareteachingyourselfaccupressure
@JimmyYoureremindingmehowmuchthephysicalandmentalgotogether.Itshowsupinsuch
simpleways.Forexample,ifyoudontfeelquitelikegettingup,itseasyforyourmindtorationalizewhy
itsfinetostayput.Ontheotherhand,ifyourbodyisstrong,itcanenticeyourmindtogoallout.Whenthe
bodyisstrong,themind*feels*it.
@EvanIthinktheheartofitiswhatyoufeel*inthemoment*andhowyoulinkoranchoryourfeeling
totheexperienceortrigger.
Tonyisveryexperiencedriven.Ifyouveheardhisinsightsonactionsignals,hesallaboutusing
emotionsasinput,andfindingwaystohavethemserveyou,vs.controlyou,orlimityoubasically,
advancedemotionalintelligence.
Inyourexperience,whatsyourmosteffectiveapproachforgettingoveralimitingfear,whiletouchingit?

8.

Evansays:
March13,2013at3:10pm
HiJD,Wellthereareafewthings.Firstlyisalimitingfearaparticularkindoffear?Imnotsure.

Phobiascanbedealtwithbydeconditioning,aslongasandthisisveryimportanttheexposureis
enjoyable.Otherwisetheriskismakingthephobiaworse.
IfthefearisofconsequencesthenIusuallyjustmakeachoice.DoIcareif(these)peoplelaughatmeifI
fail?Maybeyesandmaybenot.
SometimesIrealiseImafraidofsomethingbutdontknowwhy.SometimesitturnsouttobeIvebeen
triggeredandwhatIamafraidofissomethingfrommypast.InwhichcaseImayneedtodosomethingto
dealwiththepast.AndthenIvegotabetterideaofwhatisgoingoninthepresent.
OthertimesIrealiseIdontknowwhatImafraidofanditturnsouttobealudicrousfantasyof
consequences.ImayrealisethatmylifewontendoreveryonewilldislikemeifIfail.
InowrealisethatwhatImuncomfortablewithisthepushinpushpastfear.Wheredoesthiscome
from?InTonyscase,wellIdontknowTony.Formeitfeelslikeaneedtobevalidatedbyachievement.
Whatifwesaidinsteadthatwelovethefearaswewouldayoungchildyoudontwantthemtorunyour
lifeandmakeyourdecisionsforyoubutyoudowanttorespect,careforandlovethem?Idbehappier
puttingthingsthatway.

9.

GalenPearlsays:
March13,2013at8:34pm
#1hithome.Ifinallymadeneededchangestomylifewhenstayingthesamewasmorescarythan
changing.
Lovetheimageintherockingchairtest.Verydowntoearthsuggestions.

10.

JDsays:
March13,2013at11:18pm
@EvanThankyou.
Ifyouwatchthevideo,itsnotaboutachievementitspeoplecallinginaskingTonyforspecifichelp.
Itsapowerfulvideo.
@GalenWaytogo!
ImalwaysamazedatTonysabilitytosynthesizeanddistill.Hehasagreatwayofreframingproblemsas
challengesandnailingthem.
WheneverIthinkoffear,IcanthelpbutremembertheCowardlyLionandhowhefoundhiscouragewhen
hefoundhisconviction.

11.

Evansays:
March14,2013at5:18am
Tonysphrasingisaboutbeingnotenoughashesaysweallhavethiswecanassumeitincludeshim.

Therearewaysaroundsomefears,oratleastdoingsomethingswefear.Theremaywellbesaferoptions
wehadntconsidered.
Isuspecthiscompellingismypush.
Somethingtomakeyougrowsoundslikepushisinthere.
Imnotsoldonepartofyouoverwhelminganothereitherflooding.

12.

SueSmithsays:
September9,2013at7:47am
Icouldntagreemore!Ihavelongagofoundwhatitwas/isthatIammoreafraidof.Thatis,actuallybeing
80yrs.oldinarockingchair,regretingnothavingdoneallthethingsIwishIhad.Althoughthatsabout50
yrsaway,timewaitsfornoman!(Orwoman:)!
FunnyhowmuchmorepowerfulandfearlessyoufeelafterasolidP90XorInsanityworkoutsession!Like
youcanindeedtakeontheworld!
TonyRobbinsisgreat!Thanksforthetips!

JDsays:
September10,2013at9:51am
Ourmindbodyconnectionisstrong,anditsagreatreminderhowmuchapowerfulbodycaninspire
ourminds(andviceversa.)

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