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Theory Paper
Theory Paper
Raquel Munoz
HD 341
M. Clark
April 6, 2015
Theory Paper
Meaning, if we care for ourselves, we would not destroy ourselves physically and emotionally
nor harm the life's of others.
Nonviolent Communication (2003)
This book has a meaningful topic as it reflects on having compassion to others in order
to have a non violent communication. As we all have different characteristics,- comparing, and
judging are some words that can block a person from having compassion. NVC focuses on four
areas- what are we observing, feeling, needing, and what are we requesting. When we are in a
situation, we first need to observe without evaluating. This is the hardest part because when we
evaluate, we are already judging and criticizing. Observing the facts, is what's important. After
observing, we need to express our feelings. Expressing our feelings without blaming anyone and
letting the other person know how you feel will better help fix the situation as you allow yourself
to be vulnerable. After observing, and expressing your feelings, we must express our needs.
Majority of the time, our needs are not acknowledge. "When others hear criticism, they tend to
invest their energy in self-defense or counterattack. The more directly we can connect our
feelings to our needs, the easier it is for others to respond compassionately" (Rosenberg, 2003. p.
61). The last component is our request. This can be difficult to express as some people may take
it as you being demanding. Having a clear response of what we want will help the other person
understand our needs. "In NVC, no matter what words others may use to express themselves, we
simply listen for their observations, feelings, needs, and request. Then we may wish to reflect
back, paraphrasing what we have understood. We stay with empathy and allow others the
opportunity to fully express themselves before we turn our attention to solutions or request for
relief" (Rosenberg. 2003. p.104).
References
Stone, D., & Patton, B. (1999). Difficult conversations: How to discuss what matters most. New
York, N.Y.: Viking.
Satir, V. (1988). The new peoplemaking. Mountain View, Calif.: Science and Behavior Books.
Rosenberg, M. (2003). Nonviolent communication a language of life (2nd ed.). Encinitas, CA:
PuddleDancer Press.