Nick Tejeda

Rev. Eclov

CM 5000

October 5, 2010

Moc Session Review

Counselee – “Mike”

Counselor – Naurice Moffet

Life changing career opportunities have opened up. Married once before,

with children. Got remarried is in love and reports his current wife is patient.

Enjoyed past job in Indiana as a Christian camp maintenance. Wife feels taken

advantage of since she was doing so many different things for the camp while not

being an employee. She loves singing but was asked to do counseling and cleaning

and children childcare. Mike has recently moved back to Chicago and his wife is

happy singing at church. Mike works with FedEx now but doesn’t feel as happy with

this position. Mike really liked the people he worked with and the cause he was

advancing.

Counselor recaps constantly – empathetic listening (this was great)

This filled the session with clarity, which is immediately evident. The

counselor repeats what he is hearing so that both are clear as to what is being talked

about. The dignity of each person is upheld. I can learn from this technique, which

would help me clarify my own thoughts and communicate and make explicit what it

is I’m picking up on and what it is I’m missing. Being clear as to what is being picked

up on and what isn’t is important for the continuation of the counseling relationship.

As the relationship solidifies the best and healthiest patterns should be promoted

alongside expectations and differences between friendships and counseling.

 Mike gets an opportunity to go back to work at a Christian camp but fears

this will be too stressful for the marriage. The camp is in Arkansas. Though his wife

is hesitant she’s willing to think about it. Mike thinks she should submit to him as

the head of the household. He is very unhappy working at FedEx. He acknowledges

that his wife is very happy in Chicago. Sing doesn’t provide an extra source of

income but Mike sees it could become a source in the future since the church is

looking for a music minister.

Counselor says, “Mike, its not just about you” – the push back felt judgmental

but continuing the verse was helpful. The counselor completes that verse, “as

husbands submit to God” and asks have you prayed? Mike reveals that he hasn’t

prayed about any of his decisions because he is a “man of God” and that he’s

unhappy about not being to have both of them be happy at the same time. I would

have repeated this back to the counselee and asked if Men of God are exempt from

prayer?

How do I make her submit? No. She has to see you submit.

[DISK DAMAGE]

Mike admits that family plans aren’t being presented to God.

Counselor’s body language is a little tense

- Hands folded and rubbing them against each other.

– Slouching in couch not looking attentive and staring at Mike oddly but seems to

become aware of his posture and changes his posture and disposition.

- Counselor’s “odd face” is picked up by Mike. This could be because of a close

relationship in which facial expressions are clearly understood by counselee or

awkwardness since counselee can’t pick up on the thoughts behind the faces.

Counselor interjects with an accusative tone

– “but you told me there hasn’t been any conversation or prayer…”

- At 19:50 counselor exhales in a ridicule sort of way but Mike admits that his ex-

wife commented about his lack of consultation in family decisions as well.

Counselor gives vague advice

– “its give and take”

– “you’re not the center of attention.”

Seems like some comments are rehashing psycho – pop cliché phrases. It seemed

like the Counselor was trying to artificially make “aha” moments of insight.

Counselor recaps constantly – empathetic listening (this was great)