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Why Kama Sutra, Porn, and Gossip Are Bad Ways To Learn About Sex
Why Kama Sutra, Porn, and Gossip Are Bad Ways To Learn About Sex
Why Kama Sutra, Porn, and Gossip Are Bad Ways To Learn About Sex
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WHY TALK ABOUT KAMA SUTRA?
In contemporary times, it has become
one of the most recognized names and
sources for trying out creative sex. It is
unfortunately outdated, and some aspects
of it Un-Islamic.
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WHAT IS PORNOGRAPHY?
Any sexually explicit material that makes you or your spouse focus on
something other than each other is harmful.
It is sexual excitement as an end to it self, rather than a way to both
reach closeness
When a husband watches another woman on celluloid screen and then
makes love to his wife he gives his wife his body but gives the image on
the TV his heart and mind
Its like sexual decapitation
(Boeringer 1994)
SEX AND GOSSIP
Ever heard about the telephone game?
That’s where one person passes a message
to another who passes it to another, and in
a few degrees of separation, the heart and
soul of the message is lost.
You wouldn’t go to a quack for good
medical advice, so why entrust something
so important to heresy?
Not only sex is a private matter that
shouldn’t be discussed casually, it is also
a personal experience. What works for
one person most probably won’t work for
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the other.
WHY KAMA SUTRA IS BAD
It covers unashamedly
romance and marriage,
which is OK to a degree
It is not useful for the time
and place we live in
Kama Sutra was compiled
in 4th century AD
It is a compilation of
Brahman scholars and
other religious scholars
called Vatsayayana
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WHY KAMA SUTRA IS BAD
However once it gets into adultery, bigamy, group sex,
prostitution, homosexuality, and sadomasochism, it is
out of bounds (all of which are haram/forbidden)
As I udnderstand it Muslims, we can take anything that
is not contradictory or forbidden in our faith, but much
of the Kama Sutra is purely wrong and or useless
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WHY KAMA SUTRA IS BAD
Kama Sutra only gives a
male perspective
It was written as a
guidebook for upper-class
coming of age young men
Advice and etiquette of
dealing with prostitutes,
seduction and the like are
again out of bounds in Islam
There are 64 positions in the
Kama Sutra, and although a
few are practical, most are
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THE JOY OF SEX AND SIMILAR BOOKS
Books like this may have good advice and guidelines but
what is most problematic are the photos and high
resolution illustrations, which are another form of
pornography. Plus you have to know what is forbidden
or guidelines of Islam to know what to take
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ON THE SUBJECT OF MOVIES & PORN
Hollywood and its cousins in the media are businesses
whose job is to entertain, sensationalize, and sell their
wares
Sex in film is raunchy and does not reflect real human
beings.
It is all about performance, sight and sound and not
about intimacy, affection, and the well being of your
spouse
They are not looking out in your best interest
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ON THE SUBJECT OF MOVIES & PORN
Seeing a couple supposedly perform sex is voyeurism
Besides taking a private event public, it is troubling to
the heart and soul.
Why be a sinful spectator, when you can be gaining
blessings by having lawful sex with your spouse
Why would you want to visualize, another man or
woman that you are making love to, when you can both
imagine and practice with your spouse
Why gain sin, when you can get reward by doing that
which Allah and his Prophet have permitted and
encouraged.
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ON THE SUBJECT OF MOVIES & PORN
Porn objectifies women, as purely a piece of flesh to be
used and discarded
Like the Kama Sutra, Porn provides a male perspective,
and what supposedly should turn them on.
It is addictive like drugs, with harm for the family and
faith.
If you watch enough porn ,that will become your
standard to look up to, which is totally false.
The key to great sex isn’t porn its in the intimacy,
foreplay, respect for each other and having Taqwa
(including fear, love, guidance and presence of Allah)
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ISLAMIC PERSPECTIVE ON
PORNOGRAPHY
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NEVER TAKE YOUR CUES ABOUT SEX
FROM PORNOGRAPHY, MOVIES, AND
MAGAZINES
Examples: Immoral or unreal fantasies
Anal sex is forbidden in Islam, it is painful and unnatural, yet
it is portrayed in nearly all books on sex and hard core films
Hard core- Bondage. People have ended up in hospital and or
embarrassing situations
Intimate relationship in Islam is sacred. Not for display, abuse or
exploitation of spouse
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WHY PORN IS BAD
Brings about shame and
hiding
It takes away focus from
people in your life
Eats lots of time
It diminishes your capacity
to think and focus
Can get expensive
financially, emotionally,
and socially
Creates skewed
perceptions of reality for
real life relationships,
leading to disappointment 23
WHY PORN IS BAD
Looking at porn is self-
seeking. We ought to look
to the needs of others
Guilt causes one to avoid
gathering with other
believers which affects
their lives
Pornography feeds the
lonely deprived spots of a
person's mind but does not
fulfill the need
A part of you dies when
using porn; one gives
away a piece of their soul
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to object of lust
WHY PORN IS BAD CONTD.
Loss of innocence, which is a hard thing to regain
Dependency on porn is self-perpetuating. Addictive.
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WHY PORN IS BAD CONTD.
Creates a fear of having a real relationship
Makes you afraid of God rather than reverence for God
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WHY PORN IS BAD CONTD.
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EXAMPLE OF HOW SHAITAN (SATAN)
ATTACKS US
When we are…
H ungry
A ngry
L onely
T ired
E nvious
D iscouraged
MUSIC – WHAT DO YOU THINK?
NEGATIVE: some filled promoting sexuality, civil
disobedience, degradation of women, girl
power,profanity, drunkenness, drugs, etc.
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MUSIC – WHAT DO YOU THINK?
“Our music is calculated to drive the kids to sex. It's not
my fault what they do. It's up to them. I'm just making a
lot of money. . .” Mick Jagger
Great Sex
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