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Guarding Ourselves From Adultery
Guarding Ourselves From Adultery
ADULTERY
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WHAT IS AN AFFAIR?
Intellectual
Emotional
Physical
WHAT CAUSES AFFAIRS?
IT IS A TRAP, EASY TO FALL INTO
FEW PEOPLE PLAN TO HAVE AN AFFAIR
MOST COMMON EMOTIONAL NEEDS IN
MARRIAGE
Admiration/affirmation
Affection
Domestic support
Financial support
Physical attractiveness/doing the best with what you have, inside and out
A combination of the following, along with someone else with their own set,
plus the opportunity
Continual unmet emotional needs
Strangers
WHAT ARE THE MOST COMMON
CIRCUMSTANCES THAT SURROUND AN AFFAIR
(EXPLOSION)?
The match
Entertaining impure thoughts in your head— “I’m just thinking, I’d never
do it”
Non-physical emotional involvement— “If my spouse just understood
me”= open door
Crossing the physical line—touching, kissing….it is nearly impossible to
turn back
The gasoline
High stress, high need, no rest, continuing conflict at home/work, poor self
image, no time with spouse, chaos= need for a diversion
Alcohol
Unaccountable- travel, unbounded time away from home w/o spouse, no
friends who make you accountable- no joint agreements
Distant from God, the community of believers, prayer, lack of (self-
control)
WHAT ARE SOME CONCRETE THINGS YOU CAN DO TO AVOID AN
AFFAIR IN YOUR MARRIAGE?
Recommit yourself daily to God’s standard and to each other
Accept your own mate as God’s provision and delight in. He/she is the right
one
Pray together
Manage your mind—it all begins with your thought life
Know your needs and communicate them; know your spouse’s needs and
meet them-every day take a step toward their needs and fears-fill their love
bank
Monitor your media intake-”Desperate Housewives” and trashy movies
Pick your friends carefully
Minimize the opportunity to fall-venue= dinner/drinks/travel for 2
Establish boundaries by joint agreement on things like time at
home/travel/individual activities/friends
Magnify the consequences; minimize the benefits of unfaithfulness
Maintain the proper relationship with the opposite sex
PROPER RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN THE SEXES
WHEN AT LEAST ONE IS MARRIED TO SOMEONE
ELSE
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