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A Quick Thought On Communicating With The Opposite Sex
A Quick Thought On Communicating With The Opposite Sex
Opposite Sex
So, when a man brings up a decision with, for example, his wife, he
assumes she thinks and processes in the same style he does and will, of
course, know that he is just giving her the information or perhaps,
seeking approval.
But, most likely the woman does NOT know this, so she will probably
respond by asking if he has considered various factors and ramifications
and suggesting possible reasons his plan could fail or talking about
other alternatives. This is how she responds because she is assuming
that he thinks and processes and makes decisions the same way she
does. She assumes, then, that since this is the first she has heard about
this particular problem, he must be in the early stages of processing and
is asking for her input.
However, the man does not realize this, since he assumes she thinks and
processes the same way he does. He assumes that, since she has
brought up the topic, the possible solution she has mentioned is her
“final answer” and she is just giving him the information or maybe
seeking his approval.
So, he says something like, “Hey, that sounds great, honey, whatever you
want to do.”
Frustrated, she turns to her girlfriends for assistance with making the
decision and comes up with an entirely different solution from the one
she had mentioned to her man.
And, when she tells him about it, he thinks something like – Women!! I
will never understand them. Why are they always changing their minds??
Sounds familiar, right? And probably there are no easy answers that
would apply to all situations such as this, but I will offer just one simple
piece of advice that is likely to be helpful in the majority of these kinds
of scenarios.