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You Are What You Wear
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You know that feeling around 11 a.m. after pulling an all-nighter when your eyelids seem too heavy to keep open, your brain runs at least 30 seconds behind everything else and you have to seriously consider if youll need a piggyback ride to make it to your next class? Unfortunately, sleepless nights in the name of academia became a regular part of my semesters last year. Knowing the misery of the following day, I always made sure to do two things (aside from drinking an unhealthy amount of caffeine) to better get me through my chosen path of irresponsibility: I made an effort to put myself together in the morning and I drank plenty of water. Putting time into my appearance or outfit went against my sleep-deprived impulse to go for comfy sweatpants that swallowed me up, much like my bed
should have. Ultimately, I used clothing and self-grooming as a way to say No, I didnt wait until the last possible minute to do my project; I had all the time in the world to get ready this morning. Even if I couldnt articulate or refrain from yawning, my appearance said I had at least one moment of clarity that day. For more on what your outfit says about you, check out the feature on page 7. As for my other go-to: staying hydrated. I assumed this helped counter any potential caffeine overdose, but mostly, it just made me feel better, especially drinking one coconut water (these are full of potassium and electrolytes). I prefer the brand ZICO because of the nostalgic juice-boxlike packaging. Take a look at Christys story on page 11 to see more on the latest ways to stay hydrated. While a put-together look and electrolyte-packed water dont replace getting some shuteye, I like to think they ease the blow of an all-nighter.
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Contributed photo Michelle MacBain is a graduate student from Kansas City. She studied sexuality, psychology and communiction studies at KU and The University of Amsterdam. As far as approaching the relationship, what steps have you taken to engage your object of affection in a romantic way? Have you even asked her out on a date? Communicate your desire and interest in her and gauge her reaction. Hopefully, she will be thrilled with the idea of going on a date with you. If not, then take your fit, confident, gentlemanly booty out to meet someone new! Finally, remove the goal of sex from the forefront of your mind. The best sex is within a trusting, intimate and comforting relationship. This kind of relationship takes some time. If you rush her into the sack you will erase and destroy the connection you worked so hard to establish. Also, women can smell desperation a mile away and will avoid you like the plague! | MICHELLE MACBAIN |
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I would like to trade lives with a guy. lets say a guy like George Cloony. I would want to be a sought-after guy. Id want to know what it feels like to have all the girls wanting you. I never leave without my cell phone. If I drive away without it, I have a panic attack and rush back. If I dont have it, I feel vulnerable. What if my car breaks down? I would want to be something that has a scary element but is still sexy. My favorite [costume] was when I dressed as a corpse bride. I wore a corseted wedding dress that was falling apart so it was sexy with a lot of leg and cleavage. There are 17 costumes in my new line, including a pirate, gypsy, french maid, peacock and sexy mermaid. Theres even a Hef costume. Id probably want to be a cat because theyre super independent, but theyre still pretty wise. A dog would be fun, but they rely on humans too much. You would have to hope that you have a loving family. I grew up in a small town but had 13 girl cousins about my age. Because I lived out in the country, it was hard to have friends over. So on the weekends, I would have my cousins over. Our goal was to stay up all night and watch scary movies. We never made it, but we tried.
I never leave without my cell phone and of course, my KU ID. If I dont have my phone, I feel really peaceful but at first, I feel naked. After about four hours, Im like wow, its nice not to talk to people.
I would go as a Power Ranger because Id have super sweet powers. I actually dressed up as the pink Power Ranger last year.
I would want to come back as a dove because I think that theyre really peaceful and pretty. My favorite memoryis probably getting Barneys videotapes weekly because I was in his fan club. Those little brown packages were like Christmas every week. | TAYlOR lEWIS |
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FEATURE
Dress Evolves
From couture gowns to cotton t-shirts, history plays a part in everyones clothing, says Bernard Kahn, professor at Parsons and the Fashion Institute of Technology in New York. While a plethora of factors, such as your interests, occupation and mood influence what you wear, social norms throughout history have created the dress codes we know today. Contemporary rules of dress, especially professional attire, stem from 1700s Puritanical norms in which people felt they had a certain standard in terms of what to wear. There was always a differentiation between the way wealthy people dressed and the way poor people dressed, Kahn says. People who were in business either emulated or were, in fact wealthy, so it was really the socioeconomic influence that gave us the image of what a business person should look like in terms of the clothing they would wear.
That standard carried through the 1800s and developed along with business during the Industrial Age. People who sought success or were successful continued wanting to emulate a look that reflected their wealth or social status, establishing what we consider acceptable business wear. This standard continued until the 1990s when business casual kicked the dress code down a notch in many offices, replacing suit-and-tie attire with a more day-to-night wardrobe. Even outside of the office, Drew Downing, a senior from Overland Park, stays true to business casual attire with a closet full of button-downs, dress pants, chino shorts and polos in an array of colors. After a childhood of private school blazers and a mother who dressed him well, Downing says his greatest style influence came from two internships he did between high school and college. Working in an office every day at 18, he adhered to the historic business wear standard, dressing the part of a businessman. The career influence on Downings wardrobe made him feel more mature and hes become accustomed to dressing professionally for any occasion, be it work, hanging out with friends or going to class. I always feel better when Im well dressed, Downing says. I feel more confident speaking up in lectures; whereas, if I look like shit, I probably wont call out or draw attention to myself.
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Dress Speaks
Downings belief that his outfit expresses how much he cares about himself, the occasion and even others, also influences his dress. Professor Kahn supports the KU students theory, stating that fashion is largely a means of self-expression, and that the clothes we wear reflect the way we see ourselves. From the color of your shirt to the type of shoe on your foot, your clothes send a message about you, whether you intend it or not, says Ryan Milner, communication studies graduate teaching assistant at KU. He has worn skate shoes since age 13, which might tell people hes a skateboarder; however, Milners never skated a day in his life. Regardless of his skating experience, he values wearing the shoes as a marker of who he is and the subculture he identifies with. In addition to conveying how we see ourselves, says Milner, our clothes speak to how we feel we fit in with others, and how they perceive our character, credibility and investment in them. Appearance is strongly tied to ethos, so I always tell my students when theyre giving a speech that they need to dress just a smidge better than their audience, Milner says. Not so far above that theyre alienating them, but not below them to where they dont have credibility. Tom Beaver, De Soto senior, echoes Milners classroom advice with his philosophy on dress. Beavers casual graphic t-shirt, jeans and boots contrast the stereotypical preppy, business casual attire of the fraternity to which he belongs. Dressing apart from what Beaver calls his fratty roots allows him to branch out and associate with people outside of the Greek system. I dressed fratty my first two years of college, but last year, I just stopped giving a crap, Beaver says. Ive made friends with people who might not have talked to me if I was wearing the typical polo and boat shoes. To offset the Greek stereotype (and perhaps give him one less thing to worry about each day) Beaver intentionally dresses to say, I dont care about what I wear. He believes college students lives are hectic and a put-together outfit isnt a priority for everyone. If students go to class in pajamas or athletic clothes, it doesnt reflect their professionalism. Even if Beavers dress or any students inaccurately represents his professionalism, appearance still says something to others and makes an impression, says Margaret Miele, psychologist and professor at the Fashion Institute of Technology in New York. I look differently at a student coming from an internship or work who is dressed well and professionally than I do at someone who comes to class in her pajamas, says Miele. It sets up a different dynamic between you and classmates, and also you and your instructor. Even if youre just staying home all day and you have a few things to take care of, youre a very different person if you stay in your pajamas than if you had gotten dressed, says Miele. Youre different in terms of how much you accomplish, how much energy you generate and your mood. Whether or not a person takes the time to groom him or herself each day can be indicative of a persons mental health. Emily Lyle, a sophomore from Overland Park, might be an exception. Shes healthy and doesnt care much about getting ready or what she wears unless shes going out on weekends or to an important occasion. The rest of time, she sports an effortless combination of t-shirts, sweats or leggings. If Im just waking up and going to class or running errands, what I have on doesnt really faze me, Lyle says. If Im in tight jeans and an uncomfortable shirt, it distracts me, so I prefer to wear something comfortable so Im more focused. Not every sweatpants advocate or person who regularly wears pajama pants to class will be fazed by how they dress, says Jennifer Baumgartner, fashion psychologist and author of You are What You Wear (available Dec. 2011). In working with such clients (people with healthy self-perceptions), she challenges them to step it up. Plenty of people who walk around in sweatpants, especially [on a college campus], and are fine psychologically and feel great about themselves, but even then I would say Arent you worth a little more than that? Baumgartner says. Why not match the outside to the inside? Then people will look at you the way you see yourself internally. While Baumgartner prioritizes working internally and focusing on psychological health before making wardrobe changes, she says clothings effect on people makes changes possible externally, but those changes are often temporary. Makeover shows capitalize on such a transformation, improving the way someone sees herself through a new appearance and wardrobe. Even though the effects might not be long-term, Baumgartner says its a useful strategy for everyone, especially college students.
Dress Affects
In addition to the unfavorable impression it makes on others, wearing what you sleep in to class can also affect how well you function. Not taking the time to put yourself together before work or school can cause you to have a slightly different demeanor than if you put effort into it. Miele parallels the classroom with the philosophy behind casual Friday. The idea was that if people dressed down, then theyd be more productive because theyd be comfortable; but the reality was that people were less productive because the comfortable clothes made for a less-productive mindset. We all have a tendency to fall into it we get overtired or extremely busy but when that happens, just throwing something on is sending a message to yourself that youre not really caring and youre too tired, Miele says. I think it has a self-fulfilling prophesy in terms of not just physically attending class, but being cognitively present, and perhaps how well you take notes and what you take away from that class that day.
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STYlE ON OREAd
What inspires the outfits of KU students and what do their clothes say about them?
Leonard Berryman, a senior from Oakland, Cali. Spotted: Wescoe Beach He says that his outfits shows that he didnt wake up on time. He likes to dress comfortably, so he just throws something on. Who wants to look fly for grades?
John Reynolds, a graduate student from Stoney Pointe, NY Spotted: Wescoe Johns preppy J.Crew wardrobe takes him from being in class to teaching class as a G.T.A. The slim-legged chinos and a colorful contrasting tie show his personal style. Ill sometimes dress like a bearded lumberjack.
Maggie Hartman, a senior from Shawnee Spotted: Wescoe Beach Everything I wear is comfortable, cheap and kind of fancy. Maggie likes a tomboy flare and shes a sucker for vintage pieces, especially dresses and skirts.
Carley Bossemeyer, a junior from Salina Spotted: Fraser Hall Carley added personal touches to her top hat with lace and a piece she made in her metals clas. Mixing black and blue, sporting goggle shades and making lace look edgy, she calls her style steampunk, a sub-genre of sci-fi.
Olivia Penn, a senior from Topeka Spotted: Stauffer-Flint My oufit is the epitome of casual Friday. Olivia kicked her comfortable pairing of leggings and a cotton v-neck up a notch with blingin sandals.
Yungshen Fong, a junior from Chengdu, China Spotted: Frasier Hall Yungshen says he likes to dress fashionable. He puts a personal spin on trendy pieces, like a plaid Abercrombie & Fitch buttondown, by wearing brightly colored Adidas sneakers.
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HEALTH Good for you bad for you > Sometimes its hard to tell. // Whitening Your teeth
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> If youre going to do it, be smart.
Instead of grabbing a coffee or energy drink next time youre stressed and have to study, think again. There are certain foods that are not only healthy for you, but also help reduce stress levels. Its important to eat foods that contain protein, complex carbohydrates and Omega-3 fatty acids in each meal or snack you eat, says Rachel Barkley, Associate Professor of Dietetics and Nutrition at KU Medical Center. Complex carbohydrates prompt the brain to produce more serotonin, the chemical that keeps you calm. They keep you full longer because they contain fiber, Barkley says. Oatmeal is a good example. Omega-3 fatty acids help prevent surges of stress hormones and protect against heart disease. Tuna, salmon, almonds, and avocados contain Omega-3 fatty acids. Portion size is important because these foods contain fat, Barkley says. Bright-colored fruits and vegetables like blueberries, oranges, and spinach are loaded with phytochemicals, Barkley says. Theyre
The quest for a whiter, brighter smile is everywhere. Nearly every toothpaste on the market offers some type of whitening agent on the package. But before you layer on the whitening strips, look to see if youre getting what you paid for. Toothpaste, mouthwashes and chewing gum all offer benefits of contributing to whiter teeth. Imagine waking up, brushing your teeth with whitening toothpaste, swirling around a whitening mouthwash, chewing whitening gum in between meals, and then coming home to put whitening strips on, only to repeat it the next day? For some who have tried this method, these products didnt live up to their
expectations. Amanda Lehner, a senior from Cheney, Ks., used whitening strips because she was looking for a quick and easy way to get whiter teeth, but after a few boxes she quit using them because she wasnt noticing results. Steven Frost, a senior from Topeka, is a dental assistant at the Douglas County Dental Clinic in Lawrence. He says that some products arent all they claim to be. Toothpastes are especially notorious for this, as many claim to be whitening and actually dont. Look at the active ingredients of the toothpaste. If the only active ingredient is Sodium Fluoride, chances are that its not going to do much to whiten your teeth. Frost doesnt discourage the use of whitening products, but he does recommend doing research before buying a product. Verdict: Bad for you if the product wasnt researched. | Bre Roach |
//StreSS-reducing FoodS
good for you because they fight off a lot of serious conditions, like heart disease, cancer and diabetes. Dana Wilensky, a junior from Plymouth, Minn., says she is usually under stress about twice a week since her tests are around the same time. Wilensky says she drinks a coffee each morning and sometimes later in the day when she is under stress and needs to study. Sugary carbohydrates give you rapid increases in blood sugar and can later cause you to crash. Therefore, it is important to eat complex carbs,which will stay with you longer, Barkley says. | KYLIE NUTT |
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Abby thill, a senior from ellinwood kan., Says she loves water and sometimes craves it. Recently thill began adding a wedge of lemon to her water for an extra zing. Compare the nutritional facts of an 8 oz glass of water that has a quarter wedge of lemon with nutritional facts of other popular beverages.
coconuT waTer
The hottest new way to hydrate comes from the slightly sour liquid found in unripe coconuts called coconut water. This fat-free, cholesterol-free beverage is advertised as being the ultimate sports drink made by nature. Coconut water distributors such as: Vita Coco, ZICO and O.N.E., say their products are packed with electrolytes, potassium and vitamin C. Chapman says because coconut water contains electrolytes, it can help the body recover after exercise or illness. Chapman also says some research suggests that coconut water can help lower risks for heart attacks and lower blood pressure, but she acknowledges that the scientific studies are very limited because coconut water is a relatively new product.
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Contributed photo scary or if they actually are. The kid was shifting back and forth, trying to stare at me, and I just smiled. I said you are going to hate this. Then the bell rang. I wrestled all through high school, and for some dumbass reason, my corner kept yelling, Jab! Jab! Jab! so I spent the first two-and-a-half minutes getting hit in the face. The kid hit like a kitten, but it was annoying. I had enough room in my corner so I just took him down. I grabbed his shoulders, stepped in front of him and threw him over my leg, which tripped him. As soon as the fight hit the mat, he had no right to be there with me. I trapped him early in the second round and made him submit with a triangle choke. Half the crowd erupted and the Missouri half booed. someone told me if you win a fight, you have about 10 to 15 seconds to be the biggest douchebag on the planet. you can say and do whatever you want, so I did. I went up to the Missouri side and put on a shirt with a Jayhawk humping a Tiger and said, look at this! They hated that. I stopped after 10 seconds; it was time for me to be a gentleman again. I still have a dent in my shin from kicking his hipbone so hard. I was sore for about a month. but I think I might do it again someday. Just not during the school year.
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Were all guilty of procrastinating hours of study time skimming our Facebook news feeds instead of our notes. Then, our eyes catch the name of an ex and we find ourselves clicking on it. We end up searching through photos and glancing over wall posts just to see what this person has been up to. Its all very innocent but more importantly, easy. How many times do you wonder who is innocently stalking you?
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by Ben Jackson and Larry Pesce, worked on ception that checking-in on Foursquare means a project in May 2010 to prove to individuals everyone can see where you have been. that posting even the menial aspects of their On the site, the privacy policy emphasizes lives,like what they had for lunch,through phothat only friends you approve can view your tos could lead to cyberstalking. Jackson and Pesce use programs to extract data from pho- check-ins. I think people are afraid of getting tos. Then they post the location of whoever they Foursquare because they think they can eashave stalked on their website. According to ily be stalked, Fillmore says. However, if you their site, they hope to get enough exposure to decide to connect your Foursquare account to the problem so that [they] can start to curb its your Twitter account, anyone online has access to this information. continued use. Fillmore rarely tweets his Foursquare checkOn ICanStalkU.com, Jackson and Pesce ins. Only recently has he tweeted them to keep explain that most smartphones have GPS locating technology built inside. Very few people are up with KUs Foursquare campaign. It never hurts to check your privacy settings aware that their location will be on the web for anyone to see each time they post a photo. The to make sure that not just anyone can view your easiest way to fix this is disabling the geotag- profile on any social media. You never know ging feature from your phone instructions are who might come across your name and start skimming your information or get a hold of a shown on ICanStalkU.com. photo. Bottom line: dont make it easy. Austin Karp, a freshman from Boca Raton, Fl., is very active on his account on Foursquare but like many students, he had no idea that he could be located through posting photos from his phone. Knowing this did bother him.
There are numerous social media sites, including Facebook, Twitter, Foursquare, Google +, Goalla, and Yelp. Andrew Fillmore, a senior from Belle Plaine, uses all of these sites. As a strategic communications major and SUA member, he tries to keep up with the latest social media. His latest obsession: Foursquare. Foursquare is a location-based social networking site where users can check-in with their smart phone or through SMS at different locations and share their location with friends Proving The Point: Protect Yourself while gaining points and virtual badges. Foursquare has taken off, now with more than 10 Not everyone is as digitally confident as million users worldwide. But with the birth of Foursquare in 2009 came Compton. ICanStalkU.com, a website founded the birth of stalking fears. Its a common miscon-
Approximately one in four stalker victims have reported some type of cyberstalking.
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I walked into the house less than 15 seconds ago and already my Dad has handed me a stack of extensive research on law schools. He thinks that Googling a law school gives him makes him an expert on the subject. I cant help but roll my eyes and sigh heavily. Im just applying to different places, Dad, not making a final decision. Ive been researching schools for hours. Please just drop it. Do you know how much tuition costs at Iowa? Its over $42,000 a year. KU is the logical choice. It doesnt make sense for you to apply. Suddenly, I cant take anymore of his logic. I can feel my face flush and the anger rise up my throat and spill out of my mouth. Im screaming now. How dare you even imply Im not taking this seriously! It literally consumes my thoughts! You just cant handle even the idea of me leaving you! Thats all this is! The rest of the confrontation is a blur as we hurl accusations back and forth and the insults intensify. I make it a point to slam the door as hard as I can as I storm out of the house. What a lovely visit home. That was the typical outcome of conversations or rather screaming matches with my Dad as I was applying for law school. Deciding a future life path is complicated enough without having a meddling father. You see, Im an only child. I didnt have the experience of deciding where to go for college. It was pretty much predetermined before my birth that I would follow in my parents footsteps and become a Jayhawk. So potentially leaving home was a whole new frontier for me. My Dad and I are two very different people. I love traveling and dont get homesick, one of the reasons exploring law schools away from home was an attractive option. He couldnt understand that. Hes someone who stayed within 30 miles of where he was born and he never intends to leave. Even though Im only 30 minutes away, my Dad still misses me intensely. Imagine what hours would do to him. As I applied to law schools other than KU, my Dads idea of KU Law as the best, and only, option intensified. His research of schools consisted of biased Google searches that only explored the pitfalls of all other schools. KU stood alone as the most logical, convenient, and of course, cheapest choice. Id excitedly tell my Dad about ways Id learned to defray the high tuition rates at Iowa, or about the school in California where Id gotten a hefty scholarship. His response was silence, then a grunt.
Hmm. Isnt that exciting, Dad? I had no idea you had gotten a scholarship there. Dad, thats not true. I told you about it the other day. Well I dont know anything about it! It was evident that there was more going on than just an aversion to high costs. I asked my mom one day why he couldnt support my decision. As a parent, from day one youre preparing your kids to leave the nest, she said. You have to prepare them, and yourself, for when they inevitably start their own life. Your Dad hasnt come to terms with you leaving yet. And so the dilemma. As I tried to make this decision for myself, my Dad pressured me to decide on KU not simply for his aforementioned logical reasoning, but because he was afraid. He was afraid of losing his little girl. This fear had manifested itself in ugly fights and lackluster responses at the news of my acceptance at other schools. It wasnt that my Dad wasnt proud of me, or didnt have faith that I could make the decision on my own. He was simply clinging onto his daughter. With a clearer understanding of where he was coming from, I asked him one day about why he was pressuring me to choose KU. Dad, all logical reasoning aside, do you think you might be favoring KU because its the closest school? A long pause. I think thats certainly a possibility, yes. I need you to understand that this is ultimately my life and my decision. I just want your support, but I honestly dont feel I have it unless I choose KU. Another prolonged silence. Ill try my hardest to have an open mind. And there it was; the subtle admission I had been waiting for. We had tentatively climbed onto the elephant in the room. It was the first conversation wed had about law school that didnt involve yelling. After that, my Dad made a conscious effort to temper his enthusiasm for KU. He let me do my own research and visit other schools. Most importantly, he listened when I talked. After a too-good-to-be-true scholarship offer from KU, my Dad got his wish and I enrolled at KU Law. But I didnt make the decision for him. I made it because it was the best choice for me.
Contributed photo Theres no manual for making the transition from child to adult. Theres not a formula telling you the sudden instant you not your parents have control over your life. Its an individual process and its clear that my Dad and I have a slower pace. But maybe now well have a better understanding of each other and my Dad can start to let go. I realize now that instead of severing the ties or rather the rope that binds us together, Im going to have to cut it one string at a time. After all, I am an only child and my Daddys only little girl.
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Any Wine By the Glass: $5.00 Bellinis: $3.50 Desserts: $3.00 Wine Carafes: $8.00 All you can eat Pasta: $8.00 Martinis: $5.00 1/2 price Appetizers (5-close) Italian Margaritas: $3.00 Leaning Towers: $5.00 Don Caprianas: $5.00
Big 22 oz. Domestic Draft Beers: $3.00 All wines by the bottle - $20 All wines by the glass - $5 House infused liquors - $3 doubles $4.75 $2 off all martinis $4.75 double bloody marys with our house infused hot pepper vodka, $4 Mimosas
Mud Stomp Monday: the Last Hurrah!! Advance $9 Dark Time w/ Jay Maus. Door $2 TONIGHT: The University Daily Kansan & The Connection Present: White Panda with DJ Savy. $7 Advance, $10 Door BLACKOUT with Skrause, Nick Arcade, Morri$ & Mad Rid. 21+: FREE, 18+ $5