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CDC HIV chief steps down. Page 4 HIV infections increasing among youth. Page 4 Cathy Woolard named interim AID Atlanta executive director. Page 6 UGA may soon offer domestic partner benets. Page 6 Georgia cities fail LGBT equality ratings. Page 6 Emory University student government denounces Chick-l-A. Page 8 Atlanta City Council supports gay marriage. Page 9

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There are some of my family members that are not thrilled that you can see me kissing a man in the shows promos, but its an important part of my life. You can be Persian and gay.
Reza Farahan, star of Shahs of Sunset, which appears on Bravo at 10 p.m. on Sundays (Hufngton Post, Dec. 3)

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Ryan is not gay. Im 100 percent sure. If you spend two minutes in his presence, you would never ask that question.
Reza Farahan, commenting on rumors about Shahs of Sunset executive producer Ryan Seacrest (Hufngton Post, Dec. 3)

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I hope all LGBTQ youth know that they are as valuable as anyone else, that they are amazing and unique, and make the world a more vibrant place.
Pop singer Katy Perry, accepting the Hero award Dec. 2 from the Trevor Project, which works to prevent suicide among LGBT youth. (AOL Music, Dec. 3).

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ATL lesbian chefs cook up recipes so you dont get Chopped. Page 16 How to avoid common kitchen nightmares. Page 19 Cozy meals to warm you this winter. Page 21 Cocktails to give and receive for the holidays. Page 22 Food Porn: Memories and the secret to eternal youth. Page 24 Come Out in the Kitchen with gay Chamber of Commerce. Page 24

When I decided to run, I said either you come out and become an activist and have a major role there or I run for Congress. There was no way I could have been out and won.
U.S. Rep. Barney Frank (D-Mass.) on his rst run for Congress in 1980. Frank, who came out in 1987 while serving in Congress, is retiring after 32 years in the U.S. House. (Washington Post, Dec. 3)

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Its important to have a parent speak about raising a magnicent, proud, intelligent, funny, lovable, sexy gay son. And there are so many parents who are frightened of that and who dont embrace their children as they struggle. Those children are struggling to embrace who they are, what nature intended them to be.
Sally Field, discussing her gay son Sam, during a Dec. 2 interview with Oprah Winfrey on Oprahs Next Chapter. (Towleroad.com, Dec. 3)
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Thats What She Said: Melissa Carters best laid plans dont always work out. Page 30 Domestically Disturbed: Topher Paynes bad, bad neighborhood. Page 31
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Openly gay CDC HIV chief reects on humbling journey

Fenton: Much work remains to protect young gay men from HIV
By Dyana Bagby dbagby@thegavoice.com Dr. Kevin Fenton has much to be proud of during his eight years at the Centers for Disease Control & Prevention, especially the strong relationships he and the federal agency forged with local and community-based organizations. Fenton steps down from his position as director of the National Center for HIV/AIDS, Viral Hepatitis, STD & TB Prevention after a seven-year tenure on Dec. 21 and returns to his home in the U.K. on Dec. 31. Dr. Rima Khabbaz, director of the Ofce of Infectious Diseases, will begin serving as acting director of NCHHSTP on Jan. 2, 2013, while a national search is conducted to select a permanent director. Prior to holding the top HIV division post, Fenton worked as chief of CDCs National Syphilis Elimination Effort. In April 2013 he begins his new job as Director for Health Improvement & Population Health for Public Health England. It really is bittersweet, Fenton said in a phone interview with the GA Voice about his leaving the CDC. Working with so many dedicated professionals in the CDC, local health departments, community groups and the private sector has been a humbling and powerful journey, he said. But Fenton looks forward to returning become sexually active in our schools and ensuring that we are equipping them with the right information so they can make informed choices when they do become sexually active. And when young people do begin having sex, it is important for the CDC and other agencies and organizations to meet them where they work, study, play and socialize in ways that are meaningful so they can continue to protect their health, Fenton said. Part of that engagement of young people will involve working with our community partners and focusing on strengthening access to HIV screenings, he said. Hard-hitting campaigns such as the CDCs Testing Makes Us Stronger, an effort that specically targets young black gay men about knowing their HIV status, are also invaluable to ensuring a healthy gay male population, Fenton said. As a gay man and gay leader, Im always been committed to ensuring we can do the best we can for the communities that are hardest hit, he said. Over the last seven years the CDC has ramped up HIV testing, creating culturally competent resources and utilizing social marketing campaigns such as Testing Makes Us Stronger to reach populations most at risk. The Testing Makes Us Stronger campaign is the rst time the CDC really showed strong images of black gay men and also showed that caring about ones health is valuable. Schools yes, public schools need to put aside homophobia when teaching sex ed and make sure LGBT students are also considPlease see CDC on Page 6

A gay man and a gay leader

Kevin Fenton steps down this month after seven years as the director of the National Center for HIV/ AIDS, Viral Hepatitis, STD & TB Prevention. (Photo courtesy CDC)

home, reuniting with his partner who moved back to England two years ago, and beginning a new chapter in his professional career. Implementing the rst United States domestic national HIV strategy is at the top of Fentons list of proud accomplishments with the CDC. Still, he remains worried about the trend of gay men, especially young gay men and

young black gay men, continuing to be the population with the highest rates of HIV infections each year. Its not only HIV but also increases in STDs such as gonorrhea and syphilis, Fenton said. That really suggests to me that we need to be ensuring that we are both identifying young people who might be at risk before they

Gay, bisexual young people at highest risk for HIV infection

Factors include stigma, lack of prevention education
Every month, 1,000 young people in the U.S. become infected with HIV. Drug and alcohol use and unprotected sex are major reasons youth are becoming infected at alarming rates, according to a new CDC Vital Signs report released this month. In a Nov. 27 conference call with reporters, CDC leaders said more must be done to ensure youth ages 13-24 are tested for HIV as well as educated about the preventable disease. This is our future generation and the bottom line is every month 1,000 youth are becoming infected with HIV, said Dr. Thomas R. Frieden, director of the CDC. The cost of care is approximately $400,000 over a persons lifetime. That means every month we are accruing $400 million in health care costs, and every year that totals $5 billion. It is just unacceptable that young people are contracting a disease that is preventable, he added. In 2009, youth ages 13-24 accounted for almost 7 percent of the 1.1 million people in the country living with HIV. Some 59 percent of the youth infected do not know they are positive, according to the CDC. Overall, an estimated 12,200 new HIV infections occurred in 2010 among young people aged 13-24, with young gay and bisexual men and African-Americans hit harder by HIV than their peers. In 2010, 72 percent of estimated new HIV infections in young people occurred in young men who have sex with men. By race/ethnicity, 57 percent of estimated new infections in this age group were in African-Americans, according to the CDC. The CDC reports that of the 1,000 infections a month of young people, four out of ve are males. Young gay and bisexual men are the hardest hit, accounting for 87 percent of male infections in youth. African American gay and bisexual men are hit even harder. Young gay and bisexual men are more likely to have multiple sex partners, use drugs and alcohol before a sexual encounter, as well as not use condoms, which puts them at the highest risk, the report shows. In a 12-state study of high school students in 2010, the CDC found that gay and bisexual males reported having four or more sexual partners and 20 percent used injection drugs, Dr. Kevin Fenton, the outgoing director of the National Center for HIV/ AIDS, Viral Hepatitis, STD & Tuberculosis Prevention, said in the conference call. Those who identify as gay and bisexual also were more likely to report they had not received education in school about HIV. Stigma, homophobia and discrimination play roles in high infection rates among youth, Fenton added, and many youth also do not have access to health care. If we are going to see a generation free from AIDS, we are going to have to intensify HIV prevention for all young people especially for gay and bisexual young males, both in health care settings and in the community, like schools and other community organizations, Frieden said. Dyana Bagby

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Cathy Woolard named AID Atlantas interim executive director

Former Atlanta City Council president Cathy Woolard is now serving as interim executive director of AID Atlanta. Im very excited to work with the board and the management team of AID Atlanta during this pivotal time of transition for the agency, said Woolard in a prepared statement. She became Georgias first openly gay elected official when she won the District 6 seat on the Atlanta City Council in 1997; four years later, she was elected as the first woman and first openly gay person to serve as City Council president. She ran for Congress in 2004, losing to Cynthia McKinney. Woolard has served in numerous nonprofit leadership roles for such organizations as the Human Rights Campaign, Planned Parenthood of Georgia, CARE and the Atlanta Beltline. Woolard has also served as lobbyist for Georgia Equality, the statewide LGBT group.

Cathy Woolard (courtesy photo)

AID Atlanta continues its search for a fulltime director since Tracy Elliott resigned as executive director in June. Dyana Bagby

Kevin Fenton participated in a recent town hall meeting with community HIV/AIDS specialists to discuss specific ways to reduce infection rates among black gay men. (Photo by Dyana Bagby)

Atlanta scores 82 for municipal equality; other Ga. cities fail LGBT ratings
Atlanta scored 82 out of 100 on LGBT issues in the new Municipal Equality Index released by the Human Rights Campaign. Three other Georgia municipalities all known for being LGBT-friendly received much lower scores: Decatur received a score of 27, the North Druid Hills area of Dekalb County received 15 and Avondale Estates, home to openly gay State Rep. Karla Drenner, scored 8. The report examines almost 50 LGBTrelated criteria in 137 cities, including the 50 state capitals, 50 cities with the highest populations in the country, and the top 25 large cities, top 25 medium-sized cities, and top 25 small cities with the highest concentrations of same-sex couples identified in the 2010 U.S. Census. Scores are based on policies and procedures and are not a measure of the climate for LGBT people, since some areas can seem friendly and accepting even without actual laws on the books, HRC stressed. Decatur City Manager Peggy Merriss has said she plans to resubmit the citys survey. Laura Douglas Brown

Fenton: Dont forget HIV in fight for LGBT equality

CDC, continued from Page 4 ered and given information they need to know to stay safe, Fenton said. Abstinence may be the best way to remain HIV negative, but school administrators are better serving their communities when they realize some teenagers are sexually active and take that into account when designing curriculum. But it is also the role of gay organizations, particularly national gay organizations, to ensure HIV/AIDS prevention remains at the top of the list of priorities, he said. I think for many gay organizations, national ones, we have been necessarily focusing a lot on marriage equality and other big issues that I think are important to our community, Fenton said. Those issues remain important, but HIV/ AIDS cannot be forgotten in the fight for equality by those it impacts most, Fenton stressed. We have to take responsibility to protect our health, he said. Poverty, racism, homophobia, high rates of incarceration, stigma, discrimination all of these also can lead to increases in HIV infections. Weve accelerated our efforts to focus on not just the individual behaviors ... but the social, cultural and contextual drivers of HIV, he said. During his last year at the CDC, Fenton traveled the country to hold town hall meetings about how to combat HIV, especially among young gay men. The message from local health departments and community organizations was clear. The consistency of the messaging we heard was heart wrenching whether it was homophobia and racism, especially by black and Latino gay men, or issues related to rejection by family or church, he said. To hear stories of young gay men kicked out of their homes because they came out to their parents and then were homeless and turned to drugs or sex and seroconverted in the first year this really illustrates the depth of the work we need to do, Fenton said. Safer sex is no longer seen as something that should be practiced consistently and there is no sense of urgency in staying safe, he said. We have to focus on issues related to equity and social justice and ensuring lives of LGBT people are valued and supported by communities and families across the country, he said.

UGA domestic partners may soon be eligible for some benefits

Domestic partners of University of Georgia employees may be eligible for some benefits by the end of the year, according to the Athens Banner-Herald. UGA President Michael Adams said he wants to make available soft benefits to domestic partners, such as dental insurance, by the end of the year. According to the Athens Banner-Herald, Adams has written a letter to University System of Georgia Chancellor Hank Huckaby asking for clarification to make sure he can also extend health insurance benefits to unmarried partners. The fight for domestic partner benefits for UGA employees has been a long battle by LGBT activists and others. The University of Georgias University Council approved domestic partner benefits for employees on Sept. 27. Adams has said he hopes to have the benefits implemented by the end of the fiscal year and the day he steps down as president after serving for 17 years June 30, 2013. Dyana Bagby

Understanding all drivers of HIV

Fenton said that he is proud the CDC is also taking a leading role in understanding that behavior is not the only reason some people, including gay men, take risks with their health and become HIV positive.

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Emory student government denounces Chick-fil-A

Despite opposition, campus unlikely to remove fast food chain
By Dyana Bagby dbagby@thegavoice.com Emory Universitys Student Government Association approved a resolution denouncing Chick-fil-A as a campus vendor due to the fast food chains stands on LGBT rights. The Dec. 2 vote was 18-3-3 and signifies a statement by SGA that they support the LGBTQ community at Emory and encourage the university to reconsider its relationship with Chick-fil-A, according to the Emory WEheel, the student newspaper. Atlanta-based Chick-fil-A faced renewed criticism earlier this year after its president, Dan Cathy, made comments reaffirming the companys opposition to gay marriage. Chickfil-As nonprofit foundation, the Winshape Foundation, also funds organizations that oppose LGBT rights. It is unlikely, however, that university officials will force Chick-fil-A off campus. In the State of the University Address, University President James W. Wagner stated the University would not encourage Sodexo to remove Chick-fil-A, the Wheel reported. In October, leaders from seven student LGBT groups sent a letter to Emory administrators decrying the ongoing presence of Chickfil-A on the Decatur campus and asking Emory, named one of the most LGBT-friendly campuses in the Southeast, to end its contractual relationship with the fast food chain immediately. This company has long been a concern for LGBT students, faculty, and alumni because of its anti-gay ideology and activities. What was merely a source of anxiety on campus in recent years has now escalated into an ideologically potent symbol of discrimination and inequality, reads the letter, dated Oct. 2 and delivered Oct. 8 to Emory President James Wagner and Senior Vice President Ajay Nair. In late August, members of Emorys LGBT alumni group GALA sent letters opposing the relationship and students began posting flyers in protest. As alumni of Emory University, we would like to formally request that the Chick-fil-A company be removed from our beloved campus. Chick-fil-As ideology of hate and intolerance is not compatible with our University Mission Statement, reads an Aug. 23 letter sent by GALA leaders to Emory President James Wagner. The letter calls it ironic that latest round

Fliers like this have appeared on the Emory campus denouncing Chick-fil-A, which is included in a campus dining facility. (Photo via the Facebook group Support All Emory Students, Say No to Chick-Fil-A)

of controversy over Chick-fil-A occurred in the same year that Emorys Office of LGBT Life celebratesd its 20th anniversary, alumni backed a $250,000 endowment for the office, and Wagner himself made an It Gets Better video. If we do nothing, we are just as guilty as if we had made contributions to those hate groups directly, concludes the letter, signed by GALA Co-chairs Lilly Correa and Ryan Roche. In a separate letter, GALA also expressed concern that the universitys Goizueta Business School holds a mandatory student retreat at the WinShape Foundation campus in Rome, Ga. WinShape was created by Chick-fil-A founder Truett Cathy and is the companys main vehicle for philanthropic donations. Emory officials issued an initial response to concerns about Chick-fil-A back in August, stressing the schools commitment to diversity but also declining to sever the relationship with the fast-food chain. Emory University has a long history of creating access, inclusion, and equity for Emorys gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and queer students, faculty, staff and alumni. Recent public statements by Dan Cathy, president of Chick-fil-A, do not reflect Emorys values as an institution, read the statement from Senior Vice President and Dean of Campus Life Dr. Ajay Nair. Nevertheless, freedom of expression and an open exchange of ideas are also central tenets of the Emory community. Emory therefore respects the right of people to express their disagreement with Mr. Cathy by not patronizing Chick-fil-A, Nair said.

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Atlanta City Council votes to support marriage equality

Symbolic resolution puts council ahead of mayor on gay rights
By Dyana Bagby dbagby@thegavoice.com The Atlanta City Council voted 11-2 on Dec. 3 to pass a resolution supporting marriage equality. The vote puts the council ahead of Mayor Kasim Reed, who has stated publicly he does not support marriage rights for same-sex couples. City Councilmember Alex Wan, who is gay, presented the resolution to the full City Council. Folks in the community have been asking and encouraging me to do something. And with Atlanta being the city it is and having such a large LGBT population, I really wanted us to be one of the leaders in the discussion on marriage equality, Wan said. This was also very important to me. For the past two months, Wan said he has been answering questions from council members who wanted to know, for example, the difference between marriage equality and civil

unions and why it was important to make a statement even though the resolution has no legal impact on gay marriage in Georgia. Some didnt understand the concept of marriage equality and civil unions. Some wanted to know why the city should take a position on this when it has no impact, Wan said. I explained to them the symbolic statement it makes and that it was more than just having the rights. Wan was very pleased with the 11-2 vote. The two no votes were from Howard Shook and C.T. Martin. Wan spoke with Reed about his resolution at the beginning of his process to get the councils support of same-sex marriage. We had a good conversation about it. It wasnt about him. This was a position I wanted my City Council to take, Wan said. I respect his process. Sonji Jacobs, spokesperson for Reed, issued a short statement when asked if the mayor had a reaction to the councils vote: Mayor Reed respects the decision of the Atlanta City Council in passing a resolution supporting marriage equality. Reed met with LGBT advocates in June to discuss his stance, but despite the pressure, was still was not willing to change his position even after President Barack Obama came out in support of gay marriage. Reed said earlier this year he was still struggling with the issue of supporting full marriage equality. I respect President Obamas decision to stand in support of marriage equality. I have fought hard for the rights of gays and lesbians my entire political career from protecting adoption rights for gay and lesbian families, to voting against Georgias constitutional ban on same-sex marriage as a state senator, to serving as the state house sponsor for the only hate crimes bill ever passed in the state of Georgia, Reed said in a statement at the time. While I am still wrestling with my own personal beliefs on the issue of marriage, I deeply appreciate the contributions gays and lesbians make to our city every single day and I remain committed to Atlantas vibrant and diverse LGBT community, he said. While the Atlanta City Councils resolution has no legal impact and it remains illegal to get married in Georgia, other councils as well as mayors are stepping up to make symbolic statements of their support for marriage equality. In September, the Austin, Texas, City Council passed a resolution in support of same-sex marriage. Last year in North Carolina, the Durham City Council also passed a resolution in support of gay marriage. The Freedom to Marry organization also began a Mayors for Freedom of Marriage campaign this year. Some 289 mayors from 33 states have signed onto the pledge.

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Real Man Adventures by T Cooper is not a memoir. Really. Its not a memoir! I swear! Cooper states in an email interview. His book Real Man Adventures (McSweeneys, $23) includes stories about his life, but is so much more. Besides, Cooper stresses, hes only 40 and that hardly qualifies him to write a memoir. Theres a part of the book where I say that the book is a meditation on masculinity with some autobiographical elements and thats completely true. I mean, its a collage: theres a bunch of interviews in there, conversations, straight journalism, artwork, a couple poems, letters and some essays, he says. Cooper, the author of Lipshitz Six, or Two Angry Blondes, The Beaufort Diaries and Some of the Parts, returns to Atlanta for a Dec. 15 event also starring playwright and actor Scott Turner Schofield and hometown favorite singer/songwriter (and one-half of Indigo Girls) Amy Ray. Dubbed Tall Tales and Real Man Adventures, the evening is a fundraiser for Charis Books & More and will include interviews, performance and singing. As a trans man, Cooper is well aware of gender and has been unafraid to broach the topic in fiction. But he said now is the time to delve into it head-on through non-fiction. I think we as a culture are pretty much beyond the tranny-tell-all books where you start at Point A with the unhappy childhood being trapped in the wrong body, on through the torture of high school, and finally end at Point B with explicit description about surgeries, hormones, social transition, etc., Cooper says. I dont think every book about a trans persons life needs to cover that material anymore.

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Tall Tales and Real Man Adventures Saturday, Dec. 15, 7 p.m. Star Bar 437 Moreland Ave., Atlanta, GA 30307 Cost: Buy a copy of Real Man Adventures at Charis and a ticket is $5; or, tickets are $10 in advance and $12 at the door www.t-cooper.com www.charisbooksandmore.com www.amy-ray.com www.undergroundtransit.com together in Atlanta over the years. The first time we performed together we all noticed a tangible commonality all our work somehow deals with gender and sexuality. And we are all working through own experiences. But we could feel a common thread, Schofield says. While the three share a common thread, they are also very different by working in different mediums, he adds. Currently living in France and performing his one-man play, Becoming a Man in 127 Easy Steps yes, in French Schofield longs to call Atlanta home. Ive been in Atlanta since 1998, but I keep leaving, moving to L.A., Alaska, France. Then I keep coming back. [Atlanta] is like a

Amy Ray, T Cooper and Scott Turner Schofield reunite Dec. 15 for Tall Tales and Real Man Adventures. ( Ray courtesy Daemon Records, Cooper by Ryan Pfluger, Schofield by Abby Gaskins)

dramatic ex-girlfriend. But I truly love Atlanta, Schofield says. His dream job is to be a talk show host who interviews artists of all kinds. The Dec. 15 show will be structured like a talk show with Schofield interviewing Cooper and Ray, with Ray closing out with a musical set. Attendees are invited to submit questions to the Charis Facebook event page (http:// on.fb.me/TG8dEA) for Tall Tales and Real Man Adventures as well, Schofield says.

I am half and half and whatever you call me is fine, she says. I work every day to be comfortable in my body and in rare transcendent moments, I am, but its the job of my lifetime to appreciate my physicality and always project what is inside me so I can celebrate this life Ive been given.

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Schofield, an Emory graduate who jumpstarted his career at Charis Books more than a decade ago, is excited to collaborate with Ray and Cooper this performance marks the third time theyve worked

One question for Cooper does he think about gender all the time? The answer is no. Except when he does. I mean, I have the luxury of not having to think about it, he says. And I like it that way. That said, I deal a lot in the book with this exact question that is, the times when I have to think about it, when there are safety issues, medical issues, privacy issues, or the rare times when people are being unknowingly (or more rarely, knowingly) insensitive, etc, just a whole slew of times when I am reminded of things that might be different about my way of going through the world. For Ray, gender is not so easy to define in a binary world.

All three praise Charis and feminist bookstores with Schofield and Ray acknowledging the Atlanta landmarks role in lifting up their careers. Charis and stores like it are a touchstone for me. I try to visit feminist bookstores when I travel because they have such a great community vibe and always point me in the right direction, Ray says. For Schofield, his career literally began at Charis with the performance of Underground Transit at the bookstore more than a decade ago. Charis has literally been there from the beginning for me. And now Outwrite is closed. Were watching these important places close and we dont want to see it happen to Charis, he says. We just have so much respect for Charis. If for nothing else go to this show to support Charis.

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Edited by Keith Boykin (Magnus, 2012) Coming out, coming of age and coming home are the themes of this anthology that includes pieces by G. Winston James, Timm T. West, James Earl Hardy and others.

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Based on true story, Any Day Now explores gay adoption

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Any Day Now Opens Dec. 21 Landmark Midtown Art Cinema 931 Monroe Drive, Atlanta, GA 30308 www.anydaynowmovie.com There was also something in the situation that moved me as a parent, he says. I wasnt exactly quite sure why it spoke to me, but it did in a deep profound way. The lm is set in 1979 West Hollywood, but could just as easily have taken place in 1989 or 1999. Fine said he chose to keep the earlier time period because the original screenplay was based on a true story, and to explore the gritty, character-driven style of 1970s cinema. From a political point of view, the story would be different, certainly in Los Angeles in 2009 or 2012, Fine says. But as we all know, there are still certain places, even within this country, where the story wouldnt be that much different. There would be some of the same
Any Day Now stars Alan Cumming (right) as Rudy, a gay man who wants to adopt Marco, a boy with Down Syndrome, played by Isaac Levya (center). Garret Dillahunt (left) is Rudys closeted partner, Paul. (Publicity photo via Facebook)

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This year ends on an especially high note for LGBT lm with Any Day Now (Music Box Films), starring out actor Alan Cumming as Rudy, a gay West Hollywood man who must deal with a prejudicial and antiquated court system as he attempts to adopt a boy with Down syndrome in 1979. Cumming gives the performance of his career and even has the opportunity to sing a couple of numbers in the movie. Any Day Now is written and directed by straight lmmaker Travis Fine, an Atlanta native, based on an original screenplay by George Arthur Bloom. There was something that drew me to this notion of this outsider trying to raise this child, trying to save this child the Rudy character and the young boy being outsiders, Fine says, noting that he added the character of Paul, Rudys closeted partner, who was not in the original script.

challenges and hurdles and obstacles. Fine says he was thrilled to have openly gay actor Alan Cuming in the lead role. As a straight lmmaker who had the honor of telling an important, profound and moving story about a chapter in the late 70s of the LGBT movement, it was incredibly important to have Alan take on that role, Fine says. Not only is Alan a sensational actor, an incredible talent and a wonderful human being, but hes an OBE, an Order of the British

Empire, knighted by the Queen for his work on LGBT rights and equality, he says. He is not just giving lip service to equality. He has fought that ght and been a vocal champion and proponent of equality and LGB T rights. Rudy begins carrying for Marco, a teen with Down Syndrome, after he visits a neighboring apartment to complain about noise and nds the young man abandoned by his mother. Isaac Levyas performance as Marco is brilliant, Fine says, noting that he edited the character to t the actor. We put out a nationwide search for the kid, both through traditional agents and managers and casting directors around the country and also through the Down Syndrome Associations all around the country, Fine says. We saw people as young as 12 and 13 and some that were as old as their mid-20s. Isaac, from his very rst reading which I saw on my computer, his rst audition tape, there was something so charming, so sweet and honest about his performance, he says. It didnt feel like acting. Any Day Now has won several awards at lm festivals, has crossover appeal and the potential to be remembered fondly at Oscar time. As the lm heads to wider release this month, I hope the audiences nd it, Fine says. While it can be challenging to sit through at times, and it certainly covers some heavy political and emotional and personal issues, it is ultimately a crowd pleaser.

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Atlanta Freedom Bands perform Holiday Fantasy

Annual concert includes sing-along, Santa surprise
The Atlanta Freedom Bands will kick off their 20th performance season Dec. 15 with their annual holiday concert, this year titled Holiday Fantasy, to be held at North Decatur Presbyterian Church. Tickets to the event are $10 for general admission and $5 for students and senior citizens. Musicians from both the Atlanta Freedom Bands Concert Band and the MetroGnomes Stage Band will perform. The concert will feature festive classics and a few surprises, according to Atlanta Freedom Bands President Cliff Norris. Music from A Nightmare Before Christmas, The Nutcracker and even a meeting between Saint Nick and super-spy James Bond are in the works. The holiday season always brings festive music and carols, Norris says. This year, we wanted to explore some of the more fantastical elements that make the holidays such a magical time. We also have a swing-along sing-along so the audience can join in the fun, he adds. WSB Radios Chris Chandler hosts the event. With a new conductor, a new host and 10 new band members on the stage, we should be set for quite an evening, Norris says.

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Atlanta Freedom Bands Holiday Fantasy Dec. 15, 8 p.m. North Decatur Presbyterian Church 611 Medlock Road, Decatur, GA 30033 Tickets: $10 general admission, $5 students and senior citizens www.atlantafreedombands.com Fallin recently completed her Ph.D. in Music Education from the University of Georgia after spending more than 20 years in the United States Army Bands and several years as a music teacher in public schools in Augusta. And as a transgender woman, Fallin is one of the few trans conductors in the country, Norris notes.

Atlanta Freedom Bands Dec. 15 concert features the debut of new Music Director Kathleen Fallin. (Courtesy photos) We feel very privileged to have her as our conductor and look forward to many great concerts and programs in the coming years, he says. Also on tap in the bands 20th season is the 2013 Lesbian & Gay Band Association conference, which will be held in Atlanta during the 2013 Atlanta Pride festival. Already, musicians from 22 different LGBT bands are registered for the event, Norris says. We expect to welcome over 200 performers for a huge concert event and the largest-ever marching unit in the Atlanta Pride Parade.

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The concert will also feature the debut of the groups new music director, Dr. Kathleen Fallin.

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Festival of Lights celebrates diversity

The annual Festival of Lights Hanukkah celebration, held at the LGBT-inclusive Congregation Bet Haverim on Dec. 14, promises activities to appeal to all ages under the overall theme of diversity. Hanukkah is an event that can often seem to appeal more to children than adults, according to CBH Executive Director Amy Robertson. She and the staff are looking to change that. In our early years, we didnt have a lot of children here, but over time we have had more and more families, says Robertson. We want to make the evening one where everyone can have a great time. The night begins with a traditional latke dinner at 6 p.m. Its on a Friday and we didnt feel people could come home and cook, so we are providing the latkes here, she says. Side dishes are suggested, however, for the potluck event. A community menorah lighting follows, then

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Festival of Lights Dec. 14, 6 p.m. Congregation Bet Haverim 2676 Clairmont Road NE, Atlanta, GA 30329 www.congregationbethaverim.org/hanukkah/ the children and adults separate for different programming. The adult service will be led by CBH Rabbi Joshua Lesser. Closing the night will be a serving of donuts and a game of Texas Hold em Dreidel. The dreidel a spinning top with Hebrew letters on all sides is normally used as a childrens game, but Robertson promises a version for everyone, not just the kids. This years Festival of Lights theme is diversity. Diversity is the origin of Hanukkah, she says. There has been a lot of religious intolerance both within and outside the Jewish comRabbi Joshua Lesser will lead Hanukkah services at LGBT-founded Congregation Bet Haverim. (File photo) munity. We are trying to focus on the celebration of diversity. Bet Haverim was founded by gays and lesbians as a place where Jews can be themselves and bring their entire family. Robertson is a longtime member of the Bet Haverim and has been on staff now for five years. The congregation is roughly half LGBT members and half LGBT allies, she says. Robertson expects approximately 200 at the holiday event.

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2012 Toy Party

Toy Party, the annual benet by For the Kid in All of Us, drew hundreds to AmericasMart 3 on Dec. 2 for what has become LGBT Atlantas premier holiday event. Hundreds of donated toys will be given to children in need. (Photos by Brent Corcoran / RNZ Photography)

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10 common cooking mistakes

by Patric Bell
4. Mise en Place.
I often tell people, If you can read, you can cook. This is assuming they actually want to cook and believe me, some people just dont care to bother. Others want to and cant seem to get it right. A brief question-and-answer period reveals theyve made a few very common mistakes made by all beginning cooks.
This is just a fancy way of saying, Have your shit together. Making French onion soup? Better have those onions sliced before you melt your butter. Mississippi mud pie? Have that cornstarch measured well in advance of starting your custard.

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1. Start small.

No one starts at the top. Walk before you run try a simple roasted chicken before you try to tackle a Turducken.

2. Read the recipe first.

You watch cooking shows and see Emeril doing it, and Bobby Flay, so, yeah, that looks like a cup of wine! But you arent either of those guys and that was really a cup and a half of wine and now what should have been your sauce is only slightly thicker than water and youre feeling some kind of way about all this cooking nonsense.

8. Room temperature MEANS room temperature.

10. Leave the tricks to the pros.

You are not a chef. I dont say that to hurt your feelings, I say it so you dont attempt to saut that pan of onions the way you see the professionals on TV do it and end up with sauted onion abstract art on the ceiling of your kitchen, or flip that pancake into the air and end up with it (and a third degree burn) on your arm. Use a spatula. Youre safe in your own kitchen and no one is going to make fun of you.

Read the recipe from start to finish, ideally before you start cooking. There is no worse feeling than getting halfway through a mouthwatering recipe and realizing youve bitten off more than you can chew.

6. Know the power of measuring spoons.

Dont believe me? Just try to whip up a buttercream with butter straight from the fridge. Oh, and have your safety goggles handy.

3. Have all the proper equipment.

Those spoons you stir your coffee and eat your cereal with? Theyre called a teaspoon and a tablespoon, but theyre not scientifically calibrated units of measurement, so buy a set of measuring spoons and ignore all references to a pinch of anything.

9. Dont fry or saut everything on high.

That Grilled Flank Steak Salad with Chimichurri sounds amazing. But do you have a grill? A food processor or blender? Making a good chimichurri sucks balls without one!

7. Baking powder and baking soda are NOT interchangeable.

Do a Google search on the difference between these two leavening agents and vow to never substitute one for the other again.

This is hands down the most common mistake made by the home cook. Even if the recipe youre following (and you are following the recipe, remember) tells you to fry or saut something on high, dont. Opt for somewhere between medium and medium-high and dont walk away. It might take longer, but youll be able to eat it when youre done and you wont have to buy a new saut pan.

Now get to cooking, and good luck!

Patric Bell is a chef in Atlanta where he lives with his husband and their two dogs. He offers in-home cooking classes for the beginner cook through his website, www.chefpatric.com

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Cozy meals to warm you this winter
The unseasonably warm weather may not be cooperating for roaring res and snuggly sweaters, but winter is still the season that makes us crave comfort food simple, hearty meals that both soothe and satisfy. Dont feel like cooking at home? Here are 10 of our favorite comfort food meals from LGBTfriendly local eateries. Some are praised by the foodies, some are mainstays of the gayborhood, but all will leave you ready to cuddle up.
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you have to get there early before they run out. Its well worth it. If you have room, nish your meal with the Hot Milk Cake, complete with caramel icing and sea salt. 1820 Peachtree Road, Atlanta, GA 30309, www.watershedrestaurant.com

Jerk chicken and broccoli casserole at Eats

For an inexpensive, satisfying meal, go for the meat-and-veggie plate at Eats. Its all good, but the broccoli casserole wins extra comfort food points; order it with jerk chicken and your choice of other veggies ranging from black-eyed peas to a baked sweet potato. 600 Ponce De Leon Ave., Atlanta, GA 30308, www.eatsonponce.net

Black trufe mac at Parkers on Ponce

This Decatur favorite is known for excellent steaks that rival those with much higher prices; if youre in the mood for cozy food, pair your favorite with the black trufe macaroni and cheese. 116 East Ponce De Leon Ave., Decatur, GA 30030, www.parkersonponce.com

Hearty meals that soothe and satisfy: Try the traditional posole soup at Agave, lled with pulled pork and hominy, and dont miss the famous, Wednesdaynight-only fried chicken at Watershed. (Publicity photos via Facebook)

Fried chicken or pot roast at the Colonnade

Forget food like your mother used to make; the Colonnade serves up the food your grandmother used to make. Almost everything on the menu at this gay and gray staple qualies as comfort food, but the famous fried chicken tops the list. Pot roast is another homestyle favorite. 1879 Cheshire Bridge Road, Atlanta, GA 30324, www.colonnadeatl.com

big bowl of kickin chili, made with Angus ground beef and served with cheese and green onions. 1049 Juniper St., Atlanta, GA 30309, www.metrocafes.com/joes-juniper

Vegetarian biscuits and gravy at Radial

Good food that you can feel good eating: whats not to love at gay-owned, greencertied Radial Cafe? Biscuits smothered in delicious rosemary-fennel vegetarian gravy come paired with eggs and your choice of bacon or sausage (including vegetarian sausage, of course). 1530 DeKalb Ave., Atlanta, GA 30307, www.radial.us

Pancakes at Rias Bluebird

Lesbian Chef Ria Pell told the judges on Chopped that she wanted to be known for more than just pancakes. Thats ne by us, as long as she is still known for these scrumptious pancakes, too. Served all day with hot maple syrup; you can add toasted pecans, caramelized bananas or chocolate chips. 421 Memorial Dr., Atlanta, GA 30312, www.riasbluebird.com

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Traditional posole soup at Agave

From cayenne fried chicken to veal and chorizo meatloaf, youll nd plenty of Southwestern-style comfort at Agave. No matter what your entree choice, get your meal off to a warm start with the traditional posole soup, a New Mexico holiday soup featuring pulled pork and hominy, plus red and green chiles. 242 Boulevard SE, Atlanta, GA 30312, www.agaverestaurant.com

Lasagna at Campagnolo
Pretty much all pasta qualies as comfort food, and while all of the rustic Italian dishes at lesbian-owned Campagnolo are delicious, you cant beat the free form, made to order lasagna. 980 Piedmont Ave., Atlanta, GA 30309. www.peasantatl.com

Turkey meatloaf and pudge at Flying Biscuit

Of course, you cant visit without having one of the eponymous biscuits, but if it is comfort food you crave, order the turkey meatloaf and pudge the cuddly name for a family recipe of mashed potatoes with garlic and basil. You can worry about your own pudge next month with your New Years resolutions. Multiple locations: We prefer the Candler Park original (1655 McLendon Ave., Atlanta, GA 30307) and Midtown (1001 Piedmont Ave., Atlanta, GA 30309), www.yingbiscuit.com

Fried chicken at Watershed on Peachtree

Watershed, owned by Indigo Girls Emily Saliers, serves the best fried chicken in Atlanta, but only on Wednesday nights, and

We might not recommend it for date night (Beans, beans, the musical fruit), but if youre out with friends, warm up with a

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CHEERS TO THE HOLIDAYS

Great spirits to give and receive year round
December is the time to eat, drink and be merry, but sometimes its a challenge to look beyond your favorites for your special toast. We asked the experts at Tower Beer, Wine & Spirits to recommend the best, with price tags from under $10 to almost $5,000 per bottle. Check out these suggestions for casual drinkers and connoisseurs.

Three spirits to add to your hot chocolate:

Frangelico Tequila Rum or a Rum-based avored liqueur such as Kahlua

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Drink up, big spenders! This Hennessy Richard Cognac goes for almost $3,000 a bottle (Publicity photo) Cold Mountain Winter Ale Highland Brewing Co. White Christmas, Samuel Adams The Boston Beer Company Frosted Frog Christmas Ale (Winter Warmer), Hoppin Frog Brewery

Wine with turkey:

Whats popular: Belle Glos Pinot Noir Clark & Telephone What we suggest: ric Texier Cte-Rtie Vieilles Vignes

Cheap but good red wine (under $10):

Ban Col di Sasso Cabernet Sauvignon Sangiovese

Cheap but good white wine (under $10):

Alois Lageder Pinot Grigio Riff Terra Alpina

Alcohol gift if money is no object:

Colgin Cariad 2005 Napa Valley Proprietary Red ($529.99) Don Julio Real Tequila ($359.99)

Wine with ham:

Whats popular: Orin Swifts The Prisoner Napa Valley Red What we suggest: 2008 Zeltinger Sonnenuhr Riesling Sptlese one star

Host/hostess gift:
Champagne / Sparkling wine; Add a bottle of Chambord or St. Germain Elderower liqueur for cocktails!

Great alcohol gift under $15:

Eggnog for the holidays; The Irishman, Irish cream; Ivanabitch Vodka and avors.

Alcohol gift if money REALLY is no object:

Hennessy Richard Cognac ($2,999.99) 1997 Screaming Eagle Cabernet Sauvignon ($4,649.97)

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#14: MEMORIES AND THE SECRET TO ETERNAL YOUTH

colossal show bar in the 70s and early 80s. Soon afterward not long before she left the city he took her to a big party his parents hosted. His mother called the next day. Its your business if you want to date a black girl, she told him. But I dont think its appropriate to bring her to a party. GA VOICE Robert got out of bed and She completely missed that walked to the bathroom. About Lisa was a man, he told Joey, a year ago, when he turned who laughed explosively. 49, he started doing his usual Robert long ago lost conmorning grooming virtually tact with Lisa. Joey told him ISSUE without looking in the mirror. she died of MS in a Macon asIt made shaving difcult at sisted-living facility. rst and he considered growing a Robert left the club early, feeling beard. But it became easy a unique skill wor- depressed. He was in no mood for companionthy of performance in a geriatric gay freak ship and decided to get something to eat. Lisas show, as he told friends. death made him sad sad for Lisa, sad for the But Robert knew that the evidence of ag- fact of his own mortality. Unlike most people ing was not just his own mirror reection. It he knew, he loved to eat alone with a book. was also reected in the faces of others. A few Atlanta is a late-night party town, but it has days after Thanksgiving, he went to the Back- never had a restaurant scene that accommostreet reunion party at Jungle where he ran into dated it. Two of the few restaurants that stay a few men with whom he partied when he was open even as late as midnight on weekends are barely 20. There was a moment of hesitation Fritti, a pizzeria, and Sotto Sotto, its neighbor before they recognized one another for certain, with a menu of more serious dishes. The followed by laughter. two were among Roberts favorite restaurants. I thought you were dead, Robert blurted He decided to hit the less expensive Fritti to one, Joey. for one of the individual-sized pizzas. The carbs Im not dead, Joey said, laughing. But I would lift his spirits, he told himself. He took a understand. I always assume everyone I knew seat on the banquette and looked around, comback in the 80s died of AIDS. By the way, did paring the sedate scene to the raucous perforyou hear that Lisa King died in September? mance of Charlie Browns Cabaret he had just Robert felt his heart sink. Lisa was a well- seen at Jungle. His eyes returned to the menu. known drag performer in the city. He met Well, hey there, mind if I join you? her at the Dunk n Dine on Cheshire Bridge someone said, startling Robert. across from the Sweet Gum Head, the citys He looked up to see it was Lee, with whom

Robert remembers a drag legend and sees his magical stalker again

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Fritti 313 N. Highland Ave., Atlanta, GA 30307 404-523-6678, www.sottosottorestaurant.com Good choices: Despite the wave of new pizzerias, this remains the best in the city, according to many. Order the shrooms app. Any pizza is a good choice, but the margherita, the test of any good pizzeria, is denitely the citys best. Meat eaters should try the speck with arugula.

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Food Porn is a ctional series by longtime Atlanta food critic Cliff Bostock. Set in real Atlanta restaurants, it chronicles the adventures of Robert, a gay man in search of a husband or at least a good meal. For past chapters, visit www.thegavoice.com he had dined at Bantam & Biddy the night before. Robert had been smitten by Lee and decided to ignore his usual rule to run the moment he felt powerfully attracted to someone. Of course not, Robert replied, feeling somewhat conicted because of his sadness. Do you mind that Im stalking you? Lee asked. Robert laughed. No, Im attered, he said. Come here often? Nope, never been here. Just decided to check it out, Lee replied. He looked a bit tousled, wearing a baggy red t-shirt with the fading word magical printed on it. Whats good here? Robert told him they needed to share the funghi fritti, fried crimini and portobello mushrooms, whatever else they separately ordered. Lee commented that Robert seemed somewhat uncomfortable. Robert apologized and

told him the story about Lisa King. Im sorry, Lee said. I always avoid reunions. The older I get, the more they become about illness, death, decrepit tricks, and hair loss. You cant be that old, Robert said, smiling. I turn 50 in 18 months, he said. Well youre indeed magical then, because you dont look 40. Im turning the same age in less than a year, Robert replied. Maybe I should stalk you for the secret of eternal youth. Love, Lee replied. Its all about love. And all this time I thought it was about making a facial mask out of my favorite foods, Robert said, digging into the mushrooms that just arrived, smelling faintly of white trufe oil. I will show you the way, Lee replied, licking one of the mushrooms and passing it through the air before he popped it in his mouth. To read about Lisa King: http://mysp.ac/11yd0Of

GAY BUSINESS GROUP GETS OUT IN THE KITCHEN

Holiday event features local chefs
The Atlanta Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerces annual holiday party gets a tasty makeover for 2012. The food-themed Out in the Kitchen is planned for the evening of Thursday, Dec. 13. The chambers holiday event is always one of the groups biggest gatherings of the year, but the 2012 version is a radical departure, and a new concept, says board member Andria Towne, who is organizing the party. It has a cocktail/networking vibe, but we have added several LGBT or LGBT ally chefs, she says. Everyone loves food and there is a chef craze now. That is popular in culture now and we feel this is an unexplored niche. The event came together as Towne talked to Eric Waldron of the Renaissance Atlanta Mid-

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Out in the Kitchen: An AGLCC Holiday Affair Dec. 13, 6-9 p.m. Renaissance Atlanta Midtown 866 W. Peachtree St. Atlanta, GA 30308 www.atlantagaychamber.org town earlier this year. The buzz-worthy Briza restaurant is located inside the hotel. We realized it would be a perfect t, Towne says. Janine Falvo, the executive chef at Briza, is a hot little star. She was on Top Chef and shes won some big cook-offs. She is also an out lesbian.

After securing the location and Falvos participation, Towne reached out to a few other local chefs. We are not trying to get every chef in town we want to build this for years to come, she says. The other chefs involved are Frank Bragg, chef and owner of Radial Caf, Patric Bell of Cruzado and Shean Suter of the Atlanta W Midtowns Spice Market. Bragg and Bell are also gay. Towne says all four chefs will demonstrate cooking at the event and offer bites/samples. What the chefs decide to prepare is still a secret. Towne feels the event should resonate within the community. In a busy season, we feel people should like this, she says. We want to be able to promote members to businesses as well. Tickets are $20 for AGLCC members and $25 for non-members. Jim Farmer

Janine Falvo, executive chef at Briza and a Top Chef contestant, is among the chefs o ering tastings at the Dec. 13 party hosted by Atlanta Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce. (Publicity photo via Briza)

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SPOTLIGHT
The seventh annual Art Vision raises funds for Positive Impact, which provides mental health and other services for those affected by HIV, and offers the chance to purchase beautiful art for a good cause. This years theme is Uncharted: Travel to Enchanted Lands. 7-10 p.m. at Stone Four Studios at Studio Plex, 659 Auburn Ave. NE #131, Atlanta, GA 30312, www.artvisionatl.org Join Mint Salon for the Naughty and Nice Holiday Gala, a night of fashion, food and beverages complete with silent auction, DJ and door prizes. A portion of proceeds benets CHRIS Kids. 7-10 p.m. at Mint Salon, 985 Monroe Drive, Atlanta, GA 30308, www.chriskids.org City of the South Theatre Company presents Birds of a Feather, aka The Birdcage, complete with a three-course meal for the Holiday Dinner Theatre at Jungle. Tonight and Saturday at Jungle, 2115 Faulkner Road, Atlanta, GA 30324, www.jungleclubatlanta.com Traxx Girls presents Banjee Girl Fridays at My Sisters Room, 1271 Glenwood Ave., Atlanta, GA 30316, www.mysistersroom.com

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Hometown duo Indigo Girls perform with the Georgia Symphony Orchestra. 8 p.m. at Cobb Energy Center at Cobb Energy Centre, 2800 Cobb Galleria Parkway, Atlanta, GA 30339, www.cobbenergycentre.com

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The Atlanta Gay Mens Chorus performs its 32nd annual holiday concert, And on Earth, Peace, with special guest soprano Megan Mashburn. 8 p.m. Dec. 7, 2 p.m. (followed by free ice cream social) and 8 p.m. Dec. 8 at The Cathedral of St. Philip, 2744 Peachtree Road, Atlanta, GA 30305, www.agmchorus.org

Lesbian-owned feminist bookstore Charis hosts its annual Holiday Open House and sale from 11 a.m. to 7 p.m., followed at 7:30 p.m. by a discussion of the rst scholarly book on the work of author Pearl Cleage, who will attend. Charis Books & More, 1189 Euclid Ave NE, Atlanta, GA, 30307, www.charisbooksandmore.com Watch or join in the Atlanta Speedo Run as 300 scantily clad runners take to the streets of Atlanta to try to raise $150,000 for CURE Childhood Cancer. Runners need to raise $250 to participate. Run begins at 2 p.m. and takes a 1.5 mile course on West Peachtree and Peachtree streets. www.atlantaspeedorun.org Lost-n-Found Youth hosts a Volunteer Orientation & Training for those who want to help homeless LGBT young people. Background check required; please bring form and $10 to cover costs to class. 2-6 p.m. at the Rush Center, 1530 Dekalb Ave. Suite A, Atlanta, GA 30307, www.lost-n-found.org All male strip club Swinging Richards presents A Home for the Holidays: A Benet for Lost-n-Found Youth. Accepting donations all night and look for prize giveaways from the club and Boy Next Door Menswear. 6:30 p.m. 3 a.m. at Swinging Richards, 400 Northside Drive, Atlanta, GA 30323, www.swingingrichards.com

Saturday, Dec. 8

DJ Something Else spins for Dance Party at 8 p.m. followed by Mary-oke with host CJ at 11 p.m. at Marys, 1287 Glenwood Ave., Atlanta, GA 30316, www.marysatlanta.com

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Expect absurdity as the camp drag Armorettes offer their take on the classic holiday tale A Christmas Story to benet the Health Initiative. 8 p.m. at Heretic, 2069 Cheshire Bridge Road, Atlanta, GA 30324, www.hereticatlanta.com Singer-songwriter Shawn Colvin performs at 8 p.m. at Agnes Scott Colleges Presser Hall, 141 East College Ave., Decatur, GA 30030, www.eddieowenpresents.com Enjoy the Its that Time of the Month comedy show at 8:30 p.m., followed by Unwrapped, the annual Toy Drive party for Toys for Tots, at My Sisters Room, 1271 Glenwood Ave., Atlanta, GA 30316, www.mysistersroom.com

Daring Divas is the Saturday night show at Blakes feauring Charlie Brown, Shawnna Brooks, Angelica DPaige, Savannah Leigh, Michelle Paris and The Lady Shabazz. Blakes on the Park, 227 10th St., Atlanta, GA 30309, www.blakesontheparkatlanta.com Shavonna B. Brooks hosts the Extravaganza show with special guest Alexandria Martin at 11:30 p.m. at Burkharts, 1492 Piedmont Ave., Atlanta, GA 30309, www.burkharts.com

Saturday, Dec. 8
Gay Christian artists Jason & DeMarco perform as First Metropolitan Community Church hosts its annual Christmas Concert and Silent Auction. 7 p.m. at First MCC, 1379 Tullie Road, Atlanta, GA 30329, www.rstmcc.com

Sunday, Dec. 9

The Atlanta Talons Social Club hosts a Champagne Bust and Holiday Party; bring an appetizer or dessert to share, a toy drive donation, and there is a contest for the person wearing the best tree skirt. 4-6 p.m. at The Hideaway, 1544 Piedmont Ave., Atlanta, GA 30324, http://on.fb.me/VinBqe

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The Heretic hosts a weekend of events to celebrate the bars 21st anniversary. DJ Lydia Prim spins Friday at 10 p.m., DJ Mickey Friedman from Berlin spins 10 p.m. on Saturday. Monday is the invite-only Customer Appreciation Party from 8-10 p.m., so ask a staff member for an invitation before the event. Heretic, 2069 Cheshire Bridge Road, Atlanta, GA 30324, www.hereticatlanta.com

Iconic gay lmmaker John Waters performs his one-man show A John Waters Christmas, poking fun of the holiday cheer putting the X in Xmas.VIP meet-and-greet available. 8 p.m. at the Variety Playhouse, 1099 Euclid Ave NE, Atlanta, GA 30307, http://bit.ly/PX74KV

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The Joining Hearts Wish List party gathers gifts to support the families of Jerusalem house and the teen program at AID Atlanta. Bring a gift from the Wish List registry at Target valued at $25 or more, or a gift card or cash donation of that amount. 6-9 p.m. at 3417 W Paces Ferry Court, Atlanta, GA 30327, www.joininghearts.org She Speaks, Inc. presents The Brown Sugar Vibes Diamonds in the Sky Edition featuring UniverSoul Circus comedian Reggie Jackson. 7 p.m. at Kats Cafe, 970 Piedmont Ave., Atlanta, GA 30309, www.lakarafoster.com Join DJ Vicki Powell for the Holiday Mixer edition of her Second Sunday Service. 7-11:30 p.m. at Church, 466 Edgewood Ave., Atlanta, GA 30312, http://on.fb.me/YLoaz9
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Writing With Intent is open to writers of ction and creative non-ction; group offers motivational exercises, constructive criticism and more to keep you on track. 6:30-8:30 p.m. at Charis Books & More, 1189 Euclid Ave. NE, Atlanta, GA 30307, www.charisbooksandmore.com Marys annual holiday ofce party gets underway at 8 p.m. at Marys, 1287 Glenwood Ave., Atlanta, GA 30316, www.marysatlanta.com

Thursday, Dec. 13

Tuesday, Dec. 11

Tuesdays, Thursdays and early Saturdays, get your country on with 3-Legged Cowboy nights at the Heretic, 2069 Cheshire Bridge Road, Atlanta, GA 30324, www.hereticatlanta.com

Wednesday, Dec. 12

Join judges Barry Brandon, JL Rodriguez, Michael Robinson and special guest judge Catherine Giel for the live auditions for Sing for Your Life, a new vocal competition that debuts Jan. 10 and continues for 12 weeks. Some 25 singers from video submissions will be narrowed to 12 contestants at the live auditions. 8 p.m. at Jungle, 2115 Faulkner Road, Atlanta, GA 30324, www.singforyourlifeATL.com

Ho Ho Hoedown is the theme for this months PALS Bingo, hosted by Bubba D. Licious, Kimora Layou and Brent Star. Doors at 6:30 p.m., program at 7:30 p.m. at Jungle, 2115 Faulkner Road, Atlanta, GA 30324, www.palsatlanta.org The Lohan Experience presents How the Lohan Stole Christmas, an ABC (Anything But Clothes) party, so make your ensemble out of holiday materials. Dylan Michaels performs; Celeste Holmes hosts. Party at 9 p.m., show at 11 p.m. at the Heretic, 2069 Cheshire Bridge Road, Atlanta, GA 30324, http://on.fb.me/UDXFIZ

Its Silent Night, Deadly Night as Goth Night returns with a special holiday edition. 9 p.m. at Marys, 1287 Glenwood Ave., Atlanta, GA 30316, www.marysatlanta.com Inspired by Beats and Traxx Atlanta present Tribal Thursdays, spinning house music (deep, underground and tribal) starting at 10 p.m. at XS Ultra Lounge, 708 Spring St., Atlanta, GA 30308, www.excessultralounge.com

Thursday, Dec. 13

Friday, Dec. 14

Sample bites from LGBT and ally chefs at Out in the Kitchen: An AGLCC Holiday Affair, a new holiday event from the Atlanta Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce. 6-9 p.m. at Renaissance Atlanta Midtown Hotel, 866 W. Peachtree St., Atlanta, GA 30308, www.atlantagaychamber.org The LGBT Caucus of the Democratic Party and the Stonewall Democrats gather for a Holiday Party at 6 p.m. at Amsterdam Atlanta, 502-A Amsterdam Ave., Atlanta, GA 30306, http://on.fb.me/WH7ZNX United4Safety, which works to end LGBT intimate partner violence, hosts a Holiday Cookie Contest. 6:30-9:30 p.m. at Philip Rush Center, 1530 Dekalb Ave., Atlanta, GA 30307, www.united4safety.org The one and many voices of Jimmy James come to Backstage at Mixx Atlanta. 8 p.m. at Mixx Atlanta, 1492-B Piedmont Ave., Atlanta, GA 30309, www.mixxatlanta.com

Congregation Bet Haverim, Atlantas LGBT-founded Reconstructionist synagogue, hosts Festival of Lights, including a latke dinner, community menorah lighting, Shabbat service, Hanukkah songs, Texas Hold Em Dreidel and more. 6 p.m. at Central Congregational UCC, 2676 Clairmont Road, Atlanta, GA 30329, www.congregationbethaverim.org Lesbian social network Fourth Tuesday hosts a December Happy Hour at 6 p.m. at Mixx, 1492-B Piedmont Ave., Atlanta, GA 30309, www.facebook.com/ FourthTuesdayAtlanta Southern Bears, for hirsute gay men and their admirers, host a potluck Christmas Party. 7 p.m. at the Rush Center, 1530 Dekalb Ave., Atlanta, GA 30307, www.southernbears.org

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OurSong, Atlantas lesbian and gay chorus, performs Twisted Holiday. 8 p.m. Dec. 14 at Emory Universitys Canon Chapel; 8:15 p.m. at Clayton State Universitys Spivey Hall. www.oursongatlanta.org

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Friday, Dec. 21

Billed as Atlantas premier fetish shopping event, Twisted Toyland also donates prots to Lost-nFound Youth and the Atlanta Community Food Bank. Noon-6 p.m. at Jungle, 2115 Faulkner Road, Atlanta, GA 30324, www.jungleclubatlanta.com Ladies at Play presents a Day Play Party with DJ E from 6-10 p.m. at Aurum, 915 Peachtree St., Atlanta, GA 30309, www.ladiesatplay.com The Atlanta Bucks Rugby Club hosts the annual Miss Ruck-N-Maul pageant, a benet for the club and LostN-Found Youth. 6:30-10:30 p.m. at Jungle, 2115 Faulkner Road, Atlanta, GA 30324, www.jungleclubatlanta.com Tall Tales and Real Man Adventures reunites Indigo Girl and solo musician Amy Ray, author T Cooper and performance artist Scott Turner Schoeld for an evening of discussions and music about gender, sexuality and more. Benets Charis Circle. Doors open 7 p.m., show at 8 p.m. at Star Community Bar, 437 Moreland Ave., Atlanta, GA 30307, www.charisbooksandmore.com Atlanta Freedom Bands perform the Holiday Fantasy concert at 8 p.m. at North Decatur Presbyterian Church, 611 Medlock Road, Decatur, GA 30030, www.atlantafreedombands.com Women of Rock features Marshall Chapman, Caroline Aiken, Donna Hopkins and Diane Durrett. 8 p.m. at Eddie Owen Presents at the Red Clay Theatre, 3116 Main St., Duluth, GA 30096, www.eddieowenpresents.com DJ Sean Mac spins an opening set for DJ Shane Stiel at Bear Invasion, 9 p.m. 3 a.m. at the Heretic, 2069 Cheshire Bridge Road, Atlanta, GA 30324, www.hereticatlanta.com Party at the Holiday Soiree at the L Lounge by lesbian party promoter and organizer Anna Ragghianti from 10 p.m. 2 a.m. The W Hotel-Midtown, 188 14th St. NE, Atlanta, GA 30361. http://on.fb.me/SJQdtA The relaunch party for GIRL (Gay Internet Radio Live) features DJ Corey David and a special performance by Phoenix. 10 p.m. At Jungle, 2115 Faulkner Road, Atlanta, GA 30324, www.jungleclubatlanta.com

Jennifer Knapp, who made headlines when she came out in the world of Christian music, and Margaret Becker bring their Hymns of Christmas to Atlanta. 8 p.m. at Eddie Owen Presents at the Red Clay Theatre, 3116 Main St., Duluth, GA 30096, www.eddieowenpresents.com

It will technically be Sunday morning as Abel spins from 3-7 a.m. at private club Xion, 2241 Faulkner Road, Atlanta, GA 30324, www.cariocaproductions.com PFLAG Atlanta hosts its Third Sunday meeting, this month featuring a panel discussion with parents of LGBT people. 2:45 p.m. at St. Mark United Methodist Church, 781 Peachtree St., Atlanta, GA 30308, www.pagatl.org

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Monday, Dec. 17

Wear your fugly nest for the inaugural Ugly Sweater Party at Blakes on the Park, 227 10th St., Atlanta, GA 30309, www.blakesontheparkatlanta.com

Tuesday, Dec. 18

Lesbian social group Fourth Tuesday gathers for dinner at 6 p.m. at Nakato, 1776 Cheshire Bridge Road, Atlanta, GA 30324, www.facebook.com/FourthTuesdayAtlanta

Wednesday, Dec. 19

Lost-n-Found Youth hosts a very special Holiday Big Gay Game Show, a fundraiser for their mission to help Atlantas LGBT homeless youth. Games include Family Feud, the Newlywed Game, Match Game and more. 7:30 - 10 p.m. at Jungle, 2115 Faulkner Road, Atlanta, GA 30324, www.lost-n-found.org

Thursday, Dec. 20

MEGA Family Project hosts its monthly Waiting for the Stork discussion group for dues-paying members. 7-8:30 p.m. at Coldwell Banker Intown, 1390 N. Highland Ave., Atlanta, GA 30306, www.megafamilyproject.org Enjoy an open no mic night as Cliterati wows you with spoken word poets, this month featuring Red Summer. 7:30 - 9 p.m. at Charis Books, 1189 Euclid Ave NE, Atlanta, GA, 30307, www.charisbooksandmore.com

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While running errands the other day, I saw two cars just involved in a fender bender parked on the side of the road. The offender was out of her car approaching the guy she just hit, ashing a irty smile as I drove by. Even though her charm may have been a tactic to manipulate him from calling the police, it made me wonder about the odd circumstances where couples meet, so I posed that question on Facebook. Among the venues of church or, oddly enough, family reunions, there were some pretty unique answers: My friends wife had a baby and gave me a list of about 40-50 numbers to text a picture of the baby to. One of the girls that responded caught my eye. An old friend of mine wanted to hook me up with her ex boyfriend, but what she neglected to tell me was that she was just using me to try and get back together with him. We are still together. I was a teacher and my husband was a single dad and our schools PTA president. I was wing man for my best friend when she was going to meet someone for the rst time at Piedmont Park. Low and behold, the person she was meeting had the same idea and brought back up as well. When we met, I saw her wing man and fell head over heals. They didnt work out but weve been together for almost three years now. I lost a bet and had to pay by going on Match.com for their free week trial and go out with those who contacted me that week. My car broke down on the road and he stopped to help me, xed my car, then asked me on a date. We lived down the street from one another for seven years and I was friends with his older brother. He was my server.

Coach and assistant coach at a high school. At his wedding. Jury duty...and she was the prosecutor. This is true in my own life also. Katie and I met for ve minutes at a radio station party. Two years later we randomly ran into each other again when I was least expecting her. But situations like this dont have to apply to romance. Life-altering circumstances can come while trying to nd a job, even for the famous. Susan Sarandon and Geena Davis got the lead roles in Thelma and Louise because Melanie Grifth, Michelle Pfeiffer and Jodie Foster turned the roles down. J.K. Rowling got red from her job as a secretary in Amnesty International, giving her time to write Harry Potter. Colonel Sanders, the founder of Kentucky Fried Chicken, was 65-years-old and got a Social Security check for only $105. Angry over the low amount, he drove around the country to sell his chicken recipe to restaurants. We spend our rst two decades in the structure of school, so its natural we would take an expectation of how things should work into the rest of our lives. For instance, we must get the perfect job that will lead to the next perfect job. We must get married by a certain age, so that we can have our 2.5 kids at the correct time. The greatest disappointments come when something does not live up to our expectation. But we forget stories that inspire us the most are the ones about life not following a perfect plan. I am a planner to a fault, but life has taught me that the moments you arent expecting are the ones that form the biggest chapters of your life. No matter the issue, life seems to be constantly trying to teach me the same lesson: Some things are just meant to be. Like a fender bender.

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When good enough isnt good enough
We live in a part of town that people tend to pass through on their way to somewhere more desirable the remnants of a once-picturesque 1950s suburb built around Avondale Mall. That mall is now a Wal-Mart that managed to grow so sketchy in its brief existence that the Wal-Mart people decided to build another one less than ve minutes away. This is a model established to great success by other businesses in our area: Bad Wal-Mart is within spitting distance of Scary Wells Fargo, Dont Go To That Kroger, and The Pizza Hut Where You Might Die. These businesses exist purely as bait, drawing in the riffraff so they wont venture over to the location a couple miles away. The bait locations are the secret shame of these companies. They all smell like a freezer that needs a new box of baking soda, and the employees approach their duties with a grim detachment otherwise seen only in maximum security prisons and table reads of Nicolas Cage movies. This is not the scenario wed hoped for when we bought the place ve years ago. In our minds, we were the arrival of the mythic gays. We signaled a bright future of gentrication and block parties. We were so cocky in those heady days, certain our tribe would follow. Theyd make it happen through the same hive mind that tells us which female pop star to propel to iconic status, or that were all going to wear bow ties this year. Hey boys, the Hive Mind would tell our tribe. The hot new burb is on the bad side of Memorial Drive. Our tribe did not follow. Thus far, the closest my neighborhood has come to a block party was when all the news vans showed up because of that negligent homicide at the 24-hour daycare. We all got to be on TV! There will be no selling this place. We live between a paranoid schizophrenic and a man who raises pit bulls. Our house, valued in the six gures when we purchased it, is now worth around $35. When a prostitute began operating out of the foreclosed property three doors down, I was re-

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lieved someone was keeping an eye on the place. We dont hate the house itself, so much as the situation surrounding it. Home ownership turned out to be comparable to marrying Dean Cain in a Lifetime movie. It looks everything you ever dreamed until you make that commitment, and then he just starts beating the shit out of you. We have a long list of things wed love to do to the place. I have 3D animations of our painted house, with a patio and landscaped yard the landscaping equivalent of slash ction. But its hard to maintain enthusiasm for a longterm project when your gladiola plantings are interrupted by a car backring. Not gunshots. Its always a car backring, and I will entertain no arguments to the contrary. Even if sometimes its a car backring several times, followed by screaming, followed by sirens. Thats just a car backring, which startled a nice old lady so badly she screamed and fainted, propelling her overly cautious personal assistant to call an ambulance. Manufacturing explanations such as these ll a good bit of my downtime, leaving little opportunity for landscaping. We keep the place clean. Our yard is tidy. But in all other respects, our attitudes have begun to mirror the employees of Bad Wal-Mart. But theres still a small part of me that holds out hope for our Lifetime movie marriage. Our happy ending wont be a great escape, dashing away in the middle of the night in a bad wig and a pair of sunglasses. Ours would be one of those quieter resolutions, where the monster is subdued and gets some real good therapy. Deciding to push beyond what is expected requires a leap of faith. While Im not foolish enough to make resolutions for the coming year, I feel safe declaring an intention: This is the year we recommit to making home what we always wanted it to be. Maybe itll send a message in our neglected neighborhood that good enough isnt good enough. Maybe this will change things. Maybe this is how we represent our tribe.

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