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Cartwheels in A Sari by Jayanti Tamm - Excerpt
Cartwheels in a Sari
A Memoir of Growing Up Cult
Jaya n t i Ta m m
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Contents
Prologue 1
1 .The Myth Begins 3
2. Because Guru Says So, That’s Why 33
3. The Divine Cage 57
4. The Supreme Is Your Boyfriend 93
5. Miracles of Faith 125
6. Amore at the United Nations 147
7. Exiled to France 179
8. Born Again, Again 205
9. This Is Heresy 235
10. Cartwheels in a Sari 261
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Prologue
T
he last time i received a message from guru, the
self-proclaimed spiritual master Sri Chinmoy, six years
had passed since his personal envoy called to inform
me that my discipleship was officially and permanently ter-
minated and all contact and association with his headquar-
ters in Queens, New York, was forbidden. Now, after years
of struggling to shed all outer remnants of my former life, I
listened with muted curiosity and suspicion as the same
breathless disciple carefully conveyed Guru’s unexpected and
urgent message. His words foretold of a “dangerous destruc-
tive force” trying to physically attack me, and, in order to pro-
tect myself, for the next two months, every hour on the hour,
I needed to pray ceaselessly to Guru for protection.
I was livid.
I knew Guru’s masterful tactics of manipulation to lure
me back into his fold. It had worked countless times in the
past. Since birth, as his chosen devotee, I witnessed Guru lov-
ingly warn of the vicious karmic punishments in store for
disciples who did not strictly adhere to his teachings. Whether
it was dread of the massive wheel of karma, or weakness for
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The Myth Begins
M
y life story can be traced back to an ad-
dress scrawled across a matchbook directing my
mother to the place where she hoped her lifelong
search would end. She didn’t have a phone number or con-
tact name. Although it was just after dusk, the New York
neighborhood seemed empty. No one to ask, no clues. After
crisscrossing the street four times, she stood before the only
building on the block without a number. Wrought-iron bars
covered the cracked glass of the front door. Instead of a panel
of backlit doorbells, five chewed wires jutted from the brick.
The door was unlocked and sighed open at her touch.
The dank stairwell had one bare lightbulb. Cigarette butts
littered the floor like flattened cockroaches. She rechecked
the address clutched in her left hand. This was suddenly ab-
surd. All of it—her exhausting journey, hitchhiking from San
Francisco with her two-year-old son, leaving behind her stray-
ing husband and all of the contents of her former life, bring-
ing nothing other than one small satchel and a matchbook
with the address of Sri Chinmoy, a guru recently arrived from
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and perhaps he could fill all the gaping holes that echoed
inside.
He motioned for her to follow him inside his crowded
apartment where the guests sat upon a bare wood floor in si-
lence. Through swirls of sandalwood incense smoke, Guru
instructed her to sit beside a young hippie, barefoot and with
a sour odor. After hours of potent, silent meditation, Guru
stated that if she wanted to “jump into the sea of spirituality,”
she would marry the long-haired man.
That, according to my mother, is how she met my father.
The blond mendicant, my father, was also at Guru’s for
the first time. He drove from Yale University, where he was a
graduate fellow studying philosophy. Born in a refugee camp
in Augsburg, Germany, to Estonian parents who had fled when
Stalin’s troops invaded their homeland, my father’s family
immigrated to America and settled in Bismarck, North Dakota.
Thoroughly dissatisfied with Bismarck’s status quo, by his
late teens, my father devoured drugs along with sacred San-
skrit texts as he hitchhiked, journeying through communes
and churches for answers to his questions on the meaning of
existence. He found the ancient tradition of asceticism ap-
pealing. After arriving at Yale, he began his own intensive
course of study to become a sadhana, which included re-
nouncing all material objects and attachments. He welcomed
personal discomfort and self-denial as important steps
toward inner strength. He roamed the Yale campus barefoot,
even in the midst of the New England winters, as part of his
spiritual practice. According to my father, the night he en-
tered Guru’s apartment, he planned to take a vow as a sanyassi,
a celibate monk, to learn about the realms of the inner world
first-hand from a true Yogi.
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