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NFP - What Should Catholics Think About It?
NFP - What Should Catholics Think About It?
NFP - What Should Catholics Think About It?
What are these conditions and reasons which are necessary for a married couple to practice periodic abstinence
(or NFP?)
The first condition is that there must be a mutual agreement to abstain from the marital act. If either spouse is
unwilling, the abstinence would be forced. This means that one spouse would deny the other the right which
properly belongs to him or her. It would be gravely sinful for the person who denies this right to his or her spouse.
The second condition is that there must be no danger of either spouse sinning against chastity, either on his or her
own, or with someone else. Any serious danger in this regard is enough to prohibit abstinence, whether periodic or
complete. God can never justify sin, even to bring about a good effect.
The simple fact that the two conditions related above do not pose a problem is not reason enough for a married
couple to use NFP. There must also be a real and serious reason for doing so. After all, abstinence, whether periodic
or complete, is not normal marital life.
The reasons serious enough to allow the practice of periodic abstinence (or NFP) were given by Pope Pius XII.
These reasons do not change with time.
They are the following:
How does a Catholic married couple know if any reason they have is serious enough to justify using NFP?
It's not enough that the couple themselves believe their condition is serious. They must also have the advice of a
good Catholic-minded doctor, if it is a medical question; and the permission of a good Catholic priest before they
can start practicing periodic abstinence.
Why won't the advice of any doctor or priest suffice?
Because today most doctors have the contraception mentality. They openly promote artificial contraception (which
is always morally wrong), and would have no problem with a married couple practicing NFP for any reason or no
reason at all. Many would even consider you as foolish for not doing so.
Unfortunately, the same mentality is often prevalent among priests. Although many do advise against artificial
contraception, they often promote NFP without any regard for the conditions and reasons given by the Catholic
Church which are necessary to practice it. It is hailed as a great thing for married couples. It is treated as something
normal to married life, when in fact it is not.
In addition, the good effects stated above could be gained by the same couples who practice NFP if they would live
a normal marital life. This is because sacrifice is built into every marriage. There are always occasions when spouses
must refrain from the marital act due to illness, the birth of a child, travel away from home, or any number of
reasons. The same occasions for self-control, respect, and improved communications are present for all couples due
to the normal circumstances of married life. Despite all its adherents, practicing NFP does not create an improved
normal marital life. It is an abnormal practice, which can only be justified in certain serious conditions.
Many of the difficulties today among married couples which involve the acceptance of having a child, or more
children, are linked to a lack of trust in God. We live in a world where we want to control and plan every aspect of
our lives. However, there are certain things that we cannot or must not control. Conceiving children is an example.
No married couple is in total control of having children, even if they want to. Many would like to and cannot. Others
judge that they know better than their good Father in heaven how many children they should have and when. If
married couples would only abandon themselves more into the hands of God by living normal marital lives, and
trust Him completely, they would find a peace and happiness which only God can give. Our good Father in heaven
knows just how many children each married couple should have and can handle. All He asks is our trust to bring
about His plan.