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Lect 14 &15 Thomas Gordon
Lect 14 &15 Thomas Gordon
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A method of listening where you reflect back An I-Message is a tool for influencing
your understanding of what a person says to This approach to solving problems provide others to change behavior that somehow
you. This is meant to confirm to them that a release of distressful feelings and interferes with your ability to meet your
you understood their message, and to give emotions as well as allowing them person needs.
them a chance to correct you if you don’t. who owns the problem to solve it. It's a non-blameful, non-judgmental
More importantly, however, this description of the unacceptable behavior,
communicates your acceptance of the In addition, listening provides the teacher how it affects you and how it makes you
person’s thoughts and emotions. with a format for showing willingness to feel. They are so effective because you are
help and communicate an acceptance of confronting someone else's behavior and
students despite their troubles. not attacking the person. As a result, other
people will be much more likely to change
their unacceptable behavior.
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Conflicts usually involve cherished beliefs, A common sense principle that underlies
In managing discipline problems in classrooms,
both the parties need to initiate mutual problem values, personal preferences, personal tastes, the foundation of the Gordon model. Simply
solving. It involves the following steps. lifestyles, ideas.. stated, the principle holds that people who
are invited to participate in making
Define the problem They may involve things like gang decisions or setting up rules that affect
Generate possible solutions membership, religion, drug use, manners, them somehow are more willing to abide by
Evaluate each solution moral behaviour, justice, honesty, sexual them or keep to their part of an agreement.
Make a decision behaviour and fashion. We all like feeling that our views are being
Determine how to implement the decision. represented.
Assess the success of the decision.
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