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Cynthia Occelli The 7 Steps Ebook
Cynthia Occelli The 7 Steps Ebook
TO
MANIFESTING
7 STEPS TO MANIFESTING
YOUR HEART'S DESIRES
7 STEPS TO
MANIFESTING
YOUR HEART'S
DESIRES
CYNTHIA OCCELLI
Contents
Also by Cynthia:
Preface
Who am I to write this book?
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Universal Conspiracy
A Word on Co-creation & The Law of Attraction
Altitude
The Forest before the Trees
Space
Step One
Dream
Step Two
Commit
Step Three
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Plan
Step Four
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RRPs
Step Five
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Action
Step Six
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Persevere
Step Seven
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Afterword
Connect with Cynthia
About Cynthia
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Also by Cynthia:
Bo
Books
oks
Resurrecting Venus: Embrace Your Feminine Power
Inspired Living
Audio Guided Meditations
Guided Meditation for Beginners
Guided Meditation for Self Worth
Guided Meditation for Prosperity
Embrace Your Feminine Spirit Guided Meditation
Connect with Your Inner Goddess Guided Meditation
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Preface
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but dont worry, the road will incline gently and life will
conspire to help you all along the way. You are not alone. Be
mindful of your inner feelings and self-talk. If you feel
overwhelmed or fearful, you are likely dark-futurizing
(imagining a negative future development or outcome).
Release it and return to the present moment. Be here now.
All you must do, for the rest of your life, is handle this
moment. You can do this, you always have. Breathe. Accept
your worthiness and know that youre here to live out the
greatest expression of you. We are all cut from the same
cloth. Anything is possible for you.
Sharing the 7 Steps to Manifesting Your Hearts Desires with
you is incredibly fulfilling for me. It gives extraordinary
meaning to my life. The steps in this book were born from
years of enduring seemingly insurmountable challenges and
discovering what actually creates material and meaningful
change. Ive learned what works and, just as importantly,
what doesnt work. Ive lived out everything you will learn in
this book. There is nothing to wish, want or hope for here.
There are only result driven methods that anyone willing can
use. Years of coaching women who were ready to take
ownership and responsibility for their destiny has given me
an unshakable understanding of the power within us all. Its
time you consciously claim your role as the most powerful
person in your life. This has always been true, but claiming it
is a vital step in wielding the life-force within you. To bolster
your confidence and to help you expand your capacity to
dream, Im sharing my story with you. I want you to know
that if someone like me could create the romantic, financial,
physical life Ive always dreamed of living, you can too.
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Preface xi
apparent that our life together had been erased from his mind
and much of it would never return. Our marriage was over.
It was soul-ripping.
The following three years would be the most harrowing of
my life. People I loved abandoned me; the family Id adopted
as my own fell to infighting over money and fear. I learned
what it felt like to want to die. My heart was broken wide
open. I was devastated and pissed off at life. Old wounds of
unworthiness bled fresh and in the twisted thinking of
emotional turmoil, I concluded that my husbands devastating
loss was confirmation that I was in fact a mistake and God
wanted to make sure I knew that I was a lesser child.
I was a single mom again. This time I had a huge mortgage,
unattended businesses, neglected investments, grueling
lawsuits and a hole as big as the ocean in my heart. Life on
welfare in the garage became a longed for memory. On most
days, I got out of bed solely because of my children.
Those long dismal days sent me on a journey. I wanted to
understand why I existed. What was the point? Was there
any meaning to my life? A purpose? If so, what was it? I
wanted to know God personally, so I could ask for myself
instead of having another human cite scripture or predict
futures that never came to pass. I studied several religions and
immersed myself in spiritual teachings without regard for the
rules and righteousness of any of them. I meditated,
journaled, turned within and found a place of quiet. If Ive
ever had anything close to an epiphany, it happened when I
realized that I was the creator, maintainer and life-source of
my beliefs and theyd shaped my entire life. Nothing out
there could be against me until I joined in agreement with
Universal Conspiracy
A Word on Co-creation & The Law of
Attraction
You must choose the right spot for your plants, so they have
the right amount of light, you must till the soil, plant the
seeds, water them, feed them, weed around them, and make
sure no parasites destroy them. Yet, you arent the energetic
source of the seeds growth and without that energetic source
you couldnt have a plant, but without your work your
garden wouldnt exist. Its a true co-creation.
Altitude
The Forest before the Trees
Space.
2)
Dream.
3)
Commit.
4)
Plan.
5)
RRPs.
6)
Action.
7)
Persevere.
Space
Step One
Space 5
Space 7
Let only the treasures remain. Love and give thanks for all the
good, all of the lessons learned. The past does not define the
future and you have everything you need to become your best
self and create the deepest desires of your heart.
Make your physical world receptive to the dreams youll be
creating by cleaning and clearing out your physical space too.
Do a little at a time. Get rid of all you no longer use, want or
need. Let someone else benefit from it. As you clean and clear,
remind yourself that your outer actions reflect your inner
work. The more space you make, the more good can come
your way.
Note: If you have a habit of thinking pessimistic thoughts,
you may catch yourself immersed in old thoughts that youve
decided to release. Be gentle and patient with yourself. When
you become aware of your mind reliving or rehashing
something that is not on the treasure list, kindly remind
yourself that youve decided to let it go, and then ask: What
do I really want? Shift your focus and follow the answer to
your bliss. Habits are thoughts repeated over and over again.
Give yourself time to make new ones. You are not your habits
and your habits are not prescient, but they are self-fulfilling,
so learn to observe and instill new and empowering thought
habits.
At the end of this process you will be freer, wiser, infused
with fresh energy and a clearer perspective. This is the ideal
foundation for conscious creation of your hearts desires.
Dream
Step Two
In the last step you created fertile, nurturing soils, and the
space to plant the seeds of your deepest desires. Now its time
to dream! Give yourself permission to dream fearlessly and
without judgment. Affirm that you are worthy of living a life
that feels good and makes you happy. Nothing is too good for
you and the limit of what is possible for you is YOU. Dream
BIG.
In Resurrecting Venus, I wrote extensively about processes
that have helped me clarify and focus my dreams. Here are
selections from Chapter 44, Conceive Your Dream, Please
refer to that chapter now, before continuing.
If youve read Chapter 44 of Resurrecting Venus you now
understand the power and energy of a well crafted vision
board. It bears noting that sometimes you may put something
on the board that doesnt match up to what youll later choose
in life. Thats perfectly okay. We are ever-changing beings.
If you struggle to find something that resonates with your
center, set a full month aside with regular dream exploration
sessions. Get quiet, meditate (the Embrace Your Feminine
Power Guided Meditation is perfect for this), trace the path
back to your earliest memories. What made your child self feel
joyful, free and happy to be alive? The answer is nearly always
related to dreams that would bring you great fulfillment and
Dream 9
Dream 11
and energy. Let your vision be what you fall asleep with
and return to it first thing in the morning. This powerful
process marshals energy and points it in a unified direction.
This intense, hyper-focused power is the thread with which
we weave our dreams.
A Caveat:
Now that youve identified your hearts desire and planted
the seeds, its time to keep it a secret. There will never be a
shortage of people to argue for your limitations. They arent
telling you your story, they are telling you theirs. If you agree
with them, it becomes your story too. Only share your dreams
and vision board with people who have the expertise to help
you in creating your vision, or who genuinely want to see you
succeed. This is always a smart strategy, but especially in the
beginning, when dreams are new, its vital that you protect
and nurture them until they become viable creations.
When making and using your board, be choosy about who
sees it before your dreams come to fruition. Dreams are like
embryos, they need constant nourishment and protection, if
they are going to be born and survive. I rarely share my
board or dreams with anyone outside of my closest confidants,
who I know will not judge or criticize them. Let the energy
of creation build and accumulate around your hearts desires.
When you share your dreams for no reason other than to
include someone else, you run the risk of diluting vital energy,
or even cutting off the flow. If they share their fears, doubts,
and limiting beliefs with you, they may inadvertently derail
your confidence. That said, I have found it beneficial to share
my vision with one absolutely committed fan. This person can
be anyone, so long as they are fiercely supportive of you and
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Commit
Step Three
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Commit 15
Plan
Step Four
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Action 19
To live a life of love and beauty and share it with the world by
creating beautiful things.
I am a leader in my family, business, and community. I use my
gifts of intelligence and compassion to motivate myself and others to
reach their greatest potential.
I am a citizen of the world. I create productions and services that
spread laughter around the world.
Mission statements dont have to be for your whole lifetime.
Aim for five years.
Though your mission may affect or involve others, keep it
general. Mission statements that involve a specific individual
are really goals that require a reaction or response from an
individual to be successful. This is overstepping your power
(except in the case of young children). Make you and your life
the focus of your mission statement.
Keep it simple. You dont need to spell out every aspect of
your mission, although you can. Keep in mind that simple is
easy to remember and you dont have to call every detail or
aspect of your intention out. Embodying a positive mission
statement will improve all areas of your life. Rising tides lift all
boats.
The right mission statement will cause a change in your
internal state. It will make you feel something positive in your
body (inspiration, excitement, knowing, confidence). Your
body is wiser than we comprehend; it always knows the right
path.
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work out from the very beginning, they call the objective
impossible and let it go. This shuts nearly every dream down.
Show up, do your best and let the Universe (God, Spirit,
Light) take care of the rest.
For example, I had an entire plan around becoming an author
and not one thing went as planned, yet here I am, and the way
it unfolded is better than anything Id planned.
I was a blogger, and through blogging I learned that I really
love writing; and it allowed me to achieve my lifes mission
without needing anyone else to choose me. From there I
decided that I would build an online social media presence, so
I would have an audience for the books I wanted to write. Id
planned a two pronged approach, I would send query letters
to literary agents and follow the traditional publishing route
(author gets agent then agent sells book to publisher) and,
simultaneously, I would grow my online community, so I
could self-publish my books. As I was focusing on building
my online presence through blogging, Tony Berkman
(genius, sweetheart and owner of blog catalog) put my blog
on the front page of his site.
I was thrilled because it really advanced the second prong of
my approach, it built my online presence which would really
help me to self-publish. Yet, what resulted was completely
unplanned. A publisher saw my blog, contacted me directly,
and published Resurrecting Venus! To this day I still dont
have a literary agent. Nothing went as planned at all. But
having the plan caused me to take the actions and create the
channels for the Universe to flow through.
RRPs
Step Five
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you being drawn out by the salt, purified, and washed down
the drain.
Journal. If youre familiar with the Harry Potter series, you
know about Dumbledores pensive a glass bowl filled with
memories. Dumbledore places his wand next to his head and
draws out a silvery wisp of memory and places it in the pensive
for safe keeping. Let your journal serve as your pensive. Write
a note every day about your hearts desire. Write an action you
took or plan to take, a hope or fear. Write a note to yourself
reassuring and appreciating your steadfast commitment to
you. In time, youll come to love your journal and it will stand
as proof of how much youve grown and how far youve gone.
Flame. Say a prayer or claim your desire as being birthed into
manifestation and light a candle. Let the flame represent and
sustain your dream.
Two. Make an intelligent exception to the keeping dreams
secret rule. Share your vision with someone who will hold the
space for its easy manifestation. This person can be anyone,
so long as they are fiercely supportive of you and desiring of
your highest good. You are human and you will not always
feel strong and confident. When you get discouraged or your
vision weakens, your confidant will still be holding your
vision and supporting you. This ensures that a constant supply
of energy is infusing your dream.
Heartwork #1
Choose an RRP from above or create your own.
Action
Step Six
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Action 27
excellence and take the next step. You will make mistakes,
things wont be 100% perfect, but theyll be close and youll be
moving forward. The only people who never make mistakes,
get criticized, or fall are those who do NOTHING.
I was exceptionally resistant to adopting a calendar. I am a
rebel at heart and despise conforming to rules and systems.
For me, this changed when I recognized that the only things
that go on my calendar are things I choose to put there.
Calendaring your life makes sure you tend to your priorities,
both professional and personal, and it frees up precious time
and energy.
The next boon to your productivity is to surrender the idea of
multi-tasking. Multi-tasking feels busy and it makes our ego
feel like we must be very important because were so busy, but
its proven that when we are multi-tasking we are the least
productive. When you devote all of your attention to one task,
that task will be completed faster and better than when you
split your attention.
Before you begin single-tasking, do what you can to eliminate
interruptions and distractions. They create the same poor
performance that multi-tasking does. Theres a Microsoft
study of workers, that found that, on average, they were
interrupted about four times an hour, and 40% of the time
they did not return to the task they were working on. The
bottom line is things dont get done when were multitasking, being interrupted, or getting distracted.
Help yourself by creating an environment that supports your
success. Eliminate interruptions in advance by turning all
phones off, closing the internet, closing your email, telling the
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people around you that you cannot be disturbed for the next
hour, or however much time you need.
When something interrupts you while working, swiftly
address it by telling them that youll be available at a specific
time and dont engage in chit chat; be direct and get back
to work. Granted, there are times when something cant be
ignored, but the majority of the time this isnt the case. Learn
to set healthy boundaries, so that you have the peace and
privacy to pursue your passions.
Heres a Q&A from my radio show that articulates the
importance of unapologetically setting and upholding clear
boundaries:
Celia asked: I am finding that in order for me to pursue my dreams,
I have to cut back on other things in my life, such as spending time
with friends, and I am having a hard time with this, because I cant
say no and feel guilty when I hurt peoples feelings. Do you have
any advice for me?
Well, dear Celia, I do.
First, understand your why (your reason for cutting back on friend
time). You are cutting back because you have dreams and goals, and
if you hang around with your friends, instead of expressing what is
seeking to come through you, you might regret it for the rest of your
life. You want to experience the joy of living out whats in your
heart. You want to honor the gifts and dreams you were sent here
with. You want to discover the best in you. Thats your why and
its monumental.
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Persevere
Step Seven
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Paradox #3
To co-create with the Universe we must persevere by giving
all we have to our desired goal and, at the very same time,
we must surrender and let go of the outcome. This always
causes much consternation from my coaching clients. They
ask: How can I live full out and put my everything into
something and, at the same time, let go of how it turns out?
This is the very nature of co-creating. You are responsible for
your part, and the Universe has its own ways, reasons, and
wisdom. Trust it. When things dont go the way you plan,
suspend doubt and judgment. Trust that something better will
come, or that youve been spared something unwanted, or that
you may not be ready yet. Trust in the wisdom and support
of the Infinite, and a good greater than you could foresee will
emerge.
Persevere and let go. Ive had many experiences I perceived
as failures, but without fail a time comes in the future when
the purpose of the event becomes clear. Often the intense
energy we expend clinging to something is the single greatest
obstacle to our good. It makes us plot, manipulate and attempt
to control life something that rarely succeeds, and if it
appears to succeed, often backfires. It also interferes with our
inner state, it blocks energy and stops flow. Most upset is
derived from our unwillingness to accept or release
something. Like holding water, the tighter we grasp, the less
we have. We greatly improve our lives and results by letting it
go.
Letting go also does not mean giving up. It means that we take
our frenetic, chaotic energy out of the picture and release our
attachment to the outcome. If you believe in a force greater
than you (God, Spirit, Universal Energy etc.), letting go is an
act of surrender to the power responsible for beating hearts
and suspending the planets in the sky, surely it can handle your
concerns.
Afterword
What Ive learned, after decades of practicing and teaching the
principles in this book, is:
When you stand in grace, chart your course and set sail toward
your hearts desires, the Universe will turn the tides in the
direction of your greatest good.
No desire that emanates from your heart is too good, too
unrealistic, or too much to create. Theres no such thing as too
late, and nothing is impossible for you.
This is your time.
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