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It's Not All About "Me": The Top Ten Techniques For Developing Rapport
It's Not All About "Me": The Top Ten Techniques For Developing Rapport
It's Not All About "Me": The Top Ten Techniques For Developing Rapport
5. Ego suspension
Suspending ego is hardest. Helped survive. I'm sorry, I have children too. Putting others needs, wants, views before yours You talk, other ppl talk. Let them say their better story, suppress your need to share your great story
Practice ex
Step 1. Make opening statement with body bladed away as if walking away Step 2. Speak slightly over shoulder, genuine smile as if someone did you a favor Ex1. 3rd party reference, A. Ensure accommodating non verbals, pick person, ref, ask abt views on ref B. Choose a theme, personality, sth usable for future ex Keep it casual, easy. Ppl Browsing, not rushing. Large public venues: bar, bookstores, coffeehouses, ntuc Ex2. Artificial time constraints Like A., add "... But I'm on my way out" Diff types: I've to go in a min,..Is waiting; late for.., may I ask your opinion; I've to get back to my.., may I ask Ex3. Slower rate of speech
Fear:
Perfectionistic Mistakes not allowed Unfair comparisons
Courage basics:
Daily relaxation habit, exercise music etc Capability (nitty gritty skills) for starting keeping it going Confidence, I can do it
Starting convo with strangers Breaking flow, while they're in the middle of scanning groceries, Ask " How're you doing?"
Common mistakes:
Not enthu Not listening for cues Not sharing opinions & interests Stuck in a routine & bored Hope the other person will rescue you Fear you will bore people Narrow focus of personal interest
10 tips.
Assertive. Use diaphragm. Hand over stomach practice. Raspy voice Story telling pause. Keep anticipation Listening pause. Wait 2 sec after finish. Nod slow. Emphasize certain words. Delivery IS EVERYTHING. Use hands to support emphasis. Inquisitive Squint. Hmm. I see. Threading Similarities to relate, build connection. Take 1 word and run with it. 80:20, agree: disagree. Use questions to make them elaborate. Throw statement back, Learn more. Laughter Control. Person Laughing more seeks approval. Laugh when genuinely funny. Facial expressions. What you do with yo face.