INTRODUCTION

ou could say that once a guy discovers that the attraction and seduction of women can be
handled more like a step-by-step system than a game of chance, his journey begins. From that
point onwards, his social life is different, because instead of being in a club wondering Will I get
lucky tonight? he thinks Which group of people shall I approach, interact with, select a woman from
and succeed not in getting lucky but in getting ATTRACTION?.
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I dont know how acquainted you are with the subject of picking up women, if you want to call it
that, but regardless of your current degree of understanding and level of experience, this crash course
will serve you in the same way. It has been put together to give you a strong overall view of the art of
attraction and seduction, the Black Belt Seduction way. Instead of being a goat on the ground, forced
to bumble your way through your first lessons, youre a bird soaring in the sky. You are able to look
down and get a very calm and comprehensive summary of everything you need to know to start your
journey into the world of the pickup artist on the right foot.

So lets not waste any time.


Where do I start?

Thats a good question. There is no official place to start because not all men are the same. If every
man was equally inept in certain areas and equally skilled in the rest, then we could have a nice clear
starting point, middle point and ending pointbut they arent and we cant. This crash course is
probably the best place to start because it gives you a little bit of information on a lot of different
areas. These areas, of course, have been selected because they feature in the list of questions most men
have when theyre just starting out in this game. Theyre the core topics, if you like. But how about
some more specific instructions, aside from working your way through this course. Lets have a look.

Get your style and appearance up to scratch

Theres no point disadvantaging yourself from the outset. Its important you exhibit up-to-date
style in the way you dress and generally present yourself. You dont have to be one of these
straight-off-the-catwalk types, or a guy who spends more time staring in the mirror than the
women hes hoping to attract; just make sure youre presenting your physical self in the best light
possible. Look in the store windows of popular male fashion outlets, take a look in some mens
magazines and look at the styles and dress-sense of men who already appear to be successful in
the dating game. There are some rights and wrongs (choosing ugly shoes, wearing garish colors,
wearing sunglasses indoors, having a goofy haircut, etc.), but you dont have to worry too much
about pulling off a specific imagedevelop your own style based on trends that you know are
currently attractive and representative of a socially-intelligent guy.

Start going-out a lot

You might hate trying to meet women in nightclubs, or nightclubs might be your favorite places
to hang out and socialize. Either way, by going to nightclubs and bars regularly, you effectively
develop and hone your social skills. You get used to being around groups of people (who youll
sooner or later be approaching and talking to) and you generally get to feel comfortable in that
environment.





Learn the most basic principles and arm yourself with a couple of choice tools

Youll probably read this whole course before starting to go out there and make some approaches,
but nevertheless at this early point in your journey, you should make sure you learn the most
basic principles WELL and choose a couple of techniques you can rely on to help you get through
your first approaches and conversations. For learn the most basic and useful principles, you
should refer to the following sections of this crash course.

WHATISVALUEANDHOWDOI POSSESSIT?

WHATISATTRACTIVEMALEBODY LANGUAGE?

HOWDOI BEATAPPROACHANXIETY?

HOWDOI INVENTMY OWNOPENERS?

HOWDOI KEEP CONVERSATIONFLOWING?

Click any of those titles to jump to the relevant topic.

With just those basic pieces of knowledge under your belt, youll be ready to start practising
being a pickup artist. Once you know about value and attractive male body language, youll be
attractive to a lot of women. Once youve started to remove your approach anxiety, youll be able
to go up to a group of women and start talking to them without too much fear. Once you know
how to invent your own openers, youll be able to turn your approaches into conversations that
last more than 60 seconds and which have the potential to turn into attraction-based interactions.
And, finally, once you know how to keep conversation flowing youllwellyoull be set. Those
topics will give you a basic skill-set and THAT is where you should start.

What is value and how do I possess it?

We already know what the standard definition of value is:

A measure of those qualities that determine merit, desirability, usefulness, or importance.

Except were not going to use that definition, because were not talking about the value of a business
or a car. Were talking about men, which of course includes you. We should therefore change the
above definition so it reads as follows:

A measure of those qualities that determine merit, desirability, usefulness, or importance of a man in the eyes
of women.

When women decide whether or not they are attracted to you, they take into consideration your
value. Your value is the sum total of your positive and negative personal traits, characteristics and
modes of behavior. However, when considering your value, women only include traits,
characteristics and modes of behavior which directly relate to the prospect of dating youor being
your partner. So, in summing up your value (and therefore how sexually attractive you appear to
them), women will care much less about which vegetables you like and dont like than how many
friends you have and what those friends are likebecause if they dated you your social circle would
matter more to them than your vegetable preferences.



In other words, the things that define your value (attractiveness) all relate to what women want and
need from you as a partner. These things include:

The ability to:

Protect them and emotionally support them
Make them feel happy
Help them prosper socially

And:

Strong genes (based on health and physical appearance/looks)

Other strong and desirable traits (shown through positive modes of behaviour such as
confidence, motivation, ability to cope in difficult situations, etc.)

Social standing (how much you are respected, admired, copied and looked up to by other people,
male and female)

Personal integrity and a strong sense of self-confidence (not confidence in the normal sense, as
used to be successful in social situations, but confidence relating to your opinion of yourself: who
you are, what you stand for, what you care about, what youre capable of, etc.)

Those are some of the things you need to possess to be of high value in the eyes of women. The more
of those traits and characteristics you have, the more attractive you not only appear to be, but actually
are to the opposite sex. Of course, you now have two tasks ahead of you:

1. Adopt or develop those traits
2. Successfully exhibit and broadcast them to women

Its no use having all of those great things if women dont get to see them. That is why you need more
than a high-value persona to be successful with women; you need to have the necessary skills to show
women that you have those great things. Thats the only way theyll think This guy is amazing. I
want him and I want him to want me.

Most men have the capacity to develop their value to a level that allows most women to consider
them attractive enough to date them. The trick is removing as much of your LOW value behavior as
possible and replacing it with as much HIGH value behavior as you can. For some guys this takes
longer than it does for othersit all depends on how much value you have to start with.

Its important you dont get too caught up in assessing your value, because ultimately thats not the
kind of man you want to be. You just want to be naturally laid-back, comfortable with yourself, and
capable of making women feel good about themselves without giving them the impression that you
want something from them. That is fundamentally what being a high value male is about.

Youll need to know more about possessing and demonstrating high social value before you can be
truly proficient at attracting women, but for now you have enough information to be going on. Your
new knowledge of what value is will form one of the fundamental aspects of your new attractive
persona.









Do looks or money matter?

The reason men wonder about this question so much is surely because when they look at women they
consider to be beautiful they almost always see them dating men who are:

Physically attractive (handsome, symmetrical face, good hair, well-built body, etc.)

Wealthy (a businessman, a rock star, an actor, etc.)

Both: attractive and rich

These men therefore assume that physical attractiveness and wealth are prerequisites for attracting
and dating beautiful women. The $64,000 question is: is it their looks and bank balance that allow
these men to date these women or is it something else?

Brutal truth is necessary heretheres no point lying to yourself. Good looks not only help, they give
a man a big advantage in the dating game. They just do, its a fact. Any man who denies that fact
either secretly resents that its true or is so oblivious to the rules of the dating game that hell never
stand a chance of succeeding in it anyway. You, I hope, are neither of these men. At this point, we can
separate readers into two main categories:

1. Good looking men who now know they have a significant advantage in the dating game (thanks to
their good looks).

2. Men who dont think theyre good looking enough to have an advantage in the dating game
(because they lack the good looks necessary to possess an advantage).

All pretty straightforward so far. The money question is the easiest to answer, so we can get it out of
the way right now: no, women dont care. That is to say, women dont care unless you give them a
reason to care. Youll notice this principle a number of times as you further your understanding of the
dating game. For example, if a woman asked you what you worked as and you said, Actually, Im
broke. Im unemployedlooking for a job its quite likely shed think less of you (or consider you to
have less value) than if you rephrased the summary of your situation in the following way: Ive just
come out of a job managing a team at a design firm and next Im hopefully going to go into a designer
role at a bigger, better place. Youve not lied here (well, youd be lying if you repeated this line
yourselfyou need to use your own lifes facts). Youve just reframed your situation and given a
positive, high value answer. The same thing roughly applies to the question of good looks and
whether being very good looking, or more to the point, being average or below average drastically
affects your chances of having success with women. If most people would rate you a 7 out of 10 on
the looks scale but you act like youre a 4 out of 10, then youll probably be perceived as about a 5
out of 10 on the overall attractiveness scale (which is a total score based on everything about you). If
youre a 10 out of 10 but for some strange reason see yourself (and therefore act as if) you are a 4,
youll probably be perceived as about a 7/10 on the overall attractiveness scale. Its not an exact
science, its just a way of explaining the following fact:

The better looking a man is, the more likely it is that hes had success with women from an early age
and, therefore, the higher the chance is of him possessing and demonstrating the most important
qualities a man can possess and demonstrate to appear attractive to women: confidence, social
intelligence, motivation, a casual attitude, humor, emotional awareness, etc. In other words, his good
looks give him success and his success develops strong, alpha male tendencies within his
personality.



Imagine if a man was born with a brain that had something slightly wrong with it. His looks are
average but when he looks in the mirror he sees a 10 out of 10: the perfect personification of male
beauty. Think of what this knowledge, albeit flawed and inaccurate, would allow this man to achieve
socially. Would he do better with women than a man of equally average looks who is aware of his
mediocre physical appearance? Of course he would. Absolutely, positively, yes.

And this is the lesson you must learn and believe in. Good looks provide an advantage. Average
looks are only a disadvantage when they affect a mans belief in himself. And looks that are way
below average disadvantage a man only so far as he cannot compensate for his mediocrity through
positive behaviour and big demonstrations of high social value. Read and re-read those facts, think
about where you fit in and know the overriding principle: your looks are fixed, your modes of
behavior are not. Fix the latter and the former either becomes unimportant (if youre average or
below) or merely a nice addition to your overall level of attractiveness (if youre above average).
Either way, you can achieve massive success.


Does a lack of sexual experience matter?

To answer this question, first you should read the answer above, which explains the real deal
regarding good looks and money and the relatively small roles they should play in the dating game,
providing youve got skills in other areas. Now, lets continue.

Sexual experience gives a man the following:

An understanding of the female body and, to some degree, the female mind

The skills to pleasure a woman

A feeling of overall life experiencethe man thinks he has progressed since he was an
inexperienced juvenile

The feeling of being a real man who women would want as their boyfriend

A man lacking in sexual experience is likely to feel some quite extreme anxiety because he doesnt
possess any of the things just listed. He will feel that his lack of sexual experience

Will make him look inept and clueless when it comes to dealing with the female body

Makes him feel behind his peers. He doesnt feel as much of a man. Or he feels like a man with a
lot less life experience than most other guys

Makes him think women will not regard him as boyfriend-material

Thinking any of the above will clearly hinder a man in the dating game. BUT, its not his lack of
sexual experience that will hold him back. It is his negative attitude, which is a product of his sexual
inexperience. Imagine a mans family is killed by the mob. The man takes revenge by blowing up the
mobs headquarters. It isnt the fact that the mans family is dead that makes the bomb went off, its
because the mans reaction to his familys death was so negative. That negativity manifested itself into
some very destructive behavior.

Sometimes it seems like certain causes cannot help but result in certain symptoms (sexual
inexperience causing symptoms such as shyness, insecurity, etc.), but thats not always true. If you are
sexually inexperienced, then you should remember the following.


As long as you exhibit strong, confident body language, you will appear to be comfortable with
yourself.

As long as you react in the right way to being touched by women (you dont freak out, look
embarrassed or overwhelmed, etc.), women wont know that you arent used to being touched.

As long as you do your very best to initiate physical touching with a woman, the woman wont
wonder why youre not progressing things and she wont think youre inexperienced.

People only know as much as you subconsciously or consciously tell them. It isnt deceptive to appear
confident and experienced. So that should be your goal. By achieving that goal, youll be able to
successfully attract a woman and gain sexual experience, which will of course cancel out the original
problem.


Does age matter?

The theme of the last two answers has been: X only matters as much as you allow X to matter. The
answer to the question Does age matter? sort of continues this theme, but does still require some
extra explanation.

There are some social rules that are extremely difficult to break or circumvent. One of them is: a
woman becomes less attracted to a man, the further away he gets from the womans golden age
bracket. The bracket changes depending on how old the woman is whos judging the man on his level
of attractiveness. A 50-year-old woman will easily find a 50-year-old man attractive if he
demonstrates the right things. An 18-year-old, however, would definitely be a lot harder for a 50-
year-old man to win over. Thats easy to understand, everyone knows that.

The reasons the age brackets differ can be understood when you think about the issue from a logical
point of view. A woman will only find a man attractive if that man can offer her something she wants.
A lot of this stuff relates to genetics and whats programmed into our brains through evolution.

Evolution has made women seek men who are young enough, strong enough and healthy enough to
live long enough and strong enough to protect them and help them raise kids. Women who are on the
older side themselves are more relaxed about this rule, as explained above. They have less to offer in
the way of youth, health, etc. so they expect less from men. It sounds really harsh, but its not too bad
when you think about it. We all want the best we can get. We want to be paired with people who are
similar to us or an improvement on us: a similar age, a similar or higher level of physical
attractiveness, etc.

So! Yeah, age matters if you fall at either of the extreme ends of the scale. The further away you are
from your key demographic (18-24 year olds for example), the harder attracting women in that
demographic will probably be. Your persona and game will need to especially good for you to
achieve success. But you really dont have anything to worry about. Check out the following table. It
roughly sums up what age you need to be for your age NOT to hinder you in attracting women of
varying demographics.

Your age Your easily achievable female demographic
18-25 18+
26-30 18+
31-35 24+
36-43 26+
44-46 32+


Your age Your easily achievable female demographic
47-55 39+
56-50 45+


Keep in mind that these guidelines can be broken if you have enough social skill. Theyre a rough
guide to what age means in the dating game (in the Western world).

What is attractive male body language?

The sole purpose of language, regardless of what kind of language it is, is to arrange information in
special ways so that it can be used to achieve something. A programming language follows this rule,
a verbal language follows it and, of course, body language adheres to it too.

Its important that you exhibit the right kind of body language when you are around women because
if you exhibit the wrong kind, you risk appearing as one or more of the following things:

Unconfident
Unsure of yourself
Anxious
Nervous
Inexperienced
Out of your depth
A follower, not a leader
Unmotivated
Embarrassed
Confused

None of those things is attractive. You need to exhibit the opposite of all of those things to appear
sexually attractive to the opposite sex. So, how do you do that?

We must know what your body language needs to say before we can go over how its going to say it.

You want your body language to show the following about you:

You feel comfortable and calm
You feel dominant, but not overly so, over your environment and the people in it
You are sure of yourself
You are masculine
You are positive
You have power and energy
You are in control

Now, how do you convey all of those positive attributes through the things you do with your body?

Economy of movement

To look laid-back and sure of yourself, you need to be economical with your body movements. In
other words, dont move more than you have to. Were not talking about being a zombie or a
vegetable. Were talking about removing all of the superfluous, unnecessary movements and actions
from your body language, because they are so often products of anxiety and insecurity. If you remove
the products of anxiety, you effectively remove any evidence of itwomen therefore see you as
confident.



The kinds of unnecessary actions and movements were talking about are:

Touching your face when you dont need to (when most people touch their faces, its not to
scratch an itch or brush away some dust, its because their emotions are telling them to release
some tension through movement).

Fidgeting, shifting your weight from one side to another, from one foot to the other, etc.

Showing unnecessary facial expressions, like raising your eyebrows too much, pursing your lips,
biting your lips, biting the inside of your cheek, etc.

Fiddling with objects, like a drink, a button, something in your pocket, etc.

You get the idea. The reason you want to remove these kinds of things from your body language is
because the only reason youd do them would be due to your mind experiencing anxiety or worry
and thats not something you want women to see.

Speed and flow of movement

For all other movements, you want to make sure you move fluidly and smoothly. Dont jerk your
hands about or snatch for things, like drinks. Go slower, but not too slow. Just focus on your actions
being calm.

Casualness and Relaxedness

To look relaxed and casual, you should remember to stay loose. Tension in your shoulders should be
released. Take a look at the following photo-realistic illustrations.







The top one shows the guy sitting next to the girl. He is leaning towards her as they speak. So many
men do this. They think its good to look like youre listening and focussed on the woman, so they
lean right in to get their heads closer to her. The trouble with doing this is that you dont look relaxed;
you look tense. If you are leaning forward, your muscles must be tensed and the woman knows this.
By leaning forward, you show that youre a bit too interested in what the woman is sayingyoure
outcome dependant, desperate to make the conversation go well and keep it from dying. Its like you
want the woman to focus on only you, so you get right up close to her. A much more relaxed, casual
and confident thing to do is sit straight or even lean back a little. You can still hear the woman and if
you need to raise your voice a little so she can hear you, you do just that. This way, you look calm and
not overly committed to the conversation (which is attractive to the woman).

The bottom left illustration shows the importance of having good posture. You should keep your back
straight, your shoulders rolled back but still relaxed and your chin up. Having the right posture can
make the difference between looking tired, bored, unconfident and unhealthy and looking strong,
awake, healthy and confident.

The bottom right illustration shows how leaning against something can instantly make you look more
relaxed and casual. When you stand bolt upright as you talk to a woman, you look too alert, like
youre ready to sprint away at the first sign of danger. A confident, relaxed guy doesnt appear this
way. He is secure enough to relax against a wall or sit back against his seat, instead of leaning
forward.

Dominance and Control

The more space you take up around you, the more dominant you tend to look. So, when you sit
down, stretch out your legs a little, instead of keeping them tucked under your seat. Rest your elbow
on something next to you. Recline a little. Dont do it too much, or youll look try-hard.

Walking

A confident attractive male walk goes like this. You should look like youre walking to get
somewhere, but you arent rushing to get there. Youre walking with purpose but not haste. Your
chin should be up, your arms should be relaxed and moving calmly by your sides, your back should
be straight and your chest should be pushed out just a little bittoo much and youll look stupid.
Look at guys in movies. Pick one that looks like he has the kind of confidence you want and study his
walk. Adopt the positive things you notice.

How do I beat approach anxiety?

First lets define what approach anxiety is. The pure definition of approach anxiety is:

The feeling of nervousness, apprehension and dread you experience while contemplating the idea of
approaching a woman or group of people containing women with the intention of trying to create
attraction. In fact, not just while contemplating approaching them, but also while youre physically
walking towards them and when you open your mouth to speak your first words.

The physical symptoms include a dry mouth, profuse sweating, a lump in your throat, nervous body
language, feelings of self-doubt and an overall drop in mood. Approach anxiety sucks, because for
most men its the only thing thats stopping them from being able to meet, interact with and hopefully
attract new women. But for some reason all men experience it to some degree or another. Lets briefly
see why that is.







The Causes of Approach Anxiety

There are many reasons men experience approach anxiety, some of them are:

It is evolutionarily programmed into the male brain to fear approaching women because in the
distant past if the approach was unsuccessful it could result in the man being ostracised from his
group and his chances of finding a partner could therefore be effectively reduced to nil.

Men fear the embarrassment of looking like a fool, not least in front of the women they look up to
and consider so attractive.

Men feel that their motives for approach random women are transparentthey want to hit on
them. They see this as a major hurdle.

Men dont want to have the idea of being socially inept and unattractive reinforced in their minds
by failure, so they avoid failure by avoiding approaches.

The concept of approach anxiety can be broadened and re-categorized as a general fear of socially
failing in front of attractive women. Its as simple as that: you dont want to look like an idiot in front
of hot women. You wouldnt care if you spilt your drink on yourself in front of an 84-year-old woman
half as much as if you would if you did the same thing in front of a woman youd consider to be a
true 10.

There are two main ways to reduce your fear of failing. The first is to philosophize about the problem,
by asking yourself questions like:

What is the worst possible thing that could happen after I make this approach?

How much do I care about what a person Ive never met before thinks of me, especially if Ill
never meet them again?

Why should I be more nervous than the person Im approaching? What is the difference between
them and me?

This kind of philosophical approach can help if its given the right amount of dedication. You need to
get deep into what makes you tick and what the facts really are: attractive women arent any different
to wrinkly old women or young guys at the level of the brain. There is no objective physiological
reason you cant approach a group of 10s, confidently start a conversation with them and somewhere
down the line attract and close one of the girls. Its just hard at the moment, because like most men
youve a got a lot of unhelpful programming locked in your head.

Anyway, putting the philosophical approach aside, the easiest and probably the most effective way to
beat approach anxiety is called habituation. If someone is petrified of spiders, philosophising might
help them adjust their understanding of what the facts are: spiders arent harmful, etc. But if that
person has a spider dropped in their lap, theyre still going to jump 6 feet in the air. The fear is
engrained in their head. So, they should use habituation to solve the problem. First they force
themselves to think about spiders. Then they think about holding a spider. Then they watch a film of
someone holding spiders. Then they see someone in real life hold a spider. Thenafter a LOT of
previous habituationthey hold one themselves. The process is more complicated than that, but its a
good example of what habituation is.

The more youre exposed to negative or neutral stimuli, the less youll respond to it.



So, you need to get out there and start making approaches. You need to treat it seriouslyno messing
around. Get in there and approach a group. Youll be scared at first. And at second. And at third. But
slowly youll become more acclimatised to it.


How do I invent my own openers?

An opener is a statement or a question that you use to start a conversation with a woman or a group
of people containing women. There are good openers and there are bad openers. Good openers
follow these rules.

They are unusual and not boring. They are not what women usually get asked by random men.

They are high value. The man should not be seeking approval from the woman or showing too
much interest in her too soon.

They should be fairly short, so that the women dont tune out halfway through the opener.

If there can be a little bit of humor in the opener, then its a benefit.

The opener shouldnt feel too contrived, like its purely a way to start talking to the women. It
should appear to have a some depth. The women should want to respond, not just feel like they
have to.

The problem a lot of guys who are just starting out in this game have is that they dont feel
comfortable using canned materialpre-written or planned openers. First, they usually dont feel like
the openers match their personalities, which makes them harder to deliver effectively, and second,
they worry that the woman will have heard the opener beforewhich obviously wouldnt be a good
thing.

First off, most openers arent that common and no opener is more common than the most frequently
used pick-up lines. So you dont need to worry that much about getting caught out. Next, the openers
dont feel natural for you. This can be a more important issue, because one vital ingredient for an
opener going well is naturalness. If you look uncomfortable or unsure of what youre saying when
you deliver the opener, it is going to die, along with your chances of attracting one of the women.

Here is what is recommended you do when youre just starting out.

Use the best canned material you can at the very start. Select 3-5 great openers and trial them to
see which two are the best, then select the one which beats all the rest. Use that one to build your
confidence and hone your approach skills.

Adapt your two best openers so that they match your personality and delivery style a little more.
Learn from what youve been experiencing; when youve delivered your openers, which choice of
words, speed of delivery and level of energy worked best?

Now invent your own opener based on the 5 rules youve just learned. Make it quick, interesting
and unusual and deliver it confidently and WITHOUT it seeming like all youre trying to do is
wriggle your way into the group.

For example, some well known and very successful openers relate to the differences between men
and women. Women seem to like talking about this kind of thing when theyre huddled in groups,


because it can be quite controversial and gossipy. So, based on that knowledge, you can invent your
own opener. Which of the following two openers would you say is best?

1. Hey, quick question. Do you think guys are better at reading maps than women?

2. Hey, I need an opinion on something important. Do you girls think its okay for a guy to carry an
umbrella? *Yeah, sure!* What about if he carries it even when its sunny, to keep the heat off him?

The second one is better, because its more unusual, more specific, more interesting and more
humorous.

How do I know if she is attracted to me?

This question is a little bit slippery, so we need to break it down a bit. The question can mean a few
different things, depending on who the word she is referring to and what kind of attraction youre
wondering about. For example, this question could be asked about the following scenarios and
produce three very different answers.

1. Ive been married to my wife for twenty years. Is she attracted to me?

2. Theres a girl in my biology class who I talk to quite a lot. Is she attracted to me?

3. Ive just started a conversation with three girls. 2 minutes have passed, is the one of the left
attracted to me?

Today well mostly focus on the kind of scenario described in number three. In a way, this kind of
scenario is the purest you can get. The women have only just met you. They have no preconceptions
of what youll be likeno one has told them about you. They can only judge you based on what you
look like and what you say and do. In this situation, how can you determine whether or not a woman
is attracted to you?

Here are the things you should look and listen out for.

Head and Face

Eye contact increases. She holds your gaze for longer, more intense periods before looking away.

She starts to smile more than before. When she does smile, you can see that the muscles around
her eyes crinkle just a little indicating a genuine smile.

She nods more while youre talking, showing that youre on the same level and that she agrees
with what youre saying, even if youre not making a specific statement or expressing a definite
opinion on something. Combined with wide open eyes and a smile, increased head nodding is a
very strong sign a girl is attracted to you.

She tilts her head slightly to one side. This head gesture indicates that she subconsciously wants
you to know that shes listening and interested in what youre saying.

She licks her lips more often, drawing your attention to her mouth, which is a secondary sexual
feature of the female body.

She purses/clenches her lips LESS often. Pursed or tensed lips are often signs a person is a little
bored. Women dont mind tensing their lips around people theyre not attracted to, but will rarely


do it when talking to men they feel sexual chemistry withsimply because they need their lips to
look attractive and inviting.

She bites the inside of her cheek LESS often. This is the mouths equivalent of the twiddling of our
thumbs. The less she does it, the better it is for you and your chances with her.

She tilts her head downwards a little, lowering her chin down closer to her chest and widening
her eyes at the same time. Women subliminally do this because it makes their faces more
attractive to the basic instincts present in the male brain. Bigger eyes appeal to the male sexual
psyche.

Conversely, women often lower their upper eyelids a little when theyre attracted to the man
theyre talking to. They are often known as bedroom eyes and are reminiscent of the facial
expression seen on womens faces when they reach orgasm. When women give you bedroom
eyes while you talk to them theyre indicating that theyre in a sexual state and want you to know
it.

She gives you a sort of slightly sideways glance instead of positioning her face so its looking
directly at you. This is a womans way of creating sexual tension between you and her. The
sideways glance is saying chase me.

She tilts her head to the side slightly. Its not only a sign she wants to appear to be listening to you
and everything youre saying, its also a way of exposing her neck to you and therefore appearing
a little vulnerable. She sees you as an attractive, dominant man and wants you to know it.

She flicks her hair from one side to the other. Doing this accomplishes three things. First, it draws
your attention to her long, feminine hair (a positive sexual feature in the male evolutionary
brain). Second, it exposes her neck (see previous point). Third, its a noticeable, attention-grabbing
motion. The movement makes you want to look at the person thats made it. Just like when
youre walking down the street and you see a movement out of the corner of your eye. You
naturally glance in its direction to see what it is and what it could mean to you, your safety and
your general situation.

She draws your attention to her mouth by touching or stoking her lips.

She rubs her face, head or neck for a moment with one of her hands. This raises her arm, drawing
her breasts up, closer to your line of sight and exposes her underarms an effective way of
blasting her pheromones out in your direction.

This one mainly applies before you approach and start talking to a girl. She makes eye contact
with you, then, a split second after your eyes meet, looks away and turns her head either
downwards or to the side.

Her blink rate increases, which draws your attention to her eyes and long, fluttering eyelashes.

Arms and Torso

She drops any physical barriers that were present between you and her. For example, her arms
held across her body or drink held in front of her chest.

She strokes the back of one of her hands with the other, drawing attention to her soft skin and the
idea of caressing it.

When she makes gestures with her hands, they move in close to you for a moment, perhaps even
touching you briefly.



She pulls her upper arms tight in to the sides of her breasts, making them look fuller and more
pert.

While you talk, she rests one of her elbows in the palm of her hand while holding her other hand
palm-up.

She gently encircles one of her wrists with her hand and glides it up and down her arm.

She exposes one or both of her wrists to you. This indicates that she recognizes and likes your
dominant presence and shows that shes happy being submissive to you.

She sits with her torso facing in your direction with good posture, not slumping.

She fingers and plays with her jewelry, especially her necklace.

She touches your hand, shoulder or thigh while talking to you.

Legs and Feet

She brushes her thigh up against yours more than once.

She crosses her legs and POINTS THEM IN YOUR DIRECTION. This accomplishes two things.
First, it makes her legs look longer (which is a turn-on and attractive to the subliminal male mind
because it indicates youthfulness, and therefore fertility, in the female). Second, by pointing them
in your direction shes signalling that its you she wants you to notice her and her sexy legs.

She crosses her legs, dangling her foot with her shoe hanging a little way off. Women wearing
high heels do this a lot. Its a subliminal message that, as well as doing whats described in the
point before this one, says: Im tired and about ready for bed

She crosses then re-crosses her legs the other way. This doubles the effectiveness of crossed
female legs, because of the very noticeable movement thats involved in the action of re-crossing
them.

Voice/Speech

She interjects while youre talking with enthusiastic words and phrases like, Really?, Yeah
and Mmm This shows that she wants you to know that shes interested in what youre saying
a good way of getting you to like her back.

She matches your speech speed and tonality. This means that shes speaking at the same rate as
you and with similar inflections and nuances.

She echoes some of the phrases and words you have primarily been using. For example, a few
minutes after youve said it, she might also use the word gigantic or say the phrase Do you
know what I mean?.

The general tone of her voice becomes more enthusiastic and happy-sounding. She is quicker to
respond to the things you say and not afraid to interrupt you. This shows that she feels really
comfortable in your presence.

She uses the words I, my and me more often to get you thinking and imagining her as
much as possible in your minds eye.



General/Behavioural Changes

She moves in closer to you so that your bodies are less than 12 inches apart.

She mirrors your actions a moment after youve made them. For example, by taking a sip of her
drink just after you take sip of yours.

She uses flirtier language and smiles in a mischievous way at you (women will only tend to do
this if you yourself are flirty).

Your gut tells you she is enjoying your company and is attracted to you. Trust your gut if its
giving you this impression the chances are that you HAVE been picking up on positive signs
from the female and that they are good indicators that shes sexually attracted to you.

Remember that no woman will ever give you all of the signals and signs listed here (imagine how
much shed be doing with her arms, legs and head!) Instead, youll notice a few of them. For example,
exposed wrists, a tilted head and lots of words that signal agreement with what youre saying. Youll
develop your attraction-detection ability over time, but when youre just starting out, focus on just a
few of the main signs of attraction.

Lots of extended smiling
Giggling
Looking up at you, tilting her chin down
Moving closer to you
Teasing you to see how youll react and to get you to tease her back
Touching you in any way


How do I keep conversation flowing?

YOU: So, you from around here?

HER: Well, I live about half an hour away.

YOU: Oh, right. You been here all your life then?

HER: Yeah, pretty much!

YOU: Cool. Andermwhat kind of stuff do you like?

HER: I dont know. Normal stuff really.

YOU: Cool. Bye! *RUNS*

This is a pretty typical example of the problem men face when in conversation with a woman they
barely know, whom theyd love to sexually attract. Because theyve never met, they dont know
anything about each other. As a result, theyve got all their work ahead of them. They need to cover
hobbies, likes and dislikes, favorite music, current dating status, where they live, what they work
asblah, blah, blah. Its hard work sometimes, which is why some women dont enjoy the idea of
launching into long conversations with guys they dont now (and who are probably only talking to
them for one reason anyway).



So, based on these facts, you should start all conversations with women in a very specific way; it
should be fun, unserious and NOT too deep.

Dont start reeling questions off at her. She WILL answer them, but she probably WONT enjoy
the conversation, because its so one-sided. Think about it, is you asking a hundred questions a
good demonstration of independent high social value? No. Why do you care so much? Why
arent you laid back enough to allow HER to speak and ask you questions?

Avoid the standard questions until later. Dont ask what she works asdont ask anything like
that. If you have to ask a standard question, make sure its preceded and followed by a fun,
unusual statement or question.

Learn the art of prompting. This is a great way to give the woman an opportunity to speak
without asking her a question (which can feel way too much like an interview). She says
something, like Well, I wouldnt say I LOVE my job. Its okay. And you prompt her to speak
again by saying something like Yeah, I bet youre always wandering around the office talking to
all the boys. Think how much better a slightly teasing statement like this is than a question like
How long have you worked there? Most men never venture out of the safe zone when theyre
in conversation with women, which is no doubt why they never get to venture into attraction
land with those same women.

Remember that you dont need to always be in a one-to-one conversation with your target
woman (if we have to use the word target). In fact, its often better to be talking as part of a
threesome (you, plus the target, plus one of your friends or her friends). This releases a lot of the
tension because neither you or your target has to be speaking to keep the conversation alive,
thanks to that extra person. You can also say things to the third party person that tease your
target. You can ask them questions about her in FRONT of her, which is always fun.

Finally, as long as you stay really relaxed and dont look panicked when the conversation slows
down a bit (dont immediately jump in to save it, etc.), it should be fine. If you feel you and target
slipping into the standard back-and-forth conversation model, switch it up by bringing someone
else in or taking her to meet your friends at another location within the venue. Keep things
changing and the conversation will keep on flowing.


How do I touch a woman when I first meet her?

Tactility (physical touching) is a vital part of interacting with women if you plan on sexually
attracting them. Without it, its nearly impossible to transition from stranger mode into a womans
partner prospect. Tactility is what should separate your relationship with a new woman from her
relationship with any other guy in the venue (as well as the banter, flirting and teasing you and her
are engaging in). So, how do you start tactility off on the right foot? Or any part of her anatomy, for
that matter.

Your first goal when it comes to tactility is letting the woman know that you are naturally tactile
person. You arent a groper, youre just comfortable with mutual physical touching. By establishing
this fact from the outset, youll be able to transition into frequent instances of tactility without it
seeming like a sudden shock to the woman. If you go from no touching, to suddenly resting your
hand on the womans knee, it will feel intense and forced, like youve suddenly decided to get things
moving. You obviously dont want this.

Two very good ways to establish tactility early on are:



The shoulder touch

You lightly touch the outside of the womans upper arm as you say something energetic or funny.
If you do this wrong, it will seem extremely random and scary. So wait until you know it will feel
naturalbut dont wait all night. If you cant pull off the shoulder touch, you can do a bit of


Hand tactility

Our hands arent a very intimate part of our bodies, because were always touching stuff with
them, shaking other peoples hands, etc. So, they are an excellent place to start when you first
initiate tactility with a woman. After your opener, transition into normal conversation. Keep the
conversation flowing in a fun way, with a bit of joking and teasing thrown inthere should be
high energy throughout. Now transition into a topic that relates to men and women in some way.
For example, Yeah, my little sister is like that. You know whats crazy, shes 12 years old but has
the same size hands as me. So either I have the hands of a little girl or my sister is a mutant freak.
Obviously I reassure her that the second thing is true. Here You then raise your hand palm
outwards. The girl in front of you will lift hers and place it against yours to compare sizes. If her
hand is roughly the same size as yours, you can quickly say Mutant freak then move your hand
to the next girl. This is a GREAT way to tease your target and initiate hand tactility with her. Use
this routine, because its golden.


How do I get her phone number?

The simple answer to this question is: if you can sexually attract her, you wont need to get her phone
number, because shell be practically throwing it at you. Of course, this question is more about exactly
what you say and do after attracting the woman to make getting her phone number a smooth, stress-
free action.

There are three pre-requisites that you should make sure are in place before you attempt whats
known as a number-close.

1. There MUST be sexual attraction. You need to have spoken to each other long enough for her
to feel attracted to you in a pretty big way. Use your knowledge of female body language,
along with your gut instinct, to determine how much you have or havent attracted your
target before you do the number close.

2. There should at least a little bit of comfort developed between you and your target. Comfort
happens after attraction has been established. It is created through slightly deeper one-on-one
conversation, during which you discuss more personal topics, likes dreams and ambitions.

3. You should be suitably distant from her friends. If youre in the middle of her friends when
you ask for her number she might feel uncomfortable, even if shes attracted to you.

Next, no matter what words you use to propose the idea of you and her swapping numbers
(which is a lot better than you just getting hers), you should deliver those words in the following
way.

Confidently. If youre nervous, the number close wont go as smoothly as it could.

Clearly. No mumbling or stuttering allowed.



Directly. In conversation, its important you dont quickly skip from subject to subject because
doing so shows that you dont really care what you talk about with the girl, just that you are
talking to her. This lowers your value in her mind, because youre putting her on a pedestal that
says she deserves special attention and adoration. In closing, a similar concept applies. When
youre specific in your closing suggestion, you show that you are interested in doing a particular
thing with the girl; something youve thought about and decided would be fun. When you make
the suggestion to the girl, she recognizes this and likes it-which makes her say yes. However, if
you are vague in what you suggest when you close, the following message is conveyed to the girl:
I dont really care what we do or when we do it, all I know is that I want to see you again! If the
girl is VERY into you, she might not mind this too much, but as a general rule, you should avoid
sending this kind of message. Instead, take a much more laid back approach, make the proposal
specific and deliver it confidently.

Probably the best method you can use to close is to ask her she if wants to join you and some of your
friends to do something soon that is already planned. This is powerful because it shows

You have a good social circle.

The situation wont be too intense for her, because it wont be one-on-one.

There will be other girls there for her to talk to.

The event is already planned, so youre not just inventing it for her sake.

Obviously you need to be able to arrange a real event with some your real friends to use this closer. It
is definitely something you should aim to do though. When she agrees, swapping numbers is the
most natural and expected thing you could possibly dohow else could you arrange anything? Its
perfect. It makes the number swap so easy.


When do I kiss the woman and how do I do it?

Kissing a girl is a big move for most men and takes a lot of guts to carry out. But honestly speaking,
most guys make more out of it than is necessary or warranted. They see more of an obstacle than is
really there. Youre now going to learn a few simple facts and rules that will together make kissing
girls much, much easier. There are two parts to getting it right every time. First you need to know
when a girl is ready to be kissed by you.

Possessing this skill will clearly give you a massive advantage when dealing with the whole first
kiss thing.

Women will signal their sexual interest in you before you kiss them by touching and making
physical contact with you every now and then. Pay attention to how and with what frequency
girls touch you. They might casually brush your hand with theirs, tap you on the thigh to get
your attention, or touch the outside of your upper arm while talking to you. When you notice
these moments of contact, take them as theyre meant: as signs the girl feels physically
comfortable with you and likes your company.

Look for other signs a girl is attracted to you too. Is she playing with her hair? Smiling at
everything you say? Refer to the How can I tell if shes attracted to me? section of this crash
course. Check the index to find it.



Unless youre in a loud club, on the dance floor and unable to hear each other, youre always
going to need to talk to a girl for a while before shes ready and willing to kiss you. The club kiss
is the exception to the rule because some people in some clubs behave differently to other people
in other places. Forget about kissing a girl without first having a conversation with her. 95% of
the time youre going to need a good deal of verbal interaction before you can kiss her.

Trust your gut instinct. If you feel like the girl is having a good time with you and youve been
interacting with each other for a while (60 minutes and over is usually a pretty accurate
benchmark), then seriously think about kissing her. Use the rules that follow to do it.

Heres how to make the first kiss easy.

When you go in for the first kiss, you MUST do it confidently and spontaneously. Firstly, because
women find confidence and spontaneity attractive. And secondly, because if you show any
hesitancy or doubt about kissing her, shell feel similarly. If, however, you make it seem like the
smallest thing in the world, shes likely to think of it in the same way.

Most of the time you cant go from talking about mundane things like the weather and work to
suddenly leaping in and kissing the girl youre with. You need to already have flirted with each
other using your body language AND your topics of conversation and comments. Dont be crude
and talk directly about sex though, unless she brings it up first. Instead, tiptoe around hot topics
to create a strong sense of sexual tension.

If you simply cannot seem to find a way to go from talking to a girl to kissing her, use a verbal
bridge. That means overtly stating what you want to do. Thats right: you actually bring up the
topic of you kissing each other. Dont be afraid to do it. Once again, women appreciate and find
your ability to be outright and spontaneous attractive. They find it a relief, because most men are
so unsure of themselves it can take forever to get things rolling.

When it comes to initiating the first kiss with a girl, just remember the golden rule:

Make it seem like nothing and thats how shell see it. Have faith in the rapport and sexual chemistry
youve so far established with her. And be overt and blatant about the idea of kissing each other if
going in unannounced isnt your style. If youre upbeat, unembarrassed and confident about the
whole thing, shell be bowled over and only too happy to kiss you.

If you still feel like you need some specific words to say to set up the kiss, try the following. After lots
of attraction and some comfort has been established and once you KNOW the woman is sexually
attracted to you, get into a slower, calmer conversational mood. It should be just you and her. If shes
with friends, they should be at some distance to make this go as smoothly as possible. Look at her,
then move your head back a bit, like youre looking at her whole face. Smile just a little bit. When she
says, What? you say, Im really struggling to hold back from kissing you. Is that bad? The
likelihood of her saying yes is staggeringly low. Youve effectively said Shall we kiss? without the
intensity and expectation those words carry. She will either respond by saying No or something
like Not really. Either way, from her reaction youll know if she wants to kiss you. If she looks at
your mouth and goes quiet, kiss her. If she laughs and looks away a little bit, like shes slightly
embarrassed, leave the kiss till later.






How do I build comfort?

Comfort has been mentioned a few times so far, so before going into how to build it, lets define
exactly what it is.

Comfort should come after attraction. Comfort is a feeling of trust and relaxedness between you and a
girl. It is a bond that has been created through extended conversation and it can only be achieved
graduallyyou cant build comfort in the first 2 minutes of your conversation with a woman.

So, why do you want to build comfort with a woman? Sexual attraction is often not enough to make a
girl feel that kissing you, or doing more, is something she immediately wants to do. Its too risky
because she doesnt truly know what kind of person you are. She knows she finds you attractive, but
youre still somewhat of a mystery to her. She therefore needs to know that you really are a good guy,
with good intentions, who she can trust and get along with. For her to feel all of this, there needs to be
comfort between you and her. Here is how to build comfort:

At first, you will probably talk to your target as part of a group. You will therefore not be able to
(nor should you want to) only talk to her. You will have a general conversation, in which you will
demonstrate your high social value, your social intelligence, you sense of humor, etc.

After the conversation has been going for about 5 minutes, the girl should have become
somewhat attracted to you, or at least attracted to the idea of talking to you in more depth, to find
out more about you.

At this point you need to partially isolate your target. You need to move into a position where
you can stand or sit next to your target and talk to her a bit more privately than before. The other
members of the group can talk amongst themselves (having a friend of yours nearby to help this
happen is a good idea).

During your one-on-one conversation with your target, you can step up the banter and teasing a
little bit. Once you notice a few strong signs that she is attracted to you (refer to the section of this
crash course which deals with how you can tell if a woman is attracted to you), you can think
about increasing the amount of tactility thats going on.

Slowly build the attraction further. Bring one of her friends into your conversation, or one of
yours. You can switch to talking to someone else entirely, then return to your target. Just
generally work your social magic.

Once youre ready, you can isolate your target a little more. Move away from the group a bit by
possibly going to a seating area or the bar with her. Now you can start a longer, more personal
conversation with her. Drop the flirting just a little bit so that she can see youre genuinely
interested in her (which you should be!). Talk about topics that you couldnt talk about when you
first met her, because they would have been too hard-going and deep, like her hopes and her
past. Tell her details about your life which you wouldnt share with random people, but dont
pour your heart out to her for ages.

Start engaging in extended tactility, like placing and keeping your hand on her knee for a minute
or so. She should be initiating tactility too by this point.

By now you should be able to kiss each other. Use what you learned in the last answer to make
this go smoothly.

Return to the groupcomfort has now been established and can continue to be increased over the
next hour or so, or however much longer you have left together.



That was pretty much a description of the perfect process of attraction and comfort building. Your
interactions will always vary form this model, because thats the nature of real life. Sometimes the girl
will go and dance and leave you in the group, sometimes shell give you mixed signalsbut
whatever happens, make sure you focus on building comfort after attraction in roughly the same way
as what was described above.


Ive met this girlwhat do I do next?

If were going to talk about frequently asked questions, then this one should rank right at the top our
list. The only reason its not placed first in this crash course is that the questions and answers have
been roughly ordered to match where they fit in the process of becoming a pickup artist.

What does this question mean, then? It refers to that all-too-common scenario men find themselves in.
They meet a girl for the first time and really seem to hit it off with her. Their conversation is just
greatit really feels like theres a spark between the two of them. The night, or day, ends with the
guy and the girl saying bye. The guy cant stop thinking about her. Questions are racing through his
mind: Did she love it as much as I did? Is she thinking about me like Im thinking about her? etc.

And the biggest question floating around in his brain is What can I do to see her again and what
should I say and do when I do see her to make something good happen?

The best way to handle this scenario, to be honest, is to not let it happen. What I mean is, from this
day forward you should try your hardest to use as much of the advice and as many of the techniques
youve learned from this crash course as possible. If you do that, youll be much more likely to build
enough attraction and rapport with a girl to set things up from the outset. You wont need to wonder
if she enjoyed the conversation as much as you, because youll KNOW whether she did just from
looking at her body language and listening to what she said.

But lets imagine that youve done your best to build attraction and comfort with a girl and now you
need to make the next step. Heres what you should aim to do.

You need some kind of bridge between you and hera method of interacting with her. This
could be her phone number, her email address (not recommended), her social networking site ID
or the possibility of seeing her in person (she works somewhere public, shes your friends
housemate, etc.)

Once you have one or more methods of contacting her, you need to use one of them. A text is a
good place to start, because its not too personal or intense.

Refer to the section of this crash course on phone and text game for info on how to send the
perfect text, but for now just follow this general rule: Keep the text short, light-hearted, slightly
flirty and the kind of message that deserves or requires a response. Again, check the section on
phone and text game.

After a few messages have passed between you and her, you need to suggest the idea of meeting
up somehow. DO NOT suggest a dateyou dont know her well enough yet. Tell her youre
going to do something with your friends and she should come along to protect you or something.

The next time you see her, whether its part of an event like the one just suggested, start building
attraction and comfort in the way you should have when you first met her, and go from there.



Its hard to explain everything you need to do to make an extended early relationship with a woman
progress positively in just a few paragraphs, but the advice above should get you started.


How do I arrange and do a Day 2?

A Day 2 is the second time you properly interact with your target girl. So, lets say you meet, interact
with attract and close a girl in a nightclub. You mention that tomorrow youre doing some shopping
with some friends and she should come alongshe says yes. That shopping trip is your Day 2. But
Day 2s dont also have to be the day that comes directly after your first interaction. Day 2 just means
the second main event or interaction you share with your target. The reason Day 2s deserve some
explanation is because they can make or break your chances of dating a woman. If your Day 2 goes
wrong, you can either fall into a womans friends category or just fall off her social radar altogether.

So, what are the rules which must be followed to ensure your Day 2 with a woman goes as well as
possible?

Your work is not over just because a Day 2 has been arranged

Lots of men think that once theyve got a girls number and/or arranged a second meeting with
her, its plain sailingtheir work is done. This couldnt be further from the truth. Lots of your
work is still ahead of you, but stage one (initial attraction and mild comfort building) is certainly
out of the way.

Dont make the mistake of arranging a date as your day two. Just dont do itno dinner dates, no
restaurants, no coffee and cake with just you and her, no trip to the movie theater. You need to
avoid clichd dates at the start of your relationship with a woman (the first three interactions or
so).

You MUST avoid the common mistakes a lot of men make on Day 2s

They are:

Amplifying too quickly/being too keen, too soon

Amplifying too slowly/being too cold, for too long

Falling prey to clichd dating rituals (as just mentioned)

Showing theyre inexperienced

Sacrificing their value

Going straight to you and me

You must aim to gradually achieve the following goals

Build more mutually felt rapport and comfort.

Increase the mutual tactility more and more.

Maintain attraction and build it further.



Learn more about each other.

Develop in-jokes and things that are unique to you and her.

Silently establish in both of your minds that, as time goes on, youre becoming closer and
more of an item.

All of those things need to be done at the right speed. If you increase tactility too quickly on your Day
2, the girl will think youve adopted her as your girlfriend and will freak out as a result. If you dont
amplify things like tactility and comfort quickly enough, however, youll be sending the girl mixed
signalsyouve invited her yet you arent capitalizing on her being there. You could easily fall into
her friends zone by being this slow to progress things.

During your Day 2 (to be honest, and all of the time) everything you do and say around the woman
should fit with the following summary of your personality and lifestyle:

You are a popular, confident man with lots of friends of both sexes. You keep your social calendar pretty full, but
still live your social life at a relaxed, enjoyable pace. When youre with people you know, they cant help but
enjoy your company. When it comes to dating women, you adopt the following position. You are passionate
about meeting new people, male and female. You simply enjoy it. It fits right into your general attitude towards
life: to have fun and explore. When you meet a new girl, you at first treat her like you would any new friend.
You dont rush things, simply because you dont need to. Rushing through the getting to know you phase
would show that you rarely meet new people, especially new women, which isnt true. You dont have any
hidden agendas when it comes to dating women. Why would you? You dont need to care about when youre
first going to have sex or what the girl is thinking because these things always take care of themselves. Youre
capable of getting to know a girl at a relaxed pace but without it getting boring or going stale. Women love this
because it fits in with what they need. They want to get to know you more because theyre attracted to you. But
they want to take it at a comfortable pace. They dont want to skip right to dinner-dates, candle-lit meals and
buying roses and chocolates because these are things couples do when theyve been together for months, not days
or weeks. You feel the same. You dont want to skip to formal, conventional dating either. In fact, the thought of
dating the girl in this kind of way doesnt even cross your mind. You just want to hang out with her more, no
strings attached, no promises of whats to come and no pressure. But this isnt about being a hippy and
practising free-love. Its just about being a socially high status guy who regularly brings new women into his
social circle and also enters theirs. If things go well with you and a girl, youll take it further. Simple. No stress.
Its a mutually beneficial situation. The girl wants to be your girlfriend and you want to be her boyfriend. You
arent soul-mates, youre just two people enjoying each others time, personalities and, of course, bodies.

That may not sum-up your current approach to life, but it is the impression you should give the
woman on your Day 2. So, do things like.

Make your Day 2 a group event.

Dont rush into you and me talk, like youre already an item.



Flirt with her but dont drown her with your attention. Your friends get their fair share of your
time and positive attention, because they are, after all, your friends. This is a respectable,
attractive quality.

You basically need to seem ultra laid-back. You laugh, you joke, youre casual about whats going
on between you and the woman. Youre maintaining your social value and youre therefore able
to continue to build comfort between you and her, which will, in the end, lead to you and her
having sex and/or dating.


How do I meet and attract women during the day?
Daytime game is truly a challenge for even the seasoned pickup artist. Heres why:

At night time, people who are in public are invariably relaxing and socialising. The fact that they
are socialising makes it easier for you to approach them and introduce yourself. In the day time,
this isnt the case.

During the day, women tend to be by themselves. Theres a risk here of sounding like were
talking about hunting women like preywe are not. Its just the case that women out and about
during the day are usually by themselves. This can make approaching and talking to them
harder.

During the day, most of us have to do more; were at work, were shopping; were going from one
place to another. At night, people are in one venue and they stay there for a while. The fact that
people are on the move during the day means that meeting women during the day can be harder.

Those are the main reasons approaching women during the day can be more challenging than
interacting with them at night. So! What can we do about that?

First of all, you need to adapt to the different environment by following slightly different rules
concerning how you approach and open. They are:

In a club, you can walk up to a group of women and open using a pretty flirty and controversial
comment or question. If you do this during the daytime to one woman, you risk her thinking
youre crazy. You need to tone it down a notch. When you open, use slightly less energy than you
would in a clubafter all, it takes nowhere near as much volume or energy to get a womans
attention in the street as it does to get a groups attention in a loud club.

A safe bet when making approaches in the street is to use a situational opener. A situational
opener is one which relates to the environment and situation you and the woman are both in at
that time. By using a situational opener, you immediately establish some common ground
between you and the woman: your surroundings. For example: I dont hang around here that
much, is it always this busy? Thats a pretty vanilla opener, but thats a good thing: it wont
scare the woman away. She will feel like shes an expert being asked for her opinion in this case.
Yeah, pretty much. I think its because there are lots of places to eat around here. You can then
transition into a very short story relating to what she has just said. Yeah! I saw this guy walk out
of a little bar just down there and he was staggering about the place like he was going to explode.
Then he puked all over the sidewalk. It splashed up on this old ladys shoes and the look she gave
him was priceless. This very short, unusual anecdote (try to make yours based on truth) catches
the womans attention. It isnt boring, its funny and rare. She cant help but comment on it and
tell you that not all people around this area are like that. Youre not drunk right now are you?
Aha ha! No way, she laughs.



You need to use your common sense when making approaches on the street. If a woman is
walking in the opposite direction to you, its going to be very difficult to stop her and start a
conversation without her thinking Why is this guy stopping me? What does he want? I need to
be somewhere in 5 minutes. So dont attempt this kind of challenge without first developing
some pretty fine skills at daytime approaches.

The more static a woman is during the day, the easier shell be to talk to and attract. A woman
working at the deli counter of your supermarket is a hundred times easier to charm than a
woman on the move.

Thats a start. Make sure your body language is solid and your conversational skills are well
developed before attempting day time approachesespecially if you dislike the idea of getting shot
down, either metaphorically or actually. Use your head, be polite and genuine and make sure you
smile a lot.

How do I avoid falling into her friends zone?
A womans friends zone is one of 7 main categories a woman has for the men in her life. Aside from
men in their family, every man a woman knows falls into one of these 7 categories. They are.



Boyfriend material: The woman is sexually attracted to the man, feels comfort with him and sees him
as a prime candidate for being her boyfriend.

ABU material: Attractive but unsuitable. The woman is somewhat sexually attracted to the man, but
for one or more reasons he is not suitable boyfriend material (he has certain dislikeable
characteristics, he works far away, hes friends with all his ex-girlfriends, etc.)

Real friend material: Men in the womans life who are genuinely her friends who she sees on a
regular basis and whom she does not find sexually attractive.

LJBF material: Lets Just Be Friends. This is the category this section is mainly taking about. This is
the main one you want to avoid falling into when you start getting to know a woman.



The last two categories are self-explanatory.

The reason knowing what those 7 categories are is useful is because it can sometimes be hard to know
where you stand with a woman shortly after youve met her. You dont know if she finds you
attractive enough to date you, whether she genuinely wants to be friends with you because you get
on so well, or whether she felt a spark between the two of you at the beginning which has since died
and left you, the man, relegated to the LJBF zone.

The ways to know whether or not youre in the LJBF zone are:

Think about how you much effort you are each putting into your burgeoning relationship. Who is
working the hardest to keep things moving forward? (Who is texting the most, making the most
phone calls, concentrating on keeping the conversations fun, etc.)

How much tactility is there between you and the woman? Aside from its frequency, what kind of
tactility is it? Is it friendly only or is it bordering on sexual?

Have you crossed the line yet by kissing each other? If not, then thats something youll need to
do before you can truly be sure youre out of the Real friend zone or the LJBF zone.

The best ways to keep yourself out of the LJBF zone are:

Never let things rest and get stale. Every interaction you have with the woman needs to contain
flirting, teasing, humor and fun.

Things need to gradually move forward. Focus on amplifying tactility between you and the
woman so it gets slowly more intimate (lead up to touching her face, her hair, putting your arm
around her waist, etc.)

Dont miss your opportunity to kiss her. If you know the time is right, strike while the iron is hot.
If you dont capitalize on the chance to kiss her, you risk her thinking that you dont have the
ability to move things forwardthis could put you in her LJBF zone.

Never give her the impression that all you want from her is to be her friend. Always let teasing,
flirting and banter play big roles in your interactions.


How do I handle phone calls and texts properly?
Its not possible to spend all your time physically with your new prospectthe woman youve
attracted and, hopefully, had a Day 2 with. There are going to be lots of in-between times, when
youre not in each others company. Its therefore important that you dont let the positive dynamic
between you and the woman go stale during these times, considering how lengthy and frequent they
will be, especially towards the beginning of your relationship.

So, then, how do you handle phone calls and texts in the right way? How do you avoid coming off as
a loser who is pestering the woman for her attention?

Lets start at the beginning. How should you handle the first phone call you ever make to her? It will
probably occur either on the same day you meet her (making it about 5 hours after you meet her is
good) or one or two days later. Here are some ground rules.





The phone call should:

Be quick. It should NOT drag on any further than it needs to.

Not be an attempt to arrange anything. This same-day call is NOT the call youll make to arrange
your Day 2 with the girl. It serves a different purpose, which youll learn in a moment.

Be fun, upbeat and flirty. The call must be a positive, enjoyable verbal interaction. It should flow
easily and have something simple and straightforward as its subject matter.

End on a cliff-hanger style comment. The call should end with you saying something quick that
functions as a cliff-hanger style commentsomething that makes the girl think, I want to talk to
him more!

Seem as much as possible that its justified in some way. The girl will subconsciously know that
youre calling because you want to speak to her, but you should still make the call seem as much
like it has a real, justified purpose as possible. This way, you preserve your social value, while
still getting to talk to her.

Here is an example call which follows all of the rules above. You call and get her answer phone. Or, if
she picks up, you freestyle by pretending to be her doctor. Shell laugh the whole time.

Oh, Hi. This is professor John Mac.erm Macaroni? We met earlier in Eden (insert the name of
the real place you met). Im just calling to give the results of your test. Erm, yes, here we are. Yeah,
Im afraid youve tested positive for a hairy back and you have a 40% percent chance of developing a
mono-brow. The results for the explosive flatulence test havent come back yet, Im afraid. Ill get
back to you on that. No, seriously, though. This is John, I was calling to ask you something, but Ill
speak to you soon. Seya. You say it in a clear and confident way without sounding like youre trying
hard to impress her or make her laugh. Youre relaxed about it and you dont string out the This is
John, I was calling to ask you something, but Ill speak to you soon. Seya bit by umming and ahhing.

All of your phone calls should be free from tension. Make them last only as long as they need to and
follow all the rules of good conversation that you follow during face-to-face talks, like demonstrating
high social value, being funny without being outcome dependant, etc.

How about text messages? They should follow similar guidelines. Make the first few you send funny
and quick. Ask her a question, like:





You need to invent your own based on:

Your sense of humor

Her sense of humor

How much banter and jokiness there is between you and her

When the text is funny and not pressuring her into replying to you (if you said Do you want to see a
movie tomorrow? in your first text, shed feel pressured) she will happily reply with her own funny,
flirty message. THEN, after an exchange of positive texts has taken place, you can send one
suggesting you do something (like a group event). That way, the proposal is mixed into lots of
positive emotion and it therefore feels healthythe woman can easily feel comfortable about it.


How should I react if I get called out?
The more approaches you make, the more conversations you get into with women in nightclubs and
at parties and the more well-known the subject of attracting and seducing women as a social art
becomes, the more likely it is that you will get caught out by a woman. Some guys really fear this.
They worry that theyll be halfway through an opener and the woman will say Hang on a secondI
know what this is. Nice try and they will look an idiot in front of everyone.

Fortunately, getting around this problem is very easy. It is a two step process.

In your early days youll probably be using some canned materialpre-written openers and
whatnot. As such, theres a remote chance that a woman or, more likely, a guy in a group you
approach will know what youre doing and challenge you on it. In this case, you should say
something like See. I knew it. Here let me explain. Me and my friends have been talking about
what creates attraction. One friend says she thinks that the key to creating attraction is to be
unusual and saying interesting things, like what I just said to you. My other friend says that you
need big muscles and a deep voice. What do you think? This response justifies why you used the
canned line and then turns the focus back onto the girl, so she can give you her opinion on the
matter.

The much better way to handle the problem of getting called out is to invent your own material,
or, even better, to not class the things you say or do as material at all--its just natural. That way,
no one is ever going to say theyve heard something you just said before.




So, those are the pickup artists 20 most frequently asked questions and their answers. You should
now have a good general understanding of the basics of the game.



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