IMPACT OF SEPARATION

As A Whole:
sense of loss and failure
o The parent who was left have to cope with a sense of rejection
emotional and financial stress
o Lowers income/ Low occupational status/ Economic hardship
o Interparental conflict
reduce job productivity and performance
o Lowers income/ Low occupational status/ Economic hardship
impair learning and damage health
o Learning problems
o Interference with identity with changes in family position, the childs ego development may be
disrupted. (tentative)
o Affects the development of childrens positive self-esteem
o long-term subtle language problems
o problems with the internalization of conscience.
quality of parent-child relationships
o If the infants dependency needs are not met, the child will grow up to be one who continues to
think life owes him
o Secondary to the combined effects of the magical thinking and the Oedipal conflict, the child
may think the loss was related to his wanting the parent of the opposite sex all to himself.
This may have long term ramifications in terms of sexual identify issues. This can be
amplified in cases of sexual abuse.
development of the childrens gender role behaviour
lack of support during the separation process in general, including around issues of grief and loss.
o Regression in terms of dependency needs
o If the infants dependency needs are not met, the child will grow up to be one who continues to
think life owes him
o Adjustment Disorders
behavioral or emotional symptoms in response to a distressing event
significant impairment in their school work or social functioning.
High level of emotional distress
o Borderline personality problems
prolonged disturbance of personality function in a person
unusual levels of instability in mood; black and white thinking, or splitting
o Control issues will continue to impact the adolescents behaviors (especially if he feels a large
part of the decisions about his life are out of his control)
o all the way into their own adult years, the issue may be revisited many times
grief, hurt, anger and anxiety
o Younger children tend to feel guilty and responsible for the separation
o Depressive Disorders
significantly depressed mood
irritable, agitated, or fatigued
may suffer from feelings of worthlessness
o Anxiety Disorders
worry excessively and experience great anxiety.
Loss of interest to things you used to enjoy
Results in mistrust in others
o Undermining of the childs sense of security and trust
o become acutely aware of differences between themselves and their peers and these may lead to
problem behaviors with peers.
Discontentment with life
o increased expectations(adolescents)
o crave independence (adolescents)

a form of trauma (uncontrollable, unusual and perhaps persistent, and resulting in long term behavioral
change)
o Secondary to the combined effects of the magical thinking and the Oedipal conflict, the child
may think the loss was related to his wanting the parent of the opposite sex all to himself.
This may have long term ramifications in terms of sexual identify issues. This can be
amplified in cases of sexual abuse.
development of the childrens gender role behaviour
o Regression in terms of dependency needs
o Interference with identity with changes in family position, the childs ego development may be
disrupted.
o Control issues will continue to impact the adolescents behaviors (especially if he feels a large
part of the decisions about his life are out of his control)
issue of which parent is going to maintain custody
o Interparental conflict
o Lone parenthood
On Husband and Wife/ Parents:
The parent who was left have to cope with a sense of rejection
Interparental conflict
Lowers income/ Low occupational status/ Economic hardship
Lone parenthood
On Children:
Regression in terms of dependency needs
Undermining of the childs sense of security and trust
Younger children tend to feel guilty and responsible for the separation
If the infants dependency needs are not met, the child will grow up to be one who continues to think
life owes him
Learning problems
Interference with identity with changes in family position, the childs ego development may be
disrupted.
Affects the development of childrens positive self-esteem
Borderline personality problems
o prolonged disturbance of personality function in a person
o unusual levels of instability in mood; black and white thinking, or splitting
long-term subtle language problems
may display indiscriminate attachment to adults and have conflicting feelings about the good and bad
traits in himself and others.
Secondary to the combined effects of the magical thinking and the Oedipal conflict, the child may think
the loss was related to his wanting the parent of the opposite sex all to himself.
o This may have long term ramifications in terms of sexual identify issues. This can be amplified
in cases of sexual abuse.
o development of the childrens gender role behaviour
become acutely aware of differences between themselves and their peers and these may lead to
problem behaviors with peers.
problems with the internalization of conscience.
Control issues will continue to impact the adolescents behaviors (especially if he feels a large part of
the decisions about his life are out of his control)
all the way into their own adult years, the issue may be revisited many times
Depressive Disorders
o significantly depressed mood
o irritable, agitated, or fatigued
o may suffer from feelings of worthlessness
Anxiety Disorders
o worry excessively and experience great anxiety.
Adjustment Disorders
o behavioral or emotional symptoms in response to a distressing event
o significant impairment in their school work or social functioning.
increased expectations(adolescents)
crave independence (adolescents)
feel like they are in the center of a whirlwind
likely to go through periods of exhaustion, unpredictable behavior, rejection of one parent
Teen pregnancies
To The Society:
likely to become either suicidal or to act out in a variety of antisocial ways
Conduct Disorder
o aggression, destruction of property, or deceitfulness or theft
o acting in socially irresponsible ways
o violating the basic rights of others.
Social violence
likely to be exposed to alcohol, drugs, sexual activity, and other risky behaviors


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