Washington On Cultivating Character

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1. very !ction done in "o#pany, ought to be with $o#e $ign of
%espect, to those that are &resent.
2. 'hen in "o#pany, put not your (ands to any &art of the )ody, not
usualy *iscovered.
3. $hew +othing to your ,reind that #ay a-right hi#.
4. .n the &resence of /thers $ing not to yourself with a hu##ing +oise,
nor *ru# with your ,ingers or ,eet.
5. .f 0ou "ough, $nee1e, $igh, or 0awn, do it not 2oud but &rivately3 and
$peak not in your 0awning, but put 0our handkercheif or (and
before your face and turn aside.
6. $leep not when others $peak, $it not when others stand, $peak not
when you $hould hold your &eace, walk not on when others $top.
7. &ut not o- your "loths in the presence of /thers, nor go out your
"ha#ber half *rest.
8. !t &lay and at ,ire its Good #anners to Give &lace to the last
"o##er, and a-ect not to $peak 2ouder than /rdinary.
9. $pit not in the ,ire, nor $toop low before it neither &ut your (ands
into the ,la#es to war# the#, nor $et your ,eet upon the ,ire
especially if there be #eat before it.
10. 'hen you $it down, 4eep your ,eet 5r# and ven, without
putting one on the other or "rossing the#.
11. $hift not yourself in the $ight of others nor Gnaw your nails.
12. $hake not the head, ,eet, or 2egs rowl not the ys lift not one
eyebrow higher than the other wry not the #outh, and bedew no
#ans face with your $pittle, by appr6oaching too nea7r hi#
6when7 you $peak.
13. 4ill no 8er#in as ,leas, lice ticks 9c in the $ight of /thers, if you
$ee any 5lth or thick $pittle put your foot *e:teriously upon it if it
be upon the "loths of your "o#panions, &ut it o- privately, and if
it be upon your own "loths return Thanks to hi# who puts it o-.
14. Turn not your )ack to others especially in $peaking, ;og not the
Table or *esk on which !nother reads or writes, lean not upon
any one.
15. 4eep your +ails clean and $hort, also your (ands and Teeth "lean
yet without $hewing any great "oncern for the#.
16. *o not &u- up the "heeks, 2oll not out the tongue rub the (ands,
or beard, thrust out the lips, or bite the# or keep the 2ips too
open or too "lose.
17. )e no ,latterer, neither &lay with any that delights not to be
&layd 'ithal.
18. %ead no 2etters, )ooks, or &apers in "o#pany but when there is a
+ecessity for the doing of it you #ust ask leave< co#e not near
the )ooks or 'ritings of !nother so as to read the# unless
desired or give your opinion of the# unaskd also look not nigh
when another is writing a 2etter.
19. let your "ountenance be pleasant but in $erious =atters
$o#ewhat grave.
20. The Gestures of the )ody #ust be $uited to the discourse you are
upon.
21. %eproach none for the .n5r#aties of +ature, nor *elight to &ut
the# that have in #ind thereof.
22. $hew not yourself glad at the =isfortune of another though he
were your ene#y.
23. 'hen you see a "ri#e punished, you #ay be inwardly &leased3
but always shew &ity to the $u-ering /-ender.
24. 6*o not laugh too loud or7 too #uch at any &ublick 6$pectacle7.
25. $uper>uous "o#ple#ents and all !-ectation of "ere#onie are to
be avoided, yet where due they are not to be +eglected.
26. .n &ulling o- your (at to &ersons of *istinction, as +oble#en,
;ustices, "hurch#en 9c #ake a %everence, bowing #ore or less
according to the "usto# of the )etter )red, and ?uality of the
&erson. !#ongst your e@uals e:pect not always that they $hould
begin with you 5rst, but to &ull o- the (at when there is no need
is !-ectation, in the =anner of $aluting and resaluting in words
keep to the #ost usual "usto#.
27. Tis ill #anners to bid one #ore e#inent than yourself be covered
as well as not to do it to who# its due 2ikewise he that #akes
too #uch haste to &ut on his hat does not well, yet he ought to
&ut it on at the 5rst, or at #ost the $econd ti#e of being askd3
now what is herein $poken, of ?uali5cation in behaviour in
$aluting, ought also to be observed in taking of &lace, and $itting
down for cere#onies without )ounds is troubleso#e.
28. .f any one co#e to $peak to you while you are are $itting $tand
up tho he be your .nferiour, and when you &resent $eats let it be
to every one according to his *egree.
29. 'hen you #eet with one of Greater ?uality than yourself, $top,
and retire especially if it be at a *oor or any $traight place to give
way for hi# to &ass.
30. .n walking the highest &lace in #ost "ountrys $ee#s to be on the
right hand therefore &lace yourself on the left of hi# who# you
desire to (onour< but if three walk together the #id6dest7 &lace is
the #ost (onourable the wall is usually given to the #ost worthy
if two walk together.
31. .f any one far $urpassess others, either in age, state, or =erit
6yet7 would give &lace to a #eaner than hi#s6elf in his own
lodging or elsewhere7 the one ought not to e:cept it, $6o he on
the other part should not use #uch earnestness nor o-er7 it
above once or twice.
32. To one that is your e@ual, or not #uch inferior you are to give the
cheif &lace in your 2odging and he to who tis o-ered ought at the
5rst to refuse it but at the $econd to accept though not without
acknowledging his own unworthiness.
33. They that are in *ignity or in oAce have in all places &receedency
but whilst they are 0oung they ought to respect those that are
their e@uals in )irth or other ?ualitys, though they have no
&ublick charge.
34. .t is good =anners to prefer the# to who# we $peak befo6re7
ourselves especially if they be above us with who# in no $ort we
ought to begin.
35. 2et your *iscourse with =en of )usiness be $hort and
"o#prehensive.
36. !rti5cers 9 &ersons of low *egree ought not to use #any
cere#onies to 2ords, or /thers of high *egree but %espect and
high6ly7 (onour the#, and those of high *egree ought to treat
the# with aAbility 9 "ourtesie, without !rrogancy.
37. .n $peaking to #en of ?uality do not lean nor 2ook the# full in
the ,ace, nor approach too near the# at lest 4eep a full &ace
fro# the#.
38. .n visiting the $ick, do not &resently play the &hysicion if you be
not 4nowing therein.
39. .n writing or $peaking, give to every &erson his due Title
!ccording to his *egree 9 the "usto# of the &lace.
40. $trive not with your $uperiers in argu#ent, but always $ub#it
your ;udg#ent to others with =odesty.
41. Bndertake not to Teach your e@ual in the art hi#self &ro-esses3 it
$avours of arrogancy.
42. 62et thy cere#onies in7 "ourtesie be proper to the *ignity of his
place 6with who# thou conversest for it is absurd to ac7t the
sa#e with a "lown and a &rince.
43. *o not e:press ;oy before one sick or in pain for that contrary
&assion will aggravate his =isery.
44. 'hen a #an does all he can though it $ucceeds not well bla#e
not hi# that did it.
45. )eing to advise or reprehend any one, consider whether it ought
to be in publick or in &rivate3 presently, or at $o#e other ti#e in
what ter#s to do it 9 in reproving $hew no $ign of "holar but do
it with all $weetness and =ildness.
46. Take all !d#onitions thankfully in what Ti#e or &lace $oever
given but afterwards not being culpable take a Ti#e 697 &lace
convenient to let hi# hi# know it that gave the#.
47. =ock not nor ;est at any thing of .#portance break 6n7o ;est that
are $harp )iting and if you *eliver any thing witty and &leasent
abtain fro# 2aughing thereat yourself.
48. 'herein wherein you reprove !nother be unbla#eable yourself3
for e:a#ple is #ore prevalent than &recepts.
49. Bse no %eproachfull 2anguage against any one neither "urse nor
%evile.
50. )e not hasty to beleive >ying %eports to the *isparag6e7#ent of
any.
51. 'ear not your "loths, foul, unript or *usty but $ee they be
)rushd once every day at least and take heed tha6t7 you
approach not to any Bncleaness.
52. .n your !pparel be =odest and endeavour to acco#odate +ature,
rather than to procure !d#iration keep to the ,ashio6n7 of your
e@uals $uch as are "ivil and orderly with respect to Ti#es and
&laces.
53. %un not in the $treets, neither go t6oo s7lowly nor wit6h7 =outh
open go not $haking yr !r#s 6kick not the earth with yr feet, go7
not upon the Toes, nor in a *ancing 6fashion7.
54. &lay not the &eacock, looking every where about you, to $ee if
you be well *eckt, if your $hoes 5t well if your $tokings sit
neatly, and "loths handso#ely.
55. at not in the $treets, nor in the (ouse, out of $eason.
56. !ssociate yourself with =en of good ?uality if you stee# your
own %eputation3 for tis better to be alone than in bad "o#pany.
57. .n walking up and *own in a (ouse, only with /ne in "o#pan6y7 if
he be Greater than yourself, at the 5rst give hi# the %ight hand
and $top not till he does and be not the 5rst that turns, and when
you do turn let it be with your face towards hi#, if he be a =an of
Great ?uality, walk not with hi# "heek by ;oul but $o#ewhat
behind hi#3 but yet in $uch a =anner that he #ay easily $peak to
you.
58. 2et your "onversation be without =alice or nvy, for tis a $ig6n
o7f a Tractable and "o##endable +ature< !nd in all "auses of
&assion 6ad7#it %eason to Govern.
59. +ever e:press anything unbeco#ing, nor !ct agst the %ules
=ora6l7 before your inferiours.
60. )e not i##odest in urging your ,reinds to *iscover a $ecret.
61. Btter not base and frivilous things a#ongst grave and 2earnd
=en nor very *iAcult ?uestians or $ubCects, a#ong the .gnorant
or things hard to be believed, $tu- not your *iscourse with
$entences a#ongst your )etters nor @uals.
62. $peak not of doleful Things in a Ti#e of =irth or at the Table3
$peak not of =elancholy Things as *eath and 'ounds, and if
others =ention the# "hange if you can the *iscourse tell not
your *rea#s, but to your inti#ate ,riend.
63. ! =an o6ug7ht not to value hi#self of his !tchieve#ents, or rare
?ua6lities of wit3 #uch less of his rich7es 8irtue or 4indred.
64. )reak not a ;est where none take pleasure in #irth 2augh not
aloud, nor at all without /ccasion, deride no #ans =isfortune,
tho there $ee# to be $o#e cause.
65. $peak not inCurious 'ords neither in ;est nor arnest $co- at
none although they give /ccasion.
66. )e not froward but friendly and "ourteous3 the 5rst to $alute hear
and answer 9 be not &ensive when its a ti#e to "onverse.
67. *etract not fro# others neither be e:cessive in "o##anding.
68. Go not thither, where you know not, whether you $hall be
'elco#e or not. Give not !dvice with6out7 being !skd 9 when
desired 6d7o it brie>y.
69. .f two contend together take not the part of either
unconstrain6ed73 and be not obstinate in your own /pinion, in
Things indiferent be of the =aCor $ide.
70. %eprehend not the i#perfections of others for that belong6s7 to
&arents =asters and $uperiours.
71. Ga1e not on the #arks or ble#ishes of /thers and ask not how
they ca#e. 'hat you #ay $peak in $ecret to your ,riend deliver
not before others.
72. $peak not in an unknown Tongue in "o#pany but in your own
2anguage and that as those of ?uality do and not as the 8ulgar3
$ubli#e #atters treat $eriously.
73. Think before you $peak pronounce not i#perfectly nor bring ou6t7
your 'ords too hastily but orderly 9 distinctly.
74. 'hen !nother $peaks be attentive your $elf and disturb not the
!udience if any hesitate in his 'ords help hi# not nor &ro#pt
hi# without desired, .nterrupt hi# not, nor !nswer hi# till his
$peec6h7 be ended.
75. .n the #idst of *iscourse ask 6not of what one treateth7 but if you
&erceive any $top because of 6your co#ing you #ay well intreat
hi# gently7 to &roceed< .f a &erson of ?uality co#es in while your
"onversing its handso#e to %epeat what was said before.
76. 'hile you are talking, &oint not with your ,inger at hi# of 'ho#
you *iscourse nor !pproach too near hi# to who# you talk
especially to his face.
77. Treat with #en at 5t Ti#es about )usiness 9 'hisper not in the
"o#pany of /thers.
78. =ake no "o#parisons and if any of the "o#pany be "o##ended
for any brave act of 8ertue, co##end not another for the $a#e.
79. )e not apt to relate +ews if you know not the truth thereof. .n
*iscoursing of things you (ave heard +a#e not your !uthor
always ! 6$e7cret *iscover not.
80. )e not Tedious in *iscourse or in reading unless you 5nd the
"o#pany pleased therewith.
81. )e not "urious to 4now the !-airs of /thers neither approach
those that $peak in &rivate.
82. Bndertake not what you cannot &erfor# but be "arefull to keep
your &ro#ise.
83. 'hen you deliver a #atter do it without &assion 9 with
*iscretion, howev6er7 #ean the &erson be you do it too.
84. 'hen your $uperiours talk to any )ody hearken not neither
$peak nor 2augh.
85. .n "o#pany of these of (igher ?uality than yourself $peak not
ti6l7 you are askd a ?uestion then $tand upright put of your (at
9 !nswer in few words.
86. .n *isputes, be not $o *esireous to /verco#e as not to give
2iberty to each one to deliver his /pinion and $ub#it to the
;udg#ent of the =aCor &art especially if they are ;udges of the
*ispute.
87. 62et thy carriage be such7 as beco#es a =an Grave $ettled and
attentive 6to that which is spoken. "ontra7dict not at every turn
what others $ay.
88. )e not tedious in *iscourse, #ake not #any *igressigns, nor
rep6eat7 often the $a#e #anner of *iscourse.
89. $peak not vil of the absent for it is unCust.
90. )eing $et at #eat $cratch not neither $pit "ough or blow your
+ose e:cept theres a +ecessity for it.
91. =ake no $hew of taking great *elight in your 8ictuals, ,eed no6t7
with Greediness3 cut your )read with a 4nife, lean not on the
Table neither 5nd fault with what you at.
92. Take no $alt or cut )read with your 4nife Greasy.
93. ntertaining any one at table it is decent to present hi# wt.
#eat, Bndertake not to help others undesired by the =aster.
94. .f you $oak bread in the $auce let it be no #ore than what you
6pu7t in your =outh at a ti#e and blow not your broth at Table
6bu7t $tay till "ools of it $elf.
95. &ut not your #eat to your =outh with your 4nife in your ha6nd
ne7ither $pit forth the $tones of any fruit &ye upon a *ish nor
"as6t an7ything under the table.
96. .ts unbeco#ing to $toop #uch to ones =eat 4eep your ,ingers
clea6n 97 when foul wipe the# on a "orner of your Table +apkin.
97. &ut not another bit into your =outh til the for#er be $wallowed
6l7et not your =orsels be too big for the Gowls.
98. *rink not nor talk with your #outh full neither Ga1e about you
while you are a *rinking.
99. *rink not too leisurely nor yet too hastily.)efore and after
*rinking wipe your 2ips breath not then or ver with too Great a
+oise, for its uncivil.
100. "leanse not your teeth with the Table "loth +apkin ,ork or 4nife
but if /thers do it let it be done wt.
101. a &ick Tooth.
102. %ince not your =outh in the &resence of /thers.
103. .t is out of use to call upon the "o#pany often to at nor need
you *rink to others every Ti#e you *rink.
104. .n "o#pany of your )etters be no6t longer in eating7 than they
are lay not your !r# but o6nly your hand upon the table7.
105. .t belongs to the "hiefest in "o#pany to unfold his +apkin and
fall to =eat 5rst, )ut he ought then to )egin in ti#e 9 to *ispatch
6w7ith *e:terity that the $lowest #ay have ti#e allowed hi#.
106. )e not !ngry at Table whatever happens 9 if you have reason to
be so, $hew it not but on a "hearfull "ountenance especially if
there be $trangers for Good (u#our #akes one *ish of =eat a
,eas6t7.
107. $et not yourself at the upper of the Table but if it )e your *ue or
that the =aster of the house will have it $o, "ontend not, least
you $hould Trouble the "o#pany.
108. .f others talk at Table be attentive but talk not with =eat in your
=outh.
109. 'hen you $peak of God or his !tributes, let it be $eriously 9 6wt.7
%everence.
110. (onour 9 /bey your +atural &arents altho they be &oor.
111. 2et your %ecreations be =anfull not $infull.
112. 2abour to keep alive in your )reast that 2ittle $park of "e6les7tial
5re "alled "onscience.
113.
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