This document outlines a pastoral proposal from participants in a seminar on the family crisis to assist the Synod of Bishops on the pastoral challenge of the family. It contains 14 sections with proposals to:
1) Promote processes of peace, development, and a more just economy that supports families.
2) Welcome and support refugee/immigrant families, the elderly, disabled people and their families, and families in difficult economic situations.
3) Pay greater attention to families experiencing violence, women/children, and immigrant families struggling to reunite or gain citizenship.
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Family and poverty
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En - We Care! a Pastoral Proposal for the Synod Fathers - Seminary on Family and Poverty, 18.09.2014
This document outlines a pastoral proposal from participants in a seminar on the family crisis to assist the Synod of Bishops on the pastoral challenge of the family. It contains 14 sections with proposals to:
1) Promote processes of peace, development, and a more just economy that supports families.
2) Welcome and support refugee/immigrant families, the elderly, disabled people and their families, and families in difficult economic situations.
3) Pay greater attention to families experiencing violence, women/children, and immigrant families struggling to reunite or gain citizenship.
This document outlines a pastoral proposal from participants in a seminar on the family crisis to assist the Synod of Bishops on the pastoral challenge of the family. It contains 14 sections with proposals to:
1) Promote processes of peace, development, and a more just economy that supports families.
2) Welcome and support refugee/immigrant families, the elderly, disabled people and their families, and families in difficult economic situations.
3) Pay greater attention to families experiencing violence, women/children, and immigrant families struggling to reunite or gain citizenship.
A contribution by the participants in the Seminar The Family: a resource for overcoming the crisis to assist the pastoral refections of the Synod Fathers united for the IIIrd Etraordinary !eneral Assembly of the Synod of "ishops on The pastoral challenge of the family in the contet of evangelisation#
As a Christian community !ui"#" $y our Lor" %#sus Christ an" i&&uminat#" $y th# Wor" o' (o") $# %e %ant to refect on the impact %hich the &nancial' economic and social crisis has had on families today and ho% to relaunch an economy and society that are truly at the service of the common good# The globalised %orld has entered the lives of our families and can be an opportunity' if guided by values' but can also represent a ris( if its bene&ts are only en)oyed by a fe% and %ealth is concentrated in one sector' increasing the gap bet%een rich and poor' the included and ecluded' as has' unfortunately occurred over the last fe% decades# !ro%ing ine*uality' the numerous lives and families left on the margins of the so+called global mar(et urge us to eamine the economic system and prevailing %ay of thin(ing %ith a critical eye' to see( ne% roads for a more human economy and society and' as ,hristians' to respond to the great pastoral challenge of inclusion# The most %idespread feeling today amongst families in di-culty throughout the %orld is one of impotence and solitude in the face of an overbearing and crushing socio+ economic reality# For this reason %e are ready to dedicate our e.orts' as a ,hristian community' not only to reducing the negative e.ects $ that the crisis has on families' but also to altering the underlying structural causes through evangelical courage and &rm civil commitment# /# 0e %ould li(e to promote even further' through our prayers and actions' processes of peace and integral development' %hich appeal to governments and international institutions to %or( to%ards a more e*ual and peaceful %orld# 1igrations' no% obligatory as a result of %ars and poverty' famine and environmental disasters' have brought grief and separation to untold families and a brea(do%n in their net%or(s of friendships# 2ur commitment to furthering peace and reconciliation must go hand in hand %ith providing a %elcome' care and daily a.ection for refugee and immigrant families' and in particular the %omen and children traumatised by %ar and by etreme poverty and eploitation# 3# 2n the level on institutions' %e %ould li(e to promote still further constructive political action aimed at protecting shared rights and responsibilities' %hich re*uires nations to guarantee the right to a family' to promote housing and employment policies and other measures in support of young couples and families# Ecclesial communities and religious congregations %ith unused property are also called upon to ma(e a gesture of solidarity and to place these at the disposal of young couple in economic di-culty' %ho cannot get married as they have no%here to live# 4# In a %orld and culture that have made us used to ignoring the %ea( and the elderly' %e %ant to teach ourselves and our young to see old people not as a dead %eight that steals life / from the young' but as the pivot of the family' custodians of %isdom and of the memory of our roots' %ithout %hich %e cannot build a future# In the prevailing mentality' anyone %ho is not productive is seen as a loser# "ut' in reality' many elderly people5s pensions are used to support younger families a6icted by the crisis and unemployment' and the older generation often loo( after the young children# Sometimes the elderly say that they are a burden because they are afraid that nobody cares for them or sees them as a resource# They are afraid of their o%n %ea(ness and of life itself %hen it is di-cult# 0e %ould li(e to learn to love our older and younger people more' to give them more space and a greater %elcome into our communities# 0e are certain that in %hat appears as %ea(ness in the elderly there is also a great strength that provides us' also' %ith an opportunity for friendship' to rediscover our roots' to gro% in faith and to emerge from our egocentrism and reveal our best sentiments# 0e %ould li(e to create paths of faith and solidarity that cross all the generations' and not sectorial or eclusive pastoral proposals# 0e are open to pastoral roads that encourage a mutual meeting' sharing and enriching of the young' of adults and of the elderly# 0e also commit ourselves to strengthening %ithin our parishes the net%or( of protection and community support for families %ith grandparents and7or parents su.ering from Al8heimer5s or other degenerative diseases# In particular' %e %ant to be close to and to help families %ho live every day %ith relatives %ho have psychological illnesses and %ho feel abandoned in their su.ering# 9# 0e (no% of the %ealth of a.ection' creativity and faith that %e receive from disabled children and adults and their families# 3 All too often' the parents of these children feel that they are alone in trying to manage their presents and futures' and live %ith the constant %orry of %hat %ill happen %hen they are no longer there to protect their children# In ecclesial communities %e are %itnessing beautiful eperiences %ith young people su.ering from mental disabilities and their families# "ut sometimes these young people are not %elcomed correctly into our pastoral activities' oratories and catechism lessons# 0e %ould therefore li(e to involve ourselves more so as to ma(e these young people a resource of love for our community' valuing their abilities and learning from them the )oy of living and faith in our :ord ,hrist# 0e %ant to help their families in concrete terms to cope %ith the di-culties of daily life' &ght for the right to a an active social life for their children and build community eperiences that ensure they receive a.ection and care throughout their entire lives ;family support' family homes in the dioceses' etc# <# =# 0e %ould li(e to eplore all the pastoral paths for restoring trust and hope in the mothers and fathers of today# In crisis of values and socio+economic systems' the mediating role of the middle generation ris(s disappearing' crushed by unemployment and the disintegration of emotional bonds# 0e %ould li(e to accompany these parents in di.erent %ays' starting %ith helping them &nd a decent )ob so as to be able to create family relationships and space for dialogue and shared eperience# A ma)or pastoral challenge relating to families living in disadvantaged conditions and in uncertain emotional states is that of an education %hich starts from the eperience of love as lived in the community# It is for' us' essential' to strengthen pastoral actions in support of parents' understood as learning ho% to live and transmit love and solidarity even %here emotional ties bet%een adults have been severed# 4 The other great challenge is that of inter+cultural dialogue' 0e are called to reinterpret our o%n vision of the family in the light of the !ospel' %ith our starting points the real situation of families today and constructive dialogue %ith contemporary cultures# >arents today' and particularly single mothers or divorced couples' need to feel that they are understood' loved and supported in the )ourney through life' so as to be able to serve against as a lin( in the chain transmitting memories and values to their children# ?# In our pastoral %or( %e %ould to pay greater attention to families %ho are victims of violence and various (inds of aggression# 2ften' precisely because of their poverty' poorer families are obliged to entrust their children to unscrupulous individuals %ho promise to provide them %ith food' an education and a better future but %ho' in reality' reduce these children to a state of slavery# @nfortunately' there have also been cases of children su.ering and being removed from their families that have involved religious institutions# 0e %ould li(e to do our utmost to help poor families (eep their children' and prevent their being removed from their parents5 love because of the families5 poverty# 2ne of the saddest symptoms of individualism is violence against %omen' mothers and daughters# This violence often eplodes %ithin the family and many %omen are (illed every day all over the %orld# Seual abuse of children is also %idespread# and' behind many of these events lie hidden tales of solitude and poverty# 2ur ecclesial community cannot remain indi.erent in the face of such scandals and the calls for help' even %hen these are silent' of so many %omen and children# 9
A# Special attention must also be paid to immigrant families' and especially to their children %ho struggle to be reunited %ith their parents or en)oy full rights of citi8enship in the countries to %hich they have emigrated# 0e %ant to ma(e public opinion more a%are and urge parliaments and governments to pass la%s in favour of the full integration of immigrant families#
B# All over the %orld the families represent the main unit of society since they form a large protective net%or( in times of economic and social di-culty and are a lin( in the chain transmitting a culture of solidarity and fraternity# In traditional societies' li(e in Asia and Africa' this role is very clear and strong and families' especially in villages' ta(e care of each other and share %hat little they have for the good of the entire community# In the "antu language of sub+Saharan Africa' there is an epression ;%hich is also a philosophy< that perfectly epresses this community vision and is very close to our ,hristian eperience: ubuntu' that is' (indness to%ards the net man# And @muntu ngumuntu ngabantu' I am because %e are# 0e %ant to learn from our brothers and sisters of the southern hemisphere ho% to eperience these great values of sharing' hospitality' %elcome' mutual assistance for the good of all in our communities' values %hich are also those of the !ospel# $C# Despite variations in our cultures and social situations' %e are a%are that many families today go through periods of enormous fatigue and su.ering# 0hilst recognising the primary role of families in the teaching and transmission of values' %e do not %ant to burden families in di-culty %ith tas(s and responsibilities' thus rendering them even more fragile# So' )ust as %e must urge political institution not to load families %ith responsibilities that are = those of the collectivity and of the state as epressions of )ustice' %e must not overload families in di-culty %ith religious duties ' educational and pastoral tas(s that ris(s ecluding those %ho simply cannot cope# 0e %ould rather listen to these families and their needs' ma(ing room for encountering and comparing di.erent realities' for inter+ generational' inter+cultural and inter+religious dialogue# Today more than ever %e need to support these families along their path to rebuilding trust' relationships and hope through a net%or( of friendship and community support# $$# 1eeting today5s families reveals a %idespread poverty of emotional attachments' %hich turns into educational poverty and inability to form relationships in one5s o%n life# 2ften the &gure of a father or of adults %ho provide &rm and positive points is lac(ing# These di-culties cross all barriers of faith' social and economic condition or birth nation# Today there is a great need for relationships' for fatherhood and motherhood' but our ecclesial communities often seem afraid to eperience and build such attachments and become communities of motherhood# They tend to delegate the maternal role to others' a role %hich involves assuming responsiblity and caring for others# Thus the parishes ris( being li(e some%hat litigious apartment bloc(s %here relationships are ignored and the priests themselves are hard to contact# 0e (no% that %e %ill succeed in conveying the !ospel5s message of the beauty of the family only if %e ourselves are a family' if our communities are families# Then it %ill be natural for us to be close to families' nobody ecluded' and satisfy their need for relationships so as to build a net%or( of friendship that is also a safety+net in times of uncertainty# $/# Today' as ,hristian communities' %e must grasp the urgency of ans%ering the follo%ing *uestion: Do %e (no% ho% to be true builders of relationships' do %e (no% ho% to love one ? other and ta(e care of each other' especially the %ea(er and more fragileE Do people truly capable of loving their neighbours and ta(ing care of them really emerge from seminaries' ,atholic schools' catechism and the various marriage preparation courses o.ered or simply people %ho have ac*uired theological principles and (no%ledge to a greater or lesser degreeE 0e see ourselves as disciples of ,hrist insofar as %e (no% ho% to live together and through the *uality of our human relations# The ability to love and create positive attachments is not innate but is learnt and nurtured every day' follo%ing in the footsteps of ,hrist# It should be learnt in the family' in schools' in seminaries and should be the foal point in our parishes# For this reason' %e %ant to learn the teachings of Fesus' %ho di not teach about the pastoral family but himself built the family of the !ospel' %hich is' &rst and foremost' the family of the humble and of the poor' of those %ho listen and put into practice his %ords' and of his youngest brothers# From Gim %e must learn the alphabet of love and mercy %hich enables us to ma(e courageous choices and form friendships %ith all the families of today' %ith no eceptions# The &rst great step to%ards this encounter %ith families in di-culty is represented by the children# The greatest pastoral challenge for our communities is to ma(e space for them for love and human and spiritual gro%th# If %e can spea( the language of the young today' if %e can ma(e them love ,hrist not only in %ords but through beautiful and forceful eperiences' then %e shall easily reach their hearts and those of their distant parents# $3# 0e set o.' therefore' on a path that also leads to%ards those %ounded families' %ounded in their lives and in their a.ections' %ho do not enter our parish communities either A through a sense of shame or because they feel themselves to be )udged# 0e are thin(ing here of separated couples' the divorced and re+married and those living together outside marriage# 0e %ould li(e to be' as >ope Francis has ehorted us' an outgoing ,hurch' %ith open doors' capable of healing %ounds and %arming the hearts of the faithful' of slo%ing do%n' %hen necessary' to loo( people in the eye and listen to them and to accompany those left by the roadside# $ 0e hope that our pastors and theologians may &nd ne% eegetical' theological and pastoral directions so that these families can al%ays feel that they are an integral part of the community# 2ne of the roads to ta(e is that of sharing the service of charity' an ethic commitment and solid assistance for the poorest and most defenceless# This eperience %ill enable us to eperience together %ith !od and Fesus ,hrist the role of fathers and mothers of mercy and to feel that %e are part of a community from %hich no one is ecluded#
$4# :astly' %e %ould li(e to increase still further our a%areness that nobody is so rich that they can be given nothing' and nobody is so poor that they have nothing to giveH# / This means that every family can eperience the charity' hospitality and %elcome to%ards the poor' even in the midst of life5s uncertainties# The mystery of the poor reveals that %e are all poor and that poverty does not refer only to a fe% or to a group' but to all of us# The evangelical bliss of blessed be the poor ma(es us realise that %e are blessed %hen %e recognise our o%n poverty' the limits of our lives' and entrust ourselves to the :ord# Gere' by poverty' %e mean above all freedom from things: going beyond the right to property' at least as has been perceived and applied until no%I %e mean )ustice that is &nally and truly distributed and for the community# "y poverty $ >ope Francis' Evangelii !audium' J# 4=# / Dom Gelder ,amara# B %e certainly do not mean misery' and even less being miserableI %e mean man being ta(en for his absolute %orth and not for %hat he possesses# 3 @nfortunately' today' more than goods + %hich are for all + %e lac( a universal sense of the rights of every man to have at least the bare essentials# For this reason' poverty and the poor are a prophecy to %hich %e must listen# 0e %ant to live poverty as sobriety in our family and community lives' to share our goods and our time %ith the less fortunate amongst us' to listen to %hat poor families can help us learn for the good of our lives and our road to faith# 0e see eamples in those elderly individuals %ho go to visit other less fortunate old people living in institutions' or amongst immigrant families %ho' despite their di-culties' (eep alive a sense of hospitality and %elcome' sharing the little they have and the treasures of their cultures %ith those %ho accompany them along their path# For this light of charity to (eep burning it is etremely important that families create lin(s %ith each other and their neighbourhood and can live in fraternity and solidarity to%ards the %ea(est in their local churches' and also through the shared paths of their communities# $9# The !od of :ife' in becoming one of us' eperienced the life of a humble family' a simple' immigrant family in %hich he learnt to %or( %ith his hands' to ma(e gestures of solidarity and to heal the %ounds of the people of his time# Ge %ent to%ards families in di-culty' lived %ith them' ate and %ept %ith them' too( care of them li(e the good Samaritan# Ge sought out and lived also the lost sheep# Ge openly denounced in)ustice in defence of the %ea(est# And he never resigned himself to the status *uo but since then has %rought that change %hich only love can bring about# This is the ,hristian hope and the %ish that %e convey to our beloved "ishops' united in the Assembly of the Synod# 1ay our 3 Davide 1aria T@K2:D2' >rofe8ia della povertL' p# 3/# $C :ord ,hrist inspire their thoughts' give them the courage of prophecy and the love to live in communion this stage on the )ourney of the ,hurch' so important for all the families of the %orld# ;This message is a summary of the pastoral eperiences and proposals shared by the participants of the seminar organised by ,aritas Internationalis and the >onti&cial ,ouncil for the Family' on $Ath September /C$4 at >ala88o San ,alisto' in vie% of the Assembly of the Synod of "ishops on the family< Matican ,ity' $st 2ctober /C$4 $$