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Marshall Paradoxes of Gender
Marshall Paradoxes of Gender
Introduction
Online relationships seem to violate people’s expectations of closure or
control, becoming simultaneously intense, uncertain, and fragile. In this
chapter, I explore some of the paradoxes, contradictions, and ambigui-
ties of online life and relationships, with a particular focus on gender.
This paper summarizes some results from eleven years of fieldwork
online, primarily on the Internet mailing list Cybermind, which was set
up in mid-1994 by Alan Sondheim and Michæl Current to discuss is-
sues of life online but which soon became a general social discussion
list—the position generally taken by members was that everything that
happened on the list was an example of online life. This made it ideal
for fieldwork, as it was almost impossible to disrupt the list through
open research.1 However, as a result, comments in this chapter refer
primarily to middle-class, white, Western, English-speaking Internet
groups, and it should not be assumed that the effects observed will ap-
ply across cultures.
Living online, for these Western, English-speaking subjects, is em-
bedded within relations that currently appear to be paradoxical, am-
biguous, or contradictory. Sometimes these paradoxes seem to result
from the medium and the way communication is structured, and some-
times they seem to result from paradoxes and ambiguities imported
from the offline world, or which result from the interactions of the sup-
posed polarities of offline and online. Gender is an important principle
in both organization and the interpretation, or resolution, of statements.
It is a framing that organizes expectations and guides behaviour, and it
too is embedded within paradoxes and ambiguities. The most obvious
example of this is that people often deny the importance of gender in
online communication, while at the same time devoting considerable
effort to trying to work out the gender of others and, apparently, being
worried that the gender of others might not be the same as is portrayed
(Marshall, 2003).
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These difficulties could lead to anxiety, as most social being and sense
of self depends upon the responses of others. In another context, Ruesch
and Bateson have suggested that people can feel helpless or insecure if
they do not receive acknowledgment of their messages and that “the
individual feels paralyzed if correction of erroneous interpretations is
impossible” (1987, pp. 39–40). Asence, or this suspension of presence
and absence, is generally uncomfortable, and people work to reduce it.
Methods of reduction can contribute to many online behaviors, from
flaming to Netsex, and are intertwined with the way people use gender
(Marshall, 2004a).
If the idea of asence is even partially correct, then it is improbable
that we will ever have any kind of simple co-presence online; it will
always be fraught. Even if we had video connections, we still might be
subject to interferences, delays, and the suspicion that the image we
perceive is simulated.
At the extreme, the other person may even be some kind of pro-
gram, or bot, such as, for example, the famous “Julia” described by Foner
(1993, 1997), which was helped in its realism by online vaguenesses.
Foner writes that “the deliberate blurriness of the boundaries both en-
hances Julia’s effectiveness and makes her operation possible” (Foner,
1993). Interestingly, the bot’s gender, and its concern with gender, seemed
important to the programmer’s concerns to make it realistic. Julia was
programmed to guess people’s gender from their names and was also
programmed to strongly declare that she was female. For example, she
“appears to be premenstrual, or to mention her period in some way,
about two days a month.” The real people online seem to treat her as a
gendered and sexual being as a result. Foner remarks, “A large percent-
age of Julia’s code deals with detecting and deflecting passes.” One ex-
ample he gives of interaction with Julia features a man demanding that
she take off her clothes. “Julia gets a lot of this kind of ‘attention,’” (Foner
1993), and the most well-known example of the bot in sustained inter-
action centers on a man’s persistent attempts to pick her up, which says
something about gender and the way that it is used to resolve ambigui-
ties and structure behavior. Rather than give up attempts at communi-
cation, people try sex.
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ger, which can then pull people apart and undermine the appearance of
group harmony, rather than joining people together.
Thirdly, emotions and body states are assumed to be underlying,
irrational, largely uncontrollable, and real. This allies with the second
convention and might be said to encapsulate the psychoanalytic theory
of the id. In consequence, sexual behavior, for example, is usually taken
as displaying something genuine about people. Continued mood, pro-
duced by the repetition of emails with an apparently similar emotional
content, can be important for the ways that people will interpret mails
and interpret the ambience of the list. Usually, list mood is quite frag-
mented in unconnected emails, and, thus, strong reiterated moods, like
anger or mourning, are easily overgeneralized; a whole list can seem
swamped by flames even if the proportion of flaming messages is rela-
tively small. Expressions of grief, through their relative unity, can also
overwhelm other messages to give the list an appearance of unity. Re-
ports of body pain seem to be usually taken as genuine as well, but they
do not seem as popular or as widely taken up and thus are less influen-
tial on list mood as a whole.
Fourthly, secrecy, hiddenness, and unpleasantness equal truth. If you
find something out about someone that was hidden, you are more likely
to believe it. This perception of truth increases with the unpleasantness
of the discovery. Few Westerners seem to believe that anyone is trou-
bled by underlying and secret niceness. As a result, privacy can indicate
both intimacy and danger.
Fifthly, the more private (secret) and close to the offline world the
communication, then the more authentic and accurate it is taken to be.
Thus, a statement has the least effect in public online, more of an effect
off list in private, even more of an effect via offline mechanisms such as
the telephone, and, finally, the greatest effect in face-to-face communi-
cation. In reality, these places could be equally deceptive. You don’t know
that the person you are meeting offline is, in fact, the same person you
have conversed with online.
To some extent, these conventions gather around the idea of the prac-
tice of Netsex, which almost always involves the use of gendered sym-
bolism (Marshall, 2002). Netsex is supposedly revealing—because of its
rawness, and because people’s truths are supposedly anchored in their
bodies—even though people generally acknowledge that it is easy to
fake sex online.
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words, if the list is welcoming, then the new members can disrupt its
functioning simply by participating.
Conclusion
Presence online is asent and bound up with uncertainties, suspensions,
ambiguities, and paradox, which can rarely be resolved, even though
people continually attempt it. This chapter has briefly looked at some of
the ways these ambiguities constrain, enliven, and threaten online life.
Particular forms of category important to online life have been shown
to include the distinctions between public and private, authenticity and
deceit, and the categories of gender and community. The shifting and
unstable divisions for public and private also govern some of the para-
doxes of modern information capitalism and so must be expected to
produce problems online.
Demands for authenticity, usually tied to the offline body, override
acceptance of multiplicity, especially when it is necessary to show inti-
macy. The conventions surrounding authenticity undermine the attempts
to find it. Attempts to identify offline gender are common in these situ-
ations, especially when intimacy is involved, but are often fraught.
Netsex is another way of reducing ambiguities of presence and sustain-
ing relationships, but it too is caught up in paradoxes. Gendered char-
acteristics can be exaggerated to generate the sexual tensions that build
gendered intimacies and a sense of mutual presence and reference, while
these exaggerations are also recognized and negotiated as deletions of
presence or even as betrayal.
It is not clear, at this stage, whether these paradoxes arise from the
structures of communication online or from lack of familiarity with the
medium or whether they derive from artificial or incoherent opposi-
tions, such as public and private or offline and online, which, rather
than being complete oppositions, shade into one another. However, ex-
ploring the way these category borders are used would seem more in-
teresting than transcending them as hybrids or as cyborgs. I hope a word
like asence, which draws attention to the process of boundary uncer-
tainty, of suspension and oscillation, without attempting to bridge them,
and which leaves the categories with the force that they have, is more
profitable and truer to online experience than smoothing them over or
proclaiming that they no longer exist.
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Chapter Summary
• Presence online is asent and bound up with uncertainties,
suspensions, ambiguities, and paradox, which can rarely be
resolved, even though people continually attempt it.
Recommended Reading
Any of the references below provide a good overview.
Notes
1 As always, thanks go to the members of the list who have not only patiently engaged
with these various projects but have also contributed to them—particularly the list
owner, Alan Sondheim, who has been engaged in productively theorising the
Internet for a long time. It is of the nature of such work that it is hard to disentangle
what emerges from myself and what emerges from other list members. However,
the inaccuracies always remain mine.
2 Langa (2004) reports sending out bulk emails to people who had volunteered to
respond to him and suggests that up to 40% of emails could get lost. Despite
reservations as to how this result might affect more normal personal emails, it is
still suggestive of how spam filters, faulty systems, and lack of response can affect
personal communication.
3 I’m using the term MOO to refer to all derivatives and varieties of MUDs, simply
because I have more experience with them. A MOO can be defined as a way of
communicating with others over the Internet that resembles an interconnected set
of spaces that is set up on a single computer. In a MOO environment, people tend
to construct and play characters and are eventually able to build rooms and objects
with properties. Communication tends to be synchronous and unarchived, so it is
not usually possible to access conversations that occurred while you were not there.
4 This division is frequently a matter of debate on the Association of Internet
Researchers Mailing List. Although the code of ethics promulgated by the association
treats these issues carefully, there always seem to be researchers who claim that
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anything that can be found on the Web, or even in an open mailing list, is in the
public domain and should be quotable. Some of these researchers appear to claim
that, if people who use the Internet do not realise this, then they are foolish, rather
than that they are using a different criteria of public and private or that the issue is
complex.
5 The term virtual also incorporates contradiction. It is primarily used to refer to
simulations and hence has the connotations of being both powerful (even numinous)
and a lesser replacement. This ambiguity is important to its use, although it is rarely
stated explicitly. In its secondary meaning of online, as in virtual communities, the
paradoxical connotations remain similar, with the groupings sometimes being seen
as lesser in some way to offline groupings and sometimes as more intimate, rather
than just different.
6 Strathern (1988) sees the domestic as “infantile,” but it is more likely connected
with a need to protect intimacy and gentleness from potentially hostile strangers.
She appears to be polarizing, making one side good and the other bad, rather than
perceiving counterpositions, where sometimes one is good and sometimes bad,
depending on situation.
7 Although female list members often reported harassment off Cybermind, the
reported incidence of harassment by other Cybermind members was not large,
and, when it did occur, it was universally condemned. However, I do know some
cases in which offlist behaviour by some males was considered threatening, but
these were harder to act upon, as they were largely ambiguous. The behaviour
reported to me was unusual, such as a man showing knowledge of the woman’s
life in other Internet forums, rather than overtly sexual or violent. However, it was
the unusualness, together with problems of interpreting the behaviour, that made
it threatening. Sometimes, people might argue about who was approaching whom
sexually—in which case, the standard list response was uncertainty and a refusal
by most members to take sides. In other cases, the harassment came from people
who read but did not interact on list and who seemed to misplace their familiarity
with reading someone as a mutual familiarity. To some extent, such events arise
from, or are aggravated by, asence.
8 See, in particular, the work of Susan Herring (1993, 1994a, 1994b, 1996, 1999, 2000).
9 Alexanne Don (forthcoming) will significantly disagree with my interpretation of
statistics for Cybermind in a forthcoming special issue of the Transforming Cultures
eJournal, on online gender.
10 Even meanings tended to be imposed and singular. In a list in which the postmodern
uncertainty of the text was held as a given, it was interesting how often people
were convinced that a post to Cybermind had one clear meaning alone or that, if
they were read in a way that they had not expected, their words were being
deliberately distorted.
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11 In Marshall (2004b) I discuss how treating gender as a polarity can ‘ghost’ experience
and cause further anxieties and problems around authenticity and the imagining
of bodies.
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