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Where A Man Stands
Where A Man Stands
Where A Man Stands
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coverstory
By Nancy Yeang
The subhead of the book, the true story
of an unlikely leader and an unlikely
friendship, what does that mean?
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At the time that I was in Los Angeles it was
just called Los Angeles. Since I was a kid, it
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Los Angeles.
As a student, coming from my neighborhood into Beverly Hills was unlikely, but it
happened. Being a leader, not just attending
the school or coming to work at the school,
but being a leader at Beverly High is considered to be unlikely.
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races, different religions, different economic
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stronger together than apart.
&$57(57KURXJKRXWWKH\HDUV,YHGHYHOoped great relationships with many families in
the city. Steven and the Fentons were one of
the first families that Ive established a great
relationship with.
But that friendship [and] the fact that it was
unlikely for me to attend school at Beverly
Hills, or even work here in Beverly Hills,
lends to that subtitle.
Why did you want to write the book,
and why did you want to write the book
together?
STEVEN: The idea for the book came
from our agent, Lacy Lynch [who is a senior
literary agent and TV/Film representative at
Dupree/Miller & Associates.] They represent
a lot of people in the inspirational space [like
Tony Robbins, Maria Shriver, Joel Osteen,
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think thats why they responded so favorably
to our story.
[Lynch] asked me if I would be interested
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together.
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really dont have the time to do that. I really
wasnt interested in it at first but then thought
about it and agreed to do it.
Carter, when you first went to Beverly
High you said you had one foot in the
door and one foot in the hood. Was there
ever a moment in Beverly High when you
felt like you could be who you are?
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of who I am.
In Beverly Hills, I had great friendships
when I was a student here. I didnt try to preWHQGWREHZHDOWK\RUDQ\WKLQJOLNHWKDW:KHQ
I was in the neighborhood that I grew up in,
I felt that I had great relationships there and I
was being me there as well.
The only thing was that I just kept my two
worlds separate. I very rarely had my friends
from my neighborhood join me and come with
me to any functions in Beverly Hills and vice
versa.
Tell us about how the both of you met.
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heard quite a bit about him from my brother
Gary who was a junior at the time. My brother
used to film all the football games and was a
member of the baseball team. He spoke very
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[Fenton]. He was a School Board member and
I was a young teacher and coach. Frank and I
had a good, pleasant relationship
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team and we had a number of kids that were
trying out. I noticed right away that he was the
smallest kid out there trying out.
STEVEN: I think I was about 5 1, barely
100 pounds. I had just finished playing junior
varsity soccer and before that freshman football.
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most intense and determined kid out there
and he reminded me of myself, because when
I came to Beverly I was one of the smallest
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was open. I decided to walk through.
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graduated, [the football team and I] we were
out in the football field [and] we were coming
into the locker room.
STEVEN: All of a sudden I started to hear
the clicking and clacking of cleats. I lifted
my head up and there
were two kids in a football uniform walking
towards me. The kids
suddenly turned to the
right to go into the team
locker room.
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hallway that leads into
the locker room I was
just kind of standing
there, and I saw this
Steven, did you make
guy walking toward
a point to introduce
me. [He] looked like
yourself so directly to
he could have been a
Carter since youve
parent, but the closer
heard about him
he got to me I recogbefore?
nized immediately who
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he was.
went up and introduced
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myself to him right
appeared from behind
away at the beginning
[the kids]. There he was
of tryouts.
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ball player at Beverly.
I put my arms around
him and gave him what
What about when the
felt like the hug of a
both of you reunited?
lifetime.
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of college, I started my
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ment industry. The faster I ran the further like nothing had ever changed.
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Carter, in the book you wrote, There
how destabilizing that was for me.
For many years in my 20s and into my 30s, I would be times I would be judged by my
would go over to Beverly [High]. That was my appearance and not the content of my
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was around, I would lie down at my position and easy to forget like hearing the click
at second base. Looking for a sign, looking of a car door locking as I walk by and
for strength, trying to reconnect again to my sometimes it would be more difficult to
shrug off. Do you still feel the same way?
former life.
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I was in a very bad place in my life during
my mid 30s. Like so many nights in the past and not just in Beverly Hills. I was raised
I drove to Beverly [High]. I got out of my car to feel that these types of issues are not my
issues, not my problem. I just happen to be
who I am.
kids trying out for the baseball team. I knew
I had to impress the coaches and everyone
around, and I wanted everyone to know that I
belonged on the baseball team. Thats exactly
what I saw in Steven. He just stood out to me
right away.
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second baseman and I was a second baseman.
He could play and I felt
like I could play, but
because of our size and
not knowing anyone, I
thought it was important for me to really
show what I could do
and I got that same
feeling form watching
Steven.
My parents really
followed Martin Luther
King Jr. and that was
one of the things that
they would preach:
Be the best that you
could possibly be. My
mom and dad instilled
that philosophy into
our entire family. Its
not good enough to be
good. You have to be
better than the person
that youre competing
against, regardless of
what its for
Beverly High
Principal Carter
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and seek to apprehend the guilty while attempt- Foundation to honor Bendetson respected and cared for while healing.
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ing to exonerate the innocent.
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Butterfly Village. Both organizations renoprovide a phone call for Belk while he was
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vate and decorate housing units for homedetained, and the five-hour period that Belk
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less female veterans and their children and
was held in custody could have been shortened
Bendetson
for people in recovery.
if the police department had reviewed video
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Bendetson and Sharf founded the LA
evidence earlier.
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to screen for specific genetic diseases.
officers have a really tough job to do and I get
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at The Beverly
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Hills Hotel.
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to address the issues that followed though from
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screenings to all Jews of child-bearing age
that stop.
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to inform them on their carrier status.
Belk will produce a training video based on
member
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lessons learned from his experience and make
Beit Tshuvah,
founded in 2006 to raise HIBM awareness
it available for free to any law enforcement
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and help fund for neuromuscular disease,
agency. He will make himself available for Heidi Bendetson
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including HIBM, research and treatment.
treatment
describe the perspectives of an innocent man
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center
and
to help further sensitize law enforcement to the
the muscle to waste and get .weaker.
synagogue.
impacts that their actions can have.
The black and white formal attire event
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the dinner and program will begin at 8:00
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inviting living
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spaces where
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Neuromuscular Disease
they can feel
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