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But God
Copyright 2014 by Herbert Cooper
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Contents
Foreword by Craig Groeschel | 11
Introduction:Two Little Words | 15
1 We Wander ... B
ut God Finds Us | 21
2 Were Wounded ... But God Heals Us | 37
3 Were Insecure ... But God Gives Us Confidence | 59
4 We Search for Identity ...
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We Wander ...
But God Finds Us
But God demonstrates his own love for us in this:
While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Romans 5:8
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We Wander ...
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Turning Points
My mom and dads marriage was the second for both of
them. My older half brother, who lived with us, resulted
from my moms previous marriage. My father had two
kids from previous relationships, but they were fifteen or
twenty years older than I was and lived in a different city,
so we didnt see them much. And then I had a sister who
was eleven months younger than I was.
So growing up, we three kids shared the house, and
we were close. I shared a room and bunk beds with my
older brother until he moved out after high school. Every
Friday night my mom, sister, brother, and I would have a
family burrito nightforget bean burritos, Im talking
BBQ burritos! As much fun as those meals were, though,
we eventually had to leave the restaurant and return
home. And our home was in shambles.
There, alcoholism and abuse presided. Frequently,
my parents exploded into fits of screaming, yelling, and
fighting. Aware that an emotional bomb might go off any
minute, I constantly dodged land mines of tension, fear,
and anger. I even installed a lock on my bedroom door
to feel safer while I was at home, but many times, it was
just easier for me to leave, to be anywhere else but in the
midst of my parents collateral damage.
So can you see why I felt like two different people?
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seemed able to look beyond my external facade and figure out what was really going on with me. Football was
the only great thing left in my life, and suddenly I was
losing control of that too! To top it off, my teammates
witnessed my outburst, which went against the carefully
crafted cool image I had worked so hard to construct.
I couldnt take much more.
Wandering Alone
I dont know what your story is or how you grew up, but
Im guessing you know what it means to wander without going anywhere. Doesnt matter if youre a star on
the high school football field or an executive in a corner office, an unwed mother in a small town or a career
mom in the burbs, we all create an image of how we want
others to see us. We all struggle to know who we really
are and why were here. As we travel down this journey
toward discovering who God made us to be, we often take
a few detours in pursuit of what we think will fulfill us.
When we dont know who we are in Christ, were prone to
experiment, to wander, to get lost along the way.
We rarely want to admit these struggles. Were
unhappy, searching for something more, so we wander,
trying to find happiness in the wrong things. We look for
comfort wherever we can find it, whether in the arms of
an illicit lover, or the taste of triple-fudge ice cream, or
the thrill of our latest online purchase. Our distractions
keep us from asking the hard questions and having an
honest conversation with God.
But theres one thing you need to know about the way
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We Wander ...
Divine Appointment
I recognized this truth in a high school locker room. At
the beginning of my senior year, a scout from an East
Coast school scheduled a visit to watch me play. His interest was exactly what Id been hoping forthe chance
to be recruited to play college football. Stopping first
in Oklahoma City, he called on the night we were supposed to meet and informed me that he wouldnt arrive
in Wewoka until the following day.
My night and plans were blown. I was disappointed,
but I tried to be patient and hold myself together. So with
nothing else to do that evening, I decided to make an
appearance in our locker room for a Fellowship of Chris
tian Athletes meeting. Truth be told, I went because they
were serving free pizza. Yep, if you want old Coop to show
up, all you have to do is offer a deluxe with extra cheese!
Todd Thompson, former kicker for the Oklahoma
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Coming Home
I realize you may be thinking, Thats a great story,
Herbertboth your own and the prodigals. But you dont
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Were Wounded ...
But God Heals Us
He heals the brokenhearted
and binds up their wounds.
Psalm 147:3
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Silent Misery
This is the kind of wound I experienced at thirteen when
an adult female sexually molested me. As a friend of our
family, she came over regularly, which meant this abuse
was not a one-time event. My parents had no idea and
obviously trusted this woman, which only compounded
my fear and shame. Somehow it felt like my fault, but how
could that be true?
The molestation occurred over several months.
Whenever Id walk into a room where this woman was
present, Id churn inside with a sick sense of dread and
negative anticipation. As a teen too young to get his
license, it wasnt like I could just drive off and leave whenever I encountered her. Before long, I wondered and worried every day when I would have to face her again.
Finally, after months of dealing with this misery, I
worked up the courage to tell this woman to leave me
alone. To say I was terrified is an understatement; after
all, she was the grown-up, someone I had once liked and
respected. With a shaky voice, I told her, I dont want
this to continue. Please leave me alone.
We stood next to one another in a doorway, with our
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Boundaries of Forgiveness
After I committed my life to Christ, I knew I was forgiven, yet it was still hard to forgive the woman who had
abused me. For a while it was easier just to try to not
think about it. But eventually, I knew that to experience a
but God encounter, to experience all that God had for
me, I had to forgive.
The Bible says that if we have truly experienced Gods
forgiveness, then we will be able to forgive others the
same way (Matt. 18:2122). When Jesus taught his disciples how to pray, he included, Forgive us our debts, as
we also have forgiven our debtors (Matt. 6:12). If we want
to experience the kind of healing that comes from a but
God encounter, then we must forgive. Forgiving others
invites Gods forgiveness and healing into our hearts. I
knew that I would never be completely healed if I didnt
forgive the woman who abused me.
In my junior year of college, I often hosted prayer
meetings in my dorm room. These were great times of
prayer, worship, and fellowship with other young men
who were followers of J esus. During this time, I realized
that if I wanted to grow and become stronger in my faith,
then I couldnt ignore any longer my need to forgive this
woman. So I made the choice to forgive. While my painful emotions remained buried inside me until I later told
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automatically produce restoration. So if this misunderstanding on restoration has been holding you back from
forgiving someone, dont let it anymore.
My relationship with my abuser has not been restored
back to what it was before the abuse occurred. In other
words, Im not inviting her over to play with my kids!
Thats called being unwise, not forgiveness. But I have
forgiven her. Ive released it. I trust and pray that she has
asked God to forgive her for those actions.
The alternative leaves us trapped in victimhood.
When we choose not to forgive, we blame that person or
that event for whats happening to us today. We dont take
responsibility for what we can do and instead blame that
person or event for the bad things that happen in our life.
But when we forgive, we remove the blame. We show
mercy. We exonerate that person, and we let go of the
blame, bitterness, and grudge we have been holding. This
is real freedom! It is the chance to move forward and stop
looking backward. Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to
win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in
Christ Jesus (Phil. 3:1314).
Think about it this way. The windshield of a car is a
lot bigger than the rearview mirror. When we stop looking at the past, our future gets larger, more expansive. We
realize that looking over our shoulder makes it difficult
to move forward. Once we forgive, we can let go of that
past and have freedom to achieve the future God has in
store for us.
Another step in my healing process was recognizing
the side effects of the abuse I suffered.
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BUT GOD
Changes Everything
By Herbert Cooper
Herbert Cooper was headed down a very different road,
living a reckless lifestyle that would have destroyed him in
the end, but God had a different plan. He heard the
gospel at a Fellowship of Christian Athletes meeting, at
which he wasnt even supposed to be, and he gave his life
to Christ. Two words changed Coopers life: But God.
These two words can change every single persons life
But God. Each word is only three letters long. The phrase
is short, but the implications are huge. The path may look
bleak, dim, and hopeless but GOD changes everything
Weve all sinned - whether it is sex outside of marriage, a
bitter heart, alcohol or drug abuse, cheating, or lying.
Maybe youre at a place in your life where it just feels like
things are falling apart. Perhaps youre portraying one
thing on the outside and living something else on the
inside. Maybe you are simply going through the motions
of a life thats not quite what you hoped it would be.
These moments drag us down - leaving us feeling
hopeless and lost.
You need something to happen in your life to change.
You need a But God moment.
The But God moments are when God comes in and offers
a new path and hope for our lives. These moments occur
when we are at are lowest, and turn our down-trodden
worlds around for the better. It is up to us to recognize
and seize these moments when they occur and follow the
renewed path God offers.
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