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Why Did I Meet The Love of My Life Too Late Article
Why Did I Meet The Love of My Life Too Late Article
THE SEX ADVISOR By Eppy Halili Gochangco (The Philippine Star) | Updated May 20, 2014
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DEAR EPPY,
I am in my early 40s, married to a simple woman 10 years my junior, and we have three
children. I am currently working as a manager of a multinational corporation. We live a
relatively middle-class lifestyle, with a house, family car, occasional vacations, and a good
standing in society. My wife is a good woman, though quite simple-minded, not intellectually
stimulating, and is only so-so in bed. As a homemaker, she is satisfactory. Many times, I catch
myself scolding her when she uses old wives tales and antiquated beliefs in raising our children.
Of course, I cant blame her as she is a simple probinsyana whom I married out of convenience.
I got married at 30 because I felt it was about time to start a family, especially as I had been
doing quite well in my career. She kept house and bore me children. Thats what I needed or
so I thought.
The root of my problem stemmed from four years ago. A new manager named Rosa joined our
company and was an asset to our office. As a manager, she instilled discipline yet inspired her
team. We, her fellow managers, love that she is such a team player. In and out of the office, she
is wonderful to have around. On top of that, she has a very well-maintained physique, is
intellectually stimulating. and charming. I believe in my heart she is the perfect life companion.
Thats when I realized that I never felt this way before. I believe she is my soul mate. Yet, for
the sake of my moral beliefs, I did not make any romantic overtures towards her. Neither did she
exhibit anything but a platonic and sincere friendship.
She got married to a director of our sister company. I hardly saw Rosa after work as she would
be busy with her new life, her new house. I miss her terribly. I remember stealing glances at her
when she was not looking. I was jealous of her husband because I wanted the life he was
enjoying, filled with nice, adventurous vacations, an upscale lifestyle, and especially Rosa.
Because of this, I sank into depression. I thought my life was perfect because I made all the right
choices being gainfully employed, getting promoted, marrying at the right age, buying a
house, having children.
They say having children will fulfill you, but why dont I feel this way? My children are distant,
always busy with their gadgets, their endless activities, and all their friends. I am surrounded by
people but so lonely and frustrated. Why did this happen? I followed the rules of society yet I
feel resentful of my decisions. Why did I meet the love of my life too late?
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