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What You Should Never Say To Children
What You Should Never Say To Children
By Tom Bennett
thought the class was tough before, wait until you roll this bad boy down the
bowling alley.
3. Youve all been excellent today.
Context is all: if you say this when the class have been hoisting the Jolly Roger
from your whiteboard, or roping you to a totem pole a la The Bash Street Kids,
then all youre doing is teaching them that you are an oleaginous invertebrate.
And they will treat you with contempt. They know when theyve been rubbish.
They find it odd when grown ups apparently cant see it too.
4. Call me Tony.
Obviously this is something you really want to avoid if youre not called Tony. But
its also a warning to teachers who want the kids to bump them, high five them,
or whatever ghastly tribal mime passes for a contemporary salutary idiom. Some
people are uncomfortable with students using terms of respect and deference to
an adult, possibly because its such an unusual thing to hear anywhere but a
school. But an acknowledgement of authority, it is. Of course, you dont need
titles and such to generate respect, but its certainly a display of manners.
Unless you have impeccably behaved
charges, I advise you take your terms of
respect where you can.
5. Youre so fat; you can really
move.
This is now known as the Starkey.
Personal jibes, particularly at the
expense of a pupils body shape/ hair
style/ dress sense etc are like lighting a match under a big, fat firework. Whee!
See that? Thats your lesson going out the window, as the pupil realises that you
just played him for a mug, and then subsequently realising that if you can do it,
then so can he....Only call a pupil fat, etc if you enjoy being told that you in fact,
are gay, smell badly, and probably, a kitty too. (I think whats what they say.)
6. Im going to call home.
And then not doing it. Its like calling a taxi for your self-respect.
7. Why dont you understand? Are you stupid?
Ugly. They might, in fact, not be the brightest star on Hollywood Boulevard, but
society wont tolerate pointing it out. The current ideological meme is that all
children are smart in different ways. Even though this is patently untrue, avoid
pointing it out.
8. Of course, drugs arent the worse thing in the world.
Of course theyre not. Nuclear holocaust, gangrene and Tsunamis probably just
nudge them out of the contest. Everyone has their own opinion on drugs, from
liberal to hard line. But if you do anything other than discourage growing
students to stay away from contraband, then youre not being cool- youre a
menace to children, who might be impressionable enough to listen to you. If you
like, forget the moral debate and consider what growing brain cells neednarcotics, or fresh air? Ill let you decide. Incidentally, I ran a Soho night club for
nearly a decade- Im not taking the high ground on this; but children take their
cues from adults, even the idiot ones.
9. I was so smashed last night.
Too much information; thats on a need to know basis. At least let the children
pretend that you are a professional who spends his evenings honing the lessons
youll deliver to them.
10. Ive spent ages planning this lesson! You dont
know how hard teaching is!
No, they dont. And why should they? Youre getting paid,
and theyre being made to watch you work. Dont burden
them with your burdens- just teach them. If you say this,
then you are effectively rebooting your relationship with
them, only instead of a friendly Windows 7 screen coming
up, its a picture of you with a clown suit on. Good luck,
incidentally.
Tom
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