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Breaking news

YJCC of Washington Township to close

l As we went to press on Wednesday, we learned

that the YJCC in Washington Township was to halt

all its programming that day, although the building
is to remain in use for back-office operations.
The aging facility, combined with a reduction in
membership and program enrollment, has left the
YJCC facing a projected operating loss of more than
$1 million dollars over the next year, according to
the organizations press release; the closure is in
order to chart a more advantageous course for the
greater community.
During the last several months, the board of
directors made many attempts to raise the funds,
in excess of $15 million, necessary to renew the
facility and upgrade programs, the release continued. Ideally, we would have been able to raise the
capital and renew our YJCC, its board chair, Jeffrey
Tucker, said. However, it recently became clear that
these funds were not available to our community
center. As a result, the magnitude of the potential

operating loss would have begun depleting our remaining assets, which the
board felt would have been fiscally and
communally irresponsible.
Closing the center now will allow
the board to continue to fund longterm services for the most vulnerable,
well into the foreseeable future, the
boards vice chair, Tara Merson, said.
In coordination with the Jewish
Federation of Northern New Jersey,
the Kaplen JCC on the Palisades, the
Rockland JCC, and Temple Emanuel
of the Pascack Valley, arrangements
are being made to assure the seamless
transition of vital services, such as senior meals, the
early childhood center, and the S.A.I.L. program.
The press release ended on a hopeful note, again
quoting Mr. Tucker. It is our intention to continue
onward, once again, providing valuable Jewish pro-

gramming and services to the Jewish community,

he said.
The entire board looks forward to redefining
how our YJCC serves the Pascack Valley.
Joanne Palmer

Israeli-Iranian camaraderie triumphs at Special Olympics

l Photos of Iranian and Israeli athletes to-

gether, not only smiling but actually hugging each other, became the unintentional
symbol of this summers Special Olympics, which just ended in Los Angeles.
Modeling a heartwarming example
of sports diplomacy, Good magazine
reported about the budding friendship
between the two sports teams.
Iranian athletes at other competitions
have been ordered to withdraw from
competition if their opponent would have
been Israelis. But at the Special Olympics,
well, something special happened.
The Israeli and Iranian teams broke the
ice even before the competition, when
Iranians and Israelis en route to the Special Olympics
they found themselves on the same
transatlantic flight to California from Rome.
In addition to making new friendships, the Israeli
We were sitting next to each other and it was a 12contestants at the international event showed their
hour flight, the head of the Israeli delegation, Reuven
prowess on the sports field and in the water. Israels
Astrachan, told Good. So what do you do for 12
40-member delegation brought home 62 medals
hours? You talk. You talk to your neighbor.
25 gold, 18 silver, and 19 bronze. With 6,500 athletes
The Special Olympics Israels Facebook page was
and 2,000 coaches representing 165 countries, the
full of blue-and-white uniformed athletes alongside
2015 Special Olympics World Games where athletes
red-green-and-white clothed participants.
with intellectual disabilities compete in 32 Olympic-

lic Religion Research Institute gathered last year tells us something we

know in our kishkes: In America, you
cant get more Jewish than the New
York metropolitan area or the state of
New Jersey.
New York, Boston, and Miami are the
three most Jewish metropolitan areas
per capita in the country. Here in the
New York City area (the metropolitan
area, unlike Jewish federation divisions,
cross the Hudson), 8 percent of the residents are Jewish. In Boston, 6 percent
are Jewish and its 5 percent in greater
Miami. Metro Philadelphia and the San
Francisco area each are 4 percent Jewish, and the Chicago and Washington
areas are 3 percent Jewish.

Abigail Klein Leichman and Viva Sarah Press / Israel21c.org

On the cover: Eliana Apter looks at a small plant from the Schechter garden.

Study: We are the Jewiest

l A new analysis of data that the Pub-

type sports according to level of prowess was the

largest sports and humanitarian event anywhere in
the world this year.
Eliyahu Somer, a basketball player on the Israeli
delegation, was one of seven athletes chosen to carry
the Special Olympic torch during the last leg of the
opening ceremony. It was handed off by an Iranian
participant.
The Israeli team was able to participate only on the
condition that the families raise one-third of the nearly
NIS 1 million needed to send athletes and support
staff to Los Angeles, and this was accomplished in
part thanks to a widely shared Israel21c article about
open-water swimmer Mati Oren, who won a gold and
a bronze in Los Angeles.
Matis mother, Vicki, noted that the event was not
only a showcase for athletic talent but also for an
uncommon spirit of international camaraderie. In
addition to widely publicized photos of Israeli and
Iranian athletes arm in arm, Vicki Oren sent a photo of
herself with a Libyan coach she befriended.
What our athletes could teach the world leaders
about respect, dignity, courage, pride and yes, peace!
she exclaims. If they can do it, we can do it!

Photo by Veronica Yankowski

Nationally, 2 percent of all Americans

are Jewish, according to the study. Los
Angeles, which is home to the countrys
second-largest urban Jewish population, is just 2 percent Jewish.
Ranked by state, New York and New
Jersey, at 6 percent, tie as the most
Jewish. Next are Massachusetts at 5
percent and Maryland at 3.
Ranked by region, the Northeast is 4
percent Jewish; the Midwest, South and
West each are 1 percent Jewish.
Here in the New York City area, the
largest religious group is white Catholics, 21 percent; followed by unaffiliated,
19 percent; Hispanic Catholics, 12 percent; black Protestants, 10 percent, and
then our tribe at 8 percent.
JTA Wire Service/Larry Yudelson

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Noshes

Trumps daughters shul to begin

new era with outsider rabbi
Times of Israel headline on sedate JTA story about new rabbi
at Manhattans Congregation Kehilath Jeshurun

HIGH NOTE:

Music sets tone for

Ricki and the Flash
Ricki and the
Flash, which
opens today, stars
Meryl Streep as Ricki, a
small-time rock singer
who chased her dreams
and abandoned her
family along the way.
Ricki has a last chance
to mend fences when
her ex-husband, Pete
(Kevin Kline), asks her to
visit Chicago and help
their estranged and
troubled daughter
(played by Mamie
Gummer, Streeps
real-life daughter).
Theres a lot of music in
the film, and heres
hoping that BEN PLATT,
21, who plays a bartender at the tavern where
Ricki often performs,
gets to show off the
singing chops he
showed in the Pitch
Perfect movies. By the
way, the Flash is the
name of Rickis band.
Fantastic Four is a
reboot of the Fantastic
movie franchise, featuring a whole new cast. The
film, which also opens today, was directed and cowritten by JOSH TRANK,
31. His first feature film,
the critically acclaimed
sci-fi thriller, Chronicle
(2012), was made for
$12M and grossed over
$120M. Born and raised in
Los Angeles, Tranks paternal grandparents were
Czech Jews who survived
the Holocaust and settled
in the States after WWII.
TIM BLAKE NELSON,

51, who plays Harvey

Elder, the super villain in
Fantastic, has a similar
background: Nelsons
maternal grandfather,
HERMAN KAISER, a
judge in pre-Nazi Germany, fled Germany
in 1940, and became
a very successful oil
wildcatter in Oklahoma.
Hermans son (and
Tims uncle), is oil man
GEORGE KAISER, 73.
George is a pillar of the
Oklahoma Jewish religious community, one
of the 100 richest men
in the world, and usually
ranked among the top
50 philanthropists in the
world.
Tim Blake Nelson,
whom most people
recognize from roles
in films like O Brother,
Where Art Thou, was
the director and screenwriter of a gripping Holocaust film, The Grey
Zone (1997).
Diary of a Teenage
Girl opens in some
theaters today . There
are great advance reviews for this film about
the coming of age of
Minnie, a girl raised in
a loose, hippie-esque
1970s San Francisco
household. MARGARITA
LEVIEVA, 35, a talent
who needs a star role,
has a large supporting
role as a wild lesbian
friend of Minnies.
E! Online, not an
unimpeachable
source, reports

Ben Platt

Josh Trank

Margarita Levieva

Bar Refaeli

Adi Ezra

Sofia Mechetner

that Israeli supermodel

BAR REFAELI, 30, and
Israeli businessman ADI
EZRA, 40, will be
married in September,
right after the High
Holidays. Ezra is a
member of the family
that owns the huge
Israeli food importing
company Neto ME
holdings. Refaeli was
married to Israeli ARIK
WEINSTEIN from 2003
to 2005 and dated actor
DAVID CHARVET, 43,
and Leonardo DiCaprio.
By the way, virtually
every woman to whom

DiCaprio, now 40, has

been linked romantically
is a stunning blonde
younger than 30. Since
splitting with Refaeli in
2011, he has gone on to
date (for about 7
months) the only other
Jewish (adult) blonde
bombshell model I am
aware of: ERIN HEATHERTON, 26 (she was
born Erin Heather
Bubley). Hes now linked
to Kelly Rohrbach, 24, a
blonde swimsuit model.
As an editorial note,
Leonardo is now old
enough that rational

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people start to think its

creepy when he serially
dates hot women who
are about 25.
Creepy is the word
that some critics are
applying to the first big
modeling gig for SOFIA
MECHETNER, a 14-yearold Israeli girl who the
Christian Dior fashion
house recently signed
to a $265,000 contract.
Her first Paris fashion
show featured her walking down the catwalk
topless wearing only
a see-through gown.
While this is pretty out-

rageous, I can understand why her agent

and Sofia dismissed all
objections, saying that
high fashion modeling,
including quasi-nudity, is
art. I dont know if they
really believe this, but
one thing is clear: Sofia
and her family really
needed the money. Her
divorced parents are
poor immigrants from
Russia and she grew up
in a rundown suburb
of Tel Aviv. Her mother,
who works as a seamstress and masseuse,
slept in the living room,
and Sofia and her two
younger siblings slept in
the one bedroom her
brother and sister in a
bunk bed and she on a
mattress on the floor.
Then an Israeli modeling agent discovered
Sofia and paid for a trip
to France, where, as he
hoped, a major fashion
house signed her.
Sofia, who is tall and
blonde and looks like a
young Kate Moss, does
fit the international
modeling standard: It
doesnt seem to matter what country you
come from as long as
you are tall and blonde.
Sure, every now and
again there is an exception. But dont hold your
breath waiting for Dior
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A community marriage
Beth El of North Bergen, Temple Israel of Cliffside Park unite
JOANNE PALMER

here is always some

sadness in new beginnings, because you
cant start something
without leaving something
behind, giving something up.
Even the longed-for birth of a
healthy child marks the end of a
pregnancy and the unrepeatable
intimacy of a mother and her
unborn child.
But the sadness, that tinge of
the bittersweet, is overwhelmed
by the joy and wild excitement of
the future, of possibilities, and of
hope.
On Sunday, Temple Beth El of
North Bergen and Temple Israel
Community Center of Cliffside
Park both ceased to exist and
Beth El left its longtime home.
Completing a 19-month process,
the two Conservative shuls, at
home in Cliffside Park, inaugurated themselves as Congregation Beth Israel of the Palisades.
We had an entire weekend
of events, said Rabbi Shammai
Engelmayer, who led Temple
Israel and now fills the same role
at Beth Israel.
On Shabbat, Temple Israel
honored its longtime board
members the board used to
have 13 members but the new
shul will have 12, six originally

Congregants carry sifrei Torah from their old home to the motorcade that will take them to
their new one.
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in a havdalah, where Rabbi Engelmayer used wine, spices, and the
light of a braided candle to mark
the separation of one kehillah

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is an exhilarating challenge.
ROSELYN RAUCH

from North Bergen, six from Cliffside Park. A spectacular Kiddush vanished quickly; it had to
be divided about 85 ways, Rabbi
Engelmayer said.
On Sunday afternoon there
was a closing ceremony at the
93-year-old Beth El, where many
of its longtime members talked
about their memories at what
Rabbi Engelmayer called a ceremony of closure. It culminated

kedoshah a holy community,

Beth El from something else
holy, its building. Then we
removed the sifrei Torah the
Torah scrolls from the main
ark, and we went downstairs
to the smaller sanctuary and
removed the sefer Torah from
there, and then we marched out
onto Hudson Avenue.
As we walked out with
the sifrei Torah, there was a

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chuppah a wedding canopy

waiting outside the door, and in
front of the chuppah there was a
banner with a new name.
We had three shofarot sounding a long tekiyah gedolah the
piercing wail that enters your
soul and a klezmer clarinetist,
Alan Sweifach.
The police had closed off
Hudson Avenue. We lined up
with our cars and went by motorcade. The lead car was a convertible, so the three sifrei Torah and
the three carriers sat there, with
the top down, and the motorcade
proceeded from North Bergen
to Cliffside Park, under police
escort.
At Cliffside Park, we marched
into our building.
The sifrei Torah were held by
members of Beth El, the chuppah
was held by members of Temple
Israel, and as we marched toward
the front of the building, a tarp
that covered the new banner was
taken down.

We put the sifrei Torah into

the ark. There was a klezmer
band playing Mr. Sweifachs
Hester Street Troupe.
After he installed the new officers, and because a merger is a
marriage between two entities,
each with its own heart and spirit
and with any luck an understanding of each others heart
and spirit Rabbi Engelmayer
performed a wedding of sorts.
We put the chuppah in the
back, between the pews, and I
asked everybody to come forward, walk around the room, go
under the chuppah, and go back
to their seats, Rabbi Engelmayer
said. Then we moved the chuppah to the bimah, and I had the
two presidents come up and
stand under it. I did a wedding
ceremony; I rewrote the Sheva
Brachot the seven blessings
said under the chuppah and at
various other times during the
first seven days of a marriage.
The two presidents, Craig

Bassett of Beth El and Roselyn

Rauch of Temple Israel, now are
Beth Israels co-presidents.
Its sad to close a synagogue,
but we cant focus on that aspect
of it, Mr. Bassett, who lives in
North Bergen, said. We have to
focus on the continuity, which
is central to who we are as a
people.
Mr. Bassett and his wife have
belonged to Beth El for 12 years.
When they joined, it already was
in decline as the areas demographics changed, he said. The
shul tried to change it went
from traditional to egalitarian, to recalibrate ourselves to
become more in line with the
mainstream Conservative movement, he said. That didnt work.
As membership dwindled, so
did the congregations financial
resources. We tried our best,
but eventually we reached a
point where we realized that a
merger was the best way for us
to continue, he said. We did not
want to just dissolve the community. It was started in 1923. That
is a legacy, and as someone relatively new at the synagogue, I felt
we had to carry it on.
It was a matter of figuring out
what our best options were, and
we were very fortunate to have
Temple Israel in Cliffside, just five
minutes from us. It is an egalitarian Conservative synagogue with
an incredible rabbi a very similar community, but larger and
in somewhat better financial
standing.
There are merger situations
where the community honestly
are kind of reluctant. They are
kind of forced into it. They go
down the path, but they are operating separately, and then they
merge, and then there are problems, because they really didnt
get to know each other.
I think we have avoided that
I sure hope we have, but I
think we have. We began by collaborating on services, holding
joint services on Shabbat, the
High Holidays, a Passover seder.
Doing those things together
brought us together, allowed us
to really know each other, start

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Co-presidents Roselyn Rauch and Craig Bassett stand together under the
chuppah at the newly named Congregation Beth El of the Palisades.
Klezmer clarinetist Alan Swiefach plays at the celebration. COURTESY OF DEBBIE BEEBER
friendships, and form relationships.
The ceremony was very emotional,
Ms. Rauch said. It was heartbreaking to
some people, because they had been so
involved in the shul Beth El for their
entire lives.

But they realize that times have

changed, and although the building is closing, the spirit, the ruach, is just moving on
and joining with Temple Israel.
Ms. Rauch is not atypical of Temple
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Teen respite program has lasting effects

Open Hearts Open Homes helps young Israelis catalyze community change
LOIS GOLDRICH

or the last 14 years, Bergen

County residents have opened
their homes to Israeli teens
affected by violence and war.
Sponsored by the Bergen County YJCCs
Open Hearts Open Homes program, the
privately funded initiative which receives
some monies from the Jewish Federation
of North Jersey has provided comfort to
more than 300 youngsters.
Spending three weeks with host families while enjoying a summer respite is
perhaps a rare opportunity to spend three
weeks living without fear.
Marla Compa, the programs coordinator and also the YJCCs childrens department coordinator, noted that each year,
there is a selection and interview process
held in Israel to choose over two dozen
deserving young people. There are 18 host
families to accommodate both the teens,
29 this summer, and the four Israeli counselors, two counselors each session. Most
families host two teens.
While most of the hosts are from Bergen
County, this year several were from Rockland. In addition to food and housing, host
families provide transportation and some
weekend activities. OHOH teens participate in the 92nd Street Ys Trailblazers

Open Hearts Open Homes kids stand on the Brooklyn Promenade, overlooking Manhattan.

me as coordinator, and all the host families, she added. Most of the host families
feel theyve made life-long connections.
But if American families say they gain
much from hosting the visitors, OHOH has

These children were born during

rocket attacks, grew up with color
red alerts, and have spent much of
their young lives running for shelter.
HERB LEVINE

teen travel camp and come together for

other activities at the Washington Township YJCC.
Most importantly, hosts provide a family away from home, available for emotional support and comfort with lots
of fun and laughter along the way, Ms.
Compa said.
There is an overwhelming emotional
attachment that occurs between the teens,

had positive effects in Israel as well, creating a cadre of active alumnae and grateful
parents.
Indeed, wrote Herb Levine who has
been active with the program since its
inception, first in the United States and
now in Israel OHOH is a monumental
achievement that has succeeded in touching and enriching the lives of hundreds of
young Israelis who have at some point in

their lives been traumatized by terror.

Even more, Mr. Levine wrote in an
email, Without OHOH as the catalyst,
there would be no SYL [Sderot Young
Leaders] and no hard evidence as to its
importance and its impact upon the young
people of Sderot.
Mr. Levine said that during the first
seven years of the program, all the participants were terror victims from the second
Intifada, while from 2007 to the present,
the program increasingly has concentrated on children from Sderot and the
Gaza Rim.
These children were born during
rocket attacks, grew up with color red
alerts, and have spent much of their young
lives running for shelter, he said, adding
that for most of this time, neither Israels
central government nor local political
authorities were able to provide the physical, social, and educational services that
could lead to change and transform Sderot
from periphery to mainstream.
According to Mr. Levine, The first
group that returned from New Jersey, led
by the 15-year-old Sahar Ziv, understood

that it was up to them to catalyze community change; no one was going to do

it for them. As a result, The SYL came
into being a youth leadership organization founded and managed by the young
people themselves.
Craig and Debbie Padover of Woodcliff Lake hosted Eli and Ido for OHOHs
first session this year, which finished July
19. Ido turned 14 during his stay, and Eli
will turn 14 in September. This was the
Padovers third time as hosts.
I think both boys made the adjustment
very well, Mr. Padover said, noting that
the Israeli teens spoke with their parents
regularly via Skype. While the boys clearly
enjoyed their stay, the Padovers, too, get
a great deal out of participating in this
program.
We are gratified to share some of our
slice of heaven here in northern New Jersey with Israeli youth that have to deal
with the very grownup realities of missile alerts, bombings, and potential terror
attacks. We also got to know on a personal
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Late in July, the Padovers received a letter from Idos parents, thanking them for
their hospitality.
There arent enough words to describe
how grateful we are for your care for Ido
over the past few weeks, Chen and Cheli
Sand wrote. This has been a once-in-alifetime experience for Ido, and we know
he will always cherish the memories he
made with your family.
The Padovers expressed their own
delight in a return note, adding that
Open Hearts is a special program that
helps Israelis and American Jews connect.
We think it makes the world seem a little
smaller and hopefully less scary.
Cindy and Shimi Mendelaw of Hillsdale
have been hosting for 14 years.
We really enjoy it, Ms. Mendelaw
said. She is the programs co-chair, and
this year she and her husband are hosting
three 14-year-old boys: Sagi, Natan, and
Ishaiy. The youngsters two from kibbutzim near Ashkelon and Sderot and
the other from Jerusalem check in
with their parents every day.
Ms. Mendelaw said that because her
husband is Israeli, we have a huge
family in Israel. We go there almost
every year.
In describing the process for selecting Israeli participants, she said, were
always learning, always fine-tuning our
process for selecting kids, usually 13to 15-year-olds. They come from all
different scenarios, she said. We pull
some from the One Family Fund children who have lost family members
or been directly involved in terrorist
attacks; and we pull from the Sderot
area, where children may have come
under intense rocket fire.
The kids come with different
issues, she said, noting that the selection process often targets bright children
who have been recommended by their
teachers and guidance counselors for their
academic achievement. They also may be
strong in English-language skills.
We select those kids because they
will take this experience back with them
and be leaders and mentors to other children, she said. In the last few years, kids
who come here have wanted to mentor
younger children and give them insight
into what they need to do.
Ms. Mendelaw said that Israeli and
American teens have much in common,
a fact that she attributed to the Internet.
She also has realized that some of the
Israeli children come here and smile
but have deep issues, whether because
of rocket bombardment or having a loved
one killed. They dont realize how it
affects them. It saddens me that they have
to live their life like this and carry such a
heavy weight.
She feels that OHOH is effective in
showing them that life can be better.
They can live without fear. It gives them
that opportunity to be teenagers. Its a
reprieve they come and laugh and play

and can be healthy and fearless.

Her own children now 27, 24, and 19
have interacted with their Israeli guests
over the years.
They learned to be extremely grateful
for what they have, she said. They dont
have to worry about rockets hitting their
home or their parents not coming home.
In May, Ms. Mendelaw held a reunion in
Israel, bringing together 10 years worth
of kids they hosted now including
many officers in the army. Some brought
their parents, who came over and
embraced us and thanked us for changing
their kids lives.
Debbie and Eric Newman of River Edge
hosted two Israeli girls, Chen and Siel, during the summer programs first session.
They had a wonderful experience, as
did we, Ms. Newman said. We have two
girls of our own of similar ages. Our kids

made a connection, they loved it, she

added, and the teens already are texting
each other.
While Ms. Newman did not speak in
great detail with her Israeli visitors, one
of them pointed out how very little time
they have to get into shelters, she said.
When she heard a fire truck, it was pretty
intense, and the hosts had to talk her
through the experience, assuring her that
all was well.
The host said the visiting teens were
clearly impressed by the fact that they
could walk around at night, play outside
in the yard, and go to the park. Siel, she
said, reacted to things our kids have the
freedom to do safely.
Nevertheless, she said, not everything
overwhelmed the Israelis.
We took them to the Empire State
Building and saw some local fireworks
from a distance. They
w e r e n t i m p r e s s e d .
(Apparently, the fireworks
display on Israel Independence Day displays is
more spectacular.)
Open Hearts is one of

a kind unique in the Jewish world, Mr.

Levine wrote. I know of no other diaspora community that hosted Sderot youth
more than once. Only OHOH has persevered, continuing year after year to inspire
hope and motivation for the young people
of Sderot.
I am certain that OHOH alumni carry
with them the memories of the friendly,
caring Jewish families that opened their
homes and opened their hearts and
embraced them for three weeks five during the craziness of Protective Edge. They
are eternally thankful, as are their parents
and siblings.
On this side of the world, Ms. Compa
said that in hosting two girls, Noa, 13, and
Shoval, 13, her own family, including her
husband, Peter, and their children, Lindsay, 13, and Jonathan, 6, learned a great
deal.
It was a meaningful experience to show
these girls life in America while hearing
from them about life in Israel, she said.
For us, it was an honor to have these
girls here and especially important that
we could give them something they dont
have at homelife without fear.

At left, Debbie and Craig Padover flank their Israeli guests, Ido and
Eli; Below, the whole group gathered on the last night of the visit.

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Vacation from grief

Local teens volunteer at Israeli camp for kids dealing with loss
Abigail Klein Leichman
All 400 campers in Camp Koby live every
day with the pain of having lost a parent
or sibling to terror or illness.
That is the only cost of admission to
the weeklong sessions held at Kibbutz
Yechiam, near the Jewish Federation of
Northern New Jerseys Partnership 2000
city, Nahariya.
Its the job of professional therapists
to provide a safe environment, with art,
drama, music, nature, sports, and animal
therapy. Its the job of volunteer counselors this year, including seven from Bergen County to pack as much adventure,
fun, and laughter into that week as they
possibly can.
I dont talk to the boys about their personal stories, said Ari Portal of Teaneck,
16, a rising junior at the Frisch School in
Paramus. The camp is about making
sure they have fun, and are not focusing
on the bad parts of their lives unless they
want to. As a co-counselor for four boys
going into seventh grade, Ari accompanied them to activities on and off the kibbutz, including swimming, paintballing,
and kayaking.
There were days they seemed upset
and they said they needed a minute to be
alone, Ari said. One of the boys mentioned that a parent had died. I didnt
probe too much.
What you take away from Camp Koby
is that these kids who suffered such tragedies can lead normal lives and have fun.
They dont have to be sad all the time.
Camp Koby, geared to children and
teenagers from 7 to 17, is one of several
ongoing programs for bereaved Israeli
families from the Koby Mandell Foundation. The foundation was created by
Rabbi Seth and Sherri Mandell, whose
13-year-old son, Koby, was stoned to
death in 2002 by terrorists inside a cave
near the Mandell home in Tekoa, a small
village south of Jerusalem.
Rabbi Mandell told the Jewish Standard that from the start, Camp Koby was
inundated with requests from American
teens wanting to volunteer. In our third
or fourth year, we took a few girls from
New Jersey as counselors and realized it
was a wonderful thing for both sides of
the equation and we should expand it,
he said.
The camp affords volunteers a chance
to meet real Israeli kids, he says. Most
of them have been to Israel many times
for touring, so this brings them a whole
new set of connections. On the Israeli
side, the campers appreciate that these
mythical Americans want to help them,
and that they are important to Jews all

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Noah Thurm, center, and other Camp Koby counselors from the United States
mug for the camera.
Dovi Chrysler

Shoshi Jeselsohn and a Camp Koby camper

Rachel Kraft and camper hug.

Courtesy Shoshi Jeselsohn 
Courtesy Rachel Kraft

over the world.

The foundation considers applications
from teenagers who already have volunteered at hospitals or with underprivileged kids, want to connect to Israel, and
have some Hebrew-speaking skills. In
addition to one week at the sleepaway
camp, each accepted applicant gets to
experience four weeks of supervised
touring across Israel. They can opt for an
additional week at the Gadna pre-military
training program.
The staff-camper ratio at Camp Koby is
about one to one, and each older camper

is assigned one American and one Israeli

counselor.
Shoshi Jeselsohn, a rising Frisch junior
from Teaneck, says the Hebrew immersion she experienced in elementary
school at Yeshivat Noam in Paramus
enabled her to interact easily with the
two sixth-grade girls assigned to her and
an Israeli co-counselor.
But I also learned so much more
vocabulary in one week, she said.
Another intangible she gained is a sense
of thankfulness. Its been really emotional
to be surrounded by children who have

Noah Thurm, left, and Daniel Elbaum

with camper
Max Muss

lost family members. Its really changed

me to see how happy and sweet these
girls are.
Rachel Kraft of Englewood, soon to
start 11th grade at the Ramaz Upper
School in Manhattan, assisted during
sessions of art, movement, dance, and
other therapeutic modalities. I wanted
to do an Israel summer program that had
meaning to it, and I like working with
kids, she said. Meeting these kids, who
have been through so much, and have
had to handle much worse situations
than I ever have, has put a lot of things
into perspective for me.
She recalled one 8-year-old who was
sitting in a corner crying during a therapy session. Rachel sat with her, and
learned that the little girl was homesick.
I suggested she color a picture for her
mom, and she liked that idea, she said.
She gave me a huge hug, and I drew ballet shoes for her to color. She was very
excited to give the picture to her mom.
Noah Thurm of Englewood also was a
therapy intern at Camp Koby. The 16-yearold rising junior at Frisch was especially
moved by a 9-year-old boy who was born
in Australia, moved to Israel four years
ago, and recently lost his father. Hes a
great kid, and we got very close, Noah
said. This has given me a new appreciation of what I have, and how to relate to
children better.
Josh Dukas and Yonatan Potash of
Teaneck and Daniel Elbaum of Bergenfield also volunteered at Camp Koby this
summer.

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Summer projects
Teachers gather at Noam
for project-based learning seminar
LARRY YUDELSON

chool wasnt exactly back in session, but at least

some classrooms at Yeshivat Noam were full earlier
this week as the Paramus school hosted 60 teachers
for a three-day seminar on project-based learning.
Tikvah Wiener, the seminars organizer, calls it the Sandbox for its emphasis on exploring and doing rather than just
listening. Not coincidentally, that is the core idea of projectbased learning. This is the programs third year; last week, for
the first time, a Sandbox program was held in Los Angeles.
Ms. Wiener discovered project-based learning when she
was an English teacher at the Frisch School in Paramus,
where she taught for 13 years. Last year was her first as principal at the Magen David High School in Brooklyn. She became
an evangelist for the educational idea, which argues that the
traditional paradigm of a teacher lecturing to note-taking students (the sage on the stage) is obsolete. She started the Idea
Network, which now consists of four day schools working on
project-based learning, and received a prestigious Joshua Venture Group fellowship to support her work with the network.
The Sandbox at Noam drew teachers from as far as

Cleveland and Miami. But a

solid contingent came from
the Jewish schools of Bergen
County. Six fourth-grade
teachers from Yavneh Academy in Paramus. Four from
Noam. Three from Yeshivat
HeAtid in Bergenfield.
There are many resources
for educators who want to bring a project-based approach
to their science and language and math classrooms. When it
comes to bringing project-based learning to Jewish studies,
however, day school educators are pioneers.
One such pioneer is Leah Herzog, who teaches Bible at
Maayanot Yeshiva High School for Girls in Teaneck. At the
seminar, she shared some of her experiences.
Watching her, you wouldnt believe that two years ago
Ms. Wiener had to drag her to the first Sandbox, kicking
and screaming.
We had a two-hour conversation before I agreed to
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organized by Tikvah Wiener, inset.
But Ms. Herzog was persuaded that the idea had merit,
even if she still differs with Ms. Wiener on just how far it can
be taken in a Jewish setting. Id rather focus on what it can
do and leave aside what it cant do, she said.
In some ways, she said, project-based learning meshes
very well with a central component of Jewish studies classes
at Maayanot the traditional chevruta method, where a
pair of students work together to understand a text.
One of the pieces of project-based learning is developing real world skills, like collaboration, working together
as a team, learning how to give and take, to overcoming
obstacles and challenges, learning when two heads are
better than one, Ms. Herzog said. Those all are necessary

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components of learning how to study in
chevruta.
Project-based learning is what learning
used to be. When the Mishna was written, it
was project-based learning. You built a sukkah. Whats a sukkah? You looked at different sukkot. Do they meet the requirements?
Youre basically taking what the jargon
calls driving questions and then talking it
through, arguing it through.
Theres a mishna in Pirkei Avot: I
learned a lot from my teachers, more from
my peers, most from my students. Thats
project-based learning, she said..
Of course, not all students enter the
classroom expecting to participate actively
in their learning. Thats particularly true of
ninth graders, who are new to high school,
Ms. Herzog said.
A lot of times the students are looking
for the right answer, she said. In high
school, there often is no one right answer.
Theres more than one way to solve a problem, more than one way to understand
something. If you try something and its not
working, thats okay. It leads to something
else. It can be as simple as when a student
reads a verse and tries to translate it and it
doesnt make sense so try again.
Last year, she introduced a project-based

learning unit in her ninth grade Bible class.

Different groups were assigned different
chapters to study and then teach to the
other groups.
Did they learn the material better than
they would have with more traditional
instruction?
It depends how you define better. Do
they know the information as well? Does
each student know everything in chapter
five as well? Maybe not. What theyre gaining is the sense that what they get out of
something is what they put in. They learn
theyre responsible for one another.
Theyre developing psychosocial skills
which is a huge emphasis at Maayanot,
she said.
One thing project-based learning offers
Jewish studies teachers is a formal way to
evaluate the often amorphous chevruta process. If Im working in a group, Im being
assessed in how much time Im spending
working versus schmoozing, Ms. Herzog
said. Are they sharing roles, or is one person doing all the work? I hate group projects, as a student and a teacher, because
the work isnt fairly distributed. In projectbased learning, part of the assignment is
that different people need different roles
and those roles need to switch every day.

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For her 12th-grade class, Ms. Herzog

assigned a year-long independent learning
project. One period a week of the class was
devoted to students working on something
they were passionate about: Esta blish the
driving question, choose what you want to
do, create an authentic product to present
not only to your peers but to faculty and
administration.
Some of what resulted was amazing,
she said.
One student identified all the literary
techniques used in the first 20 chapters of
Isaiah and color-coded the text to highlight
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Two girls who adored Gemara more
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Another girl wrote her own piece of
music and learned the technology of recording and mixing music, she said.
The teacher also received feedback of her
own.
They realized they need more deadlines
and more guidelines, Ms. Herzog said.
Luckily for her, project-based learning

stresses the importance of learning from

mistakes, rather than focusing on avoiding
them.
Ms. Herzog has no plans to replace all her
teaching with project-based learning.
I do plenty of front teaching, she said.
Its an area where Tikvah and I somewhat
disagree. I think a students sense of security is important. I need to give them some
of the comfort of having a teacher at the
front of the room. Theyre still high school
students.
How does this compare to her own
yeshiva high school education decades ago?
I basically do everything the opposite
from my own high school experience. When
I was in high school, it was the teacher on
high, and you were stupid by dint of the fact
you were young, she said.
You didnt know anything, you didnt
inherently bring anything to the table. Your
passions didnt matter. What mattered
was what you wrote down, whether you
behaved, and whether you produced.
Project-based learning forces me to
come to know what my students are passionate about. It validates for students that
their passions are useful tools, that getting
excited about something is important, Ms.
Herzog said.

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f you enjoy the show at

Teanecks Votee Park
bandshell this Sunday
night August 9 take a
minute to tip your hat to Nobo
Wine and Grill down the road.
As Josh Passaretti tells it,
waiting tables at the high-end
kosher eatery brought together
three of the core team members of the Bergen County
Neighborhood Network, the
nonprofit entity that is putting
Open mike night at the studio in Fairview
on the Come Up arts festival.
The Network is trying to create an arts community around the conWere building a community that
verted warehouse in Fairview that is
enjoys the atmosphere, everybody we
its studio and performance space. (Its
put on.
parent company, Sixth Borough Media,
Mr. Passaretti, 26, is from Teaneck.
uses the space as well.)
He celebrated becoming
The Votee Park show will
bar mitzvah at Temple
feature the top performEmeth, and he graduated
ers from the regular shows
from college with a marketing degree. Now he works
that the network puts on
on post-production editin Fairview and streams
ing for the studio, which
at thebcnn.org. Theres
has done some projects
the weekly variety show,
for ESPN, as well as comless frequently scheduled
mercials and music videos.
storytelling and poetry
Video editing began as a
nights, and even live art
Josh Passaretti
hobby for him. The studio
battles where artists paint
offers production workonstage.
shops to train people in broadcast
At the Teaneck show, well have
skills.
a comedian, a rapper, a flute player,
Were trying to create producers
poets, one band, two DJs, and three
who can learn with us, he said. We
story tellers. And three people doing a
had a lot of friends who were overedulive art installation the entire time, Mr.
cated, and didnt have what to do. We
Passaretti said.
taught them how to produce shows for
If this sounds more hipster Brooklyn
live broadcasts.
then suburban Bergen County well,
Mr. Passaretti said his facility proSixth Borough Media makes its ambitions known in its name.
vides tools to help would-be filmmakers. In college, you could go and
For the Tuesday night shows, wouldcheck out a camera, he said. You
be performers register on Sixth Boroughs website, and a talent coordinacant do that once youre out of coltor makes the final choice.
lege. We try to empower our people to
We started just pulling from
start things. The community center is
friends, Mr. Passaretti said. Weve
an important piece of that. Anybody
gotten to the point where weve had
can come through and put in as much
people who were featured on Afroor as little work as possible, he said.
punk and BET, up-and-coming artists.
Now the network is working on a
Were starting to get people we never
fundraising campaign. Mr. Passaretti
met before coming through the doors.
and his colleagues want to move to
We also have an after show. The
a larger space, buy more equipment,
other day, we had a beat boxer come, a
train more people.
dude who played the flute got on stage,
And for that project, his year at Nobo
and someone playing the guitar. It was
may come in particularly useful.
all impromptu, and something magical
It was always about customer service and upselling, he said. Thats
to be around.
how you get tips.
Often people come to see their
You have to be able to present yourfriends perform at variety shows and
self, and we definitely learned a great
then they leave, he said, but our community comes for the entire show.
deal about that.

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Teaneck volunteer helps fight
HIV and AIDS in South Africa
Ariella Applebaum of Teaneck, a
senior in Stern College for Womens
S. Daniel Abraham Honors Program,
is a volunteer with African Impact, an
organization offering a host of volunteer opportunities in Africa.
The most powerful moment of Ms.
Applebaums summer came during
a home visit she paid to an elderly
patient suffering from HIV in the
village of Khula, South Africa. The
woman had suffered a stroke that had
left her unable to walk months earlier.
Ariella Applebaum
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But she never lost hope, Ms. Applebaum said. Each week, the patient
worked carefully with health care volmedical professionals and caregivers to
unteers in the country like Ms. Applefacilitating educational workshops about
baum to regain her strength.
HIV and AIDs that addressed topics such
The visit was one of many Ms. Appleas nutrition, basic health and well-being,
baum made while volunteering for
and family planning. She also provided
African Impact; she chose a track that
support and assistance at in-home visits.
would reflect her interest in improving
According to Ms. Applebaum, a biology major with a minor in computer
the quality of life and access to health
science and art history, her education
care of impoverished communities in
at Stern played a big role in inspiring
South Africa. On a typical day, her duties
her to seek out experiences like African
included everything from volunteering
Impact.
in orphanages and working alongside

Give your old shoes a new life

The JCC of Paramus/Congregation Beth
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Recycling program. A box for donations
is in the synagogue lobby; items will be
accepted during weekday and Sunday shul
hours. August is athletic shoe month;
the shul will earn more for recycled athletic sneakers and non-metal cleats.
Shoe Box Recycling is a for-profit shoe
recycler. Every pair of shoes collected is
distributed for resale and reuse in its original form at various marketplaces around

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Editorial
No words

Truth regardless of consequences

Will Iran deal

expose Jewish
political impotence?

ometimes there really are no words. We

dig for them, we scrabble through our
piles of vocabulary hoping that something will turn up.
But there are no words.
No words for our grief for 16-year-old Shira
Banki, vibrant, alive, with all the worlds possibilities open for her, now dead because some
deranged man with a knife decided to kill her
(and wounded five others, who seem likely to
recover).
She was murdered at the Jerusalem Pride
parade, where members of the gay, lesbian,
bisexual, and transgendered communities gathered. She was a friend of the community but
none of those labels were her identity. She was
straight. That is an irony, largely unimportant
except to show in even bloodier relief the foul
incoherent idiocy of her butcher.
The nightmare was so grotesque that it united
everyone in Israel, at least temporarily; politicians and religious figures who disapproved of
the parade and its marchers still were horrified
by what happened.
And the baby! Eighteen-month-old Ali Dawabsheh was burned alive when his house was firebombed; his four-year-old brother and his parents were injured badly.
How does anyone firebomb a house where a
toddler and a small child live? How do you firebomb a house at all, of course, but one with children in it?
There are no words for the evil that was done
there.
And done by Jews! We are meant to be a light

T
Shira Banki

to the nations, but that doesnt mean that we

are meant to set them alight. We are meant to
be a holy nation; that doesnt mean that we are
to slaughter everyone we think gets in the way.
It is a mortification to the rest of us.
There are no words but maybe the problem
is that there have been words. Words of hate,
directed by people who believe they know Gods
will at those who they define as Gods enemies.
Words of intolerance. Words of violence. Words
that incite and enrage and derange.
The only words we can say, as we move away
from Tisha BAv, where we mark the destruction
brought about by senseless hatred, and toward
the month of Elul, which leads us to retrospection, self-awareness, apology, and repentance and
eventually to Rosh HaShanah, are We are sorry.
We are devastated by the violence done by Jews.
It is an abomination.
JP

here is near unanimity

among Jewish organizations in the United States
and Israels Jewish citizens that the Obama deal with Iran
is a catastrophe that
must be stopped.
With the predictable exception of J
Street, which never
saw a deal against
Israel that it did not
support, almost no
Jewish organizations
have come out in
Rabbi
support of the deal. Shmuley
Israeli opposition
Boteach
to it runs across the
entire political spectrum, with the exception of the
Arab parties.
But whatever happens with
the Iran deal and we can only
hope that Congress will kill it and
demand something much tougher
it has exposed the persistent
myth of Jewish control.
Here is an American president
who received nearly 80 percent
of the Jewish vote in his first presidential election and 70 percent
in his second. He received oodles
of Jewish financial support and
the backing of tons of Jews in the
media. But that did not add up
to a hill of beans when it came to
negotiating with a government that
swears it will kill six million Jews
in Israel, not to say anything of its
promises of Death to America.
When it comes to Israel, you can
recite any lie and get away with it.
No, my friends, the Jews control absolutely nothing. The Iran
deal has exposed global Jewish
impotence. We cant even get
Senator Chuck Schumer, the Jewish senator from New York, who

has enjoyed tremendous Jewish

backing, to come out against the
deal. We cant persuade democratic senators from states teeming with Jewish constituents, like
New Jersey, California, and Connecticut,
to fight the deal, the
exception being the
courageous and outstanding senior senator from New Jersey,
Robert Menendez.
Faced with an existential threat against
the only Jewish state
on earth, and the
first in 2,000 years,
the Jews only can go
begging to their elected representatives to curb President Obamas
desire for dtente with Iran, which
repeatedly commits itself to a second Holocaust.
Ah, that old over-roasted chestnut of Jews having global dominion.
As anyone can see, precisely the
opposite is true. The Jews remain
the only group in the world that
UN member states can threaten
to exterminate and be rewarded
with the unfreezing of billions of
their assets for doing so. The Jewish state remains the only country
in the world that the global media
can malign with impunity and pay
no price. And Israel is the only
country against which boycotts
are demanded on university campuses even as it remains the Middle Easts only democracy.
When it comes to Israel, you can
recite any lie and get away with it.
You can claim Israel doesnt
want peace, and omit the fact that
the land Israel ceded to the Palestinians in peace deals has been
transformed into terrorist enclaves

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every time. You can portray Israel as bombing Gaza indiscriminately, and omit the fact
that Hamas is a genocidal organization committed in its charter to Israels destruction
and the murder of Jews worldwide, firing
thousands of rockets to achieve that goal.
You can portray Israel as having a partner
in peace in the Palestinian Authority, and
omit the fact that its a dictatorship run by
Mahmoud Abbas, who has not stood for
election in more than a decade.
You can praise Abbas as a man dedicated
to the Palestinian people, and omit the fact
that he runs a kleptocracy that has given
him $100 million in wealth and his sons
Tarik and Yasser illegal control of the construction and cigarette trades, among other
lucrative industries.
Like Jimmy Carter, you can call Israel an
apartheid state, and omit the fact that Nelson Mandela was a true apostle of peace,
who languished in jail for 27 years, while
Yasser Arafat is the father of international
terrorism, who made his name by blowing
up Jewish children.
You can label Israel racist, yet omit the fact
that Arab citizens of Israel enjoy more rights
than Arabs anywhere in the Middle East.
Rather than demand that Iran stop

murdering democratic protesters in the

street, our president rushes to conclude a
nuclear deal with Iran without so much as
consulting Israel for its view.
You can portray Israel as bigoted against
its Arab citizens, and omit the fact that
Arabs serve at the highest levels of Israeli
officialdom, including the Supreme Court,
something unthinkable in an apartheid
regime. You can omit the fact that Israeli
hospitals treated Abbas wife and the
daughter of the current Hamas leader.
You can lie and blame Israel for the wars
in the Middle East, while omitting the fact
that the single greatest threat to world civilization today is not the Jews and the puny
State of Israel but radical Islamic terrorism, which is producing monsters like ISIS,
Hamas, Al Shabab, and Boko Haram.
You can continually compare Israel to
pre-1994 South Africa, even as it offends
the brave black population of that beautiful
country, who are models of reconciliation
and forgiveness.
You can portray the Jews as having a right
to Israel only by virtue of being displaced
in Europe after the Holocaust, while ignoring the fact that the Jews are the indigenous people of Israel. It is not I who says

Rather than President Obama demandso, but the Christian Bible. Read the New
Testament, and try and find mention of a ing that Iranians stop the incitement against
single Arab resident of ancient Israel. The the Jews and stop promising to annihilate
Jews were the lands inhabitants, and they them, rather than objecting to the ramwere displaced by a European colonial pant assassination of Iranian gay men by
occupier named Rome. They were forcibly the mullahs, rather than demanding that
removed from their land and displaced for Iran stop murdering democratic protesters
2,000 years, but a small remnant always in the street, our president rushes to conremained. The Jews prayed thrice daily clude a nuclear deal with Iran, without so
to return to their land. And when finally much as consulting Israel for its view.
But while President Obamas actions
granted the political opportunity, they
came and drained the swamps, irrigated demonstrate the political powerlessness of
the sands, and made the land so much Americas Jewish community, we still can
more inhabitable for Arab brethren who appeal to the sense of righteousness and
justice that should motivate all our elected
had migrated in the interim.
The Jews were happy to share the land, leaders, especially in Congress.
Congress should kill this deal not
but it was a sentiment that the Arabs
rejected. They rejected the 1936 Peel Com- because Jews are flexing political muscle,
mission Partition. They rejected the 1947 but because the Iranian regime is monU.N. partition plan. They rejected Israels strous. But Israel, which is directly threatoffers to return all conquered 1967 lands ened by these brutes, represents the light
with their famous three nos in Khartoum: of freedom.
No peace. No recognition. No negotiation.
And they turned the Oslo peace accords Rabbi Shmuley Boteach of Englewood is
which granted Arafat political autonomy the author of 30 books and the winner of
over 95 percent of the Palestinian popu- the London Times 2000 Preacher of the
lation into a murder fest by launching Year competition. He soon will publish The
a never-ending terror war against Israels Israel Warriors Handbook. Follow him on
buses, schools, and cafes.
Twitter @RabbiShmuley.

Condemning Jewish terrorism

t is a terrible time for the Jewish people when we

How can we respond to the anger of Palestinians if
have to condemn our own for acts of violence and
we dont understand their narrative of victimhood?
terrorism.
What is the point, I asked myself, of recounting for our
First there was the murderous stabbing attack
young people a list of Palestinian terrorist attacks against
against marchers in the Jerusalem Pride
Israelis, if there is no mention of Baruch
parade. And then the arson attack against
Goldstein, the American-born Israeli who
a Palestinian village that killed an infant, an
murdered 29 worshipping Muslims and
attack that Prime Minister Netanyahu labeled
wounded another 125 at a mosque in the
as terrorism. These acts of ideologically
holy city of Hebron in 1994? Who are we to
driven hatred must be heeded, unwelcome
criticize the extremists in the Muslim world
as they are, as criminal and political acts.
when we fail to silence our own rabbis and
We must understand that although we
other extremists, who not only created the
are a people conditioned for more than 70
culture of hate that bred a Baruch Goldstein, but also declared him to be a martyr
years to think of ourselves as victims, some
Rabbi
and hero of the Jewish people?
of us have acted as perpetrators, and on our
David Fine
And last summer, just over a year ago, a
behalf. The weight of this terrorist attack
16-year-old Palestinian boy was bludgeoned
in light of the Holocaust was articulated by
and burned in response to the kidnapping and murder of
Israeli Public Security Minister Gilad Erdan of Likud, who
three Israeli teenagers. Last weeks nightmare was not the
said, We have a lot of lessons to learn as a society as a
first time that a descendant of the victims of Auschwitz
result of the incident. A nation whose children were
desecrated the holy land and the name of God by burning
burned in the Holocaust needs to do a lot of soul-searching if it bred people who burn other human beings.
another human being alive.
Too often, we tend to gloss over the terrible deeds of
We do a disservice to our young people, I reasoned last
our own, preferring instead the narrative of victimhood.
spring at my synagogue, if we only teach them about how
Last spring, for example, I was asked to look at a packet of
we have been hurt, without remembering how we have
information about Israel that we, at my synagogue, were
hurt in turn. We, and our children, need to understand
considering providing to college-bound high school gradthe full picture in order to truly engage with, and support,
uates. We know that our children on college campuses
our interests.
find themselves surrounded by an intense anti-Israel
But the events of this past week indicate that we have
discourse. Certainly we need to help provide them with
more on our plate than planning the best strategy to fight
information and background so that they will be prepared
the BDS movement. I applaud the leadership of Prime
for what they are to encounter. But I found myself saying
Minister Netanyahu, the strong words of Minister Erdan,
no to a document that failed to move beyond the language
and the decision of the Israeli security cabinet to treat the
of victimhood.
arson attack in the Palestinian village of Duma as a terrorist attack against the State of Israel.
Dr. David J. Fine is the rabbi of Temple Israel and Jewish
It is critical to recognize Jewish extremist violence as
Community Center in Ridgewood.
terrorism, because it underlies the fact that our side

Israelis hold each other for comfort at a memorial

service in Jerusalem for Shira Banki, who was murdered at Jerusalems gay pride parade.


Garrett Mills/Flash90

is guilty of some of the same ultra-radical hatred of the

other that we decry when it is pronounced by them
about us. Confronting terrorism among our own people
means engaging in a national process of repentance. Condemning our sin, feeling remorse, and changing our ways
are the classic ingredients of teshuvah repentance and
are called for from us all.
I remember how I felt in 1995 when Prime Minister
Rabin was assassinated. My grief at the time was mixed
with a sense of guilt, because our people as a whole did
not recognize the danger inherent in the discourse of hate
that we had allowed to germinate. I am certainly not one
to argue that we need to curb the freedom of speech. And
yet I remember the posters of Rabin in a Nazi uniform
and an Arab headdress, and we would simply laugh about
See jewish terrorism page 20

Jewish Standard AUGUST 7, 2015 17

Editorial

No agenda, only me
An Englewood native personalizes an issue

ith the Supreme Courts

monumental decision this
summer, the same tiresome, offensive rhetoric
has been stirred up again, attempting to
embody the gravitas their users hope for.
For some audiences the rhetoric proves
successful, but for me, my family, my
friends, and thousands
more, it has fallen flat for
the umpteenth time. In particular, these talking points
often include the terms gay
agenda, gay activist, and
the most irksome, gay lifestyle. These phrases roll
around too often in peoples
mouths, and have become a
Tamar
kind of crutch for those seekPrager
ing to strike down the legitimacy of gays and lesbians
seeking rights. Ive thought them through
so many times, and have concluded that
not only have they never applied to me,
but they dont make much sense when
used as blanket terms. However, they
remain fixtures in peoples language, conceptualizations born of ignorance and
likely fear of the unknown.
There is no agenda; there is only me.
I am a 39-year-old Jewish woman with

a wife and two sons. I was raised in Englewood, a product of a two-parent household with three siblings and three pets.
I attended a local Jewish day school and
spent 18 years embedded in the community, growing friendships and learning
about the world through a modern Orthodox lens.
I am a hard worker, with
four Columbia University
degrees. I am a nurse practitioner and a full-time mother,
putting everything I am into
my childrens day-to-day
lives. I do not have a gay
agenda. Any agenda I do have
is one about working to keep
my relationships healthy and
pushing my often tired self to
do more and learn more, to
live a satisfying life.
Anyone who has met me, if even just
for five minutes, would agree that Im no
activist. Its not a dirty term, it just doesnt
describe me. However, am I intellectually a
proponent of securing more standing and
rights from my own government? Of course
I am. Why wouldnt I be? Does it make me
a radical to yearn for such things? And
to rejoice upon receiving them? Straight
readers, imagine yourself falling below

the horizon, below a place of respect and

understanding, all while seeing your peers
handed the respect and rights you feel you
deserve and have earned.
Would you not rejoice if such obstacles
were overcome?
And let me be clear. If after reading this
piece, you still believe that my life merits
the term gay lifestyle, so be it. But please
read carefully. I see my lifestyle more aptly
described by the terms Jewish, suburban,
and northeasterner, as opposed to say, a
kibbutznik, or Midwestern dairy farmer,
or a Cape Cod fisherman.
I live in the northeast, along the water,
right off the I-95 New England corridor.
I spend money on a comfortable home,
Stop and Shop groceries, occasional nonessential specialty items from gourmet
food stores. I make time for NPR while
I saut onions and zucchini, and place
my mothers roasted chicken recipe into
the oven. My lifestyle is defined by what
my hands and my heart are most often
involved in. And that is rearing my two
sons, a 3-year-old and a 1-year-old, while
running a household. Everything is with
them or for them; talking, singing, reading, playing with cars, with the dollhouse,
teaching them how to catch a ball. And
after my wife and I have put them to bed,

were ready to go to sleep ourselves. I

have carried, and kissed, and hugged,
and soothed, and run, and bent over for
14 hours. And most tiring of all I have
taught them about kindness, and patience,
and why plants and insects shouldnt be
squashed and ripped apart. I have worked
hard to build consistency, humor, and love
into daily routines.
And if there is anything left, well, I talk
with my wife. I read the New York Times.
I have granite countertops (not that I care
much) and an SUV. That is my lifestyle, as
far as I can tell.
In addition to these phrases there are
faulty inferences. They abound among a
certain set, and espouse grandiose, troubling repercussions of gay marriage. And
to that, once again, I say take a closer look.
If you dont know a gay married couple,
seek one out, or better yet, seek out a few,
and take a hard look at them.
Start with my marriage. Under the
weight of the same struggles that straight
married couples bear, we trod ahead,
doing our best with each other, and some
days are far from our best. And those of us
with children: we sacrifice, and learn, and
love, working hard to create a life for them
day after day. Some of those days sparkle,
and some merely leave us depleted. Yet

Hope in a broken world

Facing the reality, finding glimmers of optimism

hen bears woke from

the Southern United States, religious zealots in Israel set fire to Palestinian homes,
hibernation this season,
killing a sleeping infant, while the extremthey found a world full of
ists spray paint Jewish stars and the word
uncertainty. It looked like
Revenge on its walls.
a world much different than it was when
On top of all this, the United States sancthey went to sleep a few months ago.
Olympic decathlon wintions a deal to relieve Iran from
ners have embraced genits arms embargo, fuel it with
der changes and the Jellbillions of dollars, and pave the
O Pudding spokesman
way toward nuclear capability
and fun-loving Huxtable
for this largest sponsor of terror in the world.
father that us 40-somethings grew up with is a
Lastly, if the election was
rapist. One hundred and
held today, Donald Trump
fifty years after the abolwould be the Republican nomishment of slavery and
inee for president.
Rabbi
50 years since the Voting
Were I a bear, I would go
David-Seth
Rights Act, racist hatred
back to sleep.
Kirshner
causes a deranged man
Sadly, I am not a bear, and I
to kill a group of black
cannot bury my head in the pillow and close my eyes to the world around
people during Bible study. A Jew takes to
me. Besides, I have enough trouble sleepthe streets at a gay pride march, wielding
ing. The daily news reports Jewish and
a knife in a twisted form of vigilantism,
secular do not help me much.
attempting to slash out homosexuality
However, were we to use bear claws to
with this own hand. Meanwhile, in an act
unpeel the layers overlying each of these
eerily reminiscent of the Ku Klux Klan in
18 Jewish Standard AUGUST 7, 2015

events, we could see perspectives that do

not dominate the headlines. They might
give us reason to wipe the sleep from our
eyes and enter a new day with hope in
place of despair.
Each year, the suicide rate for young
transgender boys and girls has risen.
Today, when celebrities come out, it gives
others, especially young people, courage
to embrace the person they are and to be
as God created them. To live in a world
where the Supreme Court sanctions all to
have love has brought us a long way in a
short time.
When we talk about courage, we should
honor the voices of the women who
used them to encourage others to do the
same. We can only pray that those voices,
together, helped stop the rapist and others from forcing themselves on anyone
else. These courageous voices can stop
the inappropriate actions of movie stars
or rabbis in saunas. Their courage makes
our world a bit safer.
The people whose open Bibles were
covered in blood in Charleston gave a

community and a country the chance to

give an open workshop on grieving and
forgiveness. No riots erupted, no shots
were fired, no stores were looted. Instead
hearts were opened and tears were transformed into prayer. It reminded all of us
that fringe behavior does not represent the
roads we have travelled and the mountains
of equality we have climbed.
In the same vein, fanatical behavior on
the streets of Jerusalem or in West Bank
Arab villages was countered with rallies of
thousands, spearheaded by elected officials and common folk sharing outrage
against bloodshed and extremism.
On Capitol Hill last week, close to 700
people lobbied their legislators about the
perilous reality of a deal with the devil in
Tehran. Television and newsprint advertisements seem to be swaying many Americans and influencing legislators as well.
Ultimately, that is what America is about;
not just having a democracy but using it.
There is an old joke told about the Jewish news channel. A reporter comes out
every half hour, grimacing and shaking his

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that is the essence of the grit that we
use to keep our marriages and families
afloat.
There are no sinister specks lurking,
working to bring about the destruction
of American or Jewish values. We too
seek to maintain deep connections to
those traditions and religious institutions that are a part of our history. We
look to marriage and family for solace
and enjoyment, to enrich our lives in the
ways that you do. Or perhaps we dont
seek it. But that is just it. We are you,
and you are us. Overcome your fear and
you will see yourself in us perhaps in
small, inconsequential ways, but we live
a shared existence, a similar life experience. Without agendas, radical ideas,
and strange, foreign lifestyles, we are no
worse, and we are no better than you.
We simply are.
To those people who lead communities, standing at the helm and shaping others ideas, I respectfully say to
you: my thoughts speak to why gay
Jews shouldnt be written about as an
unsavory minority by community leaders. I recommend a careful, respectful
approach when writing about gay Jews,
focusing on ways to strengthen and
uplift the community, rather than on
heaping scorn and shame on those who
are different. Caustic references that
paint us in immoral ways do not serve to
strengthen the reader or better the Jewish community on the whole. They only
weaken and beat us down.

By all concrete metrics, my marriage has not destroyed anybody. It has

not weakened the fabric of Judaism or
the American body politic. To the contrary, it has emboldened and uplifted
those involved. Dont take my word for
it. Ask them. In spite of my fierce desire
to convince critics of gay marriage that
my 10-year marriage to a woman has, at
best, strengthened society, and at worst
had no effect on it, I turn down that task.
But I do wish to leave you with this.
While religiously inspired viewpoints
in the media dont call for outright
ostracism of gay men and women, the
rampant use of negative terms leads
unequivocally to shaming, to reprimanding, and ultimately to shunning. Human
beings who are portrayed as the other
can only find a lonely end. There are a
myriad of synagogues and Jewish day
schools that are proud to open their
doors to me, my wife, and our sons. I
believe they actually see an opportunity
to enrich their communities, and for that
I am grateful and applaud their acts. But
to those leaders who continue to take
pride in doctrinaire attitudes and closed
doors, take a moment to imagine what
your legacy will be.
Tamar Prager was trained as a nurse
practitioner and public health analyst at
Columbia University. She lives with her
wife and two sons in Stamford, Conn.,
but she will always love her hometown,
Englewood.

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Editorial

The Iran deals defining pattern

The more you know, the less you trust
BeN COheN

for President Ronald Reagan, digs deep

hen it comes to the deal
into the assumptions that led the Obama
agreed to a fortnight ago
administration to tear up the existing playin Vienna over Irans
book that had guided Western interactions
nuclear program, theres
with the Tehran regime for more than a
a pattern evolving that should be worrying
decade.
That playbook didnt contain a foolproof
the Obama administration.
strategy: uranium enrichment continued
The more you know about it, the less
at open and concealed sites,
you like it.
A new opinion poll consanctions were circumducted by the organization I
vented, the Revolutionary
work for, the Israel Project,
Guards Corps and the Qods
reveals that an increasing
Force were emboldened in
number of Americans are
carrying out external operaanxious about national secutions, and we had to listen
rity after the economy, its
to a constant stream of antithe issue voters take most
Semitic, Holocaust-denying
seriously and that the Iran
invective from the Iranian
Ben Cohen
deal has exacerbated their
regime. With the Vienna
concerns. More than 75 perdeal, not only will all that
cent of Americans say they have learned
continue, but it will get worse. And the
some or a lot about the deal. That
reason why thats the case, Myer says,
learning curve has been accompanied by a
is because the Obama administration is
disapproval curve that is climbing steadily
driven by a worldview that defies realities
upward among Democratic voters as well
on the ground.
For example, the assumption that Iran
as independents and Republicans.
According to the survey, when they
is a stabilizing power is nonsensical. Even
assess the deal based on just their own
if Tehran could claim the entire support of
knowledge, 47 percent of Americans
those 15 percent of Muslims who are Shia
reject it and 44 percent support it. But
and it cannot it would still be at danwhen they are presented with a number
gerous loggerheads with the Sunni Muslim
of talking points both for and against the
majority, the State of Israel, and non-Musagreement, an aggregate of 51 percent of
lim minorities in the region, many of whom,
respondents say Congress should reject it,
like the followers of the gentle Bahai faith,
while 35 percent favor approving the deal.
are persecuted viciously in Iran itself.
So if the Iranian regime cant win the
Of particular concern for President
trust of its neighbors, and in fact increases
Barack Obama, on a personal level, is that
their suspicions, how are we going to avoid
disapproval of his handling of the negotianother war the very war that Obama
ations with Iran, at 52 percent, is 15 perinsists he wants to avoid? Obamas messagcentage points greater than approval, at
ing on Iran was echoed this week by celeb37 percent, of his dealings with the Islamic
rities like Jack Black and Morgan Freeman,
Republic. It is by far his worst issue.
in one of the most inane videos Ive ever
As encouraging as this trend is for opposeen. Do they honestly think the Iran deal
nents of the deal, this is no time for us to
is going to be like that final scene in The
rest on our laurels. As Congress heads for
Shawshank Redemption, when Tim Robsummer recess, we have to keep our attenbins and Morgan Freeman embrace in
tion focused on preparations for what will
Pacific sunshine after being reunited?
happen after Labor Day, when federal legIt is unlikely that a war in the Middle
islators will make a historic decision on
East involving American troops will occur
whether to accept or reject the deal. Our
message must be that a better deal is possible, because this one is going to result in
an Iranian nuclear weapon. Its also going
jewish terrorism
to help Iran achieve regional dominance,
FrOM paGe 17
boost its terror proxies from Lebanon to
it, not taking seriously the hate that was
Iraq, directly cause more death and sufbrewing. I cried then, knowing that the
fering in Syrias civil war, and straightwhole Jewish people bore some guilt in
forwardly assist the Tehran regime in its
the fall of our leader from the bullet shot
repression of human rights.
A briefing book Ive just edited, titled
by one of our own, because we did not
Surrender in Vienna: Why We Need A
see the danger in the discourse that surBetter Nuclear Deal With Iran, explores
rounded us.
these distinct-yet-overlapping issues in
As an historian of modern German
greater detail. In his introduction to the
history, I keep coming back to the quescollection, Allan Myer, a former senior U.S.
tion: What are the lessons to be learned
defense official who was a speechwriter
from the Holocaust? What is the point of
20 Jewish standard aUGUst 7, 2015

secretary of state John Kerry addresses reporters in Vienna after the announcement of a nuclear deal with Iran on July 14.
state DePartMeNt

while this president remains in the White

House. But when Obamas successor takes
over in January 2017, and weve had an
even greater glimpse of how this deal
has legitimized what was once regarded
as Irans nuclear cheating, the outcome
could be very different. Nobody in his
right mind would definitively predict that
another Middle Eastern conflict involving
the United States is out of the question
over the next 20 years.
What must be considered is whether
this deal makes such an outcome more
likely. Increasingly, Americans are beginning to understand that it does, and that
kneejerk slogans like No War on Iran are
no guarantee that there wont be a war
with Iran.
That is precisely why we need a better
deal.
To begin with, the deal has to fix the
painfully large holes in the inspection
regime. It means getting Iran to accept the
anytime, anywhere principle on inspections. It means getting absolute clarification on the existence of concealed nuclear
facilities. Most importantly, it means
a candid and honest account of Irans
past nuclear activities particularly the

memory? What I keep coming back to is

that we have to put ourselves in the place
of ordinary Germans in the 1930s. What
are the warning signs of a society that is
turning against itself? When does a culture of hate become a culture of violence
and dehumanization? How can we turn
away from hate, and work towards a culture if not of love then of acceptance? As
Minister Erdan pointed out, we must not
allow ourselves to start acting like the
perpetrators who burned human flesh.
The only way to truly root out such

military aspects of such work.

Partisans of the deal thats been presented will say that under no circumstances would Iran sign such an alternative
deal. They conveniently ignore that that
regime was six months away from a severe
balance of payments crisis when this negotiating round began. The mullahs, therefore, will be reminded of the leverage we
have over them only if Congress rejects
this deal and recommends a better one.
That cant happen unless, during this
long, hot summer, the American people
tell those whom they elect that they are
no longer prepared to accept the false
choice of take this deal or risk another
war. Because while this administration
may have given up on the goal of peacefully dismantling Irans nuclear program,
the rest of us cant afford the same luxury.
JNs.OrG

Ben Cohen, senior editor of TheTower.org

and The Tower Magazine, writes a weekly
column for JNS.org on Jewish affairs and
Middle Eastern politics. His work has been
published in Commentary, the New York
Post, Haaretz, the Wall Street Journal, and
many other publications.

horrific outbursts of violence and hatred

as we saw last week is to condemn the
rhetoric of hate and intolerance that
breeds action in the minds of the less stable. We live in dangerous enough times
as it is, with increasing anti-Semitism and
across-the-board concern about Iran. We
must remember that the key to survival is
to be a light unto the nations.
Israel, and the Jewish people as a
whole, must rise above the culture of
hatred and teach the world how to build
a society based on love and justice.

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Cover Story

Seeds of knowledge
Solomon Schechter students learn the ABCs of gardening
JOANNE PALMER

nch by inch, row by row,

gonna make this garden
grow.
All it takes is a rake and a
hoe and a piece of fertile ground.
Inch by inch, row by row, Someone
bless the seeds I sow.
Someone warm them from below, til
the rain comes tumbling down.
Peter Seeger sang those words, and
their earnest lilt provided the background
music for many childhoods.
But think about them. Where does that
piece of fertile ground come from?

The Solomon Schechter Day School

of Bergen Countys home is a converted
public school in New Milford, a straightforward, pleasant-looking, efficient building with a courtyard in the middle. The
courtyard is shielded by two sides of the
building and opens out to playground
equipment beyond, and is visible from the
schools beit knesset, its synagogue, where
all the students gather every day.
Its gone through a number of incarnations since Schechter moved into the
building a quarter century or so ago,
including, most recently, a flower garden.
Its full of children, from pre-kindergarteners through eighth-graders, who love

Heather Rabinowitz and her daughter Liana,

a Schechter student, work in the garden together.
VERONICA YANKOWSKI

22 JEWISH STANDARD AUGUST 7, 2015

the chance to plunge their hands into rich,

fragrant soil. And its full of teachers who
love to make connections between what
kids learn in the abstract and what they
can experience with their senses, and to
make connections between Jewish values
and their students American lives.
Fertile ground!
Debbie Bejar of Teaneck whose two
sons graduated from Schechter, which
runs through middle school, and who is
a Judaic studies teacher and learning specialist there also is the schools resident
horticulturalist, she said. Im an avid gardener. Ive been gardening for most of my
life. And I lived on a kibbutz in Israel and

picked up some pointers there too.

The school had a much-loved building
manager, Bruno Brenson, also a gardener,
who cared particularly about organic gardening; at one point, he and a teacher
decided to plant in the courtyard. They
put in plants native to New Jersey; it was
sort of in the shape of New Jersey, Ms.
Behar said.
Mr. Brenson died in 2009, and the
school decided to honor his memory by
taking the garden he loved and using it in
ways he hadnt thought of. Brunos Garden began in 2010 with two vegetable
beds, Ms. Bejar said.
R i c k y S t a m l e r- G o l d b e r g i s t h e

Jewish studies principal at the lower

school. There is a bit of a chicken-andegg dynamic about the garden, she said;
sometimes teachers look at it and see an
obvious lesson, and at other times they
have an idea and ask to have it made flesh
(or, perhaps, made vegetable).
We have conversations about the value
of water, she said. We pray for rain. The
schools gardeners have far more control
over the small plot of land than farmers do
over vast fields, but still some crops flourish and others wither. It is an interesting
concept to say Look at what grows and
what doesnt, she added.
It gives them an appreciation for the
seasons. It teaches them the value of taking care of the land, of tikkun olam of
values that get tied together naturally.
The garden also affects the childrens
behavior, Ms. Stamler-Goldberg said. It

There is nothing
more fun than
having a kid come
back during the
summer and
notice that the
sunflower is no
longer shorter
than they are.
gives them a chance to work collaboratively to make things happen.
Lauren Goldman-Brown directs general
studies at Schechters lower school. The
children are more careful about where
they play in the garden, she said. They
will run around it, and sit in groups in it,
but they are very respectful of it, because
they have created it.
It is a nice point of integration for Jewish and general studies, she continued.
The idea of people as the guardians of
Gods creation becomes tangible, even for
the youngest children, as they look at the
bright plants they have watched sprout
and bloom.
We also make sure to have a first fruit
harvest at Shavuot, and a harvest right

before Sukkot, both harvest festivals,

Ms. Bejar said. We make the connections
with the chaggim, the holidays. And
to connect with Israel we have an Israeli
salad grown in the garden, cucumbers
and tomatoes.
Because gardens are seasonal, and need
tending as much during the summer as
they do during the rest of the year certainly they need more hands-on care in
the hot months than they do in wintertime children and their families can sign
up to tend the garden over the summer,
and help out, Ms. Stamler-Goldberg said.
Vegetables have to be picked and eaten!
We dont want to waste the tomatoes,
basil, and other herbs.
There is nothing more fun than having a kid come back during the summer
and notice that the sunflower is no longer
shorter than they are, and that the tomatoes are in bloom.
As a way to make American colonial history come to life, We created a Three Sisters garden, Ms. Bejar said. In that Native

Schechters resident horticulturalist, Deborah Bejar, works with students Eliana

Apter, Maya Apter, Liana Rabinowitz, and parent Rachel Wainer Apter.

VERONICA YANKOWSKI

Ms. Bejar, who also teaches at the school, talks about garden with Taya Schwartzbard, Eli Nanus, and David Asulin.
JEWISH STANDARD AUGUST 7, 2015 23

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American plan, beans, corn, and squash
grow together, and each provides something for the others. The beans provide
the nitrogen, the corn provides the stalk
for structure, and the squash, around it,
provides the shade to prevent too many
weeds.
We have planted some miniature trees
dwarf fruit trees and a fig tree. We have
blueberry and raspberry plants. It helps
children know the difference between pri
ha-adamah and pri ha-etz, the fruit of
the ground, aka vegetables and berries,
and the fruit of the tree, including apples
and figs. (Once the children know that,
they can know which blessing to make
before eating.)
Most of the time, Ms. Bejar continued,
The kids are quite separate from the
land outside, and from knowing how
food grows. It doesnt come out of a plastic bag.
The garden is as complete an ecological
system as the gardeners can make it. We
also have perennial herbs and flowers,
Ms. Bejar said. It is a butterfly garden. We
chose plants that provide nectars to butterflies because we wanted to attract them
to the garden, and we planted milkweed
for the same reason.
Butterflies are beautiful, and they are
also endangered, and we have to protect
them.
There is much for children to learn from
the fluttering loveliness in the air. The
kids were learning about butterflies in

Maya Apter holds a plant, roots and all.

pre-K, so I did a little presentation to them

about monarch butterflies, and how they
need milkweed to survive, Ms. Bejar said.
We also plant sunflowers near the vegetables, to attract bees. We need butterflies
and bees and birds for fruits and vegetables to grow. If the plants are not fertilized
a service those creatures provide as they
go about their own business there will be
no new ones.
We provide the butterflies and bees
with a habitat, and they provide us with a
service. It is mutual. We teach kids about
that. We teach them about the need for
earthworms, too. It is all part of creation

VERONICA YANKOWSKI

It is all necessary. We have to respect it.

There are other beds, each with its own
theme. Some are more connected to science and engineering projects, and some
to the social studies curriculum, Ms.
Behar said.
Debbie approached me with the
idea of using the garden to align with
what we are learning in social studies,
fifth-grade teacher Abbie Dinowitz said.
The kids have been learning a lot about
colonial life: What did they eat? What
did they farm? What did they wear?
What was their government like? What
was day-to-day life like? We needed a

more experiential way to answer those

questions.
The children knew from books that you
couldnt just go to the store to buy your
tomatoes, but the experiential aspect
they first planted seedlings in containers
and watched them grow inside, and then
transplanted them outside and cared for
them there allowed them to ask different questions about it, including what
the technology would have been like, and
what varieties of tomatoes would have
been available.
It hit them about how different life was
then, about how people couldnt refrigerate things, couldnt just go and make a
salad, Ms. Dinowitz said.
The kids learned that what they planted
in that garden either had to be eaten right
away or preserved or stored, Ms. Bejar
added. Turnips and hard squash are preserved in root cellars. Beans are dried. Lettuces could be eaten right way. And herbs
and even some flowers had medicinal
purposes.
A major goal is that children should
learn an awareness of their environment
and of nature, and feel awe at creation.
Everything they see out there has a
purpose, she concluded. It is also beautiful but it has a purpose. They learn to
observe when they are outside. They learn
to ask questions. They learn to think critically and they also learn to develop a
sense of awe when they see how well it all
works together.

Left, Eitan Elias looks at a plant he holds in an adult-sized gardening glove; right, Eliana Abed and Isabel Gross investigate the Three Sisters garden, with its interdependent beans, corn, and squash.
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Jewish World

A year after Gaza war, border communities are growing

BEN SALES
TEL AVIV Few communities were as
battered during last summers conflict
between Israel and Hamas as Nahal Oz,
a kibbutz of some 350 people that is just
a mile from the Gaza border.
At one point in the fighting, 40 missiles landed on the community in a single day. Hamas militants attempting to
infiltrate the kibbutz through a tunnel
killed five Israeli soldiers. For much of
the war, families with young children
were evacuated to other communities
far from the fighting. And just four days
before the wars end, 4-year-old Daniel
Tragerman was killed by a mortar outside his kibbutz home, dealing one last
heavy blow to the communitys morale.
Nahal Oz still is recovering from the
trauma of the war. But one year after it
became a virtual ghost town, the kibbutz
is not only functioning, its growing. And
the same story is repeated throughout
the Gaza border communities. Fifteen
years of near constant rocket fire have
not deterred families from moving to
these small agricultural towns, known
here as the Gaza Envelope.
What we felt here, we didnt feel anywhere else in Israel, said Tom OrenDenenberg, 40, who moved to Nahal Oz
in November with his wife, Yael. The
moment you get here, you feel peoples
warmth. You feel theres a warm, embracing community. You feel it in the air.
In nearly a year since the war, the Eshkol Regional Council, which oversees the
Gaza Envelopes southern half, has seen
its population grow by 516 people. That
is a significant jump over the increase in
2013 that was 373 people. Shaar Hanegev Regional Council, to Eshkols north,
has dozens of new housing units under
construction and waiting lists for more
that are still being planned.
Even Nahal Oz, which saw a drop
in population after the war, has more
than bounced back. Sixteen families left
after the war, but 14 have moved in, and
another five will join them by summers
end. In a typical year, Nahal Oz absorbs
10 to 15 new families.
The interesting thing is that it didnt
go down to zero, Sergio DellaPergola,
a respected Israeli demographer and
emeritus professor at Hebrew University, said of the growth rate. Instead of
falling, it didnt fall. The message is that
the security risks, the tunnels underground, arent enough that people wont
want to live in that area.
If moving to the Gaza border doesnt
make sense intuitively, it certainly does
make dollars. According to the Or movement, which encourages settlement in
Israels north and south, residents of the
Gaza Envelope can take home as much

as $1,000 more per month than they

would if they lived elsewhere, thanks to
an income tax benefit for residents of the
area. Residents in the south get a card
that provides discounts at local businesses, as well as at cultural and sporting events.
Residents of the Gaza Envelope also
get hefty discounts on real estate, an
especially appealing prospect given that
Israels housing prices have risen nearly
60 percent since 2008. They receive a 69
percent discount on property lot values,
and some building permits and other
fees are waived entirely.
In Nahal Oz, which felt compelled to
make up for the families that left, the
kibbutz invested more than $500,000
to recruit new members.
We had to invest superhuman efforts
to get people here, said Oshrit Sabag,
who heads the Nahal Oz recruitment
efforts. We put in a lot of resources, a
lot of thought, a lot of money, and we
used a lot of outside sources to succeed
and repopulate the kibbutz. It wasnt
easy after the summer we had to convince people to come live here.
Residents say the biggest inhibitor of
even more rapid growth is uncertainty
about the next outbreak of violence. Cities in Israels center and north are protected by the Iron Dome missile defense
system, but in Nahal Oz, residents sometimes have only five seconds to find shelter after a warning siren goes off before a
missile strike. The Israel Defense Forces,
meanwhile, has remained vague about
its progress eliminating tunnels used by
Hamas to attack Israel, saying only that
its using a range of means to address the
issue.
No one knows what will be and when
it will happen again, said Inbar Shevach, a social worker employed by the
kibbutz. Anything can make people
jump, every boom. Every person deals
with it in his own way. Everyone has
their own fears for the future.
DellaPergola said that in addition to
an Israeli ethos to settle the land beyond
Tel Aviv, Israelis historically havent been
fazed by security risks. They tend to stay
constant in their willingness to move to
far-off places, he said, at times if only to
prove that war wont drive the country
to abandon an area.
You think something happens and
everything changes, DellaPergola said.
The Israeli populations trends continue
for a long time. Very little changes in the
foundation of Israeli society, despite the
problems and tough times and complicated events. Whats interesting is the
stability.
Residents say the attacks strengthen
their sense of solidarity, giving them
something to fight for. That resolve

Children in the southern Israeli kibbutz of Nahal Oz play near a colorfully painted
concrete shelter last month.
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attracts Israelis searching for a national purpose, according to Ronnie Levine, chairman
of Kibbutz Erez on Gazas northern border.
I think people in Israel want to do

something pioneering, ideological, Levine

said. Here they have ideology and a wonderful community thats not really far from
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Communication breakdown
Workers prepare
the stage for
Israeli Prime
Minister Benjamin
Netanyahus
address to
AIPACs
2015 Policy
Conference.

What happened when the White House

briefed AIPAC activists?
RON KAMPEAS
Got questions about the Iran nuclear deal?
Too bad, if you were an AIPAC activist
at a briefing this week with top Obama
administration officials.
At the briefing on Wednesday, Howard
Kohr, the American Israel Public Affairs
Committees director, stopped the proceedings before his activists could ask
questions.
The question is why did he do that?
What really happened? And what it means
that the story was leaked?
Did the Obama administration bigfoot
AIPAC and muscle into the pro-Israel
groups lobbying session, only to disingenuously complain when administration officials ran out of their allotted time? Or was
AIPAC not accommodating enough when
administration officials asked to make
their case to pro-Israel activists?
Heres what happened, as confirmed by
four people close to the top Obama officials who spoke anonymously, as well as
an AIPAC spokesman, who spoke on the
record.
AIPAC flew in 600 to 700 activists from
across the country to lobby against the
sanctions-relief-for-nuclear-restrictions
deal reached July 14 with Iran.
AIPAC opposes the deal, saying it endangers Israel and U.S. interests, and wants
Congress to exercise its power to kill the
deal within two months by the end of
September or thereabouts.
Hence the fly-in, just before Congress

took its August break.

President Barack Obama, who backs the
deal, got wind of the fly-in, and asked his
staff to offer to give the AIPAC activists a
briefing on the deal from the administrations perspective.
It was all very last-minute, AIPAC said, but
the pro-Israel lobby budgeted half an hour
for the officials on Wednesday morning.
At 8 a.m., the White House chief of staff,
Denis McDonough; the undersecretary of
state for political affairs, Wendy Sherman,
who led the Iran talks; and Adam Szubin,
the director of the Treasurys Office of Foreign Assets Control, which enforces sanctions, were set to speak to the activists.
The three gave presentations, splitting the 30 minutes, before asking for
questions. Kohr stepped in and said no
questions.
This is where the accounts of the Obama
administration and AIPAC diverge.
Sources close to the administration said
the officials were told there would be no
questions when they scheduled the meeting, but called for them anyway and were
shut down.
AIPAC said the officials could have taken
as many questions as they liked within the
allotted 30 minutes, but chose not to and
ran out of time.
Heres the administration account,
relayed to me by a source close to all three
speakers, who asked to remain anonymous.
The administration asked to come
meet with the AIPAC members in town to
talk to members of Congress, which AIPAC

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agreed to, but the audience was told that

the administration officials would not be
allowed to take audience questions, the
source said.
White House Chief of Staff Denis
McDonough, Under Secretary of State
Wendy Sherman, and acting Under Secretary of Treasury Adam Szubin addressed
the 600-plus AIPAC members in town this
week. They were only given 30 minutes to
speak where they made the case for this
deal, and all three offered the audience
the opportunity to ask questions given
how important this topic is. But the AIPAC
moderator ended the session before they
could take any.
On the other hand, AIPAC spokesman
Marshall Wittmann told me the format was
entirely up to the speakers they could
have launched straight into questions if
they wished.
It is absolutely not true that administration officials were denied an opportunity to take questions and answers at our
event, Wittman told me in an email.
At the last minute, the administration
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any method of interrogation used on Palestinians should
be used on Jews.
An interrogation method like tiltul [violent shaking] or anything that is done when it comes to Palestinian terrorists the same thing should be done when it
comes to a Jewish terrorist, Erdan said.
Israeli advocates for Palestinian rights, however, say
harsh interrogations and administrative detention are
deeply problematic methods that shouldnt be used on
anyone Jewish or Arab except in the most extreme
cases, as sanctioned by international law.
Suddenly talking about using measures against settlers that are themselves a violation of due process is
not the way to solve this, said Sarit Michaeli, a BTselem
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violations.
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havent been applied, like proper police work and regular criminal prosecutions.
After Abu Khdeirs murder last year, three Jews were
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soon was overshadowed by the outbreak of war in Gaza.
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now, Netanyahu used the incident as an opportunity to
drive home the argument that Palestinian society celebrates murder, whereas Israeli society deplores it.
There, murderers are received as heroes, and city
squares are named in their honor, Netanyahu said of
Palestinians after the killing of Abu Khdeir, which was
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for the kidnapping and abduction of three Israeli teens
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But by almost all accounts, its not true that Israel
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Less than 2 percent of complaints submitted to the
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WASHINGTON President Barack Obama and pro-Israel
Jewish leaders exchanged concerns about how each side
distorts the others arguments in the debate over the Iran
nuclear deal, and how the distortions are creating divisions
in the Jewish community.
The meeting, held at the White House on Tuesday evening, lasted more than two hours.
Participants said it was civil and friendly Obama got a
round of happy birthdays when he walked in the room
but that Obama forcefully expressed his frustrations with
how the deal has been presented in the Jewish community.
In contrast with previous meetings, they said, much of the
discussion focused on the effect the debate was having on
American Jews, as opposed to the details of the agreement.
Pro-Israel officials confronted Obama about the impression they said he leaves that his opponents are warmongers and about his suggestions that there is something
untoward about their lobbying.
According to participants, Obama was especially frustrated with the American Israel Public Affairs Committee
for not allowing activists who flew in last week to lobby the
extended encounter he offered with his top officials. (AIPAC
limited their presentation to 30 minutes).
Deal opponents and supporters are waging a battle for the
hearts and minds of Democrats in Congress, who are the
key to success or failure of a resolution of disapproval in a
legislative window that closes toward the end of September.
Democratic lawmakers are facing intensive lobbying and a
barrage of ads from both sides. AIPAC is leading the effort
to kill the deal.
He asked people in the room, state your positions,
argue them as you wish, but at least represent the facts

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objectively, said Robert Wexler, a former congressman from

Florida who now directs the Center for Middle East Progress. Dont misrepresent what the agreement provides.
Five other people in the room, among them officials who
favored and opposed the deal, related accounts similar
to Wexlers, who was the first Jew in Congress to endorse
Obamas presidential run in 2007. Wexler favors the deal.
Four of those people asked not to be identified.
In the first 30 minutes of the meeting, Obama picked
through the sanctions relief for nuclear restriction deal
reached last month between Iran and six major powers and
argued that it cut off Irans pathways to a nuclear weapon.
Obama displayed a familiarity with the arguments made
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memo AIPAC distributed to more than 600 activists who
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Among the frustrations Obama expressed, Wexler
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not after Iran has met the deals requirements to roll
back uranium and plutonium enrichment. (Its not
clear if that was one of the AIPAC talking points.)
Wexler summed up Obamas message as: The
debate is too important for the promotion of inaccuracies and misleading misrepresentations.
Obama was especially frustrated that AIPAC allowed
his top officials just 30 minutes to explain their side of
the deal last week, in an encounter that included no
questions from the audience.
AIPAC officials have said that the White House
requested the meeting at the last minute with Denis
McDonough, his chief of staff; Wendy Sherman, the
top U.S. negotiator at the Iran talks, and Adam Szubin, Obamas top sanctions enforcement official. More
than 30 minutes would have impinged on lobbying
appointments, the officials said.
Obama, who had directed his staff to ask AIPAC
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hours after the activists finished their meetings.
The two AIPAC lay leaders at the Tuesday meeting at
the White House were Michael Kassen and Lee Rosenberg, both past presidents. Obama expressed disappointment that some of the organizations attacking
the plan were led by friends, an apparent reference to
Rosenberg, who was a fundraiser for Obama.
An AIPAC spokesman did not immediately return a
request for comment.
Deal opponents at the meeting complained that
they had been depicted as warmongers because
Obama insists that the only alternative to his plan is
war. Obama said that some of the plans critics favored
war, but acknowledged that was not true of all of the
opponents. Nonetheless, he said, he would continue
to point out that the likely outcome of the plans failure would be war.
The deal critics also criticized Obama for saying in
a conference call with liberal groups last week that his
opponents were funded by billionaires. Obama noted
that an AIPAC affiliate was ready to spend between $20
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Dear Rabbi,
Im a young modern Orthodox woman.
I like to go to the beach in the summer.
Recently some of my friends criticized me
for wearing a bikini at the beach. They say
their rabbis taught them that it is not in
keeping with our religion to wear a bikini
because it is clothing that is not modest. I
see that the prevalent fashion for young and
fit women at the beach or pool is mostly a
bikini. What makes your fellow rabbis think
that they have the authority to dictate to me
and other women what fashions to follow
on the beach or off it?
Two Piece in Teaneck

that its a religious obligaDear Rabbi,

tion that women must cover
My twenty-something daughup their arms and legs and
ter told me that she went on
midriffs?
a date with a boy she met via
I dont know why other
a smart phone app called
rabbis have taken upon
JSwipe. I gather that apps like
themselves the authority to
that are meant to help people
dictate fashion requirements
find casual hook-ups, and are
to women. And I find it hard
not intended to lead to a seriRabbi Tzvee
to approve of that.
ous relationship. Am I justified
Zahavy
It seems to me wrong for
to be concerned?
Worried parent in Wyckoff
any man to require women to
cover up. Even though there
Dear Worried,
is a long-standing theme in Jewish customs
Although many of us have smart phones by
for married women to cover their hair and
now, most of us do not know how an app
there are other customs for all women
Dear Two Piece,
like JSwipe works. When I got your questo cover much of their skin, the requireIm one rabbi who does not claim to have
tion, I didnt. So I loaded the app onto my
ment of long sleeves and long skirts using
womens fashion expertise. I am relieved
phone to see how it works. From what I
the category of modesty is at best caprithat you ask me about rabbinic authority,
gather reading about the app, it is a knockcious. In the preponderance of contexts it
rather than what is the right fashion for you.
off of the much more popular app Tinder.
also is out of step with the normal and cusI do know that in the world of fashion
The premise of JSwipe is that it targets a
tomary notions of fashion in our general
you hear often about trends, not stansubset of the population Jewish people.
communities.
If you have a Facebook account, you can
dards. I recognize that there is a lot of variAnd one more thing. It is not a stretch
log in to the app with your ID and passety in the choices that women have, on
for some folk to criticize the cover-up
word and it pulls in your photos and other
and off the beach.
rules in Orthodox circles as yet another
information from that site. You answer
One day this summer I had the occameans of segregating women and as a way
a few basic questions about your Jewish
sion to walk the length of the boardwalk
of denying them the freedom to choose
preferences (e.g., kosher or not, Orthoin a Long Island South Shore beach comand the rights to decide their own fashion
dox, Conservative, Reform or a few othmunity and could not help but observe
options.
ers). You can be swiping actively through
that bikinis are a quite common choice
The notion that covering up all of your
pictures of potential matches with the app
for women, young and middle aged, at
skin on the hot summer beach or at the
in a matter of minutes.
the beach clubs along the way. And I did
pool or in the marketplace around town is
There is no learning curve. You look at a
notice in the Target ad flyer in the Sunday
connected to virtue is patently unfounded.
picture of a possible date and swipe left to
newspaper that most of the womens swim
Hence the rules that mandate overdressing
reject it or right to accept it. If you swipe
suits on sale are bikinis.
are arbitrary annoyances at best.
right and the other person does as well,
Before anyone criticizes me for gazing
Yet Ive been told that there is a new
then you have made a match. You then can
upon women, let me refer to a story about
womens clothing store on Cedar Lane in
chat with your match in the app and posone of our greatest talmudic rabbis, RabTeaneck that sells kosher swimsuits made
sibly make a date.
ban Gamaliel. According to the Talmud,
of nylon and polyester, comprising pants
Several shortcomings of this technolwhen he saw a beautiful woman, Gamaunder a skirt and elbow length sleeves. I
ogy jumped right out at me. When I tried
liel recited a blessing, Blessed be He who
would not be surprised if these bathing
it out, the app did not actually screen
made beautiful creatures in this world.
costumes have tags on them certifying rabwho I was. I downloaded it, signed in,
I agree with Gamaliel. Beauty is somebinical approval.
set some values, and was ready to swipe.
thing that God bestowed upon our world.
Truly, I have no idea where my colThat should worry both young users and
When the appropriate fashion allows
leagues got the notion that wearing a bikini
their parents. If the new user wants to
for us to admire beauty in a tactful and
at the beach is a bad thing. I cant explain
meet a Jewish date, you should know that
respectful way, we may do so, and perhaps
or justify this rabbinic attitude to you. My
the other JSwipe user might not be Jewish
we should thank God with a blessing.
advice to you is to follow your own notions
even if they say they are. And yes, Jewish
Now you may wonder, why dont other
of comfort and the prevailing styles and
or not, there is no way to know if they are
Orthodox rabbis agree with Rabban Gamafashions of your immediate community.
stable or reputable people.
liel and with me? Why do many religious
And if anyone criticizes you, you may
Once you get the app on your phone
authorities who happily admit that they
answer with a confident and polite reply,
your activity in it is limited mainly to lookhave no knowledge or understanding of
Thank you for your opinion. I will wear
ing at pictures many of which are the
fashion go ahead and teach and preach
whatever I deem appropriate.
grainy snapshots that people use for their
Facebook accounts. A small percentage
of users put in additional descriptions of
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proximity to potential matches and set a

few Jewish preferences.
I certainly hope that people who match
through the app and agree to a date will
meet in a safe public place, to get a chance
to validate somewhat that their match is a
suitable person.
Does this system help people find
proper matches? Im no specialist in the
sociology of Jewish dating. But I seriously
doubt that this type of superficial app produces many fulfilling relationships or even
enjoyable dates. To use totally non-analytical terms, at first blush, to me the system
seemed simplistic, rude, and creepy.
Should you be worried if you find out that
your child uses the app? A little. Most kids
have common sense to be cautious about
whom they meet and date. So you need not
be that worried. But the superficiality of
the choice process and lack of vetting of the
population using the app are big drawbacks.
Well okay then. Is there anything you
can do to help your kids find suitable
dates? Parents I spoke to agree that trying to set up your child with a shidduch
is not at all welcomed in the more liberal segments of our Jewish community.
Apart from the ultra-Orthodox, who deem
arranged marriages desirable, its common that children will not want your meddling at all into their social lives. Young
people spend a great deal of effort to
establish their own identities and their
independence.
What I recommend, then, is that you help
enable your children to find and join communities of like-minded peers, where they
will have a better chance of meeting a suitable date or mate in person. Synagogues,
community centers, artistic and cultural
groups, charity activities, sports activities,
and the like are valid starting points.
Try to be patient and let real human
processes of meeting and making dates
and establishing relationships take their
course.
Bottom line, as you can tell, Im not
impressed with a dating methodology
based on swiping through tiny pictures on
a phone.
Tzvee Zahavy earned his Ph.D. from Brown
University and rabbinic ordination from
Yeshiva University. He is the author of
many books, including these Kindle Edition
ebooks available at Amazon.com: The
Book of Jewish Prayers in English, Rashi:
The Greatest Exegete, Gods Favorite
Prayers and Dear Rabbi which
includes his past columns from the Jewish
Standard and other essays.

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Dvar Torah
Ekev: Getting ready

abbi Menachem Mendel of

Kotzk famously taught, One
who is about to pray should
learn from a common laborer,
who sometimes takes a whole day to prepare for a job. A wood-cutter, who spends
most of the day sharpening the saw and
only the last hour cutting the wood, has
earned his days wage. From the first day
of Elul, when we begin blowing shofar,
through the last, dramatic shofar blast on
Yom Kippur is forty days. Over 50 days are
devoted to preparing for or celebrating
the High Holidays, including Sukkot. The
Jewish calendar dedicates 15% of the year
to assessing and improving how we spend
the other 85%. Good planning is good for
the soul.
But the planning actually begins earlier,
in Av, the month preceding Elul. Tisha
Bav, which commemorates the destruction of the Temples in Jerusalem, calls our
attention to the need for repentance and
renewal. The Torah and Haftorah readings
leading up to Elul suggest diverse strategies for finding our way back to God and
our true selves.
This weeks Torah portion, Ekev,
includes famous and profound instructions for how to live in a way that

honors Gods will for our

that were incorporated into
lives. Beware lest your heart
the High Priests prayer for
grow haughty and you say to
the community in the New
yourselves, My own power
Year a direct connection with the holidays (7:12and the might of my own
15). The rest of the chapter
hand have won this wealth
focuses on a seemingly unrefor me. (Deuteronomy 8:17).
lated and difficult topic: the
Cultivate humility (9:5). Be
utter destruction of foreign
grateful (8:10). Stay open to
Rabbi Debra
idolaters. Yet these verses,
correction (8:5).
Orenstein
too, can prepare us for days
And now, O Israel, what
Congregation Bnai
of reflection and Days of
does Adonai your G od
Israel, Emerson,
Awe. We all need to uproot
demand of you? Only this: to
Conservative
destructive influences. Morerevere Adonai your God, to
over, the details of what is
walk [only] in Gods paths,
said about foreign idolaters constitute a
and to love God and serve Adonai with
primer on successful repentance.
all your heart and with all your soul; to
It is a snare to you (7:16). Dont assume
keep Adonais commandments for your
that you are above being tempted; avoid
good. (10:12-13). The task is daunting,
temptation. You need have no fear of
but Torah and repentance are given for
them (7:18). Dont succumb to bad influour benefit, to help us improve both our
ences out of fear of losing popularity or
behavior and our circumstances.
power. Dont despair or scare yourself,
It is a fitting preparation for the High
either (7:21).
Holidays that Ekev asks us to become
God will dislodge those peoples before
softer, more vulnerable, and more flexible.
you little by little (7:22). It takes time to
If we are to repent and forgive, those qualities are essential. Circumcise the foreskin
form bad habits and devolve spiritually;
of your hearts, and stiffen your necks no
renewal is usually a gradual process, too.
more (10:16).
You will not be able to put an end to [idolators] at once, lest wild beasts multiply
The opening chapter includes blessings

Iran deal
FROM PAGE 28

Much of the conversation focused on the split the deal

is generating in the Jewish community, which Obama said
concerned him, said Rosenbaum, whose Jewish Democratic group backs the Iran deal.
According to Rosenbaum, the president said that he
felt that if we continue to make this personal and substitute attacks for the deal pro or con, we weaken the Jewish
community and the long-term U.S.-Israel relationship.
Another participant said Obama acknowledged anxieties among some pro-Israel leaders about making public profound differences with Israel, but said that Israeli
Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahus adamant opposition to the deal left him little choice.
Among the other groups represented were J Street and
Ameinu, liberal Middle East policy groups that back the
deal, and representatives of an array of groups that have
yet to decide, including the Conference of Presidents of
Major American Jewish Organizations, the Jewish Federations of North America, the American Jewish Committee,
the Jewish Council for Public Affairs, the American Jewish
Committee, the Anti-Defamation League, and representatives of the Reform and Conservative movements. The
Orthodox Union, which opposes the deal, was also represented, as was the World Jewish Congress, which has been
strongly skeptical of the deal. There were regional leaders
at the meeting as well.
JTA WIRE SERVICE

against you. (7:22) Even if we could suddenly rid ourselves of every bad influence
and habit, the gambit wouldnt work. We
need to populate each newly-claimed
arena in our lives with positive habits
and that takes time. If we leave a vacuum,
wild thoughts and impulses will arise and
rout us, as surely as wild animals will overrun unprotected territory.
To obliterate [the idolators] name
from under the heavens (7:24) is to
destroy their identity and legacy. This,
too, is a hint about how to repent. If you
want to put an end to a sin, stop discussing it and mentally reviewing it. Once you
have completed the steps and strategies of
repentance found in Ekev and elsewhere,
resist telling the story of your sin. Let it
starve for attention and die out.
Ekev reminds us that God gives second
chances. After the Israelites worshipped
a Golden Calf and Moses consequently
destroyed the first set of tablets, God said,
carve for yourself two stone tablets like
the first (10:1). Like our ancestors, we
have invited idolatry into our midst. God
tells us, turn a new page in the Book of
Life. Repentance is possible ekev tishmeun, if only we will listen to the lessons
of Parashat Ekev.

BRIEFS

Israeli archaeologists find remnants of Gath, home of Goliath

Archaeologists from Bar-Ilan University have discovered
an entrance gate and other remnants of the Philistine
city of Gath, which was mentioned in the Bible as the
home of the giant Goliath, who fought and lost against
the man who later became King David.
Professor Aren Maeir and his colleagues conducted
the excavations in the Tel Zafit national park, located
between Ashkelon and Jerusalem. Gath was destroyed

in 830 B.C.E. by Hazael, the king of Damascus.

The gate is the largest of its kind to be discovered in
Israel, according to Professor Maeir, who said that fact
substantiates the theory that Gath was once a very influential city.
Other items discovered in the excavation included a
temple, an iron production facility, and other buildings.


JNS.ORG

Largest solar array in Israel becomes operational

The Ketura Solar Field became operational last week,
making it the largest solar array to be an active part of
Israels electric grid.
The solar array, on Kibbutz Ketura in southern Israels
Arava Valley, contains 140,434 solar panels spread over
134 acres and can generate 40 megawatts of power at a
cost of $79 million, Globes reported.

The project is a joint venture between Israels Arava

Power Company and EDF Energies Nouvelles Israel, a
subsidiary of the French national electric corporation.
The Israeli government hopes that renewable energy
reaches 10 percent of the countrys total energy consumption by 2020. Currently, that figure now is at 2 percent. 
JNS.ORG

Poll: 57% of Americans oppose Iran deal, 28% support it

A poll conducted by Quinnipiac University in Connecticut found that 57 percent of American voters oppose the
Iran nuclear deal, and 28 percent support it.
According to the poll, published Monday, 58 percent
of respondents believe the nuclear pact will make the
world less safe, while 30 percent think it will make the

world safer. The poll results show that opinions about

the deal are split along party lines. While 52 percent of
Democrats support the deal and 32 percent oppose it,
only 3 percent of Republicans support it and 86 percent
oppose it. Among independent voters, 29 percent support and 55 percent oppose the deal. 
JNS.ORG
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Jewish World
Extremists
FROM PAGE 27

On Monday, Israeli authorities arrested

Meir Ettinger, a leading Jewish extremist
and the grandson of the late Meir Kahane, whose anti-Arab political movement,
Kach, was banned in 1994 and eventually
designated as a terrorist group. Ettinger is
suspected of nationalist crimes but not
of direct involvement in the West Bank
firebombing, Israeli authorities said.
According Yesh Din, which investigates
law enforcement in the West Bank, 85
percent of West Bank cases involving suspected Jewish crimes against Arabs are
closed because of police failure to locate
suspects or find enough evidence to indict
them. These include so-called price tag
attacks, in which Jewish extremists torch
Palestinian olive trees, vandalize gravestones and mosques, and burn vehicles.
Critics say the Israeli soldiers stationed
in the West Bank are under the impression that they are responsible only for
protecting Jews, not Palestinians or their
property.
The soldiers refrain from exercising
their powers to detain and arrest the individuals involved in the incident, secure
the scene in order to enable the police to
investigate and collect evidence and, at a

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later stage, provide testimony about the
incident to the police, Yesh Din said in a
report in May.
For their part, figures associated with
Israels extreme right are questioning
authorities assumption that Jews were
behind the attack in Duma. They also are
complaining about what they say is outsized attention devoted to Jewish-perpetrated violence, when the vast majority of
violence in the West Bank is perpetrated
by Arabs against Jews.
If only a thousandth of what theyre
doing against Jews they would do against
the Arab terrorists, Michael Ben-Ari, a
former Knesset member from the National
Union party and a self-identified follower
of Kahanes ideology, told Arutz Sheva, a
right-wing news service.
Netanyahu sounded a similar note on
Tuesday, decrying the absence of international outcry over a firebombing attack on
Monday night against a Jewish couple as
they drove through an Arab neighborhood
of Jerusalem.
Several days ago the international community joined in my condemnation of terrorism directed against Arabs, and I expect
that they will similarly join in vis-a-vis terrorism directed against Jews, Netanyahu
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Across
1 Nickname of the ninth prime minister of
Israel
5 The raid on Entebbe was an impressive
one
9 Symbols of the Kach party showing a
clenched body part
14 Shmaltz Brewing Company products
15 It preceded the old shekel
16 Religion that believes Jerusalem is holy
17 Black Jew famous for her role on The
Cosby Show
19 Black Jew from Canada who rapped
the song Best I Ever Had
20 How a Jew of the Pletzl in Paris may
have been occupied
21 Feh! Barely...
23 With 29-Down, Israels largest city
24 Another time, in Al Capps Lil Abner
26 Worst latke, from a caloric perspective
28 Black Jew who played Ann Perkins on
Parks and Recreation
32 Adolfs other
33 Neck part that tefillin straps may touch
34 Hamentashen, e.g.
38 Eurovision-winning song by Dana
International
40 Many Jewish residents of 5-Down:
Abbr.
42 Jacobs sibling rival
43 Lay on the guilt a little too heavily,
perhaps
46 Puts the knish in the microwave
49 Hebrew third day: Abbr.
50 Black Jew who plays more than a
dozen instruments and won six
Grammys
53 Dorothy Parker comeback
56 Kosher fish
57 Her character dated a nice Jewish boy
in Prime
58 Some kibbutz residents
60 Shabbetai Zevi was this kind of
Messiah
64 Black Jew whose rapping career was
halted by his imprisonment for a 1999
shooting
66 Black Jew who plays blues, folk, soul,
reggae, and rock music and has won
three Grammys
68 One kind of marketing campaign for
Burger Ranch
69 Phrase on a Dershowitz memo
70 To be, to Dreyfus
71 Grain that can be used to make matzah
72 State of Marcel Marceau
73 Puts on a yarmulke

Down
1 Is there no ___ in Gilead? (Jerem.
8:22)
2 Would ___ to You? (French film about
interdating)
3 ___ in Show (2000 movie directed by
Christopher Guest)
4 The Biblical book named after him says
he saw things concerning Judah
and Jerusalem, in the days of Uzziah,
Jotham, Ahaz, and Hezekiah, kings of
Judah
5 U.S. state with the third-largest number
of Jews
6 ___ Keloheinu (Shabbat prayer)
7 The Old Citys is less than one kilometer
square
8 One Adam Levines body decorations
9 Musician on the roof in a Chagall painting
10 Its south of Leb.
11 Web site founded by Michael Kinsley
12 Versions of a Woody Allen scene
13 Kosher fish
18 Israels first Likud prime minister
22 It ___ Necessarily So (Gershwin song
about the Bible)
25 Shabbat refreshers
27 Comment from a Freudian doctor
28 Make a new set of tablets, for instance
29 See 23-Across
30 Act like a righteous gentile during the
Holocaust
31 Being There novelist Kosinski
35 Kind of Bartenura kosher wine
36 Like Joan Riverss face after each lift
37 Mideast canal
39 Folksinger Guthrie
41 Businessman Andrew who founded a
massive department store
44 Motion away from Jerusalem, both
physically and spiritually
45 Not shnookered by
47 4-Down, e.g.
48 Latin alternative to the hora
51 Greenhorn
52 Went off the derech
53 What a steel kiddush cup does if left
untouched for years
54 Sababa!
55 Tzedaka recipient, sometimes
59 Made someone a shaliach
61 Scheming like Haman
62 66-Acrosss non-Jewish wife Laura
63 Products of King Solomons mines
65 Bupkis
67 Org. thats pro-Uzi

The solution to last weeks puzzle

is on page 39.

Arts & Culture

How music and meditation jazzed up
Jewish life on N.Y.s Fire Island
BATYA UNGAR-SARGON

t was Friday evening and the cantor, wearing a leopard-print top

and gladiator sandals including
one with a tambourine affixed to it
greeted the congregants at Shabbat services with a smile.
She encouraged them to pick up the
percussion instruments left on the chairs,
along with the prayer books.
The members, who wore sandals and
shorts, happily obliged. The service that
followed was a spiritual and emotional
journey incorporating Appalachian banjo
strumming by the rabbi, a prayer sung to
Leonard Cohens Hallelujah, and a brief
breathing meditation led by the cantor.
Welcome to the Fire Island Synagogue,
a place where the laid-back attitude is
seconded only by its cross-generational
friendships and spiritual leadership of the
highest quality. The synagogues summerseason community has been revitalized in
recent years, thanks in part to its dynamic
cantor. Its Basya Schechter, best known
as the lead singer of the Jewish soul band
Pharaohs Daughter.
To get to Fire Island, a barrier island off
Long Islands South Shore, you must take
a train to a train to a van to a ferry and
then you walk. There are no cars allowed.
You can ride a bike, but at designated
times, in certain neighborhoods, and only
if you have a permit.
Though Fire Island is only some 60
miles from Manhattan, it may as well be
a world away.
An almost spiritual quality suffuses the
island, which at its widest stretches only
three quiet, tree-shaded blocks. So its
probably no surprise that the atmosphere
at the Fire Island Synagogue mirrors the
easygoing spirit of the place. During the
summer months, Shabbat on Fire Island
begins with Friday night services a new
institution for the synagogue since Schechter became the cantor three years ago.
The synagogues previous cantor had
been more traditional.
Then I came along, Schechter said
with a laugh. Some people thought the
new energy was great. And some people
said, Who ever heard of drums in a shul?
But drumming, and the production of
communal music, is a centerpiece of the
job for Schechter.
Its about finding a spot where something tribal happens, something unifying,
and people can say, I shared in something, she said.
Thanks to these kinds of sentiments,

Basya Schechter, the cantor at the Fire Island Synagogue, performs in Central Park in 2013.

Basya Schechter and Shaul Magid prepare to welcome

congregants to an interactive Shabbat service.

BATYA UNGAR-SARGON

Schechter was a perfect fit for the welcoming, tight-knit community. About 150 families make up the congregation. For many
of them, the Fire Island Synagogue is the
only congregation to which they belong;
its the nucleus of their spiritual and communal lives. Its where most of the families
spend the High Holidays, and where their
children celebrate their bar/bat mitzvahs.
Like the Fire Island community at
large, many members of the synagogue
have been summering on the island for
generations.

The Fire Island Synagogue

Its always such a good feeling that

first weekend youre back and everyones
there, said Lisa Alter, a thin woman with
straight dirty-blond hair who comes to Fire
Island every summer.
Her mother, Deborah Alter, whose blond
hair now is white, had her first date with
Lisas father on Fire Island in the 1950s.
They borrowed a boat from a relative in
Brooklyn and took it all the way to Maguires, a restaurant at Fire Islands Ocean
Beach community thats still around today.
They bought a house on the island soon

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after they were married.

At that time, novelist Herman Wouk was
living on Fire Island, as was Rabbi David
de Sola Pool of the Spanish-Portuguese
Synagogue in New York City. In 1954 they
started holding traditional Shabbat services on Wouks deck and the Fire Island
Synagogue was born.
In 1972, the congregation built the building that houses it today, a beautiful, singlestory wooden structure with a shaded
deck, surrounded by lush foliage. The
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Calendar
melodies in jazz, AfroCaribbean, Brazilian,
and classical styles.
The series, produced
by Naomi Miller, runs
through Aug. 20. The
Metro YMCAs of the
Oranges is a partner of
the YM-YWHA of North
Jersey. 1 Pike Drive.
(973) 595-0100.

Friday
AUG. 7
Shabbat in Emerson:
The sisterhood of
Congregation Bnai
Israel holds its annual
Summer Erev Shabbat
service, Lovingkindness:
How Can Acts of
Lovingkindness
Transform Our
Lives? Outdoors,
weather permitting,
7 p.m. Homemade treats
served. 53 Palisade Ave.
(201) 265-2272 or www.
bisrael.com.

Friday
AUG. 14
Shabbat in River
Edge: Temple Avodat
Shalom offers services,
6 p.m., and a barbecue
at 6:45. 385 Howland
Ave. Reservations,
(201) 489-2463 or www.
avodatshalom.net.

Shabbat in Franklin
Lakes: Barnert Temple
offers Shabbat in the
Woods with Rabbis
Elyse Frishman and
Rachel Steiner, 7 p.m.,
followed by potluck
dinner. 747 Route 208
South. (201) 848-1800.

Shabbat on the
Palisades: Temples Beth

Sunday
AUG. 9
Carnival in Teaneck:
CareOne at Teaneck,
with Areyvut, offers
summertime fun for
the community with a
carnival that includes
food, games, prizes,
giveaways, a petting zoo,
clowns, and music, 1:303:30 p.m. In the main
parking lot, 544 Teaneck
Road. (201) 862-3300.

Cafe Europa, a social program for Holocaust survivors

sponsored by the Jewish Family Service of North Jersey,
funded in part by the Conference on Material Claims Against
Germany, the Jewish Federation of Northern New Jersey, and
private donations, meets at the Fair Lawn Jewish Center/Congregation Bnai
Israel on Tuesday, August 11, from 11 a.m. to 1 p.m. The Syncopated Seniors
will tap dance to standards and show tunes. Light lunch. 10-10 Norma Ave.
Transportation available. (973) 595-0111 or www.jfsnorthjersey.org. COURTESY JSFNJ

AUG.

11

A bus leaves the parking

lot at 9 a.m. $35; includes
$20 slot money plus a
$5 food voucher. Bring
ID. 40-25 Fair Lawn
Ave. Reservations,
(201) 797-9321.

Lunch/games in Fort
Lee: Englewood &

Film in Wayne: The

Chabad Center of Passaic
County screens Above
and Beyond, produced
by Nancy Spielberg,
7 p.m. In 1948, a group
of Jewish-American
pilots smuggled planes
out of the U.S, trained
behind the Iron Curtain
in Czechoslovakia, and
flew for Israel in its
War of Independence.
Discussion follows the
film. Refreshments.
194 Ratzer Road.
(973) 694-6274 or
Jewishwayne.com.

Wednesday
AUG. 12
Casino trip: The
sisterhood of Temple
Beth Sholom in Fair Lawn
takes a trip to the Sands
Casino in Pennsylvania.

Cliffs Chapter of ORT

America holds its annual
summer card party/deli
luncheon at the Colony
Spa, 11:30 a.m. Games
include cards, mah jongg,
Scrabble, dominoes, and
RummiKub. Homemade
desserts. 1530 Palisade
Ave. (201) 346-9165.

Dealing with life

changes: New
Jerseys Mental Health
Associations Mental
Health Players will
explore the challenges
associated with life
changes with an
interactive performance
and discussion at the
Wayne YMCA, 1 p.m.
The Metro YMCAs of
the Oranges is a partner
of the YM-YWHA of
North Jersey. 1 Pike
Drive. (973) 595-0100 or
wnlibrary@metroymcas.
org.

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Blood drive in
Ridgewood: The
American Red Cross
holds a blood drive,
3-8 p.m. 74 Godwin
Ave. (800) RED CROSS,
(800) 733-2767, or
redcrossblood.org.

Support after the

death of a child: Jewish
Family Service of Bergen
and North Hudson
offers Holding Hands,
providing support after
the death of a child, at
JFS in Teaneck, 7:15 p.m.
Group meets the second
Wednesday of the
month. 1485 Teaneck
Road. (201) 837-9090 or
www.jfsbergen.org.

COURTESY CHABAD

Film about Winton in

Washington Township:
Valley Chabad and
the Bergen YJCC host
a screening of the
documentary Nickys

Family, the story of

Sir Nicholas Winton,
at the YJCC, 7:30 p.m.
Hanna Slome, who was
among tyhe 669 children
saved by Sir Winton, will
discuss her experiences.
605 Pascack Road.
(201) 666-6610
or rabbiyosef@
valleychabad.org.

Thursday
AUG. 13
Childrens program in
the park: Congregation
Gesher Shalom of Fort
Lee and Kol HaNeshamah
of Englewood, in
conjunction with the
Jewish Federation of
Northern New Jersey
and Shalom Baby, host
Popsicles in the Park:
Recycling, a playgroup
for newborns through
3-year-olds and their
parents, at Madison
Park in Englewood,
9:30 a.m. Bring a
blanket, sunscreen, and
a hat. Madison Avenue
and Audubon Road.
jessicak@jfnnj.org or
(201) 783-4842.

Yiddish in Wayne: The

Wayne YMCA offers a
Yiddish Vinkle led by
Ray Fishler, sponsored

by Jewish Federation of
Northern New Jersey,
1 p.m. 1 Pike Drive.
(973) 595-0100, ext. 236.

String music in
Englewood: The
Elisabeth Morrow
School holds its 20th
annual Summer String
Festival, 1:30-3 p.m.
Young musicians from
across the tristate area
will perform pieces by
Bartok, Bach, Handel, and
Mozart. 435 Lydecker
St. Performance in the
schools Gymkhana.
Enter at the 420 Next
Day Hill entrance.

Eugene Marlow
Music in Wayne: The
Summer Concert
series at the Wayne
YMCA continues with a
performance by Eugene
Marlows Heritage
Ensemble, 7 p.m. The
contemporary quintet
records and performs
compositions and
arrangements of Jewish

El of Northern Valley
in Closter and Sinai of
Bergen County in Tenafly
invite the community to
an informal Prayers on
the Palisades Shabbat
service at 6:30 p.m. at
the State Line Lookout
off the Palisades
Parkway. The exit is
northbound on the PIP
two miles north of Exit
2. In case of inclement
weather, services will be
at Temple Beth El, 221
Schraalenburgh Road,
Closter. (201) 768-5112.

Shabbat in Franklin
Lakes: Barnert Temple
offers an outdoor
Shabbat experience with
Rabbis Elyse Frishman
and Rachel Steiner, 7 p.m.
747 Route 208 South.
(201) 848-1800.

Saturday
AUG. 15
Shabbat in Teaneck:
Dr. Steven Huberman,
founding dean of the
Touro College Graduate
School of Social Work,
will discuss Growing
Old: Taking Care of
Yourself and Your
Parents Unique
Jewish Perspectives
at Congregation Rinat
Yisrael, 6:20 p.m.,
on Shabbat, Parshat
Reeh. Q & A session.
89 W. Englewood Ave.
(201) 837-2795 or www.
rinat.org.

Sunday
AUG. 16
Garage sale in Teaneck:
Temple Emeth will
hold a garage sale
with items including
toys, housewares, attic
treasures, and gently
used clothing, 10 a.m.
- 4 p.m. 1666 Windsor

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Road. Rain or shine.
(201) 833-1322 or visit
www.emeth.org.

jazz standards. Series

concludes Sept. 16. 10
Link Drive. (201) 784-1414.

Genealogy group in
Wayne: The Jewish

Monday
AUGUST 17
Concert in Rockleigh:
The Leonora Messer
Summer Concert Series
continues outside on the
patio, weather permitting,
at the Jewish Home at
Rockleigh, 6:30 p.m.,
with a performance by
Randy Accardi. Program
includes dancing,
Broadway show tunes,
American Songbook, and

Genealogical Society at
the Wayne YMCA meets
for a discussion on Israel
Pickholtzs new book,
Endogamy Is Not a Brick
Wall, led by the author,
7:30 p.m. The Charles &
Bessie Goldman Library
opens at 7 for resources
and socializing. The
group is a member of the
International Association
of Jewish Genealogical
Societies. Refreshments.

(973) 595-0100; JGS,

Susan, (732) 412-7606, or
Judy, (973) 226-7049 or
www.jgsnj.org.

Singles
Sunday
AUG. 9
Seniors meet in West
Nyack: Singles 65+
meets for a social bagels
and lox brunch at the
JCC Rockland, 11 a.m. All
are welcome, particularly
if you are from Hudson,

Two Team Sharsheret spots

remain for NYC Marathon
Team Sharsheret will participate in the
New York City Marathon, set for Sunday,
November 1. The team raises awareness of
general health and both breast and ovarian cancer, as well as support for Sharsherets national programs. Team athletes train
and participate in athletic races, including
marathons, half marathons, triathlons,
and ironman challenges.
Participants run to celebrate a milestone, honor a loved one, or simply
promote active and healthy living.
Team Sharsheret will fly a participant
to the New York metropolitan area from
anywhere in the continental United
States, and it will provide official Team
Sharsheret running gear. Athletes receive

weekly training in NY/NJ; virtual training

is available for athletes outside the New
York metropolitan area. Team Sharsheret
holds a pre-race dinner and offers participants a personalized fundraising page to
help them meet their goals. Participants
agree to raise a minimum of $5,000 for
Team Sharsheret to support its national
programs.
Sharsheret, Hebrew for chain, is a
national not-for-profit organization supporting young women and their families,
of all Jewish backgrounds, facing breast
cancer.
For information, call (866) 474-2774,
(201) 833-2341, go to www. sharsheret.org,
or email info@sharsheret.org.

Jewish trip to Poconos

More than 130 people from all over the
country are expected at this years outing. Sponsored by Mosaic Outdoor Clubs
of America, Jewish Outdoor Escape is
set in the Pocono Mountains of Pennsylvania from September 3 to 7. The weekend
includes hiking, rafting, canoeing, tours to
nearby historic sites, a ropes course, and
other outdoor activities. Evenings are for
schmoozing, religious activities, a campfire, and sessions from yoga to improv
workshops. Saturday night will feature live

music and dancing.

Mosaic Outdoor Clubs of America is
a non-profit organization with chapters
throughout the United States and Canada.
The two-day pre-trip includes a city tour
of historic Philadelphia; the two-day posttrip is camping and canoeing on nearby
Delaware River.
For information, go to 2015event.mosaicoutdoor.org or call 1-888-MOSAICS
(667-2427).

Passaic, Bergen, or
Rockland counties. 450
West Nyack Road. $8
with reservations, $10
at door. Gene Arkin,
(845) 356-5525.

Thursday
AUG. 13
Widows and widowers
meet in Glen Rock:
Movin On, a monthly
luncheon group for
widows and widowers,
meets at the Glen Rock
Jewish Center, 12:30
p.m. GRJC member
David Postrion, a foreign

language teacher for

over 40 years and a
writer, is the guest
speaker. 682 Harristown
Road. $5 for lunch. (201)
652-6624 or arbgr@aol.
com.

Friday
AUG. 14
Meet in Motown
Shabbaton: Orthodox
singles, 28-40, are
invited to Meet in
Motown at a Detroitarea Shabbaton, August
14-16 (rosh chodesh
Elul), at the Young Israel

of Southfield. Weekend
includes meals, activities,
and a Shabbat talk by
2014 CNN Hero Rabbi
Elimelech Goldberg. The
Shabbaton coincides
with the Woodward
Dream Cruise, the worlds
largest classic car event,
with Friday afternoon
viewing as an option for
early arrivals. Visit tiny.
cc/MotownShabbaton
or email questions to:
MeetInMotown@gmail.
com.

Friendship Walk planned

The Friendship Circle of
Bergen Countys annual
Friendship Walk is on
Sunday, September 20, at
Teanecks Votee Park on
Queen Anne Road, next
to the Richard Rodda
Community Center.
All are welcome to the
activities and to show
support for families of
special needs children.
Registration and prewalk activities are at 10
From last years Friendship Circle walk.
a.m., and the walk is
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from 11:00 to 11:30. A
post-walk celebration
and carnival will run until 1 p.m. and
Local high school, religious school,
includes games, rides, concessions, and
and day school students who are looka comedic and stunt-filled performance
ing for a community service project are
by the Harlem Wizards basketball team.
encouraged to walk on September 20 or
Online registration is at www.
to get involved with the organization.
NJFriendshipWalk.com.
Friendship Circle accepts teen volunThe Friendship Circle is a Jewish nonteers from seventh grade and up, and
profit organization that provides outvolunteer opportunities are available for
reach, programs, and support to famiadults as well.
lies of special needs children. It brings
Participants can create a team, join a
together teen volunteers and children
team, or register as an individual; they
with a variety of disabilities for fun and
may also solicit donations from friends
friendship. The Bergen County chapter
and family to benefit the organization.
helps more than 200 families through
For information, go to www.BCFriendprograms for younger children through
ship.comx.
21-year-olds.

Alzheimers walks set for the fall

Like us on Facebook.

The Alzheimers Association invites

Hudson, Bergen, Essex, Morris, and
Warren County residents to participate
in the two-mile Alzheimers Association
Walk to End Alzheimers on Sunday,
October 17, at Liberty State Park in Jersey City.
The Alzheimers Association will host
another two-mile End Alzheimers walk

on Sunday, October 25, at Bergen Community College in Paramus.

Both walks will include a tribute to
people who have or are experiencing
Alzheimers.
To start or join a team today, go to the
Alzheimers Association alz.org/walk.
To learn more about the disease and
available resources, call (800) 272-3900.

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Jewish World

Skin Wars contestant Avi Ram

brings Israeli army training to body painting
MOLLY TOLSKY

he world of reality TV is vast

and scary, and I know because
I watch way too much of it. But
there are surprising gems to be
found, and Game Show Networks Skin
Wars is one of them. Now in its second
season, the reality competition show
is modeled after Project Runway, but
instead of fashion-design hopefuls creating
a new look for models to put on each week,
the contestants on Skin Wars bring their
art directly to the models naked skin (save
for some pasties and nude underwear).
This is the world of body painting, a
burgeoning art form with festivals and
competitions worldwide. Done right, its
absolutely breathtaking. Body painters
typically use both airbrushing and handpainting techniques to create striking, if
temporary, masterpieces models can be
painted to look like anything from mythical creatures, abstract interpretations, or
someone wearing realistic-looking clothes.
One of the frontrunners on this season
of Skin Wars is Avi Ram, a 29-year-old
Israeli artist who lives in Fort Lauderdale,
Florida. Ram was born in Kiryat Gat and
moved to the United States after serving in
the Israel Defense Forces for three years,
and now he owns a successful airbrush
shop. I spoke with Ram about his time on
the show, how the Israeli army prepared
him for reality TV, and what hes working
on now.
JTA: When did you first start practicing
art, and what medium did you begin with
assuming that it wasnt human bodies?
Ram: Ive been doing art all my life. I
started doing airbrush when I was 18 years
old, so that was about 11 years ago. I saw
someone doing airbrush on the street
and I was asking a lot of questions, and I
started practicing by myself. I did my first
job in Israel at a clothing store airbrushing
T-shirts.
JTA: Do you remember the first body
you ever painted?
Ram: That was when I moved to Florida, which was about five or six years ago.
I got connected with this nightclub, and
they asked me to show my work and asked
if I could do body painting. I said I think I
can do it, so they invited me to this event
and I did body painting on bartenders and
dancers. Of course everyone likes being
naked, so it was fun.
JTA: Was it really awkward?
Ram: No, because I just look at the body
as another canvas. I worked it out. I was
very comfortable. I wasnt nervous. They
were very happy, and since then theyve
called me for every event. It just started to
be a big hit.
JTA: While you were in the Israeli army,

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Avi Rams winning entry in the camouflage challenge during this season of Skin Wars. 

were you ever able to sneak in some time

to practice art?
Ram: I did it mostly here and there
not on a daily basis. I did murals for my
friends; things like that. Once a month
I would try to find time to work and
practice.
JTA: Do you feel like your time in the
army helped you prepare for dealing with
the stress of the competition on Skin
Wars?
Ram: Definitely, yes. In the army its
all about being on time and barely sleeping. On the show you always have to be on
time, and youre working so many hours
you barely sleep, so Im kind of used to it.
And you always have people telling you
what to do, so Im used to that, too.
JTA: What was your favorite challenge
on the show?
Ram: The camouflage challenge (in
which contestants had to camouflage a
model in a food tablescape), when I actually took the fish and camouflaged him.
Everyone was talking about that fish!
JTA: How long did the show film for?
And did you get close with the other
contestants?
Ram: Two months. We lived together
in the same house, and because we didnt
have any media with us no phones, no
Internet, no music, nothing we were
talking 24 hours. We learned everything
about each other, from our childhoods

to what we want to do in the future. We

started to become a very close family. Still
today, we talk almost every day.
JTA: Theres a video of you on the Skin
Wars website where you say you do art
to support your mother in Israel, which is
very touching. Has she always been supportive of your work?
Ram: Yes. Even when I moved to the
States I moved to achieve my dreams
and to help my family, too. To be an artist in Israel, its not easy. Its very hard at
the beginning to be a very successful artist
there, and I believe there is not too much
appreciation of art in Israel.
When I moved over here, and I started
seeing the different reactions from people, and how you can grow as an artist
and what you can achieve, it opened a lot
of different doors. You can be an artist in
Israel, but not as a main job. It can be like
a hobby. Over here, its more possible for
it to be a professional job. So thats something that I can do to help my family and
send money to Israel.
JTA: Do you get to visit them often?
Ram: Not often, no. For the last eight
years Ive lived here, I went to visit them
one time, and that was about five years
ago. So I havent seen my family for five
years. Its very difficult. I can go and fly
there and everything but the only thing
is, because Im working so hard every
day, and I do send money to my mom

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every month, I have to work and I cant

take a long vacation. So its really hard to
live over here. But I do talk to my mom
on a daily basis; we do video chats all the
time.
JTA: Do you think your Israeli or Jewish
upbringing influences your art in any way?
Ram: Even when Im far from it, I
always keep the culture of Israel. I might
not keep kosher but I do celebrate the
holidays. You dont see body painting in
Israel. I know some Israeli body painters, but in Israel its not a big deal. So its
nice that I represent Israel on the show, to
bring some pride and to bring some taste
of Israel.
JTA: So what are you working on now?
Ram: Im actually working right now on
wall murals for elementary schools in Fort
Lauderdale. Every summer vacation when
the kids are off from school, Im decorating schools with colors and pictures on the
walls to make the kids happy. Ive been
doing that for five years now.
JTA: Obviously you cant tell me the final
outcome of the show, but overall, are you
happy that you went on it?
Ram: The experience was amazing. No
matter what happens in the end, the experience was amazing. Im so happy I did it.
No regrets.
(Skin Wars airs at 9 p.m. on Wednesdays
on the Game Show Network.)


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Obituaries
Daniel Eth

Daniel Eth, 92, of Hackensack, formerly of Teaneck, died July 22.

A graduate of City College of New
York and Fordham Law, he was
a lawyer, CPA, certified financial
planner, and founding member of
Congregation Beth Am in Teaneck,
where he was treasurer. He was a
member of Temple Sinai in Tenafly,
Justice Masonic Lodge in New Your
City, and the New York Bar and
CPA associations.
He is survived by his wife of
68 years, Charlotte, ne Bender;
children, Hilary Eth (Martin Fein),
Felicia Aron (Kenneth), and Jessica Nacheman (Robert); and six
grandchildren.
Arrangements were by Louis
Suburban Chapel, Fair Lawn.

Roslyn Feinstein

Roslyn Feinstein, 97, of Paramus,

died July 13.
Before retiring, she was a teacher
at Eastside High School in Paterson
and a member of the New Jersey
Education Association.
Predeceased by her husband,
Sol, she is survived by children,
Ronald (Angelita), Alan (Mary), and
Amy Ferraro (Peter); a sister, Mildred Reicher; two grandchildren,
and one great-grandchild.
Donations can be made to
Marine Corps Toys for Tots or Dogs
for the Deaf. Arrangements were
by Louis Suburban Chapel, Fair
Lawn.

Sarah Garth

Sarah Miriam Garth, ne Kaufman,

of North Branford, Connecticut,
formerly of Paterson, died March 3.
Predeceased by her husband, Leonard, she is survived
by a daughter, Tobie Meisel;
three grandchildren, and seven
great-grandchildren.
Arrangements were private.

Arthur Nathanson

Arthur David Nathanson, 89, died

July 31.
A World War II U.S. Army veteran, he enlisted at 17 in the 6th
Medical Battalion. He attended
Cornell and New York universities,
and earned a masters. He was as
an educator for 30 years, lastly at
Christopher Columbus High School
in the Bronx.
He is survived by his wife of 62
years, Sylvia, ne Schorr; daughters, Leslie Reiser (Stuart), Lisa
Beth Carroll (Peter Wiener), and
Margo Fishler (Neil); a sister, Naomi
Levine; and nine grandchildren.
Donations can be sent to
John Theurer Cancer Center,
HackensackUMC Foundation,
Hackensack.
Arrangements were by Robert Schoems Menorah Chapel,
Paramus.

Maddy Pasternak

Maddy Pasternak, 65, of Packanack

Lake, Wayne, died July 24.
Before retiring, she taught in
the Paterson school system for 30
years and also worked at the Adler
Aphasia Center.
She is survived by a daughter,
Lauren Cotton (Andrew); a sister,
Ina Petrocy; grandchildren, Akiva
and Lila; and her partner, Allan
Sandberg.
Donations can be made to the
Adler Aphasia Center, Maywood, or
to Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer
Center, New York City.
Arrangements were by Robert Schoems Menorah Chapel,
Paramus.

Miriam Rawicz

Miriam Rawicz, 94, of Fair Lawn,

died July 30.
A Holocaust survivor, she was a
member of the Fair Lawn Jewish
Center, Jacob Dineson Lodge #422
Brith Abraham in Paterson, Farband Labor Zionist Order, and Fair
Lawn Senior Citizens Center.
Predeceased by her husband,
Jacob, he is survived by a daughter,
Ruth Ottenheimer (Eugene) of Clifton; two grandchildren, and one
great-grandchild.
Donations may be made to Jewish Family Service of North Jersey,
Fair Lawn.
Arrangements were by Louis
Suburban Chapel, Fair Lawn.

Herbert Rosenthal

Dr. Herbert S. Rosenthal died July

30.
He is survived by his wife, Florence; daughters, Barbara and Dr.
Jane Rosenthal; grandsons, Eli and
Jake; brothers- and sisters-in-law,
and nieces and nephews.
Donations may be made to the
Hospital for Joint Diseases/NYU
Langone Medical Center.
Arrangements were by Robert Schoems Menorah Chapel,
Paramus.

Jean Milling

Jean Milling, ne Claster, 85, of Fort

Lee, and Boynton Beach, Fla., died
August 4.
Predeceased by her husband,
Lawrence, and brothers Sanford
and Joseph Claster, she is survived
by her children, Len and Lynn.
Donations can be sent to Englewood Hospital and Medical Center
Infusion Center, or Womens
American ORT.
Arrangements were by Eden
Memorial Chapels, Fort Lee.

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n 1 On July 20, the Fair Lawn Jewish Day Camp celebrated its eighth
anniversary. This year, a record
number of campers 350 registered for the full 8 weeks of programming. Pictured are staff with
public officials who attended the
celebration, including Fair Lawn
Mayor John Cosgrove; County
Clerk John Hogan; Bris Avrohoms
executive committee chairman,
Danny Kahane; BAs board chairman, Dr. Joseph Deutsch; Bergen
County Executive James Tedesco;
Bergen County Board of Chosen
Freeholders chair, Dr. Joan Voss;
Jean Jadevaia, assistant to Sheriff
Michael Saudino; Tom Sullivan of
the Board of Chosen Freeholders;
the camps director and associate
director, Rabbi Mendel and Elke
Zaltzman; Assemblyman Dr. Tim
Eustace (D-38); Bris Avrohoms
associate and executive director,
Shterney and Rabbi Mordechai
Kanelsky, and BAs senior rabbi,
Rabbi Berele Zaltzman.
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n 2 More than 80 women welcomed Rabbi Jennifer
Schlosberg, left, at a dessert party hosted by the
sisterhood of the Glen Rock Jewish Center. Rabbi
Schlosberg is the shuls new rabbi. She is shown
with GRJC sisterhood president Randi Asher.

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n 3 The Kaplen JCC on the Palisades Teen Philanthropy Institute raised more than $9,000 for local
organizations, including the Center for Food Action
($5,000), the Childrens Aid Society ($2,000), and
Project Morry ($2,250).
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lone soldier in the Israeli Defense Forces, is shown
with Lance Drucker of Woodcliff Lake, whose son

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adults as well, Rabbi Engelmayer said.

There are all kinds of programs that we
could and should be doing, and some market research that we should and could be
doing, but we never had the resources.
Our goal is to do our utmost to reach out
and bring more people into the shul.
In Conservative Judaism, it is very
hard to define yourself, when the answer
to every halachic question is yes, no, or
maybe. I think thats actually had a very
serious effect. Why do people run to
Chabad, or to Buddhism, or to anything
else? What they are longing for is meaning. For answers. Judaism doesnt have
answers. We have a lot of questions. We
also too often dont emphasize the answers
that we do have.
We do have a message. We have the
best message of all. But we dont spread
that message.
I think a synagogue should be willing
to be experimental, but should not be
afraid to talk about the things that need
to be talked about. Chief among them,
he added, is God, a concept a truth, he
would say from which most liberal Jewish leaders run away, but toward whom
most seekers are drawn. God is at the
heart of all Judaism; give God up and you
give it all up, he said.
Rabbi Engelmayer and Beth Israels
presidents hope to draw unaffiliated Jews
from the edge of the Palisades North
Bergen, Edgewater, Cliffside Park, Fort
Lee. The so-called Shabbus the van that

goes up and down that spine on Shabbat,

stopping only at prearranged spots, stopping always at those prearranged spots,
never waiting, never deviating, providing
people who are shomer Shabbat but live
outside walking distance a chance to get to
shul will continue to ply its route. I am
not going to allow the Shabbus to go into
a place where we do not have members,
Rabbi Engelmayer said. I am not trying to
raid anybodys shul. Beth Israel has members in all those towns, he added.
We have a vision for the new synagogue, Mr. Bassett said. We want to be
there for the long run. We believe that there
are a lot of unaffiliated Jews in the area.
As we know from the Pew study, the
way people practice Judaism is different
from the way it was when our two legacy
synagogues were established. We need
to adapt. We need to evolve, so that we
remain relevant.
It would not be relevant to stop being
egalitarian Conservative Jews, but we must
understand that people live their lives differently than they did 50, 100 years ago.
We have to evolve the way we approach
them, how we interact with them. We
have to give the unaffiliated people we
approach a reason to be engaged.
We are looking forward to bringing
in younger couples and children, and to
the rebirthing of our Hebrew school, Ms.
Rauch said. We are reaching out to young
families and to empty-nesters.
We are a hidden gem, she said. We
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congregation ranged from Orthodox

to secular. There was no partition, but
women were not counted in the service.
In 1990 a time when the congregation struggled to make a minyan members gathered to vote on whether to
become egalitarian. A debate ensued
Alter held up her 6-month-old-daughter
and made an impassioned speech about
wanting her to have rights and votes
were cast.
Though it was not unanimous, the
congregation decided to allow women to
participate. Attendance increased exponentially. (Not everyone was pleased:
Three older men left and started a breakaway Orthodox service that is now called
the Fire Island Minyan.)
The Fire Island Synagogues rabbi,
Shaul Magid, has been serving the community for 18 years. In his other life, he
is a professor of Jewish studies at Indiana University specializing in chasidism,
Kabbalah, gender, and Israel/Palestine.
The professor and the rabbi are complementary roles for Magid, who brings an
academic rigor to the spiritual duties of
leading a congregation.
At a recent Friday night service,
Schechter, hair still wet from a dip in the
ocean, and Magid, tall and lean, dressed
in white, sat side by side at the front of
the synagogue. The authority granted
the rabbi by his thick gray beard was
somewhat undercut by his smiling eyes
and the earrings adorning his earlobes
two small hoops and a turquoise stud.
Two years ago, Magid and Schechter
became a couple, adding another dimension to the partnership. The unique
combination means that the Fire Island
Synagogue, in spite of its out-of the way
location, offers its congregants and visitors some of the best programming the
Jewish world has to offer in both music
and thought.
Magid has been through his own

spiritual evolution over the years. Growing up secular in counterculture New

York in the 1970s, he spent 10 years in
Israel living a charedi Orthodox life. He
left the community to pursue academia
in the United States and the Jewish
Renewal movement.
Describing how he navigates between
his two jobs, Magid explained that
theres a difference between teaching
and preaching.
When youre teaching, your students
want to be educated, he said. When
youre preaching, people are coming
to be inspired. They are coming to be
affirmed. You have to be more sensitive
to what the listeners think.
In addition to Shabbat services,
Schechter and Magid offer less religious
programming, drawing in a uniquely
diverse crowd.
On Saturday night, Schechter transformed the synagogue into a caf, with
round tables, tea lights, and wine, for a
singer-songwriter event. Seventy people
came, though it felt more like a family
reunion than a showcase. One of the
singers forgot the words to her first
song, and the people she grew up with
pulled out their phones and looked up
the words for her.
But the most surprising thing happened on Sunday morning, during
Breakfast With the Rabbi, which happens two or three times a summer. A
group of Jews across three generations
came together on the synagogues porch
over bagels and lox, and with Magids
careful and generous guidance, politely
and productively argued about Israel.
Far from descending into angry disagreement or emotional appeals, Magid
managed to get all the parties to finally
agree or, at least, pleasantly agree to
disagree.
It seemed the kind of thing that could
only happen in a fantasy of Jewish paradise, which is, of course, exactly what
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$ 99

EACH

$ 99

Cakemate

EACH

EACH

Osem Rainbow or Chocolate

Croutons
Sprinkles
5.25 OZ
FOR

ea.

Tuna
Avocado
Roll

American Black Angus Beef

Tropical
Roll

Cedar Markets Meat Dept. Prides Itself On Quality, Freshness And Affordability. We Carry The Finest Cuts Of Meat And
The Freshest Poultry... Our Dedicated Butchers Will Custom Cut Anything For You... Just Ask!

Family Pack

Fresh Extra Lean

Idaho
Potatoes

FOR

5 LB BAG

Prune
Plums

Green Zucchini
Squash

Sweet Grape
Tomatoes

lb.

New Crop

MARKET

Red Or Green
Seedless
Grapes
YOUR CHOICE

99

lb.

Farm Fresh

Sunday Super Savers!

Loyalty
Program

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TERMS & CONDITIONS: This card is the property of Cedar Market, Inc. and is intended for exclusive
use of the recipient and their household members. Card is not transferable. We reserve the right to
change or rescind the terms and conditions of the Cedar Market loyalty program at any time, and
without notice. By using this card, the cardholder signifies his/her agreement to the terms &
conditions for use. Not to be combined with any other Discount/Store Coupon/Offer. *Loyalty Card
must be presented at time of purchase along
with ID for verification. Purchase cannot be
reversed once sale is completed.

CEDAR MARKET

Yellow
Nectarines

69

PKGS

EARS

Sweet

Black Beauty
Eggplants

2 $5

Super Family Pack

Farm Fresh

Romaine
Hearts

Fresh Picked
Corn

Loyalty
Program

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PRODUCE
Sunday Super Savers!

Fine Foods
Great Savings

$ 49

Cinnamon
Sponge Cake

$ 49

15 OZ

12 OZ

Chocolate
Mandelbread

$ 99

16 OZ

PROVISIONS
Empire
Chicken
Franks13.5 OZ

2 $4
FOR

Ultra Thin Assorted

Hod Golan
Turkey
Slices

$ 99

5 OZ

We reserve the right to limit sales to 1 per family. Prices effective this store only. Not responsible for typographical errors. Some pictures are for design purposes only and do not necessarily represent items on sale. While Supply Lasts. No rain checks.