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Life Tips
When someone insults you, look him or her slowly up and down and come back with:
1. Have you always been this way? (They'll be left wondering what you mean.).
2. Are you on medication for that? Shake your head sadly.
3. By the way, I've heard of a program for people like you. It's called Effect
ive Communication Skills.
4. Give them a pitying look and ask if you can get them an aspirin.
5. Do you always mask insults with humor?
6. Pat them on the shoulder and say: It's obvious you are under stress. Is the
re anything I can do?
7. Mention an acquaintance of yours who is always putting others down and mak
e the observation that people who do this suffer from low self-esteem.
8. Thank the person profusely for pointing out what's wrong with you and lay
it on thick until they get uncomfortable.
9. Laugh (purposely misunderstand them) and tell them that you are going to t
ell all your friends about their remark.
10. Give a big yawn and glance at your watch. (They see that their remark didn
't get a reaction.).
11. We are so alike in some ways, aren't we? (This is particularly effective if
Speed-Reading Techniques
Reading Myths
1. Reading is linear.
2. True reading is word-for-word.
3. Reading is a laborious task which takes a long time.
4. All parts of a book are of equal value.
Retention Techniques
Underline, circle, make margin notes.
Dog-ear important pages.
Transfer key notes to front of book
When finished, re-read dog-eared pages.
Now write an "abstract" in the back or front.
Consider drawing a "MindMap" of the contents.
But if you borrowed the book,
Finally, remember this: speed-reading is not some magical secret you can pick up
in ten minutes and Presto! You now can read 1000 words per minute. True, you ca
n learn to read faster; perhaps double your present speed in two weeks. But to b
ecome a life-long rapid reader (like becoming a proficient race car driver) take
s time, concentration and practice.This short article can get you started, but t
o really become expert you'll need to practice plenty.
Managing Criticism:
Knowing oneself truly becomes the cornerstone and the key to managing criticism.
To get to know yourself better, take a piece of paper and write down all the thi
ngs that you think are good and bad about you. Be brutally honest
This is based on a lot of research. You ll want to know this.
There are 28 days in a womans menstrual cycle. This cycle is what really determi
nes how things go between you and her. For example, on Day 24 you should learn t
o duck. I talked to sex experts and discovered how the hormonal fluxes in a woma
n s body affect her moods-and your life-throughout the month. Now I have a handy s
chedule for you to consult when you want to know which days you re going to have s
ex, which days your going to get yelled at, and which days your going to get yel
led at during sex.
DAY 1 TO 5: She s ready to iron and fold
What s happening to her: She may complain of cramps a few days before this, but th
is is where the cycle really starts. Her estrogen levels are dropping, so there s
only a 2% chance she ll get pregnant if you have sex. That would be great news, ex
cept you won t be having sex right now. Thanks to those low estrogen levels, she c
urrently sees you as a large lump of cells in a stupid shirt.
Your strategy: Lack of estrogen can also trigger insomnia and restlessness, whic
h is why many women feel the urge to clean and organize during these days, says
Christine Northrup, M.D., author of Women s Bodies, Women s Wisdom (I read it so you
wouldn t have to). My suggestion: Forget about sex and point her to the clothes.
DAYS 6 TO 9: She s up for anything
What s happening to her: She s calmer and happier now because her body is saturated
in feel-good hormones and endorphins. That means she s more receptive to new and cr
eative ideas, says Northrup.
Your strategy: Break out the new and creative ideas! This is the time to settle
old disputes and get buy-in on your golf trip with the guys.
DAYS 10 TO 14: She s horny.
What s happening to her: A rise in the hormone androgen has rekindled her interest
in sex. This causes the thin lining of mucus around her cervix-deep inside her
at the entrance to the uterus-to become thin and watery.
Your strategy: Your woman s so ready, you may not need more than a few minutes of
foreplay. Set the mood in a few seconds by telling her how much you want to have
sex with her, says Tara Roth Madden, author of Romance on the Run Quality Sex for B
ust Couples. Your pants should be off before you finish the sentence.
DAY 15: She s really horny
What s happening to her: On the positive side, she CRAVES sex because she s at her m
ost fertile. On the negative side, the sex doesn t necessarily have to be with you
. Research shows she s more likely to be unfaithful during this time. In one study
, researchers observed 500 women in nightclubs and found that they were more lik
ely to wear revealing clothes and send suggestive signals to men in this phase o
f their cycle. Naturally, the researchers still went home alone.
Your strategy: Don t let her out of the house by herself. Instead, take advantage
of her adventurous mood by trying a new position or location.
DAYS 16 TO 23: She s a lesbian
What s happening to her: Her estrogen level is dropping again, so she s less fertile
. Research shows that during these 8 days, she s more attracted to feminine-lookin
g men because they appear more nurturing (as I call it, the Justin Timberlake fa
ctor). She s no longer looking for a strong man to provide sturdy genes and protec
tion.
Your strategy: Shave and put on some Melissa Etheridge.
DAYS 24 TO 28 She could crack at any moment
What s happening to her: Estrogen continues to fall as tantrum-provoking progester
one rises. This leads to premenstrual syndrome, during which she ll be extra sensi
tive to criticism, more neurotic about her looks, and more likely to throw a fit
, or a Crock-Pot.
Your strategy: Play tennis or go run with her-vigorous exercise can reduce her s
ymptoms. That way, if she feels fat , at least she s doing something about it.
DAYS 26 TO 28: She s craving ice cream and jelly beans
What s happening to her: Her estrogen and progesterone levels are falling as her b
ody prepares to start the cycle all over again. Low estrogen causes her to crave
high-fat foods such as chocolate, which studies show can elevate mood.
Your strategy: Indulge her cravings by taking her out to eat rather than bringin
g home some Ben & Jerry s. Reason? She ll eat the whole tub and blame you for lettin
g her do it.
How to Feel Better When You re Depressed
1. Calm down
2. Feed your mind with positive thoughts
3. Remember good things
4. Look at the big picture
5. Believe that everything will be all right
6. Exercise
7. Forgive
8. Take action
9. Say something positive
10. Think about other people
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Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for
silence. A time to let go... And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it
's all over.
Ambitious projects are by definition close to the limits of your capacity. A sma
ll decrease in morale is enough to kill them off.
The idea of "making your life a creative work of art." A great piece of art is c
omposed not just of what is in the final piece, but equally important, what is n
ot. It is the discipline to discard what does not fit
to cut out what might have
already cost days or even years of effort that distinguishes the truly exceptio
nal artist and marks the ideal piece of work, be it a symphony, a novel, a paint