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Campus
Calling
PART - I

Cracking the
college code
Equally excited and nervous about your first day in college?
Heres an insiders guide to banish day-one jitters
Biaas.Sanyal
@timesgroup.com
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ife for a college noob has

been made out to be all sorts
of things, purani jeans aur
guitar being the most hackneyed (and spectacularly
misleading) of them. To get through
you need much more than distressed denims and a Gibson. You
need an insiders ken. Weve got you
covered there: this first in a two-part
series about making it on day 1 at
college, is drawn from interviews
with old hands at the game. Weve
done the slaving, so you can do the
sailing.

ATTEND ALL ORIENTATIONS

Do you need to sit through a presentation about college on the first day?
Yes. Knowing where your classes,
libraries and canteens are will give
you a sense of ease in a new environment, says Manju Nichani, princi-

BREAK THE ICE

To get cued into the social scene, the
freshers party is a good place to start.
It is organised for a reason and youll
win no cool points on giving it a
miss. The freshers party was where I
got to know people very quickly. Its a
good place to make friends, meet seniors and break ice with other newcomers, says Jignesh Shetty, a former
organising committee member of
, St Xavier Colleges annual
cultural fest. Shubhi Rao, who handles publicity for the fest, often notices FYJC students keeping away from
hotbeds of activity such as the canteen or the quadrangle. Dont shy
away from hanging out. These places
help you tune in to the general buzz
of campus, she says.

GO TO CLASS
While its tempting to sleep in and
give that 8 am class a miss, Its cru-

cial to attend classes in the first

week, says Rao, a third year sociology student at Xaviers. In the first
few days, you learn vital information
from professors about what to expect
on tests, the workload, the course
structure. While there will be no
daily homework like in school, there
will be assignments, projects
and tests for which you
have to take independent
responsibility. Attending
classes in the first few
days helps you know
which ones you cant
afford to miss and
which ones you can
take easy.

MEET WITH
YOUR PROFS
The equation college
professors have with
their students is
decidedly different

from what school teach

their students. Initially
our teachers were strict
turned out to be far mo
than we expected, say
even four years after gra
touch with some of his

SOCIALISING ON

It takes a few days to ac

new setting. Often, fri
made in the first few we
last for long, so dont b
go of people for newer
connections,says Sona
chologist at Sushrut Ho
Chembur. If you feel y
to fit in at the cost of be
move on to people from
receive a genuine sense
She also advises against
to the need to run with
Theres always a sense
involved: newcomers a
how they dress or whic
city they come from. W
pens, old friends serve a
So dont forget your sc
in your hurry to be a
Running after pop
make others deepl
ble, too. For those
tough time makin
Gupta assures that
You dont need to f
youre an introvert and
your own space, its m
acceptable.

SEEK A BALA

College life is a m
and academic hap
Dont tip the bala
either direction. O
socialising has its