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Keep It Simple: Hard To Understand Easier To Understand
Keep It Simple: Hard To Understand Easier To Understand
I once negotiated the purchase of a large building, for which the seller wanted over a
million dollars. I raised the issue of the high costs of replacing the plumbing and
electrical wiring. My opponent said the wiring problem was curable functional
obsolescence. Huh? Couldn't he just say that the outdated wiring could be replaced?
Keep It Simple
Hard to Understand
Easier to Understand
Execution of documents
Remuneration
To wit
Namely
Tendering possession
Moving out
Warrants
Promises
Avoid catch-all phrases they're too broad to have any meaningful impact.
Q: Will you close a negotiation by saying, That takes in the whole ball of wax. or So
now we're in agreement on the sales price, the quantity, the shipping date, and the terms
of payment. ?
Catch-All Phrase
Specific Terms
Settlement package.
Under warranty.
Say you're selling your car and you want to emphasize how well it's been maintained.
You can say that the car is in very good condition or you can relate all the tune-ups, oil
changes, and washing and waxing you've done. Your detailed description (supported, if
possible, with receipts) will make a much greater impact on your opponent.
Case: Imagine you are being interviewed for a new job by a human resources
manager. Suppose you had a successful interview and got the job. Now you need to
negotiate your remuneration package. (pair-work)
Speak Your Opponents Language
Every profession has its own specialized language, or jargon. If you're going to be
negotiating a deal that involves technical knowledge such as a complex real estate deal or
a complicated car repair you'll need to be familiar with the lingo.
Buying a Home
Leasing a Car
Appraising Property
Warranty deed
Closed lease
Appraiser
Lien
Lessor
Escrow
Lessee
Fixtures
Leasing agreement
Depreciation
Special assessments
Security deposit
Cost approach
Survey
Trade-in allowance
Mortgage
Mortgagor
Mortgagee
Title policy
Speaking your opponent's language boosts your negotiating power for a number of
reasons:
Your opponent will immediately understand and relate to what you're saying.
Your opponent will be much more likely to be influenced by what you're saying.
Your opponent will recognize you as an equal.
Think about all the ads for car leasing you've seen these days - they're hotbeds of jargon
and specialized terminology. If you're in the market to lease a car, the agent might
mention a closed lease. At the outset, you'd want the leasing agent to define the term. (For
the record, it means that at the end of the lease you can return the car with no further
obligations.)
Or, if you work in real estate, you understand the difference between a net lease, a net,
net lease, or even a net, net, net lease. (Imagine how confusing it must be to use them in
conversation - they even look puzzling on paper!)
So make it clear at the outset that when you say net, net, net lease, you are talking about a
lease in which the tenant pays all taxes, insurance, repairs, and maintenance, and other
charges and expenses of operating and maintaining the property, and the rent the property
owner receives is free of all those charges and expenses.
Q: What are the problems that you can envisage in a conversation based on jargon usage?
Imagine a conversation between yourself and an ING representative who tries to explain
to you how to use your credit card (for the first time).
The Sound of Silence
Silence, as Winston Churchill once observed, enhances one's authority. Don't assume that
you have to out-talk your opponent to win at negotiation. You have too much to lose by
mouthing off indiscriminately:
You lose the opportunity to think about what you should be saying and when you
should be saying it.
You lose the chance to hear your opponent's positions and formulate the best
response to them.
You may inadvertently blurt out information that damages your negotiating
position.
Q: Can any kind of culture accommodate this kind of approach?
Case: I once represented a widow whose husband's poorly drafted will caused her a great
deal of financial confusion. Her tax statements were audited, and the revenue agent who
reviewed the case started claiming that she owed a lot of money. I tried to convince him
that she didn't but he wouldn't let up.
After several arduous conversations, he finally blurted out the real reason he was
pursuing her so doggedly: she was a test case. The government sometimes tries these
cases in order to set future tax policy. My client, in other words, was being used as sort of
a legal guinea pig. Once I knew that, I figured out how to remove her situation from the
test case category, and the issue was settled.
Remain silent after your opponent has made a proposal - your silence suggests
disappointment or disapproval. Your opponent may rush in, offering concessions that will
sweeten the deal. Whenever an opponent makes a proposal whether it's a good one or not
always consider giving it the silent treatment.
What if you're a constant chatterbox who finds it difficult to remain silent? If you are
uncomfortable with silence (many people are), there are some easy techniques you can
use to keep from mouthing off:
Calm yourself by taking a deep, long breath. Don't speak while you do this.
Gently grit your teeth (don't hurt yourself!). This will provide you with a potent
physical reminder to stay silent.
If you have a drink with you, take a long, slow sip. This will physically prevent
you from saying anything until you've finished.
your opponent to draw her own conclusion, the conclusion you want her to reach, you
stand a much better chance of winning the negotiation.
Say you want to sell your business. You have a potential buyer who asks, What kind of
profit can this business make?
You can offer your opinion, or the opinions of other knowledgeable people. But why not
let the buyer draw her own conclusion? Why not extrapolate? Here's what you might say:
Sales have increased an average of ten percent over the last three years, and net profits
fifteen percent over that same period. The company has two new products that are hot
sellers and another product in the development stage that looks very promising.
By stating facts about the business's performance, you allow the buyer to form her own
conclusions about the future profit potential of your business.
Activity: Come up with an example of your own in which extrapolation was used to
close the deal/ settle the situation.
A Final Word on Language - Conclusions
Like anything else, your command of language will only increase with practice, practice,
practice. Read a wide variety of books, magazines, and newspapers so you harvest a wide
vocabulary. (That way you won't be thrown when someone whispers curable functional
obsolescence in your ear.)
Practice speaking plainly in all situations. Strive to communicate, not to impress. Learn to
stay silent when you have nothing to say. You will be a more valued conversationalist and
a ferocious negotiator.
Use simple language instead of complex terminology.
If your opponent uses terms you don't understand, ask for clarification.
Be as descriptive as possible. Avoid generalities.
Learn to remain silent when you aren't sure what to say or when you've made a
strong point.
Use extrapolation to let your opponent draw her own conclusions. It is more likely
to motivate your opponent than anything you say.
Cultivate a wide vocabulary at every opportunity.