every day life, we deal with people from all walks of life.

Some make friends wi

th us while some remain as 'strangers' . While engaging with these people, we te
nd to do a 'rough mind calculation' about them. It is a nature of every human be
ing to always generate feed backs about each other. While doing so, inevitably,
we tend to judge a person based on their behavior or attitude(In another word, h
ow they treat us)
When the person is known for her 'bad' traits; well that should not bother us. H
owever, when we believe a person is 'nice' or 'good'; we maintain a good impress
ion on them and things start to diverge when this person proves to be vice verse
under certain circumstances and conditions.
When we believe a person is 'good'; we are unable to accept to misbehaves of the
person.Immediately we jump to a conclusion that she is not worth of thinking or
mingling. Why do you think that one person behaves differently in a different s
ituation
We will not be able to accept if the good one does the worst.This is closely rel
ated to behavior. How do we define behavior?
Dr Nicholas Herrera, in one of his essays defines behavior as ' a function of th
e person and the situation' This means a person's behavior is subjected to chang
es from time to time. He explains this by quoting defender Elizabeth Lambert who
behaved badly during a soccer match between the University of New Mexico and Br
igham Young University(According to a sports center source)
If behavior changes, how we define whether a person is 'nice' or not? Usually, w
hen a person pleases us, we think she or he is 'nice'. Dr. Jeremy Sherman, an ev
olutionary epistemologist in his essay entitled 'Is It Narcissism or Nicessism'
says that it is difficult for us to distinguish between 'nice' and 'not nice'. T
his suggests that one person;s wisdom may offend another person's principle.
One man's meat is another man's poison.
Since it is difficult to differentiate, then where do we draw line between 'nice
' and 'not nice'? If we are not be able to differentiate, then how can we tell a
person is nice or not.
Maybe some people may claim that ' she does not hurt me, so she is nice'. This m
ay sound naive because the same person may claim later that 'I did not expect he
r to behave in such a way. She sucks'
Same person who reacts differently when she is dumped into a stressful situation
."fundamental attribution error"term as developed by Ross, 1977 claims that beha
vior is attributed to a person's personality and not the situations which might
the person is most probably victimized.
Based on this ' fundamental attribution error', we should not judge a person bas
ed on her behavior since it is parallel to the conditions or situations she is s
ubjected.
We must first understand the factors that make the person to behave in such a wa
y. If she is ill mannered due to situational factors; then we should not blame h
er for behaving unpleasantly. This less or more reflects people who tend to judg
e a person based on their single act.
Each individual is unique. If the nature is different in 4 seasons, we after all
human beings undeniably represent variety of reflections in different situation
s. Remember that two people may see at one thing differently.