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Dedicated :
To the lotus feet of our beloved spiritual master, His Holiness
Jayapataka Swami Maharaja, who wants everyone to be loving
and happy in Krishna consciousness.
He wants Grihastas to flourish both materially and spiritually and
make their lives successful. We are very grateful to him for teaching
us to be personal in all our relationships and for encouraging us
to develop our faith, humility and service to all the Vaishnavas.
Through him in parampara, we offer it to our most beloved
Founder Acharya of ISKCON His Divine Grace
AC. Bhaktivedanta Swami Srila Prabhupada, who is our
guiding light through his books and instructions.
Acknowlegements
We are very indebted to His Grace Anuttama dasa Adhikari,(not
the GBC), a senior disciple of Srila Prabhupadas who gave us
his valuable comments, insights and suggestions to incorporate
more quotations from Srila Prabhupadas letter , which we have
included in the second edition.
We are very grateful to Kaveri devi dasi from Moscow for
designing the cover of this book. We are grateful to Bhaktin Yulia
who photographed the couple on the cover in her home studio in
Moscow. We also want to thank Vaikunta Hari dasa and Kesavi
devi dasi from Moscow for kindly agreeing to be photographed
for the cover. Many thanks to Atula Krishna dasa from Rustov
(Russia) for translating from Russian during one of the interviews.
We are indebted to all the devotees whose interviews are
featured in this book.
We are very grateful to Pramod Nitai dasa from Bangalore for
helping us print and distribute the book.
Contents
Introduction 1
Chapter 1
Choosing a partner...6
Chapter 2
The Marriage Ceremony...... 13
Chapter 3
Coming close to each other.................. 18
Chapter 4
Developing the right attitudes 29
Chapter 5
Some problems and how to counter them. 37
Chapter 6
Dealing with material life... 45
Chapter 7
Family and social responsiblities... 51
Chapter 8
Overcoming obstacles...... 58
Chapter 9
Ideal husband- a wifes perspective 61
Chapter 10
Ideal wife- a husbands perspective. 66
Chapter 11
An interesting activity for couples 76
Chapter 12
Interviews with devotee couples.. 76
Chapter 13
How the Bhakti Vrikha program helps couples 97
Chapter 1
Choosing a Partner
For a devotee, choosing a partner seems difficult from various
angles. The foremost one is finding someone equally interested
in spiritual life. The second one is to make sure that both are
materially compatible to some extent at least. The third is the
fact that we have so few devotees to choose from. Finally, the
fourth is the apprehension whether it will work out and whether
we will be satisfied in our marriage.
Of course, there are a few marriage bureaus run by ISKCON
devotees who maintain a data-base of matrimonial seekers, but
we still may not be able to make up our mind from that list or
may not be able to find the right partner.
We generally experience difficulties because we do not take
shelter of the Lord in all circumstances.
As the Lord says in the Bhagavad Gita, You will overcome all
the difficulties of material life by taking shelter of Me. But out of
false ego, if you forget me, you will be lost. Bg 18.58
The first step in choosing a partner is to take shelter of Krishna
and pray to Him that if He is favorable to the idea of our getting
married, then may He kindly help us in finding the right person.
Taking this step requires that we have faith first in Krishna as a
person who is willing to help us. We have to have faith that the
person Krishna helps us find will certainly be the best for us. We
should be ready to accept the person as partner for life.
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Chapter 2
To fulfil all the above promises, the bridegroom also asks the
bride for a pledge:
O Beloved one! If you promise to me that you wont go alone in
gardens and to others home, you wont keep the company of
men alone, if you promise to be of sweet disposition, to be soft
and tender, keep your pledge of marriage sacred, be devoted to
me, to the elders and to the Lord and do your household duty
then I welcome you as my rightly wedded wife.
At the sapta-padi ritual, the bride bearing the promise of the
bridegroom agrees to fulfill her vows.
It is the custom in Vedic marriages that the couple is taken by the
parents of both the partners to the Lords Temple to take shelter
of Him and get His blessings to make their union successful and
auspicious. This confirms how much the marriage is closely
connected to Krishna and how important it is for the couple to
value it in this light. It should give them confidence that the Lord
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Chapter 3
Both the partners should want to serve each other more than
being served. They should find ways and means to make each
other always happy. This satisfies the soul completely. One is not
trying to exploit the other, but rather showing genuine affection
and love. When one tries to help the other overcome their shortcomings rather than criticizing or nagging them about it, one brings
out the best in them. In this way both feel good about the situation.
This love grows deeper with time and becomes a strong fortress
to face any difficulty with strength.
Sharing common goals, desires, and ambitions together makes
their partnership strong and interesting. If they also can work
together in some areas, then it helps their companionship to
flourish.
How does one develop such a feeling of true love and service to
ones partner, when the mind is naturally inclined to attraction
and repulsion for ones own satisfaction? When it easily feels
dissatisfied when things do not work its way and wants to feel
dejected and hopeless? When it is selfish and egoistic and will
not reach out to the heart where true feelings are? When it is
more interested in proving that one is right and perfect all the
time? When exchange of love is not it stop priority?
By taking help of the Third Partner, Krishna. If both the partners
develop their relationship with Krishna in a service mood, they
will find that their mind is getting conquered and their hearts are
beginning to feel the mood of service to Krishna as well as to
each other.
The feelings of lust which are natural for all conditioned souls,
slowly transforms into love and this love is permanent, deep and
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mature, keeps growing, and satisfies the heart, mind and body
completely and makes one ecstatic and blissful.
Krishna is a partner in the marriage, and He has sanctioned the
fulfillment of lust in a regulated way. He helps His devotees to
satisfy their material desires as well. So both husband and wife
will find that married life could never have been as happy without
Krishna. Simultaneously, they are also making progress in Krishna
consciousness!
So work together husband and wife diligently and pray to
Krishna to help you. He is sitting in your heart and will surely
give you good intelligence, as soon as He finds that you are
engaged in His service with faith and love. Our Krishna is not a
dead God as with other things. He is the Supreme living being
and very affectionate to His devotees. He is the responsive
cooperator with our activities. So stick to His lotus feet as advised
by Lord Chaitanya.(SPL to Tattiriya dasi, 15th September,
1974.)
Ideally, Krishna wants us to use the sex urge only for procreation.
When couples get married there is no problem as they normally
do want to have children and can thus fulfill the sex urge as well.
Krishna recommends in the scriptures the performance of the
garbhadana samskara which will ensure the couple good progeny.
You have asked what is meant by illicit sex. Sex should be
used only in marriage for begetting nice children to raise in Krishna
consciousness. Krishna says in the Bhagavad- gita that I am sex
life performed according to religious principles. Sex life for any
other purpose means illicit sex. The use of contraceptive method
for sex enjoyment is very sinful. Restraint in the matter of these
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yet, but they must hope to reach it. In this way, by the mercy of
Krishna and Guru, they can keep progressing. There is no need
to feel disheartened or disillusioned about being at a lower stage
of spiritual development. When Krishna is a partner, He is always
helpful. He keeps increasing the bliss and happiness of the
devotees, and makes it easier for them to surrender to Him. There
is also a connection between the love the devotees feel for
Krishna and what they feel for each other. When they begin to
love Krishna more selflessly, they can feel the love for each other
also becoming more true and lasting.
Devotees can start their married life by chanting japa along with
the spouse. This gives a shared feeling of surrendering to Krishna
together and they experience a loving bond that deepens their
marital relationship. The partnership in chanting will also ensure
that they look forward to chanting japa, and can give it their full
attention. Since they are not separated from each others
company during japa time, they can look forward to this as a
wonderful way to spend quality time together. Japa will then be
not degenrate into becoming a ritual they want to complete in
haste, to be able to go on to their other daily activities.
As their chanting improves, they start to experience more love
for Krishna and so enhanced love for each other as well. There
will be more harmony in their relationship, as their minds will be
more controlled. They will be less prone to negative emotions
that lead to quarrels and misunderstandings.
With Krishnas presence more manifest in the devotees lives, so
many karmas and anarthas which impede their happiness can be
destroyed. They realize increasingly, how including Krishna in
their lives makes their marriage an exciting and satisfying
experience. Krishna is never dull, and His presence means that
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It is ideal if they now take the responsibility for caring for the
spiritual lives of other people. By having at least a weekly program
at home together, then they will have more common goals and
activities together. This is similar to the joy of taking care of their
own children together, and makes them less self-absorbed.
I never discourage marriage, provided it is for Krishnas service
and not simply for sex life. It is always meant for a higher purpose.
In Gods creation there is male and female even in the spiritual
world and there is purpose for such creation. This purpose is so
that male and female may join together, not for sex life but to
glorify the Lord. From the Srimad- Bhagavatam we learn that in
Vaikuntha the women are much more beautiful in their figure,
smiling, dressing etc, but the men and women there are so much
attracted by the chanting of Hare Krishna that they do not get
any sex impulse even by intimate mingling. Here also we get very
good example, because when our nice boys and girls are dancing
together in chanting Hare Krishna at least for that time they forget
all about sex impulse. This is perfection of life, to be so much
attracted to Krishna that all insignificant pleasures are utterly
forgotten. (SPL to Uddhava, 17th February, 1969)
Discussing their childrens personalities, their spiritual and material
progress, their problems, and a shared sense of responsibility
for their well being, can keep couples united for a life-time. If
they also take the added responsibility of facilitating the spiritual
lives of other people as well, they will be fulfilling the request of
Lord Caitanya Mahaprabhu to all the grihastas, and in this way
they will experience His presence in their home as He has
promised.. There is no need to renounce family life in order to
achieve the Lotus Feet of the Lord. Rather, Lord Caitanya
Mahaprabhu says that He Himself will come and dwell in our
homes if we preach to others.
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For this purpose, Krishna has given the wife her husband as His
representative. The more that the husband is a devotee of Krishna,
the more perfectly he can act as Krishnas representative. But,
whatever the husbands state of advancement, his position
remains, and the husband has to be respected as such and served
with reverence by his wife. This injunction is given in the dharma
shastras and there are many great chaste ladies in puranic history
like Sita, Mandodari,Tara, Anusaya, etc, who are revered and
respected. Their spiritual prowess is acknowledged, as they
followed this injunction very strictly. Even if the husband is not a
devotee, the wife gains great pious credit and can be elevated to
the heavenly planets for following this principle sincerely.
Women are not expected to perform any great austerities or
penances, as they are quite delicate and not generally inclined to
a difficult lifestyle. Their natural inclination is to be happy in family
life. By trying to serve the husband faithfully, she can overcome
the urge to be selfish and self centered. She developes humility
and a service attitude. Accepting the natural position also removes
any envy on the part of the wife, she accepts the superior position
of the husband and serves him.
.. The Vedic system advises women to become very chaste and
accept the husband as master. Your husband is especially good
because he is progressing in Krishna consciousness. I am very
glad that you two are a very good combination, and your devotion
for your husband and your husbands love for you are considered
great achievements (SPL to Nandarani, 8th October, 1967)
Working sanely and diligently, she pleased her very powerful
husband, giving up all lust, pride, envy, greed, sinful activities and
vanity. (SB 3.23.3)
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means that they should follow the yin and the yang principle as in
Chinese philosophy. Everything in the universe consists of two
opposites, the male (yang) and the female (yin) principle. They
balance each other and everything works in harmony. The
extroverted partner balances the introverted one. The more
peaceful partner balances the hyperactive one. The home-loving
partner balances the foot-loose one. The book-lover balances
the partner who learns on the job.
Rather than being critical of each others faults, weaknesses, both
parties must try to help the other person to overcome them. This
makes them take up responsibility for the other, and helps them
to develop the qualities of tolerance, patience, and empathy.
When Krishna is a partner in the marriage, these injunctions are
easier to implement. When it is difficult to convince the partner
of something, intense prayer to Krishna helps to make the difficult
easy.
By developing ones relationship with Krishna, one derives more
and more joy in serving and sharing and giving happiness to others
rather than gratifying oneself.
A devotee experiences the joy of being personal with Krishna.
He expresses his innermost thoughts and desires to Krishna. He
pleads with Him to let him serve Him and come closer to Him.
This personalism can help us to be personal in our other
relationships as well.
Personalism means that we care to know about the joys and
sorrows of others, and want to please them by serving them and
thus develop warm and close relationships. It is personalism
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Chapter 5
and experience the joy when He comes to our rescue. You will
find Krishna helping you to make your marriage a successful one
and filling you with more and more love for each other!
By forgetting the Third Partner in his marriage, a devotee
whimsically tries to seek happiness by his own foolish
arrangements. Even after repeated failures to do so on his own,
he may keep trying to find that perfect happiness in married life
by switching partners. Finally, he may get disgusted, quit trying
altogether, and take complete shelter of Krishna.
On the other hand, one who has firm faith in the Third Partner
will not only have his desires fulfilled but also make tangible spiritual
progress in Krishna consciousness.
Krishna can take away our karmas. There is no need to endlessly
meditate on all the predictions of the astrologers and keep seeking
more of them to find out if there is any hope of material success.
Just take full shelter of your Third Partner and He can change
your destiny.
Once a devotee accepts Krishna in the marriage, he will be serious
about making it work. He will be faithful and loyal to his spouse,
be careful and sober in his dealings with all other members of the
opposite sex, and experience a happy and successful marriage.
We need senior devotees to counsel devotee couples periodically,
so that the minor differences are overcome without effort and
the relationship can continue smoothly without building up into
major issues.
Of course, in a Bhakti Vriksha program, the leader takes personal
care in the lives of his members and so the members feel free to
discuss their personal matters with him in faith. There are other
senior leaders in the program who are also involved personally
with everyone , and can help him to solve issues he finds difficult
to handle.
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Chapter 7
Chapter 8
Overcoming obstacles
Material life is a passage through many ups and downs in our
happiness and well being. We have acquired many karmas or
reactions to our actions from our past lives and these affect the
experiences we go through in this life. What is important is not
what we experience, but rather how we experience it.
Krishna says: O son of Kunti, the non permanent appearance
of happiness and distress and their disappearance in due course
are like the appearance and disappearance of winter and summer
seasons. They arise from sense perception, O scion of Bharata,
and one must learn to tolerate them without being disturbed.
(Bg 2.14)
There may be problems related to health, finance, job,
relationships, children, and many other related issues. Marriage
gives one the strength to face life together. Difficulties are an
opportunity to help and encourage one another, and share in
overcoming the obstacle together. This is what unites a couple in
a true bond of trust and love, a love that does not ebb when
there is a difficult time to endure. If problems make you irritable,
and take out your frustrations on each other and blame one
another, then your love is still very selfish and immature.
However, the understanding and togetherness required to face
difficulties are challenges, but trying to solve them intelligently is
a very enlivening experience instead. This is more so because
you have the Third Partner to depend on always.
Krishna says: If you become conscious of Me, you will pass
over all the obstacles of conditioned life by My grace. If, however,
you do not work in such consciousness but act through false
ego, not hearing Me, you will be lost. (Bg 18.58)
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His Feet are the source of sacred rivers like the Ganges, which
put an end to the dangers of mundane life.(SB 3.23.42)
In times of difficulties, we need good counseling and association
from senior Vaishnavas, those we can trust, and who have our
interests in their hearts. Belonging to the Bhakti Vriksha program
helps as every one has a loving senior devotee taking care of him
or her personally and helping them even in their material lives as
much as possible. But most importantly, they give the faith and
intelligence to depend on Krishna and not be lost.
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Chapter 10
Devahuti was not unfaithful. The most sinful activity for a wife is
to accept another husband or another lover. Canakya Pandita
has described four kinds of enemies at home. If the father is in
debt he is considered an enemy; if the mother has selected another
husband in the presence of her grown up children, she is
considered an enemy; if the wife does not live well with her
husband but deals very roughly, then she is an enemy; and if the
son is a fool, he is also an enemy. In family life, father, mother,
wife and children are assets, but f the wife accepts another
husband in the presence of her husband or son, then according
to Vedic civilization, she is considered an enemy. A chaste and
faithful woman must not practise adultery- that is a greatly sinful
act. (SB 3.23.3 purport)
Humility
Most men even in this age of womens liberation; expect their
wives to be humble. Stubborn refusal to listen to their husbands
or an attitude of Im more advanced than my husband is hurting
to husbands. Women can convince their husbands far more easily
by taking a humble position, and demonstrating their respect for
them, than by proving that they are wrong or nagging them. It is
more natural for a wife to influence her husband subtly than to
dominate over him, and this is an important ingredient of marital
harmony. You should remember that your husband is also a
devotee (if indeed he is), and not just an ordinary man.
Although a wife may be equal to her husband in spiritual
consciousness, she should not be vainly proud. Sometimes, it
happens that the wife comes from a very rich family, as did
Devahuti, the daughter of Svayambhuva Manu. She could have
been very proud of her parentage, but that is forbidden. The
wife should not be proud of her parental position.She must always
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whole family, and for developing more love for Krishna. If you
did not learn this from your mother, then you should spend enough
time to learn from a good cook in your group, and also buy good
cookbooks, and cook varieties of dishes for Krishna and the
family.
Maintain cleanliness and neatness
This is also very important. The house, which is also a temple of
Krishna, should be maintained spotlessly clean at all times. The
bathrooms and kitchen especially need double the effort to keep
clean. All furniture must be dusted regularly, bed sheets must be
changed every week, and everything must be rearranged neatly
every day. If any thing is broken or out of order, she must remind
the husband (!) to attend to it. The wife must make all efforts and
maintain a good and simple interior decoration of the house, with
the help of her husband. The house must always be sweet smelling,
through incense, flowers, deodorants etc.
All this applies equally to the physical appearance of the wife.
She should always be neatly and elegantly dressed and take good
care of her skin and body. The aim should be that the husband is
always satisfied and attracted to the wife, and that everyone sees
the wife as a worthy devotee of Krishna. Slovenly appearance
does not make one look like a better devotee.
Take good care of the family
The wife has to ensure that all members of the family are provided
with prasadam, dress etc on time (with the husbands help, of
course). She should look after the material and spiritual education
of the children, sharing this duty with the husband, depending on
his time constraints. She should ensure that the deity paraphernalia
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and dressing are first class, and the arathis and offerings take
place on time. She should learn all the kirtanas properly and sing
them sweetly.
Devotional Service
Her own personal sadhana must be first class chanting, reading
the scriptures etc. She should cooperate with her husband in
their preaching and other services, with great eagerness. In fact,
this ingredient is the key to the success of the marriage. It helps
both husband and wife to develop all the qualities described in
this chapter and the one on the ideal husband. This also will help
overcome the inevitable storms in the life of the family. The wife
should never make the mistake of becoming complacent in
devotional service. ESPECIALLY if the husband is very nice to
her and the children are very attractive, which is probably the
biggest lure which Maya places in the path of a wife. She should
never reduce the familys preaching service. She should always
remember that the devotees under their spiritual care are equally
their family members. The eagerness with which they undertake
this care determines how pleased Lord Krishna is with them.
The wife must constantly attempt to improve spiritually, along
with her husband
Adjust
Sometimes, due to the pressures of devotional service, the
husband may not always be able to give the wife all the attention
she wants. The wife must cooperate with him in this. In fact, by
working with him, she will get all the required pleasure of his
company. There may be many challenges in devotional service,
and the wife must take these up boldly and fight shoulder to
shoulder with her husband. The wife must also overcome any
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Westerners contend that this is a slave mentality for the wife, but
factually it is not; it is the tactic by which a woman can conquer
the heart of her husband, however irritable or cruel he may be.
In this case we clearly see that although Cyavana muni was not
young but indeed old enough to be Sukanyas grandfather and
was also irritable, Sukanya, the beautiful young daughter of a
king, submitted herself to her husband, and tried to please him in
all respects. Thus she was a chaste and faithful wife. (SB 9.3.10)
We see the change of heart in Cyavana muni due to his wifes
behaviour. He requests the Aswini Kumaras: Although you are
ineligible to drink soma rasa in sacrifices, I promise to give you a
full pot of it. Kindly arrange beauty and youth for me, because
they are attractive to young women. The Aswini Kumaras were
very pleased to see Sukanyas chastity and faithfulness. Thus
they showed her Cyavana muni, her husband, and after taking
permission from him, they returned to the heavenly planets in
their plane. (SB 9.3.17)
In devotees marriages, you have the Third Partner Krishna being
very active in their lives, so a woman can have full confidence in
Krishna. He will pleased with her for her submissiveness and
reward her both materially and spiritually. Her own husband also
rewards by responding positively to her submissiveness...
Respectful to elders
Every husband feels happy when his wife shows respects to his
parents and other family members and serves them with love.
Even if there is some discrepancy in their behaviour, a wife should
not criticize them openly to the husband, as it hurts him as if he
himself were being insulted. So the wife should show tact and
restraint in how she expresses her problems to him being mindful
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of his feelings as well. The wife should also work towards building
good relationships with all the husbands family members and
friends. Then she can win his support, protection and trust at all
times.
Gentle and sweet spoken
True feminine charm as well as strength lies in a wifes being
gentle and soft spoken. The husband is very pleased with having
a loving wife who is always speaking sweet words. On the other
hand he gets very disturbed by sharp and vindictive words which
can drive him away from her company. Even if there is some
displeasure or difficulties to be expressed, the wife can utilize
subtle methods like silent protests, tears or best of all, praying
to the Third Partner - rather than an attempt to verbally defeat
her husband.
Sauhrdena vaca madhurya, means always desiring good for
the husband and speaking to him with sweet words. A person
becomes agitated by so many material contacts in the material
world; therefore, in his home life he must be treated by his wife
with sweet words. (SB 3.23.2 purport)
Be a good mother
A womans greatest contribution to humanity is the raising of
children to adulthood, so that they can become useful members
of the society, both materially and spiritually. The English saying,
the hand that rocks the cradle, rules the world is very apt in
this regard.
Motherhood also brings out the best qualities in a woman and
matures her, softening her rough edges. So a husband becomes
indebted to his wife for taking good care of his children.
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Chapter 11
An interesting activity
for Couples
This activity is best performed in the presence of a senior devotee
who is trying to help you . But in the absence of any such person
around, you can also do this activity yourselves and feel very
personal and close to each other and your minor differences can
be easily settled. It may be a wise thing to repeat this activity
periodically, so you can prevent negative emotions from bottling
up only to erupt later!
1) Write down 5 good qualities or positive points about each
other in separate sheets of paper. Read them out to your partner
when both have finished..
2) Next, sit together and write a goal / goals that you share together
and how you want to achieve them.
3) Write again, together, how you would like to include Krishna
in your marriage. It can include things like how you will
encourage, help and appreciate each others devotional services,
appreciate each other as devotees and as dear and special to
Krishna, cooperate and serve Krishna together, read Srila
Prabhupadas books together, etc.
4) Next, write individually what each one perceives are the
problems faced by the other and how you think you can help
him/her overcome those problems.
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of our family. We try our best to involve Him in all the activities of
our daily lives.
What devotional activities do you do together?
Suprasada Gauranga: We actually complement our devotional
services. We chant together early in the morning on the terrace
of our home.I am usually there by 4.30AM in the morning and
Trirekha joins me at around 5.30 AM. and we finish our japa
together. I perform the morning mangalarthi at around 6.30 A.M.
Trirekha on most occasions would have kept the Arathi
Paraphernalia ready the previous night itself. Trirekha cooks for
the Lord, and takes care of the abhishekam and dressing up of
the Deities. We both conduct Bhakthi Vriksha Programs. Trirekha
conducts Childrens programs too. We also attend Bhakthi
Shastri course . We take care of all the members of our groups
together.
Trirekha Sundari dd:We preach by conducting Bhakti Vriksha
groups, out reach programs, take care of all the devotees in our
groups, and sometimes cook for Lord together. We organise big
festivals under the guidance of senior devotees We attend
Bhagavad Gita study classes together.
How do you resolve misunderstandings?
Suprasada Gauranga das:I have noted that most of the times
misunderstandings arise when our consciousness is not proper.
However, because we are blessed with Krishna consciousness,
we quickly realise why this is happening and we immediately
surrender to the Lord and realise our true purpose in life. As a
result, all conflicts are resolved very quickly. Further. we have
able guidance of senior devotees and so we feel protected and
fearless.
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They live in Mathuradesh in the Middle East and are senior leaders
of the Bhakti Vriksha program. They have trained and continue
to train many devotee preachers and leaders. Rupa Chaitanya
das is a civil engineer and works for a big engineering firm.
Baladayini dd is very active in preaching and together they take
care of many devotees there. They have been married for the
last nineteen years. They have a teenaged daughter, who goes to
college and chants a few rounds of the mahamantra daily.
When and how did you get married?
Rupa Chaitanya: Our marriage was arranged by our parents.
We were married on 22nd February, 1989
What is the reason behind your successful marraige?
Rupa Chaitanya :Since we are engaged in serving Guru &
Gauranga through the Bhakti Vriksha program, our attachment
towards material activities have reduced substantially. Being
engaged in the services, we do not spend too much time on
material issues.
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