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Freedom's Candles: From Tiananmen To Vilnius
Freedom's Candles: From Tiananmen To Vilnius
Freedom's Candles: From Tiananmen To Vilnius
Table of Contents
Table of Contents... 1
Foreward..3
War, Peace, Marriage. 5
From South to West...17
Return To Fatherland.25
Settling Down32
Finnish Customs....49
Return to America.29
Elder Care..64
A True Friend70
Russian Trains..79
Czechoslovakia Again... 91
Freedom.110
A Folk Tale141
Foreward
Sometimes, at night, our sighs wake us up. Sometimes
they are loud so we wake up one another.
No one
I struggled in the
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That
evening I was late for dinner. The only place left was
beside that rude student.
You seem quite nice, I heard a girl on the other
side of the table say to him, but I cant understand why
you put on such an act when you speak. Do you want to
sound different?
Maybe it is because I am different, he said and
laughed.
I am an
Its a school.
I wouldnt know that.
Im on leave from
Germany.
We spent the day walking up and down the streets
of Copenhagen, as easy with one anothers thoughts on
the cobble stones as we had been last summer on our
walks in the forest.
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met, courted and fell in love. For me, it seemed a war bride was
a woman who tries to escape from something unpleasanta
war, a defeator in search of a richer future. None of these
things fit me. My childhoods Copenhagen was a city I loved
and had left with great reluctance.
Besides making me a happy mother-to-be, Jim spent his
remaining ten months in the military picking up pine cones.
With wars now history what else could one do, according to his
general who detested pine cones. Jims friend, an artist, was
given the job of making Valentine invitations for the generals
wife.
Jim had enrolled in a masters program in California when
he was finished with the service, and I worked at a hospital
outside Fayetteville to help to support our future dream of
education and parenthood.
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work, where I sat in front of the white line while Joe, the black
janitor on the floor, sat behind.
Jytte, when in Rome do as the Romans do my charge
nurse said when I protested all the division lines. Not only
wasnt I Roman; I hesitated to become an American. I worked
on the second floor at the hospital, the floor where only white
people were admitted.
Jytte, the charge nurse said to me one morning, go in
and admit the woman in 120.
has the white man ever really been concerned about the black
mans babies?
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I was introduced to
the canyon, but Bill had excused himself. We notified the police
and settled down with a cup of tea, expecting Jack to pop his
head in any time. At
moneytherefore no future!
It was an ordeal to pack his things. We found all his art
work and discovered it had become more morbid as the time for
his planned suicide neared. We also found the Mothers Day
present he had bought and wrapped in advance.
In the
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Return To Fatherland
Once again Denmark. As we were descending, the plane
cast shadows on the green summer land.
Imagine, Jim, that I come from a place so small that the
shadows of an airplane span the whole country. Its mine, I
whispered. Its mine.
My
glassy.
I need a doctor, he whispered, right away. I need a
doctor.
You need a hospital, I thought, and then even right away
might be too late. I watched as he arched his back and screamed
all the way in the ambulance, clear indications of meningitis.
Half an hour later two attendants carried him into the emergency
room where my father was waiting.
My dear, he put his arm around me, how long has he
been like that?
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literally night and day, just to get a place to live. Housing has
always been a problem in Denmark. The Fulbright year, so
eagerly searched for, had cost Jims health, and the doctoral
degree dreamed about ever since we had met in the Danish Folk
College was now shelved forever.
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If
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Settling Down
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beauty lining the street all the way to the college, adding grace to
the campus, a conglomeration of buildings with one towering over
the rest reminiscent of both Disney and Queen Victoria. It was
the administration building where we met the dean of the faculty.
He took us over to our new home, a two story house which a
professor in the math department had rented to us for the summer.
It was a rambling white house with many doors and windows,
shaded by pine trees. On the first floor lived an art professor and
his family. They took us up to our quarters on the top floor, a two
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gotten to me. The girls had begun to wail and sulk, and I had just
come from a house built by a young man who had a dream of an
opera house in Sidney gleaming in his eyes.
Oh, well, you saw the grocery store? I asked Jim. Why
dont you get us a couple of steaks and a bottle of Burgundy so we
can toast to it all. Ill get the children settled, and well have a
candlelight supper. (I must have had a least one strong ancestor
whose genes had been passed on to me and who knew, as I did,
that a bottle of red wine could expel any depression.)
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The girls were exhausted, and after the bath I put them to bed
in the attic. Then I unpacked Ingers farewell present, a couple of
pewter candle holders and two dozen candles.
It is an
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It was less than fifty feet away, just across the street, that a
couple of weeks later I found my dream, an odd-shaped wooden
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house. Light green paint was peeling from it, and the entrance
was covered with weeds six feet tall. But the window with all its
small glass panes held me spellbound. I had a weakness for small
windows and French doors.
I looked for a For Sale sign and couldnt see any, but as I
peeked through the windows the sight delighted me: a large oak
floor and a wooden staircase leading up to a balcony under the
peak of the roof. A large fireplace finished it off. I whispered
sold to myself just as someone patted me on the shoulder. I
jumped.
I am so sorry, I said as I looked into the eyes of a very
lovely woman who appeared to be a little older than I.
Is it
have the key if you want to look at it. The last buyer stayed two
nights and then left.
Is it haunted? I asked.
laugh.
Oh no, I dont believe it is; on second thought, who knows?
It was an old Scotsman who built it for his retirement. Yes, why
not. It might be haunted. He died long ago and the family has
tried to get rid of it.
I am the neighbor.
I get a small
commission.
What a wonderful neighbor to get in addition to the house, I
thought.
Well, if youre interested, then Ill get the key.
Ill bring my husband over later. We might be interested. I
waved to her.
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Im
Jytte.
Can you spell that please.
Id rather not. It usually spells disaster. We laughed, the
first laugh of the many we were going to share over the years.
I ran home to Jim. I found it. I truly did. I found the
houseas a matter of fact, The House.
Where? You only left ten minutes ago.
Right across from us. It looks like a dump, but it is a
castle.
Within a week we had moved all our belongings into our
new home. Mapleville, which had yet to make Rand McNallys,
was no longer a stepping stone to something bigger and better. It
was home. We could walk everywhere, up to the college, down
to the town, and we never needed to lock our door. People were
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friendly and honest, and the pressures which wed been under on
both coasts werre absent. America never became home to me;
Mapleville did.
Yes, the house displayed the frugality of a Scotsman who
had built it for his retirement. The balcony overlooking the living
room, just like our balcony in Denmark, became mine. It was
here I had my desk where I read, sewed and later nursed my baby.
Under the balcony was a small kitchen, the size of a walk-in
closet, graced by a French door. Next to the kitchen was the
bathroom with a toilet and a shower. Finally, a few steps led
down to a landing under which were the gas heater and a washing
machine.
It was the constant quarreling between the old Scotsman and
his wife which had made it possible for us to buy the house.
Margaret told us that in their last years it had become so intense
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that they decided to add another two rooms to the house where the
wife could live with the right to use kitchen and bathroom.
However charming the front of the original house was, it would
have been too small for our family, soon to be extended. The
price was right: $5000, half the cost of a car.
Maybe the strain of moving had been too much. Halfway
through the pregnancy my water broke, and the doctor, a man I
later would work for, didnt believe the baby would live. I was
ordered to stay off my feet completely for three weeks, and it was
then I discovered the most admirable characteristic of the
American peopletheir helpfulness executed in an amazingly
organized way. Our meals were brought to the house every day
for over three weeks by faculty wives whom I did not even know.
The presidents wife, Mrs. Brown, was the organizer and was
constantly concerned for my well being.
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My God, Jim, are you all right? I feared there had been a
reoccurrence of his illness in Denmark. What is wrong?
The President has been shot. Hes dead, I suppose.
Dr. Brownwho would do a thing like that? I asked,
disbelieving.
No, no, the President of America, President Kennedy. Jim
fell down on the sofa.
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Maple View
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worth the price. He loved his teaching, and at that time at least no
one at the college was pressured to publish or perish.
I helped the college nurse with her office hours on her day
off. I loved the students. It amused me to see how many diseases
they could dream of in order to avoid classes. They were allowed
three before they were dropped from the course. In Denmark we
would have attended the university with a bottle of aspirins in our
pocket. Education was not something you could get an excuse
from. You either got itor you didnt.
Maple View College had been one of the first colleges in the
States to admit blacks, although at that time they were called
Negroes, and they mingled easily with the whites. I preferred our
Negro babysitters. They seemed to be more affectionate with our
children, loved them more and were loved in return. One day
Benedikte had smeared herself in coffee grounds so I can be
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Finnish Customs
There were dark nights and cold nights. There were light
nights when the sun barely dips below the horizon.
It was
winter war of 1938-1939 the Finns had fought the Russian army
to a standstill, so determined were they to keep their freedoms
candles burning.
The girls went skating. Jim taught, and I played the violin to
shorten the coldest time of the year. We lived in a comfortable
three room apartment, this time provided by the Finnish
government in contrast to our stay in Denmark six years earlier.
A friend of mine, a violinist in a small town close to
Mapelville, had bought me an old violin. An old woman close to
ninety was selling it for twenty-five dollars.
In addition she
related its story. At the end of the nineteenth century her father
had bought the violin for her and her sister to share. It was bought
in New York from a street urchin who was under ten years old.
Was he Polish, Czech or Hungarian? I would never know. What
I did know, or thought I knew, was that his family was hungry and
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had sent the boy out on the street to get some money. Friends
who saw my violin told me I should have it appraised. I never
did. I guess I didnt want to know the true value of an heirloom
brought to The New World by a Slavic family, then sold in order
to put food on their table. More than half a century later it would
be back in Europe permanently, a gift to my Finnish music
teacher.
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Return to America
Yes, Maple View College had changed while we had been
away. Dr. Brown was no longer its president, and with him had
gone the genuine feeling the administration had for the faculty. I
remembered the day long ago when I had met Dr. Brown on
campus and he had asked me how long it was since I had been
back to Denmark for a visit.
Seven years, I replied.
Too long, too long. We will have to look into that. When
Jim a couple of months later received his Fulbright scholarship,
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the college had promptly granted him a sabbatical with half pay,
which made our stay in Finland quite comfortable.
The cornerstone for our new home in Mapleville was laid the
fourth of July, 1970. The Vietnam War was still raging; the floor
in our basement would always be a reminder of that. The mason
who poured it, highly recommended for his excellent work,
arrived a couple of hours later than the appointed time. We were
irritated. The construction crew had only one month in which to
build the framework of the house; then Jim would take over and
finish the interior.
My God, not only is he late, but he dares to come with a
hangover, was my first thought. Then I looked at him again;
something was very wrong.
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Toyotas and Hondas which had taken over the roads while Detroit
suffered. More Japanese cars, fewer American students--and now
they had to be pampered.
The foreign languages disappeared from the curriculum. The
president was present the day the faculty voted for dropping the
language requirement. Jim abstained, and I think our time at
Maple View was determined from that moment.
The English Department had to cut one person. The last
hired should go. The department chairman fought for the faculty
member, and in the midst of the discussion he had a heart attack
and was dead before the doctor arrived. Jim, now the oldest in the
department, was appointed to be the chairman.
Twice in his
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Sixteen
years hence this little boy will stand in Nan king at the first school
in China built by the World Health Organization for teachers of
the handicapped. He will tell them about his school in America.
He will give them hope for what can be done. No, I didn't hear
nor see the fairy. My mother, had she been there, would have.
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The girls often arrived with home-baked bread, the men with
beer. No special rules about a sauna. We never made it co-ed to
the annoyance of some. Neither did we allow them to smoke pot
to the annoyance of others. In Finland a sauna is treated like a
religion; we will continue that in America, we said.
Jim held his seminar classes in our home. They were such an
interesting and interested group. We, including myself, discussed
Herman Hesse, Henrik Ibsen and Dostoevsky. The students had
to keep up their grade average or they would find themselves in
Vietnam. Under such a threat they had to learn, and they did.
The bill for the education of the handicapped was passed in
those years, and Eric was one of the first students to reap the
benefits. In our home he was in the hands of devoted sisters and
students, and in the school he was in the hands of devoted
teachers.
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What a strange country you are, I told Jim over our dinner.
I bet Tom is right; it will be you someday. Then the college can
get a man with a bachelor's degree fresh out of the university.
Why, it really would be much better economically.
I hadn't brought any understanding of economics with me
from Denmark. I had failed that subject in school. I lost every
single game of Monopoly I played with our children. I blame that
as the reason why I never became American along with the fact
that I never have been able to finish Moby Dick, I never knew the
make of our cars, and I drove them with very little respect.
But it wasn't Jim who was the target for the chilly winds
blowing over campuses. It was Ed, his friend and colleague for
seventeen years.
They want me to sit in on his classes--to evaluate his
teaching, Jim told me.
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house. I felt like running down the steps and tearing the For Sale
sign out of the ground. Yes, they creep up the walls and into every
little nook and cranny and through the windows, I thought.
Are you all right, my dear? She patted my arm. You look
terribly pale.
No, Im fine. I really am. Im feeling fine. I must have
become American after all.
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As we drove through
China
China! Was it where the sun went up when ours went
down, as my father had said--or was it the other way around?
Maybe the three Chinese who met us in Shanghai at the airport
also wondered about that. They had been waiting for twentyfour hours and thought that we had changed our mind.
It was ten p.m., we had hardly slept for excitement, and the
trip through Shanghai in a taxi didn't leave room for relaxation.
Bicycles all over ringing their bells, cars tooting their horns,
people in the middle of the street, and on the side walk men sat
I was
Later, much later, I thought that the Chinese might have been
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"How odd,
why don't they sit with us? I have begun to feel different and
lonesome." The oddity had just begun.
But lunch was a feast, a banquet where the Chinese were
hosts and at the same table. We feasted on frogs' legs, turtle
soup, shrimp, crab and barely made the train which left for
ZhenJiang at noon.
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Against the wall stood a couple of plastic chairs, and a big T.V.
dominated the other wall.
"Why did you come to China?" our interpreter, Pan, asked.
"To get electricity and a T.V.," I promptly answered.
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But it was the third room, the room outside our little private
hall, which became home. The Chinese called it our office. It
was much, much more.
I looked despairingly on the yellow and burgundy checked
linoleum floor, the two easy chairs in yellow plastic pushed up
against the wall. Two cone shaped wall lights cast a dim light
on a little wood table which looked like glorified plastic. A
bookcase with glass doors and a desk stood against one wall,
and in the corner stood a green refrigerator. It was the new
China at its best. We smiled and declared it comfortable.
Within a week it became home for the Wues and the
Wongs and many other names and faces, hard to pronounce and
even harder to forget. It was in that room where I listened to
stories about
grandparents and
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So one
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Jim was right; Eric would embrace the Chinese. He did not
have our disbelief in their system. He was void of our cynicism;
he traveled with love. The evening news on the T.V. began
with the Chinese national anthem, and Eric stood in front of the
screen with a raised arm and his fist clenched. He would have
made a wonderful Little Pioneer.
After the two hours I had set aside for him daily during
which he practiced writing and arithmetic, we were "The
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Gypsies of the Orient" who explored the State stores and the free
market with large bamboo baskets on our arms.
We were novelty, the only blond and blue-eyed in a city of
three hundred thousand Chinese. One day I viewed a blonde
down the street. I ran after her. Finally I would meet someone
from our part of the world. I tapped her on the shoulder; she
turned, and I looked into the colorless eyes of a Chinese Albino.
The Chinese were as curious about us as we were about
them. They smiled, looked into my basket, discussed with one
another about the wisdom of my purchase, I assume. On days
when confusion overtook me I covered my basket from curious
eyes. I called those days "my punishing of the Chinese day."
There were only a few of those.
Eric and I walked on the streets amongst the rubble of torn
down buildings and bricks for new dreams, in a maze of tractors
with two-cylinder motors and carts with big cement slabs pulled
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Chinese
We had
we showed them our keys to the room and our papers. We were
just in Shanghai for a birthday celebration and a hamburger!
In Zhen Jiang we found a birthday card from his sisters. It
was a mask of Mao Tse Tung which just fitted Eric's petite nose.
On the back it said, "You are one in a billion." "I don't think this
is a time to fool around," I whispered to Jim and did away with
the card after Eric had gone to bed. We could not risk Eric
putting it on in front of his Chinese friends. When they said,
"Our Chairman Mao," it was with apparent reverence and
disguised fear.
The students and some teachers had also demonstrated in
Zhen Jiang.
He had
to make it reach the ceiling they had used three trees held
together by wire.
"What do you think?" Chiang whispered again.
"Oh, it is beautiful, very beautiful. What is it? A cedar
tree?" The branches didn't look familiar to me.
Oh, that is Lius work. He said Americans trim their
trees, so he came with a pair of scissors and cut all the branches.
What do you think?
Dear, dear Chiang, we couldnt have made it more
beautiful at home.
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Elder Care
In the late spring of our second year in China we received an
emergency call from my mother-in-laws doctor. She was 87 and
very ill; he was not certain that she would live much longer.
Since Jim had a month to go before finishing his job, it was I,
together with Eric, who flew immediately to her home in
Connecticut to care for her during her last days. In fact, she lived
to be 103.
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chauffeur hit on another pleasure trip? He did not even stop the
car to inquire if she was hurt.
shiver.
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A True Friend
If I had said No to accompanying Jim to Zhongshan
University in Canton I would have missed out on two very
important experiences. The first was meeting a woman named Fran,
who became the instigator of the second, a job as a nurse for the
American consulate in Canton. The second lasted three months;
the first will last till death does us partand then beyond. She
was all the fairy tales in my life collected in one small gray-haired
woman.
Fran had paid her own fare. Jim and I had received ours from
Zhongshan University and therefore had been subject to the
atrocities that only C.A.A.C., the state-owned Chinese airline, was
famous for. A passenger waiting in line with us at Kennedy airport
said that C.A.A.C. stood for China Airline Always Cancels. We
had been accustomed to indifferent treatment of customers the last
two years and thought it a sign of progress when we were met by a
smiling petite stewardess as we entered the plane. She handed us a
pillow and said, Make yourself uncomfortable. She must have
practiced for hours to get her English that wrong, but her smile was
lovely and genuine.
China was on her way to capitalism, although the Chinese did
not believe in anything stronger than orange juice on their flights.
If there is any place where one could use a double martini it is on
board C.A.A.C. They did not believe in gradual descents either but
dropped suddenly into the polluted sky over Shanghai.
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to travel.
proposed to her at the Taj Mahal; I had thought when Jim proposed
to me in a vineyard on the bank of the Rhine it was the epitome of
romance. Now at the age of seventy-two Fran thought that she
would get out of the hair of her children. She had settled for China.
America was not the hub of the world; Fran became the center
of mine.
I count myself
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Russian Trains
My childhood's trains always ran on time.
They were
dependable. They were also kind. The Chinese, the Czech and the
Russian trains ran on time, but they never seemed kind; usually one
was confronted with a conductor, a customs officer or a border
guard determined that it would not be so good a trip as one had
anticipated. I cannot think of any trip Jim and I took while we were
abroad which did not run into complications, however nicely they
started.
Frau Maria helped me with my luggage and made sure I got in
the right compartment and, since it was the last time we were going
to meet, kissed me. I wiped it off as a Russian soldier helped me to
put my suitcase up into my berth.
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picturesque.
Czechoslovakia.
As usual in the trains going through Russia tenseness prevails
until the customs officer has been there. Everyone seems to have
something to conceal: a picnic basket packed in a richer country,
too much money or worse, too many suitcases with this or that to
be sold somewhere for western currency.
With my Danish passport, Russian visa, an American green
card and a bottle of Slivovic I could enjoy in lonesome moments, I
felt uneasy. The Lithuanian woman realized she had too much
money and tried to stuff it anywhere in her dress where she could
find an opening. The Russian soldier was relaxed. He was at
home. I thought back to our first trip on a Russian train.
"Does it work?" the customs officer had asked on our way to
Lithuania.
"What works?" I asked Jim in Danish.
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"Czechoslovakia?"
"Nyet." I realized that it was as far as I would go as I stood
shivering on the platform, still trying to put on my clothes.
"Czechoslovakia?" I tried once more as a couple of men went
by.
"Nyet." One took my suitcase, the other my arm and led me
along the platform.
"English speaking? Deutch sprechen?" I fumbled for words.
My first thought was Siberia. All the stories I had heard began
with: "and then, in the middle of the night."
Two hundred yards further was a large lighted building with a
big sign LVOV. LVOV, LVOV, where was I? A map of Russia
would have helped. The men left me right at the feet of a statue of
Lenin. Is this a hoax, I thought, but realized that I was in the same
predicament with hundreds of others who were quite resigned to
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"Glasnost," said a
with a sign German Spoken." With no other help but the girl's
reassuring hand in mine I showed my ticket, visa, passport and
green card. With a minimum of German I finally understood a
train to Czechoslovakia would come at 8 p.m. on platform number
three, but I had to return to the office and have my ticket stamped at
five p.m. "Glasnost," I thought, "a help or a hindrance?" as I fought
my way through the angry mob.
One seat was left in the waiting hall. I squeezed myself down
by a man and his wife and once again faced Lenin. His statue, like
Mao's, was humongous. Would it someday suffer the same fate, a
fate determined by sticks of dynamite? A couple of small boys
were playing hide and seek around the statue. I watched them for a
while and then continued with my book. One thing I was sure
about; I was not going to move until it was time to have my ticket
stamped twelve hours hence. The man beside me left his seat and
returned with an ice cream which he handed to me, none for
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himself or his wife, but for me. I smiled and once again "Spasibo."
Had I but other words to let him know how thankful I was. How
simple kindness brought people closer while their governments
fought their senseless wars.
By five p.m. I knew all the creases in Lenin's pants and also in
his face. I had left my luggage twice, which I never would have
done in New York, for coffee and pastries. To my astonishment
the young girl from the morning appeared again to take me to the
right queue for the stamp on my ticket. I had a small calendar
bound in leather which I pressed into the girl's hand. She smiled a
sweet warm smile but rejected my little appreciation. Why is it we
do not fill history books with people like her?
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The couple got into the train which would take us far away to a
country with colors and dancing people.
"Czechoslovakia?"
compartment.
"Yes," they smiled, "you are on the right train." My sigh must
have vibrated through the trainsuch a Chinese sigh.
"We speak English no good." All foreigners seem to begin a
conversation that way. I did not speak their languages at all and
was happy just to be able to understand and be understood. They
were not a couple but friends who were returning from a medical
conference in Crimea.
We were joined by two Russian women. They whispered
together and looked at me.
"Would you be able to help these two ladies by taking one of
their suitcases?" The young man whispered. "They are on their
way to Prague to do business." I nodded but then thought of Jim.
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He carried the
suitcase down to the seat and opened it. He blushed. His friend and
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Czechoslovakia Again
The hundred and some steps leading from the station up to
the school were still there, as was the run down house of the
Gypsies half way up the steps. They were still shouting at one
another. Czechoslovakia had in our absence transformed herself
into a free market society with small private enterprises,
transforming living rooms into small cafeterias and back yards
into beer gardens.
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the pictures we had left behind were still on the walls. I had
hardly taken off my coat before Eva Frankova stood in the door.
"Ah, this time it is the old gentleman who is left behind."
"Yes, I'm terribly sorry." I gave her a hug. "I'm sixteen
hours late. I've been in company with Lenin, trying to straighten
out a panty raid in Crimea and am finding the Russians lovely, as
human as we imagine ourselves to be."
Would he,
relentlessly, have tortured the students; I doubted it. The last day
of the examinations brought my frustrations to a head. Veronica,
one of the most promising students, had drawn the question
"William Shakespeare." She had memorized summaries of his
plays and told a little about each.
The professor interrupted, Julius Caesar was not written by
Shakespeare." My mouth dropped. I was ready to retort, but in
time remembered I was a guest in another country. As Veronica
left the table I turned the week's frustration on him. "How can
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don't think I failed the students. Jim's arrival was two weeks
away, and I was invited to student homes for dinners.
"Oh," called Ludmilla, interrupting her setting of the table.
Come, isn't it Lithuania where your husband is? This is terrible;
they are killing the border guards." I rushed into the dining room
where six Lithuanian border guards sprawled across the TV
screen. Once again I was back at Tiananmen Square: "They are
killing them, they are killing them." I could scarcely sleep that
night.
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My friend had
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became more and more clear that Slovakia wanted to secede from
the union.
We were not there when it happened, but we were there
when the last Russian soldier left. It was on Jim's birthday; we
had celebrated with our usual Wiener schnitzel in the Wine cellar
and were in bed when we heard a little sizzle and a small bang as
a firecracker was set off.
"That's all? Their occupying forces are leaving, and they
throw one little firecracker up into the air." I shook Jim.
"I heard you, dear.
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The Bull in Hong Kong ended with Fran picking up the bill. "It is
on Aunt Doris." Back in our hotel we delighted in a Christmas
fruitcake Fran had brought. Christmas in Augustas a matter of
fact in the company of Fran Christmas became a daily event.
We enjoyed showing her our apartment in Uhersky Brod.
For her who had seen so many places in the world, who had been
living under so many different circumstances, things never
seemed too small, too inadequate or even, as in China, too dirty.
At the age of seventy-five she still indulged in new experiences, in
the mere excitement of being!
As for excitement, my God! The following morning, after we
had arrived home very late from Prague, Jim and I happened to
turn on the radio. It was six a.m., about the same time two years
earlier we had learned about Tiananmen. Gorbachev, the president
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We were
The dining car was empty but for a few railroad personnel.
They were eating some potatoes swimming in grease. A woman
got up from her seat.
"Bread, please."
Nyet.
Cake?
Another Nyet. The waitress dug deep into her pocket and
produced a walnut which she put into my hand.
My God, she is telling us that it is all she has. My thoughts
took flight to over-filled grocery carts in America pushed by wellfed people striding up and down aisles, grabbing this and that.
Jim put a couple of rubles on the table.
Back in the compartment another table was set. The woman
sat on Jim's bed, the girl across from her. They rose to leave. We
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shook our heads and smiled, the only language we knew. The
girl, dressed in a blue sweat suit with white stripes, could have
been a teenager from anywhere, but she was Alla, Alla from
Leningrad, a city still waiting to reclaim its former glorious name.
I speak no English good, no? I speak to you, yes? She
looked much like the girl who had led me through the turmoil in
Lvov. The elder woman motioned us to share their meal. I
rubbed the little walnut in my hand.
No, thank you very much. I smiled to Alla, who told us that
they had been on vacation in Hungary. It was the first time she
had been outside of Russia.
wonderful, then came the coup. The woman, who was not her
mother, had kept calling Leningrad but could not make
connection. Yesterday had been the first time they were able to
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talk to their families. They were all right. Alla told us they had
not enjoyed their vacation very much.
The older woman, a friend of Alla's mother, swept the
crumbs off the table, folded the little tablecloth neatly and put it in
the wicker basket. I smiled at her. She returned my smile and
shrugged her shoulders; she knew what we had been talking
about.
A woman from the compartment next door came in; they
whispered at length. Alla looked at us and told us that they would
move into the other compartment. There were two empty beds
and this woman was alone and needed someone to talk to. We
understood. It had been a very hard week, their first trip out of
Russia. We settled down for the night. Russian trains at the
speed of fifty miles an hour could easily lull you to sleep. The
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English.
Come in. We have a little time left to practice. I learned
that her mother was a French interpreter, her father an engineer
who had to hold a second job as a night watchman so they could
get enough to eat. She herself attended a school for guides who
wanted to show tourists around. She needed a lot of practice in
English.
Imagine, she said, in my school we were taught to hate
you. The teachers, everyone, said that someday you would throw
an atom bomb on Russia. We were always scared.
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Alla waved.
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Youll always be
Freedom
We moved into the apartment, the first one in Lithuania
where no one was observing us, no Big Brother. I felt free. The
young woman we were going to rent from apparently must have
felt less so.
But I do not understand, I told the two young men fetching
us in Vilnius. We were told that the apartment would not be
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ready for another month, and that the university was going to put
us up at a hotel.
That's changed, was all they said and put us into the
university car. We had heard that our landlady was going to
America to study for one, maybe two semesters. Her fianc was
to be our landlord, to look after our needs, and to receive the
money for the rent from the university.
He awaited us with coffee and delicious pastries. However
small the Lithuanian food ration was, their hospitality was
genuine.
which one room was locked. We were not allowed to use it, and
because of that it was naturally a must to see what was hidden
behind the door with a frosted glass window. I pressed my nose to
it, but it was impossible to see anything except an outline of
boxes.
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my pride was boundless that day when I saw the flag of Iceland
waving from one of the houses on the Avenue of Freedom. I was
home.
revolutionary.
At the university Jim had been appointed chairman of the
Foreign Languages Department.
But you don't even speak their language. How can you
possibly share their souls? I protested.
There is no one else, and it has to be done. He followed in
the footsteps of an overseas Lithuanian who had annoyed the
students and the administration as well. She was present at the
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first department meeting Jim held, and the flowers which the
department handed her she threw back into his face.
Another Lithuanian had been mentioned for the job, but the
Academic Dean told me, He is too young. They will cream him
in no time. What about Jim, I thought. He doesn't even speak
the language. He will be caught between yours and the rector's
endless, senseless feuds. If the Lithuanian Americans brought
freedom to the university, they certainly did not bring harmony.
I had stopped teaching but was available if a teacher was ill.
I also had a couple of conversation classes and otherwise shared
the experience of lining up in queue. A long line usually meant
that something was being sold worthwhile standing for, even if
one did not know what.
Lithuanians braved it. It had been their life as far back as they
could remember.
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And then one evening came a message over the radio we all
had been waiting for, a voice that announced that the Baltic States
had finally got their freedom from Russia's domination. I looked
out the window, past the houses across the street, into a light
summer evening in Denmark. My father had taken my hand.
Come little heart, it is the biggest moment you will ever
encounter.
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walked back home. All the way I looked for one little flickering
candle.
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I looked at the
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was swimming. The nurse also looked and motioned with her
eyes to a young student nurse to take it out.
I have no temperature. I have no pain and am terribly
hungry, so I guess that I am not on my death bed, I told Jim, who
looked in a state of shock, while we tried to figure out when the
heart attack had appeared. Truthfully, I was not surprised. Six
years of a constant strain had caught up.
My wish to see a hospital from a hospital bed vanished rather
quickly. I had been a nurse in a different place, at a different time
when patients were treated as customers who were always right.
There was a big difference between the care given in countries
performing socialized medicine and a country still operating under
a Communist system.
I had looked down on patients who had food brought in by
their families; now I was one. After the first day when the nurse
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No, I mean really home, where you can get the treatment
you might need.
I thought we would stay one more year.
Yes, but we're not.
My doctor thought that I should go somewhere quiet for
another three weeks, a place where I could recuperate. She would
fill out a form to a sanatorium out in the countryside. I declared
that I was well and just wanted to go home; my wish had come
true. In my hospital bed I had seen how it all worked, from a bed
I had to make up myself daily, a bed which had not been changed
in the three weeks I was in it.
If you had bribed the nurses they would have changed your
bed, one of the teachers remarked later. Then they would have
cared for you. She sounded somewhat offended.
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No one told me that. At any rate, isnt that the system you
wanted to change?
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women, who had nothing, were the best dressed women I had ever
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awaiting us.
Around midnight I fell asleep; that was when Jim decided to
repack our suitcases. About 100 pounds overweight, it would not
be easy sailing. Amazingly, the officer who checked us in at the
crack of dawn waved us along with a smile. Yes, Lithuania was
on her way to capitalism.
In New York I was bawled out.
authorities that I was going to stay abroad more than one year. I
as an alien resident should know better. They searched for my
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name in their big black book and were probably sorry that no
criminal activities showed up against me.
We are home, I sighed. What is it in our system, so
desperately wished for, that makes people tear down walls to
achieve it? Finally, we were cleared and in the plane to South
Dakota.
Our little grandson welcomed us with a flower and a flag.
When we had left him he had not acquired a language yet. Now
he spoke in sentences. Parenthood became Keith and Benedikte.
They noticed our tiredness and carried our luggage out to the car.
And Eric had grown into manhood. Then excitement took its toll.
Once in the car I kept nodding my head. A Roman Candle fizzled
in the sky, a left over from yesterday's Fourth of July celebration
of freedom.
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A Folk Tale
Where will you be going next? You are the forerunners of
revolutions. We laughed at our friend's letter. We had not told
her that we were back in America, back in our log cabin far from
any revolution.
cried for freedom, and what about us who had had it all the time
and did not seem to know what to do with it any longer? We
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knows?
Then why don't you tell the story this time?
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She wanted to get out of the hovel they lived in. The flounder
changed it to a housethen an estate, a castle and finally an
empire.
Now, dear flounder, she wants to rule over the sun and
moon, the stars and all the planets.
My good man, go home, and you will find your wife as I
found her long ago. The fisherman went home and found his
wife sitting not on a golden throne, but back in the hovel on the
old wooden stool with a broken leg.
Greed, my grandfather used to say, Greed, Greed, Greed.
Jim cleared his throat in his sleep.
The flounder is not sleeping. He swims quietly at the edge of
the waters, waiting to grant our wishes.
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