Running head: SHOULD MARRIAGE BE A LIFELONG COMMITMENT

Should Marriage Be A Lifelong Commitment

Amber
English Writing
15 October 2014

SHOULD MARRIAGE BE A LIFELONG COMMITMENT

Abstract
Analyzing the difficulties in 21st century, return to tradition, counterargument about the
topic that should marriage be a lifelong commitment. This paper aims at this problem, and
give some evidences and statistics about divorce. Certainly, just as every coin has two sides,
marriage is the same as the coin. What we should do is to treat this problem more objectively
and rationally.

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Should Marriage Be A Lifelong Commitment
I believe marriage should be a lifelong commitment. But in facts, some people disagree
that, they think marriage should end sometimes. It is common that people divorce when they
cant feel love in relation. The concept of lifelong commitment should embody happiness as
being together and being happy together. If they are not happy in marriage, marriage becomes
a castle, it brings nothing but sadness and misery and tragedy.
Difficulties in the 21st century
Fairytale always end up with And they lived happily thereafter, but the marriage is not
always a fairytale. And article by demographers at the University of Minnesota publish in
March 2014 revealed that the current divorce rate is much higher than previously thought,
especially among those thirty-five and older. It is commonly claimed that half of all
marriages in the United States eventually end in divorce. (Current Divorce Rate is much
higher than before, the University of Minnesota)
Indeed, the high divorce rate has ceased to shock or even concern many people. Divorce
has become an acceptable, normal fact in our life. This is why marriage cant be a lifelong
commitment. Facts change, people change, so even the commitment was changed.
Return to tradition
Do you take this man (woman) to be your husband(wife), to have and to hold, from this
day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death
do us part. This is a vow when man and woman decide to get union and start a family.
Besides, people who have faith, tend to obey marital commitment. And throughout history,
people have always believed that strong marital commitments form the foundation of a
virtuous society.(Marriage vows, Wikipedia)
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However, in recent decades, for many couples, the marriage vows are just a ceremony,
they dont treat them seriously, they tend to forget it and sometimes give up their relation too
easily.
Does each of us feel fully confident in the others commitment to the marriage and believe
that bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?
Counterargument
Marriage is comprehensive union of man and woman, not only bodily, but also emotional.
Suppose if a couple dont feel love in their relation, but still need to live together because of
the social constrains, it may be a disaster. Divorce always expected to be associated with
sorrow, regret, etc. However, have you ever consider divorce as a way to happiness and
liberation? Not all the marriages turn out to be blissful, people can get trapped in a
unbearable situation. Given a chance, nobody want their marriage end in tragedy. But when
marriage becomes main reasons for tension and unhappy, is it necessary to keep
commitment?
Thus, divorce should also be blessed, perhaps for them, is a kind of rebirth.

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References
Lee ,P. (2014, September 24 ). Marriage redefinition and a lifelong commitment.
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http://www.thepublicdiscourse.com/2014/09/13559/
encyclopedia. (2014, October 15). Marriage vows. Retrieved from
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage_vows
Walsh, J.(2007, November 14). Advantages of Divorce . Retrieved from
http://www.abcarticledirectory.com/Article/Advantages-of- Divorce/102360