Jack Grave © 2009-2012. All Rights Reserved

Jack Grave 2009-2012. All rights reserved.
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Introduction
Congratulations. Youve taken the step most people
are too afraid to take.
What youre about to learn is the coming together of
what has taken years of work to create.
Ever since I decided to get this area of my life handled
I have been searching vigorously for the best methods
I could use to fight premature ejaculation.
I have tried literally every method you could think of
to get this solved and I am now at a point where I
know what works and have some amazing results.
In this guide I will give you only the most potent
methods and techniques you can easily apply to help
you start lasting longer in bed.
I want you to approach the contents of this book with
an open mind. What you will learn here you may not
have heard before. Some of the stuff might sound
different or weird, but the bottom line is that it
works. Im asking you to try out what I suggest. If it
doesnt work for you then drop it and try another
technique. What I do guarantee is that if you apply all
of the techniques here you will see measurable
results.

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Copyright Warning
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Medical Disclaimer
This guide is for informational purposes only. It is not
designed to treat, cure or diagnose any disease,
health problem, or other medical condition. In the
instance of a disease, health problem or other
medical condition then you must consult a doctor.
Before attempting any of the exercises or using any of
the information contained in this guide you must first
consult a doctor or qualified medical physician. This
guide is for informational purposes only and is not a
substitute for medical advice. Im not to be held
liable for any injury you may endure as a result of
using it.

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Contents
Introduction
Copyright Warning
Medical Disclaimer
Contents
Who am I?
How to use this guide
Focus on one method at a time
Setting goals
Focus on what you want, not what you
dont want
Be very specific
Set a deadline
Actions to take
Techniques for ending premature ejaculation
The psychological approach to ending premature
ejaculation
A change of perspective - its just sex
Arousal anchors
Using NLP to control arousal
NLP exercise
What happens if I still ejaculate prematurely?
Women can like premature ejaculation?
The physical approach to ending premature ejaculation
Levels of arousal
Arousal level 1
Arousal level 2
Arousal level 3
Arousal level 4
Arousal level 5
How to recognize the onset of level 4
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How to masturbate to increase time in bed

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Breaking the fast masturbation habit
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Simulating sex
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Treat it like sex
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Use lubrication
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Get a vagina simulator
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Consider using a condom
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Use the techniques in this guide
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How to use your breathing to control arousal
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The perfect way to breathe?
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Using your diaphragm
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Inhale through your nose and exhale through your
mouth
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Applying this during sex
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Lowering your arousal levels using breathing
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Using your PC muscle to increase level 3 arousal time 54
The importance of the PC muscle
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Using your PC muscle to stop ejaculation
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Timing your PC muscle contraction
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The Ejaculation Block Exercise
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Strengthening your PC muscle
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Rest is very important
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Warm-ups
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Breathing
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Flaccid or erect?
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Mini-flexes
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Big-Flexes
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What to do during sex to last much longer
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Choose positions wisely and last longer
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Fast ejaculation positions
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Medium ejaculation positions
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Long lasting positions

Super-fast ejaculation positions
Changing positions to buy time
The Full Thrust stimulation reducer
Just go slow
Get your partner to orgasm within seconds of sex
Teasing your partner until theyre dying for you
Withdrawing a kiss
Teasing nipple lick
Teasing your insertion
Using this approach consistently
Why this technique is so good
How to get harder erections
The big-flexes exercise while erect
Get more physical exercise
Improve your diet
The cheat sheet tips for instant longer lasting sex
Change positions
Masturbate before sex
Urinate before sex
Give her oral pleasure half way through
Go very slow
Use long lasting condoms
Use lots of lubrication
Go into the one of the long lasting positions
described earlier
Touch the tip of your tongue to the top of your
mouth
To your success
P.S. - More sex secrets

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Who am I?
Before we get started you might want to know a little
bit more about who I am teaching this information.
I am a professional sex advisor and coach. What
started out as an interest in the workings of the
human body slowly developed into a passion to
understand as much as I could.
Over the years I have gathered masses of knowledge
in how to improve many different areas of our private
lives and now like to teach the best of what I have
learned.
I dont pretend that I know everything and I remind
myself that I am still a student. What I am committed
to doing is helping improve the quality of as many
peoples lives as I can through teaching in the small
area in which I am an expert.

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How to use this guide

There are many different ways in which you can
tackle premature ejaculation. Some methods will be
better suited to some than others. What I have done
in this guide is include a whole range of the different
techniques you can employ to help last longer in the
bedroom.
As I will explain in more depth in a minute the best
thing to do is try out the methods one at a time and
see what the results are like for you.
This guide is structured in a way that you dont
necessarily have to read it from front to finish. You
can dip into different techniques if one appeals more
to you than another.
I do, however, recommend you read the whole of this
How to use this guide section first. Here I have
gone into detail on how you should approach using
the techniques I will give you. This could be the most
important section you read, because if you dont
understand what it takes to achieve a goal and make
it a lasting change then I could give you all the
techniques in the world and ultimately you would not
be able to make the results you want a reality.

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So here are some of the techniques I use to make

achieving goals and making changes as easy and likely
as possible and how to make sure they last.

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Focus on one method at a time

I remember when I first came across information like
this.
I got so excited I tried to do everything at once so I
would have it finished and mastered by the end of the
day.
Of course within a few days I was burned out and no
longer motivated.
I now know this is not the best way to approach
improving an area of my life.
The single best way of approaching these techniques
is one at a time. Try out the technique and practice
until you get it right.
Then keep practicing it until it becomes an
unconscious habit. If you dont follow this crucial step
and move onto trying a different technique before
making the first one a habit, then in a few weeks time
you will probably notice that you are no longer
applying the first technique and your results in bed
will reflect this.
The human mind is designed to consciously focus on
one thing at a time.
Remember when learning how to drive a car? I
learned to drive with a stick shift. When I first got in
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that car I didnt know what was going on. I was trying
to stop from crashing into a wall, not drive too fast,
change gears, not stall, check my mirrors and take in
what the instructor was telling me. It took me forever
before I could drive safely on the road with other
cars.
Learning to control premature ejaculation will be the
same for you if you try to apply every technique at
once.
The best thing to do is focus on one approach at a
time. Do that one approach so often that it becomes
natural and then move onto the next.
Soon you will be using all the different techniques
together without even thinking about it and you will
be in full control in the bedroom.

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Setting goals
The next most important thing you can do is set a
powerful goal. Now I can see that it might be
tempting to skip a chapter like this and head straight
to the techniques, but this is a very important
fundamental skill.
If you dont set the correct goals you can easily lose
motivation very fast. Its not hard to have lots of
motivation at the beginning when you pick up a guide
like this, but with an effective goal you can ensure
that you sustain that motivation for a long period of
time.
This sustained motivation is absolutely
essential if youre really going to make last long in the
bedroom a lasting change in your life.
So my top tips when it comes to setting goals that you
will actually achieve (not vague fantasy dreams) are
the following.
Focus on what you want, not what you dont want
The problem with setting a goal of what you dont
want is that it means youre spending time thinking
about and focusing on what you dont want. The
more time you spend thinking about what you dont
want the more likely you are to subconsciously end
up moving towards it. Not only that, its hardly
motivating to set a goal like I dont want to ejaculate
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in less than 2 minutes, because theres no pleasure

to move towards.
If you set your goal in the positive your conscious and
subconscious mind will have a place to go. The more
time you spend focusing on it the more likely it is to
become a reality for you.
Be very specific
Theres a big difference between the goals last
longer in bed and I am able to last more than 30
minutes, 4 out of 5 times in the bedroom.
With the first one you will probably not feel very
motivated. It is hardly inspiring to set a vague goal
because it just doesnt seem real.
On the other hand, the second goal is very specific.
This makes you much more inspired because theres a
real sense of achievability about the goal because you
can actually measure it. The fact that you can
measure it means you know exactly where you are
now in relation to the goal and exactly where you
need to go to achieve it. The beauty of a measurable
goal is that you know when youve achieved it and
you can get a real sense of achievement when you
make it.

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With a vague goal like the first you can never feel like
youve really achieved it, because youll just keep
trying to last longer and longer.
Set a deadline
Once you set a specific goal you need to set a
deadline. Without a deadline its just a dream. Its
easy to set a goal like I am a millionaire, but without
a deadline youre just giving yourself the illusion that
youre doing something to improve your life, when in
fact youre not really taking any action.
When you set a deadline it suddenly becomes obvious
that you need to take some action in order for things
to change before you meet your deadline.
For example, if you last less than 2 minutes in the
bedroom and you want to last over 30 minutes 4 out
of 5 times and you want to make this change within a
month, then its pretty obvious you need to take
some drastic action to make this change. You are
going to have to take consistent action to make
constant incremental improvements in your time in
bed. In the first week you could focus on mastering
one method, which may add 5 minutes in bed. The
second week you could focus on a different technique
which may add 10 minutes in bed and on and on.

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This is one of those things you have to test out to

experience the real impact of what Im talking about.
So I urge you to put these concepts into practice
before criticizing or dismissing them.
Actions to take
1. Ask yourself if it was possible, how long would I
like to last in bed?
a. Dont limit yourself. Pick a how long you
would like to last in bed
2. Make this your goal
3. Make sure its measurable
a. Like I mentioned earlier, youve got to know
you can be sure when youve actually
achieved your goal
4. Define it in the present tense
a. This is really important, because if you
describe the goal in the future tense then
youre directing your subconscious mind to
think its something you will never have
because you will always be moving towards
it, but never actually have it.
5. Make sure its stated in the positive
a. Youve got to be moving towards your goal,
not away from it
6. Set a deadline to the goal

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a. Depending on how ambitious your goal is

you may wish to set it at anything between
a month to several months.
b. You should set your deadline ambitious
enough so that you instantly begin to feel a
sense of urgency to start taking action. The
presence of the deadline should make you
feel like youve got some changes to make
and work to do.
c. If youve set a very ambitious goal the best
thing to do is to small chunk it into smaller
goals and set deadlines on those as well.
This will keep you motivated and remind
you that your big goal really is achievable.
7. Create a plan
a. Now take your goal and think backwards in
time. Think what would be the mini goal or
milestone I would achieve before achieving
my main goal. What would be the mini goal
I achieve before achieving that mini goal?
And so forth
b. Keep doing this until you get back to a goal
that is immediately in front of you.
c. Your action steps to plan are those that take
you from one mini goal to the next
d. Read through this guide

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e. Once youve read through this guide you

can pick various techniques that you will
want to master which will take you from
one mini goal to the next.
8. Start today
a. Hopefully the quality of your goal is so good
that youre itching to get started
b. Get started today and dont put anything off
c. A rule of thumb is if you dont do
something or make a commitment outside
of yourself today there is no guarantee you
will ever do it.

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Techniques for ending premature ejaculation

Now that you know how to make any change a
permanent one let me get down to the various
techniques you can employ to help you last longer in
the bedroom.
I have split the techniques up into two main
approaches; the psychological approach and the
physical approach.
If you want complete control over your ejaculation in
the bedroom you will have to become a master of
both. Enjoy

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The psychological approach to ending premature

ejaculation
Premature ejaculation occurs when you are so
aroused that there is nothing you can do to stop
yourself from ejaculating. It happens almost
automatically.
This intense level of arousal can happen because of
one of two reasons. Either the arousal is the result of
physical stimulation or the arousal comes from the
thought patterns inside your head.
By mastering the thought patterns in your head you
can regain control of your levels of arousal.
When you gain control of your levels of arousal you
will have control over when you ejaculate.
So the aim of this section of the guide is to give you
some new perspectives and techniques that will help
you gain more control over your thought patterns.
With control over your thought patterns you will gain
control over your levels of arousal and therefore also
over your ejaculation.

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A change of perspective - its just sex

A common cause of premature ejaculation is building
up sex to be this great big event in your head.
As you slowly work up towards the event you can
probably feel yourself getting more and more excited.
Youre thinking about how amazing its going to feel
to be inside her. Youre probably thinking about how
attractive or hot she is. Youre probably thinking
about the satisfaction of finally breaking all the sexual
tension.
All the thoughts like this combined together will soon
have you shaking with excitement before having sex.
I know I used to feel this way, especially when I was
younger. The build-up is so intense that when it
finally comes down to it youre so excited that youre
literally waiting to blow.
This unfortunately is one of the big problems when it
comes to premature ejaculation.
If you make sex out to be this tremendous event then
when the time finally comes there really is nothing
you can do to save yourself from exploding on entry.
If you want to last longer you need to find a way to
control your arousal before you even begin starting to
have sex.

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One of the best ways of controlling these intense

levels of arousal is to change your perspective on sex.
You cannot afford to be thinking that sex is this
massive event where you lose complete control.
You need to realize that sex is just sex.
People have been having sex for millions of years and
its no big deal. These millions of people seem to
have survived the process OK. You wouldnt be here
if they hadnt.
The bottom line is that sex is a very normal and
natural thing and is something that just happens and
is nothing to get super super excited about.
Most people have sex more than a thousand times in
their lives and some people have sex with more than
a thousand different people in their lives. The truth is
that its really not that bigger deal.
Youve got to go in with the attitude that whatever
happens this time you have sex; its only going to take
up one insignificant fraction of time in your entire life.
So relax.
The woman you are with has probably had sex before
and she has probably had sex with some guys who
were incredibly bad at it.

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The fact of the matter is that after reading a guide like

this you will probably one of the best guys she has
ever slept with.
And if your situation happens to be that the woman
has never slept with anyone else before then she has
nothing to compare you to, so relax. She has no idea
how long its normal to last in bed.
You might not be aware of this, but the average time
for a guy to last in bed with a woman is about 5-6
minutes. And thats average! Think of the some of
the guys she would have been with that would have
lasted a lot less than that.
After reading and applying whats in this guide you
will be shattering the average time in bed.
What I am trying to get at with what Ive just said is
that sex is really no big deal.
The second you catch yourself getting super excited
about having sex, just remind yourself that its one of
those natural things that happens all the time and its
nothing to get worked up about.
Its important to realize that its no big deal, because
when you do you can take control of your arousal and
become more relaxed.
If youre more relaxed youll last longer.
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Arousal anchors
An anchor is an important technical term used to
describe things like events, actions, places or
thoughts that carry a strong emotional association for
an individual.
For example some people have a strong emotional
association or anchor to heights. When that person
sees they are high from the ground they have a strong
emotional reaction of fear.
The height is therefore a strong emotional association
or anchor for them.
This concept of strong emotional associations or
anchors also applies to the bedroom.
Every person has something different that gets them
aroused.
For some people just thinking of Jessica Alba will have
them creaming their underwear.
For others when they think specifically of intercourse
they get super-aroused.
For others its touching a breast, stroking a womans
hair or smelling a womans neck.
Its different for everyone.

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The reason Im telling you this is because its

important for you to realize what causes you to feel
intensely aroused.
If this intensity of arousal is strong enough you may
have an arousal anchor. This is a specific event,
action or thought that instantly triggers a strong
emotional reaction of arousal.
Take a minute now to grab a pen and paper and
answer the following question.
What specific event makes me super-aroused?
Ive already given you some examples above of what
kind of things it might be.
What youre looking for is a specific anchor; it could
be anything from when a woman touches you in a
certain place or when you feel a certain part of a
womans body, or when you think of a very specific
image.
What youve got to be sure to do is accurately identify
what the anchor is.
Once youve figured out the anchor you can take the
next step.
You have to stop this anchor from occurring.
Remember, one of the most powerful ways to control
ejaculation is to control your arousal.
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If you can stop yourself from getting uncontrollably

aroused you can stop yourself from ejaculating
prematurely.
So, if for example you get super-aroused when you
smell a womans neck then what you need to do is
stop smelling a womans neck before you have sex.
Or if say, you get super-horny when you vividly
picture yourself having intercourse in your head then
you need to change the pictures running through your
head before you have sex (more on that in the next
section).
The technique sounds elementary but it really works.
The chances are that you have something specific that
strongly triggers your arousal.
It might not always be obvious what it is, but when
you identify it and then eliminate it you can begin to
take control of your levels of arousal.
And like Ive said before, if you control your arousal
you can control your premature ejaculation.

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Using NLP to control arousal

You may or may not have heard of a science called
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP).
NLP is a study of how language and pictures in your
brain affect your nervous system.
What it really comes down to is a study of the
pictures and sounds you make inside your head that
cause you to take the actions you take and feel the
emotions you feel.
By learning to take control of those pictures and
sounds you can take control of your actions and
emotions.
Theres a lot more to NLP than I can get through in
this guide so I recommend you find out more,
because some of the principles can really help with
premature ejaculation.
What I will give you here is an example of some NLP
techniques you can use to control your arousal.
The aim of the exercise is to change how you
experience sex inside your head so that you no longer
build the event up to be an incredibly tense and
arousing experience that leaves you out of control.
Instead you will experience sex as a pleasurable event
where you are in full control.
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This process uses visualization techniques to change

the thoughts that go through your head as you build
up to and experience sex. By changing these
thoughts you change how long you last in bed.
If youre not used to NLP or havent heard of it this
exercise may seem a little different, but this type of
exercise has proven to make massive change in
people consistently. It is also one of the techniques
used by NLP practitioners to eliminate strong phobias
in people.
Heres what you should do
Find a quiet relaxing place when you have 5-10
minutes free and do the following exercise all the way
through. (Read the exercise through before
attempting it)
NLP exercise
1. Think back to a time when you were about to
have sex and you were super-aroused and
excited. Take a minute to really get back to that
time and experience the moment.
a. What were you saying to yourself?
i. Did you have a specific phrase running
through your head at the time?
ii. Where you saying something over and
over again?
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b. What were you picturing in your head?

i. Where was it? (In front, above, to the
left, etc.)
ii. How big was it?
iii. How bright was it?
iv. How vivid was it?
2. Now imagine you are sitting in a theatre and on
stage you see yourself on stage about to have
sex. The person on stage (you) is experiencing
exactly what you described above, except now
you are watching that person experience the
pictures and sounds from a distance.
3. As you sit in the theatre just watch yourself
experience those pictures and sounds. Youre
going to start changing how you see, feel and
experience that event in your head.
a. Take that person (still you) on the stage and
make the experience black and white.
b. Now play the experience backwards as if it
were a movie being rewound.
c. Run it backwards faster and faster.
d. Now play some funny music in the
background, like circus music for example
e. Now add all the colors of the rainbow to the
image
f. Keep rerunning it backwards faster and
faster.
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4. If you mess around with the event for long

enough in enough different ways, soon when
you think of the event you should no longer find
yourself being as aroused as you were just
before sex. This process has literally changed
the thought patterns in your brain and if you
were in that situation again you should no longer
feel such intense feelings of arousal.
5. Now see a new you on the stage in the same
situation about to have sex
a. This new you is aroused but in control. You
are enjoying yourself and you are
completely in control of your arousal. You
are aroused, but not so much that you are
ready to blow
b. What were you saying to yourself this time?
i. Do you have a different specific phrase
running through your head at the
time?
ii. Are you saying something over and
over again?
c. What are you picturing in your head?
i. Where is it? (In front, above, to the
left, etc.)
ii. How big is it?
iii. How bright is it?
iv. How vivid is it?
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6. See and play the experience of a new successful

you over and over again
7. Now fly up from out of your seat in the theatre
and into the new you on stage.
8. Experience what its like to see those pictures
and hear those sounds.
a. Play this experience over several times
9. You now know what youre like when you are
aroused but still in control. Take the time to
review this experience over and over again. The
more you do this the more like this you will be
the next time you have sex.

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What happens if I still ejaculate prematurely?

The other important side of the psychological
approach is to not be afraid of failure.
Part of the problem that causes premature
ejaculation is that you spend so much time worrying
about premature ejaculation that you make yourself
very nervous.
When you are nervous you are actually more likely to
ejaculate prematurely because of the chemical
changes in your body that occur.
This is part of the reason why its important to read
the section A change of perspective - its just sex,
because this gets you to understand that sex is
nothing to be nervous about.
So what I want you to know is that while learning all
this information its ok if you trip up and ejaculate
prematurely.
The reason its ok is that youre on a learning curve.
When youre learning any new skill there will be times
when you fail. If youre learning to play golf there will
be times when you go to drive the ball and it ends up
going 3 feet.
Failure is part of the learning process.

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When you realize this you can begin to relax and

enjoy the learning process.
When you realize that its OK to fail now and again
you will feel much better trying this stuff out.
And like I said, if youre more relaxed then you are
less likely to ejaculate prematurely because you will
be less nervous.
Women can like premature ejaculation?
Now you may be thinking that its fine to ejaculate
prematurely while youre learning the process, but
what will she think?!
Its a pretty common belief that women love a guy
who can last for hours in the bedroom.
And this is true to some extent.
But they dont necessarily want this all the time.
Youve got to remember that women have
insecurities too.
While youre worrying about premature ejaculation,
women are worrying how do my boobs look, am I
overweight, is my hair ok, does he really like me,
etc. The list goes on. Its probably twice as long for
women as it is guys in fact.

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What Im trying to get at here is that women are not

these incredibly judgmental creatures you should be
afraid of. They have their own concerns too.
I have heard many women say that they like it when a
guy occasionally ejaculates early because it makes
them feel sexy.
The way a woman sees it (remember they are also
people who worry about themselves) is that when a
guy ejaculates early it must mean that she is
attractive.
A woman is always worrying about whether she is
attractive or not, so when a guy ejaculates early it
makes them feel good, because to them it means that
they guy has ejaculated early because she is attractive
to that guy.
Its important to realize this, because it means that
you dont have to spend ages worrying about the
woman looking down on you after you ejaculate
early, because she is probably worrying more about
herself than you.
Again when you realize this it will hopefully make you
more relaxed and therefore put you in control.
The fact you are OK with failing means you will have
the confidence to try out these new techniques in the
bedroom and will be in full control in no time.
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The physical approach to ending premature

ejaculation
So youve now learned the psychological side to
ending premature ejaculation.
You know what it takes to master the inner game of
ejaculation control.
The physical approach to ending premature
ejaculation is like the outer game of ejaculation
control.
In this section I will be giving you a variety of different
techniques you can use to increase how long you last
in the bedroom.

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Levels of arousal
Controlling your arousal levels is a big part of
ejaculation control. In the psychological approach
section I discussed how if you can control your levels
of arousal you can control your levels of ejaculation.
In this section were going to build on that
knowledge, because when youre actually having sex
its essential to be aware of your level of arousal.
What most guys know about their level of arousal is
one of three, flaccid, erect or experiencing orgasm.
If you want to be a master of your ejaculation then
this simply isnt good enough.
The best way to look at it is to recognize that there
are 5 levels of arousal that will help you with
Arousal level 1
Flaccid and not aroused.
Arousal level 2
Full erection but nothing more than that. Think of
this level as being similar to when you used to have
involuntary erections when you were a teenager. You
are erect, but theres not much arousal going on
besides the physical erection.
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Arousal level 3
Receiving stimulation, both physical and
psychological, but a long way from ejaculation. This a
good place to be while having sex.
Arousal level 4
The point of no return. You are highly stimulated and
you are seconds away from ejaculation and even if
you stopped stimulation you would still ejaculate.
Arousal level 5
Experiencing an Orgasm.
Its important to understand all of these levels of
arousal, but none are more important than arousal
level 3 and 4.
Ideally you will be spending most of your time while
having sex in level 3.
The big difference between someone who is able to
last a long time in bed and someone who cant last
more than a few minutes or even seconds is their
ability to recognize the onset of level 4.
As stated above level 4 is the point of no return.
Once you completely enter level 4 arousal you are
going to ejaculate and theres nothing you can do
about it.
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You must develop the skill to recognize the onset of

level 4.
This may seem like a big challenge, but let me assure
that its definitely something that can be mastered.
How to recognize the onset of level 4
There is only one real way to learn how to recognize
the onset of level 4 and that is through experience.
The best way to learn is through masturbating.
You could do this through sex, although I dont
recommend because youll probably have other
things to concentrate on and its easier to stop a hand
from moving than the person youre having sex with.
So here is what you need to do
1. Start masturbating
2. Set out the intention recognize the onset of level
4
3. If you normally ejaculate within a few seconds or
minutes of masturbating then go slower than
you usually would
4. As your masturbating be aware of any possible
sign that youre moving into level 4 arousal
5. As soon as think you might be entering level 4
arousal instantly stop all stimulation (if youre
watching porn turn that off as well)
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6. One of two things will happen

a. You will stop too late and you will end up
ejaculating anyway
b. You will stop and you will not ejaculate
7. If you stop too late and ejaculate then make a
mental note that you need to stop stimulation
earlier next time
8. If you stop and you dont ejaculate then take a
20 second break and carry on again. Keep going
again until you think youre about to reach level
4 arousal, except this time keep the stimulation
going for slightly longer than the first time.
Again stop and wait for 20 seconds. Repeat this
process until you find a point where you
ejaculate just after stopping stimulation. This
means you will have identified the point at which
level 4 arousal begins for you. Next time just
stop stimulation slightly earlier than the point at
which you entered level 4 arousal last time
9. Repeat steps 1 to 8 over and over again, at least
10 times. In fact you should make this routine
for every time you masturbate
10.
Eventually you will get an intuitive sense of
when you are about to reach level 4 arousal. As
soon as you reach level 4 you will know to stop
stimulation.

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After mastering this technique you should masturbate

for at least 15 minutes every time. While
masturbating as soon as you recognize the onset of
level 4 you should stop stimulation. You can then
carry on after a 20 second break (or longer if you
need it). Using this technique you can easily enjoy
masturbating for 15 minutes or much longer before
ejaculation.
This will provide a good habit for you so that when it
comes to having sex, lasting for a longer time will be a
normal process for you. There will be more on this
later in the masturbation techniques section.
Once you understand the different levels of arousal
you can really begin to have fun in bed. If you can
keep yourself at level 3 for sustained periods of time
(which should easily be possible with the techniques
in this guide) you will become a master at pleasing
your partner.

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How to masturbate to increase time in bed

A powerful way to look at masturbating is to see it as
training for sex.
How you train will affect how you perform in the
bedroom.
If you have lousy habits when you train then you
will carry those habits with you into the bedroom.
The prime example of this is masturbating with the
aim of ejaculating as soon as possible.
This is something very common and is often brought
about because of the conditions in which you
masturbate. For example, many guys when they
were younger would have worried a lot about being
caught masturbating. If this is the case then often
they will try and ejaculate as soon as possible because
it reduces the likelihood of them getting caught.
Although masturbating as fast as possible may have
been an important thing to do back then, it is a habit
that will cause you difficulties in the bedroom.
If you are in the habit of when you masturbate to try
and ejaculate as quickly as possible then this is a habit
you must break immediately.

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The fact is that every time you do this you are

teaching your body that ejaculating as fast as possible
is the right thing to do.
Breaking the fast masturbation habit
This is fairly common sense, but I think its worth
commenting on because there is a right and wrong
way to go about this.
The important thing is that you set up your time to
masturbate in the right way.
You want to be masturbating for at least 15 minutes.
This means that if you have only 5 minutes before
youre expecting someone to come home or if
someone is in the room next to you and is highly likely
to come into the room youre in any time soon, then
its probably best not to masturbate.
The environment in which you do it is the number
one factor. If youre doing it in a very active
environment then youre going to feel under pressure
to finish as soon as possible.
What I recommend is finding a time when there is no
one else around, if possible.
If this is difficult for you then try doing it early
morning or late evening when people are unlikely to
disturb you.
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Youve got to do everything you can to choose the

right environment to masturbate in.
For further peace of mind its ideal if you have a lock
on your door as well. This is of course not a must.
So youve found a place to masturbate where you
wont be disturbed for at least 15 minutes.
If youre used to masturbating for less than 5 minutes
then you will need to make a conscious effort to slow
down the stimulation. The chances are that if youve
been practicing masturbating very quickly for a long
time then you will probably be adapted to ejaculating
fairly quickly.
By masturbating slower you can increase the time
before you ejaculate. This therefore trains youre
body to see it as normal to last much longer.
I also recommend using the recognizing the onset of
level 4 approach as well, described in the earlier
chapter. Once you can recognize the onset of level 4
you will have no problems masturbating for at least
15 minutes.
Simulating sex
Like I said before, masturbating is like training for
sex.

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What you do when masturbating reflects how your

body will react when you actually have sex.
Sometimes, however, masturbation can seem quite
different from sex. You might be someone who finds
that they can masturbate for a very long time, but
when it comes to sex you cant last more than a few
minutes, if that.
This is because for you masturbation is nothing like
sex. The stimulation is completely different and
therefore you produce completely different results.
(Note: Its also likely that some other factors like your
psychological approach are affecting you as well so be
sure to review that chapter)
The solution to this problem is to therefore make
masturbation a lot more like sex. There are several
ways in which you can do this.
Treat it like sex
Start stimulation slowly and build your way up. Dont
start pounding a 100 miles an hour
Do any other preparation you would normally do. For
example, I highly recommend urinating before any
sexual activity because this takes pressure off the
ejaculation muscles
Use lubrication
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If youre used to dry masturbation and when it comes

to sex you suddenly come into contact with a wet
vagina then thats a totally different type of
stimulation. You need your body to be adapted to
the type of stimulation you receive during sex for
your training to be transferable to sex.
Get a vagina simulator
These are available to purchase online.
You may think this is an extreme approach, but if you
really want to make this change then investing in a
vagina simulator can really help make the difference.
By using the vagina simulator you can get your body
used to stimulation remarkably similar to sex.
If you can get your body used to the physical
stimulation from a real vagina then that will make a
significant difference to how long you can last in bed
as long as you improve your psychological approach
as well.
Consider using a condom
If when you have sex you use a condom (I
recommend it for partner who you dont know much
about) then it may be worth masturbating with a
condom too.

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Remember, you want your masturbation to simulate

sex as much as possible so if you often use a condom
then this will make masturbating all the more
realistic.
Use the techniques in this guide
Just because youre masturbating doesnt mean you
shouldnt be practicing these techniques. If you were
having sex then youd be using these techniques so
use them while masturbating too. You need to do as
much as you can of what you would do while having
sex so that you can make masturbating feel like sex.
Practicing these techniques has the added bonus that
it gives you more time to practice all the different
techniques from this guide.

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How to use your breathing to control arousal

You already know that controlling your arousal is one
of the most important factors in ejaculation control.
In the section on the psychological approach to
ending premature ejaculation you learned how to
control your thoughts and therefore control your
arousal.
How you breathe is a different method of controlling
your arousal.
You may not know this, but the way in which you
breathe has a massive affect on how you feel.
Your mind and body are intimately linked.
If you change your body then you change how you
feel.
You know this already, because chances are when you
were younger and you felt down or depressed your
mother would probably have told you to go do
something.
Why is this such a common solution to feeling
depressed?
Because by doing something and moving your body
you are changing how you feel.

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After and during light exercise you usually feel a lot

better than if youve been sitting in a chair for eight
hours.
This is how we humans have been designed.
The reason Im telling you all this is because you have
to realize that everything in your body including your
mind is interlinked.
And this is why if you apply what I am about to teach
you about breathing differently, you can change how
long you last in the bedroom.
So how specifically does this apply to breathing?
The chances are that you breathe quiet shallow at the
moment during sex. By shallow I mean that you have
a small and short inhale and a short and small exhale.
When you breathe shallow you are not replenishing
your body. Your organs need oxygen to work and if
you breathe shallow then you will be getting less
oxygen into your blood than if you took full deep
breaths. Less oxygen in the blood means your heart
rate rises to try and get more blood to your organs
because the blood has less oxygen in it.
As you may have already guessed, a high heart rate is
not good for ejaculation and arousal control.
Think about it.
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When you feel calm and in control do you take short

shallow breaths or do you take big deep breaths.
If you want to control your arousal in the bedroom
you need to control your breathing.
In order to do this you need to make a conscious
effort to generate the habit of taking deep breaths
during sex.
When you start taking deep breaths you begin to
relax your whole body. Your heart rate begins to slow
and your arousal levels begin to come under control.
So how do you deep breathe exactly?
The perfect way to breathe?
Let me tell you now that there is no perfect way to
breathe, but there are definitely ways that are a lot
better than others.
A good deep breath is one that gets as much air into
your lungs as possible and gives them a chance to
absorb the oxygen from the air as well.
This means you want to be breathing slowly and
ideally holding your breath for a small period of time
as well. This should then be followed by a slow
exhale as well.

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There are numerous different time proportions

recommended for inhale-hold-exhale, each backed by
equally qualified people.
My advice is to have your time spent on inhale, hold
and exhale in relatively equal proportions.
Dont worry about being precise just try and get it
roughly equal.
One thing you must do is be sure to inhale long
enough to fill up most of your lungs with air.
If you get the time portions spent in inhale, hold and
exhale roughly equal then you will be giving your
lungs a good chance to absorb as much oxygen as
possible from the air.
Using your diaphragm
There are two main different ways in which you can
take a deep breath.
The first one is by expanding your chest as much as
possible.
The second way is by lowering your diaphragm to pull
air into the lungs.
If you dont know how to breathe with your
diaphragm then try this

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Take a deep breath, but keep your chest expanded at

the same level that it is without air in it and expand
only your stomach.
Expanding your stomach is the same process as
pulling the diaphragm downwards. As the
diaphragms pulls downwards it draws air into your
lungs.
The second way of breathing is much more effective
than the first at getting as much air as possible into
your lungs and is the way you should use when deep
breathing during sex.
Inhale through your nose and exhale through your
mouth
The most relaxing way to breath is in through your
nose and out through your mouth.
This method is great for building up a powerful
rhythm of breathing and is also proven to help you
relax more than any other way of breathing.
When you combine all these factors you will be
getting as much air into your lungs as possible. With
more air in your lungs you will have more oxygen in
your body. This will help to relax you and also cause
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With a fully relaxed body you can feel in control

during sex.
Applying this during sex
When it actually comes to sex theres a good chance
you will forget to breathe properly, unless youre
consciously thinking about it.
If you find yourself having sex and have forgotten
about your breathing then dont worry.
The best thing you can do as soon as you become
conscious of your breathing is to slow it right down
and follow the breathing method I described above.
What you will find when you do this is that your body
reacts to the deeper breathing by relaxing. When
your body is relaxed your levels of arousal will also fall
slightly, therefore bringing them back under control.
Lowering your arousal levels using breathing
The above method of breathing has been a technique
to try and keep you in arousal level 3 for as long as
possible.
Sometimes though, you will find that your arousal
levels get very close to level 4.
If this happens you can use breathing to your
advantage as a tool to lower your arousal level.
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When you find yourself moving into level 4 arousal

you need to do everything you can to break the
pattern.
This means you need to make a radical change in
either your thinking or your physiology.
A great way to do this is to stop and take in a very
long and slow deep breath.
You should be inhaling for at least 5 seconds, but
ideally longer, and holding and exhaling for the
equivalent amount of time.
What you also need to do is put all your thoughts and
focus on your breathing as well.
Forget all the sexual thoughts you have going through
your head and focus only on your breathing.
By thinking about your breathing you will be changing
the thoughts going through your head and therefore
also changing your level of arousal.
You may want to repeat this style of deep breath
several times to lower your arousal levels enough to
put you back in complete control.

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Using your PC muscle to increase level 3 arousal time

You are about to learn about a muscle that when
used correctly will enable you to last far longer in
level 3 arousal than you thought was possible. If you
apply these techniques then you can prolong the time
before you enter into level 4 arousal.
There is much literature available on the PC muscle.
You may have heard about it before, you may have
heard it by a different name or heard of something
called the BC muscle.
The name given to the muscle doesnt so much
matter as how we actually decide to use it. So for the
sake of simplicity I will be referring to this muscle as
the PC muscle. Although it has been referenced by
many other names, what matters is the results.
So what is this PC muscle?
The best way of identifying the PC muscle is when you
urinate.
You may already know that when you urinate you
have the ability to stop the urine flow.
There is a specific muscle that contracts in order to
stop this urine flow.
This same muscle is the one involved in your
ejaculatory reflex.
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This is therefore a very important muscle.

If you dont know what Im talking about when it
comes to stopping the urine flow, then go urinate
now and try and stop the flow. It will soon become
obvious where the muscle is that Im talking about.
The importance of the PC muscle
Like I said the PC muscle is involved in the ejaculation
process.
This means that if you can learn to use this muscle to
your advantage then you have gained control over
another important factor in premature ejaculation.
During arousal the role of the PC muscle is ultimately
to force semen out of the penis at a great speed. It
does this by contracting strongly and forcing the
semen out.
In the build up to ejaculation you may notice the PC
muscle contracting every now and again.
This is the PC muscle drawing blood into the muscle
area and also preparing semen to be released from
storage.
Therefore the PC muscle is a very big contributor to
the final ejaculation, because it helps prepare your
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If you can reduce the activity of the PC muscle before

ejaculation then you can significantly delay the
process.
The next time you go to masturbate or have sex you
should pay particular attention to the contractions of
the PC muscle during stimulation.
Youll notice that they happen almost involuntary and
have been happening all the time when you havent
been thinking about it.
What you need to do instead is become conscious of
these contractions.
You need to consciously try and relax the PC muscle
as much as possible.
You want to try and reduce the contraction of the PC
muscles in the build up to ejaculation.
This is important, because if you reduce the
contractions then less blood gets drawn to the muscle
area. By delaying these actions your body is sent the
message that it is not ready to ejaculate yet.
Since youve got so many different things youre
trying to work on to improve your time in the
bedroom I recommend dedicating a few
masturbations solely to focusing on reducing the
contractions of the PC muscles.
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As you practice this more and more you will soon be

in the habit of relaxing your PC muscle as much as
possible during sex.

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Using your PC muscle to stop ejaculation

That title is not a type-o. You really can use your PC
muscle to entirely stop ejaculation.
The PC muscle has the power to turn you multiorgasmic, meaning you can have more than one
orgasm without ejaculating.
In fact many ancient arts of sex, such as Tantra
recommend the mastery of the PC muscle so that you
can experience a different type of orgasm that helps
heal the body and relaxes the mind.
So what youre about to learn is something that has
been practiced in certain groups for thousands of
years.
Now as I said before the PC muscle is the muscle that
contracts in order to force semen out of the penis to
ejaculate.
But Ive also told you that the PC muscle can be used
to stop the urine flow.
So the PC muscle is best to be understood as
squeezing a hose pipe. If water is on the side of the
tap and you squeeze the pipe then no water will
come out the other end.
If you squeeze the pipe and water is on the side of the
hose with the end then you will force the water out.
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Stopping ejaculation is very similar. In order to stop

ejaculation you need to make sure your semen is on
the right side of the PC muscle when it contracts.
If you contract the PC muscle when all the semen has
been drawn past the PC muscle then you will
experience ejaculation.
If, however, you contract your PC muscle before the
semen has been drawn past the PC muscle then you
will stop the semen from being forced out of the
penis.
The skill in stopping ejaculation with the PC muscles
comes from developing two key areas; your timing
and your PC muscle strength.
Timing your PC muscle contraction
What you have to learn to do is contract the PC
muscle before semen passes through it, but late
enough so that you stop your bodys desire to
ejaculate again soon.
The only way to truly master your timing is through
practice.
The approach is very similar to that recognizing the
onset of level 4 arousal.
This is the exercise, known as The Ejaculation Block
Exercise, I recommend to learn when to contract your
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PC muscle to stop ejaculation but still experience an

orgasm.
The Ejaculation Block Exercise
1. Set some time aside to masturbate
a. I recommend practicing during
masturbation over sex because you have
more control
b. Use the recommendations I gave earlier to
make it as similar to sex as possible
2. Masturbate as you would usually
a. Dont rush to ejaculation point, because
remember that how you masturbate trains
your body how to act during sex
3. If you recognize the onset of level 4 arousal go
beyond this point into level 4
4. When you are about 5 seconds from orgasm stop
all stimulation and squeeze the PC muscle as
hard as you can for at least 15 seconds
If youre timing is right then you will have successfully
stopped ejaculation and possibly also experienced an
ejaculation free orgasm. Now you should be able to
remain at level 3 arousal for at least 5 more minutes.
If you squeezed too late then you will have ejaculated
anyway.

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If you squeezed too early then you will not lower your
level of arousal low enough to carry on stimulation
without re-entering level 4 arousal rapidly.
When youre trying this exercise out for the first time
you will find that you will not time your PC squeeze
correctly.
Do not worry if this happens, because this is a
learning process.
Make a mental note of when you squeezed it and
when you come back to do this exercise change the
timing of your PC muscle squeeze.
Do not take this exercise lightly.
Mastery of this particular exercise can give you
ultimate control in the bedroom and is in fact one of
the major techniques used by porn stars to last for as
long as they have to.
Strengthening your PC muscle
A big pre-requisite of being able to perform an
effective ejaculation block is to have a PC muscle that
is strong enough to stop the flow of semen and also
trained well enough to hold the semen for a long
enough time to successfully subside the ejaculation
reflex.

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The PC muscle is similar to many other muscles in the

body.
If you exercise it right then it will grow in strength and
size.
Of course if you exercise it wrong then you can
damage the muscle as well.
To recap
The PC muscle is the muscle used to stop the urine
flow.
You can identify this muscle most easily by urinating
and trying to stop the flow.
You will notice that when youre stopping the flow
you are contracting a muscle in your pelvic area.
The contraction of this muscle is what you will have to
practice in order to increase its strength.
There are two main methods in which to exercise this
muscle.
The first method is to practice what I call miniflexes and the second method is to practice bigflexes.
Before I get into exactly what they are there are some
important things you must know before you do.
Here are some general rules of exercise
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Rest is very important

As with all muscles the gains occur during the rest
periods between exercises not during the exercises.
This means that if you train every single day very hard
then your muscles, in this case, the PC muscle will
never have a chance to rest.
If the muscle never has a chance to rest then it will
never have a chance to recover and rebuild the
muscle tissue that it is weakened during training.
Also if you never let it rest you are making yourself
very prone to injury.
Injury is very unlikely in PC muscle training if you
follow these principles, but if you ignore things like
resting them then you are taking a risk.
It is therefore very important that you give your PC
muscle a chance to rest between exercises. My
recommendation is exercising the PC muscle 3-4
times per week.
Warm-ups
When you do exercise in the general the chances are
that the first thing you do is not a full out sprint.
If youre going to be doing sprint training then you
will probably do some stretches first, then a warm-up
jog and then finally you will get to doing the actual
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sprints. This is done so when youre putting intense

strain on your body you will be ready for it because
youre already warm.
This is the same for the PC muscle training.
What I recommend for warming up the PC muscle is
the following.
Put a warm towel around your penis. (Heat the towel
up with some warm water.) Hold this towel there for
at least 15 seconds.
Be sensible with the temperature. No scalding
please
Another method of warming up the PC muscle is to
do some very gentle contractions to start with.
Do 10 very gentle contractions and then rest. Then
do another 10 gentle contractions. These gentle
contractions should last less than a second.
These gentle contractions will get the blood flowing
to your PC muscle.
It can be tempting to skip the warm-ups when it
comes to training, but the truth is that you are much
more likely to damage your PC muscle if you dont do
these procedures.

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Im sure youve heard horror stories of injuries picked

up by people who did any time type of exercise
without doing a proper warm-up to start off with.
Do the warm-ups.
Breathing
Like when exercising any muscle you should be
exhaling when contracting the muscle.
This is for a number of reasons I wont get into here,
but one reason is because it allows you to get a better
contraction.
And with a better contraction comes a better workout
for your PC muscle.
Flaccid or erect?
My advice is to perform these exercises when flaccid
or semi-erect.
The reason I do not recommend doing the full
workout when you are erect is because it can put
some strain on the PC muscle and your penis.
Also if you do it when youre flaccid you can do the
workout even with other people around if thats the
only chance you have.
Mini-flexes

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The mini-flex workout involves contracting the PC

muscle for lots of short bursts of time with rest in
between.
One example of the mini-flex workout would be
contracting your PC muscle for 2 seconds as hard as
you can then relaxing the muscle for 2 seconds. Then
contract the PC muscle again for 2 seconds and then
relax for 2 seconds.
Continue this process 10 times to create one set.
Then rest for 1-2 minutes.
Now do another set as stated above.
This is fairly easy workout to do.
How much you do is up to your PC muscle
development.
When starting out you may wish to do only one set or
maybe less reps within your sets.
The important thing is not to work your muscle so
hard that it cant rebuild itself properly.
As you practice more and more you should slowly
increase the number of reps or the number of sets or
the intensity with which you squeeze your muscle.
Big-Flexes

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This exercise is designed to train your PC muscle for

the Ejaculation Block described earlier.
In this exercise the aim is to squeeze your PC muscle
for about 10 seconds.
When starting out you might not easily be able to do
this, but with practice it is easily achievable.
After performing a 10 second squeeze you should
then relax the PC muscle for roughly 10 seconds.
Then repeat with another 10 second squeeze
followed by a 10 second rest.
Repeat this process up to 10 times.
When starting out 10 times may be too much so do
be sensible about how much you use.
Remember that a damaged PC muscle will be of no
use so dont over work it.
If you build up every session you will soon have a
strong PC muscle.
With enough training your PC muscle will be strong
enough to stop ejaculation whenever you want and
last as long as you want.

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What to do during sex to last much longer

Did you know that how you have sex can drastically
affect how quickly you ejaculate?
There are so many different ways to have sex. The
chances are that you probably have not thought that
much about exactly how you have sex.
Some people like to have as shorter foreplay as
possible before sex and get pumping as quickly as
possible and never change positions. Some people
like to tease the hell out of their partners so by the
time they start having sex they practically orgasm
instantly. Some people like to change positions every
10 seconds. Some people thrust 60 times per minute
and others 5 times per minute.
The bottom line is that there are a million different
ways to have sex.
And of these different ways there are some ways that
help you last a very long time and some others that
will cause you to last less than a minute.
In this section of the guide I will give you some unique
approaches to sex that will help you last much longer
than you thought possible, even if you havent yet
mastered the other principles in this guide yet.

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Choose positions wisely and last longer

Different sex positions have a different affect on your
sexual stimulation.
Some drastically promote ejaculation and others
reduce stimulation making it take longer to ejaculate.
Fast ejaculation positions
One of the positions where it is every easy to
ejaculate quickly and unfortunately is also one of the
most commonly used is the missionary position.
This is the position when the man lies on top of the
woman with the womans legs spread.
Ideally it is best to use this position as little as
possible because it quickly encourages orgasm.
It can be hard to avoid this position at times, because
it is a very good way to start out sex.
One way of lasting longer assuming you cant avoid
the missionary position is to do the following.
Lift up your partners legs while they lie on their back
and position yourself on your knees. Put your knees
just underneath their legs. They should remain on
their back and your chest should be over their chest.
When entering from this position you should find that
you are less stimulated compared to if you were just
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lying down. This should allow you to last longer and

buy you enough time to switch to a new position.
You should also find that this position gives you more
control and that you can tease your partner more as
well.
Medium ejaculation positions
Two key positions fall into this category; both of you
on your sides and doggy style.
When you are both on your sides you will find that
the stimulation is less than the missionary position,
but you may also find that ejaculation can still easily
creep up on you if youre not careful.
Doggy style can also be a good method of lasting a
medium amount of time. When youre on your knees
it takes pressure from your pelvic area and then
reduces the amount of time until ejaculation.
Long lasting positions
Besides crazy yoga style positions there are only two
other main positions left.
These are standing up sex and you lying on your back
with your partner on top.
Standing up sex is great for delaying ejaculation,
especially if youre carrying the other person.
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The energy you use carrying the other person can

take some of the attention and blood away from your
genital area and therefore help you last longer. Also
there is much less pressure on the genital area.
If carrying the other person is not an option then
standing up is still a great method to use because of
the reduced stimulation on the genital area.
Lying on your back with your partner on top is also a
great position to help you last longer as long as you
stay in control of your partners movements. You can
do this by holding your hands on their legs and
controlling their movement. (Dont feel bad about
doing this because they will appreciate you taking
control)
When laying on your back its easy to relax all of your
muscles, including your PC muscle as discussed
earlier.
With all your muscles relaxed its easy to last much
longer, because ejaculation occurs a lot quicker when
there is a lot of tension in your body.
Also with your partner doing more of the work you
can divert more of your attention to relaxing your PC
muscle to prolong level 3 arousal.
Super-fast ejaculation positions

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It may be the case that after performing an

Ejaculation Block or after using a variety of these
methods that you are finding it hard to ejaculate.
You may be drunk and finding it hard to ejaculate or
maybe youve just decide that its time to finish.
You can use these positions to finish more quickly
because of the intense stimulation.
Also if youre looking not to ejaculate quickly then I
highly recommend avoiding these positions.
The first position is missionary style, except your legs
are on the outside and your partners legs are on the
inside.
The fact that your partners legs are together means
that it tightens the vagina over your penis. This tight
grip greatly increases stimulation and makes it much
easier to ejaculate.
The other position is when you have your partner on
top with you lying on your back. The difference is to
get your partner to stand on their feet so that theyre
squatting on you.
With the control of your hands you can get your
partner to rapidly stimulate your glans (the head of
your penis) which is an intense form of stimulation.

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You will find that it doesnt take long with this

method to ejaculate.

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Changing positions to buy time

The great thing about changing positions during sex is
that often you have to withdraw yourself from your
partner to prepare for the next position.
If youre doing this then it means you have a little
stop in stimulation. This stop in stimulation is a great
time to recover some arousal.
Also when change positions your focus is also taken
away from arousal as well (remember the chapter on
the psychological approach to ending premature
ejaculation). When youre changing positions youre
concentrating on where your body is and where to
move and what your partners doing, etc. While
concentrating on all these things youre probably not
thinking about sexual stimulation or the fact youre
about to ejaculate. By changing what youre thinking
about you reduce your arousal and therefore buy
yourself more time.
My advice is to do some research and keep trying out
new positions in the bedroom. This will mean you
always have a good reason to change positions.
Ideally try and find positions similar to those
described in the long lasting positions section.

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The Full Thrust stimulation reducer

As I have alluded to earlier in this guide, the most
sensitive part of your penis is your glans. This is the
pink mushroom like top of your penis.
When this area in particular is stimulated you will find
that you will ejaculate very quickly.
Therefore if you want to buy yourself more time in
the bedroom you want to find a way in which you can
reduce the stimulation to your glans while keeping
your partner happy.
Luckily there is a great way to do this.
This method works very well in the missionary
position and when your partner is on top of you lying
down.
What you want to do is fully thrust into your partner.
So insert your penis all the way into your partner.
Once in this position one thing you can do is grind
your pelvis against her clitoris.
When you grind against her clitoris you are giving her
lots of stimulation, whilst barely giving your glans any
stimulation. This is great because youre making her
feel good whilst minimizing stimulation to yourself.
An alternative method is to keep thrusting but never
let your glans get near to the mouth of her vagina.
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What I mean by this is that while youre still thrusting

you should never allow more than 30% of your penis
to leave her vagina. This way your partner gets the
stimulation of your thrusting while you minimize the
stimulation to your glans.

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Just go slow
Its a really common misconception that woman like
sex at 100 miles an hour.
If you ask many guys they think that a woman loves a
guy who can thrust 200 times a minute and not
ejaculate.
This is partly thanks to all the porn videos where
woman are shown to be pounded super fast and
super hard.
Many men naturally think that if thats what works for
porn stars then its probably what works for other
women.
Youve got to remember though that porn is made to
be watched mostly by guys. And guys like to see fast
pounding.
When it comes to pleasuring a woman though, you
will find that women are actually shown to orgasm
more with men who have sex slower.
The reason Im telling you this is because part of the
reason you may be ejaculating so quickly is if you feel
a need to thrust very rapidly.
The truth is that woman like it slow.
This is especially true if you correctly use the method I
describe in the next section.
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Get your partner to orgasm within seconds of sex

One of the main reasons you want to last longer in
bed is that you can feel good about satisfying your
partner.
How would you feel if you could get your partner to
orgasm within seconds of you entering them?
This is not a joke and its totally possible. In fact I
have done it many times.
The key to making this work is building anticipation.
You have to tease your partner so much that they are
literally dripping wet for you.
They will be so wet and so excited that they will
literally be trembling with anticipation when you
enter them.
The pleasure of you entering will be such a release of
tension that they will climax immediately.
In many ways its like getting them to feel how you
used to when it came to sex. Before reading this
guide you were probably so excited before sex that
when it actually came to it you orgasmed instantly.
So the question Im sure you want to know is how do
you build this much anticipation?
Teasing your partner until theyre dying for you
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The key to building massive anticipation for you in a

partner is teasing.
The simplest way to describe how best to do this is by
taking two steps forward and one step back.
Here are some examples
Withdrawing a kiss
Instead of going straight for a full sloppy kiss give
them a very light kiss and then withdraw. They will
probably come chasing after you for another kiss.
When they do just give them a light kiss and then
withdraw again. They might start getting a little
frustrated with you, but what you do is you keep it up
just a little longer. This frustration is the building of
the tension and their desire for you.
Soon you can develop into a fuller kiss, which will now
feel 10 times better to them because they had to
work so hard for it.
A note of warning: Dont tease them for too long on
an early step like this because they may just give up.
Youve got to find the right balance between making
them work for it and allowing them to have it. My
advice is to go for longer than what you think might
be too much, because this is the point where the
anticipation is highest. Your partner should be
slightly frustrated before you give it to them.
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Teasing nipple lick

As soon as you get her shirt off dont go straight for
the nipple and start sucking it.
You have to build up her desire for it first.
One great way to do this is to run your finger lightly
down the middle of her chest.
Then run that finger over towards her breast.
Run your finger lightly in circles around her breast.
Slowly close this circle in on her nipple.
Keep circling her breast bring the circle closer and
closer to her nipple.
This should be a long process because all this time
you are building her anticipation.
All the time she is thinking about you getting closer to
it and getting very worked up.
Eventually start circling her nipple without actually
touching it.
Now with your tongue start circling her nipple
without actually touching it.
Right now she will be dying for you to lick her nipple,
but dont go too soon. The anticipation is what is
making her super horny.
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Eventually lick her nipple. But do it only gently and

then withdraw.
If youve done it right she will probably move her
nipple towards your mouth because she will want
more stimulation.
Slowly allow her the pleasure of you licking and
eventually sucking her nipples.
Teasing your insertion
If youve been doing all the techniques above your
partner should be dripping wet for you waiting for
you to insert yourself.
When you get into position dont just dive in straight
away.
Run you penis along the inside of her leg bring it
slowly closer to her vagina.
Do this several times.
Run your penis around the outside of her vagina very
slowly.
Let her know your penis is so close to entering her
vagina, but just not quite entering yet.
The thoughts in her head will be of an intense lust for
you.

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Keep teasing around her vagina and make her want it

bad. Possibly even waiting for her to say just put it
in.
But then dont do it straight away.
Let her wait just a little bit longer before you do.
As you finally decide to enter dont do it in one big
thrust.
Insert just the tip of your penis. Then withdraw it.
You will hear her moan.
Now insert again just a little bit more and withdraw it
again.
This is what I mean by two steps forward and one
step back.
Keep this process up and dont fall into the
temptation to just start pumping really fast.
Keep going really slow and when you finally enter you
will find that they will probably orgasm and when
they do it will be more intense than she has probably
experienced in a long time.
Using this approach consistently
Above Ive given three examples of how you use the
tease approach to building anticipation.

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Dont just use the approach of teasing and two steps

forward and one step back on the above three
examples.
Use them at all points during foreplay and sex.
Use it for touching their hair, use it before you finger
them, use it before you massage their hands,
whatever.
Just use this process through the build up to sex and
they will be dying for it when it finally comes.
Why this technique is so good
As I said at the start of this section, one of the main
reasons for wanting to cure premature ejaculation is
to make a partner happier.
If youve made your partner orgasm within seconds of
sex then if you orgasm a few seconds later then it
doesnt matter anywhere near as much as it would
otherwise.
With mastery of this approach you can have a truly
fulfilled woman, because you can make them orgasm
every time you have sex. After youve made them
orgasm you can feel much more confident in
experimenting with the other techniques in this guide
to helping you last longer and giving them even more
orgasms.
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How to get harder erections

Having a very healthy penis and hard erections is a
great asset to have in your toolbox for overcoming
You may have experienced when you were younger
when you were able to carry on having sex even after
you ejaculated once.
You were so excited and healthy that ejaculating was
not enough to stop your erection.
By taking the time to strengthen your erection you
will be able to go back to those good old days
where after you ejaculate you will still be hard and
able to carry on having sex.
If you can reach this level of strength then even if you
do ejaculate prematurely then you can carry on sex
anyway.
This will also be useful if you decide to use the
ejaculation block method, because it will enable to
you to recover more quickly after you stop the
ejaculation, as you may find that otherwise you lose
some erection strength after performing the
ejaculation block.
So here are some things you can do to gain harder
erections.
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The big-flexes exercise while erect

One method to increase ejaculation strength is to
perform the big-flexes exercise while fully erect.
You may remember that in that section I
recommended not performing this exercise when
fully erect.
The reason I did that is because the big-flexes
exercises should only be performed with extreme
caution while erect.
I also recommend doing much fewer repetitions,
because it is much easier to damage your erection if
you perform this exercise while fully erect.
You may notice during this exercise when fully erect
that your penis expands, especially the glans. This is
because the PC muscle is forcing blood into the penis.
Do the big-flexes exercise while fully erect no more
than 3 times per week. Also do no more than 5
repetitions.
The blood being forced into your penis through the
PC muscle in the exercise should help strengthen your
erection
Get more physical exercise
Rarely will you hear of someone who exercises daily
complaining of a weak erection.
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Its fact that the more physical exercise you get, in

particular any cardiovascular activity like running,
swimming or biking, the harder your erections will be.
By exercising regularly you improve your circulatory
system. This is the systems of blood vessels and heart
that pumps blood all around your body.
When you exercise this through cardiovascular
training you improve it.
With a better circulatory system you will get more
blood running to your penis and therefore harder
erections.
Improve your diet
There is a lot to be said and debated about diet, but
certain facts are virtually unquestionable.
People with lower body fat and lower cholesterol in
general have larger and harder penises.
This is because as body fat increases there are more
fat cells throughout the body.
These fat cells reduce the flow of blood throughout
the body, especially cholesterol.
This is true for the penis as well.
As your body fat increases fat deposits appear in your
penis and the blood flow is restricted.
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With the blood flow restricted your penis cannot

grow as large as it otherwise would and also not as
hard.
So what can you actually do to improve your diet?
Since there is so much available in this area here is my
opinion in a nut shell.
Cut out excessively fatty foods, especially processed
foods, like hamburgers and most fast food.
Drink lots of water.
Consume less sugar. The best sources of sugar are
through fruit.
Eat less processed foods. For example, brown rice is
better for your health than white rice. This is because
brown rice is less processed, therefore your system
benefits from the nutrients that are not taking out
during processing and also burns more calories during
the digestive process. This principle applies to many
other food sources as well, such as pasta, bread, etc.
Eat more vegetables. Vegetables are the best thing
you can feed your body. They are low in caloric
density and replenish your system.
If you choose to eat meats then only eat quality
meats. You can have a very healthy diet without the
consumption of animal products (although this is up
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to much debate) but if you choose to eat meats eat

the quality cuts.
A healthy calorie controlled diet in combination with
plenty of exercise is almost guaranteed to help you
lose weight.
With a loss of weight you will experience a noticeable
improvement in the hardness of your erection.

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The cheat sheet tips for instant longer lasting sex

Here are some quick tips and tricks you can apply to
help last longer in bed. These are quick-fix solutions
and not what I would recommend to rely on if you
really plan on mastering ejaculation control.
These are by no means a substitute for all that Ive
taught in this guide.
Try them out and see what they do for you.
Change positions
Every time you change positions you buy yourself
some time without any stimulation and also takes
your mind temporarily off the stimulation you were
getting.
Masturbate before sex
If you want to last longer in the bedroom then if
youve ejaculated a few hours before then you will
probably be able to last longer before ejaculating.
My warning when using this method is to make sure
you dont ejaculate too close to sex as you may find
you are unable to ejaculate at all.
Urinate before sex
A full bladder puts a lot of pressure on your pelvic
muscles. It makes your more likely to ejaculate
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prematurely and also inhibits the quality of your

orgasm.
Give her oral pleasure half way through
A great way to buy yourself even more time is to stop
half way through sex and give her oral sex.
This will allow you time to reduce your arousal and
also focus on something different besides your own
pleasure.
Go very slow
As I mentioned earlier women like slow sex. Dont be
afraid to go really slow and play it off like youre
teasing them. Dont worry about them criticizing you,
because theyll be too worried about what theyre
doing to worry about you.
Use long lasting condoms
There are condoms available that contains chemical
that reduce the sensitivity of your glans.
They can take some time to work though, so be sure
to have your condom on for a few minutes before you
enter your partner.
Use lots of lubrication
Lubrication is a great way of reducing sensitivity if you
use a lot.
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Be careful not to use too much as this may be

uncomfortable for your partner.
Go into the one of the long lasting positions
described earlier
Change positions to one where you receive less
stimulation as described in the earlier chapter long
lasting positions.
Touch the tip of your tongue to the top of your mouth
Its been claimed to have something to do with the
energy channels running through your body.
Dont ask me to explain how these energy channels
make this happen but I know from experience that it
does work.

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To your success
This guide has given you more tools than you will ever
need to last longer in the bedroom.
Its only in the application of these principles that you
will find great results.
Before you do anything review my how to use this
guide section for the approach you can use to make
sure you can make this change successfully in your
life.
As youre trying out the methods in this guide be
patient, because the final result is well worth it.
When you have control of your ejaculation it unlocks
a whole new world of confidence and fun in
bedroom.
I wish you the best of luck on your journey to
ejaculation control.
And if you have any questions or successes please do
send me an e-mail at info@ejaculationguru.com.
Good luck,

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