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Lynn Carey Senior Overview Paper Final
Lynn Carey Senior Overview Paper Final
Senior Overview
Summer 2016
Dealing With Difficult People
grief.
Money problems The leading cause of divorce and foreclosure. 41% of
Americans work full time and are living paycheck to paycheck. Bills seem
like they never go away. Having a multiple people depend on you to
provide food and shelter for them, creates high pressure when you are one
paycheck away from being homeless. It is not always obvious when
people are having financial problems. If you discover a person had money
problems, shower them with empathy.
Health Something that weve all taken for granted at least once, is our
health. Being in good health helps boost a positive self-image. It is easy to
tell when some is going through Chemotherapy or if someone has the flu.
The side effects of these medications can cause changes in the persons
mood. Also, the person could be under the influence of alcohol or other
drugs. This is sometimes difficult to pinpoint, but should be taken into
employee retention.
Media The media has had one agenda since the beginning and it was to
instill fear into the viewers. This fear is what drives the economy.
Recently, mass shootings across the country consume more than 50% of
television time. Shootings at churches, daycares, malls, schools and at
work, create a fear that you are not safe and you cannot trust anyone,
anywhere or anytime. This spills over into the workplace culture making it
plausible to avoid difficult people, in an effort to avoid workplace violence
incident. The threat of violence is real, the illusion that it is occurring daily
is a ploy of the media to keep fear in the hearts of many. If fear can be the
decision maker, then money will be spent on unnecessary measures. The
mindset that you should avoid difficult people at the workplace, is a sub
product of the medias agenda. Each person is encouraged to take a media
literacy course, this will ensure that the impact of the media is limited on
your lifestyle.
These are just a few reasons how life problems can create a difficult person.
Because we do not always know what the underline cause of a person being difficult is. It
is imperative that we learn the difference between sympathy and empathy. The is concept to learn
is seeing the world through the difficult persons perspective. You probably frustrate numerous
people, because everybody is somebodys challenging person at least some of the time. Empathy
is letting the person know Im here with you. While sympathy is, I feel sorry for you, but Im
not going there. The difference is subtle, yet noticeably different. Empathy encourages being
relatable and understanding with the person. Sympathy simply explains you are aware of the
problem but you will not be a part of the solution. The world needs more empathy, more
connection and more relatability from people who want the skills on how to start rebuild
Providing employees with the tools on how to handle problematic individuals, enhances
communication skills and develops teams that can work effectively together. This workshop is
also beneficial for people who work in customer service. Once the person identifies what
difficult personality they are dealing with, they can put into practice the concepts they have
learned. This workshop covers 7 types of difficult people found in the workplace. It provides
details on how to recognize them, their goal and how you should handle interactions with the
personality.
Starting with self -awareness is the foundation to know our strengths and weaknesses.
Knowing oneself will directly impact how we interact with internal and external customers. At
one time or another, weve all been a difficult person. Upon seeing the traits of the most common
difficult personalities, an individual usually recognizes themselves in one or more of the
descriptions. This too allows the person to become self- aware, and adjust their behaviors
towards others.
It is important to know that not all difficult people are intentionally offensive or
malicious. Usually it is a reason or a cause for the behavior. People usually have one of four
communication styles when collaborating on a project. Getting it right, getting it done, get
appreciated and get along. The pressures of life are common, knowing how to handle when
peoples behavior change under pressure is the key to being resilient. Be willing to be patient
while gathering facts about possible causes for the persons behavior. Put into practice the
following principle: Do not take it personal.
Understanding your strengths and weaknesses in communication and interactions with
people, is the solution on how to be durable when encountering a difficult person. Begin with
self-awareness. Next, focus on possible reasons that a person would be deemed problematic.
Practice empathy. Attempt to spend a few moments looking at the situation through their lense.
Listen to their rationalization. Determine their goal. Aid the person in achieving the desired goal.
Lastly, approach them about their behavior and how it is being perceived by others.
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