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Love & Romantic Relationships
Love & Romantic Relationships
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1. Arousing Settings
xxvi. Dances: rhythm, activity, anticipation of potential liaisons
xxvii. Two-factor theory of love: love consists of general arousal (factor
one) which is attributed to the presence of an attractive person (factor
two the cognitive label that the feeling is love)
1. general emotions of arousal (racing heart, butterflies in stomach)
and a label (love, fear, excitement, depending on situation) are
combined.
2. think of the passion often incited by danger (sex and death)
3. any arousal even exercise can have a stimulating effect on
sexual arousal
xxviii. Arousal-facilitation theory: theory that general arousal will enhance
any ongoing behavioral or cognitive process, including attraction
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2. Nonverbal Cues
Frequently in arousing situations without becoming attracted to
persons with us must be more
Good looks
Touching
Gestures: women - head toss, flipping hair, exposing neck, eye
contact/staring
xxxviii. Establishing Family BondsPassion fades but lovers remain together why? Intimacy and
commitment may grow, or commitment alone may keep people
together.
1. The Importance of Attachment
xxxix. need to belong: the human need to form and maintain strong, stable
interpersonal relationships
xl. bonds between committed lovers similar to those between a mother
and child
1. three-stage pattern of separation distress: reaction sequence
shown by infants or adults separated from those to whom they are
intimately attached
a. protest stage: attempts to reestablish contact
b. despair stage: inactivity and helplessness
c. detachment stage: lack of concern and coolness toward
separated other
2. secure base: comfort provided by an attachment figure which
allows the person to venture forth more confidently to explore the
environment
3. one primary person as bond
xli. Males
1. hormonal changes in human males match those of expectant
wives, before birth (more prolactin) and immediately after birth
(less testosterone)
xlii. Psychological consequences of attachment
1. merging of selves multiplies rewards
2. Attachment Style
xliii. secure attachment style: marked by trust that the other person will
continue to provide love and support
xliv. anxious/ambivalent style: marked by fear of abandonment and the
feeling that ones needs are not being met
xlv. avoidant style: marked by defensive detachment from the other
1. Temperament
xlvi. twin studies (3,147 married twins)
1. in unstable marriages: are unconventional, extroverted,
unrestricted, & prone to negative moods
xlvii. emotional stability
xlviii. self-esteem
1. low = more romantic feelings
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