DEFINITION

The feeling has been studied from a philosophical point from the Greeks when
Aristophanes said that love is the greatest feeling that human being and that
nothing can compare with the pleasure of feeling.
On the other hand, Plato differed from the findings of Aristophanes and claimed to
love to own human beings for their faults and not by his will, because it is a human
condition wishing what is not there, bored when you have and discard to need it
again. A vicious circle in which they are most people today.
Others differ with the definitions given in past centuries and agree that love is a
social construction in which the individual needs love.
Spinoza was an idea that is in the middle of past statements; man loves because it
causes a joy, but that joy comes from an external stimulus that makes you want
more of the other than oneself.
In ancient times, love is present in the philosophical texts, as present in Plato's
Symposium (427-347 BC) which arises among other aspects that once humana
were androgynous, ie, we possessed both sexes. After being separated into men
and women, we were destined to find our other half to feel complete.
In the Middle Ages, it was thought that the universe revolved around the earth and
therefore God was the center of everything, so mystical love is present in countless
opportunities. Also at this time it born the concept of courtly love, strongly
influenced by the ideas of Plato and the notion of idealized love.
Being such an abstract and complex subject, it is difficult to establish precise
definition of love. However, it can be considered as a set of behaviors and attitudes
that are selfless and unconditional, and that are manifested between people who
have the ability to develop emotional intelligence. In everyday language, it love
often directly associated with romantic love, which is a passionate relationship
between two people form. However, the term can be applied to other relationships,
such as familial love, platonic love and broader senses (love of God or love of
nature). In all cases, love represents a feeling of great affection.

LoveTypes
In the triangular theory of love Sternberg, love is represented by each of these
elements in its genuine form, forming the three corners of an equilateral triangle.
However, the real love relationships different types of love intertwine and combine
together, resulting in different kinds of love (or ways of loving) explained below:

1. Romantic Love
It is formed from the combination of intimacy and passion. This kind of love arises
when lovers have both physical and emotional, even though this feeling of
attachment does not come from the hand of commitment attraction. The recurring
example of this kind of love can be found in many archetypes emerged from the
literature, such as Romeo and Juliet, British author William Shakespeare.

2. companion Love
It is based on the combination of the elements of intimacy and commitment. In this
case, it is a love whose ambition is concern for the happiness and welfare of the
other. It is a cluster of needs such as social support, emotional support, mutual
understanding and communication. People who live this kind of love they feel
bound closely together and share both their emotions, their knowledge or their
possessions.

3. Fatuous Love
It is based on the mix of commitment and passion, without there being able to
spend the time to bring out the intimacy. This kind of love is expressed when, for
example, two people marry soon after falling in love, and has not yet emerged
component of privacy.

FIVE SUGGESTIONS TO MAKE LOVE LAST

1. SOME INDEPENDENCE
activities separately from each member. Mutually afford certain activities that are
not a danger to the relationship, but that gives them both the necessary space to
develop their personality. Shared and enrich each other. This helps strengthen
what had already formed.
2. SPEND TIME ALONE WHITH THE COUPLE
caring intimate relationships, protect them from the ravages that produces a
schedule of hard work and separate them from family commitments. It is crucial to
find time just for the two.
3. THE SENSE OF HUMOR
laugh together. Find the funny side to relativize situations and to manage them
better.
4. BEHAVE AS A UNIT AGAINST EXTERNAL PROBLEMS
no face, but, working side by side to mone forward and the fundamental point that
all goes well is, despite the passage of time, do not forget caresses, support,
encourage, nourish affection and sense of security. Thus enblos couples become
best friends and lovers.
5. MAINTAIN PHYSICAL CONTACT
must kissing, hugging and sex.

LACK OF AFFECTION: THE CAUSES OR EFFECTS OF FEELING UNLOVED

One of the chief causes of lack of zest is the feeling that one is unloved, whereas
conversely the feeling of being loved promotes zest more than anything else does.
A man may have the feeling of being unloved for a variety of reasons. He may
consider himself such a dreadful person that no one could possibly love him; he
may in childhood have had to accustom himself to receiving less love than fell to
the share of other children; or he may in fact be a person whom nobody loves. But
in this latter event the cause probably lies in a lack of self-confidence due to early
misfortune. The man who feels himself unloved may take various attitudes as a
result.
He may make desperate efforts to win affection, probably by means of exceptional
acts of kindness. In this, however, he is very likely to be unsuccessful, since the
motive of the kindnesses is easily perceived by their beneficiaries, and human
nature is so constructed that it gives affection most readily to those who seem least
to demand it. The man, therefore, who endeavors to purchase affection by
benevolent actions, becomes disillusioned by experience of human ingratitude. It
never occurs to him that the affection which he is trying to buy is of far more value
than the material benefits which he offers as its price, and yet the feeling that this is
so is at the basis of his actions.
Another man, observing that he is unloved, may seek revenge upon the world,
either by stirring up wars and revolutions, or by a pen dipped in gall, like Dean
Swift. This is a heroic reaction to misfortune, requiring a force of character
sufficient to enable a man to pit himself against the rest of the world. Few men are
able to reach such heights; the great majority, both of men and women, if they feel
themselves unloved, sink into a timid despair relieved only by occasional gleams of

envy and malice. As a rule, the lives of such people become extremely selfcentered, and the absence of affection gives them a sense of insecurity from which
they instinctively seek to escape by allowing habit to dominate their lives utterly
and completely. For those who make themselves the slaves of unvarying routine
are generally actuated by fear of a cold outer world, and by the feeling that they will
not bump into it if they walk along the same paths that they have walked along on
previous days.
Those who face life with a feeling of security are much happier than those who
face it with a feeling of insecurity, at any rate so long as their sense of security
does not lead them to disaster. And in a very great many cases, though not in all, a
sense of security will itself help a man to escape dangers to which another would
succumb. If you are walking over a chasm on a narrow plank, you are much more
likely to fall if you feel fear than if you do not. And the same thing applies to the
conduct of life. The fearless man may, of course, meet with sudden disaster, but it
is likely that he will pass unscathed through many difficult situations in which a
timid man would come to grief. This useful kind of self-confidence has, of course,
innumerable forms. One man is confident on mountains, another on the sea, and
yet another in the air. But general self-confidence towards life comes more than
anything else from being accustomed to receive as much of the right sort of
affection as one has need for. And it is this habit of mind considered as a source of
zest that I wish to speak about in the present chapter.
It is affection received, not affection given, that causes this sense of security,
though it arises most of all from affection which is reciprocal. Strictly speaking, it is
not only affection but also admiration that has this effect. Persons whose trade is to
secure public admiration, such as actors, preachers, speakers, and politicians,
come to depend more and more upon applause. When they receive their due
meed of public approbation their life is full of zest; when they do not, they become
discontented and self-centered. The diffused goodwill of a multitude does for them
what is done for others by the more concentrated affection of the few. The child

whose parents are fond of him accepts their affection as a law of nature. He does
not think very much about it, although it is of great importance to his happiness. He
thinks about the world, about the adventures that come his way and the more
marvelous adventures that will come his way when he is grown up. But behind all
these external interests there is the feeling that he will be protected from disaster
by parental affection.
The child from whom for any reason parental affection is withdrawn is likely to
become timid and unadventurous, filled with fears and self-pity, and no longer able
to meet the world in a mood of gay exploration.Such a child may set to work at a
surprisingly early age to meditate on life and death and human destiny. He
becomes an introvert, melancholy at first, but seeking ultimately the unreal
consolations of some system of philosophy or theology. The world is a higgledypiggledy place, containing things pleasant and things unpleasant in haphazard
sequence. And the desire to make an intelligible system or pattern out of it is at
bottom an outcome of fear, in fact a kind of agoraphobia or dread of open spaces.
Within the four walls of his library the timid student feels safe. If he can persuade
himself that the universe is equally tidy, he can feel almost equally safe when he
has to venture forth into the streets. Such a man, if he had received more affection,
would have feared the real world less, and would not have had to invent an ideal
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EXAMPLES OF LOVE
Love of family
Love of relationship
Love to Nature
Love to animals
Love of friends
Love of brothers
Love of child
Love of young
Love to sport

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Love to culture
Love to school
Love to read