1996 January: Samiran story

somehow the feeling wasnt good.

Life is not about this kind of
success (not writing the exam)
/ ill-gotten money (5 times) /
completing the targets anyhow
Was Samiran happy?
Was the other guy (with the
gun) happy?
More importantly, was I happy
doing all that?
I decided that I wont do any
job thats not going to give me
a sense of achievement on my
own terms or a clean
conscience.
 Samiran was an example of
a bad relationship - One
negative relationship in your
life can rob you of all the
positive energy (partner
husband, wife, or your
romantic partner) / parent /
child / siblings / some other
family member / boss /
colleague / client)
Negative relationships can
suck everything out of your
life:
Room / Math / crabs in a barrel /
publishing a book / full-time
professional speaking / flight / Black
box / pilots tone / band around wrist
Between 8 and 18, I
had a really troubled
relationship with my
dad (horrific time)
Dad-slapped-me
story we always act
emotionally before we
act logically
All of my dads
relationships were
strained
 Whats the point of
being rich and
successful if you cant
control any of your
emotions?
Some amount of
emotional stability /
mastery is absolutely
essential for big
successes.

Tapan
 Best education (IIT, IIM),
best jobs (Schlumberger,
McKinsey, IBM global) all
screwed up
Terrible relationships with
everyone parents, sister,
wife, child, bosses,
subordinates
Lives in comparison (the guy
in the other cabin is getting
$310k)
Never picked up anything
based on his passion
Has changed 17 jobs, is
unemployable
Is clinically depressed
 Is under medication all the
time

GE training story: At a
training session at GE I
asked What do you worry
the most on stage?
What do you think they
answered? All about
themselves.
Think contribution.
Till the time your focus is on
you, you wont be able to
contribute at all
 Modi asks his officials every
day What can we do to
make India and the
situations of the Indians
better?
Siddharth story - Refuse to
settle for someone elses
average.
Was Siddharth happy? NOT
AT ALL

ISB story be a reader to

be a leader
Was Rashmi happy? Maybe
ignorance is indeed bliss.
But I am not talking about
this kind of happiness either.
How long will it last? When
you have to play the big
games, you need to be on
top of your game. Not
knowing about the world is
not a solution.

Anil and Coca Cola story:

was Anil happy after
achieving his targets?
Sujay: McKinsey, boutique
consulting, wanted to quit
his job did quit finally
fitness foods was Sujay
happy?
Vijay: his dad wanted him to
marry at 21. Was he happy
after listening to his Dad
you have to stop listening to
others.
Drawing teacher story was
I happy when different
people understood me
differently. Bad image
management / personal
branding. You need to
manage your own image.
Fat Baby story was I
happy being so fat but
blaming a six-month old
baby?
Kanika story: was she happy
even after achieving so
much? NEVER ever
BUT was / is the guy who
brought her back to life
(Tony Robbins) happy? YES,
you bet!