WHAT PARENTS WANT THEIR KIDS TO KNOW

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 WHAT PARENTS WANT THEIR KIDS TO KNOW
WHAT PARENTS WANT THEIR KIDS TO
KNOW
1 We have given you to the world. You conduct
yourself in such a way to protect and safeguard
our respect and honour.
2 When we give you some advice, you understand
that we give them on our experience, and that
they are for your good.
3 We feel proud and happy to tell about you to
others out of love and affection. For that, do not
get angry.
4 We respect your cleverness and wisdom. Yet in
certain matters, we interfere and get things done
with good intention. This is also to exhibit our
love and affection towards you.
5 You can engage yourself in fun and games. At
time, we interfere to caution you not to spend
your whole time in such funs and games, bear
with us.
6 We are prepared to say "Do", "Correct", "Good",
"Excellent". Occasionally, we may say "Don't".
Do not magnify this.
7 We may not be able to take you to all the places
we go. Do not get disheartened.
8 You may like privacy. But, if that privacy is not
beneficial, we may get upset. That is why we
want to be with you always, as we feel our
responsibility.
9 Our parents did not give us all things we wanted.
This disappointment still with us. Because of
this, we give you all you ask for and feel the
pleasure. You are our dear ones.
10 We are listening what all you are saying.
Whatever things we are on, our attention will be
on you only.
11 We don't say that using our telephone in our
house is wrong. But be cautious on the time
involved, and the money spent.
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FHe;ijfsplk; bgw;nwhh;fs;
vjph;ghh;g;gJ vd;d>
c';fis cyfpw;F je;j v';fspd; bgUikia/
kjpg;ig vg;nghJk;/ kjpj;;J ele;J bfhs;S';fs;
bghpath;fs; mDgtrhypfs;. Mfnt (c';fsJ
ed;ikf;fhf) rpy mwpt[iufisr; brhy;thh;fs;
vd;gij ek;g[';fs;
c';fis eh';fs; kpft[k; nerpg;gij btspapy;
gyhplKk; fhl;Ltjpy; v';fSf;F kfpH;r;rp.
mjw;fhf eP';fs; nfhgpf;fhjPh;fs;.
c';fs; jpwikia eh';fs; kjpf;fpnwhk;.
,Ue;jhYk; c';fSf;F rpukk; ju ntz;lhk;
vd;Wjhd; eh';fns jiyapl;L rpy bray;fisr;
bra;J tpLfpnwhk;. mJ jg;gh> ghrj;jpd;
btspg;ghL vd;W bjhpe;J bfhs;S';fs;.
tpisahL';fs;. "Kjy; vl;oy; MlhjJ
tpisahl;ly;y". Mdhy; c';fSf;F mjpnyna
bghGJ fHpe;Jtplf;TlhJ vd;gjhy; eh';fs;
mt;tg;nghJ FWf;fpLfpnwhk;. bghWj;Jf;
bfhs;S';fnsd;.!
"bra;", "rhp", "ey;yJ" vd;gij brhy;y eh';fs;
jahh;. ,ilapnyna rpy "ntz;lhk", "TlhJ"
tUtJ ,ay;g[jhd;. bghpJgLj;jhjPh;fs;.
vy;yh ,lj;jpw;Fk; c';fis miHj;Jr; bry;y
,ayhky; nghfyhk;. mjw;fhf tUj;jg;gl
ntz;lhnk !
eP';fs; jdpikia tpUk;gyhk;. Mdhy; c';fs;
jdpik c';fSf;F ed;ik juhtpl;lhy; vd;d
bra;tJ> mjdhy; eh';fs; gf;fj;jpy; te;J
Jizf;F epw;fpnwhk;. v';fs; ftiy v';fSf;F.
v'fs; bgw;nwhh;fs; v';fSf;F eh';fs;
nfl;lij vy;;yhk; jutpy;iy. Me;j Vf;;fk;
,d;Wtiu ,Ug;gjhy; eP';fs; nfl;lJnk
th'fpf;; bfhLj;J epiwt[ fhz;fpnwhk;.
eP';fs; brhy;Yk; gjpiy eh';fs; nfl;Lf;
bfhz;Ljhd; ,Uf;fpnwhk;. ek;g[';fs;. ntW
v';F ghh;j;jpUe;jhYk; ftdk; v';fs; gps;isfs;
kPJjhd;.
ek;; tPl;;Lj; bjhiyngrpia eP';fs;
gad;gLj;JtJ jtW vd;W eh';fs;
brhy;ytpy;iy. Mdhy; fhyj;jpd;/ gzj;jpd;
mUikia nahrpf;ft[k;.
12 Shall we not evaluate you when you tell a lie?
Shall we not point out to you when your actions
are selfish and worthiess? Our intention is only to
mend you, and not to tease you.
13 We may scold you when you have lost a good
article. This is just to caution you to be more
carful in future. Don't presume that we have no
love for you.
14 We het you certain fashional dress you ask for.
We also desire that you wear certain dress of our
choice. Why don't you oblige us?
15 What immense pleasure we have in this world
other than occasionally hugging you warmly and
listening to your inarticulate words with your
sweet voice? We always long for such occasions.
16 You may like to enjoy trumpeting music of
cinema. At the same time, please do not deny us
enjoying carnatic music and melodious
devotional songs.
17 Always remember that we are trying to impress
upon you good and great ideals with excellent
virtues and moral goodness. The essence of all
great epics is "Do good to others silently like a
spring".
18 We do not want to prevent you from seeing T.V.
serials. But we are much worried about certain
worthless scenes which have the bad effect of
spoiling young and innocent minds. That is why
we are telling you not to be at T.V. always.
19 We expect from you always active, smart in
every work, cleanliness in your habits. Is it
wrong to expect like this? All these are only for
your good.
20 When we are at some work, you can approach us
and help us. By doing so, you can exhibit your
love towards us.
21 To know your skill, you can tell us in which field
you are inteerested, so that we can guide you
and make you an expert in that field. Aspiratons
are the seedings of achievement.
22 We provide you all the opportunities and all
necessary encouragements. It is for you to
record the achievements and satisfy our
expectations.
23 Because of the burden you have in your studies
and the home-work, we are not assigning you
any other home-work. Please do not think that
we are neglecting you.
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cd; rnfhjud;/ rnfhjhp cz;ikna ngrp eP
bgha; ngrp te;;jhy; xg;gPL bra;a khl;nlhkh>
gyUf;Fk; cjtp bra;a[k; cd; ez;gidf; Fwpj;J/
xUtUf;Fk; cjthky; Raeyj;njhL ,Uf;Fk;
cd;dplk; brhy;ypf; fhl;l khl;nlhkh> ,J
cd;id jpUj;jj;jhnd jtpu tUe;j my;y.
ey;y bghUisj; bjhiyj;Jtpl;L te;jhy;
bfh":;rth Koa[k;> jpl;Lnthk;. mLj;J mJ
khjphp epfHhky; vr;rhpf;ifahf ,Uf;f ntz;Lk;;
vd;Wjhd;. ghrkpy;yhj bfhoath;fsh eh';fs;>
c';fSf;Fg; gpoj;jkhd rpy cilfis th';fpj;
jUfpd;nwhk;. v';fs; Mirf;F eh';fs; tpUk;g[k;
rpy cilfisa[k; mzpe;jhy; vd;d>
nahrpa[';fs;.
c';fis mutizg;gij tpl/ jGt[tij tpl/
c';fs; ,dpa ngr;irf; nfl;gij tplth cyfpy;
v';fSf;F nghpd;gk; cs;sJ> me;j tha;g;ig
mt;tg;nghJ jhU';fs;.
eP';fs; rpdpkhtpy; tUk; Muthu ,iria
urpf;fyhk;. mnj neuk; bghpath;fshd eh';fs;
urpf;Fk; bkd;ikahd gf;jpg;ghly;fisa[k;
fh;ehlf ,iriaa[k/; njhj;jpu';fisa[k; nfl;f
kWf;fhjPh;fs;. nfyp bra;ahjPh;fs;.
c';fSf;F cah;e;j yl;rpak; fhl;lt[k;
ew;gz;g[fis czh;j;jt[k; eh';fs; Kd;khjphpahf
,Uf;fpnwhk; vd;gij kwthjPh;fs;.
bjhiyf;fhl;rp ghU';fs;. ntz;lhk; vd;W
jLf;ftpy;iy. kdijf; bfLj;J tpLk; rpytw;iw
eP';fs; ghh;j;Jtplyhfhnj vd;w gak; v';fSf;F
cs;sJ. mjdhy;jhd rjh bjhiyf;fhl;rp
ghh;f;fhnj vd;W vr;rhpf;nwhk;. fz;kzpfns!
c';fsplk; RWRWg;g[/ ntiyapy; jpwik/ Rj;j
czh;t[ ,tw;iw eh';fs; vjph;ghh;gJ jtwh>
c';fs; ed;ikf;Fj;jhnd>
eh';fs; ntiyapypUf;Fk;nghJ eP';fs; mUfpy;
te;J ,ij mLf;fth/ ,ij btl;oj;juth/ ,ij
bfhz;L ngha; itf;fth vd;W nfl;L cjtp
bra;ayhnk! c';fs; md;ig ,g;goa[k;
btspg;gLj;J';fs;;!
c';fs; Mw;wiy eh'fs; g[hpe;J bfhs;SkhW
c';fSf;F ve;jj; Jiwapy; Mh;tk; cs;sJ
vd;gij v';fsplk; brhy;Y';fs;
tha;g;g[fisa[k;/ trjpfisa[k; eh'fs; bra;J
jUfpnwhk;. Rhjidfis c';fsplkpUe;J
vjph;ghh;;g;gJ jtwy;ynt!
gog;gpd; Rik/ tPl;Lg;ghl';fspd; Rik mjpfk;
cs;sjhy; c';fis tPl;L ntiy bra;a mjpfk;
Vt[tjpy;iy. c';fis g[wf;fzpf;fpnwhk; vd;W
epidf;fhjPh;fs;.
24 Please do not behave in such a way that makes
us feel shy and shameful, or look small in the
eyes of others. We cannot bear such things.
Always do things that makes us keep our heads
high.
25 We are not telling you all our unhappy problems.
We know that may hurt you also.
26 We also like to play with you. But at times, we
may not be able to spare our time. That does not fpilf;Fk;nghJ MLnthk;. gy ntiyr;
mean that we are neglecting you. Please adjust
in such occasions.
27 We always wish to fulfill our promise given to
you. If we ae not able to honour any of the
promises, please understand that it is so because ghLgLfpd;nwhk;. elj;j KoahJ vd;why;
of certain unexpected problems.
28 We often go to temples and offer poojas to pray
for the happy future of our children to lead a
decent life as our worthy heirs. You may also
pray for the good of us.
29 why can't you sit along with us and hear our past v';fSld; rpwpJ neuk; mkh;e;J v';fs; giHa
experiences, and how we got out successfully in
our difficult trails? Don't "poohpooh" us and run cs;sk; g{hpf;Fnk! "ngh';fs;;. c';fSf;F ntW
away with contempt.
30 We would like to know about your friends. Your
friends have a significant role in moulding your bfhs;tJ kpf mtrpak;. c';fs; th;H;f;ifia
life. So please take step to introduce your
friends to us.
31 Why can't you share your ideas and experiences
about the news and stories you have read, and
other important events you have participated?
32 Please allow us to suggest about your hair-style
and your dress-design that may be most suitable
to you.
33 We have been always telling you not to dislike or
have aversion to any of your subjects or to have
prejudice against any of your teachers. We say
this only for your good. Respect your Teacher
always.
34 You can save the small presents we give you on
special occasions like your birthday, pongal and
Deepavali and you may also give small presents
to us on certain occasions like our birthday and
marriage day. We will be immensly pleased in
your gestures like this and these may give us a
healthy feeling.
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eP';fs; bghpath;fshd v';fisf; nfyp
bra;tjhfnth mtkhdg;gLj;Jtjhfnth
njhd;Wk;go Tl ele;J tplhjPh;fs;. v';fshy;
jh';fpf;; bfhs;;s KoahJ.
v';fs; ftiyfisbay;yhk; eh';fs; c';fsplk;
brhy;tjpy;iy. gp";Rfshd c';fsplk;
gpur;rid./ ftiy vd;W jpz[pj;J tUj;jg;gl
itf;f eh';fs; tpUk;gtpy;iy. ,J
bgUe;;jd;ik vd;W g[hpe;J bfhs;S';fs;.
c';fnshL tpisahl Mirjhd;. rkak;
RikfspUf;Fk;nghJ/ nfuk;; Mlnth/
ge;jhlnth v';fshy; tu ,aytpy;iy vd;why;
v';fs; epiyikia mDrhpj;J ele;J bfhs;tJ
g[j;jprhypj;jdk;.
c';fSf;Fj; je;j thf;FWjpfis
epiwntw;wj;jhd; bgw;nwhh;fshfpa eh';;fs;
thf;FWjp juj; ja';Fnthk;. v'fs;
epjpepiyik re;jh;g;gk; ,tw;iw mwpe;J ele;J
bfhs;S';fnsd;.
eh';fs; nfhtpy; bry;tJk;/ g{i$ bra;tJk;
v';fs; tU';fhy re;jjpfshd c';fSf;;fhfnt.
,J rj;;jpak;. eP';fSk; v';fSf;fhfg;
gpuhh;j;jid bra;;ayhnk.
fijfisf; nfl;lhy; vd;d> mjpy; v';fs;
tp#ank ,y;;iy" vd;W XlhjPhfs;.
c';fs; ez;gh;fisg; gw;wp eh';fs; mwpe;J
mikj;Jf; bfhs;tjpy; el;g[f;F kpFe;j g';;Fz;L.
ez;gh;fis v';fsplk; miHj;J
mwpKfg;gLj;J';fs;
eP';fs; goj;j bra;jpfs;. fijfs;. eP';fs; urpj;j
glf; fhl;rpfs;. eld';fs; Fwpj;J bghpath;fshd
v';fsplk; brhd;dhy; vd;d>
Ko mikg;g[. cil. ,tw;wpy; c';fSf;F
Vw;wij eh';fSk; njh;t[ bra;a mDkjpa[';fs;.
ve;j ghlj;ijnah. Ve;j Mrphpaiunah
btWf;ff; TlhJ vd;W eh';fs; brhy;tJ c';fs;
ed;ikf;fhfnt. FUit vg;nghJk; kjpf;f
ntz;Lk;.
eh';fs; jUk; md;gspg;g[/ +gha;fis (gpwe;j
ehs;/ jPghtsp. bgh';fy; ghpRfis) nrkpj;J
v';fs; gpwe;j ehs;. kz ehs; ,tw;wpy; xU rpW
md;g[g; ghpR jhU';fs;. v';fs; cs;sj;jpd;
fspg;g[ fliy tplg; bghpjhFnk.
35 We fully trust you and have full faith on you.
Let your actions be such that they do not
dislodge our belief.
36 We point out even your trifle mistakes. Do you
know why we do like this? Because we want
you grow with high ideals and become grown ups
with high qualities.
37 Today's world is full of competitions. Only people
with ability and high qualities can prosper in life.
That is why we give more importance on your
getting high markds so that you may also
become clever, wise, able and skilful.
38 We expect you to have your meals along with us
atleast once in a day. When you grow up, such
occasions may be rare. You may go and live in
other places because of your job elsewhere. Let
us have these pleasant occasions at least now
when you are young.
39 We are your custodians. Tell us your grievances.
We are here to guide you. Feel free and be
relaxed.
40 On auspicious and festival days come with us to
the temple. Your company will make us happy.
41 Make your friends feel that your parents are
affectionate and good.
42 When we are not in good moods and if we use
some harsh words, kindly ignore them.
43 You can share our family works like getting
vegetables from the market, sending money by
M.O., depositing money for R.D. in the Post
Office and getting D.D. from the bank etc., By
doing these things, you stand to gain valuable
experience. Don't Be a book-worm.
44 You are given full freedom to meet your friends
and spend time with them. Also permit us to
know whether your friends are good.
45 You can express your gratitude and affection to
your family members whenever they do good
things for you.
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c';fis KGikahf ek;g[fpnwhk;. ek;gpf;if
rpjwhky; eP';fs; ele;J bfhs;S'fs;.
eh';fs; c';fsplk; rpW Fiwfs; fz;lhy; Tl
Rl;of; fhl;Lfpnwhk;. Vd; bjhpa[kh> Fiw eP';fp
eP';fs; KGikahd ey;yth;fs;; Mfj;jhd;.
,d;iwa cyfk; nghl;o epiwe;jJ. jpwik
,Ug;gtnd Kd;Df;F tuKoa[k;. v';fs;
gps;isfs; jpwikrhypahf jpfH ntz;Lk;. Vd;W
eh';fs; vjph;ghh;g;gjhy; kjpg;bgz;;Df;Fk; kjpg;g[
bfhLf;fpnwhk;. jat[bra;J g[hpe;J
bfhs;S';fs;.
xUntisahtJ v';fSld; nrh;e;J mkh;eJ
rhg;gpL';fs;. taJ tsUk;nghJ ,e;j
tha;g;g[fs; Fiwayhk;. ntiy jpUkzk; vd;W
Mfp btspna gphpe;J bry;y nehplyhk;.
,g;nghjhtJ me;j ,dpa mDgtj;ij bgw
Kaw;rp bra;a[';fs;.
c';;fSf;F eh';fs; rpwe;j ghJfhty;. v';fsplk;
c';fs; kdg;g[Gf;fj;ijf; bfhl;o tpL';fs;.
kdjpy; itj;J ntfhjPhfs;.
eh';fs; ey;y ehs;. jpUehspny nfhtpYf;F
miHj;jhy; rhf;F nghf;F brhy;yp tuhky;
,Ue;J tplhjPhfs;. v';;fs; kdk; nehFk;.
c';fs; ez;gh;fsplk; "v';fs;; bgw;;nwhh;fs;
ghrkhdth;fs;/. ey;yth;fs;" vd;gij brhy;yp
ita[';fs;
eh';fs; nfhgj;jpy; VjhtJ thh;j;ijfis
ngrptpl;lhy; NH;epiyia kdjpy; itj;Jf;
bfhz;L kd;dpj;J tpL';fs;. gpd;dh; "eP';fs;
mg;go ngrpapUf;f ntz;lhk;" vd;W vLj;Jr;
brhy;Y';fs;.
re;ijf;F;r; brd;W fha;fwp th';FtJ./ jghy;
MgP!;/ ng';;f; bry;tJ nghd;w rpWrpW
cjtpfisr; bra;J bghpa kfpH;r;rpia
v';fSf;F juyhnk!. oo vLg;gJ.
Mh;.o.nghLtJ. ryhd; vGJtJ. Vk;X bra;tJ
,tw;iw gw;wp mwpt[k; c';fSf;F fpilf;Fnk.
c';fs; jFjpia ep+gpf;ft[k; tha;g;g[
fpilf;Fnk. btWk; g[j;jfg;g[Gthf
,Uf;fhjPhfs;.
ez;gh;fSld; eP';fs; v';Fk; bry;yyhk;.
ngryhk;. eh';fs; mjw;F mDkjp jUfpnwhk;.
mJ jPa el;;gh/ ey;y el;;gh vd;W nrhjpj;J mwpa
v';fSf;F tha;g;g[ jhU';fs;.
ey;;y rikay; bra;J nghl;lhy; mk;khitg;
ghuhl;L';fs;. mHfhd xU cil th';fp je;jhy;
mg;ght[f;F md;g[ld;; xU Kj;;jk; juyhnk.!
nehl;il ijj;;Jj; je;j j';iff;F nuh$hg;g{/
gl;ld; ijj;Jj; je;j ghl;of;F xU rgh#;.
,g;go c';fshy; Koe;jij bra;J ed;wpia
fhl;lyhnk.
46 We won't interfere in small matters happening in c';fs; gs;spapy; rpWrpW gpur;rpidfs; te;jhy;
your institution. But kindly see that you don't eh';fs; jiyapl khl;nlhk;. mJ FLk;g
spiol our family prestige. If the matter is serious, bfsutj;ij Fiyf;fhj mst[ ghh;j;Jf;
tell us, we will come to your rescue and bfhs;S';fs;. bghpjhdhy; v';fsplk; brhy;yp
guidance. jPh;t[ fhD';;fs;.
47 Whatever we have,they are for you. Don't spoil v';fSilaJ vd;W eh';fs; itj;Js;sJ
them without knowing their values. Please vy;yhk; c';fSf;fhfj;jhd;. cilj;;J/ gGJ
handle them with care. bra;J mtw;wpd; mUikia czuhk;y;
tPrptplhjPh;fs;. ftdkhff; ifahS';fs;.
48 We care for your future. Feel safe and secured. c';;fs; vjph;fhyk; Fwpj;J v';fSf;Fk; mf;fiw/
bjhiynehf;F cz;L. gj;jpukhf ,Ug;gjhf
czU';fs;. v';fs; ghJfhg;g[ tisak;
c';fis Rw;wpna ,Uf;Fk;./
49 You have been provided better facilities v';fSf;F fpilf;fhj trjpfis c';fSf;F
comparatively. Be happy and contented. eh';fs; tH';;fp ,Uf;fpnwhk;. mij epidj;J
Kfkyh;;r;rp[a[k;/ kdkfpH;r;rpa[k; bfhs;S';fs;.
50 About us: we are your parents with full of v';fisf; Fwpj;J
Love md;g[k;. Mh;tKk;. ghrKk;/ ghpt[k;
Affection and vjph;ghh;gg[[k; epiwe;;Js;s bgw;nwhh;fs; eh';fs;
Positive Expectations ,tw;wpd; fhuzkhf rpy rkak;/ mjpf jiyaPL
Because of these, we are compelled mjpf fz;og;g[/ mjpf bry;yk;/ mjpfk; Fw;wk;
Fiw
to interfere in some of your matters Twy;/ mjpf mwpt[[iu
to be strict with you to maintain discipline mjpf vr;rhpf;if bra;a neuyhk;.
To find fault on your short comings, eh';fs; bghy;yhjth;fs; my;yh;
eh';fs; bfhLikf;fhuh;fs; my;yh;. eh';fs;
gpothjf;fhuh;f;s my;yh;
to give suitable advice, proper guidance etc., and eh';;fs; fl;;Lg;ghl;Lf;fhuh;fs; my;yh;/ eh';fs;
to caution you to avoid failures Raeythjpfs; my;yh. eh';fs; rh;thjpfhhpfs;
my;yh;, eh';;fs; gHikthjpfs; my;yh
Our beloved children v';fs; fz;kzpfns….
We want you to become c'fis ey;y gps;isfshf/ ty;yth;fshf/
good culture citizens xGf;fkhdth;fshf/ tPuk; kpf;fth;fshf/
good natured citizens tpntfk; cs;sth;fshf/ g[dpjkhdth;fshf/
bold citizens g[fGf;Fhpath;fshf Mf;Ftnj v';fs; thH;;tpd;
inteligent citizens nehf;fk;. v';fs; gpuhh;;j;jidfs;
c';fSf;fhfnt.
citizens with good character and behaviour v';fs; jpahf';fs; c';fSf;fhfnt/ v';fs;
citizens of name and fame thH;nt c';fSf;;fhfj;jhnd !
we pray for you. Our sacrifices for you.
In short, we are for you g[[hpe;J bfhz;L kjpj;;J thH;e;jhy; nghJk; !
Please Understand us, What else we want? ntbwd;d ntz;Lk; v';fSf;F >
BY md;g[ld;
N. PRASANNAM gpurd;dk;
Cell : 94880-19015 Cell : 94880-19015
n.prasannam@yahoo.com
n.prasannam@gmail.com,
COURTESY: SRI AYYAPPA SANGAM, Trichy ed;wp _ Iag;g r';fk; jpUr;;rp