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Psyc 320 Final Paper
Psyc 320 Final Paper
Psyc 320 Final Paper
Opportunity is what consistently separates the successful from those who struggle. That
simple fact is one of the most significant overarching themes of the past semester in Childrens
Studies. Children lucky enough to have a variety of opportunities often take advantage of them,
while those who lack opportunity grow up without a choice. This semester has challenged me
not only to think of ways in which I can help children in need, but also to reconcile with the fact
that I am a white, heterosexual, and relatively wealthy male and have been extremely lucky
throughout my life while many others have not. Additionally, the powerfully impactful subjects
and discussions in the class seemed to intertwine with the equally profound journey of
attempting to find a post-collegiate identity. It is uncanny and, likely purposeful, how the topics
of this class tended to stick with me as I thought about my future. As I am only a few short
months away from graduation and exiting the Bucknell bubble, I have thought about a variety of
ways in which I may impact the lives of children I come into contact with and even those I do
not.
psychology and sport, which is why I applied to a variety of counseling psychology PhD
programs with a concentration in sports psychology. While those interests do not necessarily
point towards children, I have no reservations about working, and would welcome the
opportunity to work, with children. As such, my career goals might even directly involve
children on a counseling scale. In fact, as I gave it more thought, I have extra motivation to
provide counseling help to children in need due to my own successful sessions with a therapist
when I was younger. Moreover, while I currently want to pursue my goal of becoming a
counseling psychologist for athletes, I would happily widen my practice to include children in
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need, especially with the added perspective of athletics and physical activity. For example, some
children (and people in general) may mentally benefit from added physical activity or being part
of a team as I have found to be the case within my own life. It would be intriguing to utilize
My ability to find a trusted therapist to help me fight my own inner demons brings to
mind an important opportunity that some lack: a guide or role model. In A Long Way Gone,
Ishmael Beah is blessed by Esthers presence in his life. She is a significant reason for Beahs
dramatic recovery. Only a short while after meeting Ishmael, Esther notices bullet wounds on
his legs and when she asks him what happened he notes that, her face filled with sorrow and her
voice [shook] (Beah, 154). When he began to talk, even though he says he had no desire to tell
her, she listened attentively[and] her eyes were glued to [his] face (Beah, 155). Though
Esther may not have realized the extent of the impact she would eventually have on Ishmael, her
intense commitment to reaching him and simply providing a listening ear gave Ishmael
something consistent to hold onto. That relationship between Esther and Ishmael blossomed into
what I believe is the defining factor largely responsible for returning him from the dehumanized
I cannot claim that my relationship with my therapist had anywhere near as large of an
impact on my life as Esthers with Ishmael, but what I can say is that I am lucky to have had him
just the same. I learned, through therapy, that my often-wandering mind did not have to control
me and that I could find ways to calm myself when necessary. Likewise, Ishmael rediscovered
the ability to enjoy life and experience emotions through self-reflection and productive
discussion with Esther. These meaningful relationships are present in many success stories, but
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are absent in a large portion of failures. There are many kids in the world who do not have the
privilege of attending therapy, or even someone to lend an ear, for something as simple as
feeling depressed or anxious. Some parents are emotionally unavailable, refusing to seek out
help for their mentally-ailing children. Additionally, even if they desire to help their child, many
families do not have the resources necessary to get that help. With a lack of help, many kids turn
towards unhealthy self-treatment behaviors such as drug-use or worse, suicide. In Beahs case,
there are many other child soldiers who did not have the advantage of developing a meaningful
relationship with an Esther of their own. They, by virtue of lacking a helping hand, have a
his book, Our Kids. Informal mentors are natural relationships that spring up with teachers,
pastors, coaches, family friends, and so forth. Putnam states, as [has been] seen repeatedly,
[informal mentors] often play a critical role in helping a child develop his or her full potential
(Putnam, 213). Something that is cause for concern, however, is the disproportionality of these
types of mentors for kids at opposite ends of the wealth gap. In fact, Putnam notes that kids
from affluent families are two to three times more likely to have such a mentor (Putnam, 214).
It is of no wonder, then, that children from affluent families have such an increased chance at
success in life. Not only do they have the ability to live without the worry and stress associated
with the lack of money, but they also have the increased availability of mentors to guide them
That inequality of experience has inspired me to think about every possible interaction I
may have with children in my future, both in everyday life and as a result of my profession. As a
beneficial rapport with all of my clients. For my younger clients, it is important that I engage
them to such a degree that they feel that they can trust me and I can give them both an informal
and formal mentor. In other words, it will be my job to be mentor clients towards healthy mental
coping mechanisms, but it is my goal to mentor anyone who needs it and to provide a listening
ear whenever necessary. Surely, this goes beyond my eventual occupation as I have seen how
even a friendly neighbor or tough-loving coach can become a powerful influence on a childs
development. As a result of reading about Esthers effect on Ishmael as well as the countless
other examples of mentors we discussed in class, I have been moved to view nearly every
interaction with others as though I could have a similarly grandiose effect. I want to make
certain that my interactions with others result in positive reactions and developments rather than
negative ones.
a result of the field experience portion of the class, I was able to get involved as a madrich at
Congregation Beth El and was put in charge of the youngest kids there. My experience at Beth
El affected me in ways I never expected and I honestly have a tough time comprehending. I have
never been a spiritual or religious person and often scoff at what I view as ridiculous stories
told by religious texts, yet I now fully realize an internal tie to Judaic culture. I began to take
note of such a connection when I went on birthright last winter, but being immediately accepted
mind. Having gone to Hebrew school and observing Jewish customs for years myself caused,
within me, an instant familiarity and calmness about whatever my duties would be. I have
realized that it is not necessary for me to intensely believe in the spiritual side of my religion to
align with its customs. In fact, I now view my religion as a familial bond between myself and
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others who were raised with the same cultural background. It is that familiarity that allowed me
to feel so comfortable taking over complete control of the reigns as a teacher for the 4-6-year-
olds.
also witnessed firsthand my own ability to have a direct impact on children. When I initially met
with Rabbi Mandel about volunteering at the congregation, she assured me that I would have my
hands full. When I asked her what she meant, she said that most of the kids had trouble sitting
still and paying attention and that I would be in charge of them. She also mentioned that it
would definitely benefit me to see their interactions among themselves and with adults in terms
I took my job and tweaked it to the best of my ability whenever I was there to engage the
kids not as blank slates to fill with my assigned information, but as intelligent beings who had
as much to offer as I did. For example, when I was given pages from a Hebrew book to teach, I
often asked the kids how they thought they should learn the information. Many times, they
would ask to write on the white board and I happily obliged. Initially, I would write Hebrew
words on the board and prompt them to read along with me. Surprisingly, they took to it
extremely well, especially when offered the reward of getting to challenge me in tic-tac-toe after
the lesson! Upon later sessions, I was astounded when they asked me whether they could write
on the board and try to trick me! As they tried their best to make up complex words to trick
me, they actively engaged in their own learning process. Many times, while I was simply an aid
and another adult was teaching the class, the adults would shrug off questions or ignore outbursts
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from the kids. Through the application of what I had learned in class and seen in Denmark, I feel
that I was able to make a difference with the kids in my class, no matter how small. For that
reason, I feel that it is important that I continue to volunteer at Beth El and also to stay involved
When I witnessed the valuable questions of the kids at my field placement being
shrugged off by some of the adults and the kids parents, I thought a lot about Robert Coles
book, The Spiritual Lives of Children. The piece perfectly outlines what I witnessed at my
placement, which was the curious and intelligent nature of children. It is a wonder to me just
how much knowledge young children seek and it is such a shame to see that curiosity squashed
by adults who believe they are teaching more valuable information or worse, that the kids have
nothing of worth to say or inquire. One of my favorite sections of Coles book takes place when
Coles asks children to draw what they think God looks like. A girl accuses a boy of giving God
his own features to which the boy responds, no one has ever seen God, not before you die. So
how can you know? He probably looks different a lot of the time I mean, you see Him your
way, and maybe the next person sees Him some other way. The girl then questions, you
meanHe can change the way He looks? (Coles, 44). These are not simple questions that have
right and wrong answers and grown adults often ask themselves similar questions when they are
struggling with their spirituality. Religion, thus, is an extremely interesting facet of humanity to
examine in terms of child development. If children are capable of forming such complex
questions and answers, then perhaps it is about time we started treating them like the intelligent
Robert Putnam also makes note of a correlation between affluence and religiosity, further
expanding the gap in experiences of children based on opportunity. In order to formulate and ask
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such questions about higher powers and spirituality in general, that religious experience must
first be breached. While Putnam does admit that religious engagement has traditionally been
less class-biased than virtually any other sort of community or extracurricular activity, he says
that in modern America poor families are generally less involved in religious communities than
affluent families (Putnam, 224). Its amazing that even something as simple as religious belief
is becoming more exclusive. This is likely due to the fact that less affluent families have more
pressing things to worry about than heading to church. Rather, they are more concerned with
working in order to provide for their family and put food on the table.
This disparity is yet another exemplification of how the lack of options can harm the
development of children. Certainly, I am not claiming that religion is a necessary practice for
full development as I, myself, am not significantly spiritual. However, having the ability to
explore spirituality for oneself is an important part of finding who you are. Further, the fact that
poorer families are becoming less involved in religious activity brings to mind Maslows
hierarchy of needs. For many, religion can be a form of self-actualizing behavior. Yet, if the
simple needs of a family are not being met due to lack of available money and time, then self-
actualization is out of reach. Religion takes a back seat to work, food, and sleep and the children
growing up in those households do not get the same experiences as their affluent counterparts.
Childrens Studies has also highlighted many of the important factors that are included in
being a successful parent. Although not in my immediate future, I do hope to have children of
my own one day and strive to directly affect them in the most positive of ways. Just as
interactions with people outside the family can have a substantial influence on the development
of a child, the interactions between parent and child are of the utmost importance. My goal as an
eventual parent is to take all that I have learned through my experiences and provide my child
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with the tools to succeed. That success need not be interpreted in the American way. In other
class as well as my experience in Denmark over the summer. Taking in a variety of perspectives
to both my parents and my own education. Putnam illustrates a very clear difference between
the goals of parents of varying levels of education. He writes, well-educated parents aim to
raise autonomous, independent, and self-directed children with high self-esteem and the ability to
make good choices, whereas less educated parents focus on discipline and obedience and
conformity to pre-established rules (Putnam, 119). This difference in parenting style perfectly
illustrates class differences and the effects of those styles on the children who grow up in such
environments. Children who grow up in homes where they are encouraged to develop into an
independent and self-reliant being are more likely to be creative and eventually find occupations
they enjoy and in which they can thrive. The children who grow up in environments where they
are simply encouraged to be obedient do not necessarily learn skills necessary for higher-level
jobs. Moreover, the self-reliant child will ask questions and challenge him/herself in creating his
own governing policies whereas the obedient child will tend to look to others for answers or
tasks.
Autonomy is an important skillset because it establishes within a person the drive to succeed and
do something he/she finds fulfilling. Obedience, in itself, is an odd term because it entails the
necessity of complying with the orders of someone of higher status. Thus, while I believe a
person to recognize the merit of another persons viewpoint or position while also respectfully
wrestling with ones own opinions. I credit my own education for the ability to reason with the
pitfalls and benefits of each parenting styles even if I fail to individually agree or disagree with
their merits.
In fact, even though I understand the negative obedience implications, I had difficulties
seeing the negatives of the practice of spanking. I wrestled with my opinions and lack of
experience in my journal, mostly through stories I had heard from friends and acquaintances
about experiences with the practice in their own homes. In my journals, I spoke of how friends
have recounted stories about how being spanked reinforced the fact that a behavior they had
exhibited was bad or wrong and how they ceased such conduct. I also mentioned that, in Social
Psychology, I had learned about a study that said spanking worked under the conditions that it
was immediate, the reasoning was explained beforehand, and that the punishment fit the crime.
Gershoff that explain in detail why spanking is harmful to the development of children.
Gershoffs many studies have found that spanking has not been shown to have a significant
effect on reducing unwanted behaviors and has been tied to aggressive behavior in children who
As I scanned her various studies and her reasoning behind encouraging Americans to
abandon such an ineffective and harmful practice (Gershoff, 2013), her points definitely
resonated with me in ways I had not previously thought about. It, of course, makes sense that
hitting children would result in aggressive behavior from the children themselves. If children are
supposed to look up to, and learn from, their parents, then hitting them for doing something
deemed inappropriate or bad would simply teach them to do the same to others. What
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behaviors. Having never been spanked, yet hearing success stories from many friends, caused
me to believe in the effectiveness of the practice and simply the cultural difference of who
utilized spanking as a parenting tactic. I did not think about the possible confounding factors
that provided air bags allowing my friends to develop successfully, even withstanding the
practice of spanking. I never planned on spanking my eventual children, but Professor Boyatzis
push for me to read into the practice that I viewed as relatively positive, has definitely put it in
a slightly different perspective. My friends who were spanked, almost across the board, had
many avenues towards success that offset the negative consequences of spanking.
Having my views challenged as well as having the ability to discuss important issues in a
respectful and intellectual environment all semester long has influenced and motivated me to
start conversations with classmates and people I may meet down the line. Maybe my views on
spanking have not entirely been changed, but I have to say that I now have a more complete view
of the effects as well as the factors that contribute to success stories. In this way, I feel that it
is my duty to speak up and challenge the views of others I may meet whenever I may have useful
indirectly influence the lives of all children, but in the event that I can try to even engage another
parent in fruitful discussion about how to best go about raising children perhaps I can have a
For example, in class we talked about the positives and negatives of approaching a man
in Walmart who had likely given his son a black eye. However unlikely it is that the man may
change his ways based on a conversation with a stranger, I figure it is worth a shot if there is
spanking, there is no action that deserves a physical response like the one we suspected the father
had enacted. Thus, maybe having an uncomfortable conversation with someone unfamiliar in
Walmart would cause the father to think twice about his actions the next time his son provoked
his anger. Having the personal courage to stand up to, or even simply talk to, someone with
opposing views could significantly affect the children that both parties come into contact with.
In a country that just elected Donald Trump, it is now more important than ever to speak out
against injustice and make sure that all voices are heard, especially those of children who cannot
This class has also convinced me of the variety of ways in which I can affect the lives of
children, even without confrontation of others or direct contact. As an eventual parent, I fully
intend on being a part of the school board of whatever school system my child attends.
Educational policy changes will affect more than just my own child and my goal is to make sure
that whatever those changes are, they will have the outcome of creating a more equal experience
for all students. No matter a childs background, he/she is entitled to the same educational
opportunities as every other child and it is my goal to make sure that I speak out against any
policy that will have an opposing effect. My only hope is that by the time I am old and ready
enough to be a part of an educational board, that America has not changed so much that I am the
Putnam makes clear that where and who you grow up with matters. The school you
attend has a direct effect on how successful you become in life. In fact, he notes that what kids
from affluent homes and neighborhoods bring to school tends to encourage higher achievement
motivation (Putnam, 169). If our goal is to produce the best possible students and to become a
nation that is truly an embodiment of equality, we must make sure that our education system
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allows for that to be a possibility. As a single person, it is hard to have the expectations of
causing high-level change, particularly in a nation that seems to be so divided. However, if I can
speak up for the kids who have more challenges to face as a member of a school board, perhaps
Even something as simple as paying attention to my purchases can have a positive result
on the lives of children. When we read, and looked at Lewis Hines project, Kids at Work, it
struck a chord within me due to the fact that I rarely think of child labor as something that took
place here in the United States and not even that long ago. The horrible pictures of little boys
covered from head to toe in black soot from the coal mines and kids sitting next to their parents
shucking oysters made me wish I could have helped them. When these kids should have been in
school or experiencing the innocent joys of childhood, they were working for pennies per day in
order to help their families get by. I am so glad that the practice of child labor has been outlawed
We watched a video in class called When Children Do the Work, that showed the
horrible conditions that youth toil in around the world. The children are treated terribly and
forced to work to pay off debts that sometimes are the result of their parents. Seeing both the
pictures of kids in America as well as modern day video of child labor was disturbing to say the
least. It is truly hard to think about an issue like this because I have neither experienced it
personally nor have I even been consistently made aware of its presence. It is amazing to think
how many Americans, myself included, are allowed to live in bliss simply because of their
ignorance. Therefore, even doing a bit more research before I buy a soccer ball or piece of
clothing can be a small act that I can do to better the lives of children around the globe. By
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making sure that the brands of products that I purchase are made by companies that do not
employ children, I can make my own small statement against those companies that do.
There are a variety of ways in which I can and will impact the lives of children. Even as
I move past this semester in Childrens Studies, the lessons I have learned, the discussions of
which I have been a part, and the experiences I have had will influence my decisions and
perspectives on a variety of topics that may arise. My goal is to make a positive impact, no
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Gershoff, Elizabeth T. "Spanking and Child Development: We Know Enough Now to Stop
Hitting Our Children." Child Development Perspectives 7.3 (2013): 133-37. Web.
Putnam, Robert D. Our Kids: The American Dream in Crisis. New York: Simon & Schuster,
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When Children Do the Work. Dir. Patrice O'Neil. The Working Group, 2005. Web.