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Mc lc
Na ly nc .................................................................................................................... 5
Yu mnh......................................................................................................................... 7
Bit mnh......................................................................................................................... 9
y lc ny ................................................................................................................ 13
Tnh Yu ....................................................................................................................... 15
Sc mnh ca t tng ................................................................................................. 18
Khen.............................................................................................................................. 21
T duy tch cc l g ? .................................................................................................. 24
Lut Hp Dn................................................................................................................ 27
Nhng git nc hm nay ............................................................................................ 32
Tch cc hay tiu cc? Yu hay th ?........................................................................... 36
T duy tch ccThuc v cuc i.......................................................................... 39
Cc phn bin chng t duy tch cc............................................................................ 42
Nn tng ca t duy tch cc ........................................................................................ 45
Tch cc n mc no ? ................................................................................................ 48
Cng hng tch cc..................................................................................................... 51
Chin u vi chnh mnh ? .......................................................................................... 55
T duy tch cc lm c g cho ta ?............................................................................ 59
Khi no ta cn t duy tch cc nht ?............................................................................ 62
Hnh ng tch cc th no ?........................................................................................ 66
Lm th no tip thu c nhiu kin thc? ............................................................ 69
Cng hay nhu? Mnh hay yu? .................................................................................. 72
Lm th no ph phn tch cc ?.............................................................................. 76
Thnh cng l g?.......................................................................................................... 80
Hy t to c hi........................................................................................................... 83
Cn quan tm ngi khc ngh g v mnh ? ................................................................ 86
Tch cc hay tiu cc nhn t bn ngoi....................................................................... 89
Phi c danh g vi ni sng ? ...................................................................................... 91
i bin m ci mt mnh .............................................................................................. 95
Lm sao a t nc i ln ? ...................................................................................... 96
Trn nh Honh 2
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Na ly nc
Posted on Thng Hai 7, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cc bn mn,
Vui bun, yu ght, tch cc tiu cc, khng phi t ngoi n. Cng khng phi l bNm
tnh tri sinh. Chng ch l thi quen ca ta phn ng li vi cc tc nhn bn ngoi. Nu
ta quen cu nhu, phn nn, tiu cc, th c i ta lun lun cu nhu, phn nn, tiu cc.
(V c l l cng s kt hn vi ngi cu nhu, phn nn, tiu cc. Ni no vung ny).
Nu ta quen mm ci, vui v, nng nhit, th c i ta lun lun mm ci, vui v, nng
nhit.
V trong hai loi ngi ny, bn bit l ai s thnh cng trong i, phi khng?
Trn nh Honh 5
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Victory!
Trn nh Honh 6
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Mn
Honh
Stumble It!
Yu mnh
Posted on Thng Hai 9, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Trn nh Honh 7
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Tt c cc tn gio u nng niu tn trng i sng con ngi. Trong cc tn gio thuc
truyn thng Moses (Do thi gio, Thin cha gio, v Hi gio), con ngi c thng
to ra theo hnh nh ca ngi. Trong Pht gio, c lm ngi kh nh mt con ra
cht mt, c mi trm nm mi ngc u ln khi mt bin mt ln, v tm cch chui u
vo l nh ca mt khc g tri lnh bnh trn mt nc, b gi ng, gi Ty, gi Nam,
gi Bc thi tri dt ht phng ny n phng khc.
Vn v nh thng!
Trn nh Honh 8
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V yu khng phi ch l li ni. Cng khng phi ch l cm tnh. Phn ln nht ca tnh
yu l hnh ng bn .
Mn,
Honh
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Bit mnh
Posted on Thng Hai 11, 2009 by tdhoanh
Trn nh Honh 9
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Cc bn mn,
Bn trm nm trc cng nguyn, Socrates li hai t bt t, vng vang sut my ngn
nm lch s trit l ty phng: Bit mnh (gnthi seauton, know thyself). Bit v
chnh mnh tc l bit v con ngi, tc l bit v i sng v ngha ca n. Binh php
Tn gia ni: Bit mnh bit ngi, trm trn trm thng. Nhng nu ta thc s bit r
v ta, th c l l ta cng bit gn ht v ngi ri, v ngi vi ta c l ging nhau
khong 90 phn trm v ch 10 phn trm l khc nhau.
Nhng bit mnh khng phi l vic d. Benjamin Franklin vit: C ba iu cng/kh-
khn (hard) nhtthp, kim cng, v bit chnh mnh. i khi ta c cm tng l ta
bit rt r v chnh mnh. Tuy nhin, bit c ngha l kim sot c. Nu ta bit ch
trm s suy ngh v hnh ng nh th no, ng nhin l ta khng th b trm. Nhng
bao nhiu ln b hng xm ch ni mt cu nghe hi chanh chua l ta bc la hng
hc tc th, trc khi kp suy ngh Nn ni gin khng? bao nhiu ln ta bit l nn
lm ha vi hn, nhng h thy mt hn th ta li ch mun tt cho hn mt ci, th l ta
li bc sang hng khc? bao nhiu ln ta bit khoe khoang l khng hay, nhng
vn tip tc khoe khoang?
H thn kinh, h suy tng ca chng ta, c lp trnh theo thi quen. C th m chy,
khng cn ta iu khin, m thng th cng khng cho ta iu khin. Mt s cc thi
quen ny ta c th thy c. Mt s thi quen khc, nht l thi quen v cm tnh, ta ch
lm theo m khng bit. Chng hn, ni lo th tim p khc i mt t, hoc nghe iu g
lm ta lo lng th li ti mt, m hi. Hoc l, ni v mnh th c t nhin thm tht
mt t.
Bit c chnh mnh tc l bit c tt c nhng thi quen g ang xy ra trong mnh,
ang hnh ng trong mnh, v tm cch iu khin chng, khng cho chng iu
khin mnh. Bit mnh tc l lm ch c chnh mnh.
Cch t nhin l mnh phi lng yn quan st mnh. Mun bit v con ve, ci kin, hay
bt iu g , th ch c cch l quan st tht k thi. Mun bit v chnh mnh cng th,
ta c phi quan st chnh mnh. V nu khng th va quan st con kin va nhy rock
and roll, th ta cng ch c th quan st chnh mnh trong yn lng.
Yn lng l iu kin cn thit quan st. V bi v yn lng qu him hoi trong thi
i chy ua n o ca chng ta, quan st chnh mnh tr thnh qu kh khn , v vy
nhiu ngi khng c c hi thy c mnh mt cch r rng. y l iu m nh Pht
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1. Quan st qu kh: Nhn li mi vic mnh lm, mi cu mnh ni, mi suy ngh mnh
c trong ngy. Quan st xem mnh lm iu g khng nn lm, v cn thay i phong
cch v thi trong tng lai khng. y ch l cch rt s ng.
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2. Quan st mnh trong hin ti: C ba giai on quan st quan st thn th, quan st
cm gic, v quan st t tng.
Quan st thn th l nhm mt, dng tr c nhn thn th mnh, nhn th ngi hay th
nm ca mnh, nhn tay chn, mt mi, tc tai ca mnh.
Giai on cui cng l quan st t tng, nhn xem ci u mnh ang suy t iu g,
nh l mnh ang bc mnh v c ny v ang c ao c mng c ta mt trn, hay
mnh ang ngh n vic phi vit xong t trnh ngy mai.
Mn,
Honh
Stumble It!
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y lc ny
Posted on Thng Hai 12, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Ngi ln tui th hay sng bng qu khnhng thng ngy thn thng xa xi y
ngi tr tui th hay sng bng tng lainhng c m, nhng mc tiu ca i
mnh. Chng my ai trong chng ta sng vi hin ti. Nhng nu suy ngh cho cng tn
th ta ch c mt thi im sng, l lc ny, v mt ni sng, l ni ny. Nm
pht trc l qu kh, tc l ch mt t tng trong tm ta. Nm pht sp ti th cha
n, li cng ch l mt t tng. Ch c lc ny l tht. Vy th ch c mt cch sng tht
m thi. l sng lc ny, ngay y.
l cha ni n stress. Nhng c gng thng xuyn qu mc, thiu ngh ngi, s to
ra stress thng xuyn, lm cho ngi ta thay i tm tnh qua hng lnh lng hp tp,
v trong trng k gy ra nhiu bnh cht ngi. Trong thp nin 1980, M ai cng ca
tng c tnh hng A (type A personality). y l loi ngi thng minh v chy vi vn
tc Apollo. H l nhng ngi thnh cng nht trong thi . Tuy nhin sang n thp
nin 2K ny, loi ngi type A ng cht, b t qu, b bnh tim, cng nh cc loi bnh
him ngho khc, nhiu hn cc loi ngi khc rt nhiu. Vy th ?
Trn nh Honh 13
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Trn nh Honh 14
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Mn,
Honh
Stumble It!
.
copyright TDH 2009
Licensed for non-commercial use
Tnh Yu
Posted on Thng Hai 12, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Trn nh Honh 15
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Nu ti tng ht ti sn cho ngi ngho v x thn trn dn ha, nhng khng c tnh
yu, ti chng c g c.
Tnh yu khng ghen ti, khng khoe khoang, khng kiu hnh.
Tnh yu khng khim nh, khng v k, khng nhy gin, khng chp trc.
Tnh yu lun lun bo v, lun lun tin tng, lun lun hy vng, lun lun kin tr.
Trn nh Honh 16
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Nhn y mnh xin php cc bn cho mnh lm mt vic c tnh cch c nhn mt t.
Thng thng l mnh hay tm cch lm qu tng, thay v mua qu tng ( l tnh tn
tin hc c t m hi cn nh ). Hm nay dch my cu ny v tnh yu, mnh mun
mang ra lm qu Valentine cho b m (Phng) y. Mong cc bn cng hoan h vi
mnh.
Happy Valentines!
Honh
Trn nh Honh 17
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Stumble It!
Sc mnh ca t tng
Posted on Thng Hai 13, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
C l ai trong chng ta cng nghe rt nhiu chuyn v nhng ngi c lnh bnh
mt cch k l, hoc l php l do cu nguyn, hoc l tin rng mnh ung thuc thn
trong cc trc nghim v tm l. T tng tch cc c kh nng tng cng sc mnh ca
h thng min nhim, i khi n mc tr thnh php l. V vy, ngy nay bc s thng
khuyn khch cc bnh nhn nn cu nguyn (nu h c lng tin tn gio), v khuyn
khch thn nhn ngi bnh nn chm nom, lm cho h yu i, chng bnh. Cng v
vy m thnh thong ta vn thy c ngi lm chng rt thnh tht rng Thy Nm Ngi
ny cha ti lnh bnh kinh nin, 20 nm nay khng ai cha ht, mc d l iu tra ra
th thy ch c mt cch cha cho mi bnh nhn l phun nc l vo ngi ca h. Hm
nay, chng ta s ni n vic s dng sc mnh phi thng ny ca t tng vo cuc
sng hng ngy to nn thnh cng trong cuc sng.
Trn nh Honh 18
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Vit Nam V ch
II. T duy tch cc lm cho chnh mnh tr thnh vui v, tch cc, nng ng. T mnh
c nng lc t nhin lm cho ngi khc tin tng v cm phc, v h s mang n cng
vic v c hi cho mnh. Nhng, t duy tch cc cng c nhiu cp . Ta cn phi bit
mnh ang cp no, v c gng n cp cao hn. V d: Ti khng mun ngho th
khng tch cc bng ti mun giu. Ti khng mun bo th khng tch cc bng ti
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mun ngi thon th. Ti khng mun nng gin th khng tch cc bng ti mun
lun lun du dng.
Trn nh Honh 20
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Mn,
Honh
Stumble It!
Khen
Posted on Thng Hai 17, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Trn nh Honh 21
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Khuyn khch em
M mnh cng khng hiu truyn thng thng cho roi cho vt ny n t u. Mt
ln, lu lm ri, trong mt bui c-ph m trong mt qun nhuy l s thc, vo
qun nhu nhng gi c-phmt ngi bn ca mnh l gii: Ti ngh c l l t
vn ha Pht gio. Lm nh vy tp cho tr con bit dp ci ti ca mnh xung.
Mnh tr li ngay l mnh khng thy Pht gio c mi , ch ng ni l c r.
Pht hc rt coi trng nhn cch ca mi c nhn v dy ngi ta rng mi ngi chng
ta, k c nhng ngi xem ra t hi nht, u c Pht tnh trong lng, u l Pht-ang-
thnh, v nht nh l mt ngy no kip ny hoc mt kip sau no s c o
thnh Pht. L thuyt v ng ca nh Pht dy chng ta ng chp vo ci ng ca
mnh, ng kiu cng hm hnh, ch khng ni l phi coi thng, ch p v nh p
n. Hn na, gio dc nh Pht l t gio dc, t gii thot, ch khng phi do ngi
khc cm cy p.
Theo mnh ngh, chc chn l khi my ch ba bn Trung quc sang h tin nhn ta
my ngn nm v trc, nu cc ch thng minh mt t (v d nhin l cc ch rt thng
minh), chc chn l cc ch phi tay th qut roi vo dn bn x, ming th Ng i l a.
Ng i l a. n thi cc anh Ph-lang-sa th nht thit phi l tay th bt tai ming th
je taime. Nht nh phi l nh vy, v bn cht chnh tr ca h v n l ha phi
l nh th. V nu ngy nay ta vn cn yu qu phng php va bt tai va I love you
ny th phi l hi chng Stockholm.
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Khuyn khch
trn, chng ta c ni n gio dc v qun l mch nha vi 75% khen v 25% ch,
nhng ch l mc thp. n mc qun l tuyt nh th ch cn 100% khen, v chng
cn t no ch ht. V d: Ngi cng s ca mnh hi yu v qun l thi gian, mnh c
th ni: Em rt hay, rt analytical, gii communication, gii quyt mi vn rt nhanh
chng v chnh xc. Nu em qun l thi gian hay hn mt t, lm cho vic s dng thi
gian c hiu qu hn, th nng xut ca em s cn tng thm c rt nhiu. Ta vn c
th khen trong khi gip ngi cng s thy c khuyt im ca h.
Trong t duy tch cc, ch l tiu cc, khng cn dng n, khng nn dng n. Hn
na, y l mt im quan trng khc m ngi t duy tch cc cn lu : Ch thng
l phn nh tnh tiu cc ca ngi ni. Nu ta ch, m khng bit dng li khen
vch ra khuyt im, th, mt l, kh nng s dng li ni ca ta cn yu, hai l, ta cn
rt tiu cc trong t duy. (Tuy nhin qun l l mt ngh thut. Trong trng hp no ,
vi mt ngi no , c th l ch thng mt, th ngi mi nhp tm lc .
Nhng y l ngoi l, m l ngoi l th c ngha l ch nn c mt nm mt ln).
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Mn,
Honh
TB: Oops! Qun nhc cc bn n ng: Hm nay khen your house cu no cha?
.
Stumble It!
Copyright 2009, TDH
Licensed for non-commercial use
T duy tch cc l g ?
Posted on Thng Hai 20, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
T duy thng c ngha l suy ngh, v ni n suy ngh l ta thng c n tng rng
l mt hot ng ca no b mt lc no . Thc ra, t t duy y rng ri hn,
v c ngha l mt thi sng, mt ci nhn v cuc i v s sng, tng t nh t duy
trong cm t thay i t duy. T duy tch cc chnh l sng tch cc hay thi tch
cc.
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c im ca t duy tch cc l
Thng thng ngi ta thng phn chia th gii thnh hai nhm ngitch cc v tiu
cc. Nhng ch l cch ni tt cho thun tin; thc ra ai cng va tch cc va tiu
cc, ch l khuynh hng no mnh hn m thi. Hn na, thng thng ta hay c thi
quen tch cc hay tiu cc ty theo tri ma nng v ty theo i tng suy tng l
ngi yu hay ng hng xm kh chu.
Ta thc tp t duy tch cc ta lun lun tch ccnhng ngy nng p cng nh
nhng ngy ngp lt, khi do ph vi ngi yu cng nh khi b ng xei vi tt c
mi ngibn thn hay ch th, thnh nhn hay t.
Bay!
Trn nh Honh 25
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Nhng ti sao ta phi suy t tch cc? Tri sinh sao vy khng c sao?
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Mn,
Honh
Stumble It!
ng trong: K nng giao tip, Tr m | Th: Giao tip, lun l hc, tch cc, yu i
Lut Hp Dn
Posted on Thng Ba 1, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
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l chng minh hng hn nht l chng p trai. Lng tin lm cho mnh c t tin v tp
trung t tng, do a n thnh cng. Vn rt gin d.
Hp dn nhau cc
Danh t u tin ta phi gii thch l t tng. T t tng (idea) trong lut hp
dn c th lm cho rt nhiu ngi hiu lm rng l mt hot ng ca thc, nh
suy ngh hay suy t. Nhng trong lut hp dn, t tng c ngha l mt hot ng
ca tm thcgm thc, tim thc v c cc cm gic nh vui bun yu ght. Ni
chung, t tng l tt c nhng g xy ra trong tm ta. M ni n tm, l chng ta u
bit tim thc ln lao v mnh m hn thc ngn ln, cho nn khi hiu t t tng
trong lut hp dn nh l mt hnh ng suy ngh ca thc m thi, l ta lm mt
sc mnh ca lut hp dn i c trm, c nghn ln. V d: Nu ming ta lNm bNm ti s
c tin (tc l thc), nhng trong thm tm ta khng tin l iu ny s thnh s thc
(tc l tim thc). M tim thc th mnh hn thc c nghn ln, cho nn ng nhin
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l ta s sng theo hng ti s khng c tin, v v vy mt t tin trong vic kim tin.
Th th lut hp dn vn ng, nhng thn ch ca ta th sai.
V tim thc rt kh cho ta thy, ta cn phi tm cch thy tim thc qua nhng ci
khclng tin, v cm gic. Lng tin iu khin mt phn rt ln s suy ngh ca tim
thc, v cm gic thng l hu qu ca tim thc, cho nn ta qun l tim thc bng
qun l lng tin v cm giclng tin phi tht mnh m, cho n ni ta lun lun cm
thy rt l hng hi, chc n. Khi ta ni ti s c tin vi mt lng tin mnh m v mt
cm gic hng hi, chc n, th lc t tng ca ta mi tm gi l chn tht v mnh
m. V vy, thay v ni thc v tim thc, rt m h v kh hiu, chng ta ch cn
quan tm n 3 iu: (1) s suy ngh, (2) lng tin, v (3) cm gic. Suy ngh n iu g,
nh ti s xung cn, th suy ngh vi mt lng tin vng chi v mt cm gic hng
hi. Lc t tng mi thc s c sc mnh chuyn ha i sng ta v th gii ca ta.
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Vn hp dn nhau c
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nh cao hp dn
V mt quy lut ngn ng khc na l hin ti th lun lun lun mnh hn tng lai.
Hy so snh anh yu em v anh s yu em xem cu no mnh hn. Nhng iu ta
c mun ng nhin l thuc v tng lai, v d ti mun c tin. Th th ta gii
quyt ci yu ca tng lai th no? Tha, c 2 phng cch. Th nht, nu vic g c
th bin n thnh hin ti, th phi suy ngh theo cch hin ti. V d: Thay v ti s c
t tin th ta phi ni Ti c t tin, v chng l do g ta khng th ni ti c t tin ngay
by gi m phi i n sang nm.
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tnh, ti s dng mi giy ng h mt cch tn tnh. Sng ngay pht ny, ngay ti y,
mt cch tn tnh, d l mnh ang lm bt k vic g, th l cch ni hin ti c
tht vo mt tng lai s n tht.
Mn,
Honh
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Cho cc bn,
Bn c bit iu g phn bit ngh s bc thy v ngi mi tp s khng? Tha, chi tit.
Ai trong chng ta cng c th ht mt bn nhc ng nt, nghe trong cc tic sinh nht
nh cng rt hay. S khc bit gia ta v cc ca s hng u khng phi l nhng dng
nhc, hay ngay c nt nhc, m l mt t luyn ly ch ny, mt t nhn mnh ch kia,
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Git nc
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Ch l hoa c thi
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Mn,
Honh
Stumble It!
ng trong: K nng giao tip, Tr m | Th: Giao tip, Gio dc, tch cc, yu i
Cho cc bn,
Mt lm li ln v suy tng chng ta hay vp phi mi khi thy ai hng say lm vic
g, l kt lun ngay, Anh y rt tch cc. Nhng, mt ngi rt hng say chm git,
cng l tch cc sao ?
Th hn cng l ngn la am m thc Ny con ngi hng say hot ng trong vic tr
th v p , nh tnh yu thc Ny con ngi yu thng v xy dng. Lm li ln ca
chng ta l lm ln nng lc vi tch cc.
C tch cc ln tiu cc, c tnh yu ln th hn, u to ra nng lc. Cuc u tranh gia
nng lc tch cc v nng lc tiu cc l ci m, trong mi nn vn ho ca con ngi,
chng ta gi l cuc u tranh gia thin v c, gia nh sng v bng ti. Nhng, bn
ng vi gi tay sm Ti phe thin. (Bit ri kh lm ni mi ) Nu t cho im, th
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Bi v thin v c c sn trong tri tim con ngi, ng tng rng khi ta hng say
lm g tc l ta ang tch cc. Tch cc l tnh yu. Th hn l tiu cc. Hng say hot
ng v th hn vn l tiu cc, d l hng say tiu cc. Hng say chi bi, hng say
ph, hng say ch trch, hng say p ngi ta xung, l nhng hng say tiu cc, d
xem ra rt nng, rt nhiu nng lc. Martin Luther King ni, Hn th khin i sng t
lit, tnh yu gii phng. Hn th tung ri bi i sng, tnh yu em n hi ha. Hn
th ph en cuc i, tnh yu ri sng.
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tht s thnh tht thnh tht thnh tht vi chnh lng ta khng. Sai mt ly i mt dm.
Ch cn ta c mt thong thiu thnh tht vi chnh mnh, mi o lng s sai i c dm.
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y l chuyn t nhin trong bn tnh con ngi, ch chng phi l g phi thng hoc
khng tng nh nhiu ngi lm tngb m ght nhng iu sai con ci lm, nhng
vn lun thng yu con ci. l bn tnh con ngi t nhin. Rt nhiu ngi trong
chng ta lc khi bn tnh yu thng ca mnh qu lu, cho nn thng hay th ght
ngi mnh cho l lm li, trong khi mnh vn c yu lm li ai hng say u t
tham nhng trong khi mnh vn nhn tin hay chi tin di gm bn thng xuyn?
Mn,
Honh
Cho cc bn,
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Sense of belonging rt cn thit cho hnh phc v t duy tch cc ca ta. Mt kho st
ca Reg Williams, gio s y t v tm l ti i hc Michigan (bang Michigan, M) cho
thy, cc bnh nhn bnh trm ut c sense of belonging cao mau lnh bnh hn cc bnh
nhn c sense of belonging thp. Cc kho st khc cng cho thy c n l mt trong
nhng nguyn nhn chnh ca bnh trm ut. V d nhin l ai trong chng ta cng bit l
tr em khng c, hoc khng gn gi, ai trong gia nh thng d chn i, hn i
v phm php.
Cc nhn xt ny lin h trc tip n vic thc hnh t duy tch cc. Tt c cc o gia
v chuyn gia v t duy tch cc u lp i lp li, ngy ny qua thng n, l ta phi yu
ngi, yu loi vt, yu i, yu th gii. Nhng ci yu ny chnh l nhng cm-gic-
thuc-v, cc bn .
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Nu ta mun c cm gic ta thuc v gia nh ca ta, cch duy nht l n gia nh,
hay ni chnh xc hn l n mi ngi trong gia nhAi ang lm g? u,?
Vui bun ra sao? Ta cn cho hi thng xuynnu i sm v khuya, chng thy ai
ngoi tr ci gng ca mnh, th kh cho mnh c cm tng thuc v gia nh.
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Mn,
Honh
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Cho cc bn,
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hng chng hn), th bn cht tri ma l bun hay sao? l ma bun hay bn bun?
Mt hiu lm thng thy khc l tch cc hay tiu cc l bn cht ca tng ngi.
iu hon ton sai. Tch cc v tiu cc c sn trong mi ngi chng ta. Khi ta gin
d hay s hi, th nng lc tiu cc s tri dy lm ta suy ngh v hnh ng tiu cc. Khi
ta bnh tnh, vui v v yu thng, nng lc tch cc chin thng v lm ta suy ngh v
hnh ng tch cc. Con ngi chng ta thng bnh tnh hay yu mn khi mi s chung
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quanh u tt, cho nn rt d tch cc khi ang c cng vic tt, tin tt v ngi yu
tt. Ch khi gp kh khn, th lo lng v bun gin mi c c hi tri dy v to c hi
cho nhng nng lc tiu cc chim hu con tim v khi c ca ta. Lc , chnh l lc ta
phi chin u vi chnh mnh, phi bit cch lm cho con tim ca mnh bnh tnh v y
yu i tr li cc nng lc tch cc tr v, hu ta c th suy t v hnh ng trong
chiu hng tch cc.
Tm li, t duy tch cc l cuc chin u trin min t thng v t ch. khng
phi l bn cht thng trc ca con ngi, khng phi l mt chuyn du hnh ch c
nng trong gi mt v khng sng gi. l nh sng ca ngn n trong tim, thng
xuyn b e da bi chnh nhng bo t trong tim.
Mn,
Honh
Cho cc bn,
Chng ta u bit t duy tch cc khng phi ch l mt cng thc l lun, nh l tam
on lun trong lun l hc, m l mt thi sng, mt thi tch cc v chnh mnh,
v con ngi, v cuc i. Nhng khi hc t duy tch cc th ta lun lun hc nh l hc
mt cng thc suy nghhy nhn na ly nc nh y na ly, thay v cn na ly. Th
th, phi chng t duy tch cc ch l mt k thut tm l t la di mnh (self-
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Tuy nhin, khi kho st nhng v thy v t duy tch cc ca th giiGandhi, t Lai
Lt Ma, Norman Vincent Peale (ng t ca khoa hc t duy tch cc), Nelson Mandela
th ta thy nhng ngi ny u c mt i sng tm linh rt mnh, v u nhn th gii
ta sng nh l c xy trn mt nn tng tm linh vng chc, d nn tng l Thng
, hay ng Tri, hay the One.
V d nhin, kinh nghim sng ca ring ta ng vai tr quan trng hn tt c, trong vic
tm hiu cn bn ca t duy tch cc. Lm th no bn c th tht s vui v vi mt ngi
va mi gy tn thng cho bn, nn bn khng c lng tin vo nhn qu (ti b qua cho
anh ta, Tri s b qua cho ti), hay vo ng nht (anh ta v ti thc ra cng ch l mt
trong l ng nht ca v tr), hay vo Cha (Cha mun ti yu anh ta, d anh ta ni
xu ti)? Nu ta khng tin vo iu g su xa hn th gii vt l, th theo mnh cch hp
l lun nht phn ng li hnh vi gy tn thng ca mt ngi l gy tn thng li
cho hn.
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Tuy nhin, kinh nghim ca chnh mnh, cng nh cc tho lun mnh c vi cc lnh
o kinh t chnh tr ca nhiu quc gia trn th gii, cho thy rt r l con ngi chng
ta khng th thc s t duy tch cc nu khng ng trn mt nn tng tm linh rt vng,
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Ngoi ra, tt c nhng k thut t duy tch cc khng t cn bn trn chiu su tm linh,
c th cho ta tch cc c mt t, kh hn l tiu cc hon ton, nhng ch n mt mc
hi ht no m thi. Khi kh au tr thnh qu ln, khi sc chu ng ca con ngi
kit, ch c sui ngun tm linh mi cho ta sc mnh mm ci bc vo l la,
phi thng nh ngi i trn nc.
Ngay c trong i sng thng ngy, ch c sui ngun tm linh mi cho chng ta mt t
duy tch cc du dng, khng v k, khng t trn danh li, khng bao gi ngng, thay
v loi t duy tch cc ca ngi ho thng, ho danh, ho li. Loi t duy tch cc v
k ny, mi nhn bn ngoi th nh l tch cc, v n lm cho ngi ta xng xo c v rt
tch cc, nhng n c mm hy dit t bn trong, v v k th ch c th tch cc c
vi mt ngitiv tiu cc vi tt c nhng ai v tt c nhng g cn bnh xe ln ca
ti.
Mn,
Honh
Tch cc n mc no ?
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Cho cc bn,
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Mn,
Honh
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Cho cc bn,
Trong qun l th chng ta c th hiu synergy rt dnu mt i bng thn thit nhau,
mi ngi ai cng lm ng phn s mnh, chia s vi ng i, hiu nhau rt nhanh,
khng ghen t nhau, cng mt lng quyt thng, th i bng c synergy rt cao v rt
hay thng. Tuy nhin, nu i bng hay ci v nhau, ganh t nhau, mt ngi ni 10 th
ngi cc ngi kia hiu c c 5, i bng nh vy thiu synergy v s kh thng.
V trong tin trnh qun l i bng, d nhin l lnh o phi t ln mc hng u vic
duy tr v pht trin thit thn v tinh thn ng i. Nu c thit thn v tinh thn ng
i cao, t nhin cc k nng lm vic ng i s c, nh k nng truyn thngni
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vi nhau, ra hiu cho nhau, v thu hiu nhau; k nng phi hp trn sn c; k nng
chuyn ng ton i ng chin thut v chin lc trn sn c.
Nu quan st cc phong tro x hi, ta thy tin trnh pht trin ca synergy xy ra th
ny. Hy dng vic v sinh thnh ph lm v d.
4. Ti cc a phng khc, nhiu nhm ph thng dn, theo gng, cng lp ra nhng
d n lm sch v p ng ph. By gi ta c mt phong tro, v synergy c tun
ln ngn ngt.
Cc phong tro cch mng x hi t c ch kim pht trin theo m hnh ny, t c ngoi
l, bi v tt c u c chi phi bi mt quy lut t nhin: Mt nng lc tch cc t
mt ngi c kh nng kch ng nng lc tch cc t mt ngi khc. V nng lc tch
cc ca t hai ngi tr ln c tc ng cng hng v thnh mnh hn rt nhiu v s
kch thch nhiu nng lc tch cc t nhiu ngi khc. Ri li tng cng hng, tng
kch ng, tng tham gia, ri tng cng hng, tng kch ng, tng tham gia c vy
m pht trin nh l qu cu tuyt bng nm tay ln t trn ni xung, cng ln th cng
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dnh tuyt, cng ln, li cng ln mnh hn, dnh nhiu tuyt hn, ln hn, ln mnh
hn n lc ln nh tri ni ln.
Nng lc tht l kinh khng, phi khng cc bn? Nhng mnh s ni cho cc bn
nghe mt b mt ngt ngo khc. Cho n lc ny, c th l mt s bn c bi ny nh
c tiu thuyt ni n nhng phong tro cch mng x hi ca nhng huyn thoi no
, chng n nhp g n con ngi nh nhoi tm thng ca mnh.
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ng coi thng nng lng c sn trong mnh. Ngi mnh nht th gii th cng
khng hn mnh c 5 ln. Mt ting gy mng tay c th lm rung ng v lng th
gii. Nu hin nay bn cha hiu ht cu ny, mt ngy no bn s hiu, bng tri
nghim thc s.
Mn,
Honh
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Cho cc bn,
C l ai trong chng ta cng quen vi cu Cuc chin kh nht l cuc chin chng
li chnh mnh. V iu ny th tht l chnh xc. T thng mnh tr thnh thin ho
hn mt t mi ngy khng phi l d, v l cuc u tranh sut i. Thng k ch
bn ngoi th rt d, t thng th kh hn nghn ln. (Mnh khng cng c mu tiu
lm nu ra y mt v d rt r. ng ta bch chin bch thng vi tt c hng binh
thin h, vy m ch c ci vic chng tham nhng thi th c xch c tang mun nm ).
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Trc y nhiu nm, nu mnh nh khng lm, c cun ging Kinh Kim Cang ca
Thin S Nht Hnh, c on Thin S ni v m p ci gin, ci au ca mnh, ng
chi b hay xua ui n, hy nhn nhn v yu thng n, v n chnh l mnh, l mt
phn ca mnh. Phn ng u tin ca mnh l Hmm thin s ny ni sao nghe
cha qu nhng nghe cng rt mi l. t ra l n ngh cch gii quyt vn ch
c mt phe, l phe ta, ch khng c thng ti thin nh nhau vi thng ti c. Khng c
mu thun ni tm. Vy l mnh tm nghin cu vn thm mt t.
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Gi s cnh tay tri ca mnh b lit, mnh khng cn phi cht n i, hay th ght n,
hay c tnh xem nh n khng c . C vn nhn nhn n, yu thng n, v x vi n
nh l cnh tay ca mnh. Mt ngy no mnh s khm ph ra l mnh vn c th lm
cc vic phi thng, vi mt cnh tay b lit.
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Mn,
Honh
Cho cc bn,
T duy tch cc gip c g cho ta? N c chn ng kh khn cho ta? C lm cho tai
nn khng n c vi ta? C mang giu c v sung tc n vi ta? C lm cho con
ng ta i trn tru d dng hn con ng ca nhng ngi c t duy tiu cc? C em
n cho ta hnh phc? C lm cho cuc i tt p hn?
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Mn,
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Honh
Ngy no ta cng cn nng lc sng. Ch sau khi cho th gii good bye, ht th, th ta
mi khng cn nng lc, phi khng cc bn ? (Coi chng! Tr li phi cha chc l
ng u, v mnh cha c kinh nghim good bye kiu m. i c kinh nghim xong
ri hy tr li chc chn. Thi, tm thi c cho phi l ng i.) Nhng d l ta cn
nng lc sng hng ngy, th lc cn nng lc nhiu nht l lc i ang ngang cnh
ng xanh ti mt m bng nhin gp mt ng Ba Mi ngi gia ng, mt my hn
h ch ba n ti b n ming, vy ui lim mp nhn mnh, ci mm chi. Chy!
Chy! Hoc, khi cn nng lc nht, l khi b cm g tn cng, c th cn tt c ni lc
c th ng dy ui g ui vt.
T duy tch cc cng vy, ngy no ta cng cn sng, nhng khi cn t duy tch cc
nht l khi ta b tn cng bi tht bi, tht tnh, tht trn, tht th, tht c, tht , tht lc,
tht tit, tht thn, tht nghip, tht th, v ta s hi n tht sc, tht thanh, chi vi tht
kinh hn va, cui cng l tht vng v tht ch. Lc m ta gp khng hong chnh l lc
ta cn t duy tch cc nhiu nht ng c.
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Nhng, khi gp khng hong th ta li hay suy t rt tiu cc! Mi b nng cho gi s de
l bt u bing n bing ng. Bia bnh thng th ng, lc ny ngt nh nc chanh
ng. Mi b thuc c 6 thng, lc ny ln la lm bn li vi b thuc l l. Ph n
th bnh thng thy ai cng d thng, lc ny mi ng c chn l Tr Vng
mt nc v c K, U Vng mt nc v Bao T, v nhn loi, k c tui, thng kh v
Eva. Cuc i bnh thng th khng mu hng cng mu xanh, lc ny c ti m m
nh m ba mi. V quan trng nht l, c c th ln tinh thn ca ta nh b bp di
ngn Ng Hnh Sn v i, khng ca quy ng no c, v cng khng bun ca
quy. Th gii chung quanh ta nh ang v ra tng mnh. V t duy tch cc? Dp qua
mt bn i! Ha ra t trc n nay mnh qu ngy th, khng bit c thc t ca cuc
i.
V vy, khi gp khng hong v u c ta bt u suy ngh tiu cc, tht vng, ti tm,
mt lng tin, iu u tin ta phi lm l t nhc mnh: , nh kho t duy tch cc ca
mnh ang b tn cng, v mnh ang bt u suy t tiu cc. Phi trn tnh li, v d l
mnh c phi ra php trng ngy mai, hm nay mnh vn phi suy t tch cc.
y l cuc chin u tin v quan trng nht ta phi ng c khi gp khng hong
bo v hu cn, bo v kho t duy tch cc, bo v u c t duy tch cc. Nu thua trn
ny l ta thua ton b cuc chin, v s khng cn v kh phng th.
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V vy khi gp khng hong, vic u tin phi lm khng phi l gii quyt khng
hong . Vic u tin phi lm l phi chc chn rng ta vn t duy tch cc, vn bnh
tnh, vn yu i, vn tin vo ngy mai tri li sng, d ngy mai c th cn rt lu, v
mnh cng khng bit l n bao gi.
iu ny rt quan trng trn phng din chin lc, v n cho chng ta hai iu li. Th
nht, n cho ta nng lc tch cc ng c vi khng hong. Th hai, n cho ta sng
sut gii quyt khng hong, bi v ngi bnh tnh v yu i c th thy nhng cch
gii quyt khng hong rt hiu qu, m ngi qunh qung chn i khng th thy.
1. Trc ht, chm mi th xung (slow everything down). Khng khong c khuynh
hng lm mnh qunh qung hay nng gin, v mnh c khuynh hng lm mi th
chuyn ngay lp tc. Vy th, chuyn g bt buc phi lm ngay th lm. Chuyn g khng
cn phi lm ngay th , ng lm ngay.
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3. Trnh nhng th tng stress nh ru, nhiu thuc l, nhiu c ph, thiu n, mt
ng Thuc ng thng tng stress hn l gim stress. Theo kinh nghim ca mnh th
mt t ru vang (khng phi l mt lt ) gip ta d i ng v tt cho sc khe. Ngi
ht thuc i khi cn ht thuc ly trm tnh, nhng nu ht qu nhiu nicotine th
mnh s b tng stress. C ph cng vy.
Mn,
Honh
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Hnh ng tch cc th no ?
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Cho cc bn,
Hoc mt ngi hay ht sch mn tin, ta nht nh khng cho mn, cng l mt cch
rt tt gip h.
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Trong mt s trng hp, khng hnh ng tch cc c ngha l hnh ng tiu cc. V
d: Nu khng b rc vo thng rc, c ngha l mnh x rc u .
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Mn,
Honh
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Cho cc bn,
C nhiu cch l gii hin tng ny trong thc t, nhng hai im quan trng nht
l gii l, th nht, kh nng lm vic chung vi mi ngi v, th hai, kh nng tip thu
kin thc. V hai iu ny, thc ra lin h mt thit vi nhau.
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Tip thu kin thc khng phi l ch khing kin thc vo nh kho, m l m toang mi
cnh ca kin thc a vo. Hai cch tip thu ny khc nhau, v c th lm cho kin
thc ca hai ngi khc nhau nh 100 v 1 cc bn. Khng th xem thng c.
V d:
Tui tc: Ti tht thp c lai hi, con rui bay qua l bit rui c hay rui ci. My
a con nt ni by b phin qu.
Danh ting: Ti c cao danh trng, my ngi v danh tiu tt sao c lp nhp hoi?
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Thi : Ton l mt m lng nhng; k s thng thi thc thi v quy Nn.
Con ngi: Hc l phi c thy gii hn hoi, khng phi l bt k ai trn i cng c ci
g m mnh c th hc.
ri: Tui bit bao nhiu ri, khng cn bit thm g ht.
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chuyn, trong khi nhng ngi khc cng nhn s kin ch thy c 1 chuyn hay
chuyn m thi.
Mn,
Honh
Cho cc bn,
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Hin du, khim tn, nhn nhc v tnh yu khng bao gi ng ngha vi yu hn c.
Tri li l khc. Chng ta ai cng thy l rt d cho chng ta ni t i khi b ai ph phn
ng chm mt t, v ci v nhau ch v mt t ng chm khng ng chi l chuyn rt
thng xuyn. Ta c th thy trong cc din n Internet hng ngy. Nhng nhn nhc
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V chng ta ai cng bit sc mnh ca tnh yu. Khi xa, ngy mnh cn b Nha Trang
(Thnh), m mnh hay nui g, vt v heo. Mnh hay ph m cho by gia sc n hng
ngy. Cc bn c bao gi thy mt con g mi dn n g con kim n lt cht trong sn
cha? G mi c l l con vt nht gan nht trn tri t. Khng bao gi bn thy g mi
u tranh ci c vic g, nu b ui l ch c lm mt vicchy. Nhng khi dn n g
con i kim n, g mi s ng li x lng x cnh, n thua n cht, nu c ch qu
no r xung nh xi ti my ch g con lng xng nh cc ln bng gn vng ng nh.
Ch mo cng khng n gn cc ch g con c. Phi bc qua xc m chng thi.
Vt m cng vy. Ch m cng vy. Heo m cng vy.
Tnh yu lm cho chng ta tr thnh dng mnh phi thng. Tnh yu cho chng ta can
m v sc mnh m nu khng c tnh yu th ta khng th c. Gandhi ni: Sc mnh
v i nht m nhn loi c trong tay l tnh yu.
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Vy th tnh yu hin ha, du ngt, khim nhu, nhng tnh yu cng can m, dng
mnh, anh hng. Mnh v yu sng vi nhau v ha quyn vi nhau lm mt, nh m
dng trong vng thi cc, ch u phi l chi b nhau, b mt chn mt, c mt mt
mt u. Nh nc hin ha v nc thnh sng thn Ny tan rng ni. Nh gi du dng
v gi thnh ging bo thi sp i non.
V ch c mt cng thc tng qut ng cho mi con tim t duy tch cc trong mi
trng hp m thi. l, Ngi tch cc thng khng thy nhu cu phi bo v mnh
v sn sng nhn nhc khi mnh b xc phm, nhng thng can thip khi thy ngi
khc b h hip bt cng.
Mn
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Honh
Lm th no ph phn tch cc ?
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Cho cc bn,
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Vy th ta phi qun st tm mnh k cng trc, trong khi, v sau khi ph phn.
e. Bn c suy ngh theo kiu li lc: Thng ny m xung, ti (hay chng ti) ln thay,
th mi kh c? T tin l mt vic tt. Nhng, rt thng thng, ta thng hay lm
ln t tin vi t kiu hay tham lam trong lng ta . Khi c c mong quyn li trong
, th rt kh m khng tham lam. l cha k lm khn gi ph phn cu th th
d, lm cu th trn sn c th li l mt chuyn khc. Hy suy xt tm mnh tht k.
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a. Khen trc, ph bnh sau. Vi d: Em lm vic rt sing nng chm ch, v em lm vic
mt mnh rt hay, nhng em mt mnh hi nhiu nn c nhm khng c thng tin t
em v khng iu hp tt vi em. Nu em b ra t thi gian mi ngy, hn huyn ni
chuyn vi cc bn thng hn, th c nhm s lm vic hiu qu hn.
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c. Cch s dng ngn ng. Cch ny th rt khoa hc. Nh mt ngi bn ca mnh thu
bng ln khi mnh ang mnh ming ph phn ai , ri ngi nghe li mt mnh gia m
vng lng. Ngn ng mnh dng ni n yu thng nhiu (khng cn bit yu thng
ai) hay l ngn ng th hn, kiu cng, tc tn. Ngi tch cc lun dng ngn ng yu
thng. Ngi tiu cc dng ngn ng th hn. Loi ngn ng no c nhiu trong cch
ph phn ca bn?
Mn,
Honh
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Thnh cng l g?
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Cho cc bn,
Nh vy, c ngha l cch nh ngha thnh cng ca chng ta y hon ton c tnh
cch ch quan. Chnh mnh nh ch im i mnh v thnh cng ca mnh. Chng c
mc tiu khch quan no bn ngoi c. iu ny rt quan trng, v nu chng ta ch cn
mt mi nh tranh hai qu tim vng, my con g v mt con ch, v ta t c iu
, tc l ta thnh cng trong mc tiu , d rng my t bo l ci ch tin l cc
ngi i xe hi mi c gi l thnh cng.
Tuy nhin ta cn phn tch y nim thnh cng su hn mt cht trong thc ti i sng.
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Loi th hai l nhng ngi li bing tiu cc, khng mun lm g, v ti ngy phn
nn ch bai cuc i. Loi ny khng bao gi vui. V nu l ai trong thin h cng xem
nim vui ca mnh l mc tiu ti hu, th loi ngi ny khng c thnh cng bao gi.
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(a) loi trm cp vtsng tiu cc lm hi ngi khc v gy thm bng ng,
v
(b) loi ngi truyn b tiu cc gy chin tranh hay kch ng khng khong
chnh tr x hi phc v cc mc tiu ca ring h. Loi ny th ta thy thng
xuyn trong thng tin thi s quc t. Loi ngi chuyn gy chin ny, d nhin
l tm ca h khng bao gi an bnh v vui v, v bn cht ca ch chin l cht
chc v au kh. Nhng cn xa hn th na, kh nng ca h mang li kh
au cho nhiu ngi khc, i khi cho c quc gia hay c th gii, rt cao.
V v nim vui v bnh an trong lng ta lin h mt thit vi nim vui v bnh an ca
mi ngi v ca th gii ny, chng ta khng th lm ngi khc thm au kh m tin
rng ta s c c nim vui v bnh an trong lng. iu khng th xy ra (tr khi i
vi ngi in, trong vi trng hp). Cho nn nim t do ch quan la chn mc
tiu thnh cng ca ta, thc ra vn nm trong mt gii hn khch quangii hn l s
an vui ca ngi khc, v ca th gii. Nu ta khng quan tm n an vui ca ngi
khc, ta s t ph hy an vui ca chnh mnh. iu ny cng ging nh ngi thi kh
c trong khng kh hi n ngi khc, chnh mnh cng s ht th n.
Mn,
Honh
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Hy t to c hi
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Cho cc bn,
C hi l hai ch quan trng nht trong kin trc x hi. Tt c mi ngi trn th gii
u mun c mt x hi bnh ng, d l ta ni n trit ly no hay ly thuyt chnh tr
no. Nhng nu xem k th ngui 75 kg phi mnh hn ngi 40 kg, ngi gii ton phi
khc ngi dt ton, ngi sing nng th phi khc ngi li bing.
Lm th no ta c th c mt x hi bnh
ng vi nhiu khc bit c nhn nh th? Tha, ta dng khi nim c hi. Mt x hi
bnh ng l mt x hi cho mi ngi mt c hi ng u thng tin. Cn vic s
dng c hi hay khng l quyn ca ngi .
C hi thng i theo mnh nu mnh c 3 iu: (1) ti, (2) bn v (3) danh ting. y
cht, cc bn ng c vi: Tng g ch iu th em bit ri. Ch c mt ni l em
khng c ti, t c bn, v chng c ting. Khng sao, ta s tm cch to ra 3 iu .
Trn nh Honh 83
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Trn nh Honh 84
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2. Bn: Cng c nhiu bn th cng c nhiu ngi qung co khng cng dm mnh.
Qung co trn TV chng n thua g so vi qung co ming khng cng. Nh sn xut
tn bao nhiu tin qung co th chng my ngi tin v y, nhng nu bn mnh ni
cho mnh bit mi khm ph ra tim ny bn o qun rt p v r, th chc l cui tun
ny mnh s gh vo ngay.
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Th gii ngy nay c hai iu li cho c hi: Th nht, t do kinh doanh. Th hai,
Internet. Nu bn bit tn dng hai iu ny gia tng c hi cho mnh, th bn c th
lm c rt nhiu vic, bt c lnh vc noxut bn mt quyn sch hay m tim
bn bnh xo.
Mn,
Honh
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Thc ra th con ngi l mt loi sng tp on. Cc sinh vt sng trong mt tp on,
nh mt by tru, mt by chim, thng c tc phong rt ging nhau. Con ngi ng
nhin cng c khuynh hng . M ging nhau c ngha l suy ngh nh nhau, v
rt quan tm n vic lm cho nhng ngi khc pht lng, chng i, v cc khc l ca
mnh.
Theo mnh ngh, ngi t duy tch cc suy tng tng cao hn, vt ln trn tm mc
mi ngi ngh g v ti? Ngi t duy tch cc khng thc s quan tm v vic ngi
khc ngh v mnh, v ch thc s quan tm lo lng cho ngi khc. y chnh l v
ng (khng c ci ti) v v tha (yu ngi). V khng c ci ti nn ta khng
Trn nh Honh 87
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Mn,
Honh
Trn nh Honh 88
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Cho cc bn,
Tha, vn l thuc vo ta l aingi lm hnh ng? hay ngi nhn hnh ng?
Gi s mt ngi hnh kht c mt ngi ph n cho 20 nghn ng. ng ta c cn
phi bit ngi ph n ngh g trong u khng? C cn bit b ta cho v lng thng
ngi hay v mun ni ting khng? Nu cn phi bit nh vy th c th ngi hnh
kht ny s sm ngh lm hnh kht, v anh ta s cht i rt nhanh. Hn na, khng ai
c th bit c trong u ngi khc, vy th ng on m mt cng v ch. C phn
on theo bn ngoib y gip mnh mt s tin, c nhn v cm n b y tht tnh.
Vy l .
Ngay c khi ngui lm khng thc s c lng tt, nhng vic lm tt i vi ngi
nhn, th ngi nhn c nhn v cm n nng nhit tht tnh. V du: Ngi ph n trn
thc s mun ni ting khi cho tin, v ngi hnh kht cng bit c iu , nhng
20 nghn ng n tay anh ta l mt hnh ng thin, n gip cho anh v con ci c
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V d khc. M vin tr gio dc cho Vit Nam l gip Vit Nam o to nhn ti,
nhng vi mc ch xa hn l Vit Nam thnh mt quc gia thn M vi lnh o o
to t M. C coi nh l mc tiu ch k i. Nhng Vit nam vn c li ch rt nhiu
t nhng vin tr gio dc , vy th ta c hng hi nhn lnh v cm n rt tht tnh.
V nu Vit Nam c thn M th cng chng sao, v chnh sch ngai giao ca Vit Nam
hin nay l thn thit vi mi quc gia trn th gii.
Tm li, ta c 2 qui lut suy t ngc chiu nhau ty theo ta l ai. Nu ta l ngi nhn
hnh ng, ta phn on theo bn ngoi v tri n m khng nn on m tm y ca
ngi lm (ngai tr mt vi trng hp t bit cn bit tm y ngi lm, nh khi ta
n nhn bng chng bn ngai quyt on l th phm c y git ngi hay ch l t
phng v).
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Ngi t duy tch cc hu nh lun lun c 2 qui lut tri ngc nhau trong mi trng
hpmt cho mnh v mt cho ngi:
Hai b qui lut gn nh i chi nhau ty theo i tng l mnh hay ngi. Nhng c
hai rt cuc phc v cng mt mc chmang n an lc cho mnh cng nh cho ngi
khc.
Mn,
Honh
Trn nh Honh 91
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Cho cc bn,
D nhin, ta c th ni, vy th sao? Nhm xy dng danh cho mnh cng l vic tt, v
danh i hi mnh lm mi vic li ch cho i. D l c ci ti lm ch ch
trong , mi hnh ng vn tt cho i c m.
Trn nh Honh 92
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Ci danh lun lun l nh t ca sng to. Trong nhiu trng hp, n thng tr thnh
k th, p bc, truy t nhng ngi v nhng lung gi sng to. V trong h thng gio
dc ca chng ta, phi chng ci danh l ngun gc ca bnh thnh tnh v ho danh, cc
bn?
Trn nh Honh 93
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* Mnh chng bit khi nim ch danh ny t truyn thng trit ly hay o hc no ra,
nhng mc ch lm nn ting anh hng u y t v thng minh nht nam
ttrong v tr nh phn s, phi c danh m i vi ni sng tt c cc iu
ny nghe khng n.
Mn,
Honh
Trn nh Honh 94
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i bin m ci mt mnh
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Cho cc bn,
Paul McCartney ca the Beatles k li khi John Lennon cht, Paul an i Yoko Ono, v
ca John: Ti hiu ch ang cm xc th no (I know how you feel). Yoko tr li li
mt cch tc gin, Khng, anh khng hiu ti ang cm xc th no (No, you dont
know how I feel).
Trn nh Honh 95
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Chng ta lun lun ni n t duy tch cc, nghe nh l nhng siu nhn, v bn cht ca
ni l nh th. Nhng s thc l mi ngi trn th gii, tch cc hay khng, th cng
au nhc khn kh nh nhau khi gp kh khn hon nn. C khc nhau chng ch l kh
nng sng st v vt qua.
Mn,
Honh
Lm sao a t nc i ln ?
Posted on Thng By 5, 2009 by tdhoanh
Trn nh Honh 96
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Cho cc bn,
T duy tch cc l khoa hc c nhn cho mi ngi chng ta. khng phi l khoa x
hi hc hay chnh tr hc cho t nc. Nhng bn khng cn phi l Einstein th cng
c th thy t duy tch cc l xy dng t nc mc cn bn nhtmc su thm nht
ca mi tri tim con ngi. Nu a s chng ta tch cc th ng nhin l c quc gia
tch cc v tin ln t.
Khi ni n t nc, chng ta c khuynh hng ni ngay n hin php, lut, nh nc,
v.v Tt c nhng iu ny ng nhin l quan trng, nhng chng th cng nh ni
quy v iu l ca mt cng ty, hay t gi th ca hai v chng trong gia nh. Chng ai
quan tm n ni qui v iu l ca cng ty khi bn n mnh yu li l ca cng ty, v
chng ai nhc n t hn th khi ni n sc mnh hay im yu ca mt gia nh. Ci
mnh hay yu ch do mt im duy nht m rami ngi trong cng ty v trong gia
nh c ha thun v nng nhau cng tin ln hay khng, hay l chia nm s by, dnh
git nhau, m nhau? Cng ng ta snglng, x, huyn, thnh ph, quc gia
cng khng ra ngoi qui lut cn bn ny: Mi ngi chng ta c n nhau cng i
ln hay khng? Hay l tm cch ng trn bng cch p ngi khc xung? Nu
cng nng nhau ln th t nc i ln, v cng p nhau xung th t nc i
xung. Vn gin d th thi.
Rt gin d:
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Trn nh Honh 98
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Mn,
Honh
Cho cc bn,
Trn nh Honh 99
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Ch c mt t do thc s m thi: Suy ngh v hnh ng hon ton, 100 phn trm,
tuyt i, do quyt on chnh chn ca mnh, m khng b chi phi bi bt k iu
gcm xc nht thi, gio iu tn gio, gio iu chnh tr, p lc bn b, m thin
ng, s ha ngc, s mt cng vic, mn c c hi lm n, mun ni ting, hay bt k
mt nh hng no khc. mi l t do tht s. l t do u tin v cui cngch
nh vy mi l t do, v nu c vy th khng cn t do no khc cn.
Tha, nu bn va b tn cng, m trong lng hon ton khng bun bc tc gin t no,
li c hn h vui v nh mi c ngi yu hn, th bn t o ri. Chng cn tn
thi gi c CN.
Mn,
Honh
Lm sao a t nc i ln ?
Posted on Thng By 5, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
T duy tch cc l khoa hc c nhn cho mi ngi chng ta. khng phi l khoa x
hi hc hay chnh tr hc cho t nc. Nhng bn khng cn phi l Einstein th cng
c th thy t duy tch cc l xy dng t nc mc cn bn nhtmc su thm nht
ca mi tri tim con ngi. Nu a s chng ta tch cc th ng nhin l c quc gia
tch cc v tin ln t.
Khi ni n t nc, chng ta c khuynh hng ni ngay n hin php, lut, nh nc,
v.v Tt c nhng iu ny ng nhin l quan trng, nhng chng th cng nh ni
quy v iu l ca mt cng ty, hay t gi th ca hai v chng trong gia nh. Chng ai
quan tm n ni qui v iu l ca cng ty khi bn n mnh yu li l ca cng ty, v
chng ai nhc n t hn th khi ni n sc mnh hay im yu ca mt gia nh. Ci
mnh hay yu ch do mt im duy nht m rami ngi trong cng ty v trong gia
nh c ha thun v nng nhau cng tin ln hay khng, hay l chia nm s by, dnh
git nhau, m nhau? Cng ng ta snglng, x, huyn, thnh ph, quc gia
cng khng ra ngoi qui lut cn bn ny: Mi ngi chng ta c n nhau cng i
ln hay khng? Hay l tm cch ng trn bng cch p ngi khc xung? Nu
cng nng nhau ln th t nc i ln, v cng p nhau xung th t nc i
xung. Vn gin d th thi.
Rt gin d:
Mn,
Honh
Gieo ht dc ng i
Posted on Thng By 6, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Nhng cc ht l nhng g?
6. Cch t sng vng trn hai chn: C l iu tt nht ta c th trao tng mt ngi l
kin thc v kinh nghim gip cho ngi c th t sng, t xoay s, d l h c lt
vo bt k tnh hung kh khn no. y l gip cho h k nng sng cng nh t tin
sng mi ni, trong mi hon cnh. Phn ct cn ca n l t duy tch cc.
Mn,
Honh
Yu mnh v v ng
Posted on Thng By 10, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Khi nim yu mnh khng th tch ri khi khi nim yu ngi, tc l yu nhng
phn t khc trong ton th ca mnh, v yu i tc l yu ton th . Trong tnh yu
ny, ta thc c rt r tt c nhng g ta lm d l ch cho ring ta, u nh hng n
ngi chung quanh, nh hng n ton th, v khng th nh hng bn tay m khng
nh hng ton c th. Ti l ti trong cng ng v ti ca cng ng.
Khi ta nhn bn tay ca mnh, ta thy ton c th. Bi b cho ton c th cng l bi b
bn tay; bi b bn tay cng l bi b ton c th. Khi nim bn tay tch ri khi c th,
chng n nhp g n c th, l mt khi nim rt l lng v k d.
Mn,
Honh
Cho cc bn,
Kinh nghim cho thy cng mun i su vo t duy tch cc ta cng phi bc su vo
qu tim ca mnh. Cp u ca tt c cc kha hc v t duy tch cc lun lun nm
mc na ly nc. Cp hai l bit mnh v yu mnh. Cp ba l yu ngi v yu th gii.
Cp t tr ln l tm kim nhng gi tr su thm trong con tim ca mnh, nhng g cho
mnh tnh yu, an lc v sc mnh tinh thn nhiu nht. i khi l theo cp bc sau: gia
nh, qu hng, ng bo v t quc, th gii con ngi, i Th Tuyt i (the One,
the Ultimate, the Beginning and the End, the Heart, God). Ty theo mnh mun i su
n u, sc mnh tinh thn ca mnh tng theo n . Con ng ny di cho tt
c mi ngi u c th i cng ng, d rng cp c th khc nhau.
C vi iu chng ta cn quan tm y l:
3. Cng vo su trong qu tim, cng kh din t. Ni mt, nhiu khi ngi nghe hiu
lm hai ba. Cho nn cc qu v c o rt t ni. Gp nhau th hu nh chng ni g bao
gi. (Ni nhiu nh mnh, ngy no cng vit bi, l cha c o. Nhng khng vit th
khng chia s vi cc bn c, nht l cc bn tr hn mnh, m mnh rt quan tm). V
vy, vo cc vn chiu su ca con tim, cc bn c, nhng nn t qun st con tim
ca mnh k cng thc hnh hng ngy th mi trc nghim c cc vn . ng
qu b nh hng bi ngn t ta c, v chp vo ngn t l ta s lc.
4. Khi ni n chiu su thm nht ca con tim, bt buc ta phi r n cc khi nim
nghe rt tn gio, hay cc v thy c xem l gio ch cc tn gio. Nhng chiu su
con tim khng phi l tn gio. Tn gio l nh, cha, th, miu, chc sc, hng ng,
tin bc, quyn lc, lut l hnh chnh, v i khi l tranh chp quyn lc v chnh tr.
Ni chung l nhng t chc con ngi khng khc cc i cng ty my. Cc vic
khng phi l vic chng ta quan tm y. Chng ta ch quan tm n thnh qu nghin
cu chiu su con tim ca cc v thy ca cc tn gio gt hi trong my ngn nm
Mn,
Honh
Cho cc bn,
Chng ta bit l mi hin tng trn i ch l hin tng, hon ton trung tnh. Hin
tng khng c ngha no t chng n. ngha ca cc hin tng l do chnh chng
ta cho. Cc ngha ta cho hin tng c th chia ra thnh 3 nhmtch cc, tiu cc v
trung tnh.
V du: Ma.
Trc ht, ni chung l chng ta nn trnh nhng ngi thy tiu cc. Tiu cc mt t th
khng sao, nhng ngi tiu cc hng thy thng lm cho ta rt mt nng lng. Nghe
h ni mt hi l ta s bc mnh, trm cm, hay rt xung tinh thn. Khng nn mt nng
lng ngi nghe h. C hi cho chnh mnh.
V khi bn ni chuyn tch cc, nu c ngi cho rng bn ngy th, khng hiu i, hay
o dc gi, th mm ci, nhng ng cc thc gi lung lc.
T duy tch cc l tch cc xy dng t duy trong tm mnh cng nh mi trng t duy
tch cc quanh mnh. Ta khng th t duy tch cc nu ta tiu cc trc nhng lung
sng tiu cc trong x hi. Lm g th ty bn. Nhng do something!
Sau cng, ti sao ph hoi d hn xy dng c trm ln, m x hi li cha dit vong, cc
bn? ng l ra th x hi loi ngi tan r mt tiu ri ch?
Tha, hin tng x hi loi ngi cng ngy cng tin trin, d ph hoi th d hn xy
dng rt nhiu, l bng chng hng hn rng s ngi ph hoi rt t so vi s ngi xy
dng. l chng mnh rt r nhn chi s tnh bn thin.
Mn,
Honh
Du nhp vn ha nc ngoi
Posted on Thng By 14, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Mn,
Honh
Cho cc bn,
Trn bnh in t duy tch cc, trc y chng ta ni n khi nim thuc v
(sense of belonging) . Ta cng cm thy ta thuc v th gii mnh ang sng, ta cng t
duy tch cc. Ngui khng cm thy mnh thuc v th gii mnh sng thng b bnh
trm ut.
* Ca dao tc ng
Khng cn phi gii, nhng t ra l cng bit gii thch cho ngi khc, nh l gii
thch cho mt ngi nc ngoi r ngi ta thch vn ha mnh. Bit m cha gii
thch c, l cha bit. y tm l chuNn mc ta t xt on mnh tm cha.
Hng th cng m ngh Vit Nam khng th xut cng tt nu xem c nh hng Trung
Quc. m nhc Vit Nam khng xut cng c nu nghe nh nhc Jazz.
Thi ca nu c hng v Vit Nam, li mang chiu su con tim vt bin gii, mi l
loi thi ca c th xut cng.
Th gii nh nhau ng, vit sch v t tng ha bnh ca nh Pht th xut cng
c hn l vit trit l ty phng (Chng ta l thy trit ng, nhng l hc tr trit
ty).
Tm li, th gii cng thu nh v ton cu ha, ta li cng cn vng mnh vn ha ngh
thut quc gia cnh tranh kinh t.
sn pht huy n thnh sc mnh, trong i sng ring ca mnh cng nh trn chnh
trng v thng trng th gii.
Mn,
Honh
Cho cc bn,
T duy l bn trong v hnh ng l bn ngoi. T duy chi phi hnh ng. Nhng cuc
i a ta n bao tnh hung khc nhau mi ngy, i hi nhng hnh ng khc nhau
cho tng tnh hung. Hnh ng th khi nhanh khi chm, khi nh su lng suy t, khi nh
nh chp nh th khng kp suy t, khi th du dng, khi th dng mnh Vy th tm t
ta th no trong nhng tnh hung nh vy? Tm t ta cng bin chuyn v thng nh
hnh ng theo tng tnh hung hay sao?
D nhin l mt tinh thn minh mn trong mt c th trng kin. Nhng cuc t cng
trng kin, khng nht thit phi l cao th v lm. V i tu th cng chng cn phi
phng thn, v nh trong truyn i Pht Thch Ca cng nh nhiu v b tt khc, th thn
mnh l chuyn thng tnh. Ch cn cch ly gii duy nht l v hc th gip c ngi
c th nhiu hn, nht l ngy xa khi v thut t chnh n l mn v kh li hi.
V phi chng chnh ci tnh lng chn chn ca gc r cho php l cnh c xn xao
m cy khng v m ng nghing trc gc?
Th th, nhng tnh hung khc nhau trong ngy i hi ta c nhng hnh ng khc
nhau. Lm th no ta bit c nn hnh ng th no?
y l khi con tim tnh lng v ha i ca ta gip ta quyt nh phi lm g trong tnh
hung ny khi tnh hung ny ang xy ra. l l quyt nh ta khng th tnh trc
c m ch c th quyt nh ngay khi n xy ra. Vo lc mt tnh hung ang xy ra
vi nhng s kin c th ca nai ang lm g vi ai, ti ch no, trong khng kh no,
ci hi ci li ca hnh ng ca h th no, nhng iu g mnh nn lm can thip,
V d l sng c thin hnh vn trng, nhanh hay chm, du dng hay bo t v nhng
ngn cung phong bn ngoi, ta vn bit c bn cht ca nc l trong sut v tnh
lng th no.
Mn,
Honh
Yu thng ci yu ca mnh
Posted on Thng By 22, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Vn ch ny c vi im:
Thay v chi b ci yu ui ca mnh, th cch hay nht l chp nhn con ngi ca
mnh ton din, c ci yu ln ci mnh. D nhin l ta mun lm mnh ci yu, nhng
mun lm mnh khng c ngha l chi b. Khng ly do g phi chi b v khng yu
thng cnh tay ca mnh ch v n khng mnh nh mnh mun. Tc l, nu ta l ni
nng khi khng ng ni nng, bun khi sch ni khng nn bun, stress khi sch ni
khng nn stress, th c ung dung chp nhn n nh l mt phn ca mnh. V thay v c
chi b l mnh khng bun, khng stress th c ung dung i din ni bun ca mnh
v u i nhn n ang trong lng mnh.
Thin s Nht Hnh c vit trong Kinh Kim Cang Ging Gii, hy m p yu thng ni
bun ni au ca mnh v n l mnh. Kinh nghim ring ca mnh cng cho thy l khi
bun au, nu chi b ni au, c tnh gt n ra khi u c, th n c nm nhc nhi
thng ny qua nm n. Nhng nu c nhn n yu i v chp nhn, mnh ang au
nhc kinh khng, v cn au ang xu x mnh th kh nng cho mnh lnh c
cn au gia tng rt nhiu, c nh l cn bo hin ri s i xa.
Mn,
Honh
X-tin c nhn
Posted on Thng By 25, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
X tin c nhn l personal style, l cung cch ring ca mi ngi. Bt c vic g trn i,
mi ngi chng ta u c cung cch ring ca mnh. D thc hnh mn hc no, ngnh
ngh no, th mi v thy u c cung cch ring ca mnh. Vic quan trng nht ca
ngi hc tr trong bt k mn g, l t t khm ph ra cung cch ring ca mnh. Nu
khng c c cung cch ring th rt kh vt tri, d mn l mn g.
My hm trc mnh c gii thiu v Yanni v k nguyn nhc New Age. Ngi nhc s
hng u ca nhc New Age ny hc nhc khng c thy. C ngha l anh ta chng l
thuc vo cng thc vo ca mt ngi thy no p ung, c t mn m tm ra cch chi
nhc hp vi mnh nht. Trong cc mn v ngh thut, c th l hc cch th hay hn
l b g b vo cc cng thc n ni mnh khng pht trin c.
T duy tch cc v ngh thut sng hng ngy cng vy. Mi ngi chng ta c mt c
tnh, mt cch cm xc v t duy khc nhau. Chng ta phi quen thuc vi chnh mnh
tm ra nhng cch suy t v ng x hay nht cho mnh. C ngi khi ni gin th ung
mt ly nc, suy t n l l, t t ht gin. C ngi phi ra m bao ct vi chc ci
cho bt gin, ri suy t g th tnh sau. C ngi c th suy t trong yn lng, c ngi
ch suy t c nu nhc rock. C ngi th cn l l logic trc, c ngi cn vut ve
tnh cm trc. D l chng ta rt ging nhau trong nn tng, c tnh chng ta c nhiu
khc bit. Sng v t duy ph hp vi c tnh ring ca mnh th d tin b hn l p
mnh i theo cch khng hp vi mnh. Tri sinh ra mnh ging alto, th khng nn tn
cng tp cc bn nhc cho ging suprano.
Trong cc mn hc, k c t duy tch cc, c hai iu quan trng. Th nht, mnh mun
mnh tinh tn thng xuyn. Th hai, mnh bit mnh lm g th thch hp nht vi mnh.
V d: Chng ta thng nghe ni n cm n v tri n. Nhng nu ta khng quen ni cm
n nhiu, ni ra ta c cm tng khch so, th ni t thi cng c. D vy, ch cn bit
chc l ta tht c tri n trong lng, th t chnh n, lng tri n ca ta s bit cch lm vic,
theo cung cch ca ring ta. Where there is the will, there is the way. Ni no c y ch,
ni c ng i.
Mn
Cho cc bn,
Khi cn phi l gii di dng, ai trong chng ta cng tha bit ti sao nhn nhc quan
trng n th: Nu mi ngi nhn mt t th th gii ny s bin thnh thin ng bnh
an. Tt c chin tranh, tranh chp v, do , au kh, xy ra ch v chng ta khng bit
nhn, hoc khng mun nhn, hoc khng th nhn.
Tm thi gt qua mt bn cc chuyn kh khn (nh a thm m kia cho k th, hay
phong cho k ti ngy mu hi mnh thnh Pht nh Pht Thch Ca lm vi B t
a), chng ta ch cn thng nhng chuyn nh xy ra hng ngy vi mnh, th cng
Nu i bun chung m partner ca mnh v l do g cho rng phi chia 55/45, cho anh
ta phn ln hn mt t, thay v 50/50 nh mnh ngh. Ta c th nhn c khng?
Thng thng trn Internet ai cng mun ni cui, cho nn cc tranh lun khng bao
gi kt thc. Trong cc lp hc cho cc lut s chuyn v tranh tng, c cu ny: Say
what you want to say. Then shut up and sit down. (Ni iu g bn mun. Xong ri
ngm ming li v ngi xung). Ni xong iu mnh cn ni v bit ngi nghe hiu
ht mnh, th ngi yn, cho bn kia mun ni g th ni. Li nhi hoi ch lm ngi
khc bc mnh, m ra ci ming kin ci thn.
Mnh ngh l mnh gii hn bn lm cng phng, nhng bn mnh th c thng chc,
mnh th khng, c cn thit mnh phi i cng l khng?
Tuy nhin, khi x hi khng dnh lu t no, hoc ch dnh lu khng ng k, tc l mnh
khng c l do x hi, m ch l c nhn mnh b tn cng, th mnh c th nhn nhc,
kham nhn, c khng?
Mn,
Honh
Cho cc bn,
Bi bit c nhu cu phi hiu bit ton cnh chin u c hiu qu, cho nn cc v
gia hiu r tm quan trng ca c im tnh, tc l tm quan trng ca vic chin thng
nh hng ca adrenaline khi i din nguy him. V vy, ton b con ng v s o
ca v hc mi ni u nhm n iu ny: c im tnh. V d:
Ngi xp bng, tp trung ht th, tp kh cng: Gia tng cng lc l chuyn nh, tp tm
tnh lng n mc adrenaline khng lm cho tm xung ng l chuyn ln.
Nhn nhc b i, hay l gii nh nh: gii quyt vn m khng cn phi t mnh
vo v th c th b adrenaline iu khin. Hn na, ni chuyn nh nh trc khi phi
nh nhau cng lm cho adrenaline khng c dp dy ln sm.
1. Ngn chn xung ng, khng cho n trong cc cng vic hng ngy
Lch lm vic thong th. Phn ln stress trong ngy n v ta c nht nhiu qu vo
lch lm vic. Chm li mt t, v lm lch th th mt t. V d: Nu c cuc hp quan
trng cch ni mnh lm 30 pht, th dnh 40 pht di chuyn. 10 pht tr hao kt
xe bt thng. Nu b kt xe mnh khng stress. Bc vo mt cuc hp quan trng vi
stress l rt tai hi.
dnh cng nhiu la chn cng tt. Khng nn quyt nh kiu t cu (burn
the bridge) nu khng b bt buc lm th, v mnh khng th bit c l trong tng lai
mnh c th phi i ngc li chic cu . Khng nn ng bt k cnh ca no vnh
vin, nu mnh khng b bt buc phi lm th. Cng c nhiu ca m cho tng lai,
cng c nhiu t do, v cng t stress cho mnh.
Trn ng lun lun c g hoc ngi li xe 'u. Ngha l cng vic lun lun gp
tr ngi ln nh thng xuyn. Chng l do g bn phi stress khi gp tr ngi. ch l
chy phi g thi. Thc ra, bn c tr cng ch gii quyt tr ngi. Tr ngi chnh
l ti tin ca bn. Nu mi vic tri chy nh tnh ton, khng c tr ngi, th ngi ta
dng computer ht ri, cn u vic cho con ngi lm.
.
Lm quen vi tnh lng thng xuyn. Mi ngy b ra 10 hay 15 pht sng vi tnh
lngngi thin, cu nguyn, hay nhn sao trn tri.
Tin vo mt quyn nng cng bnh cao hn con ngi. Thng , Cha, Pht, hay
mt lut vay tr t nhin. Hy nhn thng vo s tht: Nu ta ch tin vo con ngi thun
ty, th hi kh y, vi mi loi ma o quanh ta.
kt lun, chng ta hy nghe James Allen ni trong quyn sch thnh kinh in ca
ng, As a Man Thinketh (Khi Con Ngi Suy T), nm 1902:
Ngi im tnh, hc c cch t qun ly, bit cch ha mnh vi ngi khc; v
ngc li, nhng ngi khc knh trng sc mnh tinh thn ca anh y, v cm thy l h
c th hc hi anh v trng cy vo anh. Mt ngi cng tnh lng, th thnh cng, nh
hng, v quyn lc cho thin ho ca anh ta cng ln. Ngay c ngi i bun bnh
thng cng thy c thng mi ca anh ta mnh thm khi anh ta pht trin c tnh
t kim sot v im tnh, v ngi ta lun lun thch lm n vi mt ngi c tc phong
rt qun bng.
Mn,
Honh
Cho cc bn,
D nhin ta c th hiu ngay l nhng ngi ny qua mt tin trnh ti ha trong khi
ang trng thnh (nu ta gi l trng thnh); tc l cng ln tui h cng ti i.
Ti sao?
Ti sao tin trnh khng i theo chiu ngc li? Ti sao n khng i t con ngi
tiu cc ti t t t bin thnh cc nh lnh o trong sng ly tng? Nu i sng con
ngi tin ha theo chiu ny c phi l th gii thnh thin ng ht ri khng?
* Phi bit i theo b ngnhm ny, ng ny, o nycc nhm khc phe khc
l sai, v iu g phe ta lm cng ng, k c nhng iu v o c.
Cho nn, cng phu chnh ca cc bn khi trng thnh trong ng i, khng phi l
cc tr ma o u. Cng phu chnh l lm th no trng thnh m vn trong
sng, thnh tht, tch cc nh khi cn i hc. Cho nn ng di dt nghe theo li ch
dy ca cc v thy v qun s hng trm vt.
Mn,
Honh
Lm th no bt au kh ?
Posted on Thng By 31, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
1. Trnh au
- B ngi chi xu, th b qua, cho l chuyn yu km t nhin ca con ngi, v tha
th cho h.
Ngi c con tim nh nhng th coi thng thua l l thng, v vui v ra i. Ngi c tm
sn hn s nui th mi nm, hai mi nm, cho n khi ra c hn.
y l ng ba gia t do v t ngc.
Mn,
Honh
Cho cc bn,
Mi khi mnh cng ng, xung tinh thn n tuyt vng, khng cn bit phi lm
g, th mnh hay ly on vn ngn ny ra c. V khi mt ngi bn no ca mnh c
chuyn khng vui, mnh gi on vn ny n bn.
Mount of Beatitude, i ca (bi ging) Hnh Phc Tht, Capernaum v Bin Galilee
(Do Thi)
Trong Thnh kinh, Cha Gisu c mt bi ging di rt ni ting, ging cho my ngn
ngi nghe trn i cao, gi l Bi ging trn i cao (The sermon on the mount). an
vn ngn ny l on m u ca Bi gng trn i cao, v c tn l Beatitudes (Hnh
Phc Tht).
Hm nay mnh dch v post bi Beatitudes y, c bit cho Sesame v Leo Pretty, v
cc bn ang nhiu au kh trong lng. Bi v mnh khng bit c g hay hn gi gm.
Mn,
Honh
Beatitudes
Nu c v cc k nng sng, k nng lm cho mnh vui v hnh phc, k nng c nhn
tm, k nng tng hiu nng cng vic, k nng ngoi giao, ri n cc k nng lm vic
qun ly d n, qun l nhn vin, th c l chng ta s ngp th hu nh c qu nhiu
iu hc, v hu nh khng nh ht hc. l cha k mi thy ni mt ng.
Rt cuc hc tr nh lc vo m hn trn, khng bit ng no m m.
* Nu bn khim tn, ng nhin l bn knh trng suy ngh ca ngi khc, cho nn
bn t thnh kin v t tranh ci, v ha gii tt vi mi ngi.
Mn,
Honh
Lm th no khim tn ?
Posted on Thng Tm 4, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Th th khim tn sao c?
Sau y chng ta nghin cu mt s phng thc quen thuc dng t hun luyn tnh
khim tn:
Ni theo truyn thng Moses (Do thi gio, Thin cha gio, Hi gio) v cc truyn
thng tm linh khc, th con ngi c Thng to nn, l con ca thng , cho
nn d l rt nh b, vn c mt y ngha ln trong ton th to vt.
Mn,
Honh
Cho cc bn,
C l c tnh c ngi i ca tng nhiu nht l tnh kin nhn. Cato the Elder ni,
Kin nhn l c tnh ln nht trong mi c tnh. Issac Newton ni, Nu ti c c
khm ph gi tr no, l nh ch y kin nhn hn l bt k ti nng no ti c. Vy,
kin nhn l g v lm sao ta c c kin nhn?
T kin nhn (patience) c nhiu ngha hi khc nhau ty theo tng ng cnh. Khi th n
c ngha kin tr, khng b cuc; khi th khng qu nng lng ch kt qu, c bnh tnh
ch thi gian n; khi th c ngha nhn nhc chu ng kh khn. Ty theo y ngha
khc nhau, chng ta c luyn tp kin nhn khc nhau.
1. Kin nhn l bit thi gian tnh. y l vn timing. y l kin nhn ngi ta ni
n thng nht, thc t nht, v cn t cng phu nht.
Mi vn , mi cng vic, u c nhng chu trnh ring v nhng mc thi gian cho chu
trnh. Ngi hiu vn th kin nhn i thi gian, lm vic theo chu trnh thi gian.
Ngi khng hiu th bn chn nng ny Ti sao cha thy g? v lm thm iu g
cha nn lm, v vy m hng chuyn. Cho nn, vic g cha bit cha rnh, th hc
ngi c kinh nghim hn ch li.
Ch s t rnh mi, bit l dng sui ny thng c nai n ung nc, cho nn c kin
nhn nm trong bi rm, ht tra n chiu n ti, hm nay cha c, ngy mai cng phi
c. Cn bn thi gian tnh ny m cn khng bit, v khng hnh ng theo thi gian, th
nht nh l phi i.
Mun t tin vo chnh mnh th ch phi ln vo chin trn bit l mnh thc ra cng
khng ti. Nh hc tr hc v, cch duy nht t tin l ra sn u. My hm u n n
hi nhiu, my hm sau n n t hn, v li thy mnh cng cho i phng n c vi
n. Th l c t tin.
Nu c s hi trong lng mnh nu mnh li, khng cho mnh vo chin trn, khng
cho mnh n n, th mnh s s hi v thiu t tin c i.
.
li cho nhng yu km ca hon cnh l suy ngh thiu lun l. Thnh cng ca
bn khng bit n cc im yu ca bn, v ch bit chiu theo sc mnh ca bn.
Vy th, ng ni n cc im yu ca hon cnh ca mnh. Hy ch tm n nhng
im mnh ca mnh m pht trin.
.
3. Kin nhn l nhn nhc, nhn nhn. y l ngha cao nht ca kin nhn. y
khng cn l thnh cng trong vi d n, v l hon ton lm ch tm mnh, lm ch i
mnh, thnh cng cho c i mnh. y l nhn nhc m ta ni trong bi Mt s nhn
l chn s lnh, l khim tn v khng cn ci ti, l m ca tt c cc k nng sng
khc, m ta ni trong bi Nhng k nng sng, v Lm th no khim tn.
Mn,
Honh
Lm th no thnh tht
Posted on Thng Tm 8, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Trong mt phim xi-n mnh xem kh lu, mt nhm khoa hc gia to dng mt a
b, hnh nh l bng cloning (to t t bo mu) th phi. a b ln ln khe mnh v
bt u bit ni nh bnh thng. Ri mt hm n, a b ni di mt cu g , l
cu ni di u tin em ni, v c nhm khoa hc gia nhy ln vui mng, , n ni di,
n ni di. N bit ni di ri. V l bng chng tr c em tin trin tt, n
mc thng thi hn.
Trong pht trin kinh t, chnh tr, hay thng mi, ch tn cc k quan trng. Nu nh
nc ni m dn khng tin, th chng chnh sch no c th thnh cng. Nu ngi tiu
th khng tin cng ty, th cng ty sp tim. Nu bn c danh ting l li ni khng ng
tin, th rt kh tm vic hay lm n.
Mnh phi dnh thi gian yn lng mi ngy, qun st mnh mt t xem mnh c kiu
cng khng, c hay thiu thnh tht khng Nu mnh khng c thi gian mi ngy
qun st mnh, d l ch vi pht, th mnh khng th thnh tht vi chnh mnh, v
mnh khng th bit c l mnh khng thnh tht n mc no. M nu ta khng thnh
tht vi chnh mnh, th bo m l ta khng thnh tht vi c th gii. Cho nn thnh
tht vi chnh mnh l im khi u. Nu bn khng khi u ni ny, th nn b lun
an sau v khng th c on sau nu khng c im khi u.
l cha k ta sng trong th gii nhiu ngi, ngay c khi hai ngi i u, nu ta
di tr vi i phng th ch lm cho a s thin h bn quang b ta m ng h i
phng.
Thnh tht khng c ngha l tin ngi. Giang h him hc. Thnh tht ngha l ni
ra cu no th ng s tht cu ; chuyn khng nn ni th khng ni. Nhng thnh tht
khng c ngha l ai ni g cng tin. l kh kho ch khng phi thnh tht. iu ny
th bn phi khn kiu ng ph (street wise) mt t.
Thnh tht cng khng c ngha l kh kho, ai ni g cng tin theo m khng nhn ra
cc du hiu kh nghi. Thnh tht khng c ngha l i u cng nhm mt, bt mi, che
tai.
Thnh tht s lm cho ngi tin ta. M nhiu ngi tin ta th nht nh l phi thnh
cng, v trong lin h con ngi trong x hi, chng c g c mi ngi qu trng hn
thnh tht.
Mn,
Honh
Cho cc bn,
Nu chng ta c suy t (v hnh ng) nh ctc l phn nn v tnh trnh gian tham
trong ncth ta chng gii quyt c g c. m ch lm cho vn thnh trm trng
thm, v cng phn nn ta cng tin iu ta phn nn, m cng tin th ta cng c khuynh
hng sng theo s tht ta tin, tc l mi ngi tip tc sng theo kiu gian tham.
Cch gii quyt vn DUY NHT l ngh v ni rng Thnh tht s a n thnh
cng v sng thnh tht nh th thnh cng. V iu ny rt d lm, khng c ly do
g ngi no c th ni l kh. Nu trong nh nc cn bng ng, v bn cho rng bn
khng thnh tht c, th ra ngoi lm t. Trong nn kinh t t nhn, khch hng ch
mun sng vi cc cng ty ng tin cy, nu bn ng tin cy th bn s thnh cng, nu
khng th phi ng ca. Khch hng khng mun gian di.
Chng ta khng th ly i bng ti bng cch ngi nguyn ra chi bi bng ti. Ta
phi thp ln mt ngn n bng tm gng tch cc thnh tht ca ta.
Nu bn tin rng, x hi chng ta c qu nhiu gian di, th t nht tin thm rng, nu bn
thnh tht bn s ni bt gia m ngi gian di nh vin kim cng gia bi ct. Nu
ni bt th th c hi bn nh hng tt n ngi khc c th rt cao.
Mn,
Honh
Cho cc bn,
T duy tch cc cn cho tt c mi ngi. Tuy nhin trong cc cng ty thng mi,
nhng ngi c hun luyn t duy tch cc d di nht l nhng i qun bn hng v
tip th. y l nhng i qun tin phong trn chin trng, mang tin v cho hng. H
l mnh mu ca hng. Tt c cc ngnh ngh khc trong hng u l hu cn ca i
tin phong ny. Nu i ny tht trn l c hng i. Cho nn i ng bn hng v tip th
phi lun lun v nhng chin s u t, nh u thng , khng s thua.
Vic hun luyn i ng bn hng v tip th nhm vo mt vic duy nhth phi lun
lun vui v yu i, lun lun tin l mnh s thng, lun lun quyt thng, khng c ch
tht bi trong t in ca h.
Ngh tt v mnh: Mnh c ti, mnh thng minh, mnh lm vic chm ch, mnh p,
mnh c duyn Ngui tiu cc v chnh mnh khng th bn hng hay tip th c, v
nu chnh mnh m mnh cn khng thy c ci hay ca mnh th mnh thy ci hay
ca sn phNm no c?
Mi ngi u c nhng ci p ci hay cho mnh thch, nhng tm s cho mnh thng
cm, nhng nhu cu k thut m mnh c th gip trong phm vi ngh nghip ca
mnh, nhng gii hn phi gi (nh ngn sch gii hn, v.v)
Hng bn c hay khng, khng quan trng. Tnh cm v lin h bn b gia mnh
v khch hng ca mnh mi l iu quan trng. Lin h tt s t ng bn hng cho
mnh.
Ti ci.
Khng ni chuyn kiu tiu cc. Tiu cc thng bt u bng, Ti khng thch ,
ti ght, ti khinh thng, my loi ngi .., my loi v.v
Khng ni chuyn v cc vn tiu cc. Nh, chin tranh Iraq, tin ngi cht u
Nu khch ni chuyn tiu cc th h cho qua chuyn, nhng nu c dp l hng
khch v nhng chuyn vui v yu i.
Mt bc No l mt bc n gn Yes.
Cc k thut bun bn v tip th ny thc ra cng l qui lut sng tch cc cho tt c
chng ta, trong tt c mi ngnh ngh s, v c nh vi gia nh.
Mn,
Honh
Cho cc bn,
Hm nay ta tip tc nghin cu, lm cch no chng ta gia tng sng to cho mi c
nhn chng ta v, nh vy, d nhin l cho c quc gia.
1. iu th nht l t duy: Sng l sng to. Sng l mc thm chi non, l mi, cnh
mi mi ngy. Sng to khng phi l y thch. Sng to chnh l sng. Khng cn sinh ra
c ci g mi na l cht hay sp cht. Gin d th thi.
2. Sng to l suy ngh khng ging ai, lm ci khng ging ai. Cho nn hy ca ngi
nhng ci khng ging ai ca ngi khc, d ci mnh khng cn, v khng my thch
(min l khng thc s phi chng v ly do c th no v v sinh, hay o c, hay
ly do quan trng no ).
3. Khuyn khch con ci, hc tr, bn b, v nhng ngi quanh ta th hin c tnh ca
h, th hin cc suy tng v hnh ng mi l ca h.
10. Tt c chng ta cn bit rng sng to l yu t quyt nh thng hay bi, cho mi
c nhn ta, v cho t quc ta trn chnh trng v thng trng quc t. u c l
khng tm ra ci g mi th phi thua, cng ngh ra c nhiu ci mi ta cng thng.
Tt c h thng gio dc, chnh tr, kinh t, x hi ca ta phi nhm vo mc tiu gia tng
mc sng to mi c nhn trong nc. Cc hnh thc bp nght sng to phi c dp
b. Chng ta l mt quc gia v ch. Ta thng nhng cng quc mnh nht th gii
trong nhiu cuc chin. Hy sng v lm vic nh nhng ngi v ch.
Mn,
Honh
Cho cc bn,
Mun cho mi c nhn c pht trin ti a tim nng ca mnh, mi c nhn phi pht
trin ti a c tnh ca mnh. Mun quc gia pht trin ti ta tim nng ca quc gia,
mi c nhn phi pht trin ti a c tnh ca mnh.
D nhin l trong i i khi ta phi lm quyt nh ngay lp tc, d l cha kin thc.
Trong trng hp , nn ly kin thc ca nhng ngi c xem nh l bit vn
lm kin thc tm ca mnh, cho n khi mnh thc s hiu. V d: Ta khng chc ht
thuc c hi khng, nhng hin thi ta cn c quyt nh ngay ht hay khng? Vy th
tm thi c nghe theo cc qu v bc s ni l thuc l c th gy ung th, ri theo m
quyt nh, cho n lc ta nghin cu thm v lm quyt nh cui cng.
3. Pht trin c tnh ca mnh c ngha l mnh cng khuyn khch ngi khc pht
trin c tnh ca h, v knh trng c tnh ca h, d l c tnh chi vi c tnh ca
mnh. V d: Mnh l ngi ni nh nh, bn mnh l ngi ni rn rng nghe mun lng
l nh, th vn c khuyn khch bn mnh sng vi c tnh ca bn.
Ngi khng khuyn khch ngi khc pht trin c tnh, ng nhin l ngi thch
ng khun, nh vy th chnh ngi cng khng th pht trin c c tnh ca mnh
(ngoi tr c tnh ng khun).
Ngi thc s tnh thc khng cn phi chy theo m ng. H ngi yn suy ngh chnh
chn, ri i theo quyt nh ring ca mnhhoc ng y vi m ng hoc i ng
khc.
5. Pht trin c tnh khng c ngha l coi thng mi ngi khc. ch l thiu
hiu bt, kiu cng, v thiu t tin. Ngi c c tnh mnh th rt gn gi v thn thit
vi nhng ngi chung quanh, v h qu trng v thch th c tnh ca mi ngi chung
quanh.
Ngc li, ngi c c tnh yu, thch ng khun, thng khng bit tn trng c tnh
ca ngi khc, v cng mun ngi khc ng khun nh mnh.
Pht trin c tnh l ci ngun ca sng to. Ngi c c tnh ng khun ng nhin
cng ch c th sng to kiu ng khun, ngha l chng sng to g c. V vy, mi
ngi chng ta hy t pht trin c tnh ca mnh v khuyn khch mi ngi chung
quanh cng lm th.
V bt u bng mt ch HI.
V cng ng suy t theo kiu khng suy t, , ci ny ti, ti khng thch v khng
gii thch c ti sao ti khi b ngi hi vn li. l ni lm nhm, khng phi l suy
t.
Mn,
Honh
Ti v khng ti
Posted on Thng Tm 17, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Ngi c ngh rng cuc i mnh, mng sng mnh hon ton l con zero, chng nh
hng g n ai, chng nh hng g n t nc no, th chc l khng h ngh n hy
sinh i sng ca mnh cho iu g c, v l zero th c ngha ly g m phi cht v ch
cho ung mng.
Th ngha l sao?
Trong Thin Cha Gio th ta phi bit ta l con ca thng , rt l qu ha, trc khi
ta c th b ci ti ca mnh ha nhp lm mt cng thng .
Chng ta khng cn phi theo tn gio no, cng c th hiu c s thng thi ca cc
tn gio trong vic am tng qu tim con ngi, v dng s am tng hun luyn
qu tim con ngi.
Tha, nu cha thun thc th ta phi i tng bc mt, theo tng cp m i ln:
2. Mc suy t cao hn: Nhng g tri cho mnh cng ng gi v cng mang n
cho mnh thnh cng nh nhng ci m cc i gia khc trong thin h c. Mnh phi
bit nhn din nhng vn ling mnh c v nghin cu cch pht trin cc vn ling
thnh li tc.
3. Mc cao hn na: Mnh v ang thnh cng. i sng ca mnh, cng vic ca
mnh c nh hng n nhng ngi xung quanh, c nh hng n x hi ny, i sng
ny.
4. Mc cao hn: Con ngi mnh cn rt nhiu tim nng cao hn l ch lm thng
mi, lm chnh tr hay lm kinh t thnh cng. Mnh c th cm nhn c th gii
ny, i sng ny, v mnh l mt phn ca s sng v cng, s sng bng bc trong v
tr.
Tuy nhin, d l c ni n v ng hay khng ti, tin trnh trng thnh vn l nhn
thc c ci ti, bit qu trng ti, nui dng hun luyn ti, ti trng thnh v
thun thc tng bc, cho n khi ti vt thot c c gii hn ca ti v suy t nh l
mt phn mt thit ca i Sng.
Mn,
Honh
Bi lin h:
Cho cc bn,
Trong ting Anh c t circle of influence. T ny c nhiu ngha rt khc nhau. Trong bi
ny chng ta hiu ngha vng nh hng ca bn l tt c nhng ngi m bn c th
c nh hng, ngha l li ni ca bn c th c h nghe k mt t, li ni ca bn c
c nh hng trn nhng ngi khng t th nhiu.
i lm (bn thi gian nu cn bn hc). Tip vin nh hng l vic l tng nht
sinh vin cc lp thp khi u. Cng vic ny gp c trm ngi mt ngy, v thng l
thc khch ch cn nhn phong cch mt (sinh vin) tip vin lm vic l c th bit c
mnh c mun c y lm k s cho mnh khi c ra trng khng.
Xung phong lm vic khng lng cho cc qu v c thNm quyn (nh tm ti liu gip
mt gio s ang vit v mt ti)va hc thm kinh nghim va c cc v gii
thiu ng i nc bc sau ny.
Xung phong trong cc cng tc thin nguyn, thanh nin, sinh vin, hc sinh v.v
Xung phong trong cc cng vic trong cc t chc c sn: Nh th, nh cha, trng
hc, v.v
Phn ny l phn chnh, phi khng cc bn? Nu mnh quen 1000 ngi m 1001 ngi
khng tin mnh th cng v ch. Th l ch quen 5 ngi nhng c 5 ngi u trn trng
li ni ca mnh.
Tha:
iu cui cng, nhng quan trng s hai. Nghe cho k, v hi li cho k. Khng
nghe cNn thn v khng hi li chc chn ta hiu y ngi ni, thng lm cho ta gy
nn nhiu hiu lm. V d: Bn mnh ni Ngy mai nu tri khng ma em n nh
ch. Ngy mai tri ma nhng mnh i c ngy, khng thy g, gi n thoi n trch
bn, Sao ni n khng n, t ngi i c ngy?
Nu c c nhiu ngi quen bit v ai cng tin li ni ca bn, tin bn ngay c khi
ngi ta khng ng vi bn, th lm sao bn c th khng thnh cng c?
Mn,
Honh
Ni chuyn th no ?
Posted on Thng Tm 19, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
khe hn 10 ln. Ngy xa i sinh con th i, nhng hc th khng c lp. Ngy nay c
b ln m u hc lp sinh con cng vic i bin ca ph n tri chy hn v c
c ngi bn ng chia s.
Nu ta khng hc ni, th cch ni chuyn ch l biu hin t nhin ca c tnh (do bNm
sinh v thi quen nh gio dc gia nh), v nh vy l hn xui may ri. C ngi th ni
chuyn ai cng thng, c ngi th ai cng ght, a s chng ta th thng khi ni
chuyn xong mi thy l c nhng iu mnh khng nn ni, hoc l nhng cch ni
mnh khng nn dng Ni chung l v ta khng thun thc k nng ni chuyn, cho
nn cht lng ni chuyn ty thuc nhiu vo hn xui may ri, ty theo hm ra ng
c gp trai hay khng.
M mun chia s th mnh phi hiu ngi kia. Cng hiu su hiu k, cng chia s tt.
V d hai mn i thoi sau y:
Bun qu gh nh b chi.
Bun g vy?
Bun qu gh nh b chi.
qua i. mnh chy ra tim tp ha u ng mua vi tri xoi nhm nhi.
II. V vy, quy lut ni chuyn th 2, l phi lng nghe, v ch c lng nghe mi hiu
bit chia s.
y l qui lut thc hnh u tin. (Quy lut s mt bn trn l mc tiu trong t tng).
V qui lut lng nghe ny tri ngc li vi a s chng ta. Chng ta thng thng
dng ni chuyn trnh by kin ca mnh (Thng cha x trai d man tn bo),
hay s thch (Ti thch nhc rock hn nhc c in), hay kin thc (Decartes l cha
ca tam an lun). Nhng ch l mt chiu, v l chiu th hai. Chiu u l chiu
lng nghe, v nu khng lng nghe th ta cng ni khng hiu qu. Phi lng nghe trc
khi ni.
Tnh lng tc l khng ni nhiu, nht l ni ra kin ca mnh khi khng cn ni.
V d:
Tnh lng l khng suy ngh lung tung trong u trong khi nghe. Ch nn ch tm
vo vic nghe m thi. V d:
ng nn suy ngh v phn on trong khi nghe nh th. Ch nghe vi mt qa tim tnh
tng, khng phn on, khng thnh kin.
6. Lng nghe l nghe c ngn ng thn th. Dng i, cch ngi, cch ng c th
ni ln rt nhiu cm xc trong lng.
7. Lng nghe l nh nhng khuyn khch ngi kia ni tip, bng gt u ng y, hay
vng d, hay lp li cc tnh t ngi kia mi ni , bun tht, , kh tht.
8. Lng nghe l lng nghe. Lng nghe khng c ngha l bn phi cho y kin, cho c
vn, cho phn an, hay lm g . Khi ngi kia cn y kin, h s hi y kin bn, lc
hy ni. Bng khng th bn ch cn lng nghe, vy l cho cuc ni chuyn ri.
IV. Chia s khng phi l mt hnh ng tri thc, m l mt hnh ng tnh cm.
Ngay c khi ngi ta chia s tri thc, v d Mnh post bi gii ton ny chia s vi
cc bn, d tan l tri thc, th chia s tri thc ton l hnh ng tnh cm chia s vi
nhng ngi mnh yu quy. Cng nh chia s mt qu camd qu cam l thc phNm th
vic chia s qu cam cng l hnh ng tnh cm.
V vy, hy t con tim vo vic chia s khi ni chuyn. Dng con tim sng ch tm,
ch thnh, ch tnh.
Honh
Ni trong ni chuyn
Posted on Thng Tm 21, 2009 by tdhoanh
3. Mang cch gii quyt cho chnh mnh c vn cho bn (nh l, Cho hn vi tt tai
trc, vic g tnh sau!). ng lm th. Mi ngi c mt tm tnh, mt khuynh hng
tnh cm v logic khc nhau, c vn ca mnh phi ph hp vi bn tnh v cm xc ca
bn, th mi xong. Nu khng, th c vn ca mnh cng v ch, v chc l bn mnh cng
khng nghe theo. V vy, phi hiu vn v cm xc ca bn trc khi c vn.
3. Lm Devils advocate. Devils advocate (bin h cho Qu) l mnh gi lm ngi phe
ch, tn cng bn mnh, bn mnh nghin cu cch . Cc lut s lun lun lm vic
ny, hng ngy, xy dng h thng l lun vng chc cho v kin ca mnh.
6. Trnh ni kiu tuyt i. V d: y l quyn sch hay nht. y l ngi gii nht.
y l cu ni ni ting nht.
Hoc l nhc n nhng gii thng c th, nh Tun bo ABC bnh chn nm 2008,
y l cu ni ni ting nht th k 20.
* Bn trn l mt s cc im chnh trong vic ni. Tuy nhin, chng ta khng cn phi
nh ht mi im, v nu ta ch khim tn v bit lng nghe rt gii, th t nhin ta s
ni ng cu ng cch v t lm li. Chng ta khng nn qu nhiu n cc quy
lut lt nht m qun mt gc r. Trong lin h con ngi, gc r nm ch quan tm
n ngi i din. M quan tm th c ngha l lng nghe v ng h, v dp bt ci ti,
tc l dp bt thi quen ca mnh, thch ca mnh, thnh kin ca mnh, kin thc ca
mnh, con ng ca mnh.
Trn y ch l cc quy lut chung chung. Thc hnh th phi ty tnh th m uyn
chuyn v tho b quy lut. Nu sng i ch theo mt s quy lut cng nhc l xong,
th cuc i qu d, nh l n nt computer thi. u c gin d th.
Ngh thut th ch c qui lut hng dn chung chung, nhng khi thc hnh th li bin
ha v cng. Ty nghi m ng x.
Mn,
Honh
Networking
Posted on Thng Tm 21, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Cch thng thng nht ngi ta dng network l i hp, gp nhau, ni chuyn vi
nhau mt t v trao i danh thip. Sau mt seminar hay mt conference no thng ta
c mt m danh thip, mai sau nu cn th bit ai m gi.
Mt trong nhng cch thng xuyn nht l trong nhng dp gp nhau ng ngi, mi
ngi cm ly nc ung, ng ln ln nhau trong cn phng tip tn ln, v i vng
vng, bt tay nhau ni chuyn, ni vi mi ngi mt t. Mnh chng bit cch ny c
hu qu bao nhiu, v mnh khng thch n my. Trong cc dp ng ngi, mnh cng
cho hi mi ngi mi ngi mt t, nhng chng bao gi mnh xem n nh l
networking c. Ch l cho hi v l x giao v lch s.
Tuy nhin mnh thy nhiu chuyn vin networking dng cch ny mt cch khng
c thun thc lm. Anh chng n bt tay, t gii thiu, trao danh thip, ni chuyn
vi mnh vi ba cu, nhng mt th c lo lin o quanh phng, tm mc tiu k tip.
Xem ra rt khng thnh thc khi ni chuyn.
Theo mnh nhn xt, khi netwoking ngi ta hay hi nhau lm vic g, v l cu hi
t nhin, hn na n nm trong danh thip, dng lm ti ni chuyn. Nhng iu nh
hng nhau khng phi l vic lm, m l hai iu ny:
Mi mt nhm ngi c mt loi t cch kiu mu khc nhau. Trong mt nhm ton l
ngi lm n ma o, nu bn l ngi hin lng chn tht, chc l bn s b lng qun
trong gc phng.
Cng ln cao th bng cp, a v, tin bc v k nng ngai giao cng mt kh nng gy
n tng. cp rt cao, s chn tht ca mt ngi c sc thuyt phc rt mnh.
V vy, danh ting no mnh to ra, tt hay xu, th cng s nm cht trong vi tnh t ,
t ra l cng mt thi gian kh lu. Thnh hay khng, mt phn ln cng nh vi tnh t
ny ta c trong bn b.
Mn,
Honh
Luyn tp to nn hon ho
Posted on Thng Tm 26, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Vy th practice l g?
Practice cng khng c ngha l study. Study l hc. Nhng ngi ta c khi hc l thuyt,
c khi hc thc hnh. Practice l thc hnh. Ngi ta khng ni study makes perfect,
m ngi ta ni Practice makes perfect.
Thc tp lun lun chn pho, mt mi, m thm, khng mu m, khng vinh quang,
khng hp dn S tht en ti ca cuc i l th. l cuc i tht ca cc i s
ph v i s mu trong tt c cc ngnh ngh thut. Ngay c sau khi nc ting giang
h, ln TV bo ch ng, th cuc i thc tp chn pho vn l cuc i chnh. Mt
nm may ra ln TV ho nhong mt hai ln, mt ln vi ting ng h. Cn phn ln
cuc i cn li l luyn tp, luyn tp, v luyn tp. Trong m thm.
Cho nn chng ta khng th t duy tch cc ch bng cch c t duy tch cc, khng th
thnh tht ch bng c v thnh tht, khng th khim tn ch bng c v khim tn,
khng th sng to ch bng c v sng to, khng th c nhn tm ch bng c v c
nhn tm.
Vn trong cc k nng sng l, khng phi chng ta khng bit, nhng chng ta khng
kin tm thc hnh. Ni chung th tt c chng ta bit tt c nhng iu cn bit.
Nhng c ngi thc tp, c ngi khng. Nhiu ngi tm c mi sch pht trin
nhn cch, hc lm ngi, c nhn tm, ngh thut ni chuyn, ngh thut chinh phc
c i, nhng khng thc tp hng ngy nghim chnh. (D nhin l c sch k nng
sng hng ngy cng tt. l nhc nh hng ngy, nh hng nh t k m th. Nhng
nu c khng m khng hnh, th khng c ri).
T hn na, nhiu ngi khng nhng khng thc tp cc c tnh tt, li xm nhau h
chuNn t cch xung. Ti khng r n c chuNn v chuNn qu cao so vi ti, th th ti
ko chuNn xung thp. Th l chng ta c vn ha ni di l hiu i, t tin di
gm bn l khn ngoan, ai cht mc ai, khn th c ngm ming
Rt may l th gii con ngi khng i theo hng . V ni g th ni, ngi thnh tht
vn c ngi ta tin hn v mun lm n chung hn, ngi can m th c bn trung
thnh hn k b bn m chy Ngha l, nhng ngi thnh tht v can m th vn c
c hi thnh cng cao hn. Tc l, nhng thc tp gian kh , mt lc no , khng
chng th chy, s mang li phn thng cho chng ta.
Mn,
Honh
Cho cc bn,
Tht ra ngi ta lun lun bt u vi mt ngi bng vic vt. Ngi trng vic vt l
ngi khim tn v ng tin cy. Nu vic khng ng g m lm cn rt tt, th vic
quan trng lm rt siu. Nu vic nh xu m gi li ha tt, th vic quan trng c th tin
c.
Nhm cng cao li cng hay ni chuyn thi tit ma nng, v con, chng ni g ln lao.
Khi ni chuyn ln lao th cch ni c nh ni chuyn ung cf, m ch ni hai ba ch
l xong cng vic. Cho nn ngi ngi m khng nhy cm, th c th l khng bit g
c.
Mn,
Honh
Hu x t nhin hng
Cho cc bn,
Musk deer
y l nhng vn quan trng cho mi ngi chng ta, bi v mi ngi quanh ta bit
n ta v n gn ta hay khng l v danh ting tt hay xu ca ta v cc vn ny.
Nu bn sng rt phng th, khng mun c nhiu bn, khng mun l thng tin v bn
ra ngoi, khng dm tin ngi th bn khng th c nhiu bn. Nu bn kt bn nhanh,
sng tt vi bn, th trn ly thuyt bn c th b cc bn khng tt gy nhiu kh khn,
nhng bn s c danh ting l ngi thch bn v tt vi bn. Khng th va ng ca
kn mt va c nhiu bn c. M ca rng n u l ty bn. Nhng m ca cng
rng cng c nhiu bn thn.
Cho nn, mun l ngi th no, ta phi la chni theo hng ny th ng nhin l
mt hng kia, khng th m m hai th ngc nhau c.
Chng ni g ht th t nhin thin h s kho nhau l mnh rng ri (nu mnh tht s
rng ri).
Mn,
Honh
Nhng cn bo i
Posted on Thng Chn 11, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
y l hin tng chng ta i din thng xuyn trong i sng. Khng th trnh c,
v c vic l c th mt vic, c tin l c th mt tin, c tnh l c th mt tnh, c hnh
phc l c th mt hnh phc Cho nn, d chng ta c sng cng t mt mt cng tt,
nhng trnh mt mt khng th l trng tm hng u ca n lc, v ta khng th trnh
ht c. Trng tm hng u ca n lc sng phi l lm th no ta khng b t
lit mi khi b mt mt.
Tr em nh qu quen i chn khng, dm gai hng ngy l chuyn t nhin. Chng cht
chc ai c. Th th qu ni sinh ra t ci gai b t ca ta l tht hay gi? Ta r lit v ta
cha quen dm gai, cha quen chu ng dm gai, hay gai l ni?
y l iu quan trng nht cho cch sng tch cc trong khng hong. a s mi vn
, nu khng phi l tt c mi vn , thc ra rt nh so vi nh hng ca chng trn
tm ta. Ta c cn mt chic mn bao trm c th gii mt ta khng cn thy th gii?
Khng, ta ch cn hai hi bi t ri vo hai mt th ta khng th thy th gii c na.
Bn cht ca khng hong l th, ch cn hai, hay mt, ht bi l c th lm cho tm
ta hon tan m mt, khng cn thy g, khng cn thy hnh phc, hy vng, yu
i, tch cc, hng hi, tnh lng, an lc
c bo hng ngy ta thy thin h git nhau v my chuyn rui bu hng ngyem
gi ni anh xu trai, m la con li bing, bn b ch nhau dt, v ch chng bt ti, ch
nh ny chy qua nh kia tiu by, mt 10 ngn ng v nghi l bn mnh ly Ni
chung l a s cc chuyn git ngi trn bo ch hng ngy ch vo hng xe p cn
ch. Nhng nhng ci gai nh xu, nh mt 10 nghn ng, vn c th lm cho mt
ngi hon ton m qung v tr thnh in r.
Mn,
Honh
Cho cc bn,
2. Ngy mai lun lun l mt b mt. Lo hay khng th vn c nhiu b mt ta khng bit,
vy th lo lm g? Thng thng kinh nghim cho thy cn ng t ta lo l s xy n
cho mnh ngy mai chng bao gi n, v ngy mai thng tt hn ta lo s. Ngi Thy
in c cu ngn ng Lo lng thng lm cho cc vic nh c bng en rt ln.
Chng ta khng ni l khng quan tm (care) n ngy mai. Ngy mai c mt s vic
phi gii quyt, chng ta nn bit cc vic v chuNn b gii quyt chng. Nhng
iu chng ta ang ni l lo lng hay lo s (worry), tc l c ngay ngy lo ng t s
n vi mnh ngy mai. t Lai Lt Ma i th 14 c ni mt cu rt r v vic ny:
Nu bn lo lng v s hi au hoc kh, th xem bn c lm c iu g v ni lo s
khng. Nu bn lm c iu g , th bn khng cn phi lo lng; nu bn khng
Mn,
Honh
y na ly hay cn na ly?
Posted on Thng Mi 8, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cn chng ta, c kim tra li s thy thng ngy ta c nhng suy ngh rt tiu cc:
Hay:
- Nh A, hm nay mc ci o p qu h ?
- X, p trong tm hn mi ng k ch b ngoi th n thua g !
Tt c cc cu p trn u l cch ni, cch suy ngh tiu cc. Khng ai ni l cch
ni sai. Nhng i thng c hai loi ngi: thnh cng v tht bi, lc quan v bi
quan, tch cc v tiu cc. Vn l ta chn cch ni, cch ngh no, th thi.
Ngi tch cc lun thy ci hay, ci tt, ci p trong s vic v ngi khc. Ngi
tiu cc lun ch trng n khuyt im ca ngi khc v lun lo lng ngi khc
khng tn trng, n nang mnh.
Ngi tiu cc khng bao gi phc ai v thy ai cng km. Ngi tch cc thy ai cng
phc v thy cng c mt ci g m mnh phi hc hi.
Ngi tiu cc khng bao gi dm hi han iu g v s ngi khc ngh l mnh dt, m
nu c hi th ch hi tn cng. Ngi tch cc lun lun hi chi tit v thc tm mun
hc hi.
Ngi tiu cc khi gp kh khn thng cho l ti s mnh en, tri thiu cng bng.
Ngi tch cc th cho y l th thch kh nng chu ng v gii quyt ca mnh.
Ngi tiu cc bun b v ghen tc khi ngi khc thnh cng. Ngi tch cc vui v
khi thy ngi khc thnh cng v s hi thm hc thm c mt t b mt thnh
cng.
Ngi tiu cc hay ph phn ch bai, cn nhn v than vn. Ngi tch cc th ch
trng gii quyt vn .
Ngi tiu cc lun lm ngi khc bc mnh, xung tinh thn. H khng lm ai vui,
khng thuyt phc c ai. Ngi tch cc lun lm ngi khc ln tinh thn, lm mi
ngi tr ln hng hi v vy tnh thuyt phc rt cao.
V lu di, ngi tch cc lun lun thnh cng v ngi tiu cc lun lun tht bi.
V vy, khi hi Vit Nam c g mnh v c g yu , ta khng nn ngh rng tng lai ca
Vit Nam sau ny l thuc vo ci g Vit Nam ang c.
Ta c g ? hay Ta lm g ?
Sc mnh on kt ca Vit Nam rt ln, v th chng ta lun mun mi ngi lm, suy
ngh, n ni cng mt cch. Chnh v vy m thnh ra bo th, thiu sng to, cng nhc
v chm chp.
Vi gii tr, trc ht chng ta hy pht trin k nng phn tch (analytical skills), k
nng t cu hi. Nu mun hc c k nng ny th c ni chuyn vi cc em b 5, 6
tui l hc c ngay: C i, sao n b mc o di m n ng khng mc ? Ti sao
con tru c sng m con ch khng c sng ? chnh l analytical skills (m ngi
M ni ting s mt trn th gii). Nu trong i sng hng ngy ta thng xuyn s
dng k nng ny, khuyn khch sinh vin hc sinh ch tm vo kh nng phn tch, t
cu hi th tin trnh sng to ca c nc s gia tng.
Mn,
Honh
Phn bin nh th no ?
Posted on Thng Mi 9, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Cc lut s chuyn v tranh tng hng ngy s dng phng php chin u l lun gi
l Devils Advocate (bin h cho Cha Qu). Ngi devils advocate ng vai phe ch,
tn cng phe ta, phe ta tp n v phn cng. Khng c devils advocate th trm
trn trm thua, v khi lm trn ta s ng qu nhiu bt ng b him.
Phn bin l tin trnh t nhin ca sng to. Khng th sng to c, nu ta khng phn
bin.
1. Ngi ta phn bin vi nhau tm mt gii php chung. V phn bin m khng cn
gii php l li nhi tn thi gi. Hoc t hn na, ch l chi nhau. Hoc t hn na, ch
l trit h v thanh ton nhau, ngay c dng ngn ng h tr cho chin tranh bo
ng.
2. Gii php chung i hi tnh anh em, v nu khng l anh em bng hu th chc l
khng c v khng cn gii php chung. V vy, phn bin i hi tnh anh em, tnh bng
hu.
4. Tng knh i hi cNn trng trong ngn ng, c bit l trong ngn ng rt trng l
ngha ca Vit Nam. V d: Nu hai ngi thng gia Vit ang ci nhau si ni, v mt
ngi bng nhin i t anh v ti sang My ngu nh ln th c th l khi u
ca chin tranh v chm dt tnh ng nghip i tc, d l dch sang ting Anh th You
are stupid as a pig chng c g l nng n c. Ch mt ch my v tao c th bin hai
ngi bn thnh hai k th. Ngn ng Vit cht cha rt nhiu l ngha, vt b l ngha
l c th vt bin gii t bn sang th.
Nhiu ngi dng ngn ng th tc v c tm trong ngn ng Vit chi nhau, nhng
khi gii thch vi ngi ngoi quc c dch ra ting Anh ting Php, mt ht tt c mi
ngha th tc bo ng ca ngn ng Vit, v gii thch rng l t do n ni.
Ngoi 4 qui lut phn bin trn, ng nhin l cc lut l khc rng buc ngn ng u
p dng trong phn bin. V d: Lut chng m l cng khai, lut bo v quyn t do
ring t, lut bo v b mt thng mi, lut bo v b mt quc phng, v.v
Nu chng ta tun theo 4 qui lut phn bin bn trn (v cc lut l khc v ngn ng)
th ng nhin l phn bin ch c th tch cc v sng to, v khng th c vn g.
Chc cc bn mt ngy ha i.
Mn
Honh
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Posted on Thng Mi 23, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Vy l sao?
Thc ra, cc chuyn gia u bit, chng ta phi hc thm tng ngy trong ngh nghip,
ch khng phi ch 6 thng mt ln.
Vy ngha l sao?
Mn
Honh
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Cho cc bn,
Yu t khng bit ny c rt nhiu tn gi: Thi tnh (timing), Cha, nhn duyn (c
th t tin kip ta khng h bit), s phn, nh mnh, may ri Nhng d l tn g i
na, n cng u m ch Ta chng c quyn lc g trn n c.
Peter Seeger v ban nhc The Byrds vit bn nhc rt ni ting Turn! Turn! Turn!
(Quay,Quay, Quay):
Cho mi th
u c mt ma
V c mt thi cho mi mc ch di bu tri.
Mt thi sinh, mt thi cht
Mt thi gieo, mt thi gt
Mt thi git, mt thi lm lnh
Mt thi ci, mt thi khc
Mt thi xy, mt thi ph
Mt thi ma ht, mt thi th than
Nhng khi ta lm xong nhng vic ta nn lm trong ngytc l hon thnh nhim
v ca ta v ci ta bit, ci ta c th kim sot cth hy nm ng yn, mc iu g
s xy ra ngy mai, v nhng yu t ta khng bit, khng kim sot c, c th mang
n nhng chuyn m ta khng th bit c hm nay.
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Cho cc bn,
* T nht v nguy him nht l tham nhng l tng cao siu, cao qu, nh l mang nh
sng ca Cha hay ca Allah n cho th gii m la, bng cch chi tin hay mang qun
tn cng t ngi gip h tr li o. Hay, mang li cng bnh hnh phc cho th
gii bng cch mng Nm mu git cht hng triu ngi cn tr con ng cch
mng.
* c mun cho chnh ta th ch k, khng tt; v c mun v tha, cho ngi khccho
x hi cho th giil c mun tt, phi khng cc bn? Hmm cc bn qun nhng
i t vn tin mnh l thnh m chng ta mi ni trn kia sao? Chng c g bo m
l khi ta c mun cho x hi th ta s khng l t. V chng c g bo m l khi
ta ch c mun ta khe mnh giu c th ta s khng l ngi tt cho x hi. Cho nn ta
khng th ly c mun cho ta hay c mun cho ngi lm kim ch nam.
Nu ta mun c nhiu tin, nhng ta kim tin thnh tht, khng di tr, khng qung co
lo, khng n chn, khng tham nhng, khng p bc ngi ngho th vic lm tin
c g sai? Thc ra, nu tin ri vo tay nhng ngi lm n thnh tht, th y l vic tt
cho h v cho c th gii, v ngi thnh tht thng dng tin ca mnh gip x hi
v nhng ngi chung quanh.
Nu bn u tranh cho ha bnh v cng l, m khng git chc tr dp ai, cng khng
cn tr tin ha ca x hi, th vic lm l tng ca bn ch c li cho mi ngi m
khng hi.
Khng lm hi ngi khc khi thc hin mun ca mnh, y l thc o cch
sng ca chng ta.
Nhng khi cc chnh tr gia hi c triu ngi , h tin trong lng, l gip c triu hay c
t ngi khc, th chng ta cn xt li v vi cc con s ln nh vy, cc tnh ton ca
ta rt kh chnh xc. Thng thng th, cht chc v v thy ngay trc mt, nhng
hnh phc cho x hi th ch l mt ci bnh v ca tng lai. Kinh nghim ca lch s
th gii thng cho thy th. V vy, khi ni n au thng cht chc cho nhiu ngi,
tt hn l ng tng ta l thnh ang thay tri hnh o.
Dng mc ch bin mnh cho hnh ng l con ng nhanh nht bin ta thnh
i c. Nh cht chn con n tt, khng i chi by. Trong lng ti ch mun con ti
tt m, ti u mun hi n. l li suy t ca c qu, cc bn .
Ch tt khng , phi lm tt na mi .
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Sn
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Cho cc bn,
Quyn ni nng gia tng theo a v x hi, cho nn vua l ti nht trong chng bnh ny.
Ni chm n lng chn ca vua l cht nh khng.
Tha, bi v kinh nghim cho thy khi ta nng, ta lm nhiu chuyn in r v ngu dt
ngoi sc tng tng. c bo th thy nhan nhn hng ngy: Chng v ci nhau hai ba
cu, ng chng ni nng ngay thng xng vo v v bt hp qut. Hc tr lm n, c
gio bc mnh tt cho mt tt lng lun mng nh. Mt bn ni bn kia ngu, bn ngu
bn rt dao m ngay ti cng trng
Ngoi ci hi cho chnh mnh, ngi nhiu sn hn chng vui v c vi ai, hay chia
stress cho nhng ngi gn gi, v gy au kh cho nhng ngi chung quanh, mi khi
ai lm tri h, d l bn b hay thn quyn.
Hoc v b chng p bc qu, phi ni nng chng li kch lit th may ra chng ta mi
bt u knh n.
Hoc dn b quan ch p qu, ni nng chng li kch lit th may ra mi c ngi nghe
li ku ni.
Nhng phn ng mnh m khng c ngha l ni gin hay sn hn, cc bn. y l hai
iu hon ton khc nhau.
Qui tc chin u thnh cng i hi mt con tim thng sut tnh lng:
Nu mun gii thch cho hn ta ngay v mnh ang ni nng, tnh sau. Ngui ri
hy tnh. Nu mun m cho hn mt m v hn phi l qu, tnh sau. Ht nng ri
hy tnh. Khng lm quyt nh g khi ang nng, k c khi ang nng ngm.
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Cho cc bn,
Hm nay ta ni n ch Si trong Pht hc, ch cui cng trong tam c tham sn si,
ngun gc ca mi kh au.
Trong cch ni hng ngy, ta lun lun ni vi ngha tng i, d l ta chng bao gi
nhc n t tng i, thm ch chng ngh n n. Khi ta ni C y p hay Anh
y thng minh l ng nhin ta hm cc so snh, ty thuc ch t, gii hn, v thay
i.
Nhng
khi ta ni v chnh mnh:
Ti rt p, ti rt t t, ti rt hin hu, ti rt o c
th li l chuyn khc.
l ni v cc phng din c th ca ti
Trn phng din x hi hc, t duy tng i chnh l nn tng ca cch sng m ta gi
l ha ng, ci m, dn ch. Trong mt x hi c nhiu ngi suy ngh v sinh hot
khc nhau, th cch sng ha bnh, cng bnh v thoi mi nht l, mi ngi cng
nghin cu phng cch c th sng chung ha bnh vui v, thay v mt nhm p t
mt cch suy t v sinh hot trn tt c mi nhm khc.
Trn phng din x hi: X hi bnh ng hn, nhn i hn, ha bnh hn v thnh
vng hn, v mi ngi tn trng nhau, hc hi nhau v gn b nhau.
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Thc hnh t tm
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Kinh T Tm
Cho cc bn,
V ng nhin khi cn thy no dy, chng ta cng bit l th gii ny s thnh thin
ng nu mi ngi yu nhau. Tnh yu l ci nn ca v tr, trn mi s, mi th, v
mi ngi, ng vng, cng vi nhau. Thiu tnh yu, tt c u ri r v tan bin.
I. Cn Bn ca Yu Ngi
Cha Gisu ni: Yu Cha, Thng ca bn, vi c tri tim, c linh hn, c khi c
ca bn. y l iu rn u v quan trng nht. V iu rn th hai nh th ny: Yu
lng ging ca bn nh yu chnh bn. Matthews 22:37-38.
Cu ni c gi l Lut Vng (The Golden Rule). Ngi Thin cha gio yu ngi
v Cha bo th. y l lut t tri. Thc ra lut ny c ti thiu l t thi Moses,
trc Cha Gisu khong 1500 nm. Leviticus 19:18. Gisu ch lp li mt cch rt ngn
gn m thi.
y, lng tin vo cha rt quan trng. Nu khng tin cha (v u), th chng l do g
phi nghe lnh cha yu ngi ( v sau).
Nn tng trit l su thm nht ca yu ngi trong t tng Pht gio l cu ny:
Tt c php l khng . Kinh Hoa Nghim, phNm V Tn Tng .
Kinh T Tm
Nhng ngi khng tin vo truyn thng tm linh no, th suy ngh theo ch ngha li ch
xy dng cn bn cho yu ngi. H thng o c ca ch ngha li ch t trn
cn bn rng: Mc ch ca o c l to nn mt th gii tt hn.
Khi yu ai, t khc ta bit phi lm g. V vy, cc trng phi tm linh ch trng vo
dy ta c con tim yu i, hn l ch tm vo dy qui tc hnh ng. Ni chung th mi
chng ta u bit yu ngi nh th no: Ni nng vui v, mm ci, ng trm ca
ngi, ng c hip ngi, ngh tt v ngi v khng nn ngh xu v ngi, thy ci
xu ca ngi th bit nhng khng dng n ght, tha th, k th khi ng nga th
cng cu gip, v.v Khi yu t khc ta bit phi hnh ng th no.
Chng ta thc tp lng t (yu ngi) tng bc mt, bng cch chia mi ngi thnh 4
nhm: Chnh ta, ngi ta rt yu mn, ngi ta khng thng khng ght, ngi ta ght
hay th.
1. Trc ht ta khi lng t: bng cch hng lng t v chnh mnhti mong hnh
phc v khng au kh; ti mong khng c th hn, khng au n, khng lo lng, v
sng hnh phc.
Ly sn hn tr sn hn th cn t hn l ni sn hn trc. ng dng sn hn tr sn
hn. Hy thng cuc chin kh thng.
Khi cn gin bt u ngui, ta phi hng lng t v ngi ny, c nh l chnh ta,
l ngi thn ca ta, ngi ta khng thng khng ght, ngi ta c th hn. V ta phi
lp i lp li thc tp lng t, ph b ro cn, cho n lc trong tm ta bn nhm ngi
u bnh ng nh nhau: ta, ngi thn ca ta, ngi khng thng khng ght, ngi c
th hn.
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Cho Hm Nay
Posted on Thng Mi Mt 15, 2009 by Huynh Hue
Hm nay ti s u t
i ti
Hm nay ti mi bn bt u mt ma mi
Ma ca c m
Rng chng ta u c th lm mi iu
V hon thnh n
Bng nim vui v phNm gi.
Hy tn hng mt ngy p
V mt ngy mai tt p hn.
Bng tnh yu
Hunh Hu dch
Cho cc bn,
Trong u ca bi ny, mnh c tnh dng t cng phu, l t rt thng nghe trong
v hc, d rng cng phu ch c ngha l b cng ra luyn tp nhiu. Nhng mnh dng
t cng phu ly v d ca mt v s lm minh ha.
Hn na, mnh c tin bun cho cc bn. Cc v s thng b n n hng chc ln, nu
khng l hng trm ln, hn ngi khng c v. Ngi khng c v, ra ng thy ai b
cp th khp np ng nhn hay tng l b i. V s thy ai b nguy th nho vo gii
cu. Cc bng nhm cp bc giang h rt thin chin trn ng ph. ng vo h l
lun lun c th nguy him n tnh mng ca mnh. Cho nn v s b n n, thng
tt, hoc t vong l chuyn thng.
Tng t nh th, ngi c t duy tch cc mnh m s tch cc nhng tay vo vic lm
i sng tt hn, con ngi bt kh hn. M r n chuyn ngi khc l mang kh
khn vo mnhhoc l con tim mnh nhc nhi v ni au ca ngi khc, hoc l mnh
b nhng nhm ngi xu cho n n, hoc c hai.
No vacation
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Cho cc bn,
1. Mc thp nht ca t duy tch cc l t tin vo chnh mnh. Tin l mnh c quyt
tm v kin tr i n ch, thnh cng trong mt vn no , hay thnh cng
trong i mt cch tng qut. Trong ting Anh, y l confidence.
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Cho cc bn,
Chng ta ai cng mun ng gp vo vic gip ngi khc tt hn, lm cho th gii ta
sng p hn, vi nhng ph phn xy dng. Tuy nhin, rt thng thng ta c th thy
c, nhiu ngi li nhi tiu cc hn l ph phn xy dng. Ph phn xy dng, lun
lun c t duy tch cc tim Nn trong , lm mi trng ta sng tch cc hn. Li nhi
tiu cc mang gi tiu cc i khp ni, ch lm cho khng kh thm ti tm u m bt rt
kh th m chng em li li ch no ht. Mt ng l nh sng, mt ng l bng ti.
Vy th lm th no phn bit sng ti, bit u l ph phn xy dng v u l li nhi
tiu cc, hnh ng cho ng?
i khi phn bit ph phn tch cc v li nhi tiu cc cng hi kh. Tuy nhin trong a
s cc trng hp, cc tiu chuNn phn bit sau y s gip chng ta nhn din sng ti:
1. Phn nn chung chung m khng c vic g c th, khng lin h n ngi no c th,
l li nhi tiu cc. V d: Chnh quyn ton l mt l tham ; doanh nhn ton l mt l
xo tr; thi th lon lc su b cai tr ngi; cng gio ton l mt l bn nc; Pht
gio ton l mt l dt; Trung quc l lu manh khng tin c; Hi gio l cc oan
khng b; M l lng on chnh tr cc nc khc
2. Khi ni n ngi hay vic c th, cng ch ph phn chung chung m chng a ra
c iu g c th, l li phi tiu cc. V d: i anh chng dt m gim c gim
ic g; xy ci cu ch ny l ngu; li mt d n dt na ca nh nc
Dng thng tin trn Internet hin nay c qu nhiu rc rn. Mi ngi nhn rc, khng
thm bit l rc hay khng, t ng n nt chuyn tip ng rc n 20 ngi khc, 20
ngi ny li t ng chuyn tip, mi ngi n 20 ngi khc. u ngy l mt ng
rc, n cui ngy ta c hn 2000 ng rc nhp vo dng sng! Th th dng sng
no m chu ni.
Trong k nguyn thng tin, thng tin c tnh cch quyt nh thng bi. Cho nn chng ta
hy cng tm nim bo v dng thng tin ca chng ta cng trong xanh cng tt. ng
lm u mi trng.
Hy gip cho mi trng chng ta sng trong sch v hu ch. Mi ngi hy lm cng
vic v sinh ca mnhni nng t t chnh xc, v khng chuyn rc v tng rc.
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Cho cc bn,
Chng ta ang sng trong mt th gii bn rnta i lm, v nh n ung vi gia nh,
dy con ci mt ti, xem TV, i ng, sng dy li m TV nghe tin tc trong khi ung c
ph xem bo, chy i lm Chu k bn rn tip din. V ta khng bao gi c nhng
pht giy tnh lng cho ring ta.
Tnh lng ngh ngi, np nng lng tr li, lm mi. l mt b quyt sng con
ngi bit t hng nghn nm v trc. V th ng Phng ta c thin v kh cng,
Ty phng ta c cu nguyn hng ngy, v c Ngy Cha Nht, khng c lm g c
v ch dnh ring cho Cha. Tuy vy, ngy nay cc truyn thng ngh ngi tnh lng
ch cn tn ti vi mt s rt t ngi; i a s ngi trn th gii chng bit hoc chng
quan tm g v chng.
Ti sao th gii cng vn minh, chng ta cng bn rn, cng ly d nhiu, cng nhiu bo
hnh trong hc ng, cng nhiu trm cp trn ng ph, cng nhiu chin tranh
trong quc gia v xuyn quc gia? Phi chng l v mi chng ta b chng cht vi
nhng nhim tinh thn d dn v khng t nhin? (M. Williamson, bn trn).
V vy. chng ta cn nhng pht giy tnh lng mi ngy, np li nng lng th cht
cng nh tinh thnyu i, bnh tnh, can m, v sng to.
Theo truyn thng ng phng, thin nh l cch tnh lng hay nht. Ngi thin, theo
di hi th tm tr khng chy lan man. Hoc thin hnh, tc l b vi chnh
nimtp trung t tng vo vic quan st bc i, chng hn. Hoc lm vic theo cch
thini hay ra bt, v tp trung t tng vo vic quan st tng c ng nh.
V t trong tnh lng, chng ta s nghe c ting ni sng to ca ngun nng lng hi
sinh, nh thin s Kiu Tr Huyn ni Ting thm trong ngc ni li hay, hoc li
Thnh Kinh, Ri mt lung gi ln v mnh x rch ni v lm v vn trc mt
Cha, nhng Cha khng c trong lung gi. Sau lung gi l mt trn ng t, nhng
Cha khng c trong ng t. Sau ng t l mt trn chy, nhng Cha trong c trong
la. V sau trn chy, mt li th thm du dng n. 1 Kings 19:11-13.
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Cho cc bn,
Nhng nh ta thng thy, cc nhm mi trng ny, trong khi cho chng ta c hi
pht trin c nhn rng ra, cng c th l nhng hng ro t ngc kin c nht ta li bn
trong v ngn cch ta vi th gii bn ngoi. V d: Vi ngi Hi gio c th cho rng
Thin cha gio l qu d v ti li, ngi Hi Phng th cho l dn H Ni khng thnh
tht, ngi Bc th cho rng dn Nam th l, ngi Vit th cho rng ngi Trung quc
khng tin c, ngi Kinh th cho l ngi dn tc thiu s km thng minh
Ti sao vy?
Tha, ti v chng ta quen thi quen suy t phn cch hn l suy t ha hp. Khng
nhng quen thi quen, chng ta cn p nhau suy t mt kiu.
Cho nn, nu ngi Vit m ni l Trung quc ng ta sai l phn quc, cng gio m
ni c Gio Hong sai v Tin Tri Mohammed ng l phn o, ng vin m ni
ng sai l phn quc (oops, phn ng hay phn quc? )
Trong dng tin ha ca con ngi, nhng u c si m v ang tip tc dng nhng
nhm tng tr ca cc c nhn (supporting groups) nh nhng nh t giam cm chnh
nhng c nhn . Nhiu b lc man d khi xa cng sng theo cch thy ngi
khc b lc l tn cng v bt v, quay lm ba n ti. Ngy nay ta khng cn n ti
bng chin binh r ti na, nhng t tng phn cch v k th th chc cng ch ci tin
hn cc b tc man d thi c i khong 1cm.
Thnh nhn lun lun mun m rng u c chng ta, mun a ta ra khi t ngc
ca chnh chng ta xy dng, cho ta chp cnh bay cao, nh nhng qu tim t do trong
bu tri S Tht. Nhng vi ngn nm sau, chng ta theo tin nhn c n u?
Con hn cha l nh c phc, con vn thua cha sau vi ngn nm l?
Tm ta rng m c n u?
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Thuc v th gii
Posted on Thng Mi Hai 15, 2009 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Hm nay chng ta tip tc trin khai nim thuc v, t c nhn ca ta trong th gii
chng ta ang sng.
Chng ta hay ni ti sng trong th gii ny, nhng ta c thc s quan tm n th gii
ny khng?
c bo ch hng ngy, bao nhiu ln ta thy c mt thng tin g v mt quc gia Phi
Chu?
Tha v:
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Kin b ming ci
Posted on Thng Mt 2, 2010 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Con kin nh
N b ming ci
N b, n b
C l con kin khng thy ht c vng trn n ang b, nhng nu n thng minh mt
t, n c th nhn ra sau khi i mt hai vng l ti sao mi bc ng mnh i li nhn
thy quen thuc qu vy? Cng l hm ging th ny, cng k nt nh th kia, ri mt t
xu li thy mt rnh ln chn ngang ng Chng l mnh tr li ch c?
D nhin, nu bn thay i cng vic, s lm, ni thng xuyn chnh nhng thay
i vt th ny c c hi ln mang n kinh nghim v t duy mi cho bn. i mt
ngy ng hc mt sng khn.
5. Cc loi ngi ta cm thy thc s yu thng lo lng trong lng c tng trong nm
va ri khng? V d: Nm ri ti t nhin cm thy yu thng v lo lng cho nhng
ngi ang trong vng t ti lao l. Hay, nm ri t nhin ti cm thy rt thng
nhng ngi b bnh AIDS.
Cui cng, ngi in khng bao gi bit mnh in, ngi u c si m khng bao gi
bit mnh si m, v, nu bit mnh in th mnh khng in, bit mnh si m th khng si
m. V vy, nu ta si m th ta khng th no bit mnh si m c, nhng y l du hiu
thng thy trong nhng ngi si m: Ti lun lun gi vng lp trng v hay
Chuyn ny i vi ti l tuyt i khng . D l khng hn ng 100%, cc cu
chc nch nh gi vng lp trng hay tuyt i thng l du hiu ca m qung v
t tng v t duy, v ang i vng trn nhiu nm.
Ta phi thc s mun i mi thng xuyn, v phi quan st thi t duy ca mnh,
phi c cng tm ra cc thay i thc s trong mnh qua cc du hiu khch quan bn
ngoi, mi c th nhn xuyn qua cc bc mn si m ch quan che m tm tr , bit
mnh ang i ng trn hay ng thng.
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Cng tu cng ti
Posted on Thng Mt 8, 2010 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Ti sao vy?
Tha, ti v cng tu luyn cao thm ta cng pht hin ra nhng im yu ca mnh m
trc ta khng thy.
Thm mt thi gian, cng lc cao hn, hn khm ph ra l hn hay kiu cng v mnh,
v d vng anh hng v s nht tm ci t qui chnh ca mnh, hn bn tp cho khim
tn.
Thm mt thi gian, cng lc cao hn, hn thy ru thng lm cho hn suy ngh
thiu chnh xc, bn b ru.
Thm mt thi gian, thy thuc l lm phin mnh v ngi khc qu, bn b thuc.
Thi gian sau, cng lc cao hn, thy mnh hay ha m khng thc hin ht c, bn
bt u ha cNn thn hn v c thc hin mi li ha.
Thi gian sau na, hn cm thy nn vo tu vin i tu th mnh mi thanh tnh ra, bn
b i i tu.
Trong tu vin, mt thi gian rt lu, hn mi nhn ra rng hn vn hng ngy cnh tranh
vi cc tu s khc v o hc, bn c b hn thua.
C nh th, tu luyn cng cao thm ta cng khm ph ra ta c rt nhiu khim khuyt v
yu km, m trc ta khng thy c.
V trong Thin cha gio, nim ti t tngci yu km bNm sinh ca con ngi
cng l ci nhn bit su sc ca nhng ngi tu luyn n mc thng tha.
V tu c ngha l lm cho tt thm. Lm cho con tim ca mnh sng thm, sch thm,
yu i thm, mnh m thm, l tu. Ai trong chng ta cng tu c.
c sch o hc hay t duy tch cc m khng thc hnh, th kin thc c khng
th l kin thc tht c, v ta cng khng th lm cho con tim ang cht ca ta sng li
c.
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Cho cc bn,
Nu ng trong mt nhm ngi cao khong 1m6, ta cn phi cao bao nhiu c th
vt tri, d nhn ra? 3m2 ? 2m5 ? Chc l khng cn phi cao th, phi khng cc
bn? Cng khng cn phi n 1m8. C 1m7 l ta vt ln hn mi ngi ri, v mt
ngi ng xa c th nhn ra ta rt d dng ri. Tc l, trong mt nhm ngi trung bnh
ta khng cn phi hn mi ngi nhiu, khng cn hn gp i, hay gp ri, hay 25%,
hay ngay c 10%. Ch cn c 6% (0,1m/1,6m) l vt tri.
Ch cn hn mt t l chng ta c th vt tri.
Cho nn chng nn ngi than th sao tri khng cho ti IQs n mc gii mt bi ton
nhn 20 con s trong vng 2 giy ng h, hay sc p lm Elizbeth Taylor phi xu h,
hay sc mnh lm Hercules phi vi lm thy
Th gii (v t nc ta) c nhiu ngi trung bnh qu. Ngi trung bnh l ngi: hn
t nm i hn ch nm li, ni th p p m m, ni mt na giu mt na c tnh lm
ngi nghe hiu lm, thiu thnh tht, sn sng gian di c li cho mnh, t i vt,
ganh t, coi thng ngi ngho kh, p bc ngi c th, ai sng cht mc ai ti ch cn
lo cho thn ti
Thnh tht hn 6%
Bt ch k hn 6%
Nhn nhc hn 6%
Lo lng cho x hi hn 6%
Yu mnh t hn 6%
Yu x hi nhiu hn 6%
Bt k th hn 6%
Can m hn 6%
t a dua theo m ng hn 6%
t ch bai hn 6%
Khen ngi nhiu hn 6%
Bt cau c 6%
Hay ci hn 6%
Bt nghim ngh 6%
Hay giu hn 6%
. 6% 6% .6%
Mn,
Honh
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T i vt
Posted on Thng Mt 17, 2010 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
C ngi ni hay lm iu g (1) trong vng ring t b bn, (2) khng r ngha
100%, (3) nhng ta din gii l ph phn ta. V d: Mt ngi bn ni Ch hm nay lm
g coi lch s qu vy? Ta ngh, , vy l hn mun ni hng ngy mnh khng lch
s.
Tng t nh trn, nhng cng cng hn, chng hn nh mt cu vit trong mt din
n cng cng.
C ngi ph phn ta sai (tc l ph phn mt cch bt cng) trong vng ring t.
Trong mi tnh hung phn ng ta th no? Nhi t xu, nh kim chm nh nh, ri
ci vui nh khng? Hay bun ru chn nn? Hay cn phn ng tiu cc (km vui ti)
trong cch c x? Hay tr a bng cch no ?
y l mt thc o rt tin nghi cho mi ngi chng ta s dng hng ngy, bit
c mnh tin n u trn ng luyn tm.
T c nhn n x hi
Mn,
Honh
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Teamwork Thm li
Posted on Thng Mt 19, 2010 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Trong cng ng ngi Vit nc ngoi ta cng thy nhng chuyn ci nhau nh con
nt v rt tc ci hng ngy.
Mnh nhc li iu cn bn ny: Trong mt team ca Vit Nam bn c th thy hng trm
vn kh chu. 99.99% cc vn ny khng c tht m ch ra t t duy ca bn.
Bn c th thng thi thy cn nguyn ca 99.99% vn khng? V can
m xa s ht 99.99% trong t duy ca bn khng. s l cuc cch mnh nh
hng cc k ln n tng lai t nc, n ni bn cng khng mng tng c n
ln n mc no.
Mn,
Honh
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Cho cc bn,
Nu ta trn rng mt mnh, thc t th ta c tch cc hay tiu cc chc cng khng khc
xa nhau lmngy ngy kim thc n, ti v ng ng ca phng d th. Ngoi ra
c yu i hay cm rm v mi loi chim chc th c th l khc nhau ni tui th ca
mnh, nhng chng ai trn th gii quan tm n vic c.
Tuy nhin khi chung vi mi ngi gia ph th ngi hay cu nhu phn nn s hon
ton khc vi ngi vui v yu imt bn l tht bi v b a s ngi khng a, mt
bn l thnh cng v i u cng nhiu ngi a thch.
Cho nn t duy tch cc, d l tp trung nhiu vo chnh mnh, thc ra nh hng rt ln
n mi ngi quanh mnh.
Hng ngy, ta c phn bit (k th) ngi khc v mu da chng tc (vd: Ngi Tu
khng tin c), hay tn gio (vd: cng gio khng tin c), hay chnh tr (vd: khng
chi vi my tn phn ng, hay my tn vit cng), hay ting tm (vd: Tn ny c ting
xu, trnh xa hn ra.)?
Bao nhiu ln ta ni nng (nht l chi th v nng) trong ngy? Nh khi gp my anh
li xe Nu trong ngy? My ngi lm vic l ng trong s?
Kh nng tnh lng khi gp chuyn bt bnh l cng phu t duy tch cc.
Ta cng vui v, ha ng, yu ngi, thnh tht, trung thnh, v t k thi v bt cng vi
ngi, th cng phu t duy tch cc ta cng cao. Ta cng ph phn, k th, chng i,
chi bi ngi, cng phu ta cng thp.
Cng phu t duy tch cc ca chng ta ch pht trin c nu chng ta o lng thi
v t duy ca mnh thng xuyn, hng ngy.
Mn,
Honh
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Cho cc bn,
Chng ta va ni qua hai cch gin d t o lng cng phu t duy tch cc ca mnh
hng ngyo t i vt, v o cch mnh c x vi ngi chung quanh. Hm nay ta ni
n mt cch gin d th ba. Ba cch ny dng ch mt cng c, c ba cng c, ty
mnh.
Ni chung, cch ta phn ng bnh thng trc y, hin nay ta c ngng, khng phn
ng nh vy, v tm tr vn trong trng thi thong th (tc l khng cng thng hm
hc) suy ngh t t khng?
Kh nng ngn chn phn ng t nhin kiu lp trnh ca mnh trong mi vn , v cho
mnh thi gian cn thit suy ngh t t k lng, l bng chng ca cng phu t duy
tch cc. Ta cn dng n hng ngy o lng, hu bit c ta tin n mc no.
y l mc cao cp ca t duy tch cc.
Cc s o lng thng xuyn s gip chng ta tinh tn. c t duy tch cc hay gio
php c i cng chng ngh l g nu ta khng c cng tinh tn trong vic thc hnh cc
iu mnh c.
Mn,
Honh
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Cho cc bn,
Ci g l gc?
Bng cp? Kin thc IT? Kin thc y khoa? Kin thc lut?
Hc ci g kh hn? Hc lut hay hc t t? Bn thy bao nhiu lut gia, thNm phn,
cng t vin tham nhng trong nhng ng dy chy n? Th th hc lut kh hn,
hay hc thnh tht v thanh lim kh hn?
Tt c nhng kin thc k thut y, dc, lut, hnh chnh, ITu d hc. Ai hc cng
c. ng c o tng l ch ngi siu thng minh mi hc c cc mn ny. Ch l
hc nhanh hay chm, vi nng khiu ca mnh m thi.
Nhng o cthnh tht, khim tn, yu ngi, can mkhng phi ai cng hc
c, khng phi ai cng chu hc.
Ai cng hc bn sng c. Nhng c ngi dng sng gi an ninh cho dn, c ngi
dng sng cp ca git ngi. V ngi c, i khi khng hc c hnh c, v h
khng chu hc. i khi ng da cc t hnh m vn cha vn c mn v minh ca
mnh c t no.
Kinh nghim sng dy cho chng ta bit ngi tha vo hon cnh, vo b m, vo
ngi khc l ngi thua cuc. Ngi chin thng ch da vo mt chthng hay bi
l do ti.
Chng ta khng th tip tc truyn thng ng cht my ngn nm mi. Phi quyt nh
l, ta c 4 ngn nm vn hin, ta phi kh hn my nc mi c 200 nm vn hin. V
phi quyt tm a t nc i ln mc , bt u t chnh con ngi ca mnh, ri con
ngi ca nhng ngi chung quanh mnh.
Mn,
Honh
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Gi p khu vn t quc
Posted on Thng Mt 22, 2010 by tdhoanh
Cho cc bn,
Chng ta tha bit ngi tiu cc thng vin hng trm c sng tiu cc, trong
khi ngi tch cc ch c mt qui lut duy nhti sng ca ti l thuc vo ti.
Cho nn mi ngi chng ta phi chp nhn s tht cn bn l: Ti chu mt phn trch
nhim v nhng vn ca t nc.
3. ng li nhi cc l lun chng minh iu sai l ng, hay l n cng chp nhn c.
4. ng lm iu sai.
Ty theo hon cnh, mi ngi s phi quyt nh mnh nn lm g trong hon cnh .
im chnh l chng ta phi quyt tm nhn ci sai l sai, v khng ng la tha hip
vi n. Nu khng th ta khng th gii quyt vn pht trin ca t nc.
Lm ngi tt ngi yn cha . Quc gia cn ngi tt tch cc ngn chn ci xu.
Mn,
Honh
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