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high school age students attend. Students come from private independent schools all over
the country, and travel from places as far as Puerto Rico to participate. At this conference I have
made lifetime friendships and learned life lessons. Throughout my entire schooling I have
attended independent private schools where I was always a part of the minority students. As
a result of this I often felt ostracized and different. I would constantly change
my physical orientation and my social preferences to try and fit in to what I thought was the
norm. Joining the SDLC community served as a turning point in me becoming more comfortable
in myself as a black female in a predominately white school. The conference gave me the
strength and confidence to love myself when I entered a school and social environment
tumultuous. Attending a school where not a lot of people look like you was a scary experience.
This has been something I have dealt with since middle school. My eighth grade year marks a
profound memory of the first time that I recognized that I stood out. At my middle school,
Orchard House school, I was 1 of 8 black students; this very clear fact didnt occur to me until I
was in a diversity club meeting with my teacher and she asked in front of all of the students in
the meeting, You cant use hotel shampoo because of your hair texture right?, as miniscule as
this comment seemed it made me feel like an outcast. As a 13-year-old girl it never occurred to
me that I did not have the luxury of showing up to a hotel and using the provided hair products or
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using the hair products advertised in the commercials on television. This experience served as an
The same exclusive occurrences continued throughout high school, where I attended St.
Catherines School. Though St. Catherines reports having 18 percent racial diversity among
students (St. Catherines School), this number misguides. The 18 percent not only includes
African- Americans but it also includes anybody that identifies as other than white; therefore,
this number includes students of mixed race and international descent. This proves that the actual
number of black students is significantly lower than reported. Lori Friend, St. Catherines Class
of 2016 described her experiences as a student of color by saying, while I went to St.
things that were said or done that made me feel isolated and infuriated at the same time. it
taught me to never let others get me down and to speak out for myself and other people of color
in an environment that sometimes felt very volatile. Lori highlights the tyranny that private
school has on the experience of a student of color, just like Petra L. Doan discusses the tyranny
of gender in the life of a transgender (635). This statement of tyranny specifically relates to how
others that are not like you have the ability to judge and make you feel unwelcome or unsafe
By attending a private school my social life was compromised. In addition to being different
extrinsically I was also different intrinsically. No matter how well I performed on my academics
or how eloquently I spoke, my classmates and I never socially clicked. By choosing to attend a
private school my social experience was compromised for my academic opportunities. I often
had to sacrifice the social experience for the academic. The Student Diversity Leadership
SDLC is an experience that has shaped me for a lifetime. The National Association of
gathering of upper school student leaders (grades 912) from across the U.S. SDLC focuses on
SDLC "family groups" and "home groups" allow for small-group, often intense, dialogue and
sharing. (Glasgow). I first heard about this conference during morning announcements.
Initially, I thought very little of it, and I believed it would amount to any other diversity summit I
When I arrived at the host hotel for registration, I met other participants who traveled
from all over the country to attend the conference. Once everyone settled in, the conference
began. Throughout the conference a plethora of topics and social justice issues were taught and
discussed. The pinnacle of the conference for me happened during the closing ceremony, which
had the most profound effect on me. I entered a room filled with roughly a thousand kids and
another thousand adults. After Rodney Glasgow, the founder of the conference, concluded his
speech, he asked the adults to leave. As soon as the adults left, he established the norms of the
room by saying, "In this house, we shall love. In this house, we shall seek justice. In this house,
who you are is okay with us, and who you will be is even better. In this house, you will find
comfort. In this house, you will find soul food. In this house, you are safe. Welcome home,
SDLC. Welcome home." This quote resonates with me to this day because it signifies the
SDLC taught me how to love myself. Despite the hardships I faced when I returned to my
school from SDLC; I took away that I did not need to fit in to matter. In the words of Freida
Pinto we should look at ourselves every now and then and say, 'I'm proud of myself. I like the
way I'm made. (Pinto). Moving forward with this mindset enabled me to live much more
freely and be released from the tyranny that had reigned in my life for many years.
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Works Cited
Baldwin, Sue. "Community and Inclusion." Community and Inclusion. St. Catherines School,
Sept. 2016. Web. 22 Jan. 2017.
Doan, Petra L. "The tyranny of gendered spaces reflections from beyond the gender
dichotomy." Gender, Place & Culture 17.5 (2010): 635-54.
<http://dx.doi.org/10.1080/0966369X.2010.503121>.
Glasgow, Rodney. "The Student Diversity Leadership Conference." The Student Diversity
Leadership Conference. National Association of Independent School, n.d.