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Jacqui Gavin PDF
Jacqui Gavin PDF
As I got off the train at the other end I got a copy of the Evening standard and
began to dress as the real me again. When I think back to it I must of looked a
little bit of a mess but I got a job as a girl!! Board was included as well as all
meals but it was waiting tables and one big problem, I had to share a room with
4 other girls. OMG!!
As soon as I got there I moved in and got myself set up.
I phoned my parents to tell them I was safe and then gave them my contact
details and that I was now going by the name of Sonia.
I managed to embrace the new me and I began to find myself learning more
from the other girls about make-up and fashion. I was clearing 250 a week in
pay (mostly down to tips) which back then was a lot of money and I was happy.
But life can be cruel!
Three months into it I found myself calling home for my usual call once a week
but this time it was my Gran who picked up the phone. She told me that my
father had left my Mum after it had been discovered that he had been having an
affair. Mum had also been told that week that she had cancer and the signs were
not looking good and there was no one to look after my little brother and sister.
Reluctantly I returned home and returned home as him to be the person to look
after them and brought all my savings to ensure that my Mum could have a new
home after losing the old family home due to not being able to pay the
mortgage.
I went back to school and studied some more and pushed my desire to transition
to the back of my mind again.
I went back to school and studied some more and pushed my desire to transition
to the back of my mind again.
I cried as I felt caught between the fire and the frying pan but then I
remembered there was an alternative. As I was still within my first twelve
months of service, I could if I wish leave by mutual consent with a 1000
release fine. I chose this option.
It was now September 1985 and I got home and found myself no longer
welcome there and I took myself to Aberdeen where I worked for the Post
Office. After a few months at the Christmas Party and a few too many drinks
my boss asked me why I had let my hair grow I explained to him that I had to
be a girl. In his drunkenness he said that cool, lets have a talk about it in the
New Year. The first day back after the Christmas break, I found myself being
called into the office and he asked me what I had meant at the Christmas Party,
I couldnt believe that he had remembered that. As I sat there I cried and told
him what was going on and he said ok, lets see what we can do to help.
Personnel (now known as HR) were called and Shona McHattie came into the
meeting. My boss asked me to explain the situation and I duly obliged and
Shona said that she had never known anything and that there was no
information about this but she would take to the Executive Board meeting at the
beginning of February.
The day of the meeting came and whilst I sat at my desk working on the routes
and collection timetables for the posties I was called by Shona who asked me to
head up to the Board Room. Fearing the worst I entered and the Board Room
where the CEO of NE Scotland Post Office was sitting with his Directors from
the Head Office and all 30 managers of the Branch Offices. I was asked once
more to explain which I did and there was a silence in the room before George
McIntosh a wiry old Scot broke this silence saying; yer a brave laddie but if we
can support ye, I say we support ye! This was the catalyst and all agreed that
they would support me and just to let them know when I was due to start.
In May 1986 I chose the date and began to live again.
The opportunity to be in my entirety made a big difference to me as I managed
find that I could now show the world a new confident and happy Jacqui. This
must of shone through as I started getting strangers asking me to do photos. I
thought nothing of it and before I knew it I was being asked to do modelling for
a fashion shoot and then for a model shoot for different High Street brands. This
included Clarins cosmetics and the Burton Group (which included Debenhams,
Top Shop, Wallis, Dorothy Perkins, Chelsea Girl to name but a few).
I suddenly believed that I was now in a positive place and the world understood
me until one day I awoke and began heading into work as per normal. As I
opened the external door to my apartment I was met by a barrage of flash bulbs
and microphones being shoved in my face. I closed the door quickly and ran
into my own flat to find my phone ringing. As I switched on the television my
face was there as they reported that the model for the Burton Group and Clarins
was actually a man. I called my agent and she told me not to go out and to call
my work and let them know that I wouldnt be in.
My agent got in with every newspaper she could gather and they all ran the
story that destroyed my opportunity to be me,. This had a detrimental effect on
my mental health as my family turned against me and I now felt that I was ugly
and that I was not pretty. I wanted to run away and I wanted for the first time in
my life felt I wanted to die. This destroyed me.
But the waters subsided
I have since moved my life on and despite a little blip with the press again when
I married my ex husband, I have pursued a life as a prominent activist fighting
for the opportunities and rights for all trans people. I was involved in much of
the writings in the Gender Recognition Act 2004 and the Equality Act 2010
(Gender Reassignment rules) and am proud to have made a difference. Not just
to my life but too many thousands who identify as trans.