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Metissage Part 3
Metissage Part 3
Arthur Zajonc
Reaching
I am reaching for happiness and fulfillment in both my personal and professional life. I
love my job and the special needs students that I teach, but it is exhausting. On tough days, when
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my students are acting up, I question my ability to be an effective teacher and good listener.
Especially when having to dig into the complex emotional stuff that come up for them. These
days really get me down. Students need more than mindfulness at school. They need a greater
awareness of who their inner being is and start working with their strengths and emotions. A lot
of the time, due to technology, everything is handed to them without any hard work involved.
Students nowadays lack passion and curiosity. I want to help them bring that back. I want to
make learning meaningful again. With this said, it is also crucial to understand students
sensitivities and emotional strength before any internal work may be accomplished. David G.
Smith (1999, p. 79, as cited in Hasebe-Ludt et al., 2009, p. 204) writes that:
As a teacher it is impossible to reach and teach children effectively without knowing their stories,
just as it is impossible to be available to another persons story unless one undertakes in an
ongoing way the profoundly challenging, often fearsome task of deconstructing ones own.
Secondly, I want to create a stronger relationship with my family. I do not want to back
away from the challenges life throws at me. I want to have the courage to speak up and let them
know how I am feeling. How I am really doing. I do not want to just back away like I have done
in the past. Most importantly, I want to repair my relationship with my sister. There have been
years of let down, frustration and anger between us. Both of us have to take the leap, though. I
am not looking for a friendship just yet, but creating a relationship with no negativity.
I have been with my boyfriend, Phil, for nine years, and we have begun to start a life
together. We recently purchased our first condo in New Westminster. Our home is incomplete
and unfurnished, but we will slowly get there. Our whole relationship is based on doing things
slowly and it is completely fine. I know I want to get married and start a family. Feeling rooted is
important for me. My family was an important part of my growing up. I am rooted in them, even
though I try to run away when challenges arise.
To achieve all of these, I need to be open. I need to be open to not only good things in
life, but also the difficult and messy things to. Arthur Zajonc (2009) speaks to the importance of
openness through the journey on the contemplative path. He says, by incorporating a practice of
openness into our daily meditation we prepare both for an outer life of engaged interest and for
an inner life open to the unexpected and unfamiliar (p.84). Being radically open and radically
available to the unexpected and unfamiliar is really what it means to live.
I am from
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I am from books
Endless hours in the library
Summer book clubs
Imagining, finding solitude
Entering into my bookworld,
My escape
I am from worry
Expectations
Fear of failure
Fear to make a mistake
Never resting until I reached that A
And the other A, and the one after that
Conclusion
In Look to the Mountain, Gregory Cajete describes the Mayan practice of building new
pyramids overtop older pyramids as a metaphor for Indigenous education (p. 28). This could also
be a metaphor for my life as well. He writes, the newest reality may seem different from earlier
ones, but its essence and foundation remain tied to the earlier realities it encases (p.28). The
older I get, and the more I try to change myself, it becomes clearer to me that I am deeply rooted
in certain things. Things that will always be a part of me will be the eagerness to learn through
books; overwhelming family gatherings; experimenting in the kitchen; and my familys love.
Additionally, the more I grow, the more I realize that I need to come back to the things I love the
most, back to my roots. For they make me who I am.
Writing this mtissage put me outside of my comfort zone. It tested me and brought me
to tears a few times. Things came up for me that I did not realize were bothering me, which I did
not realize I was hiding.
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Baking
References
Cajete, G. (1994). Look to the mountain. Durango, Colorado: Kivaki Press Inc.
Hasebe-Ludt, E., Chambers, C., & Leggo, C. (2009). Life writing and literary mtissage as an
ethos for our times. New York: Peter Lang Publishing, Inc.
Lindisfarne Books.