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Gentleman's: The Guide To Texting Women
Gentleman's: The Guide To Texting Women
Gentlemans
Guide to
Texting
Women
...and what you need to get the girl
by Nick Notas
The Gentlemans Guide to Texting Women v1.0 - By Nick Notas - The Dating Specialist! 1
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Table of Contents
Introduc)on 3
Why didnt she just say she wasnt interested instead of ignoring me? 7
Ive been tex)ng a girl for a while, how do I keep her interested? 9
Youve texted back and forth and want to get her on a rst date. 12
Contact Me 14
The Gentlemans Guide to Texting Women v1.0 - By Nick Notas - The Dating Specialist! 2
Introduction
My
names
Nick.
I
love
talking
to
women
and
I
always
have.
Thats
why
I
became
a
da:ng
coach.
To
help
great
men
meet
great
women.
When
I
was
young,
I
enjoyed
hogging
the
landline
speaking
with
girls
from
school.
Eventually
when
everyone
got
cell
phones,
tex:ng
took
over
as
the
primary
way
of
communica:ng
with
the
girls
I
liked.
I
soon
realized
that
the
same
rules
that
applied
to
the
phone
didnt
apply
to
messaging.
Rather
than
having
deep
conversa:ons
that
lasted
for
hours,
I
was
beFer
o
keeping
it
concise
and
lighthearted.
Instead
of
asking
her
thought-provoking
ques:ons,
it
was
smarter
to
hold
o
un:l
we
went
on
a
rst
date.
I
spent
years
succeeding
and
failing
to
gure
out
what
actually
worked.
The
purpose
of
this
guide
is
to
take
my
years
of
trial
and
error
and
show
you
how
to
turn
text
messages
into
real
dates.
Its
great
when
you
get
a
girls
number,
but
it
doesnt
mean
much
if
you
never
see
her
again.
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10
Rules
to
Smart,
Successful
Tex6ng
Dont
spend
messages
back
and
forth
asking
her
what
she
wants
to
do.
Suggest
something
yourself.
If
you
need
ideas,
check
out
my
ar:cle
on
How
to
Plan
a
First
Date.
If
a
girl
is
into
you,
she
wants
to
hear
from
you.
It
reinforces
your
interest
in
her
and
that
she
made
a
genuine
impression
on
you.
No
girl
says,
"I
really
like
that
guy
but
he
beFer
not
text
me
or
he's
done!"
And
if
she
does,
is
that
the
kind
of
girl
you'd
want
to
be
with?
Dont
try
for
long
or
in-depth
conversa:ons
un:l
aKer
youve
gone
on
a
few
dates.
Tex:ng
is
a
poor
form
of
communica:on
to
really
get
to
know
someone:
too
much
informa:on
gets
lost,
words
are
misunderstood,
and
roman:c
tension
zzles.
The
longer
you
stay
as
text
buddies,
the
harder
it
is
to
transi:on
to
real
world
hanging
out.
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4. Subtle
ir6ng
is
powerful.
You
shouldnt
outright
say
Baby,
I
wish
you
were
naked
in
front
of
me
right
now!
but
subtle
hints
that
get
her
mind
wandering
set
the
right
mood
for
a
date.
You
should
come
out
tonight,
I
bet
you
look
stunning
in
your
new
dress
;)
Trust
and
comfort
have
to
build
over
:me,
but
playful
messages
will
keep
her
on
her
toes
un:l
then.
You
want
her
to
be
excited
to
see
her
phone
ash
with
your
name.
The
last
thing
she
wants
is
a
wall
of
text
thats
all
about
your
crappy
day.
Shed
much
rather
laugh,
be
happy,
and
feel
desired.
When
shes
in
a
posi:ve
and
comfortable
mood
with
you,
its
easy
for
her
to
say
yes.
How
do
you
talk
with
your
friends?
You
probably
shoot
the
shit
and
ask
the
occasional
ques:on.
Use
this
as
a
reference
point
for
your
natural
style
and
add
a
dash
of
spice
when
talking
to
her.
Bombarding
her
with
ques:ons
will
make
it
feel
like
an
interroga:on.
I
like
to
use
them,
but
other
guys
dont.
I
feel
a
smile
or
wink
is
great
for
adding
emphasis
or
being
irta:ous.
If
you
choose
to
use
them,
dont
go
overboard
or
else
itll
distract
from
what
youre
trying
to
say.
S:ck
to
no
more
than
one
emo:con
per
message.
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8. Use
proper
grammar.
Im
not
telling
you
to
over-think
when
and
how
much
you
should
text
her,
but
be
reasonable
about
it.
If
she
texts
you
a
few
lines
at
a
:me,
dont
send
her
three
huge
paragraphs.
You
look
too
eager
and
overly
invested.
Feel
out
the
rhythm:
if
she
takes
an
hour
to
respond,
its
ne
to
wait
a
few
minutes
before
replying.
If
you
dont
have
anything
of
value
to
say,
then
dont
say
it.
Monosyllabic
responses
of
ha
and
lol
dont
warrant
a
separate
text
and
oKen
frustrate
a
girl.
And
mundane
ques:ons
like
hey,
whats
up?
or
howve
you
been?
arent
going
to
create
any
sparks
between
you.
When
she
takes
:me
to
write
you
something
personal,
give
her
the
courtesy
of
at
least
puRng
some
eort
into
your
response.
Each
text
should
have
a
purpose:
to
get
her
laughing,
to
relate
to
her,
to
irt,
or
especially
to
get
her
on
a
date!
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Frequently
Asked
Ques6ons
No,
its
BS.
The
only
thing
youll
do
is
frustrate
her
and
make
her
think
youre
not
interested.
She
wants
you
to
con:nue
the
connec:on
you
guys
had
--
hopefully
into
a
date.
There
could
be
a
million
reasons
why
she
hasnt
replied.
Maybe
shes
busy,
maybe
shes
not
ready
for
something,
maybe
her
ex
came
back
into
town,
or
maybe
shes
just
not
interested.
Whatever
the
reason,
don't
spend
your
:me
trying
to
gure
it
out
--
there's
no
point.
Your
worrying
will
only
stress
you
out
and
wont
magically
get
her
talking
to
you.
The
majority
of
women
don't
enjoy
rejec:ng
a
guy
or
get
o
hur:ng
his
feelings.
Women
aren't
very
confronta:onal
and
in
fact,
hate
awkward
moments.
Most
girls
feel
bad
about
having
to
tell
a
guy
that
they
aren't
interested
and
don't
want
to
hurt
them.
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Is
it
right
to
do
it?
No,
but
when
you're
scared
or
nervous
some:mes
we
take
the
ight
response.
And
it's
because
oKen
when
a
girl
does
tell
a
guy
no,
they
get
something
like:
"But
I
thought
we
hit
it
o.
What
the
hell?
I
was
so
nice
to
you
and
this
is
how
you
treat
me?"
Ive
even
seen
guys
lash
out
and
call
a
girl
a
bitch
for
telling
them
the
truth
about
their
feelings.
Do
you
think
a
woman
really
wants
to
be
yelled
at,
insulted,
and
guilt-
tripped
about
her
decision?
No,
it's
stressful
and
uncomfortable.
But
it
happens
and
it
leads
to
girls
having
to
ignore
guys
so
they
get
the
picture.
Dont
take
it
personally
and
move
on.
You
need
to
move
the
interac:on
forward.
The
only
reason
it
goes
stale
is
because
you
arent
taking
the
ini:a:ve.
Like
I
said,
the
purpose
of
tex:ng
a
girl
you
like
is
to
get
her
on
a
date.
A
few
fun
texts
back
and
forth
should
be
all
you
need
to
say
Hey,
lets
grab
drinks
this
Thursday.
Guys
are
afraid
to
ask
that
ques:on
in
case
shell
say
no.
But
if
you
dont
ask,
its
a
guaranteed
rejec:on
either
way.
Stop
dancing
around
the
subject
and
ask
her
out
already!
Its
beFer
to
know
whether
or
not
shes
actually
interested
than
spending
weeks
obsessing
about
it.
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We
have
a
date
in
a
few
days,
should
I
text
her
before
then?
Always
text
the
day
before
or
the
day
of
your
date.
This
reminds
her
of
your
plans
and
is
a
good
way
to
conrm
its
s:ll
going
down.
Nothing
sucks
more
than
geRng
ready
and
clearing
your
schedule
only
to
nd
out
at
the
last
minute
that
its
not
happening.
Of
course,
if
she
messages
you
on
her
own,
you
should
respond.
The
point
is
that
guys
oKen
text
too
much
and
end
up
killing
the
tension.
Giving
some
space
keeps
things
fresh
and
saves
your
conversa:on
topics
for
when
they
maFer
most
--
in
person.
You
dont...didnt
you
read
the
rst
rule?!
The
longer
you
spend
tex:ng,
the
less
chance
youll
have
of
anything
happening.
Youre
not
going
to
sweep
her
o
the
feet
by
a
few
words
on
a
smartphone
screen.
Take
a
step
forward
and
ask
her
out
already!
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How
to
Respond
to
Common
Tex6ng
Situa6ons
You
should
say:
"Hey
Ashley,
had
an
awesome
:me
hanging
out
with
you.
Have
a
great
night
,
talk
soon
:)
-Mike"
When
in
doubt,
a
simple
and
personal
message
is
always
best.
Just
tell
her
you
had
a
good
:me
and
if
you
want,
reference
something
funny
or
an
inside
joke
from
your
interac:on.
She
says:
Sorry,
I
cant
make
it
out
tonight.
I
forgot
I
promised
to
help
a
friend
work
on
her
project.
You
should
say:
No
problem,
have
fun
tonight.
But,
Im
stealing
you
away
this
Friday
;)
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LeRng
a
girl
know
youre
bored
and
wai:ng
for
her
is
not
going
to
make
her
want
to
see
you.
Give
her
the
benet
of
the
doubt
and
stay
posi:ve.
Show
her
its
not
a
big
deal
and
playfully
irt
with
her
to
reschedule.
She
says:
Oh,
Im
sorry
I
cant
meet
up.
Ive
got
to
wake
up
really
early
in
the
morning.
You
shouldnt
say:
Didnt
you
know
that
earlier?
It
would
have
been
nice
to
give
me
a
heads
up.
You
should
say:
Ahh
ok.
Well
listen,
if
you
want
to
get
drinks
some:me
when
youre
more
free
--
hit
me
up.
Have
a
good
night!
Respect
yourself
and
your
:me,
dont
keep
chasing
aKer
her.
GeRng
aggressive
or
upset
is
immature
and
will
turn
her
o
--
it
solves
nothing.
You
cant
guilt-trip
a
girl
into
wan:ng
to
come
see
you.
Show
her
you
have
standards
and
put
the
ball
in
her
court
to
ini:ate
contact
again.
You shouldnt say: Hey whats up? or Is this s:ll Maries number?
You
should
say:
Just
heard
LCD
Soundsystem
on
the
radio.
Reminded
me
of
when
we
jammed
out
to
them
at
McGreevys,
so
epic!
or
I
just
The Gentlemans Guide to Texting Women v1.0 - By Nick Notas - The Dating Specialist! 11
sat
next
to
a
girl
on
the
bus
reading
Hunger
Games
haha.
Did
you
nish
the
series?
Assume
that
its
her
number
and
shes
going
to
pick
up.
The
best
way
to
ease
back
in
is
by
referencing
a
good
experience
you
had
or
something
specic
about
her.
Dont
lie
about
it
--
be
honest,
what
made
you
think
of
tex:ng
her?
Youve
texted
back
and
forth
and
want
to
get
her
on
a
rst
date.
The Gentlemans Guide to Texting Women v1.0 - By Nick Notas - The Dating Specialist! 12
The
rst
example
has
no
chemistry
and
reinforces
the
stress
of
her
work.
You
should
be
a
source
of
posi:vity
and
enthusiasm
that
gets
her
wan:ng
to
have
fun
with
you.
She
wants
an
excuse
to
take
a
break
and
smile
a
liFle.
The Gentlemans Guide to Texting Women v1.0 - By Nick Notas - The Dating Specialist! 13
Contact
Me
Nick
Notas
The
Da?ng
Specialist
nick@theda:ngspecialist.com
TwiFer
/
Facebook
(781)
473-0330
This
guide
is
totally
free
and
you
may
give
it
away
to
your
friends,
neighbors,
and
everyone
else
in
between.
In
fact,
I
encourage
it
:)
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