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Cosmopolitan Australia June 2015
Cosmopolitan Australia June 2015
JUNE 2015
Olivia
Palermo
MY NIGHT ON LOVE, LIFE AND
EVERYDAY STYLE
AT THE
WORLDS DATING YOUR
MOST EX AGAIN
EXCLUSIVE Let it go, p134
SEX PARTY
The dark side
of #healthspo
WHAT WE LEARNT
FROM THE
COOL
STYLE
BELLE GIBSON
SCANDAL, p62
WIND
PROOF
HAIR
STYLES
(that wont get stuck
in your lipgloss)
56
Gibson scandal
64 This actually happened:
I had a breast reduction
and my boobs grew back
120 Wind-proof hair styles
THE (that wont get stuck in
OLIVIA your lipgloss)
EFFECT 130 My night at the worlds
most exclusive sex party
134 Dating your ex again:
Let it go
95 55
THIS MONTH
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From the editor
Whats new on our website
What we love about June
STYLE EDIT
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The simple life
Flares are back
What a vision
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168 Do try buy 48 All blue everything
176 Astro 51 6 ways to wear a scarf
178 Before you go 54 Fashion for hire
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THE NUMBER
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I go to bed I and Peggy, licking my face. A For breakfast
watch a bit of TV soy latte is my morning tipple, I like eggs on
to wind down. I like followed by a litre of water. Then toast or with spinach.
to read, too Ive just I check my emails being in LA On the weekend, I like
finished Lena Dunhams theres a lot to catch up on, to indulge in a bit of
book Not That Kind even on days off! bacon or sausage.
of Girl.
Ive been
When doing a high-intensity,
Im at home (not dance-based workout
living on room service!) called Body by Simone. Its
I try to cook clean meals fun but not for the faint-
a piece of protein with hearted! I also love pilates
have th
salad or vegies. I hav the mixed with cardio, it
luxury of eating all keeps me lean, taut
organic foods. and toned.
Ive My skin is
just launched very sensitive and it
my Rosie for Autograph
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Marks
fragrance [for UK store Mar find the right products for
& Spencer]. When I spoke to ththe it. One I use religiously
perfumer, Ralph, I wanted rose is iS Clinical Active
as the heart note. But it was Serum.
more about the feeling I was
trying to create. I wanted it
to be emotive.
On my days off I
use Laura Mercier Oil
I feel Free Tinted Moisturiser, Stila
unfinished without cream blushers for a dewy flush
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AUTHOR, JOURNALIST AND COMMENTATOR
Insta-famous.
true because none of its real. You could have
millions of followers who are into what youre
wearing or what youre doing, but unless you
Is it a long-
take your stellar social media savvy and parlay it
into something with merit, youre going to be the
girl everyone used to talk about pretty damn fast.
fame via the interwebs is everlasting Friskies. I do not and neither do you. Insta-fame
is possible but shouldnt we strive for a little more
in life? After all, it didnt make Grumpy Cat happy.
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term potential. Just like any other form of fame, if you
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have to offer. Generally theyre offering more than just internet. The channel is here to stay and the
pictures whether that be tangible products, a blog, services, e-books, etc. commercial opportunities will continue to grow.
Its also important to be adaptable Instagram is where its at right now, Who knows what will happen in the next ve to
but who knows what the next big thing may be? If youre flexible and 10 years? But its those who are business-savvy,
willing to adjust your personal brand then I think you can transfer that authentic and pushing creativity and collaborating
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BUT WHAT IF
Little did she know
the gift came from
her friends cousins
IM BUSTED?
You have but five
brother-in-law.
emoji-based options
1. You got me. Still
friends, right?
2. Oooh, yeah.
Yeah I did do that.
3. I am ashamed.
Please forgive me.
5. I am speechless
LESSON #1
REGIFTING
homewares, gift vouchers.
Not OK to regift:
hand-knitted scarves, pets,
anything monogrammed.
Everybody does it. Heres how to do it the right way
I
ts not illegal, its not even frowned upon. Truly, its
OULD
How horrified were you when you received it?
not. But there are rules, so pay attention. Dont
SH
regift the gift to the person who gifted you the
YOU I T?
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REGI Only mildly bemused.
gift in the first place. Dont roll your eyes, it happens
(and thats what Post-it notes on presents are for). I yelled, Dear Lord, what evil is
Never regift anything thats broken, damaged or this? and threw it across the room.
has been used (even once).
Ideally, wait a full year before you regift. Always
regift outside the friendship group. Like, way outside. Do you have a frenemys
Would you say its just not your style? birthday coming up?
Never risk the gift-giver going to a mutual friends
house and spotting that one-off tribal vase they got for
you from Africa. And for that matter, if you get busted,
take it like a woman. That is to say with style, grace and Yes I dont do No, its no ones Yes, shes No, Im a nice
a compliment: Yes, but I knew youd enjoy it more than pink/bath salts/ style. Its future turning who the person and like
me Also, that shirt really brings out your eyes. chai tea. kindling. hell cares? everyone.
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WHY, I DO DECLARE THINK AGAIN BEFORE TELLING YOUR REGIFTEE THEIRS IS A SLOPPY SECOND. IT KIND OF TAKES THE AIR OUT OF THE WHOLE
GIFT-GIVING SHEBANG. ITS LIKE TELLING YOUR COUSIN YOU ONLY INVITED HER TO DINNER BECAUSE YOUR BOYFRIEND HAS FOOTY PRACTICE.
1
Hes known for playing Jon Snow in
Game of Thrones and, as a descendant of
Charles II, Kits basically real royalty, too.
Just dont mention it to him: Im not
anti-royalist, but who gives a shit?
2
Jon Snow might be a badass, but in real
life Kit is scared of spiders, injections and
flying. Im turning into a flying alcoholic,
because I cant deal with it, he says.
3
Natural and alluring masculinity [with] an
effortless sense of style is how Sandra
Choi, creative director for Jimmy Choo,
described him when he was announced
as the face of its menswear brand. Totally.
4
His real name is Christopher, but he only
found that out when he was 11 and doing
a test at school. I [wrote] Kit
Harington and [the teacher] looked at
me like I was stupid, and said, No,
youre Christopher Harington, Im
afraid. In the end I stuck with Kit.
5
Hes fine with being naked on camera.
KIT HARINGTON
There are a hundred people watching
you, and after the first 30 seconds
everyones seen everything. Im happy to
strut around naked after that, he says.
WANNA GET
cant see how you will ever
get there, you will never get
and positivity
there! Its like youre trying
SOME
to see the view out the window, ZO: Of course theres a guy
but refuse to lift the blind. out there who matches you
ALLY: Listen. Im not into all in these endeavours. Its
that manifestation shit. Im statistically ludicrous to
not writing a bloody list of suggest otherwise. The
GELATO?
my perfect man. problem is more that youre
ZO: Im not asking you to so focused on the lack of
become a living, breathing guy, that thats all you are
Instagram quote, but I do bringing into your life: lack.
think theres something to be ALLY: Go on. Say it.
said for a bit of positivity and ZO: What you think about,
open-mindedness. you bring about.
ALLY: Oh, Im always positive ALLY: If I had a dollar
until I actually meet the guy ZO: Just try it. Change your
Ive been set up with, and he fixation. Dont constantly
is a complete social dyslexic. confirm to yourself that
Fictional real conversations with Cosmos Everyones like, Online dating theres a problem. Instead,
long-standing relationship columnist, is the key, but people LIE
online. One guy used a photo
believe that you deserve to
be loved by an equal. That
Zo Foster Blake of his brother as his profile you are surrounded by
picture, and didnt understand quality men. That you are
ALLY: Oh, trust me, I know ZO: Of course I do. By the way, why I found that offensive. Im joyously happy and in love.
all the reasons Im perennially a confident man will support genuinely starting to think it ALLY: It all just sounds so
single: theres a man drought; his lady when shes successful. IS me. Am I too picky? not me.
Im too fussy; all the men my ALLY: You dont know the ZO: I think the too picky ZO: And how is me working
age are married (or theyre men I know, then. label often stems from women out for you on this front?
gay); Im too intimidating ZO: Youre very mind-made- working so hard to be fully- ALLY: Fine, fine. Ill try
ZO: Pfft. Youre about as uppy about all of this stuff. rounded people that its kind being not me. Its me thats
PHOTOGRAPHY BY JENNIFER STENGLEIN
intimidating as a ladybug. Youve got all your reasons of disappointing when the the problem anyway.
ALLY: Too accomplished then, why no decent man will ever mate theyre trying to attract ZO: And your intimidating
too independent. I dont know, present himself and, even if isnt equally well-rounded. job and total awesomeness.
something that is apparently he does, that he will instantly Take you, for example: youre ALLY: Finally, youre starting
a turn-off to men. They cant be repelled by your career smashing your career, youre to get it. #
handle that Im successful in and all-round awesomeness.
my own right. Ooh, theres a ALLY: Well. What a bitchy FOLLOW zotheysay.com @zotheysay @zotheysay
gelato shop if you need some. thing to say. ZO!
My boyfriend wants
me to describe
MYto him
ORGASM
where
do I start?
Ah, the female orgasm. Hard to come
by and even more difficult to explain.
Never fear, Emma Markezics here!
O
h, how to define an works in intimate detail. Well, maybe
orgasm is that all? not their right arm they probably use
Are you sure you that an awful lot. But another less useful
dont want to ask me body part. The spleen, maybe. Anyway,
about the meaning here are five ways I like to think about
of life? Or why you the female orgasm that might help you
cant borrow my Chanel bag? These figure out how you feel about yours and
are intricate, multifaceted questions, thus explain it to your inquisitive man-
my friend. To start with, I dont even friend accordingly.
own a Chanel bag. I mean, who am
I, Beyonc?! And the meaning of life A KETTLE BOILING
well, thats for people far more The classic orgasm analogy! In much
scholarly than I. The orgasm one, the same way water comes to the boil,
though while complicated I admit an orgasm especially the female kind
is actually rather doable. And I also starts off slow. But as things heat up,
understand why your boyfriend is pay attention. Therell be bubbling and
curious. I once had a male friend simmering and the occasional flare-up
explain that getting an erection you mistake for the beginning of the end
felt like being suddenly and but is actually just the steamy middle.
awkwardly off balance like Youll think its about to boil any second
a small child trying to walk so you loiter over it, giving it your full,
uphill with a giant backpack. undivided attention. But you know what
Female arousal is different. they say about a watched pot Once you
No backpack thing going on for actually relax and take your eyes off it,
starters. And most men would it hits the sweet spot of its own accord,
give their right arm to know how it all bubbling over onto the countertop like
battery-operated strings? Its a positively go all in. And then it happens. BINGO!
lyrical thrill. Now you understand why The elation. The joy. The rush of the
he said he knew youd make beautiful win! Theres nothing like it. The prize
music together He is wise. is yours and mama needs a new pair of
shoes. And a cuddle. And a shower.
RIDING A BIKE
So, youre riding a bicycle up a hill, right THAT ONE SNEEZE
nothing to write home about. But after Oh yeah, you know the one. That rare
a while, you hit your stride and step it mofo of a bodily function that for some
up a gear. Now were talking. You can unknown reason gets stuck in your nose
feel the burn and it feels good. Youre and wont come out no matter what you
climbing that hill like theres an all- do. It just sits there, dormant, teasing
expenses-paid date with Ryan Gosling you with its latent energy. Is it going to
at the top. Sure, your thighs are starting come out or is it going to disappear into
to cramp up and you can feel a little bit the ether from which it came? You dont
of chafing going on, but damn it if you know. But, damn, if it isnt the most achy,
arent going to get to the finish line. frustrating feeling in the world. Then,
You grit your teeth and push through out of nowhere, when you least expect it
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cover story
I
ts 9.30am in New York City of London. Named the Marylebone
and Cosmos SWAT cover team and dubbed as a TechTote, the bag
is prepping for the arrival of is stunning (natch) but also highly
our cover girl Olivia Palermo. practical, with a protective, padded
Everything shes requested is iPad compartment, cleverly placed
in her dressing room. We say cable paths and even an optional
everything; Olivias rider is, quite charger to boost the battery of your
frankly, a bit underwhelming. Just gadgets while on the go.
some energy drinks and bottles of And get this: 100 per cent of
Evian water. Nope, no fancy foods the proceeds of Palermos limited-
or exotic flowers. Or kittens (you edition design will go to ADCAM,
missed a trick there, Olivia!). Its a charity that shes been a long-time
the perfect precursor to meeting supporter of, which aims to help
this unassuming 29-year-old. improve the way of life in Maasai
When the girl who captured communities [in southern Kenya
the heart of the notoriously fickle and northern Tanzania] through
fashion world arrives, she instantly co-operation projects and social
introduces herself to every single initiatives. Good one. Time to get
member of the team. Tick. Then to know our life crush a bit better.
she makes a beeline for the mood
board weve put together, listening When did you first fall
carefully as Cosmos stylist takes her in love with fashion?
through the shoot concept. Shes As a child I loved dressing up, but
ridiculously elegant. Blazer, white as I got to my late teens and early
shirt, jeans, necklace and Oxford twenties, fashion kind of evolved
shoes. She looks like an off-duty through me and I grew a lot more
princess and its easy to see why her interested in it. My mum and aunt
natural, ladylike style caught the have always been very fashionable,
attention of fashion commentators so its in my heritage.
when she appeared on MTV show
The City seven years ago. Youve said fashion has a
The Olivia effect gained lot to do with good taste.
momentum and suddenly she was Would you say that can be
everywhere: fronting campaigns for learnt or do people have to
Mango, Carrera y Carrera, Hogan be born with it?
and Rochas; front row at New York A bit of both as you grow older,
Fashion Week; on magazine covers; your eye evolves. Im sure every
attending exclusive fashion parties. fashion editor would tell you that
Titles like fashionista and style as the years go by, you learn more
icon were showered on her. Shes and things get easier, but you have
even been called this eras Audrey to have a basis for it.
Hepburn. Over-the-top? Slightly
(even we have to concede that). But Its been a varied career:
such is the love for OPs style that youve been a model, TV
people gush, GUSH, when talking star, designer What have
about her. And with good reason. you enjoyed the most?
Just name one bad outfit shes ever I think that for me, Im fortunate
worn. One. See what we mean? because everything I do connects
So forward-thinking is this into each other, whether its styling,
former socialite that shes made her editing, consulting, designing or
name a brand, launching her own modelling. I mean, I love modelling
website (oliviapalermo.com) to great because Ive been very fortunate to
success, which she uses to support work with amazing people, travel
youngsters through e-commerce. around the world and work with
Palermos most recent endeavour some incredible photographers
is designing a bag for quintessential and I think the whole experience of
British accessories brand Aspinal travelling and being in lots of >
Words and intervieW by Paulina Canales. PhotograPhy by randall slavin. styling by gerard angulo. translation by Carlos soto
What is the secret of a
successful relationship?
I think trust and communication, and
supporting one another. Honesty, love
and respect, really.
The thing is, Jessica was diagnosed it be gone by now? recovery from cancer was down to her
with a rare form of cancer, epithelioid Sadly, Jessicas mother was change in diet, and she made a lot of
sarcoma, back in 2008, so nobody should diagnosed with breast money from it but
have been surprised when she sadly cancer in 2011 and, there are doubts she
passed away. Its an aggressive cancer like Jessica, is said ever had cancer at all.
that usually strikes young adults (Jessica to have also shunned Promoting a cure for
was 22 when she was diagnosed) in their conventional medicine
YOU SHOULD a disease that might
TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
extremities (Jessicas was in her left arm in favour of Gerson never have existed? If
FOR YOUR
and hand). After initially undergoing therapy. Sharyn true, it means Gibson
chemotherapy, which appeared to help Ainscough reportedly fooled a lot of people
temporarily before the cancer returned, declined any scans or (including us Cosmo
HEALTH,
doctors recommended Jessica have her biopsies to pinpoint awarded Belle a Fun,
arm amputated at the shoulder truly exactly what type of Fearless Female Award
a difficult decision for anyone to have to breast cancer she had, for her app in 2014).
make, let alone a young woman on the and passed away in There are also claims
verge of starting her adult life. She later 2013. By the end of
BUT THAT DOESNT MEAN that Belle lied about
PUTTING
wrote on her blog, The way I saw it, I 2014, Jessica returned donating a portion of
had two choices: I could rely on the slash, to her blog after quite her businesss profits
poison and burn method offered to me
by the medical profession or I could
take responsibility for my illness and
bring my body to optimum health so
that it [could] heal itself. For me it was
an easy decision. Jessica decided to
follow the principles of Gerson therapy,
a notable absence,
explaining that shed
spent much of the year
bedridden due to her
cancer taking hold
again, which had
caused over 10
BLIND
FAITH
IN ANYONE WITH AN
INSTAGRAM ACCOUNT
to charity. Scratching
your head over all of
this? Theres also the
fact that Belle claimed
the HPV vaccine was
linked to her brain
tumour, a claim
a controversial nutritional program that months of non-stop that may have even
claims to activate the bodys ability to bleeding from [my] influenced people to
heal itself through an organic, plant- armpit [which] has believe the vaccine
based diet, raw juices, coffee enemas and rendered me really weak. Despite her might be harmful when its unclear if
natural supplements. family indicating that she did turn to she had evidence to support that.
When it comes to beating cancer, conventional medicine in the end, by Similarly, Perth woman Candice-
prioritising your health is incredibly February 2015, Jessica had devastatingly Marie Fox claims she beat her thyroid
important and, in some ways, Jessicas passed away from her cancer. cancer through just hardcore nutrition,
decision to turn her back on modern Extremism can be more tempting loving myself and meditating, according
medicine can be seen as understandable. than moderation. Saying a blanket no to The Daily Mail. While amidst the
Either way, life as she knew it was over to food groups or practices is often easier scandal shes actively distancing herself
she could amputate a limb (which, with than trying to moderate, says Polivnick. from the likes of Belle by obtaining her
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her disease apparently being incurable, When youre faced with doctors giving medical records and saying shell make
doctors said would only hope to prolong you worst-case scenarios like having them public, the fact remains that
her survival), or she could try something your arm cut off, or therapists telling there is absolutely no evidence to
else entirely. Jessica chose to pursue you itll be OK if you drink their juices, suggest that dietary changes alone can
Gerson therapy instead of continuing Jesss choice becomes understandable. cure any sort of cancer. >
EATING
added grains to my find some magical was a lot of positive feedback from people
diet and became a cleanse that would who had similar issues. That felt great.
plant-based vegan. make me feel better. But there was a lot of negativity,
When I first
started my blog, The
Blonde Vegan, the
response was massive.
HEALTHILY
AND BECOMING
I became obsessed.
My friends and
family were concerned
but didnt want to say
too. I lost thousands of followers and
got angry comments from vegans and
animal-rights activists telling me I was
a hypocrite and a liar. I got death threats
In the first few weeks
alone I got over 3000
followers. I really loved
that my audience was
OBSESSED anything for fear of
offending me. And they
were right; when people
did bring it up, I was
from people, and not just directed at me
at my family, too. I couldnt sleep. I
spent hours and hours deleting messages
from my Facebook wall so they didnt
interested in eating well. extremely offended. I felt flood my entire page with negativity.
My vegan diet like they were unsupportive I was shocked because I was always
typically included green smoothies, and didnt understand or care about my a huge advocate of veganism and part
a lot of salads and roasted vegetables. complete dedication to veganism. of that was trying to make non-vegans
Everything I ate was homemade, without Deep down, I knew something see that it was a very non-judgemental
oil, salt or seasonings. I also did a lot of was wrong. I was depressed; I couldnt practice. Then all this happened. I am
juice cleanses, each lasting up to 10 days. think clearly. Everything I did was all quite happy to be disassociated with
My stomach issues returned over about food. But I never connected the the vegan label.
time, so I became more passionate about feelings to an eating disorder. It was Now, Im The Balanced Blonde.
trying different vegan diets. I tried raw only when a friend described her own I eat fish, chicken and eggs, while still
veganism (nothing is cooked above 48C) battle with an eating disorder that I enjoying a fairly plant-based diet. I no
and the 80-10-10 diet, where you get 80 thought, Oh my God, thats me! I had longer stress about eating treats in
per cent of your calories from [carbs, hidden behind the guise of my healthy Italy recently I ate gelato, pizza and
primarily] fruit, 10 per cent from protein eating so much that I hadnt been able pasta. It might not sound like a big deal,
and 10 per cent from fat. I juiced, and to see that it was a disorder. I realised but it was to me. And Ive gained about
I tried diets where you dont eat past I had a problem, and a few days later three times as many followers as I lost!
6pm or dont eat breakfast. It became went to see my friends therapist and People are drawn to a balanced lifestyle.
impossible for me to eat out or have a nutritionist to start my recovery. Theres a fine line between eating
social life my diet was all-consuming. healthily and becoming obsessed. I didnt
And yet, still I had indigestion,
pain and bloating. I wasnt myself. Id
Big announcement, have refined sugar for two years not
even a bite of something homemade! Now
been in training for a half-marathon angry vegans I see that having a bite is not a big deal.
and injured my ankle. It wasnt healing Opening up about my recovery on my Im sure it sounds funny to people who
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properly, which Id never experienced blog was terrifying. I was afraid that have never experienced these issues but,
before. It was my body telling me that my whole brand would come crumbling before this happened to me, I would
something was wrong. The truth was, down. My therapist encouraged me to never have imagined myself behaving
I just wasnt eating enough, or getting be as honest as possible with people. If that way. It can happen to anyone.
enough variety in my diet. I now realise youre portraying yourself to be living Lauren Sams #
GREW
BACK
Her whole life, Jessica Matlin wished women have macromastia [the medical
term for extremely large breasts] is that
for smaller boobs. But once she got their breast tissue has an exaggerated
response to oestrogen, the hormone that
them, her body quickly betrayed her stimulates breast growth. He said it
may be hereditary, and for some women
even if you remove the breast tissue, the
I
remaining tissue can still have that
had boobs before I could even do The kilos melted away and I came response to the circulating oestrogen.
long division. Even at the age of out of my shell. I began saying what I I still wanted a second operation,
five, I had those fat little mounds. thought, owning my very silly sense of even though the obvious question hung
In Year 3, when the kids on the bus humour and going out with dudes Id in the air: would this happen again?
spotted my training bra the first previously considered out of my league. Dr Pecoraro said theres no way
theyd ever seen I screamed, red- I understood that cheesy line formerly to predict whose breasts will grow back;
faced, Its an undershirt! Then I had obese people say in advertorials after turns out I was just unlucky. Its very
a good cry in the guidance counsellors losing half their body weight: I had unlikely it would happen again, he said,
office. By Year 7, I was a full-blown a new lease on life! explaining that at 27, the chances were
C-cup, which put me on most girls shit But two years after my breast much slimmer than they were when I
list. As a D-cup in high school, I was a reduction, I started feeling the creep. was 20, when my oestrogen levels were
pro at ignoring guys pervy stares. It happened the way it does if youve especially active. With zero hesitation
By Year 11, I was sobbing in the ever put on weight. You feel yourself I booked myself another appointment,
Myer lingerie section, sifting through getting bigger but swear its just from forking out the savings Id squirreled
the DD offerings. I just dont know the sodium in last nights takeaway or away over the years.
where this gene came from, my mum PMS anything. My arms had started I knew what to expect from Dr P
said, perplexed. Must be your fathers brushing the outer edges of my boobs, (the J-Lo, thanks!), but I was surprised
side. Theyre Russian. and I felt gross if I didnt put on a bra by peoples reactions when I told them
I thought about having a breast first thing in the morning. Id also find I was going in for round two. While a
reduction and, while myself slouching my few were supportive theyd seen how
I was in uni, spilling shoulders to disguise self-conscious my big boobs made me
out of a DDD bra, my true size, I had others looked at me with big blinking
I applied to have the I knew I'd gotten amassed a closet of eyes, asking if I had tried one of those
procedure through bigger, but this was drapey black tops, minimisers. Some implied that going
my insurance. When
the approval letter
practically back to and I got quieter.
(Ill admit that I was
for plastic surgery once was pretty vain.
Twice? Well, that was just indulgent, in
finally arrived, I felt square one. It was always struggling a Real Housewives sort of way. But the
like Id just broken like I was possessed with 5kg after uni, worst offenders were people offering me
out of jail.
Surgery was
by The Girl With but it seemed my
boobs were steadily
earnest, life-coachy rhetoric like, Dont
you think this is a sign that this is how
intense. Post-op, my Big Boobs growing, whether I your body is meant to look?
boobs itched from was having a skinny I ignored all of it. Having lived
the inside, and I had or a heavy year.) with both big and small boobs, I know
to sleep with ice packs on my chest. But When I went to buy some new what feels right for me.
I rarely complained, because I was so bras, a salesperson offered to measure
elated. Once my boobs settled down, me. Mimi. Ill never forget her name,
they were perfect 12Cs, and looked like because I was staring at her name tag Boobs do what now?!
J-Los in that famous Versace dress. (Id when she delivered the blow: Youre a What: It is possible (although rare) to
shown the doc the pic for reference.) 12DD, love. Before she could even coil experience regrowth after a breast
The first year after the op, I was up her measuring tape, I started to feel reduction. This is called hypertrophy.
on a natural high. I remember bounding claustrophobic. I knew Id gotten bigger, Why: This is because living glandular
PHOTOGRAPHY BY FABIO HEIZENREDER
up the stairs to my friends apartment but this was practically back to square tissue, although reduced, remains in
wearing a black cami no bra and zero one. It was like I was possessed by The the breasts. The main causes of post-
bounce. I bought loads of sporty Calvin Girl With Big Boobs. op hypertrophy are weight gain, age
Klein bralets. And since having smaller How could this have happened? (oestrogen levels are higher in young
boobs made me realise that I wasnt My surgeon, Dr Michael Pecoraro, had women, making regrowth more likely),
actually fat my DDDs had made me only seen this happen about four times menopause, pregnancy and medication
feel matronly Id started to hit the in 20 years. He explained the science that affects hormone levels. #
gym and eat a lot better. behind it: One of the reasons some
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friends she was disturbed by what egalitarian world of online science good reason to report: of the 20
she describes as lingering hugs
sweetie, writing. We all met [each other] per cent who did, 79 per cent said
and a Twitter DM that read I
cutie, etc. in social settings and had drinks they were satisfied or highly
31-year-old in
love you!!! By 2011, hed hired arts/entertainment together. Nobody felt this was a satisfied with the outcome. Its a
%
working environment. Zivkovic good place to start.
says the concubine comment, But theres another often
for example, was an innocuous unmentioned part of the solution:
joke. He says he and Waters were bystander intervention. This is
smoking outside a bar when he so effective, says Broderick. Its
bought a rose for his wife, who a way for somebody within the
was inside. When the salesman workplace to start to change the
gave him two, he says he joked, status quo by saying, Were not
to the salesman, not to Waters, going to put up with this. And it
Whats that, one for the wife, one can help take the pressure off the
for the concubine? And as for the victim. So like those old terrorist
Twitter DM, Zivkovic argues the ads said, If you see something,
word love can convey friendship say something. And if you can
of harassers in the
and admiration. say something in the heat of the
moment, all the better. A lot of
Why you should report
Workplace are men.
offices have the unfunny joker,
In the aftermath of the Scientific notes Broderick. Someone who
American controversy, Raven says thinks its hilarious to talk about
she is now much more likely to womens body parts or to make
call out behaviour that makes her sexually suggestive jokes and
Wait, was I
just harassed?
then backtrack and say he didnt Trust your gut if youre feeling uncomfortable or
mean anything by it. Research stressed about someones behaviour at work, you have
shows that those jokers say these the right to say something. Here are some ways to respond
things to raise their own status
so simply take it away again by A co-worker A co-worker The person who Youre a bit too
saying, I dont find that funny. makes a single or group of is harassing you nervous to make
If you cant confront the person, inappropriate co-workers is is an ex. a report yourself.
speak to your manager or HR. comment or repeatedly giving Take the same Bring your work
Sadly, the outcome of many sends a creepy you unwanted steps. It doesnt bestie with you for
sexual harassment issues is that email or text. sexual or sexist matter if you were moral support. And
Talk to the person attention. once a couple or ask if any other co-
the woman ends up leaving the
face-to-face if Tell your manager had a consensual workers are dealing
company what Broderick calls
possible to avoid (in writing, but hook-up. If their with it. Then, report
forced resignation. When I see confusion. Say: follow up in person) current behaviour it together.
women changing their behaviour, That makes me that Mr or Ms X is is unwanted and
WORDS BY MICHELLE RUIZ. ADDITIONAL REPORTING BY LAUREN SAMS
or thinking they have to leave a uncomfortable. making crude is hurting you at You told your
job that they love, I am deeply Please dont say comments and its work, it counts management, but
saddened, she says. Reporting that to me again. making it hard for as harassment. theyre not doing
does make a difference. Speaking Check out your you to work. The anything about it.
up isnt only for you, its also for company manual harasser should be The person whos Ignoring a report
every woman who works in that or ask HR if there removed or at least harassing you is of harassment or
company. Harassment shouldnt is a procedure for warned, depending your manager. retaliating against
how to report on the situation and Check out your you for reporting
be the price of a paycheck or just
harassment and a on company policy. company manual is unlawful. Go to
something women need to put up or guidelines to
neutral employee humanrights.gov.
with in order to get ahead. As Dr to report it to. see if theres a au/complaints/
Tan told The Age, I dont think Dont respond to safe senior contact make-complaint
anyone should give in to blatant texts or emails, but to report it to, or for more info on
sexual harassment because [their] screenshot them even just your reporting your
career depends on it. Hear, hear! just in case. HR department. company. >
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workplace harassment left her to sleep with her, too, was the perpetuate the sexist behaviour
feeling angry and confused. retort. The fact it was tabled in or they were using it to protect
a public setting made it easier to perpetuators or to permit other
Like lots of students studying dismiss; it was as outrageous as people to do so.
law, I took part in a few clerkship it was offensive. per cent The partners at the firm
programs. At one firm, I was I tentatively raised it with of Harassers are could have modelled appropriate
quite surprised to discover that human resources but the reaction co-workers. behaviour, could have identified
20
I had been assigned to a practice just confirmed why I hadnt been unacceptable behaviour when they
group I had listed as my 13th more forthright. The underlying saw it and reported it. They could
preference out of 13 choices. I message was that if something have reached out to colleagues
assumed that this was because inappropriate had happened, I to enlist them. They could have
I had ranked below my fellow obviously took part in it so I was per cent encouraged their colleagues to
clerks so had been assigned my somehow responsible. It was as of tHose Harassed develop an attitude about rejecting
final preference. extraordinary to me then as it is made a complaInt. unacceptable behaviour. And they
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Turns out that wasnt the now. The idea that a summer clerk could have supported anyone who
case. On our very first day, I was wields any power whatsoever over has been subject to this sort of
informed that Id been selected a large law firm is absurd. unacceptable behaviour.
on the basis of my photo. Even It still angers me that this Are these things all easy?
now, more than a decade later, happened and I wonder why I per cent of No. Are some feathers likely to
I am still disbelieving that this wasnt braver or more willing respondents saId be ruffled? Most likely. But is it
actually happened. But it did. to fight it. What I was subject to tHeyd taken better than telling someone to
And that wasnt the worst didnt ruin my life or my career.
actIon after stay silent in the face of sexual
wItnessIng a
of it. The same partner, in front What I was subject to symbolises co-worker beIng harassment? Absolutely.
of clients and other legal staff, and perpetuates a culture that Harassed. When alls said and done,
asked whether I would sleep with does ruin, or, at the very least, the standard you walk past is the
him. I was 22 at the time. He was limit the careers and lives of so standard you accept. #
FREE!
I have
cancer
I had surgery and the doctors fully
removed it. Chemo was optional, so
cancer at 25, everyone wants you to quickly cancer one day and then gone
the next that I didnt actually feel as
spout happy thoughts and sing Kumbaya. if Id legit had cancer. But here I am
now, a full-on bald, weak, bitchy little
I
patron saint of healthy habits. I can eat
really like to hate-read eventual death), but the chemo makes an entire wheel of cheese in a single
wrenching cancer-scare stories, up for it. I feel like I havent slept since sitting, and Ive never met an oatmeal-
about how someone found a lump, November. I have so many aches and raisin cookie I didnt immediately lick
but that it wasnt cancer and the pains that I might as well learn to play to mark as my territory. But then I also
experience changed her forever, bridge and take up backgammon. swam competitively for 12 years. I run.
and she now eats kale salads and But I really want to wife-up my And I brew six cups of green tea a day.
has an appreciation of hummingbirds. boyfriend, Tim. I want kids. I want to I even pop Brussels sprouts like candy
Meanwhile, Im busy rummaging see the Northern Lights. So I shut up, straight from the roasting pan while
around my desk at work, sniffing out show up, hold out my arm Im watching The Mindy
Twix bars like a truffle pig, when my and let all four chemo Project. How am I the
doctor calls to tell me that I have two drugs seep into me. I shut up, cancer patient? How? I
tumours on my liver. The disease Id Sometimes, Im the show up, hold need an explanation, but
thought was gone for good nearly two Good Cancer Patient. I out my arm it turns out there is none.
years ago is back. I flee to the office
conference room, call my mum and sob
joke with the nurses and
share snacks. Other times,
and let all four Researchers at Baltimores
Johns Hopkins University
for 15 minutes. Then I get back to my I just sulk in silence. Im chemo drugs found that many types of
to-do list. OK. I have cancer. I need mourning the loss of what seep into me cancers are, just like mine,
chemo. And I still need that Twix. I believed my entire life plain old bad luck.
I have hepatoblastoma, a type of would look like, and in the stages of I feel better in the waiting room
liver cancer (which has nothing to do grief, Im stuck on Anger. I feel like at Memorial Sloan Kettering, NYCs
with alcohol intake, although my mum indignation will consume me and Ill famed cancer centre, surrounded by all
still side-eyes the two-litre bottle of have turned into Gollum by the time the other unlucky people. Were in this
Bombay Sapphire gin on my bar cart), this all ends. Im carrying this One together, even if most of them are old
and Im on my third of four rounds of Ring to Rule Them All by myself, and decrepit and have already had the
chemo, which in total will take three and its incredibly isolating. chance to live their lives.
months. Chemo, which blindly destroys Literally. Hepatoblastoma is the Then I step back outside and see
cells and, ideally, kills the traitorous most common liver cancer in infants, the people whose veins are whole, who
one in the process, comes with a huge but I appear to be only the 46th adult have hair on their heads and who didnt
laundry list of side effects: infertility, ever diagnosed with it, and my doctor spend a large part of their morning
nerve damage, heart failure, kidney says Im the first to have caught it in being stabbed repeatedly with giant
failure and even leukaemia. Stage 1. I was feeling perfectly fine needles. I hate and envy them all. But
Yes, treating cancer can actually when my gyno first felt a lump during nothing, and I mean nothing, pisses me
give you cancer. Treating this disease a routine exam in early 2013. I told her off quite like a smoker. Really? You
with chemo is like playing Whac-A- Id simply wait for it to go away since want to look like me?
Mole with death you either die from I couldnt feel it myself, but then she My best friend has smoked for
the cancer now or, a few years down responded by basically shoving me into the last 10 years and I lose it when I
the road, kick it from one of chemos the MRI machine, which showed that spot her, lit cigarette in hand, before
side effects. My cancer doesnt cause said lump was a liver tumour the size we meet for dinner. I resent her. Ive
and it sucks
any symptoms (besides, obviously, of a grapefruit. A few weeks after that, smoked for zero years and yet >
Natalie Portman, WHAT TO SAY
is that you?
TO YOUR
CANCER FRIEND
Some friends have been amazing,
and were closer for it. Others have
been MIA, and theyll be seated at
the kids table at my wedding and
wiping juice off their formal wear.
If you have a friend, relative or
co-worker who gets sick, then say
something. Heres what I suggest
DO SAY
Wow. That sucks.
somehow Im the one who has to stop
It does. A lot.
to sit on some randoms doorstep on my
Lets commiserate over cider!
way to work because I cant breathe.
Ive even started to resent my own
DONT SAY
relatives. Why? Because literally no other
person in my family has needed chemo. oncologist? Do you have a file of clinical Im sorry.
I never know how to reply, and end
Is that horrible? Its totally horrible. But results to show me that demonstrate the
up reassuring people my cancer is
everyone else gets to go to drunk brunch amazing power of positive thinking to not their fault. Also, its the number
and run 5km while I sit in my bed and shrink tumours? No? You dont have a one way to bring down the vibe.
cry over my numb fingers. Everyone else medical degree? Then just shut up and
gets to have sex and pop out tiny babies leave me alone. DO ASK
in the old-school way while I have to give Stuart Scott, the late ESPN anchor
myself shots in the leg so I can harvest who had cancer for seven years, said,
Have I told you about the
eggs and freeze them before the chemo You beat cancer by how you live, why
three guys Im dating?
makes me infertile. (And probably have you live and the manner in which you I think about cancer 24/7.
Distract me!
to fork out a couple of thousand dollars live. I really hope this isnt true or else
to do so, because God forbid the priciest Im most definitely losing. I am not carpe
DONT SAY
health insurance plan out there actually diem-ing. I am up to no good. I watch
covers anything.) Everyone else gets to be Netflix all day and try not to spill milk My boyfriends brothers
normal, while Im trying to figure out a in my bed while I eat bowl after bowl of cats aunt has pancreatic
discreet way to take off my wig in the Special K. Sometimes, I only answer the cancer, so
restaurant because it feels like its actually phone for Tim, just to ask again if hell Is this supposed to be comforting?
squeezing my brains out of my head. pull an A Walk to Remember if it comes Unless your boyfriends brothers
to that. (It wont, he always says. And, cats aunt is actually a 25-year-old
And yes, I can see you, total sweetie, that is a terrible movie.) with hepatoblastoma, please refrain.
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strangers who are gawking at my naked So no, I am not surviving cancer
head. Have you never seen a scalp? Bruce or battling cancer or going on some DONT ASK
Willis has been around since the time of dumbass cancer journey. My life is just What do you need?
the dinosaurs. Either avert your eyes or paused. Honestly, Im not living at all This is thoughtful but vague.
tell me you loved me in Twelve Monkeys. right now, because a life in which Im I dont even know what I need,
I get that people freak out, even my tethered to an IV machine for 10 hours and I dont want to ask too
friends on occasion. But if cancer makes straight at a time is not mine. It belongs much. Your liver, I guess?
you feel so uncomfortable that you cant to cancer. Im in a cancer prison, and I
even send me a Hi, how are you? text, am chemos bitch. DO ASK
then get over it. My cancer is very busy There is a silver lining, small but Want me to drop off
right now making me uncomfortable and still beautiful: after sitting with me in a some groceries?
cant seem to pencil you in today. And windowless room for three hours while Ill never ask for help with food,
whatever you do, please dont tell me I had carcinogen pumped into my body, laundry or taking me to the doctor
I just need to stay positive. Are you an my best friend quit smoking. I feel like a burden. #
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REIGN
Rihannas 2015 is going to be
Beyoncs 2014. Her Instagrams
back up and running, she was recently
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ROAST
CAULIFLOWER
METHOD
1. To make the almond sauce,
place the almond meal in a
saucepan with the water and
a little of the oil, then heat
gently until the almond meal
WITH ALMOND
SAUCE just starts to swell (this makes
it easier to blend). Pour almond
YOULL NEED... mixture into a blender and
1 head of cauliflower process to a smooth paste,
Extra virgin olive oil, then season to taste with
for drizzling brown rice vinegar and sea
Juice of lemon salt. With the blender still
cup roasted almonds,
running, add the egg yolks,
coarsely chopped
1 cup mint leaves
then add the oil in a thin,
steady stream until the sauce
Almond sauce is thick and creamy. Season
100g almond meal to taste, then set it aside at
150ml water room temperature.
200g extra virgin olive oil 2. Peel the large outer leaves
Brown rice vinegar, to taste off the cauliflower, then chop
2 egg yolks into quarters. Remove some
of the core and steam on high
for about 10 minutes, or until
a skewer goes into the stem
easily. Set aside to cool at
room temperature.
3. Heat the oven to as hot
as you can get it. Place the
steamed cauliflower in a
roasting tray or a cast-iron
pan and roast for around
10-15 minutes, or until its
dark golden brown. (Any
charred parts will be fine
CARNIVORE they add to the flavour.)
AND THE NUT OF THE YEAR CONCESSION 4. Remove cauliflower from
If you truly cant go
AWA R D G O E S T O without any animal
the oven and dress simply
with olive oil and lemon juice,
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+
of the year. Read it a healthy dose of sass. a memoir covering
for the dinner party Then hand it over to your sexuality, body image
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watch
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T H I S S PAC E
EMPIRE
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BETTER
CALL SAUL
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F
or about the last six The first time I ever Most of the women
months, my exs new stalked her Insta was shortly I know are the same way.
girlfriends blog has after my ex-boyfriend and I They have tons of female
occupied the toxic hooked up for the last time, friends, make donations to
waste corner of my when Id heard he was dating the McGrath Foundation
brain a place that someone new. The very first and are outspoken about
was previously reserved for photo on her feed was of him womens issues but pull
YouTube videos of people posing with a babe I mean, up a photo of their exs new be triggered by lingering
falling over in public. When a goddamn baby! From the girlfriend and they morph feelings of your romantic
Im having an especially bad caption, it was clear that they into a hateful Greek chorus investment in the guy. You
day, I send her posts to my were dating. It wasnt their of girl-on-girl bitchiness. It are still preserving him as
best friend Julie so she can baby, obviously, but thats turns out giving to charity good in your mind in a way,
confirm for me exactly how not the point. Once I was is the easy part of supporting she says. On the other hand,
pretentious and mediocre the finished crying in the work the sisterhood. This stuff? you have no attachment to
new girl in my exs life lets toilets, I went into search- This is way trickier. [the girlfriend], so theres
just call her Pretentia is. and-attack mode. If Pretentia And its not just my nothing lost in critiquing
Julie is game for this because, had a deleted LiveJournal friends, either. According her and taking her down.
just yesterday, I reassured post from 1999, I wouldve to a study from Western If your break-up was
her that based on extensive found it, read it and sent it University in Canada, 88 per a shit-show where you were
Facebook stalking, shes so to everyone I know along cent of 18- to 35-year-olds brutally dumped and yet he
much hotter than her current with a cruel subject line. Facebook-stalk their exes, still comes up in conversation
boyfriends ex-girlfriend. Its a paradox. You see, and 74 per cent have sniffed when youve had a few vinos,
Thanks to the rise of most of the time Im a card- around the Facebook page lets just say that I hope her
social media, it has become carrying feminist, but this of their ex-flames newest Instagram feed is private.
a popular indoor sport to girls social media footprint partner. Its impossible to You may not even be
gather around a screen with turns me into Evil Cady know how many of those safe in the sanctuary of your
your friends for a thorough from Mean Girls, sniping to people are women gleefully wine-and-pizza party, says
dissection of the woman in all my friends: I have this pointing out the brand-new Bell: Youre [doing this]
your ex-boyfriends present theory that if you cut off all girlfriends acne over wine with your friends, but theres
(or boyfriends past). Find her hair, she would look like and pizza with their friends, a sense of vulnerability. The
88
her most unflattering angles a British man. but Id wager its a lot. tables could turn and you
in Facebook photos, smirk Psychotherapist Leslie could be the next victim.
at the misspelled hashtags Bell, author of Hard to Get: I disagree to an extent
on her Instagram, and the 20-Something Women and the its actually a shameful but
person who comes up with Paradox of Sexual Freedom, powerful bonding exercise
the funniest burn wins. Yet told me that there are many but at the same time the
after this cathartic cattiness reasons why we morph into prevalence of the nasty habit
you dont feel better you OF PEOPLE AGED 18 TO 35 dickheads in this scenario. certainly does make me more
just feel empty. Yay? FACEBOOK-STALK EXES Firstly, your girl-hate may wary of befriending new
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my skin bears no sign of it.
consider myself an honest person. their health insurance and it wont have
Yet for the past five years or so, Ive a whisper of Botox on it. The competitive edge
been keeping a secret from nearly After surveying many of my close A lot of my younger patients get Botox
everyone I know: I get Botox. thirtysomething friends, I discovered the because they want to look better than
I started when I turned 30, majority of them are on the secret Botox their friends, says LA derm Jessica Wu.
with the intention of blurring the bandwagon, too. Why? Well, it seems Youd never know it, though. Although
three distinct lines that ran clear across that everyone has their own reason for this age group is known for oversharing
my forehead and the frown lines between keeping their Botox-ing to themselves. on Twitter and Instagram, that doesnt
my brows, both of which, unlike in my apply when it comes to Botox. If a friend
twenties, now remained etched on my The anti-Botox boyfriends had asked me, You look so young. What
face, even at rest. Initially, I didnt tell a For my fianc, the B-word conjures up are you doing? I wouldnt say Botox.
soul. I felt embarrassed that I even had visions of frozen facial features la the Id say, I just take really good care of
wrinkles at 30 and that all my go-to face Real Housewives series. He doesnt get my skin, admits Daphne*, 31, who first
creams werent cutting it anymore, plus that theres a difference between a tiny started Botox-ing at 23.
all the girls in my crew seemed naturally smidge of the wrinkle fighter and then But now that Ive officially outed
line-free (or so I thought). pumping your face and lips to inflated, myself from the secret Botox society,
I looked at getting Botox like a cartoonish proportions with filler. Im adopting a different attitude about
secret experiment. The result: I loved Christine*, 36, has been covertly it. Botox makes me look good and feel
how it made me look. My forehead was Botox-ing for nearly seven years, keeping good. There shouldnt be any shame in
suddenly smooth, yet I could still move it from her boyfriend-turned-husband that. And to my guy; honey, Im sorry
my brows like a normal even though most of her I didnt tell you sooner.
human. And although I saw female friends and office
a dramatic difference, no
People want co-workers know. She can
one else did. They never to present even recall the moment she
THINKING
asked. I never told. themselves knew hed disapprove. He
ABOUT BOTOX?
Now, five years later, had seen pictures of some
getting Botox has become a as naturally overdone celebrities and said READ THIS
staple in my beauty routine beautiful to me, Dont even think about
FIRST
something as essential as doing that its disgusting,
keeping my buttery highlights bright she says. This view is pretty common GET REAL ABOUT YOUR MOTIVATION
and never skipping a mani. Yet my trips amongst guys. Women know they cant Why are you considering it? It should
be because youre stressed about a
to the doctors office remain on the DL. get them on board as a result, many
line on your own face, not because
Only a select group of girlfriends are in [of my] female patients feel cornered
ADDITIONAL REPORTING BY LEIGH CAMPBELL. *NAMES HAVE BEEN CHANGED. SNAPPER MEDIA
HES REBOOTING
HIS CAREER
AND ITS EFFING WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIP
PHOTOGRAPHY BY CHRIS COLLS/BAUERSYNDICATION.COM.AU
His announcement
about becoming
a limo driver wasnt
going so well.
HOW TO DEAL
When youre involved in a committed
relationship, youre meant to base your
decisions around what will be best for
you as a couple going forward. Youre
also supposed to make decisions that are
1 Terry is drinking the Personal
Trainer Kool-Aid after leaving
his city accounting job. He
loves his new career path. Simply cant
career move. After all, he has such a
healthy lifestyle now! It only succeeds in
pushing him further into it.
going to be good for the two of you and get enough of it. His girlfriend, Anne, is Neither of these options are ideal,
your future life together. really happy for Terry. But shes not into because almost instantly you feel a total
So what happens when you find working out and would rather spend her disconnect from each other. While the
yourself being less than thrilled about weekends knocking back cab savs. They first option avoids confrontation, Option
his Grand Plan? And what does it mean each stick to what they like and suddenly Two is what generally ends up happening.
for your relationship when you just cant never see each other. Both have disastrous effects, with clear
shake the feeling that youre not being break-up undertones. Sure, Option One
factored in to his decisions? Or, even OR allows you to remain Crazy-Sexy-Cool
worse, his future. Girlfriend, but it also sees you lose your
All of a sudden, the couple goals
you had moving forwards as a team have
changed, so the future becomes unclear
and you start to fight because you dont
2 Anne tells Terry she hardly
sees him anymore as his new
schedule means hes working
most weekends. She misses her cab sav
man. Option Two brings out I-Know-
Better Girlfriend, but also creates major
hostility and eventually sees you lose
him. So are there no winners then? Not
know which way youre going anymore, drinking buddy and wants him back. But exactly, says Aiken there is a middle
says Aiken. This tends to happen in one Terry cant quite understand why Anne ground. The key? Your approach right
of the following two ways: doesnt support his new and exciting at the beginning.
3
and is now pretty frustrated because its
something theyve both been planning
to do for years.
His online audition to
In any relationship, theres this Consider whether his goal is a
be an Abercrombie mutual understanding that youre a team deal-breaker. If it is, you need
to say that upfront so that he
boy was in the bag. and that youre both going in a particular knows the relationship could be
direction together, explains Aiken. But over if he goes down this path.
4
when someone decides they want to go
Its very important that, rather in a different direction, it derails things.
than going into the conversation with Were all much happier when we know
directives and telling him this is what where we stand with each other and Set a timeline. Come back to
itin six months time and see
you want to do with no negotiation, you weve got a shared vision, he adds. ifyour positions changed.
5
bring it up in a soft way and then try to But just because that Europe move
explain what it means to you for him to gets pushed back, or your boyfriends
be following his goals, says Aiken. new work friends arent your thing, it
doesnt have to mean the shared vision Keep re-evaluating those
DERAILED DUO
Of course, while that may not change the
is dead. It simply means you now need
to agree on a new one.
According to Aiken, its all about
timelines so the conversation
always remains open.
impasse, at least hell have a much better checking in with each other often and KEEP IN MIND:
understanding of your feelings, which having regular conversations about your If he goes ahead with it, you
make up your opinion. And, just so were future together as a couple. need to either get onboard or
call it a day and move on,
clear, youre absolutely allowed to have On top of that, Aiken stresses how says Aiken. Essentially, he's
an opinion on this. vital it is that theres a balance between going to go ahead and do it
Regardless, Aiken warns that even togetherness and separateness which anyway. So if youre with him,
embrace it, accept it, let the
after that conversation, you might find is important for any couple. resentment go and celebrate
he still wants to push through with his If youre too separate and too his new path. #
CORBIS
own goal. And you need to be prepared goal-driven individually, then it really
T
he candlelight
flickers off the
marble floors
SEX
and finery of the
beautiful English
country house.
Glasses of champagne clink
as the young and attractive
partygoers eat oysters and
chat politely over the music
playing in the background.
With everyone dressed in
black tie and formal evening
dresses, it might seem to an
outsider that this is just an
upmarket drinks reception,
even a wedding party. But a
closer look reveals that this
is far from the case.
A curtain is drawn
back for a split second and a
woman emerges from within
a private room. Inside, theres
a glimpse of three people
writhing sexily together on
a silk-covered bed. In a room
next to theirs, two women
are touching and kissing
each other passionately. But
none of the partygoers give
these half-naked figures a
second thought. In time they,
too, will begin pleasuring
themselves in a similar way.
Welcome to the luxe
world of the elite, members-
only sex club, Killing Kittens
(well get to the somewhat
frightening name in just a
minute). It was launched by
London socialite Emma
RTY
Sayles (who just so happens
to be a friend of the Duchess
of Cambridge yep, Kate
Middleton herself). Sayles
has been running her brand
of sex party in New York
penthouses, St Tropez super
Cosmo goes inside yachts and other luxurious
paying $500 for a single girl
and $1200 to attend as part
of a couple. Preparations
[for the launch party] are
very much underway and
the venue is very elite but
His martini wasnt
we dont disclose the exact the only dirty thing
location until just 24 hours on her mind
before the party, says Aus
Kitty. Of course, the secrecy
is all part of the excitement a byword of sorts for female may be impossible for them I got married when I
and intrigue. masturbation what better in other scenarios. was 21, and before that Id
The parties, which name for an organisation The elaborate masks not really had many sexual
started in London in 2005, whose aim is the pursuit of that everyone wears at the experiences. A feeling of
have always been aimed at female sexual pleasure? start of the evening protect missing out had always kind
women. Men are allowed to Of course, gaining identities so even celebrities of played on my mind and
attend but only if they are membership to the exclusive can attend. Many choose to after 12 years of marriage
with a woman and, once at sex club isnt a given theres remove these as the party I finally decided to actually
the venue, the women call a rigorous vetting process. progresses, however, as they do something about it.
the shots, approaching men Hopeful applicants must be are rightly unashamed of I gently explained to
for sex rather than the other between 18 and 45. Youre their involvement. After all, my husband Pete* how much
way around. In fact, out of requested to send a photo of whats to be ashamed of in I loved him but that I felt the
the 40,000 Killing Kittens yourself their philosophy a movement that provides need for something more. I
members worldwide, 80 per is that only gorgeous people women with a platform to didnt want to have an affair
cent are female. need apply. Sayles is rather discover themselves in such but Id read about the Killing
Its for this reason the unapologetic about how she an exciting and risqu (albeit Kittens parties so suggested
slightly off-putting Killing discriminates based on style safe plenty of condoms are we go to one. Amazingly,
Kittens name evolved. There and looks. It means that the provided) way. he was straight on board.
is a myth that every time a line-up of an average party One of these women is I think he appreciated my
woman sins and pleasures includes models, actresses Stacey. The 36-year-old from honesty and, as we booked
herself, God kills a kitten as and It girls all looking to Sussex in the UK has been into an event, we were both
punishment. This story has explore their sexual desires attending Killing Kittens so swept up in our naughty
turned killing kittens into and fantasies in a way that parties with her husband for secret that I felt closer to him
the past four years. She is than I had in years.
per cent of men and women proud that shes been brave
enough to take the plunge
On the evening of the
party we were both really
THE RISE OF
OF AUSTRALIANS THE ELITE,
IDENTIFY AS BISEXUAL GORGEOUS
OR BICURIOUS ORGY
(keen to try a sexual relationship
Killing Kittens is
not the only provider
13
out their desires in
exact location of a Killing explosive as well. having sex with another some of the highest-
Kittens party a few hours It wasnt till our sixth woman didnt bother me at class venues around
before it starts so Pete and party that we even involved all. We didnt even know the the world.
I were full of anticipation couples names and there was
Heaven is another
when the venue, a fancy and no risk or emotion involved
organiser providing
exclusive London townhouse, just raw desire. a three-tier party
was revealed to us by way of Experiences like that system to its elite
text message. have actually made Pete and clientele. To attend
As we walked in to the I stronger as a couple. We one of the top-level
venue, the scene that faced suddenly had a shared secret parties, branded
us was just stunning. About and we found ourselves being red-cloak level,
80 other people were milling able to talk more openly members will have
around a beautiful lounge about lots of things, not just been deemed ultra
bar drinking cocktails. It was our sexual desires. gorgeous and
PER CENT
handed a secret
the most attractive group Weve been to dozens
invite at one of the
of people I think Ive ever of parties together now and
lower-level parties.
seen! All five storeys of the I think its something that Just 12 couples and
townhouse were bathed in
OF AUSTRALIANS will be part of my life for a three single girls will
ARE IN AN
candlelight and as we started long time. Killing Kittens be invited to an event
chatting to the other couples allows women to be open and all must wear
I started to feel more relaxed.
OPEN MARRIAGE, about their sexual fantasies, lingerie under their
meaning they
They were professionals as well as providing the red cloak. At an
just like us and there was platform to act them out in allotted time the
absolutely no pressure to do
can have sex with a safe not to mention ultra- cloaks come off and
the fun begins. #
other people.
anything apart from have a exclusive environment.
really good time. For me, thats a win-win.
In 2015, a clean
break takes a few
tries. Welcome to
W
the modern era of hen Kiri first met
her ex, he made me
dating on a loop, laugh like no other
when your new human being. After
a year of fun banter,
boyfriend also Kiri wanted to get
Its no wonder researchers describe she doesnt regret it. It made me realise
the on-off phenomenon as relationship I didnt want the in-between relationship
churning. Breaking up then creating anymore, she says. I wanted the great
a brand new Tinder profile and throwing sex and also someone who loved and
yourself into a restorative cardio-barre supported me. When she found both
regimen only to wake up next to your of those things with a great new guy
ex the following weekend can feel very (who now happens to be her boyfriend),
frustrating and depressing, like youre it was the wake-up call she needed. So
blocking yourself from moving forward. she said goodbye for good to her ex.
And, while Halpern-Meekins research Not all break-ups and make-ups
found many rekindling couples had very end in disaster, though sometimes its
strong emotional bonds, they also had just a case of both members of the couple
higher levels of conflict and lower levels getting on the same page at the same
Lets do this! For of commitment. Research also shows a time. Sometimes, a little bit of space and
real this time higher likelihood of verbal abuse and time can heal the wounds and spark
physical violence in churning couples. introspection, explains ONeal.
Albert Einstein famously defined Nicole, 27, says during a recent
insanity as doing the same thing over break from her boyfriend of a year (he
and over again and expecting different needed space), they both realised just
results, and clinical psychologist Monica how much they wanted to be together.
ONeal agrees. I endorse a relationship I gave him a trial period, and he proved
sequel, but certainly not a trilogy and that he really cared about me, she says,
beyond, she says. An acknowledgement including supporting her during her
of why things didnt work the first time, mums battle with cancer. Theyre now
and a vow to do it better, is a good sign, planning on moving in together soon.
she says. But if you re-experience the When we broke up, I told him
same disappointment and hurt, its a sign that I wanted a guy who was sure of
and I didnt want to raise my number, this person is not an ideal partner. himself, Nicole adds. And, when he
she says. Im no Virgin Mary, but Ive Although Gabrielles boomerang came back into my life, he was ready to
always felt like, given the choice, I should relationship definitely had its downsides, be that person. Michelle Ruiz #
try and stay in the same pool rather than
sleep with a complete stranger.
Further research from Oakland
University in Michigan shows casual sex THE ON-OFF DATING
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efore we plunge in, Id like to be clear Can I put it in your bum?
on one thing: I am a big believer that asked the gentleman suitor of a young
we should all just do whatever we want woman Ill call Ilene. That was during
to do in bed. Have your threesome. Hell, her senior year of high school, when
have your twelvesome. Wear that mask they first started dating. Shed been a
your boyfriend bought you as a joke. virgin, but hed done everything, so
Don that Care Bear costume and get his expectations were high. During the
busy. Ill die for your right to do your first month of their relationship, they
thing. (Well, Ill march in support of it. had vaginal sex. Soon after that, oral.
Death seems kind of extreme for this.) Then came the question.
But Ill be honest. When I read the I was never interested, says Ilene.
statistics on the rise in anal sex, I was I didnt want to do it, and I didnt want
taken aback. Women are all of a sudden to talk about it. But he would ask, Can
having tons of it: 40 per cent of us, ages I put it in your bum? every time.
20 to 24, have tried anal sex, up from 16 It seemed really important to this
per cent in 1992, says a survey published guy, so Ilene finally agreed to do it. Her
in The Journal of Sexual Medicine in 2010. friends told her to have a few drinks to
And 20 per cent of ladies in relationships get her inhibitions down and so it would
have had anal in the last three months. hurt less. She did, and well
Now, you should probably adjust for the It was not enjoyable, she says.
fact that people are more forthcoming in We used lube and a condom, and tried
this age of internet confession than they foreplay. But I could hold on for only
were back in the early 90s perhaps two minutes before I said, I cant do it!
more people were having anal sex back Prince Charming finished up with
then than were willing to admit it. some vaginal sex that night, and Ilene
Anal sex was happening, and it spoke loudly and often about how awful
was happening everywhere. Its in all it had been for her. But he kept asking.
that porn in a 2010 study, researchers Eventually, he cheated on her, citing her
watched 50 popular porn movies and unwillingness to have anal as one of the
found 356 depictions, in 55 per cent of reasons. Would it shock you to know
the scenes, of men and women having that they broke up?
anal. The feminist Naomi Wolf talked Then theres Danielle (of course
about how anal fissures a tear in your not her real name), a recent university
rectal tissue comprised the biggest graduate. It used to be she could go to
problem seen at campus health services a party, see how things went, then hook
on uni campuses she visited. up with a guy. Now, shell be getting
It was happening on mainstream intimate, when suddenly guys will just
TV, too. There was that scene on Girls go for it, and then try to pretend it was
ALL PHOTOGRAPHY BY JONATHON KAMBOURIS
where Adam tried to sneak in some anal, an accident, she says. The times that
followed by one on The Mindy Project theyve done it without my consent
where Danny just slipped, followed by its very painful. You hear horror stories
a cameo on The Affair. And more of my of this sounds so gross accidentally
friends were starting to open up about pooping. The whole concept in general
their experiences. As I opened my eyes kind of turns me off.
and looked around, I saw that this was These young women were students
no longer a fringe topic. Had I missed in the human sexuality class of Debby
the anal revolution? Herbenick, co-director of the Center >
r
partnerships, some men pushed to have
anal sex with their reluctant partner
despite believing it is likely to hurt her,
the authors wrote. The try it and see
approach was popular. Couples labelled
what happened as slips, the authors
of the study theorised, to gloss over
the possibility that the penetration was
deliberate and non-consensual.
Make no mistake. We may be
a
talking about anal sex, but the guys
who pressure women into doing things
they dont want to do, or who test the
waters by accidentally sticking a penis
where it doesnt have permission to go,
are the true arseholes in this story.
a s
Her interviews suggested some for sex to actually work. This requires zenith of emotional bonding.
men tried it out of a sense of competition extensive anal foreplay, which includes As I finished up the reporting for
(as one charmingly put it, every holes lube, massage, testing out the waters this story, I got a text from my friend.
a goal). Both men and women endorsed with a gentle pinkie, and maybe quietly We just watched TV and are thinking
the idea that women needed to relax reminding yourself that you consented of taking a trip to Browntown Abbey.
more, to get used to it. In truth, no one to this. Your arse is more delicate than Thought youd like to know. #
seemed to be having much fun. The men your vagina and less resilient, she says.
rarely mentioned physical pleasure. The You can really hurt someone if you do
women mostly reported pain and not it wrong. So all that sensitive tissue is
in a sexy way. kind of a blessing and a curse.
And yet, there are also women who So anal sex is either very painful
genuinely like anal sex. Take my friend or seriously great. Its either dangerous
Rachel ($5 thats not her real name), who or its totally safe. It can be an unyielding
is in her thirties and married with kids. pleasure or a huge pain in the arse. So,
Over scones in my kitchen, I told her apparently, its just like everything else.
what I was working on, and she said, Years ago, oral sex was also considered
We love doing it. It turns out, she and deviant. This isnt that different, really.
her husband have anal fairly often. They Taormino told me about the letters she
call it going to Brown Town e.g. Hey regularly receives from women who tell
babe, are you up for a visit to Brown her all about their fantasies, anal and
Town? Rachel likes it because she likes otherwise, and want to know if they
to please her husband but also because are normal or not.
it feels good to her. She really enjoys I would like all that stuff to just
being entered from behind and finds go away, she says of the sex shame she
theres something very intimate about often encounters. I would really like
how gentle he has to be in order for it to see anal sex destigmatised, with no
to happen. (Her husband likes it because hierarchy within the bounds of normal
the anus is smaller and tighter than the relationships. I dont want that system,
vagina, and thats the dream, right?) and we all subscribe to it in one way or
And then there are the group of another, consciously or unconsciously.
women Ill call anal enthusiasts, who are Id like there to be a menu with all the
set on educating the world in the finer stuff in the same fonts. You order from
points of backdoor sex. the menu. I cant help but agree.
ASK HIM
ANYTHING
Love advice from our guy guru, Logan Hill
SEX Q&A
every year, it
grows a new
set of antlers
to impress
the ladies.
P in the V two Ps or two lubrication. Cold and that and swapped results
serious poker face during Vs can lose their virginity
as awkwardly or sweetly
allergy meds can have the
same effect. Try adding
with each other before
the lost-condom incident
sex. How can I get him to as anyone else. some lube to your sex life. went down.
TO SEX
You want
to believe real sex life. When we first
hed never started seeing each other, we
betray you. were doing it three times a
day. Then it went down to
twice a week then once a
week. He was always tired.
I started to ask myself, Am
I settling? But I loved him
I was looking in a two. I said, You need serious so much, and we got along
dresser drawer for a shirt for f*cking help. He replied, so well. I decided that I still
my boyfriend, Joe*, when I I do need help. I love you so wanted to be with him, even
found an old mobile phone. much. Youre my everything. if we had problems. I found
I started looking through I want to go to therapy. out after we broke up that he
the text messages and my had been shopping for an
mouth just dropped. It was FOUR years earlier, Joe engagement ring.
filled with womens numbers had spotted me at a club. He
and heaps of outgoing texts was tall, dark and handsome, AFTER I kicked Joe out,
like: Hi, this is Blank from and there was never a lull in he knocked on my door and
Tinder; Im just down the the conversation. Everyone begged me to take him back.
block. Ill be there in about just loved him. From day one He said he definitely needed
five minutes; and Lets f*ck we would go out to bars and help. He wouldnt call himself
in the garage. restaurants and have a blast. a sex addict but I believe he
My heart was beating We were both hardworking is. I couldnt sleep in the old
out of my chest, but when I and ambitious, and shared a apartment wed shared, so I
asked Joe about it he had the dream of buying the perfect moved in with two friends.
straightest face. He said hed house. Two years after we I would drive myself to work
found the phone in the street. started dating, he moved in and just cry. I lost a drastic
I wanted proof so I turned to my apartment. Soon after amount of weight.
our apartment upside down that, we started hunting for Everybody said, Youre
looking for chargers, or just houses. All our friends said so lucky you found out now.
for anything to find out if it we would be the first in our If I had never accidentally
was his mobile. I eventually group to get married. found that mobile phone in
found a credit card statement Then, three years into the dresser, we could have
*NAMES HAVE BEEN CHANGED. HADLEY HUDSON/THE LICENSING PROJECT; JENNIFER ROBBINS/THE LICENSING PROJECT
from a few months earlier our relationship, Joe turned ended up getting married
with a mobile purchase on it. into a homebody. He claimed and having kids, and he still
I dropped down to the floor, he wanted to save money for would have kept on cheating
feeling sick to my stomach. the house, but even when I on me. But four years is a big
I couldnt wait another suggested doing something part of your life to give to
second to confront him so I free, like a walk in the park, someone, regardless.
got in my car and drove to he made excuses. At around Looking back, when I
his train stop to meet him the same time, he lost his job thought, Am I just settling?
as he came home from work. and I caught him looking at that was my intuition trying
When he saw me holding porn on his computer. That to tell me that something
the credit card statement he wasnt really a red flag. He was wrong. I was settling,
knew that hed been caught. was unemployed and bored. but I never will again.
At that point we were both I was more upset about our MELISSA, 30 >
crying hysterically.
I told him to give me
back his key and get out of He charmed
her and his
my apartment. He said, Its sidepieces.
just one person. That was
actually the worst thing he
said to me. Cheating on me
with one person is enough
for me to want him out of my
life. A week later, in an email,
he changed that number to
TO DRUGS
a crime in stealing from us.
After he came clean to me,
my dad said to him, Should
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I never thought Id it would be three, four, five AN ADDICT? didnt put up a fight. I just
stood there in total shock,
end up turning my boyfriend months straight of nothing. thinking, This is the last
of seven years my very best I started to realise how TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT time Im going to see him.
If he brushes you off,
friend in to the police. oddly he was behaving when I was crushed, but I almost
share your concerns
Will and I were high there was a hurricane in our with his friends and wanted him to go to jail cos
school sweethearts. He was area. Our town was totally family. Chances are, I was so worried that he was
outgoing, athletic, kind and shut down, so we were both youre not the only one going to die of an overdose.
good-looking. We both come home from our jobs. Every worried about him. Will was convicted of grand
from very close-knit Italian single store was closed but larceny and sentenced to
families and over the years Will said, Im going to pick URGE HIM TO GET HELP seven years, and he ended
we came to love each others up milk. When he came back Reach out to an up serving the minimum of
families like our own, even to the house he passed out. addiction counsellor two years in jail.
spending holidays together. Soon after that, cash or therapist who has I went to see Will in
About five years in, I started going missing from experience treating jail, to check on him and get
addicts for advice on
noticed him and his friends my wallet. Then money was answers. Hed detoxed and
whether he needs
popping oxycodone, which dropping like crazy from a outpatient treatment, was sober, and he actually
is in prescription painkillers, joint account I shared with rehab or another course thanked me for calling the
before going out to bars. I my mum. Eventually, a lot of action. Or call your police on him. It was like he
was worried and confronted of my jewellery started to local Alcoholics was back to the same person
him about it, but he said it disappear. My parents told Anonymous, Narcotics Id met seven years ago when
was just for fun, that it was me they thought it was Will. Anonymous or Gamblers we started dating.
under control. But shortly Theyd watched him change Anonymous. I did wonder if I could
after, he started changing. into a completely different give him a second chance.
He and I always used person and they wanted me GET HELP FOR But eventually I realised that
to wake up early to go for a to finally see it, too. That YOURSELF I would always feel as though
Loving an addict can
run. Suddenly, even getting was when I said to myself, I couldnt trust my husband
mean feeling betrayed,
out of bed was an issue. We Christina, open your eyes. damage your sense of around my wallet.
would be sitting on the couch Id been in denial. trust, and lead to Its been two years,
having a conversation, and When I accused Will depression, anxiety and people tell me I look so
hed stare off into space. He of stealing from me, he told or trauma. Its different, that my eyes are
started making excuses as me everything. Taking oxy understandable if you bright again. Wills drug
to why he didnt want to have once a week had turned into need therapy, too. addiction wasnt affecting
sex, like, I just dont feel like twice a week, then four times, SOURCE: ADI JAFFE, EXECUTIVE only him it was sucking
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it. I figured it was just a rut then every day. It had turned ADDICTION TREATMENT CENTER. the life out of me, too.
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type) or Elsa
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(hes too young).
Regardless, the
risk of man-child
syndrome is high.
sixty-one
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into you.
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HOW TO
DODGE
A COLD
THIS
WINTER
When it comes to you
versus flu, steal tricks
from these docs and fend
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STOCK UP ON PROBIOTICS
says pharmacist Shabir Daya.
As soon as I feel a cold coming, I take up to
four times my usual dose of probiotics, says
Daya. As most of our immune system is in our
gut, it makes sense. A Danish study found
probiotic supplements cut the duration of
colds, fevers and coughs by 48 per cent. >
STOP EXERCISING
says senior sports scientist Brian
Cunniffe. I tend to scale back my
TAKE A COLD SHOWER
says acupuncturist and herbalist
training at the first sign of a cold, Philip Weeks. It doesnt sound that TUCK IN TO
says Cunniffe. Exercise triggers the
release of stress hormones, which
appealing, but a cold shower can help
prevent a cold from starting in the first
ICE BLOCKS
says botanist James Wong.
have an immunosuppressive effect place. Research shows cold showers When I feel like Im coming
on your body. Ordinarily, this is fine can increase the production of white down with something, I plan
but if you have the start of a cold, blood cells, which fight infection, says a cold-fighting menu, says
working out could exacerbate Weeks. Just a blast of chilly water at Wong. I start with shiitake
and/or prolong your symptoms. the end of your usual shower will do. mushrooms on toast, as
these contain a powerful,
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TO GET
PREGNANT
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ON
PURPOSE
Up until this moment, youve been doing everything possible not to get
pregnant. Plus, people have been making babies for, like, ever how hard can
it be? Real talk: for lots of women its really hard, and it can be tricky sifting
through all the information out there. Cosmo put together a definitive
guide so you can just relax, lay back and, uh make a baby >
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GETTING KNOCKED UP Just like with any other game, its all about playing the odds.
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and next period 27 1 around 28 days but
begins.
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so adjust for how
3 long yours is.
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CHEAT: 4
TO BE
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You survive for 24 hours only. and 14th days of
Your aim: Let the sperm come at you. their cycle*.
BOY
VS
GIRL
Deeper penetration
allegedly helps produce
a boy. Thats because
the entrance to the vagina
is more acidic, so the Y
chromosomes in the
sperm dont survive in
that area very well.
SO YOURE GOING XY
OFF CONTRACEPTION
THINGS PEOPLE MIGHT SAY TO YOU
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Your GP*
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determine the sex of
a good idea to wait until after youve had A very single a child. The mothers
one normal period before you start trying so you girlfriend: unfertilised egg carries
calculate your due date more easily. an X chromosome, while
Whoa, things
3 essential for a healthy baby).
sperm carries either an
Start taking folic acid now (its a B vitamin thats are getting X or a Y chromosome.
serious. *High XY = BOY
*This is just a guess-timate. Definitely go see them yourself if youre pitched* Good XX = GIRL
thinking of growing a human any time soon. for you! >
Y
It took us 14 months to conceive, so I was
R
about to start panicking. I realised we had to
T A IN
put in more effort. Id already worked out
when I was ovulating (from counting the days)
and we were already having sex at some point
AG N O T H I
around then. But I needed a militant approach.
Next time I ovulated, I made my husband have
sex with me every day for five days straight. It
N
A S O F Y EG
was definitely not some pinnacle moment of
loving sex. It was functional. But hey, it worked.
The next month I was pregnant. With twins.
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FERTILITY PROBLEMS
When baby just wont happen
Of those who have fertility hopefully stick to the lining
problems, the percentage of of the womb and grow. For
women who conceive varies women aged 30 to 34, the
with the type of condition, clinical pregnancy success
24% the severity of the problem
and treatment used.
rate (within five rounds) of
IVF is 51.7 per cent. Every
UNEXPLAINED A common option is in cycle of IVF costs about
vitro fertilisation (IVF), which $8500 upfront, and Medicare
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USING LUBE?
HELP?
?
NO YES
WHAT
AGE ARE
YOU?
THAT COULD BE YOUR PROBLEM.
Some lubricants can hinder sperm getting
Under Over through. We hear egg whites can be a
35 35 safe way to get moist, but check with
your GP if you need a sperm-friendly lube.
30
IS THE AVERAGE AGE
OF BECOMING A
FIRST-TIME MUM
YES
Seek
NO
IN AUSTRALIA. medical
advice.
hesitate to stay in consultation
with your GP along the way.
Dont ever say that again.
THE BEST
POSITIONS
TO GET
PREGNANT*
*Basically every
position where the
penis ejaculates in
the vagina. >
ALCOHOL:
P R O T E I N : Lean meat and poultry, F I S H : 2 portions per DA I R Y: The government recommends
fish, eggs, pulses (beans and lentils). week (no more as oily fish 3 portions per day. women stop drinking alcohol
may contain pollutants).
p when trying for a baby. If you
2 portions per
p day.
are going to drink, they suggest
consuming no more than one or
two units of alcohol per week.
A schooner of beer or cider
3 if youre
is one unit. A small glass of
vegetarian
wine is 1.5 units. Alcopops are
WHOLE about 1.5 units.
GRAINS:
QUICK TIPS! Foods such CA FFEI N E:
FRUIT: Eat iron-rich foods: red as bread,
meat, pulses, dried fruit,
The government advises
2 per day. pasta, less than 200mg per day.
bread, green vegetables, cereals,
fortified breakfast cereals. Flat white coffee using arabica
protein, beans (180ml) = 60mg caffeine.
Have vitamin C with meals oats
to help absorb the iron. and rice. FOL IC ACI D:
Have 1 Take it as soon as you stop
Soft, mould-ripened or portion
blue-veined cheese may using contraception until youre
VEGIES: with each 12 weeks pregnant. This
increase risk of listeriosis, meal.
5 per day. a bacterial infection that protects the unborn baby
can affect your pregnancy. against the risk of spina bifida
and other neural tube defects.
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WHY
CANT
WE SEE
BEYOND
A DRESS
SIZE
From cutting the
labels out of your
latest buy to full-on When I was 12, my mum gently told me Id always have to buy
larger clothes than my more petite peers, due to the fact Im
tears and tantrums almost 1.8m tall and descended from a long line of Amazonian
in the changing room, giantesses. Perhaps thats why Ive never felt any shame in
Natasha Devon asks announcing Im a size 16. But many of us have preconceptions
about what women of a certain size are like. So, for example,
why were so hung size-16 women like me are often thought of as confident and
up on the size labels smiley, with a love of 50s tailoring, big hair and cupcakes. By
sheer coincidence, that pretty much sums me up. And when
inside our clothes I asked women on an online forum to do a similar exercise, I
discovered most of us ascribe certain personality traits to our
dress sizes. According to the forum, size-8 women are uptight,
size-10s are professional, size-14s make great girlfriends, and
size-18s make fun drinking buddies. Logically, these theories
are nonsense but preconceptions were strong enough for
the hundred or so women asked to reach a general consensus.
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size 14, cos I just couldnt deal what to order when shopping were quick to point out that
with not being a size 12, she online. UK campaign group women at the other end of the
says. Now, I dont even look Curve Collective launched a size spectrum struggle with
at the label. I just think, Will petition on Twitter last year fluctuation, too. Despite [my
this fit me? that aimed to standardise body] having the exact same
Sadly, not all women sizing across all retailers. measurements, my clothing
have achieved Sams state of Fashion commentator size has gone from an 8-10
size-related Zen. Christie* is Caryn Franklin, co-founder to a 6-8 in the past 10 years,
a boutique owner who imports of activist group All Walks says Sarah, 28. It means Im
garments from Europe and Beyond the Catwalk (which often stuck buying [clothes]
the labels are two sizes up was behind the introduction from specialist stores online.
from what youd expect. of size-16 mannequins in a
I have to explain to
some customers who usually
popular UK department store),
is sceptical. We cant have THE FUTURE
buy a size 10 that in my shop, standardised sizing because OF FASHION
theyre a 14, she says. Ill we dont have standardised So whats the solution? Online
always make it clear that its bodies, she says. By that, I retailer Asos, which stocks an
mean Topshops size 12 caters impressive range of sizes (from
mostly for a younger, more size 2 to 28), is leading the
fashion-forward customer. A way in the new trend of body
I WONT brand such as Wallis [similar scanning. Its project, Size
EVEN TRY IT
to Sussan in Australia] on the Asos, scanned a cross-section
other hand, uses its size 12 to of customers bodies, which
ON IF I NEED fit an older woman who has then allowed the companys
sizes gives you an insight in for a garment in a smaller successful is because its about such as, Even if a dress looks
to their state of mind, says size, even though our body acceptance, being confident fab, I wont even try it on if
Sam Tomlin from Models of shape remains the same? and comfortable, says Ray. I need a size thats bigger
Diversity, an agency that aims It highlights that you are than I usually wear. Surely
to broaden the range of sizes, more than the size of your its now time for us to look
shapes, ages and races we see SIZE MATTERS clothes and societys view of beyond the mass-produced
in the fashion industry. Vanity aside, the discrepancy what that says about you. clothing labels and instead
I used to cut the label in sizing between brands When I posed the size see women as the individuals
out of any clothes that were means its difficult to know question on Twitter, people that they are. #
SHOULD YOU
BE DRINKING
A
MILK?
Hold off on that glass of milk! The official drink of your childhood just got controversial
s a kid, milk was the drink your
parents pushed on you, and for
good reason: its a great source
Women who drink more than two
glasses of milk a day are twice as likely
to be diagnosed with ovarian cancer than
No one knows exactly how many
of the hormones from milk get into your
body, because digestion breaks some of
of protein. Its also full of calcium and women who rarely drink it, according to them down. Until we know more about
vitamin D, which help keep your bones a Swedish study. And research recently the potential health risks, Willett advises
and teeth strong. Plus, it contains choline published in the British Medical Journal drinking no more than one to two glasses
a nutrient thats excellent for the brain found women who drink three or more of milk a day (dont forget to count your
WORDS BY MELINDA WENNER MOYER. ADDITIONAL WORDS BY OLIVIA SIMONE. *ALL COUNTS ARE PER CUP. TRUNK ARCHIVE
and potassium, which helps protect the glasses per day are nearly twice as likely latte) and sticking to skim, as it contains
heart. So, whats not to love? than non-milk-drinkers to die over the fewer hormones than whole. Kids can
In recent years, several scientists course of 20 years from any cause. have a bit more than that, because they
have voiced concerns that milk may not But dont freak out. Pollak says the have different nutritional requirements.
deserve its reputation, because the people IGF-1 increase you get from milk is a Dont feel like you have to pay for
who drink milk arent always healthier small effect and may not make a huge organic, which doesnt have lower levels
than people who dont. The evidence difference to your cancer risk. There are of sex hormones than the conventional
for milks benefits are not there, says studies that tie milk to a lower risk of kind. Instead, check the label for growth
Walter Willett, chair of the department cancer, too one found that women who hormones or swap cows milk for some
of nutrition at Harvard School of Public drink milk have a reduced risk of breast of the options below. Milk is nutritious,
Health. Worse, recent research all of cancer. As milk drinkers may do other yes, says Pollak, but that doesnt mean
it preliminary suggests that drinking things that put them at an increased the more we drink, the better. You can
too much milk could pose health risks. risk, its impossible to blame milk. have too much of a good thing.
Cows milk is full of hormones that
help calves grow one study estimates
60 to 80 per cent of the female hormones ALTERNA-MILKS
we get from our food come from cows ALMOND MILK SOY MILK RICE MILK OAT MILK
milk. That includes the hormone IGF-1, (314 kilojoules*, 3.5g (431 kilojoules, 2.3g (523 kilojoules, 3g fat) (640 kilojoules, 2.5g
which encourages cells to multiply a fat) Its low in kilojoules fat) Soy is thought to Got allergies? This has fat) Being plant-based,
and fat, and high in help halt heart no lactose, nuts or oat milk is lower in
potentially bad thing considering that calcium, vitamin E disease, but some soy but it doesnt saturated fat than
excessive cell multiplication is a hallmark and sugar. Go for an studies say too much have much nutritional standard milk.
of cancer, says Michael Pollak, director unsweetened version. may affect fertility. content, either. TRY IT Use it for
TRY IT Creamy and TRY IT Thicken soup TRY IT Use this light, cooking, baking
of the division of cancer prevention at rich, use it in your by stirring in the super-thin milk in or just enjoying
Canadas McGill University. smoothies and coffee. non-flavoured kind. oatmeal or cereal. as a drink. #
THE HOT
WORKOUT
DEBATE
Exercising in high temps isnt just for yogis
anymore. But is the sweat-fest worth it?
W
hether its hot Spinning What adding heat can do is pump
inSydney, scorching boot up performance. Cyclists did better in
camps in New York City, both cool and warm environments after
orheated boxing classes, training in hot temps for just 10 days, a
roasted versions of top workouts are recent study in the Journal of Applied
everywhere. In fact, the owners of The Physiology revealed. When you get hot,
Sweat Shoppe indoor-cycling studio in blood vessels in your skin will dilate to
LA phased out regular classes because stimulate sweat, says study author
of the demand for hot ones. Santiago Lorenzo. Then, once youre
Olivia, 25, was hooked after her acclimated, you sweat more and sooner.
first hot ride. I sweated so much, it was Your skin needs less blood to cool you
like Id been cleansed, she recalls. I off, which means more can be sent to
could practically feel the toxins being the muscles and organs.
released from my body. This increased blood flow keeps
Thats a common belief, but its your muscles flexible, boosts endurance
not actually scientific. Its your kidneys and makes working out in much cooler
and liver not your sweat glands that temperatures feel like a cinch. Olivia
filter toxins from your body. The point says doing hot Spinning a few days a
of sweating is to cool you down, says week helped her cut 25 minutes off her
Dr Dee Anna Glaser, who has studied marathon time. Everything else felt
excessive sweating. In fact, she even easier, she says.
warns, If you dont drink enough water Not only that, but hot fitness can
to compensate, you put stress on your be pretty damn motivating, too. It can
liver and kidneys, meaning they cant take a while to see exercise results, so
do their jobs properly. some small visual cues that prove youre
Nor does a hot workout torch more making a difference are helpful. The
calories. Intensity is the best indicator emotional component of finishing your
of calorie burn not sweat or heart rate workout drenched can be incredibly
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A STEPPED-UP
LUNGE
1. Stand with feet hip-width
apart, facing a chair or bench.
Step right foot onto chair, then
press through left heel to drive
left knee up and forwards so
thigh is parallel to floor. Pulse it
twice while balancing on right
foot and without leaning torso
or hips forward, swinging arms
A BETTER SQUAT for stability. 2. Repeat 10 to 20
1. Swing arms to the right and jump laterally, landing times, then switch legs.
on your right foot, bending the left knee and raising WHY ITS BETTER: Travelling
the left foot. 2. Reverse the move to your left side, vertically instead of just
jumping at a 45-degree angle. Repeat alternate jumps horizontally requires more
for one minute, constantly moving forward. effort (cardio!), plus youll tap
WHY ITS BETTER: Jumping targets your bum your core muscles to steady
and legs and also gets your heart rate up. yourself once youre up.
1
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Jump and
balance.
AN UPGRADED PUSH-UP
1. Place hands under shoulders on a chair or bench,
and walk feet back. Place left hand behind lower back.
2. Jump both feet out to the sides and in. Thats one
rep. Do 10, switch hands and repeat.
WHY ITS BETTER: Using one arm at a time ensures
each arm gets max toning (not just the strong one).
A MORE POWERFUL
PLANK
1. Stand with feet hip-width apart.
Slowly bend at waist and touch
floor with palms, bending knees if
necessary. Walk hands forwards Straight legs
are the key.
one at a time until youre in a plank
position with palms under shoulders.
2. Spring feet forwards and land in a
low sumo squat. Jump back in plank
position, walk hands back towards
feet. Stand and repeat. Do 10 reps.
WHY ITS BETTER: Bending and
walking hands forwards warms
up your muscles while stretching
them out. Plus, jumping forwards
adds a cardio boost.
2
A RETOOLED BICYCLE
1. Lie on back, fingers behind ears. Lift shoulders and upper back,
and raise legs so theyre perpendicular to the floor.
2. Tilting feet inward, lower right leg so it hovers above the floor
and cross left leg over it. Return legs to perpendicular position, then
repeat on other side. Thats one rep; do 10.
WHY ITS BETTER: Keeping your legs straight makes it hard for
abs and obliques. The tilting works your thighs and bum. #
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CUP
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in which he said, One that you get a real tea
should drink out of a colour. Otherwise it stays
good breakfast cup that milk-coloured, which is
is, the cylindrical type of just plain wrong.
OF
cup, not the flat, shallow Always use fresh water.
type. The breakfast cup The more water boils, the
holds more, and with the less oxygen it has, which
other kind ones tea is is needed for tea leaves to
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TEA
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the teacup is far prettier. Leaving it in is gross and
Stand by: the water ruins the taste, too.
should be boiling when Never ever, like, ever,
it touches the tea. Wait use a microwave to reheat
just five seconds after the your tea. If you do, youll
kettle clicks off and pour. end up offending every
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W
hen you think of
Hawaii, its hard you how to shop and bar-hop
not to envisage hula
girls and hibiscus
your way around Hawaii
flowers. And while
the luaus, sunsets and salt in the air
are a given, theres another side to
the tropical paradise: the shopping. T OUCHDOWN
WAIKIKI BEACH
Beach by day and
Oahu, Hawaiis third largest bars by night. Sold.
island, is where its at and, with cheap
flights direct to Honolulu, its an easy
trip. A half-hour walk from Waikiki
Beach is the Ala Moana Center, the
worlds biggest open-air shopping Say aloha to amazing shopping, sunsets and cocktails
mall, home to Macys, Forever 21,
Victorias Secret and Kate Spade, CHECK-IN The Modern Honolulu resort COCKTAIL HOUR
with Bloomingdales due later this (themodernhonolulu.com) is the epitome Start your evening
year. In contrast, on the North Shore, of luxe. It has an adults-only sunset poolside at The
youll find empty beaches, pool (with underwater speakers), daybeds Modern with a few
shrimp trucks and the that make you feel like youre in The coconut mojitos, or head to The Study
best choc-coconut Hamptons, multiple bars, a stunning spa located in the resorts lobby to enjoy
pie. Pure heaven! and sophisticated all-white hotel suites. a yummy Huckle Berry Fin (or two).
FIRST UP Get your surfer-girl on with a DINE Be sure to sample the amazing food
The Modern lesson at Hans Hedemann Surf School at Morimoto (morimotowaikiki.com),
(left) promises
pool-side fun, (hhsurf.com). Youll bag the best views which fuses both Japanese and Western
while Manifests of Waikiki as you surf or paddleboard flavours. The pork belly is next-level and
cocktails (below) on long, peeling (aka non-scary) waves. for dessert, order the Chocolate Peanut
are sooo good!
SHOP ON A holiday in Hawaii wouldnt be Bombe that comes with salted peanut
complete without paying several visits ice-cream. Trust us: its faceplant-worthy.
to the Ala Moana Center
(alamoanacenter.com).
Kalakaua Avenue in Julia having a major
Blue Crush moment.
Waikiki is also a great
place to splash the cash,
with H&M and Zara,
plus designer stores
like Chanel and Gucci.
DONT LEAVE
WITHOUT
L IQU I D A L OH A
HONOLULU
The citys craft cocktail
VISITING THE MEMORIAL
SITE AT PEARL HARBOUR
scene is full-on thriving A more serious side to
Hawaii, this is the resting C H I L L OU T
AFFORD
(amalfi dAmour
homewares. $99.95,
(papier
THE
com.au). Blacklist
(blacklist damour.
com.au).
FLIGHT?
studio.
com).
$24.95 for set,
Sunnylife (sunnylife. $69, Matt Blatt
Bring Hawaii to your home com.au). (mattblatt.com.au). #
When the
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come back.
PITCH When
your ex
PERFECT 2 commits to
someone else.
HITS CINEMAS
BACK TO OUR
FAVE REBEL When
you go to
MOMENTS unfollow that
friend on
Instagram.
San Andreas 3D
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I F A P O C A L Y P S E M O V I E S A R E Y O U R T H I N G Alexandra Daddario
stars in San Andreas, a new release about the world ending (maybe). The 29-year-
old got her big break in True Detective and is dating Logan Lerman (lucky girl).
LIFECAST: By the
time September
rolls around, youll
23.07 23.08
LIFECAST:
When Venus
goes retrograde
24.08 23.09
LIFECAST: Tie up
any loose ends
at work between
24.09 23.10
LIFECAST: Libra,
prepare to enter
Beast Mode when
24.10 22.11
LIFECAST: Youve
been killing it at
the office and
23.11 22.12
LIFECAST:
Prepare to join
the selfie-stick
23.12 20.01
LIFECAST: Get
ready, girl its
time to werk.
have checked off between July 31 May 19 and June Mercury rolls into brimming with brigade after When Mercury
lingering work and September 6, 11 while Mercury your zone of ideas. Important June 5, when goes direct on
to-dos, curbed watch your dollars is in retrograde. success on July 8. news about your Venus moves into June 11, your
a recent bout of and your words. Then bring your Go full throttle finances might your travel and productivity
spendy-ness, and That new career A-game in time until July 22, then help you decide adventure zone. will skyrocket.
renewed your idea youve been for the new moon veg out with your whats next. A If the urge to Re-evaluate
fitness vows. mulling over? on June 16. Hit girls and steer #blessed day on roam lingers it career goals
In other words, The new moon mute on the clear of drama. the 5th will set may be time for between June
youre #TheBoss. on August 14 negative self-talk! your career into a move. 14 and August 1.
SEXYCAST:
is go-time. overdrive.
SEXYCAST: From SEXYCAST: You With Venus in SEXYCAST: SEXYCAST: Your
June 24, go after SEXYCAST: are rarely swept retrograde, youll SEXYCAST: Work Congratulations! love-life is on fire!
what you want, Ex-sex might away by romance, be reflecting on may be speeding Your winter Sharing a steamy
because no one seem tempting but go with the past relationships. over a hundred will be full of fantasy on July
will be able to while Venus is in flow, even if it A friend or ex kilometres per fireworks. Youll 8 will lead to
refuse you. You retrograde, but involves someone might be a fun hour, but dont be radiating big fireworks.
and your partner consider whether a bit unexpected! fling, especially forget to enjoy charm all month Between July 25
will be vibrating thats what you Doubts may arise, around July 31s yourself! A hot and might even and September 6,
on the exact same really want. so see if you two full moon. Feel office fling might find the real a sore spot that
freaky frequency. Prepare for fiery can go deeper. more serious? be just the thing, thing. July 1 is you thought was
Make sure he can fun during the full By the time of Go for a getaway so give that cutie shaping up to settled might
make you smile moon on the 29th the full moon on together. Wear whos been be one of your resurface again.
outside the with your flame August 29, youll your heart on making eyes at sexiest days of Addressing it with
bedroom too, or a new hottie know what and your sleeve after you in the kitchen 2015. Make the compassion will
Miss Cancer. on the horizon. who you want. August 22. a second look. most of it. reap rewards.
CANCER
LEO
VIRGO
LIBRA
SCORPIO
SAGITTARIUS
CAPRICORN
LIFECAST: Your
career game
will be on fleek.
20.02 20.03
LIFECAST: This
is the winter of
Y-O-U. June is
21.03 20.04
LIFECAST: Say
yes to all the
nonstop invites
LIFECAST: In
Kate Upton
June 10, 1992
21.04 21.05
June, focus on
feathering your
GEMINI
22.05 21.06
Stellar gifts: Gemini is the seeker
of the zodiac. Youre cerebral,
always sparking new ideas. Your
intellect stimulates creativity in
other signs, but sometimes you
need help structuring your bright
thinking into concrete concepts.
Lifecast: Mercury goes retrograde
between May 18 and June 11
perfect time to tweak your look or
You might have ideal for chilling coming your way, nest. A happy
strategy. The full moon on July 31
a difficult with family. Deal especially travel home is key when
is ideal for a getaway. While Venus
conversation with any home- opportunities, things get hectic.
is in retrograde from July 25 to
around July 8, related issues around June 2. As your social life
September 6, communicate more
THE
but if you say before July 25. Take a break in moves into high
IRL to cut down confusion.
what needs to be If you put in a July to spend QT gear, savour time
Sexycast: Reunite with old friends
GEMINI
said, it will be a little extra effort with friends and with your crew
win. August 11 before Venus family. When and the cool new after June 5, when Venus moves
GUY
means cha-ching goes direct on Jupiter moves kids youve met. into your zone of homey, festive
when lucky September 6, into your career fun. A special Venus and Jupiter
SEXYCAST: Right conjunction on July 1 gives your sex
Jupiter moves youll yield some zone on August
now is about Macklemore life extra sizzle, so make those sly,
into your zone amazing results. 11, major risks
forging lasting JUNE 19 naughty thoughts a reality. If youve
of finances. at work will reap
SEXYCAST: On connections. wanted more from an FWB, take
rewards, so lean
SEXYCAST: Get June 21, the Sun Prioritise alone LOVES: A girl things to the next level around the
the eff in!
ready to be loved moves into Pisces time with you- whos playful and new moon on August 14.
up! Between July and kicks off a SEXYCAST: Your know-who. The in touch with her
25 and September four-week period priority has to be full moon on
Love match: Sagittarius shares
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